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WHY FIGHT FOR SURVIVAL IF WE CAN COLLABORATE FOR SUCCESS?
BARNEY JORDAAN
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Have you in the recent past experienced a difference / conflict / dispute with someone?
Did it end positively or negatively?
What did you do right or wrong?
A QUICK POLL
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DOES THIS LOOK FAMILIAR?
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OR THIS?
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We sacrifice tomorrow to win yesterday
John Zinsser
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A DYSFUNCTIONAL BUT TYPICAL APPROACH TO CONFLICT RESOLUTION
RIGHTS
POWER
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AVOIDANCE#experiencevlerick
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A BETTER APPROACH
INTERESTS
RIGHTS
POWER
DIALOGUE NEGOTIATION MEDIATION
MO
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ON
TR
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EXERCISE
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WHY DO WE COMPETE WHEN COLLABORATION IS THE BETTER OPTION?
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HERE’S THE CULPRIT
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Emotional
Social
Cognitive
System1
System 2
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EXERCISE
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TOWARDS COLLABORATIVE CONFLICT RESOLUTION
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1. WE NEED TO ‘SEE’ CONFLICT DIFFERENTLY
Assumptions Strategy Behaviour Results
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Develop a definition of conflict that is entirely positive, e.g.: ‘Conflict is an opportunity to / for …’
CHANGING OUR PERCEPTION OF CONFLICT
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The most intense conflicts, if overcome, leave behind a sense of security and calm that is not easily disturbed. It is just these intense conflicts and their conflagration [heat / fire] which are needed to produce valuable and lasting results
Carl Jung
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STRUCTURE OF NEGOTIATION
PROBLEM
PEOPLE
PROCESS
How do we deal with the issues? What behaviours will get us there?
Who are we dealing with? Emotional or relationship issues?
What are the issues, interests & options?
CONTEXT
2. WE NEED TO MANAGE ALL ELEMENTS OF A CONFLICT
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3. WE NEED TO LEARN TO THINK BEFORE WE ACT OR REACT
Problem
Reflexive Reflective
Attack Withdraw Reason?
Conflict Stress Dialogue
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4. WE NEED TO TRY TO UNDERSTAND THEIR PERSPECTIVE TOO
If you want to change their minds, you have to know where their minds are …
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5. WE NEED TO FOCUS ON THE RIGHT PROBLEM
Position Position
Interests / Needs / Concerns
Individual IndividualCommon
Either, or …
And, and …
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TO ILLUSTRATE: THE BATTLE OF THE SEXES
Lights stay off!
They stay on!
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6. WE NEED TO LEARN MORE EFFECTIVE CONFLICT BEHAVIOURS
• Listen in a way that will encourage them to talk • Talk in a way that will encourage them to listen • Ask lots of questions • Focus on the problem, not the person
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TO SUM UP
We have a choice to collaborate or compete
Collaboration is difficult but
rewarding
Conflict & competition are
real and necessary
The right mindset, skills & behaviours
can help find amicable solutions
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3. 4.
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