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WelcometoLightUniversityandthe“LeadershipProfessionalLifeCoaching”programofstudy.Ourprayeristhatyouwillbeblessedbyyourstudiesandincreaseyoureffectivenessinreachingouttoothers.Webelieveyouwillfindthisprogramtobeacademicallysound,clinicallyexcellentandbiblically-based.Ourfacultyrepresentssomeofthebestintheirfield–includingprofessors,counselorsandministerswhoprovide studentswith current, practical instruction relevant to theneedsoftoday’sgenerations.Wehavealsoworkedhardtoprovideyouwithaprogramthatisconvenientandflexible– giving you the advantage of “classroom instruction” on DVD-based lectures, peerinteraction,andallowingyoutocompleteyourtraininginthecomfortofyourhomeoroffice.The test material can be found at www.lightuniversity.com and may be taken openbook.Onceyouhavesuccessfullycompletedthetest,whichcoverstheunitswithinthiscourse,youwillbeawardedacertificateofcompletionsignifyingyouhavecompletedthisprogramofstudy.Thankyouforyourinterestinthisprogramofstudy.Ourprayeristhatyouwillgrowinknowledge,discernment,andpeople-skillsthroughoutthiscourseofstudy.Sincerely,

RonHawkinsDean,LightUniversity

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TheAmericanAssociationofChristianCounselors

• Represents the largest organized membership (nearly 50,000) of Christiancounselorsandcaregiversintheworld,havingjustcelebratedits30thanniversaryin2016.

• Known for its top-tier publications (Christian Counseling Today, the ChristianCounseling Connection and Christian Coaching Today), professional credentialingopportunities offered through the International Board of Christian Care (IBCC),excellence in Christian counseling education, an array of broad-based conferencesandlivetrainingevents,radioprograms,regulatoryandadvocacyeffortsonbehalfof Christian professionals, a peer-reviewed Ethics Code, and collaborativepartnerships such as Compassion International, the AACC has become the face ofChristiancounselingtoday.

• TheAACCalsohelpedlaunchtheInternationalChristianCoachingAssociation(ICCA)

in2011,andhasdevelopedanumberofeffective toolsand training resources forLifeCoaches.

OurMission

The AACC is committed to assisting Christian counselors, the entire “community ofcare,” licensedprofessionals,pastors,and laychurchmemberswith littleornoformaltraining. It is our intention to equip clinical, pastoral, and lay caregivers with biblicaltruthandpsychosocialinsightsthatministertohurtingpersonsandhelpsthemmovetopersonalwholeness,interpersonalcompetence,mentalstability,andspiritualmaturity.

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OurVision

TheAACC’svisionhas twocriticaldimensions:First,wedesire toservetheworldwideChristian Church by helping foster maturity in Christ. Secondly, we aim to serve,educate, and equip 1,000,000 professional clinicians, pastoral counselors, and layhelpersthroughoutthenextdecade.WearecommittedtohelpingtheChurchequipGod’speopleto loveandcareforoneanother.We recognizeChristiancounselingasaunique formofChristiandiscipleship,assisting the church in its call to bringbelievers tomaturity in the lifelongprocess ofsanctification—ofgrowingtomaturityinChristandexperiencingabundantlife.Werecognizesomearegiftedtodoso inthecontextofaclinical,professionaland/orpastoralmanner.Wealsobelieveselectedlaypeoplearecalledtocareforothersandthattheyneedtheappropriatetrainingandmentoringtodoso.WebelievetheroleofthehelpingministryintheChurchmustbesupportedbythreestrongcords:thepastor,the layhelper,and theclinicalprofessional. It is to these three roles that theAACC isdedicatedtoserve(Ephesians4:11-13).

OurCoreValues

In the nameof Christ, theAmericanAssociation of Christian Counselors abides by thefollowingvalues:

VALUE1:OURSOURCEWe are committed to honor Jesus Christ and glorify God, remaining flexible andresponsivetotheHolySpiritinallthatHehascalledustobeanddo.VALUE2:OURSTRENGTHWearecommittedtobiblicaltruths,andtoclinicalexcellenceandunityinthedeliveryofallourresources,services,trainingandbenefits.VALUE3:OURSERVICEWe are committed to effectively and competently serve the community of careworldwide—both our membership and the church at large—with excellence andtimeliness,andbyover-deliveryonourpromises.VALUE4:OURSTAFFWearecommittedtovalueandinvestinourpeopleaspartnersinourmissiontohelpotherseffectivelyprovideChrist-centeredcounselingandsoulcareforhurtingpeople.VALUE5:OURSTEWARDSHIPWe are committed to profitably steward the resources God gives to us in order tocontinueservingtheneedsofhurtingpeople.

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LightUniversity• Established in1999under the leadershipofDr. TimClinton—hasnowseennearly

250,000 students from around the world (including lay caregivers, pastors andchaplains, crisis responders, life coaches,and licensedmentalhealthpractitioners)enroll in courses that are delivered via multiple formats (live conference andwebinar presentations, video-based certification training, and a state-of-the artonlinedistanceteachingplatform).

• Thesepresentations,courses,andcertificateanddiplomaprograms,offeroneofthemostcomprehensiveorientationstoChristiancounselinganywhere.ThestrengthofLightUniversity is partially determined by itsworld-class faculty—over 150 of theleading Christian educators, authors, mental health clinicians and life coachingexpertsintheUnitedStates.Thiscoregroupoffacultymembersrepresentsaliteral“Who’sWho” in Christian counseling. No other university in theworld has pulledtogethersuchadiverseandcomprehensivegroupofprofessionals.

• Educationalandtrainingmaterialscoverover40relevantcoreareas inChristian—

counseling, life coaching, mediation, and crisis response—equipping competentcaregivers and ministry leaders who are making a difference in their churches,communities,andorganizations.

OurMissionStatement

To train one million Biblical Counselors, Christian Life Coaches, and Christian CrisisRespondersbyeducating,equipping,andservingtoday’sChristianleaders.

AcademicallySound•ClinicallyExcellent•DistinctivelyChristian

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Video-basedCurriculum

• Utilizes DVD and online presentations that incorporate over 150 of the leadingChristianeducators,authors,mentalhealthclinicians,andlifecoachingexpertsintheUnitedStates.

• Each presentation is approximately 50-60 minutes in length and most areaccompanied by a corresponding text (in outline format) and a 10-questionexamination to measure learning outcomes. There are nearly 1,000 uniquepresentationsthatareavailableandorganizedinvariouscourseofferings.

• Learning isself-directed andpacing isdeterminedaccording to the individual time

parameters/scheduleofeachparticipant.• With the successful completion of each program course, participants receive an

officialCertificateofCompletion.InadditiontothenormalCertificateofCompletionthat each participant receives, Regular and Advanced Diplomas in BiblicalCounselingarealsoavailable.

Ø The Regular Diploma is awarded by taking Caring For People God’s Way,BreakingFreeandoneadditionalElectiveamongtheavailableCoreCourses.

Ø TheAdvancedDiploma isawardedby takingCaringForPeopleGod’sWay,BreakingFree,andanythreeElectivesamongtheavailableCoreCourses.

Credentialing

• Light University courses, programs, certificates and diplomas are recognized andendorsedbytheInternationalBoardofChristianCare (IBCC)anditsthreeaffiliateBoards: the Board of Christian Professional & Pastoral Counselors (BCPPC); theBoardofChristianLifeCoaching(BCLC);andtheBoardofChristianCrisis&TraumaResponse(BCCTR).

• Credentialingisaseparateprocessfromcertificateordiplomacompletion.However,the IBCCacceptsLightUniversityandLightUniversityOnlineprogramsasmeetingthe academic requirements for credentialing purposes. Graduates are eligible toapplyforcredentialinginmostcases.

Ø Credentialinginvolvesanapplication,attestation,andpersonalreferences.

Ø Credential renewals include Continuing Education requirements, re-attestation,andoccureitherannuallyorbienniallydependingonthespecificBoard.

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OnlineTesting

The URL for taking all quizzes for this course is: http://www.lightuniversity.com/my-account/.

• TOLOGINTOYOURACCOUNT

Ø You should have received an email upon checkout that included yourusername,password,andalinktologintoyouraccountonline.

• MYDASHBOARDPAGE

Ø Onceregistered,youwillseetheMyDVDCourseDashboardlinkbyplacingyourmousepointerovertheMyAccountmenuinthetopbarofthewebsite.This page will include student PROFILE information and the REGISTEREDCOURSES forwhichyouareregistered.TheLOG-OUTandMYDASHBOARDtabs will be in the top right of each screen. Clicking on the > next to thecoursewilltakeyoutothecoursepagecontainingthequizzes.

• QUIZZES

Ø Simplyclickonthefirstquiztobegin.• PRINTCERTIFICATE

Afterallquizzesaresuccessfullycompleted,a“PrintYourCertificate”buttonwillappearnear the top of the course page. You will now be able to print out a Certificate ofCompletion.Yournameandthecourseinformationarepre-populated.ContinuingEducationThe AACC is approved by the American Psychological Association (APA) to offercontinuing education for psychologists. The AACC is a co-sponsor of this trainingcurriculum and aNational Board of Certified Counselors (NBCC) Approved ContinuingEducation Provider (ACEPTM). The AACC may award NBCC approved clock hours forevents or programs thatmeetNBCC requirements. TheAACCmaintains responsibilityfor thecontentof this training curriculum.TheAACCalsooffers continuingeducationcredit for play therapists through the Association for Play Therapy (APT ApprovedProvider #14-373), so long as the training element is specifically applicable to thepracticeofplaytherapy.Itremainstheresponsibilityofeachindividualtobeawareofhis/herstatelicensureandContinuing Education requirements. A letter certifying participation will bemailed tothose individuals who submit a Continuing Education request and have successfullycompletedallcourserequirements.

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LeadershipProfessionalLifeCoachingTableofContents:

MLCL101:LifeLeadership:WhatSeparatesPeopleTimClinton,Ed.D..................................................................................................................9MLCL102:Unity:TheFirstTaskofaLeaderRolfeCarawan,M.Ed............................................................................................................17MLCL103:AmbassadorsforChrist:TheMessageofServantLeadershipEricScalise,Ph.D...................................................................................................................25MLCL104:EssentialElementstoEffectiveLeadershipCoachingDwightBain,M.A.,GeorgiaShaffer,M.A.,andEricScalise,Ph.D........................................31MLCL105:FindingYourVoice:EveryLeaderHasaStoryRolfeCarawan,M.Ed............................................................................................................36MLCL106:StrategiestoEmpowertheExecutivesYouCoach GeorgiaShaffer,M.A............................................................................................................41MLCL107:LeadingThroughToughTimes:ManagingChangeandTransitionRolfeCarawan,M.Ed............................................................................................................46MLCL108:CulturallyCompetentLeadershipMarkCrear,Ph.D.,ParisFinner-Williams,Ph.D.,J.D.,Esq.,andEricScalise,Ph.D...............50MLCL109:LeadingMultipleGenerationsRolfeCarawan,M.Ed............................................................................................................55MLCL110:ProjectManagementforLeadersDwightBain,M.A..................................................................................................................61MLCL111:LeadersPartneringatHomeandatWorkRolfeCarawan,M.Ed.,LeaCarawan,M.A.,andEricScalise,Ph.D.......................................66MLCL112:BecomingaGreatLeader:RunningtheRacewithEnduranceEricScalise,Ph.D...................................................................................................................70

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MLCL101:

LifeLeadership:WhatSeparatesPeople

TimClinton,Ed.D.

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Summary

Whatdelineatesbetweenthepeoplewho“wanttodogreatthings”andthosewho

actually“dogreatthings”?Inthislecture,Dr.Clintontacklestherealissuesbehind

beingagreatleaderbydiscussinglifelessonsandfourteenthingsthatseparate

successfulleadersfromtheunsuccessfulleaders.Intheend,itismostimportantthat

greatleadersfinishthejobwellandleavenopageunturned.

LearningObjectives

1. Participantswillexplorethelifelessonslearnedthroughlistening,learning,and

havingtherightperspectiveandhowtheydevelopgreatleadership.

2. Participantswillidentifyanddiscussthefourteenthingsthatseparatethose

“whodo”fromthose“whodon’t”.

3. Participantswilldiscussthesesuccessfulleadershipqualitiesfromabiblical

perspective.

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I. Introduction

A. InformalSurveyontheDefinitionorCharacteristicsofaLeader.

1. Whoisaleader?

• “Get’erDone”personality

• Avisionary,authentic

2. JohnMaxwellDefinitionofLeadership–“Leadershipissimplyinfluence!”

B. BeMindful

1. Someoneisalwayswatchingyou

2. Ifyouhaveinfluenceinthelifeofanotherindividual–“Youarealeader!”

C. SimpleLifeLessonsonLeadership

1. Listen–activelistening;payattention;gatheringinformation

2. Learn–becomeastudentofthepersonyouareworkingwith–peelingback

thelayersoftheirlife.

• Familyhistory

• Personalcorevalues

• Dreamsandambitions

• Education

• Stageinlife

• Uniqueness

• Strengths&Weaknesses

• Note:Rememberincoachingyouareonlytryingtohelpthisperson

move2-3degrees.

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3. BePrescriptive

• Nota“ToDo”listbutactiveparticipation(i.e.leadingtowarda

constructivegoaltogether).

• Nudgethemtoanotherlevelbychallengingthemtoreadwidelyon

pertinenttopicsandtowritetheirthoughtsdown.

4. BeBiblical–ourauthoritycomesfromtheScripturestheWordofGod.Itis

ouranchor.

• Thisiswhereweanchorourclient’slife.

• Theyarelookingforalifeofpurposeandthatisonlyfoundinthe

Scriptures.cf.Psalms127:1;John15:1,5;John10:10

II. WhatSeparatesPeople

Whatdelineatesbetweenthepeoplewho“wanttodoit”andthosewhoactually

“doit”.Herearefourteen(14)thingsthatseparatethosewho“do”fromthose

who“don’t”:

A. FocusontheFundamentals

1. FocusontheFundamentals,thatis,whattrulyseparatespeople.

2. Don’tgetdistractedbythatwhichisinsignificantbutfocusonthosethings

thatwilltakeyoutoyourgoals.

3. Eliminatethosethingsinyourlifethatdonotmatter.

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B. HaveDiscipline

1. Bewillingtopaythepricetoexecutewell;willingtoworkharderthanthe

nextguy.

2. Practicelikeyouplayandplaylikeyoupractice.

3. Work,practiceandrepetitionwilleliminatethe“fearfactor”-whichisthe

greatestbarriertosuccessfullyreachingyourgoals.

4. Cf.1Timothy4:7b

C. PlaytoYourStrengths

1. Identifyyourgiftsandabilitiesandbehonestaboutthem.

2. Focusonwhatyoudobest.

3. Don’tallowyourselftobeputinthewrongslotinyourquestforyourlife

goalsparticularlyinyourvocation.

4. GodhasaplanforyoubasedonhowHemadeyou-Jeremiah29:11

D. FollowInstructions(Proverbs11:4;Proverbs10:13)

1. Havealifelong“teachablespirit.”

2. Beobedienttodothatwhichyouneedtoknowto“getbetter”.

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E. MaintainAGoodAttitude

1. Yourattitudewilldetermineyoursuccess.

2. Attitudesleadtoself-fulfillingprophecy.Ifyouthinkyouwillfailyou

probablywill.Thereverseislikewisetrue.

3. Yourattitudeisreflectedinyourcountenanceandbodylanguage.Smileand

walkconfidentlywithyourheadup.Lookpeopleintheeyes.

F. YouHaveToBelieve

1. Cf.Philippians4:13,youcandoallthingsthroughChristwhoisyourstrength.

2. Believeinyourself.

3. BelieveinGod

4. Cf.1Samuel17–StoryofDavidandGoliath

G. YouHaveToBeGoal-Oriented

1. Successinlifeisaboutsettinggoalsandlettingnothingdistractyoufrom

theiraccomplishment.

2. NotePhilippians3:12-15–alwayspressforwardevenwhentemporarily

blockedorstopped.Don’tgetdistracted.

3. Persistence&Perseverancealwayspayoff.

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H. Think

1. Ineverysituation.

2. Alwayshaveacontingencyplan;thinkaheadforeverypossiblescenario.

3. Positively–Philippians4:8

I. MentalToughness

1. Lifeisastruggleandwilltrytodefeatyou.Knowthat!

2. Cf.John16:33

3. Taketheblowsandkeepmoving.Cf.Hebrews12:1-4;Philippians3:13-14

4. Facingadversitywithoutgivingupseparatessuccessfulpeoplefromthose

whoquit.Problemswillneverbetheissue,it’showyoudealwiththem.

J. MakeAdjustments

1. Don’tmakeexcusesforerrorsandfailures,adjust.

2. Youhavetomakechangesinordertosucceed.

3. Executeyourplanwithintentionality.

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K. TeamworkMakestheDreamWork.–“Howdidtheturtlegetonthefence?”

1. Youmustlearnthatitisnotjustaboutyou;lifeisateamsport.

2. CultivaterelationshipswithothersandwithGod.

L. BeAggressive,Don’tBeTentative

1. Don’tbedrivenbyfear.

2. Attacklife.

M. Play–Up

1. Constructivediscontent,don’tgetsatisfiedwithwhereyouareinlife.

2. Maintainyourpassion.

3. Lookfornewchallenges.

N. FinishWell

1. Don’tquit.

2. Thegoalistofinishwell,leaveamark-makeanimpact.

3. Leaveitallonthefield–doyourbest.

III. Conclusion

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MLCL102:

Unity:TheFirstTaskofaLeader

RolfeCarawan,M.Ed.

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I. Introduction

A. Storyofbuildingunityonaperenniallosingprepschoolfootballteam.

B. ItistheFirstTaskofEveryLeadertoBuildUnity.

1. Successdoesnotcomeapartfromunity.

2. Unitydoesnothappenbyaccident.

3. UnityisexpressedintheGodhead(Trinity)– Father,SonandHolySpirit

C. UnityisaPartofGod’sPlanforUs.

1. John17:11

2. Oneofthegreatestchallengesofbeinginleadershipisthatyou’realwaysout

thereforsomeonetocriticize.

3. John17:22-24

4. Ephesians4:1-3

5. Colossians3:14

D. PowerofUnity

1. TowerofBabel(Genesis11:1-9)

2. InUnityNothingIsImpossible(v.6)

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II. MythsAboutUnity

A. YouMustBe100%UnifiedtoBenefitfromUnity’sInfluence.

B. UnityisJustAnotherWordfor“Uniformity”.

1. Reality – Unity occurs when free individuals choose to come together

voluntarilytoaccomplishagoal.

2. Unityisneveraccomplishedbycoercion.

C. DiversityisNotHonoredinUnity.

1. Reality–Unityrequiresadiversityofgifts,abilitiesandpersonalitiesinorder

forgoalstobeattained.

2. Unityneedsdiversitytobesuccessful,itspartoftheDNA.

D. UnityisaUtopianIdea.

III. HowDoWeIncreaseQualityofService&ProductivityInAn

Organization?

A. ThroughPeopleWhoAreEngagedtoTheirMaximumInvolvement.

B. GallupSurvey–5.4millionworkers.

1. 29%consideredthemselvesfullyengagedintheirwork.

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2. 55%admittedonlypartialengagementintheworkplace.Thatistosaythatin

theirjobs80%ofwhattheydidwasnotfulfillingandmotivating.

3. 16%admittedtobeingactivelydisengaged-thatistosaytheywere

intentionallyunderminingproductivityintheirworkplace.

C. ResearchofDr.Wright,UniversityofNevada,Reno.

1. Anorganizationcouldlosefrom40minutesto2hoursofproductivityper

workerperdaydependingontheworker’slevelofunhappinessonthejob

andinoutsidecircumstances.

2. Toincreaseanindividual’sengagementatworkhisleveloflifesatisfaction

mustbeaddressed.

3. Threeareasofsatisfyinglife-

• Unitywithself

• Unitywithmission

• Unitywithothers

4. Unityw/self

• Clarifyingourcorevaluesandattitudes.

• Comfortableinourownskin.

• Content,nolongercomparingmyselfwithothers.

5. UnityofMission

• Hastodowithvision,purposeandgoals

• Yourpersonallifemissionmustbecongruentwiththoseofthe

organizationyouworkwith.

• Missionprovidesmeaningforourlives

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6. UnitywithOthers

• Peopledon’tleavecompaniestheyleavemanagers

• Relationshipsareimportanttoproductivityintheworkplace

• Friendsareneededintheworkplace

7. Three(3)Deadly“D’s”thatSabotageEngagement

• Discontent

• Dissent

• Discord

IV. PersonalBenefitsofUnity

A. IncreasesEnergyLevel.

B. IncreasesFocus.

C. Decreasesfrictionanddiscontentinworkplace.

V. OrganizationalBenefitsofUnity

A. Givesacompetitiveadvantage.

B. IncreasesMorale

C. ProvidesGreaterTeamwork

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D. GreaterLoyalty

E. InnovationSoars

VI. SixEssentialsofUnity

A. Agreement

B. Trust

C. ExcellentLeadership

D. Altruism

E. Communication

F. Interdependence

G. Commitment

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VII. PhasesofLeadership(RobertClinton)

A. SovereignFoundations

1. Gender

2. Family

3. Aptitudes

4. Abilities

B. InnerLifeGrowth

1. Corevaluesdeveloped

2. Connectchoicesandconsequences

3. Spirituallifecrisisleadingtodeeperdependenceongod

C. Ministering,MaturingPhase

1. Commitmentstoministryandorganization

2. Understandingofourselves

3. Achievealevelofcomfortinourownskins

4. Exploreourgiftsdeeperandnurturethemwithintentionality

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D. LifeMaturing

1. Purposefulpursuitsinlinewithourlifemission

2. Walkinginourgiftedness

3. Gainingexperienceatmanylevels

E. Convergence

1. Confidenceborneoutofexercisingourgifts

2. DoingwhatIamsupposedtodo;whatIwascreatedtodo

3. Self-actualizedinChrist

F. Afterglow

1. Celebrationofalifewell-lived

2. Dramaticimpact

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MLCL103:

AmbassadorsforChrist:TheMessageofServantLeadership

EricScalise,Ph.D.

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I. Introduction

Leadershipisdescribedinmanywaysbutallcanbereducedtothisword–

INFLUENCE.

A. ServantLeadership

1. 1970–RobertGreenleafcoinedtheterm“servantleader”.

2. ItdescribestheBiblicalconceptofservantleadershipintheministryof

reconciliation.

3. “AllthisisfromGod,whoreconciledustohimselfthroughChristandgaveus

theministryofreconciliation:thatGodwasreconcilingtheworldtohimselfin

Christ,notcountingmen'ssinsagainstthem.Andhehascommittedtousthe

messageofreconciliation.WearethereforeChrist'sambassadors,asthough

Godweremakinghisappealthroughus.WeimploreyouonChrist'sbehalf:

BereconciledtoGod.”–2Corinthians5:18-20

B. MinistryofReconciliation

1. Allformsofministryandallleadershippositionsaretiedtotheconceptof

the“ministryofreconciliation”.Everyoneneedssomeformofreconciliation.

2. Somepeopleneedtobereconciledtothemselvesbecauseofpersonaland

familydysfunctions,notbeingatpeacewiththemselves.

3. SomepeopleneedtobereconciledtoGod.

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4. Somepeopleneedtobereconciledtoothersbecauseofbroken

relationshipsandunforgiveness.

5. Leaders(coaches)domuchoftheirworkinthecontextofreconciliation.

C. Ambassador

1. ThetermAMBASSADORcomesfromaCelticwordmeaning“servant”.

2. AnothertermorsynonymisPLENIPOTENTIARY–“adiplomaticagent

endowedwithfullpowertotransactbusiness.”-Webster’sDictionary

3. Thistermdescribesanambassadorasonecharacterizedby:

• Dignity

• Integrity

• Respect

4. Plenipotentiaryleadershipisbasedoncorevaluesthatarebiblically-based

andwillproduce“resolutegenuineness”.

II. Principles/CharacteristicsofaGreatAmbassador

GodHimselfisaSovereignLeader-"Knowthereforetoday,andtakeittoyourheart,

thattheLORD,HeisGodinheavenaboveandontheearthbelow;thereisnoother.”

Deuteronomy4:39(NASB)

Heleadswithmajesty,power,andauthority.

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A. AmbassadorsAreAppointedorChosen.(1Peter2:9)

1. GodhassetusaparttobeHisambassadors.

• SoweareChrist’sambassadors;Godismakinghisappealthroughus.We

speakforChristwhenweplead,“ComebacktoGod!”2Corinthians5:20

(NLT)

2. WearecommissionedasleaderstocarryoutGod’smission.

B. AmbassadorsAreEntrustedWithAMission.(1Cor.2:4)

1. WerepresentGodnotourselves.

2. Wehavebeengivenamission–thegospelofChrist,aministryof

reconciliation.

C. AmbassadorsAreFaithfulandLoyalToTheirSovereign.(Luke16:10)

1. Faithfulnessandloyaltyaredemonstratedovertime.

2. Theyare“earned”commodities.

3. Theytakestepsoffaithorexercisefaith.(Proverbs13:17)

D. AmbassadorsAreViewedAsDignifiedIndividuals.(Titus2:7)

1. Individualsofhighcharacter.

2. Theyhaveastrongsenseofmission.

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3. Theyoperateinauthoritywithhumility.

4. Theydon’tabusetheirauthority.

5. Theyare“abovereproach”.

E. AmbassadorsAreTrustedByTheirSovereignLeaders.

1. Theymustbetrustworthy.“Inthiscase,moreover,itisrequiredofstewards

thatonebefoundtrustworthy.”1Corinthians4:2NASB

2. Theyareextremelydependable.

F. AmbassadorsAreWise(notnecessarilythemosteducatedorsmartest).They

havethewisdomofGod.

“Thetongueofthewisemakesknowledgeacceptable,butthemouthoffools

spoutsfolly.”Proverbs15:2NASB

1. Theyarewiseintheirresponses.

2. Theyrepresentthecorevalues,philosophiesandprinciplesoftheir

sovereign.

3. Theyareobedienttothesovereign.

4. Theyunderstandthepowerofthetongue.

5. Theyarecoalitionbuilders.

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G. AmbassadorsAreSENT.(Luke9:1-2)

“AndHecalledthetwelvetogether,andgavethempowerandauthorityoverall

thedemonsandtohealdiseases.AndHesentthemouttoproclaimthekingdom

ofGodandtoperformhealing.”

1. Theyhaveamissionfromtheirsovereign.

2. Theyarepreparedfortheirmission.

3. Theyrepresentthesovereignnotthemselves.

III. Conclusion&Summary

Thethingswhichyouhaveheardfrommeinthepresenceofmanywitnesses,entrust

thesetofaithfulmenwhowillbeabletoteachothersalso.2Timothy2:2NASB

A. Leadership

1. Leadershipisaphenomenon,aconcept,aprocess.Itrequiresongoing

researchandstudy.

2. Weasleaders/coachesareplenipotentiaries(ambassadors)ofGod.

B. ALeaderAlwaysProducesFollowers.

1. Greatleadersproduceothergreatleaders.

2. Leadersunderstandthattheyarereally“servants”.

3. Thesignificanceofthefoldedburialnapkin

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MLCL104:

EssentialElementstoEffectiveLeadershipCoaching

DwightBain,M.A.,GeorgiaShaffer,M.A.

andEricScalise,Ph.D.

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I. Introduction

A. Thingsdon’tgetdonebythemselvesinanyorganization.Someonehastobe

thinking,planningandactingstrategically.

B. WewillexamineFiveEssentialElementsthatarenecessarytoeffective

leadershipcoaching.

II. Plans&Planning–EverythingStartswithaMasterPlan

A. BiblicalPlans

1. JoshuahadbeengivengoalsandplansbyMosesandwasinstructedin

Joshua1tomoveforwardwiththoseplansandthatbecauseofGod’s

presenceandtheplansheneednotbeafraid.

2. AChristian’sdaymustbegininGod’sWord.

B. ThePurposeofPlans

1. Plansfunctionasanorganizations’playbook.

2. Plansneedtobe:

• Writtendown

• Measurable

• Attainablebutstretching

• Ownedandboughtintobyeveryoneontheleadershipteamandwithin

theorganization.

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III. Personalities

A. EffectiveLeaders

1. Leadersneedtounderstandthemosteffectivecontexttheyworkwithin

basedontheirpersonalities.

2. Leadersmustbeabletointeractwithallthepersonalitiesontheirstaffs.

• Todothistheymustidentifythedifferentpersonalitytypesontheir

staffs.

• Theymustshareanddescribetheirpersonalitytypeandhowtheydeal

withrelationships.

3. Leadersmustbuildonstaffstrengths.

4. Leadersmustbewillingtoevaluateandre-slotpeoplewherenecessary.

5. Leadersmustbeproactiveinthisvitalarea.

B. Personnel

1. We’reonlyasgoodasourpeople.

2. Payattentiontotheneedsofyourteam.

3. Leadersmustbeequippersandencouragers.

4. Personnelproblemsarebestsolvedandaddressedduringthehiringprocess.

• Proverbs15:2“Wisdommakesknowledgeacceptable.”

• Knowledgeisthe‘what”andWisdomisthe“How”or“When”

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IV. Priorities&Focus

A. Multitasking

1. Toomanyleadersbelievethatmulti-taskingisthewaytogetthingsdonebut

researchhasshownthatnottobetrue.

2. Leadersmustidentifythemissionorgoalandeliminateandeliminate

everythingtheyaredoingthatdoesleaddirectlytothatgoalormission

achievement.

3. Aneffectiveleaderdoesn’tmanagetasksbutleadspeople.

4. Delegationisthekeytosuccess.

5. Leadersshouldalwaysbeaskingthemselvesthisquestion:“Whatisthemost

importantthingIshouldbedoingrightnow?”

6. Leadersmustunderstandtheprincipleofthe“Urgentvs.Important”

B. Perfectionism

1. Perfectionismstopsandlimitspeople.

2. Perfectionismoftenleadstoincompletetasksandgoals.

3. Leadersmustbewillingtoacknowledgetheirbrokennessinthisareaand

dealwithit.

4. Leadersmustbewillingtoacknowledgethiswiththeirpeople.

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V. Conclusion

“Thegreatestofleadersunderstandwhatitmeanstobecomeafolloweragain,and

allowotherpeopletospeakintotheirlives.”–EricScalise

Weascoachesandleadersmusthavecoachesinourownlives.

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MLCL105:

FindingYourVoice:EveryLeaderHasaStory

RolfeCarawan,M.Ed.

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I. Introduction

A. TheTerm“FindingYourVoice”wasCoinedbyMaxDupree.

B. AsLeadersWeMustDecideWhatWeAreandAreNotGoingtoStandFor

Jesusreplied:"'LovetheLordyourGodwithallyourheartandwithallyoursoul

andwithallyourmind.'Thisisthefirstandgreatestcommandment.Andthe

secondislikeit:'Loveyourneighborasyourself.'AlltheLawandtheProphets

hangonthesetwocommandments."Matthew22:37-40NIV

C. God’sStory

1. Weareallcaughtupinadrama;wearepartofGod’sstory.

2. Weneedtodiscoverandinterpretourstory.

II. Jesus’ModelofLeadership

A. RelationalLeadership(i.e.ServantLeadership)

1. 1Timothy3:1indicatesthattoseektheofficeofan“overseer”isanoble

ambition.

B. MovingfromFollowertoLeader:WhenDoesItHappen?

1. Whenlife’sfocusmovesfrom“me”to“we”

2. Keyquestionofcoachtoclient“Whydoyouwanttobeleader?”

3. WhenGodgivesyouavisionandmissionforyourlife.

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4. Identifyingyourvisionandmissionrequiresfaith

5. ScripturalexampleofAbraham:

• HeneededfaithtoRISK.

• HeneededfaithtoTRUST.

• HeneededfaithtoSURRENDER.

6. God’criterionforsuccessisFAITHFULLNESS

III. WorldPowerModelvs.KingdomofChrist’sModel

A. WorldPowerModel

B. Standardization/Uniformity

C. Conformity

1. Performingacceptablepractices

2. Presentingacceptableimage

D. Pragmatism–howdoesitwork?

1. Canwemakeitworkagainthesameway?

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E. Production

1. Personalworthismeasuredbyabilitytoproduce

2. Produceswinners&losers

3. Disruptsunity

F. Centralism–attainingandmaintainingcontrolisofparamountimportant

1. Authorityisneverquestioned

G. Christ’sModelServantLeadership

1. “Jesuscalledthemtogetherandsaid,"Youknowthatthosewhoare

regardedasrulersoftheGentileslorditoverthem,andtheirhighofficials

exerciseauthorityoverthem.Notsowithyou.Instead,whoeverwantsto

becomegreatamongyoumustbeyourservant,andwhoeverwantstobe

firstmustbeslaveofall.ForeventheSonofMandidnotcometobeserved,

buttoserve,andtogivehislifeasaransomformany."Mark10:42-45NIV

2. “Forwedonotpreachourselves,butJesusChristasLord,andourselvesas

yourservantsforJesus'sake.”2Corinthians4:5NIV

H. Variety–fosterasafeenvironmentwherepeoplecanbeproductiveand

contributionsareencouraged.

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I. Improvement–leaderssays...”Ibelieveinyouruniquedesign”

1. honorswhatGodisdoinginaperson

J. Scripture-Centered

K. Authenticity

L. Integrity

IV. Conclusion

Thejobofaleaderistoconnectour“voice”withour“touch.”

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MLCL106:

StrategiestoEmpowertheExecutivesYouCoach

GeorgiaShaffer,M.A.

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I. Introduction

A. Leadershipfailureshappenalmosteveryweek.Whathappened?Theydidnot

materializeovernight.Theyoccurredovertime.

B. AccordingtoDanielGoldman,themoresuccessfulaleaderbecomestheless

self-awarenesshetendstohave.Theytendnottoseetheirbesettingsinsand

wheretheyaremostvulnerable.Theyfailtobeabletoidentifyissuesthatwill

hindertheirleadership.

C. Acoach’sjobistohelpleadersdevelopakeenerself-awareness.

D. Acoachhastodevelopa“plan”foraleadertobesuccessfulandwithinthisplan

wehelpthemdealwithself-awareness.

II. ThereAre5QuestionsForYourClient:

A. WhatArethe“WhatIf’s”thatAreCausingYoutoWorry?

1. Whatisstealingyourenergy?

2. Diffuseyourfearsandconcerns

3. Designcontingenciestodealwiththe“whatif’s”.

4. Brainstorm“thenextstep”aftercomingupwiththecontingencyplans.

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B. WhatHindersYourAbilitytoConnectwithPeople?

1. Findtherightpeopleforthejob–keepthosepeople.

2. Thecoreofsuccessfulleadershipisrelationships.

3. AccordingtoTimSanders,therearefourqualitiesnecessarytoconnect.

• Befriendly

• Bereal,thatis,authenticandgenuine

• Haveempathy

• Berelevant

4. Discusswhatcauses“disconnects”inyourrelationships.

C. AreYouLivingandLeadingBeyondYourLimitations?

1. Istheleaderdepletinghisenergiesunnecessarily(dangerouslydepleted)?

2. Whataresignalstheyareheadingfortrouble?

3. Emotionalstresscausingdepletion

4. Physicalissuedrainingthem

5. Spirituallyrunningonempty

6. Istheleadertryingto“doitall”?

7. Needtofocusontheimportantvs.urgent.

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8. LeaderneedstounderstandGodasthesourceoftheirpowerandstrength.

9. Leadermusthaveactivitiesinhisschedulethathelphim“recharge”andre-

energize”

D. AreYouManagingYourEmotionsorVice-Versa?

1. Mostleadersareawareoftheiremotionsbuttheyarenotviewedas

priorities.

2. Leadersmustbeawarethatwhenemotionsareignoredlongenoughthey

willeventuallycausemajorproblems.

3. Leaderswillsaythingslike“…aroundherewedon’tfocusonnegatives”

4. Theyneedtounderstandthatdealingwithemotionalissueshelpsavoid

“negatives”andisapositivething,beingproactive.

5. Questionsforreflection:

• HowoftendoIactoutmyfeelingsandemotions?

• Whatdothosearoundmesayaboutmyemotionalstability?

• Whatdomy“meltdownmoments”looklike?

E. WhatDesiresNeedtobeDiscarded?

1. Don’tconfuseneedsanddesires.Desireshavetohavearelationshipto

achievingthemission.

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2. Don’tconfusedesireswithurgentmattersthatarescreamingforyour

attention.

3. Desiresbecomingdemands–leadingtodisconnect.

4. “Whatcausesfightsandquarrelsamongyou?Don'ttheycomefromyour

desiresthatbattlewithinyou?”James4:1NIV

III. Conclusion

A. Agreatexercisetodowithyourclientsistoworkthrougheachofthese5

Questionsandratehoweachappliestoyourclientby1-5scale.

B. Youcanexpectresistancefromyourclientsinthisarea.Remember,resistanceis

usuallyanexpressionofadeeplyheldneedorvaluethatcausesinnerconflictin

yourclient.

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MLCL107:

LeadingThroughToughTimes:ManagingChangeandTransition

RolfeCarawan,M.Ed.

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I. Introduction

A. ReadingEcclesiastes,Chapter3

Foreverythingthereisaseason,atimeforeveryactivityunderheaven.Atimeto

bebornandatimetodie.Atimetoplantandatimetoharvest.Atimetokilland

atimetoheal.Atimetoteardownandatimetobuildup.Atimetocryanda

timetolaugh.Atimetogrieveandatimetodance.Atimetoscatterstonesand

atimetogatherstones,Atimetoembraceandatimetoturnaway.Atimeto

searchandatimetoquitsearching.Atimetokeepandatimetothrowaway.A

timetotearandatimetomend.Atimetobequietandatimetospeak.Atime

toloveandatimetohate.Atimeforwarandatimeforpeace.Whatdopeople

reallygetforalltheirhardwork?IhaveseentheburdenGodhasplacedonusall.

YetGodhasmadeeverythingbeautifulforitsowntime.Hehasplantedeternity

inthehumanheart,butevenso,peoplecannotseethewholescopeofGod’s

workfrombeginningtoend.SoIconcludedthereisnothingbetterthantobe

happyandenjoyourselvesaslongaswecan.Andpeopleshouldeatanddrink

andenjoythefruitsoftheirlabor,forthesearegiftsfromGod.AndIknowthat

whateverGoddoesisfinal.Nothingcanbeaddedtoitortakenfromit.God’s

purposeisthatpeopleshouldfearHim.

B. GodisinvolvedwithusinanongoingstoryordramawhichHeisstillwriting.

C. GodhascalledustolivewithinthistensionnotedinthisportionofScripture.

D. Lifeisnotsomuchwhathappenstousbuthowwereacttoit.

E. WearelivinginaculturecharacterizedbyIRRESPONSIBILITY.

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II. GodHasCalledUstoLiveinthisCultureandBeDifferent

“Whatwebelievetobetrue,wedo.”QuotebyRolfeCarawan.

A. Godismoreconcernedwithwhowearethanwhatwedo.

B. Ascoacheswearetobethosethat“comealongside”(paraclete)ofourclients.

Wearetobemotivatorsandencouragers.

C. We,norourclients,canallowourselvestoassumethe“victimmentality”ofso

many.Thatjustleadstoanegativeself-fulfillingprophecy.

III. HowDoWeDistinguishBetweenVictor–VictimMentality?

A. Victor–onewhostrivestoovercome

Victim–onedefeatsthemselvesbytheirbeliefsandbehaviors.

B. Victor-“Youcancountonme!”

Victim-“I’lltry”

C. Victor–“Iwillshapecircumstances,thesituationwillnotcontrolme!”

Victim–“ThereisnothingIcandoaboutit!”

D. Victor–“WhatcanIgainfromthisexperience,eveninfailure?

Victim–“Ijustneedtogetthroughthis,ifIcan.”

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E. Victor–“MaybeI’mtheproblem,ifsoIcanchange!

Victim–“Thereshouldnotbeanyproblems”.

IV. Conclusion

A. “LordoftheRings”-FrodoandSam.

1. Theyhadmanyopportunitiestoturnback;toquitbuttheydidnot.

2. Theyperseveredbecausetheyhadahopeandacause.

3. Theybelievedinsomethinggoodthatwasworthfightingfor.

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MLCL108:

CulturallyCompetentLeadership

MarkCrear,Ph.D.,ParisFinner-Williams,Ph.D.,J.D.,Esq.and

EricScalise,Ph.D.

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I. Introduction

A. Whatdoyouseeaskeyleadershipprinciples?

1. Dr.Crear

• Effectivelistening.

• Peopleempowerment.

• Leadershipbyexample.

2. Dr.Finner-Williams

• Knowingyourskillsandyourmission/purpose.

• Integrity

• Doingwhatyousayyouaredoing.

• Holdpeopleaccountable.

B. Whatdidyouappreciateaboutbeingcoached?

1. Dr.Crear

• Coach’sbeliefinmeasanindividual.

• Coachworkingwithmeasajoint/equalparticipantintheprocessofgoal

settingandaccomplishment.

C. Whatisacoach’sjob?

1. Dr.Finner-Williams

• Coachselectsandscreensclientsnotviceversa.

2. Coachassiststheclientinskillsetandabilitydevelopmentandinveststime

intheperson.

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3. All

• Acoachmustbeabletoseepotentialinpeopleandthenbeabletoassist

withnurtureanddevelopmentoftheleader.

• Acoachmustbeabletoassistpeopleto“stretchthemselves”andmove

outsidetheircomfortzones.

II. WhatDoesCulturalCompetencyLookLike?

A. Dr.Finner-Williams

1. Coachcanassesstheneedsofthecultureandindividualswithintheculture.

2. Coachmustbeopen-mindedandteachable.

3. Coachmustbeabletonotonlyassessneedsbutdevelopwaystodeliver

them.

B. Dr.Crear

1. Coachhastoeducatehimselfintheculturebeingaddressed.

2. Coachhastobeflexibleandadaptable.

C. ACoachhastoEngagetheCultureatAllLevels.

D. ACoachhastoEarntheTrustofthePersonsHe/SheIisServing.

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E. ACulturally-RelevantCoachUnderstandsandPracticesthePrincipleof“WalkA

MileInMyShoes”asBestHeCan.

Note:Acoach(leader)cannotbeculturallyisolatedanduninformedifheisto

successfullyhelpothers.–Dr.EricScalise

III. HowDoesaCoachShowUnconditional-PositiveRegard,Acceptance,

RespectandGenuineness?

A. Dr.Crear

1. Re-evaluatepersonalpreferences,biasesandprejudicesandcheckthemat

thedoor.

2. Acceptpeoplewheretheyareinlifeandhelpthemreachtheirgoalsand

potentialfromthere.

B. Dr.Finner-Williams

1. Lookforpotentialinpeople.

2. Lookpasttheircurrentlifesituation,pastpersonalandfamilyhistory.

Note:TIMEcreatescredibilityandrespect.

Coachesneedtoalwaysexaminetheirownpersonalmotives.

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IV. AddressingtheLeadershipNeedsoftheAfrican-American

Community?

A. Dr.Finner-Williams

1. Coachesneedtoidentifytheeffectivenessbasedoncontentoftheiradvice

tothisculture.

2. Coachesneedtoidentifyqualitiesofsuccessanddeliverinaculturally-

relevantmanner.

3. Coachesmustidentifygapsineffectiveness.

B. Dr.Crear

1. Takeapositionofrespect.

2. Identifywiththecultureandpackagethecounselsothatitcanbeaccepted.

V. Conclusion

A. Acoachmustcomeinasa“servantleader”.

B. Acoachmustengagetheculturewithouttryingtochangeit.

C. Acoachmustbeperceivedasa“learner”andonewhoiswillingtoengulf

himselfintheculture.

D. TheAfrican-Americancommunitystillhasunderlyingissuesofsuspiciousness

anddistrust.Anyserviceproviderhastobeawareofthisandbeableto

addresstheseissues.

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MLCL109:

ServingMultipleGenerations

RolfeCarawan,M.Ed.

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I. Introduction

A. Dealingwithvariousgenerationsthatarepartofyourorganizationisalwaysan

issueincoaching.

B. Whatmakespeopledifferent?Thenaturev.nurturediscussionisalwaysraised

inthiscontext.

C. Godhasplacedsovereignfoundationsinallofourlivesandhasorderedour

livesandlifestory.Hedeterminedthetimeofourbirth,thatis,the

“generation”ofourbirth.

II. ConceptsofTime

A. TimeisChaotic

B. GodhasPlacedCyclesofTimeinhisUniverse

C. TimeisLinearandProgressive

III. DescriptionsandDiscussionsofMultipleGenerationsInTime

A. TermsUsed,Defined

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B. SocialGeneration

1. Agelocationintime

2. Generationsareformedevery20years

C. Speculum

1. Timespanofanormalhumanlife(80-100years)

2. Includes(4)generations

3. Ineveryspeculumtherehasbeenamajorsecularcrisisthatrearrangedthe

outerworldofpowerandpolitics.

4. Halfwaybetweeneachofthesecrisestherehasbeenanawakeningthat

revolutionizedthatgeneration’sinnerlifeofmorals,valuesandbeliefs.Asa

result,30-40yearslaterthatgenerationbegantoimplementthosevalues

andviewswithinthepresentculture.

5. Thiscycleseemstohavebeenconsistentatleastinthelast250years.

D. QuestionintheLate20thCentury:Willtherebeanothermajorworldcrisisin

the21stcenturybetween2005-2025?

E. CyclesofCrises

Thesecyclesofcrisesandawakeningswithinasocietycanbeunderstoodasfour

seasons:Spring,Summer,Fall,andWinter.

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1. Spring

• Occursrightafterthecrisis.

• Atimeofprosperityandfreedom.

• Survivalisassured.

• Thegenerationbornhere,astheycomeofage(18-25yearsold)rebel

againstthegenerationthatwentthroughthecrisis.

2. Summer

• Atimeoffightingforideals.

3. Fall

• Theculturebeginstodisintegrate.

4. Winter

• Acrisisthreatens.

• Atimewhereconsensusisbeguntobeformed.

• Moralauthorityincreasesandthereismoreorderandsacrifice.

F. EachGenerationhasaDifferentPersonalityType

1. Thegenerationthatgoesthroughthecrisiscomesoutwitha“Wecan

conquertheworldandallofitsproblems”attitude.

2. Thegenerationbornoutoftheshadowofthecrisishastrouble

understandingthemindsetandhowdeeplythepreviousgenerationfeltthe

crisisandwasmovedbyit.

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3. Everygenerationisdifferentandhasbeenshapedbywhatwashappeningin

theworldwhenthey“cameofage”,i.e.18-25yearsofage.

G. Acoachmustusethisknowledgetoidentifyhisclientgenerationallyand

discernhiscorevalues.Thisinformationisvitaltobeabletohelptheclient.

NOTE:Godisalwaysworkinginhistoryandinthesecycles.Ascoachesand

leaderswecanbe“harbingersofhope”becauseweunderstandthecycles

andgenerationalcharacteristicsandknow,insomeway,whatiscoming.We

canusethisknowledgetohelpdispelfearinourclients.

H. WhatIsACoachToDo?

1. Understandthatbecauseofeachgeneration’suniquebeliefs,valuesand

behaviorstheyalsohavePREDICTABLEwaysofrelatingtoothers.

2. Findoutwhatimpactedtheirclient’sgenerationandhowtheyarerelatingto

theworldbyaskinggoodquestionsandconnectingwiththeclientwiththis

knowledge.

3. Understandthatthereisnota“GenerationGap”butanattitude,values,

beliefandbehaviorgap.

4. Identifythegenerationoftheirclientsandrealizethattoconnectwiththem

istobuildarelationshipbyrespectingwhotheyare,wheretheyhavebeen

andhowtheyprocesslife.

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IV. IdentifyingWithandUnderstandingGeneration‘Y’

A. TheyareLookingforAUTHENTICRELATIONSHIPS

B. TheyareLookingforTRUTH

C. ToConnectwithThemYouHavetoProveYouHaveTheirBestInterestinMind

D. GenuinelyInvestTimeinThemandFindOutTheirFearsandDreams

E. UnderstandTheyareLookingforSecurity

F. UnderstandTheyWantFeedbackasWellas“ToBeHeard”

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MLCL110:

ProjectManagementforLeaders

DwightBain,M.A.

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I. Introduction

A. Questions:

1. Whatistheproject?

2. Whatchallengesareyoufacing?

B. Answers

1. Youbeginbyhelpingtheleaderdefinetheprojectandputitinto

manageablepiecesthatcanbesuccessfullyaddressed.

2. ProjectManagershelpleaderscometowiseconclusionstodealwitha

challengeandmakeagooddecision.

3. Alife-coachisa“safeperson”whobecomesasoundingboardforleaders.

II. PrinciplesforDefiningandDealingSuccessfullyWithAProject

AnacronymthatspellsoutP-R-O-J-E-C-Tandalsofunctionsasa“scorecard”for

evaluation.Eachaspectoftheprojectcanbeassignedanumber1-10,10being

thebestscore,whichthengivesusaclearpictureof“howwearedoing?”

A. (P)–Perspective

1. WhereDoIGetPerspective?

• Newspapers

• Magazines

• Radio

• Scriptures–perspectiveshouldberootedinScripture.

2. PositivePerspective:“Ifwecandreamit,wecandoit!”–WaltDisney

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B. (R)–Resources

1. Time–akeyresourcebutitlimitedto168hoursaweek.

2. Cash

3. Energy

• Howmuchdoestheleaderhave?

• Howmuchdoesthestaffhave?

• Whenyourunoutofenergyyouarevulnerabletotemptationandmoral

failure.

4. Information

5. Manpower–Ittakesateamtobuildadream.

6. Space–Squarefootage:parking,buildingsetc.

C. (O)–Obstacles

1. Example-Coachcanusethe“WebTechnique”graphicallyshowingall

elementsofchallenge.

D. (J)–Jobs

1. Effectivedelegationisamust.

2. Musthaveaunifiedteam.

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3. Leadermustavoidbecominga“controlfreak”–thisusuallyhappenswhen

somethinggoeswrong.

4. Follow-upandaccountabilityafterdelegationisrequired.

5. Goodcommunicationupanddownthestafflineisessential.

E. (E)–Economicsi.e.thebudget.

1. Goodbudgetmanagementisanecessity.

2. Asacoachyoudon’thavetobeafinancialgenius.

• Askgoodquestions

F. (C)–Communications

1. “Bucket”example.

2. Criticismattackstheindividual;Critiqueenhancespersonalperformance.

3. Assessperformanceforbetterresults.

G. (T)–Timing(schedules)

1. MasterCalendar

2. Everythingbecomesatimingissue.

3. Adjustmentsareinevitable.

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III. Conclusion

A. Coachwillhavetheclientscoreeachoftheareas1-10.Beatpossiblescore=

70.

B. Youcanthenhelptheclientseetheprojectstatus.It“quantifies”thesituation

andeliminates“subjective”evaluationsbasedoncircumstances,emotionsetc.

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MLCL111:

LeadersPartneringAtHomeandAtWork

RolfeCarawan,M.Ed.,LeaCarawan,M.A.,andEricScalise,Ph.D.

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I. Introduction

A. Couplesworkingtogetherbringauniquechallengetoanyorganizationor

business.

B. Linesbetweenworkandhome;businessandpleasureetc.canbecomeblurred

andsteppedovercausingstressandconflictthataffectsthebusinessandthe

family.

II. BalancingHomeandWork

A. Boundariesmustbeestablishedandstrictlymaintainedtokeepworkandfamily

separate.

B. Oneofthese“boundaries”shouldbe“time”.

C. Acoachmustnotpresumethatacouplealreadyhasahandleonthisarea.

D. Acoachmustunderstandandhelptheclientsunderstandthatthisisamatterof

“communication”andthe“differencebetweenmenandwomen”.

III. Communications

A. Coachesmustunderstandtheuniquedesignofallindividualsrelatingtohow

theycommunicatebutparticularlythedifferencesbetweenhowmenand

womencommunicate.

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B. Husbandsandwivesmustknoweachotherwellenoughtoknow“whenisa

goodtimetocommunicate?”

C. DifferencesInMale-FemaleCommunications.

1. Womenneedtotalkaboutthewholescopeoftheirliveseveninthecontext

ofbusiness.

2. Menarecompartmentalizedandwillonlytalkaboutworkandhavenoneed

tobringfamilyorpersonalissuesintobusinesscommunications.

3. Thecoachmustassessthepersonalitiesofhusbandandwifeanddetermine

whetherbothcandealwitha“samesex”or“oppositesex”coach.

4. Thecoachmaywanttousesometestinginstrumentsuchas“DISC”tohelp

thecoupleunderstandeachother.

5. Thecoachshouldnotmakegeneralizedassumptionsbasedongender.

IV. MakingBusinessDecisionsasaCouplevs.FamilyDecisions

A. Theorganizationalstructureandslottingshouldbebasedongiftingofthe

coupleandnotwhostartedwhat,etc.

B. Couplemustsetprioritiesandlivebythem:e.g.God-Marriage-Family-

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C. MainfocushastobeonGodandthehealthofthemarriageandfamilyif

anythingistosurviveincludingthebusiness.

D. Couplemustestablish“unity”andagreement.

1. Unityrequiresagreementon“corevalues”.

2. Couplemustunderstandeachotheratalllevelsandineveryaspectoftheir

individualpersonalitiesandworkwithinthegiftingofeach.

3. Couplemustknowhowtogiveeachother“space”.

V. Conclusion

A. Couplesmustbewillingtoloveandforgiveineverycircumstance.

B. Couplemustgiveeachotherthepermissiontohave“veryhonestdiscussions”.

C. Couplesshoulduse1Corinthians13:4-7asafilterfortheirinteractionswith

eachother.

“Loveispatient,loveiskindandisnotjealous;lovedoesnotbragandisnot

arrogant,doesnotactunbecomingly;itdoesnotseekitsown,isnotprovoked,

doesnottakeintoaccountawrongsuffered,doesnotrejoiceinunrighteousness,

butrejoiceswiththetruth;bearsallthings,believesallthings,hopesallthings,

enduresallthings.”1Cor.13:4-7NASB

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MLCL112:

BecomingaGreatLeader:RunningtheRacewithEndurance

EricScalise,Ph.D.

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I. Introduction

Weliveinacultureofuncertaintythatclamorsforauthenticleadership.

II. BasicConceptsofLeadershipConviction

“Therefore,sincewehavesogreatacloudofwitnessessurroundingus,letus

alsolayasideeveryencumbranceandthesinwhichsoeasilyentanglesus,and

letusrunwithendurancetheracethatissetbeforeus,fixingoureyesonJesus,

theauthorandperfectoroffaith,whoforthejoysetbeforeHimenduredthe

cross,despisingtheshame,andhassatdownattherighthandofthethroneof

God.ForconsiderHimwhohasenduredsuchhostilitybysinnersagainstHimself,

sothatyouwillnotgrowwearyandloseheart.”

Hebrews12:1-3NASB

A. Aleadermustestablishandarticulatehis/herfoundationalconvictionsandcore

values.

B. Character,whichis:

1. MoralExcellence

2. Whatwearewhennooneislooking.

3. Formaldefinition–adeviceplacedonanobjectasanindicationoforiginand

ownership.

“AndyoubelongtoChrist;andChristbelongstoGod.”

1Corinthians3:23NASB

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4. Whatdoescharacterlooklikeinaction?

• Faithfulness

• Availability

• Authenticity

• Humility

• Unconditionallove

III. FactorsthatProduceGreatness

A. Capacity(InnateAbility)

“Aseachonehasreceivedaspecialgift,employitinservingoneanotherasgood

stewardsofthemanifoldgraceofGod.”

1Peter4:10NASB

1. Asbelieverswehavethe“capacity”ofGod

B. Goal-Oriented

“Doyounotknowthatthosewhoruninaraceallrun,butonlyonereceivesthe

prize?Runinsuchawaythatyoumaywin.Everyonewhocompetesinthegames

exercisesself-controlinallthingstheythendoittoreceiveaperishablewreath,

butweanimperishable.ThereforeIruninsuchaway,asnotwithoutaim;Ibox

insuchaway,asnotbeatingtheair;”

1Corinthians9:24-26NASB

1. Acoachhelpsaclientarticulatevisionandmissionandmovetoward

achievement.

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2. Acoachunderstandsthatagoal(tobesuccessful)mustbewritten,dated,

achievableandabletobeevaluatedandpassesthatalongtotheclient.

3. Acoachremindstheclientthatgoalsmustbereviewedandconsulted

regularly.

C. Time

1. Possiblythemostpreciouscommoditywepossess.

2. Successrequiresaninvestmentoftime.

3. Chronos–clocktime

4. Kyros–momentswhereGodisworking.

“Foreverythingthereisaseason,atimeforeveryactivityunderheaven.Atime

tobebornandatimetodie.Atimetoplantandatimetoharvest.Atimetokill

andatimetoheal.Atimetoteardownandatimetobuildup.Atimetocryand

atimetolaugh.Atimetogrieveandatimetodance.Atimetoscatterstones

andatimetogatherstones.Atimetoembraceandatimetoturnaway.Atime

tosearchandatimetoquitsearching.Atimetokeepandatimetothrowaway.

Atimetotearandatimetomend.Atimetobequietandatimetospeak.Atime

toloveandatimetohate.Atimeforwarandatimeforpeace.Whatdopeople

reallygetforalltheirhardwork?IhaveseentheburdenGodhasplacedonusall.

YetGodhasmadeeverythingbeautifulforitsowntime.Hehasplantedeternity

inthehumanheart,butevenso,peoplecannotseethewholescopeofGod’s

workfrombeginningtoend.

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SoIconcludedthereisnothingbetterthantobehappyandenjoyourselvesas

longaswecan.Andpeopleshouldeatanddrinkandenjoythefruitsoftheir

labor,forthesearegiftsfromGod.AndIknowthatwhateverGoddoesisfinal.

Nothingcanbeaddedtoitortakenfromit.God’spurposeisthatpeopleshould

fearhim.Whatishappeningnowhashappenedbefore,andwhatwillhappenin

thefuturehashappenedbefore,becauseGodmakesthesamethingshappen

overandoveragain.”

Ecclesiastes3:1-15NLT

D. Effort–HowdoIusethetimeIhave?

“Forthedreamcomesthroughmucheffort…”

Ecclesiastes5:3NASB

1. Successrequireseffortandhardwork.

2. Principleof“negativeresistance”infitnesstraining–producesstrength.

E. Consistency

“Therefore,mybelovedbrethren,besteadfast,immovable,alwaysaboundingin

theworkoftheLord,knowingthatyourtoilisnotinvainintheLord.”

1Corinthians15:58NASB

1. Aleadercannotbe“On”and“Off”;inconsistencyproducesinsecurityinyour

staff.

2. Successisnothowyoustartedbuthowyoufinished.

3. Consistentdailyroutinesandworkethic.

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F. Sacrifice

1. Leadershipiscostlyandattimesrequiresgreatsacrifice.

2. Christ“enduredthecross,notconsideringtheshame”

3. Leadersmust“countthecost”.Luke9:23NASB

“AndHewassayingtothemall,"IfanyonewishestocomeafterMe,hemust

denyhimself,andtakeuphiscrossdailyandfollowMe.”

G. Accountability(Teachability)

1. Aleaderneedspartnershipsthatkeephimauthentic.

2. Leaderscannotisolateandattempttodolifealone.

“Twopeoplearebetteroffthanone,fortheycanhelpeachother

succeed.10Ifonepersonfalls,theothercanreachoutandhelp.But

someonewhofallsaloneisinrealtrouble.”

Ecclesiastes4:9-10NLT

IV. Conclusion

Lifeisarace.Itisamarathonnotasprint.Itrequiresendurance,persistenceand

perseverance.Therewillbeobstaclesbutallcanbeovercome.Successisnot

howmanytimesyougetknockeddownbuthowmanytimesyougetbackup.

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