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HarveySupportHandbook

EveryHoustonianhasaHarveystory.Whileallhavebeenimpacted,eachpersonhashisorherownuniqueexperiences,emotionsandresponses.ThishandbookhasbeenpreparedtosupportyouandyourfamilyasyounavigatetheemotionalaftermathofHurricaneHarvey.Ifaquestionariseswhileyoulookthroughthisguide,pleaserefertotheresourcelistandwewouldbehappytoassistyou.Page2-GriefCyclePage3to4-Normalvs.ExtremeSignsofDistressPage5-CopingToolsPage6-ParentingwhenLifeisHardPage7-HowtoProcessHarveywithKidsPage8-HowtoProcessyourownHarveystoryPage9-HowtoCareforYourselftoTakeCareofOthersPage10to11-SurvivorsGuiltPage12-HowtoDetoxtoAvoidSecondaryTraumaPage13-TheGiftsofSufferingPage14-SpiritualSupportPage15-CounselingandSupportGroupReferralsPage16to17-UnitedWayResourceList

PreparedbyAmandaGraceCaldwell,LPC-Intern,CertifiedinCriticalIncidentStressManagement

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Thestagesofgriefarenotlinear;theyarecyclical.

Peopleexperienceangeronedayandpeacethenext.Sometimes,youwillexperiencemultipleemotionsatonce.Pictureyourselfonthegriefcycle.Whatstagesareyouexperiencing?WhatneedstochangetogetyoutoaplaceofAcceptance?

Threewaystoprocessgrief(AdamL.Mason,MAMFC,LPC-S):1. AllowyourselfTime

a. Timetothinkb. Timetofeelc. Timetobe

2. Speaka. Speakyourthoughtsoutloudb. Verbalizewhatyouarefeelingc. Speaktoanotherpersond. Speakthewordsoutloudasyouwriteinajournale. Singsongsthatconnectwithyoursoulf. Don’tletwordsorfeelingssitindarknessorsilence

3. Looka. Lookforloveb. Lookforbeautyc. Lookforlifed. Lookforhope

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Normalvs.ExtremeSignsofDistressEveryonehasaHarveystory.Eachofushavebeenimpactedinuniqueways.Becauseofthis,peoplewillalsohealinauniqueway.NormalSignsofDistress

o Cognitive§ InabilitytoConcentrate§ Guilt§ Preoccupationwiththeevent§ DifficultyinDecisionMaking

o Emotional§ Anxiety§ Anger§ MoodSwings§ DepressedMood§ Grief§ Fear;Phobia

o Behavioral§ Impulsiveness§ ExcessiveEating§ Substanceuse§ Withdrawal§ SleepDisturbance§ CryingSpells§ Hypervigilance

o Physical§ Headaches§ Fatigue/exhaustion§ Indigestion/nausea/vomiting§ Musclespasms

o Spiritual§ AngeratGod§ Withdrawalfromfaithcommunity§ Crisisoffaith

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ExtremeSignsofDistress(seekaprofessionalwhenexperiencingthesesymptoms)

o Burnout§ Decreaseinqualityofwork§ Cynicism§ Thedesiretorelocate,divorceorchangecareers§ Chronicnegativism§ Desperationthatlifeisslippingaway§ Ageneraldissatisfactionwithlife,family,career

o Panic§ Sweating§ HeartPalpitations§ Nausea§ Beliefoneisdying§ Uncertainty§ Hopelessness

o Depression§ Emptiness§ Hopelessnessorhelplessness§ SuicidalIdeation§ LossofAppetite§ Weightloss§ Diminishedenergy

o PosttraumaticStressDisorder(PTSD)§ Ifthesereactionsareinterferingwithyourabilitytofunctiononadailybasis,seekhelpfrom

aprofessional.§ KeyFeatures

• Intrusivememoriesandrecollectionsoftheeventàdistressingdreams,flashbacksandorintrusivethoughts/images

• Persistentavoidanceof/withdrawalfrompeople,placesand/orthingsassociatedwiththetraumaticevent,aswellasdepressivesymptoms

• Persistentsymptomsofincreasedarousal,suchashyperstartlereactions,irritability,angryoutburstsandsleepdisturbance.

§ ViolationsofFiveCoreBeliefs• “Theworldisjustorfair.”

o Whydidthishappen?• “Guiltandviolationofsenseofself-esteemandcharacter.”

o Ishouldhavedonesomethingelse;Ishouldhavenotdonesomething;Ishouldhavedonesomethingmore.

• “Abandonment,Betrayal,violationoftrust.”o Ifeelbetrayedbysomeone.

• “Violationofasenseofsafety.”o Theworldnowseemslikeanunsafeplace.

• “Violationofcoherency”o Thistraumaticeventhastakenawaythegluethatholdstheworld(religion,

spirituality,etc.)together.

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CopingTools

QuestionstoAskYourself

o Whathasequippedyoutoworkthroughgrief,loss,orsomethingdifficultbefore?

o Whatneedstobeinplaceforyoutofeelsafeagain?

o Howwouldyoufeelsupportedbyothersrightnow?

o Wherecanyougetinformation?Whoisthebestpersontotalktoaboutthat?

o Whatdoyouneedrightnow?

o Focusondoingthenextbestthingforyouandyourfamily

o Whathasallowedyoutoworkthroughthissofar?

HealthyCopingTools

o Rest§ Areyougettingtoolittlesleep?§ Areyougettingtoomuchsleep?

o Simplifyyourlife/BeGentlewithyourselfo Getoutside

§ Goonawalk;breatheinfreshair.o Exerciseo Reframe

§ Whatisonewaytoviewthissituationdifferently?o EatHealthyFoodso DistinguishwhatisTruefromwhatisaThoughto PracticeSelf-Care(Whatissomethinglife-givingyoucandotocareforyourself?)o BeAwareofwhatyouarelisteningtoandwhatyouarewatching

§ Certainimages,sounds,andsmellsmightbetriggeringrightnow.o Findasafeplace

§ Sometimes,our“safeplace”mightbeanimageinourminds.o Findawaytoexpressyourexperience/tellyourstory

§ Journal/Writeoutyourstory§ Talktoatrustedfriend§ Speaktoaprofessional

o Developinternalsupport§ HowcanyouturntoGodinthistime?§ Whatsmallgroupsareavailableforyou?§ Prayer/Meditation§ Scripturereading

o Seekexternalsupport§ Everyoneneedsasupportsystem,especiallyintimesofdistress.§ Whocanyouspeaktoorspendtimewithrightnow?

o Knowyourlimits§ Useboundarieswithwhatyoucanhandleandwhatyoucan’trightnow.

o Gratitudeo Play-dosomethingfun!(Itisgoodandhealthytolaugh)o RelaxationTechniques(Deepbreathing,music,art,reading)

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ParentingwhenLifeisHard

ByJillGilbert,LPC,LMFT

Parentingishard.Lifeishard.Whathappenswhentheyarehardatthesametime?Belowarestepstohelpyouhandleboth.Apositiveby-productofsufferingisthatourchildrencanexperiencehowafamilyandcommunitypullstogetherwhenlifeishard.

• FindyourCompass-Thebelowwillhelpyouprocessyourownemotionssothatyoucanbeavailableforyourchild’semotionsandkeepupwithyourparentalresponsibilities.

o SpendtimewithGod—getcenteredandgroundedinHimo Seekcounsel(Mentors,PastoralCare,Therapists)

o SupportfromTrustedPersonalRelationships

o ClarifyValues—whatistrulyimportantrightnow?

o Process—usemusic,art,journaling,books

• ModelResiliency

o Nurturerelationships

o Nurturefaith

o PracticeGratitude

o Don’tforgettoplay.Itishealthytolaughandplay.

• ModelHealthyCopingo Takecareofyourmind,body,heartandspirit.

o Teachyourchildrentodothesame.

• ModelHealthyGriefo Doyourownheartwork

o Usechild-appropriatelanguagetodescribefeelingsofsadness,fearorloss.

• ModelServingintheCommunity

o Serveotherswithyourspiritualgiftsandinvitechildrenintothat.

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ProcessingHarveywithKids

WrittenbyMichelleCollins,LPC,CertifiedClinicalTraumaCounselor,EMDRcertified

HurricaneHarveyhascomeandgoneandleftdestructionofproperty,emotionsandstabilityinitswake.Insituationslikethese,survivalbecomespriorityandsafetycomesfirst.

Whatishelpfulisrememberingthethreephasesoftraumarecovery:

1.Safety&stabilization

2.Remembrance&mourningand

3.Reconnectionandintegrationbackintolife.

InHoustonrightnow,weareinbetweenphase1andphase2.

Ayoungerchild’s(age3andbelow)conceptofsafetyliesprimarilywithhis/hercaregivers.Olderchildrenlooktothings liketheirhomeenvironment,toys,aswellascaregiverstoestablishasenseofcontrolandsafety.Thisisgoodnewsintermsofhelpingchildrenprocessbeingdisplacedfromtheirhomesbutcanaddextraworkforparentsaswell.

Belowaresomepracticalstepsyoucantaketowardensuringyourchild'smentalstabilitythroughouttheprocessofrecovery.

Ifyou,astheparentcan:

1.Communicateyourdecisionstoyourchildren,

2.Helpthemtalkthroughtheirunderstandingandemotionsoftheexperience,

3.Talkwiththemthroughhowyouarekeepingthemsafeandtheactionsyouwill take ifcertainthreatsbecomereal,yourchildwillfeelconnectedandunderstoodthroughthechaos.

Reassureyourchildoftheirsafetyandofthefamily’sconnectednessthroughoutallthechaos.Thisneedsto be done verbally but also through your body language and actions. Take time to play and relaxthroughouttheday.Connectwithyourkidsandallowthemtoseeyousmilingwheneverpossible.

Takingsentimentaltoys,stuffedanimalsbasicallytransitionobjectswithyoumightseemtrivialbuttheseobjectscanbekeytohelpingyourchild feelsafeandconnected.Taketimetotalkabout theobjectandhelpthemconnecttoitwhentheyaretryingtosleep/wakinguptokeepthemconnectedandgroundedinthemidstofchaosandchange.

Keep routines asmuch as possible. Try to keep routine in the way you structure their day with play,learning,restingtime.Keepyourbedtimeroutinethesame:singthesongstheyknow,readthebooksorrecitethebookfromwhatyouremember.

Allowthemtotelltheirstoryofwhathappenedandhowitmadethemfeel.Thisisakeypartofprocessingthetraumaandallowingthemtostartthehealingprocess.

Andaboveall,keepcheckinginwithyourchildandseehowtheyaredoing.

Sometimesweforgetaboutourlittlestmembersofourfamiliesduringsurvivalmode.Iwanttoremindusthatwhilechildrenmightnothavethewordsyettoexpressallthedeepintenseemotionswefeelasadults,theirmindsareabsolutelycapableoffeelingthoseemotions.

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HowtoProcessyourownHarveyStory

Itisimportanttowrestlewithandtellyourstoryaftertimesoftragedy.Youcanwriteyourstory,shareitwithafriendortellaprofessional.Spendtimereflectingonyourstoryandknowwhenyouneedtoseekprofessionalhelp.Somequestionstoconsiderasyouprocessyourstoryandlookahead:

• Wherewereyouwhenthestormhit?• Whatitemswereyouabletosave?Whatmadetheseimportant?• Whowaswithyou?• Howwereyourescued?• Howhaveyouhandledtimesoflossorstressbefore?• Howcanyoubecourageousinthismoment?• Whathascalmedyoudowninthepast?Howcanyoudothisnow?• Whatcanyoubethankfulforrightnow?• HowhasHarveyimpactedyouandyourfamily?• Whatemotionsareyouexperiencing?• What"characters"areapartofyourstory?Neighbors,friends,strangers?• Whatwasthescariestmoment(s)foryou?• Describe(atleast)onemomentyoufelthopeorrelief.• DescribethemostimpactfulmomentinyourHarveyjourneysofar.• Whatisonelessonyoulearnedduringthisstorm?• Whatisthebestnextstepyouwilltakeinyourlife(basedonthislesson)?

Iflifebecomesunmanageableandyourdailyfunctioningisimpacted,considerseekingprofessionalcare.Ifthesequestionsaretootriggeringoryouareexperiencingthesymptomsonpage4,contactacounselorinyourarea.

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HowtoCareforYourselftoTakeCareforOthers

• Processyourownstory-Usethequestionsonpage8toassistwiththis.• SealinyourService-It'simportanttosealinyourservicenomatterhowyouareserving.

Startandendwithaprayer.BeginandendwithaBibleverse.Or,startandendwithasong.• Rest-Youcan'thelpifyouendupsickinbed.Getenoughrest,eatwellandgetoutsideand

move.Restsothatyoucangiveyourbesttothepeopleyouareserving.• StayConnected-Donotworkyourselfoutofsocialconnection.• HaveFun-Pickonefunthingtodoeachweek.Weallneedsomethingtomakeuslaugh,

somethingtodistractus,somethingtolookforwardto.• BeGentlewithYourself-Intimesofstress,it'simportanttobegentlewithourselves.Goslow

andfocusondoingthenextbestthing.Tobegentlewithourselvesistogoslow,takeabubblebathortakeabreakwhenneeded.Nowisnotthetimetopushorforce.AskGodtoshowyouhowtohelpeachandeveryday.Hewillbringyoutherightpeopleandtherighttasks.

• Don’tOutshootyourCoverage-Knowwhenyouneedaprofessionaltohelpyouassistsomeoneinneed.

• ServewithaTeam-Havingasharedexperiencewithothershelpingwillgiveyousupportandtheabilitytoprocessthestoriesyouarehearingandtheexperiencesyouarehaving.

• MixPhysicalwithEmotionalService-Ifyouareservinginarolethatrequiresalotemotionally,takeabreakandspendsometimeservingonspecifictasks.ViceVersa.

• LetgooftheGuilt-Donotjudgeorcompareyourexperience• Simplify• BeHonestaboutyourintentionstohelp-Isitcomingoutofunhealthyguiltorduty?

Paceyourself.Thisisamarathon.Notasprint.Practicetheabovetoavoidburnoutandcompassionfatigue.Youarejustonepartofrecovery.Donotcarrythewholeresponsibility.

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Survivor’sGuilt

WhatisSurvivor’sGuilt?Survivor'sguilt(sometimesreferredtoas"survivorsyndrome")referstothepsychologicalconditionofsomeonewhowitnessedorwasinvolvedinatraumaticeventthatmayhaveharmedothers,butlefttheaffectedindividualvirtuallyunscathed.Theaffectedindividual,however,isimpactedbytheemotionalscarsthatresultedfromwitnessingthetraumaticevent.

CommonSymptomsmayinclude:

• Nightmares• Difficultysleeping• Flashbackstotheevent• Lossofmotivation• Irritability• Anxiety• Thoughtsaboutthemeaningoflife

CopingwithSurvivor’sGuilt:

• Acknowledgeandvalidateyourownhurtorgrief.Youhavepermissiontogrieveevenifyoufeel“spared.”

• Thereisnotahierarchyofpainandtrauma.Weallhaveuniqueexperiences.• Normalizeyourreaction.Survivor’sguiltisacommonreactioninacrisis.• Giveyourselfthespaceandtimetofeelandtogrieve.Youareallowedtodothis.• Donotjudgeorcompareyourexperience.• Istheguiltyouareexperiencinghealthyorunhealthy?

o Unhealthy-Doestheguiltmakeyoufeeloverlyresponsible?Orrequirepenance?o Healthy-Doestheguiltcallyoutoactionandtoserve(withinyourcapabilityandmeans)and

toempathy?

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Survivor’sGuilt

ALetterbyAdamL.Mason,MAMFC,LPC-SMinisterofCounselingServicesHouston’sFirstBaptistChurch

Blessingscanbelikebabies,cominginallshapes,sizes,andcolors.SharleneandIwereblessedtohavenotflooded.Thewaternevercameoveroursidewalk.Weneverlostpower,water,televisionservice,orinternet.Wehadarefrigeratorfullofdeliciousfoodwhichwepreparedfresheachday.OurTuesday:wespenttheafternoonwatchingsomeofthechildrenfromdownthestreetworkonpuzzleswhiletheadultscasuallychattedandwonderedoutloudifwereallyneedfloodinsurance,sincewedidnotfloodinsuchamajorevent.

Bobby,myfather-in-law,experiencedadifferenttypeofblessing.Hishomeflooded.Again.Thisishisthirdtimetoflood:TropicalStormAllison,theTaxDayFlood,andHurricaneHarvey.Thistimewasdifferentthough.Thistimehewashome.ThewaterstartedcomingintohishouseMondaymorning.By1:00pmhehad3inchesinhishome,anditwasstillraining.Heraisedhisgaragedoortocheckontheweatherandthestreetandthevaninthedriveway,andhesawamanwalkinginthewaistdeepwater–pullingaboat.ThegoodSamaritanhaddrivenfromWallertoCypressthatmorning,bringinghisboattohelppeople.Hetookmyfather-in-lawtodryground,wherehecaughtaridetoashelteratMetropolitanBaptistChurch.Theygavehimamattress,ablanket,andapillow.HisTuesday:thecrewfromtheMcDonald’sacrossthestreetcametowork,cookedthemorning’sallotmentofbreakfast,deliveredittotheshelter,thenclosedtherestaurantandwenthome.Itwasagoodbreakfast.Heateitamongstrangers,withwhomhehadlittleincommon.Theywerealsoevacuees.OnWednesdayafternoon,thefloodwatershadrecededenoughforBobbygetaridebacktohishouse.Thewaterinhishomehadcrestedat6inches.Heturnedonhiselectricity,settheairconditionerat72degrees,gatheredafewbelongings,backedhisdrycaroutofhisgarageanddroveovertoourhouse.Somanyblessings.Idarethinkthatmyfather-in-law’sexperienceofGod’sblessing,love,andprovisionaredeeperthanmine.Thereisatendencytothinkthatthoseofuswhoaresparedhardshipare“moreblessed”thanthosewhoarenot.Wequestionourworthinessforsuchanhonorprofessing“Whyus,God?”Wethinkthatsomethingiswrongbecauseothershaveexperienced“morethantheirfairshareofpain”whileweremainrelativelycomfortable.Butwhatisreallywrongisourwayofthinking.Wehaveafaultytheologyofsuffering.Inreality,theblessingofprotectionisrathershallowwhencomparedtotheblessingofdeliverance.PerhapsGod’sloveandcomfortarefeltmoreinsufferingthaninsafety;moreinneedthaninplenty.Inhismessageyesterday,PastorGreggmentioned“Survivor’sGuilt”.Hesuggestedthatforthoseofusthathadsurvivedwithnoorminimaldamagethereisagreatresponsibility.Wemustuseourresourcesinhelpingthosewhohavenone.Thisgivingofourselvesisourplaceofdeeperblessing.Blessingscanbelikebabies,cominginallshapes,sizes,andcolors.Thoseofuswhodidnotexperiencegreatlossdonotallhavethesameabilitytohelp.Noteveryonecancutsheetrock,orspend6hoursonourfeetsortingclothes.Butwecanallsosomething.Asthepastorsays,weareeithergoing,giving,praying,ordisobedient.

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HowtoDetoxtoAvoidSecondaryTrauma

ALetterbyAdamL.Mason,MAMFC,LPC-SMinisterofCounselingServicesHouston’sFirstBaptistChurch

AreportpublishedWednesday,December9,2009bytheUniversityofCaliforniaatSanDiegostatedthattheaverageAmericanconsumes34gigabytesofcontentand100,000wordsinasingleday.Ibelievethatduringnaturaldisastersthesenumbersgoup.Wehavebeeninundatedwithimages,sounds,andwordsfromthetelevision,internet,andradiochroniclingtheeventsunfoldingaroundus.Inadditiontothesheervolumeofthisinformationincreasing,thecontentoftheinformationchangesaswell.Theinformationbecomesmuchmoreemotional.Itisvirtuallyimpossibletonotbeaffectedbywhatwehear,see,andsmellhappeningallaroundus.Ourmindsandheartscannotescapeunaffectedbythisdeluge.IthasbeenoveraweeksinceHarveymadelandfall.IcancallhimHarveynowandnotHurricaneHarveybecauseIfeelthatweareonafirstnamebasis.Thishasbeenamuchmoreintimatestormforme-forus.However,Inthelast24hours,themediahasshiftedtheirprimaryfocusawayfromHarvey.Eventhoughtheirconversationhaschanged,thatdoesnotmeanthatourconversationshavechanged.OurmindsandemotionsarestillverymuchfocusedonHarveyandhiseffectsonourcommunities.Westillhavegroupsofvolunteersgoingintohomespullingoutcarpet,cuttingoffsheetrock,andthrowingoutformerlyvaluableitems.Attheendofthetaskthesehomesaredetoxified.Somearesprayedwithacombinationofbleachand/ormildewcidetokillthebacteriaandpreventmold.Othersrequiremoredrasticcleaningmeasures.Somehomeswillsimplybedestroyedintheinterestofpublichealth.Eachday,thevolunteersmustgohomeand“detox”themselves.Bynowmostoftheseworkershavedevelopedaroutine:bootsleftoutsidebythedoor,clothesimmediatelyintotheawaitingwasher,andbodyintoahotshower.Thesestepsarebothnecessaryandappreciatedattheendofahardday.Itisadisciplinethatisasrewardingasitislifeprotecting.Iwonderifwepaythesamelevelofattentiontodetoxingourthoughtsaswedotodetoxingourhomesandphysicalbodies?InRomans12:2,Paulstressestheimportanceofrenewingourmind.Paulunderstoodtheonslaughtofcarnaltoxicitytowhichweareexposedeveryday–andPauldidnothavethemulti-sensorymessagesofmodernmediawithwhichwemustcontend.Someoftheseworldlyinfluencedthoughtsneedtoleftoutside.HustonMcComb,onthecounselingcenterstaff,visualizesleavinghisworkcaresonthepushbarofthedoortothechurchashepressesittoopenthedooronhiswayhome.Someofourmemoriesandemotionsneedtobesanitizedbytherefiner’sfire–thereissomegoodwaitingtoberevealed.Someofwhatwehaveexperiencedjustneedstobedestroyed.Weleavethosebehindandmoveforward.Modernpsychologicalresearchindicatesthatitonlytakes60secondsofquietmeditationtoresetthemind.60seconds.1minute.SetasidesometimetodaytoclearyourmindfromeverythingbutGodandHisloveforyou.Detox.Reset.Rest.

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TheGiftsofSuffering

• IntimacywithGod• Intimacyandauthenticitywithfriendsandfamily• Feeling“awake”tolife• ExperiencetheBodyofChrist• Valuesareclarified• Enhancedabilitytoserveandunderstandothersinpainandsuffering• Enhancedmeaninginlife

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SpiritualSupport

Intimesoffearorchaos,wemustrememberwhatisTrue.BelowisacharttohelpdistinguishbetweenThoughandTruth.

THOUGHT TRUTH

Goddoesn’tcare. “Jesuswept.”John11:35

Godfeelsfar. “TheLordisclosetothebrokenhearted.”Psalm34:18

Weareinvisible. “TheGodwhoseesme.”Genesis16:13

Weareforgotten. Hehearsourprayer.Psalm17:6

Wearedisplaced. WeareadoptedinChrist’sfamily.Ephesians1:5

Wearescared. Heisourpeace.Ephesians2:14

Weareconfused. “GodisnotaGodofdisorderbutofpeace.”1Corinthians14:33

Wearehurting. “Hebindsuptheirwounds.”Psalm147:3

Wheredowego? “Youaremyhidingplace.”Psalm32:7

Wefeelguilty. “Carryeachother’sburdens…”Galatians6:2

Wefeelhelpless. “Practicehospitality.”Romans12:13

Whatdowedo? “Dogoodandsharewithothers.”Hebrews13:16

Itisdarkaroundus. “Godislight.”1John1:5

Wefeeloverwhelmed. “Iwillgiveyourest.”Matthew11:28

Wearetired. “ThosewhotrustintheLordwillfindtheirstrengthrenewed.”Isaiah40:31

Wearestirred. “Repent…turntoGod.”Acts3:19

Thewatersarerising. “Hereacheddown…anddrewmeoutofdeepwaters.”Psalm18:16

Weareheartbroken. “Deepcallstodeep.”Psalm42:7

Wefeellost. “AndIwillleadtheblindinawaytheydonotknow…”Isaiah42:16

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AdditionalResourcesandReferrals

Counselors:• KatieAshby

o 713-581-9100• JillGilbert

o 713-581-9100• DeniseRhew

o 713-581-9100• SandyBond

o 832-493-6965• NancyCofran

o 281-772-1017• KatieAdams

o 281-277-8811• TrishaTaylor

o 512-922-4000• TimMavergeorge

o 281-277-8811• MichelleCollins

o 832-598-1734• GuyGourley

o 281-398-2509• P.K.Loeffler

o 713-461-1606MDPCResources:

• StaffMembers(Callmainchurchlineat713-782-1710)o BrettHurst,RelationshipsPastoro RickMyers,CaringMinistriesPastoro AmandaGraceCaldwell,Counselor-in-Residenceo BeverlyFluke,MemberCareDirectoro KakkiThompson,CaringMinistriesDirector

CommunityResources:

• Interface-SamaritanCounselingCentero 713-626-7990o www.houstonsamaritan.org

• HoustonCenterforChristianCounselingo 281-398-0022o www.christiancounselinghouston.com

• Bo’sPlace(GriefSupport/SupportGroups)o 713-942-8339o www.bosplace.org

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