Men are from MARS, Women are from VENUS.

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Introduction & Book Summary Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus by John Gray “It is essential to learn new and healthy ways of relating and

communicating (Gray, 1992).” This book focused on the differences in communication styles

between men and women. Offers suggestions to understanding how members of the opposite

sex communicate. Gray explains that couples can improve the quality of their

relationship if when they can better understand how their partners communicate.

Gender insight helps us to be more tolerant and forgiving when someone doesn’t respond the way we think he or she should (Gray, 1992)

Data from the Book:

Gray (1992) makes wide swiping generalization about “all men” and “all women” throughout his book.

Based upon his personal experiences and “7 years of research” (Gray, 1992)

Gray (1992) states that his theories and principals were “tested and tried” – but does not say how

“At least 90%” (Gray,1992) of the more than 25,000 individuals who attended his lectures recognized themselves and their partners in his theories

Data is anecdotal – Descriptive stories of men and women and the different ways in which they communicate within their heterosexual relationships

If a woman is talking to you a lot, it is a sign that she likes you but if she doesn’t talk remember you are in trouble!

John Gray says… Gray (1992) concludes that men and

women… Are naturally different Communicate in completely different ways Use language differently Constantly misunderstand each other

This leads to conflict, break ups and ultimately divorce….

(Source: John Gray’s Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, 1992)

The Hard Data… Gray (1992) does not –

Disclose how he conducted his questioning of “more than 25,000” individuals

Go in to what makes men and women so different – but hints to it being linked to biology

LOVELOVE

For some people love meansFor some people love means Quality TimeQuality Time GiftsGifts HelpHelp AppreciationAppreciation

God’s Purpose of family

To have companionshipTo procreate

Men = Women ??

To have a happy married life Let love be your goal and so let love be your

decision than a feeling Have a deep trust in God Good communication Periodical sexual relationships Be freed from the past painful memories,

attachments in relationships

A woman leaves a man not because she is unhappy with what he can provide, but because she is

emotionally unfulfilled

Quality of Data…

The researchers received an “Distinguished Publication Award” for their work

Relatively small sample size

Discussion & Conclusion John Gray has a large number of followers He claims to have saved countless marriages Some “good” points… However… The book is patronizing towards both men and

women Perpetuates the “myth” of “natural” gender

differences

References: Cameron, D. (2008). The Myth of Mars and Venus: Do men and women

really speak different languages? USA: Oxford University Press. Cayem,D., Stierwalt, J., Sprawls, J., & McIIroy, J. (2008). Male

Communication in a Heterosexual Dating Relationship. Psychology of men, 29,110-116.

Gray, J. (1992). Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. New York, NY: HarperCollin.

MacGeorge, E., Graves, A., Feng, B., Gillihan, J., & Burleson, B. (2004). The myth of gender cultures: Similarities outweigh differences in men’s and women’s provision of and responses to supportive communication. Sex Roles, 50, 143-175.

Sprecher, S., & Toro-Mor, M. (2002). A study of men and women from different sides of earth to determine if men are from Mars and women are from Venus in their beliefs about love and romantic relationships. Sex Roles, 46, 131-147.

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