The Abbey The Episcopal Church of St. Benedict June/July 2014 Bolingbrook, Illinois

SUMMER FEASTS

Pentecost: Sunday, June 8

Feast of St. Benedict: Sunday, June 29

Sabbatical Send-off Sunday: Sunday, August 17

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From the Vicar In late April, the week after Easter, I became an oblate of Holy Wisdom Monastery, just north of Madison, Wisconsin. This means I'm an associate of the monastery; that I have a way of following the monastic Rule of Benedict in my own life, that I maintain a relationship with the sisters and other oblates, and that I engage in a life of prayer in some way. There were 12 of us who became oblates this year, joining a community of about 170 men and women of all Christian traditions and the three sisters (one of whom is Presbyterian).

Holy Wisdom is a place that nourishes my soul and helps me feel close to God. There's something about its prairie landscape, the way the buildings and rooms feel, and even the food served there, that speaks to my spirit.

What is a sacred place in your life? Have you ever thought about how that place might be God speaking to you? Perhaps God speaks there to you about Creation, about your preciousness as a child of God, about your relationships, and about what it means to pray. Sometimes, just being in a certain place is a way to pray and feel God's presence. It can be that simple.

Perhaps the place is far away, or perhaps it's in your backyard. Perhaps it's even at St. Benedict.

Next fall, when I'm on sabbatical, I'll return to Holy Wisdom and stay there for a whole month, as a sort of experiment on my spiritual life. What will it be like to order my life in that place? I'll return to Jerusalem, a place I love, after visiting it in 2001. With my husband, Adam, I'll also experience new sacred places like St. Gregory of Nyssa (a unique Episcopal church in San Francisco), Olympic National Park near Seattle, the ancient city of Petra in Jordan, and the site of Benedict's first monastery outside Rome.

But sacred places don't have to be fancy. As a matter of fact, when a monk once asked his abbott for permission to travel abroad and search for God, the abbott said, "Just go to your room. If you can't find God there, you won't find God anywhere."

The Rev. Heidi Haverkamp Priest and Vicar

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Our Sabbatical Time is Coming Rev. Heidi will take a sabbatical time this fall – and so will our congregation! We’ll welcome Father Sam Colley-Toothaker as our Sunday celebrant and preacher. Also, we’ll have a special focus on Benedictine spirituality and hospitality – to God, to one another, to newcomers, and to the stranger. While we’re talking about hospitality and being the “host,” Heidi will be spending time as a stranger herself, as well as a pilgrim and a guest in her reflective time away: on a vacation out West, on retreat in Wisconsin, and on pilgrimage to Benedictine sites in Israel, Jordan, and Italy.

We’ll have a special “Send Off Sunday” on August 17 to bless Rev. Heidi on her way. She and Adam will leave that same day on an overnight train trip to San Francisco. You’ll be able to follow her on her journey at her blog: Stranger, Pilgrim, Guest: A Benedictine Sabbatical –(address TBD).

Important Sabbatical Dates: August 17: Send-Off Sunday! October 17-19: A Weekend with Jane Tomaine, author of St. Benedict’s Toolbox: The Nuts and

Bolts of Everyday Benedictine Living November 30 (Sunday): Rev. Heidi Returns to St. Benedict, Advent begins December 7 (Sunday): A Welcome Back Bash at the Bolingbrook Golf Club

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Father Sam Colley-Toothaker

The Reverend Samuel S. Colley-Toothaker is a native of Maine. At age 15, he entered the Oblates of Mary Immaculate (OMI) and began studies for the priesthood. The OMI is a missionary order serving the poorest of the poor throughout the world and living a simple monastic life. At age twenty-four Father Sam left the OMI to marry the love of his life, Linda. They married and had three sons, Thomas, Allen and Samuel, all of whom are now grown and living life on their own. Father Sam worked as an Investment Banker and Corporate Consultant until he resumed his call to priesthood in the Episcopal Church. He comes to the Diocese of Chicago from Danville, Virginia where he served for six and a half years as Rector of Epiphany Episcopal Church, and as Headmaster of Epiphany Episcopal School. He is now working to complete a doctoral degree in clinical psychology, hoping to focus on clergy wellness and pastoral counseling. He and his wife live in Palatine. Father Sam is an avid swimmer, loves to run, play racket ball, and he works out daily in an effort to keep fit. He and Linda are avid animal lovers. While they do not have a furry friend presently, they are looking forward to the arrival of a Maine Coon cat this summer.

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Special Worship this Summer Pentecost – Sunday June, 8

Wear red or orange!

Multi-Ethnic Potluck

Hear scripture read in many languages.

Celebrate Christian diversity and the gift of the Holy Spirit.

The Feast of St. Benedict – Sunday, June 29 (transferred) We’ll worship indoors this year to celebrate our patron saint. Steve Johnson will play guitar. We’ll celebrate with cake and sparkling juice, and have some fun playing “bags” either indoors or outdoors, depending on the weather.

Sabbatical Send-off Sunday – Sunday, August 17 Blessing of Rev. Heidi and Adam as they venture off on sabbatical. Father Sam will join us starting today.

Children’s Education Pentecost, June 8: All children will be invited to carry small dove banners in the Pentecost procession! Thanks to our Holy Moly class for creating the banners. Sunday School begins again on Sunday, August 24.

Sunday Seminars After worship, usually in the “couch room” (blue hallway) or sanctuary. June 1 – The Ministry of a Police Chaplain (Deacon Chere) June 8 – Peace and Justice in the Holy Land (Barb Wolfrum and Newland Smith, diocesan Peace and Justice Committee)

Wednesday Bible Study Wednesday nights, 7-8:30 p.m. All are welcome.

We’ll be studying the Rule of St. Benedict this summer. Starts June 4. Join in anytime.

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Contemplative Prayer Group Thursdays, June 12 and July 10, 9:00-10:30 am You are welcome to join us for Centering Prayer meditation and Lectio Divina, which is a way of reading the Scriptures where we gradually let go of our own agenda and open ourselves to what God wants to say to us. Simple instructions are provided. We meet regularly on the second Thursday of each month and you are welcome to come once, occasionally, or on a regular basis. Contact Laura Mitrisin (mitrisin@prodigy.net), Dick Bennett, or Esther Simonson if you have any questions.

The Ordination of Liz Meade Saturday, June 14, 3:00 pm

Liz Meade was with as a postulant intern this winter, and will be ordained to the Priesthood on Saturday, June 14, at 3:00 p.m., at Baker Memorial (Methodist) in St. Charles, Illinois (the Episcopal church wouldn't fit all who wanted to attend!). If you would like to carpool with Rev. Heidi, call or send her an email or sign up in the narthex.

Grace and Race: Pullman District Tour Saturday, June 28, 2014

Grace and Race will be hosting a tour of the Historic Pullman District in Chicago, with lunch at a restaurant in the Pullman area. If you are interested, please sign up in the Narthex.

Holy Baptism

You are welcome to consider baptism for yourself or your child. Pentecost (June 8) or The Feast of St. Benedict (June 29, transferred) are especially fun days for a baptism. Contact Rev. Heidi to talk about scheduling and pre-baptismal instruction. During the sabbatical, the supply priest will also be glad to offer baptism.

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Staff on Vacation

Secretary on Vacation Becky Fleming will be on vacation starting Friday, June 5 and back in the office on Monday, June 16.

Music Director on Vacation Brian Cromer will be doing his traditional, unusual summer job of assisting with a traveling pig racing carnival act. His last Sunday will be June 15 and he’ll return on Sunday, August 4. He appreciates the interest, but will not be doing a Sunday Seminar this fall on pig racing. While Brian is away, Michelle Braxton and Dr. Charles Wolf will accompany our worship.

Brian bought a house in May! His new address is: 2038 N Tripp Avenue, Chicago IL 60639.

Clergy on Vacation

Deacon at Chaplin Training Deacon Chere will be at International Police Chaplin Training in Columbia, SC, from July 14-18.

Priest and Vicar on Vacation Rev. Heidi will be on vacation July 7-13, attending a family wedding in Denver.

Father Roberto Pamatmat will be celebrating and preaching on Sunday, July 13. Born in the Philippines, Roberto grew up a priest’s kid in the Philippine Independent Church (PIC), which has been in full communion with the Episcopal Church since 1961. He completed seminary at Seabury Western Theological Seminary in 2000. He is staff assistant to the editor of the Anglican Theological Review (ATR) and part-time rector of St. James’ PIC, Skokie. Roberto and his wife Lorena have two daughters and live in Des Plaines. (Rev. Heidi met him while working at the ATR as a proofreader in seminary.)

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JUNE 2014 SUNDAY MONDAY TUESDAY WEDNESDAY THURSDAY FRIDAY SATURDAY

1 2 3 4 5 6 Vicar’s Day Off 7 9:00 am Holy Eucharist Sunday Seminar: Ministry of Police Chaplain (Deacon

Chere)

8:00 pm AA 7:00 pm Bible Study

Secretary Vacation

10:30 am AA

8 PENTECOST 9 10 11 12 13 Vicar’s Day Off 14 9:00 am Holy Eucharist Sunday Seminar: Peace & Justice in the Holy Land (Barb

Wolfrum, Newland Smith)

7:00 pm Healing Prayer Mtg

7:00 pm Codependents Anonymous

Secretary Vacation

8:00 pm AA 7:00 pm Bible Study Secretary Vacation

9:00 am Contempla-tive Prayer Group

Secretary Vacation

3:00 pm Ordination of Liz Meade 10:30 am AA

15 TRINITY SUNDAY 16 17 18 19 20 Vicar’s Day Off 21 9:00 am Holy Eucharist

Father’s Day Music Director’s Last Sunday until 8/4/14

6:30 pm BC Meeting

7:00 pm Codependents Anonymous

6:30 pm Discern-ment Mtg

8:00 pm AA

7:00 pm Bible Study

10:30 am AA

22 23 24 25 26 27 Vicar’s Day Off 28 9:00 am Holy Eucharist Jacqueline Soltys Preaching

7:00 pm Healing Prayer Mtg 7:00 pm Codependents Anonymous

8:00 pm AA 7:00 pm Bible Study

9:00 am Men’s Breakfast Honey Jam Café 10:30 am AA

29 30 9:00 am Holy Eucharist Feast of St. Benedict Worship, Cakes & “Bags” Competition

7:00 pm Codependents Anonymous

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JULY 2014 SUNDAY MONDAY TUESDAY WEDNESDAY THURSDAY FRIDAY SATURDAY

1 2 3 4 Vicar’s Day Off 5 8:00 pm AA 7:00 pm

Bible Study

8:00 pm AA OFFICE CLOSED 7:30 pm AA

10:30 am AA

6 7 8 9 10 11 Vicar’s Day Off 12 9:00 am Holy Eucharist

7:00 pm Healing Prayer Mtg 7:00 pm Codependents Anonymous Vicar Vacation

8:00 pm AA

Vicar Vacation

7:00 pm Bible Study Vicar Vacation

9:00 am Contempla-tive Prayer Group

8:00 pm AA

Vicar Vacation

7:30 pm AA

Vicar Vacation

10:30 am AA

Vicar Vacation

13 14 15 16 17 18 Vicar’s Day Off 19 9:00 am Holy Eucharist Rev. Roberto Pamatmat Preaching

Vicar Vacation

6:30 pm BC Meeting

7:00 pm Codependents Anonymous Deacon at Training

6:30 pm Discern-ment Mtg 8:00 pm AA

Deacon at Training

7:00 pm Bible Study

Deacon at Training

8:00 pm AA Deacon at Training

7:30 pm AA

Deacon at Training

10:30 am AA

20 21 22 23 24 25 Vicar’s Day Off 26 9:00 am Holy Eucharist Stephen Erickson Preaching (Rev. Heidi returns)

7:00 pm Healing Prayer Mtg 7:00 pm Codependents Anonymous

8:00 pm AA 7:00 pm Bible Study Abbey Deadline

8:00 pm AA 7:30 pm AA

9:00 am Men’s Breakfast Honey Jam Café 10:30 am AA

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9:00 am Holy Eucharist

7:00 pm Codependents Anonymous

8:00 pm AA 7:00 pm Bible Study

8:00 pm AA

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Choir this Summer Choir rehearsals end on Thursday, June 5, and will resume again on Thursday, August 28, at the usual time of 7:00 p.m.

The Prayer Map

Starting on Pentecost Sunday, we will have a “Prayer Map.” Along the green hallway, there will be a map of the world, with pins and little tabs to identify parts of the world we are praying for. This will help us hold the world in prayer visually, but also help identify just where South Sudan or Ukraine are in the world. Tabs will be color-coded and our secretary will take them down after 6-8 weeks so the map doesn’t get too crowded.

Summer Coffee Hour You are invited to provide simple coffee hour treats for the summertime. Fruit or veggie trays, simple pastries, crackers and hummus, or any finger food are welcome. It’s lovely to have a spread or brunch, but we’re also grateful just for something to nibble on. Thank you!

New Church Office Hours Beginning Monday, June 16, the Church Office will be open on Monday, Wednesday and Friday from 8:30 am to 11:30 am. Should you have any questions, please contact Becky Fleming (info@stbenedict.ws) or Rev. Heidi (revheidi@stbenedict.ws).

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Camp Chicago: Oregon, Illinois Your child will learn more about God in a week at Episcopal summer camp than a year of Sunday School. There’s archery, canoeing, theater, swimming, arts and crafts, tent camping, campfires, music, and more. Children ages 7-15 can enjoy a week at the camp. Scholarships are available. Register at www.episcopalchicago.org under “Camp Chicago” or ask the church office for forms.

Morningstar Mission

Volunteer Opportunities

Tuesday, June 10 - 8:00am-3:00pm Jump on the Bus Registration - Need 15 adult volunteers and 2 Spanish interpreters to help families register for school supplies and clothes. Saturday, July 19 – 9:00 am Walk a Mile in My Shoes – a 3-mile History Walk and fundraising event for all ages. The Walk will begin and end a t Morningstar Mission.

Congrats! New Grandchildren!

On May 24, 2014, Ashley Simpson (daughter of Suzette) and Bobby Wilson welcomed baby Colin Ray. He was born weighing 7lbs, 6ozs. On May 31, 2014, Jen and Mark Simonson (son of Bob and Esther) welcomed baby Nadia Simonson.

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Interview of our Priest and Vicar - Part 2 This interview was conducted by Donnie Williams, Warden

Reverend Heidi Haverkamp has long been a manager that I have admired for her style, compassion and knowledge. The following are excerpts from an interview I conducted with her on March 27, 2014, as part of an assignment for my MBA. What is the single most stressful thing attributed to your position? Never being sure what “success” means, and too often turning to attendance and pledging figures to assess that! If you could train someone to take your place, what knowledge and skills would you make certain that person possessed in order to perform successfully as your successor? I’d want them to know “Family Systems Theory”, how families and groups operate. They would also have to know about anxiety, good and bad. They could also read “Extraordinary Relationships - A New Way of Thinking About Human Interactions” by Roberta Gilbert. In addition, “Anxious Organizations – Why Smart Companies Do Dumb Things” by Jeffery A. Miller and “When Moses Meets Aaron - Staffing and Supervision in Large Congregations” by Susan Beaumont. You must have a clear description of what you are looking for. You must meet with your staff every year and set goals and measure progress. Trust your lay people, trust what they know, trust their leadership. Learn from them and give them great worship on Sundays. If you could design an ideal curriculum or training program to teach you to be a better manager, what would it contain? “Fierce Conversations” by Susan Scott. Using conversation to tell the truth to each other. Where you’re not just having conversations about things that aren’t important and not telling the whole truth. You can be able to hear disagreements and be okay with that. When I think about managing there are a lot of bad examples, but Jesus was a good manager. He let his people take the lead and gave them a good example to follow. What managerial skills do you use to motivate your employees? (Staff, Wardens, Bishops Committee & Finance Chair) Having fun! Spending time in fellowship as we work or meet. Deepening our faith through Bible study and devotions when we meet, and holding that out in front of us as the constant reason we do everything we do. Giving them

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permission to say “no,” to fail, and to ask for help. Saying thank you as much as we possibly can to each other. What is the best way to approach an employee if you see that his/her job effort is decreasing? I meet with my employees regularly, so I could bring this up in the course of one of our usual meetings. I would say something like, “I notice you’ve been kind of out of it on Sunday mornings – is everything ok lately?” In terms of volunteers, I would do the same, although I might make the person nervous by emailing or calling and asking, “Can we talk?” I might have this discussion over the phone, rather than in person, in the right situation. Sometimes people who aren’t doing well avoid me, though, and since they’re church members and not employees, I can’t force them to talk to me! I noticed that the Bible hasn’t come up much during this interview, why is that? Yes, I think it’s because I was looking at being a manager and not just being a Priest. Moses wasn’t a good speaker, so God gave him Aaron. Moses’ father-in-law Jethro told him to delegate. There were many bad leaders in the Bible, David was vain and emotional. Saul was depressed and unrealistic. You have to keep God at the center. A lot of leaders forgot that and fell into idolatry. A common idol for today’s ministers is “growing their church”, the numbers. You can’t let that be the focus of your ministry. In Seminary we were told, “it’s about you, but it’s not about you.” The church is a reflection of you. If you’re healthy and taking care of yourself and delivering a good message, the church will be okay. You have to be okay with everyone not liking you, because that can be an idol too. Think of other effective managers you know. What skills do they demonstrate that explain their success? They love what they do. It really helps to love what you do. They are able to laugh at themselves and not take themselves too seriously.

I think of Priests who take what they have and make it central to their ministries. They are good listeners and they have a good intuition. They really have to love their people to do this kind of work. You have to remember that you can never do everything you want to do. There’s always another call to make, etc.

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Our Bishop Jeffery Lee is an amazing manager because of his humility. He’s a reader, traveler, always learning from books, the people in Western Illinois and Renk Sudan. He’s a great communicator. Spiritual life is really tangible when you’re around him. His personal “Christian Walk” is about the Trinity, God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit. Listening is very important. Listen to the people you manage. Conflict management. You must know when to let things go, when to engage and when to cut things off, especially if that person or thing is harming the organization. My Sabbath day is used to feed my spiritual practices and to do something creative, I write. I use lunchtime to connect with my husband. I take vacations, it helps that my husband goes to the same church with me. Being a couple without children helps and gives me a flexibility that I’m grateful for. I love my job. I feel so lucky. I get paid to be spiritual. It’s hard work but it’s so fulfilling. I get to be present at these personal moments in people’s lives. I get to live my faith every day. It kicks my butt sometimes but it’s really great. And so concludes the interview with Rev. Heidi Haverkamp. Sometimes people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Once I met with Rev. Heidi for some spiritual assistance and she came through for me on a grand scale. So much so that I joined her church and I haven’t regretted that decision once. Rev. Heidi is easily one of the top ten people that I admire and aspire to be like. I know that she is in my life for a lifetime. God is good.

-Don Williams (Thank you Don! – Rev. Heidi)

Welcome Visitors! We welcome all newcomers who worshipped with us in May. Some made themselves known to us:

Ruth Ciancio (mother of Ruth Denofrio, Villa Park, IL Owen Van Winkle (father of Margaret Bauman), Battle Creek, MI

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Special Thanks! to Barb Wolfrum for being coffee host to Tish Sanborn, Margaret Bauman and the Choir for preparing a Housewarming Party for Brian Cromer. to Jill Crisman for planting flowers in the pots at the church entrance to all who helped on Rogation Saturday including: Sarah Allcock, Margaret and Matt Bauman, Marylou Cagadas, Barry Conlin, Jill Crisman and Ian Zarnott, Ruth Denofrio, Sheeba Eapen, Rev. Adam Frieberg, Rev. Heidi Haverkamp, Steve Johnson, Ulric Johnson, Tish Sanborn, Bill and Linda Scheets, Beth Valero, Henry, Sunshine and Esmi Vega, Donna Williams, and Jill, Mark and Chris Wright. The church is brighter and cleaner because of you! to Jacqueline Soltys and Sunshine Vega for subbing in the nursery to Frank Spoto for gathering a group to attend the Morningstar Mission dinner gala to Laura Mitrisin for the Annunciation artwork in the Narthex to Rev. Heidi for a number of cool pieces of art around the church to our Sunday School teachers: Jacqueline Soltys, Sarah Allcock, Ruth Denofrio, and Rev. Adam Frieberg to Laura Mitrisin for the Sunday Seminar on Mary to Jill Crisman for new kitchen utensils to Sophia Henderson for being an acolyte

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Rev. Heidi Haverkamp, Vicar revheidi@stbenedict.ws

Rev. Chere Bates, Deacon deaconchere@stbenedict.ws

Esther Simonson, Warden Don Williams, Warden

Sarah Allcock, Jill Crisman, Ruth Denofrio, Sheeba Eapen,

Tish Sanborn, Mark Wright Bishop’s Committee

Brian Cromer, Music Director music@stbenedict.ws

Becky Fleming, Church Secretary info@stbenedict.ws

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