SHALOM BAYIT BAY AREA JEWISH WOMEN

WORKING TO END DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Winter 2007/08 ~ Kislev 5768

Offered in San Francisco, the East Bay, Marin and the Peninsula, all healing groups are free and open to women who have been

abused in a current or past relationship. For details, call Bay Area

Toll-Free Helpline 1-866-SHALOM-7

West Bay groups made possible by the Jewish Community Endowment Newhouse Fund, by Mount Zion Health Fund, and by the Jewish Community Federation of San Francisco, Peninsula, Marin and Sonoma counties. East Bay support group made possible by the Civic Foundation.

Thank you!

SHALOM BAYIT CELEBRATES 15TH ANNIVERSARY

In This Issue

This fall Shalom Bayit marked our 15th anniversary with a phenomenal celebration, Body & Soul: Sustaining Ourselves and Each Other— a healing spa and gala reception honoring our 15 years of service to the Jewish community. Over the past 15 years Shalom Bayit’s programs and community of supporters have only grown stronger, and this was clear as we gathered to mark the occasion on October 7th at the Jewish Community Center in San Francisco.

Spa guests enjoyed relaxing massages, a nail spa, a healing circle led by our own Aliza Rothman, and informative lectures on Jewish healing. Dr. Neil Risch, director of the Institute for Human Genetics at UCSF, presented his fascinating work on Jewish genetic diseases, the intersection of genetics and environment, and how we can increase community awareness to prevent the proliferation of genetic diseases affecting the Jewish community. Rabbi William Cutter, founding director of the Kalsman Institute on Judaism and Health in Los Angeles, spoke about his book Healing & the Jewish Imagination. He discussed how the Jewish community’s historical fear of stigma prevents our addressing difficult health and mental health issues, including domestic violence.

From all these speakers we learned a great deal about communal efforts to heal the body and soul.

The healing spa theme of the event was a reminder that in order to truly sustain each other, we must also nourish and sustain ourselves.

At the gala reception and auction following the healing spa, KRON 4 TV presenter Henry Tenenbaum (of Henry’s Garden fame) energized the crowd as Master of Ceremonies. Opening remarks by host committee co-chairs Roselyne

and Marjorie Swig reminded us that abuse can affect any one of us, any time. As a mother-daughter team, the Swig family is a shining example of passing on our commitment to violence prevention from one generation to the next—and how one family can make a tremendous difference. This year’s honorees included

founding seed funders Richard & Rhoda Goldman Fund and the

Walter & Elise Haas Fund, along with Shalom

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Support Groups

Newsletter Editor Zephira Derblich-Milea

Fifteen Years of Opening Doors

Shalom Bayit Staff

Executive Director Naomi Tucker

Youth Program Coordinator Zephira Derblich-Milea

Direct Services Coordinator

Aliza Rothman

Regional Counselors Mika Gustavson Talia Korenbrot Marjorie Swig

Jewish Programs Specialist

Rebecca Schwartz

Love Shouldn’t Hurt Interns Laiah Idelson Arrin Kaplan

It’s a Family Affair: Host Committee chairs Roselyne & Marjorie Swig welcome guests

GGIVEIVE THETHE GIFTGIFT OFOF HOPE HOPE THISTHIS SEASONSEASON

During this holiday season you can bring hope to families experiencing abuse in the home—and make a true difference in their future. As Jews respond to the season of darkness with our beautiful traditions to spread light throughout our homes and community, we hope you will join us to help families in need.

Your tax-deductible gift today is a beacon of hope for our families, giving them the promise of safety and healing.

If you have already contributed during the year to support our programs, we thank you—and hope you will think of us again during this holiday time for a special year-end gift. Please use the enclosed envelope today to send a Chanukah miracle to the women and children of Shalom Bayit. Or consider a monthly pledge of $18 or more to spread light throughout the year (it’s easy—just check the monthly pledge box). Your gift now will bring hope and healing to battered women and their children for a long time to come. Thank you!

Shalom Bayit Celebrates 15 years…………... p. 1 2007 Contributors……………………………… p. 3 Support Group Launches in Marin…………... p. 5 Welcome to the Federation Family…………... p. 5 New Peninsula Office Opens………………… p. 5 Shalom Bayit receives Interfaith Award …… p. 5 Love Shouldn’t Hurt spans the globe……….. p. 6 Chanukah Adopt-a-Family………………….… p. 6 Who is The Tides Center?………………….… p. 6

Bayit’s co-founder, Sherry Brown-Ryther.

All of us were propelled into action by the moving stories told by those affected by abuse, from a rabbi’s journey of leaving her abusive marriage to a father parenting his teenage daughter through a dating violence crisis. Their voices were a compelling reminder of how Shalom Bayit is a healing force for families remaking their lives in the aftermath of abuse.

Body & Soul was a joyful, fun-filled event that also reflected the profound impact of Shalom Bayit’s work. Our tremendous thanks to 250 supporters, attendees, sponsors, speakers and volunteers who made Body & Soul a success. Collectively you helped us raise over $50,000 which will provide healing of body and soul to more than 60 victims of domestic abuse in the coming year, and ensure that young people will gain skills for leading healthy relationships.

Over the past fifteen years, our efforts have opened many of the doors once closed to Jewish battered women. Where once the words “domestic violence” could scarcely be uttered publicly in a Jewish setting, today we are proud to have created many changes that pave the way for survivors of abuse to find hope and healing within our community.

Our 15th year has been truly extraordinary—full of milestones and blessings. In one short year we marked the national publication of our teen curriculum; joined the San Francisco Federation family; launched a new support group in Marin, and expanded to open a Peninsula satellite office. With active programs in five counties, Shalom Bayit is growing in leaps and bounds. It is thanks to you, our community of supporters, that we can open so many doors for battered women & their children.

As a woman steps through our doorway, she moves from victim to survivor; from despair to hope; from endangered to empowered. It is the opening of the door, the welcome, the promise of safe haven that transforms lives. As we look towards the next 15 years, all of us at Shalom Bayit THANK YOU for opening doors toward hope, health, and healing for all.

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15th Anniversary, cont’d from cover Thanks for an extraordinary celebration!

Clockwise from top left: Susan Moldaw, Ingrid Tauber, & Bethany Hornthal; Event Chair Kate VanZanten & Auction Chair Carol Platner; Host Committee Chairs Marjorie & Roselyne Swig with Executive Director Naomi Tucker (center), Harriet Tucker at Booksigning with Rabbi William Cutter; Ph.D.; Rabbis Edward Zarin & Eric Weiss; Honoree and Shalom Bayit Co-Founder Sherry Brown-Ryther.

Three Cheers for our Volunteers We couldn’t do this work without your support!

(List includes event volunteers as well as our regular crew)

Jennifer Abbe ■ Kacie Borquez ■ Alexa D’Amato ■ Ravit Dagani ■ Lea Delson ■ Marilyn Dornhelm ■ John Ebel-Davies ■ Ruth Epstein ■ Chloe Farb ■

Sandra Fodrey ■ Lynn Gardner ■ Janette Gomes, CMT ■ Rivka Greenberg ■ Ama Dawn Greenrose, CMT ■ Amy Gup, CMT ■ Lisa Harbus ■ Laura Harder ■

Gary Jaffe, CMT ■ Amy (Uma) Kahn ■ Ron & Stacy Kahn ■ Channah Katz ■ Randi Kofski, CMT ■ Rachel Krug ■ Simon Levi ■ Stacy Mathias, CMT ■

Aaron Matzkin ■ Pablo McCord, CMT ■ Marcia Meister ■ Ethel Murphy ■ Alex Padilla ■ Linda Peacock ■ Ashley Platner ■ Nicki Platner ■

Brittany Rhodes, CMT ■ Chantal Saperstein ■ Ellen Schneider ■ Juliet Selk ■ Merry Selk ■ Danielle & Marat Shub ■ Carol Stone ■ Jennifer Tait, CMT ■

Andi Toll ■ Isaac Wilcox ■ Chris Williams ■ Shana Winokur ■ John Woodridge ■ Laurie Wright ■ Mindy Zimmerman ■ Shira Zucker ■

Body & Soul Planning Committee: Kate VanZanten & Linda Kalinowski, Event Chairs Carol Platner, Auction Chair Ellen Benjamin Michelle Booth Celia Harms Stacy Kahn Laura Katz Linda Kurtz Susan Moldaw Rebecca Schwartz

Event Coordinator: Laurie Williams Honorary Host Committee: Roselyne & Marjorie Swig, Co-Chairs Hope Alper

Ann & Irwin Bear Dr. Natalie Berg Diane & Ed Bernbaum US Senator Barbara Boxer Rabbi Steven Chester Myrna DeFreise

Sue Diamond & Marty Schenker Cheryl Feiner Rabbi Stacy Friedman Denise & Ben Gage Linda Gerard & Danny Grossman

Drs. Rivka Greenberg & Ken Stanton SF District Attorney Kamala Harris Minouche Kandel & Rick Sheinfield Barbara & Ron Kaufman

Supervisor Alice Lai-Bitker US Representative Tom Lantos Sandra Lipkowitz Marcia Meister Councilmember Nancy Nadel Abby Porth

Jan Reicher & Yossi Alouf Toby & Robert Rubin Dana & Aaron Sheanin Esta Soler Anne Steirman Jamie & Evan Traeger-Muney

Beverly Upton Rabbi Eric Weiss

Photos: Jennifer Abbe

Thank you! Donations and Support Received January - November 2007

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Grants of $20,000 and greater

The Hadassah Foundation Richard & Rhoda Goldman Fund

Grants of $5,000+ Jewish Community Endowment

Newhouse Fund Jewish Community Federation of

SF, the Peninsula, Marin & Sonoma Counties

Jewish Community Foundation and Federation of the Greater East Bay

Mount Zion Health Fund

Grants of $1,000+ Aaron & Marie Blackman Foundation Civic Foundation Jay & Rose Phillips Family Foundation

Miriam the Prophet: $2,500 +

Ruth Adar Sherry Brown-Ryther & David Ryther Linda & Tom Kalinowski Susan Moldaw Carol & Tom Platner Marjorie Swig Holly & Jeffrey Ullman

Bonot Chalom/Dream Builders: $1,008

Hope Alper Natalie Berg / Forest City Development Rabbis Steven Chester, Jacqueline

Mates-Muchin, & Andrea Berlin / Temple Sinai

Financial Advantage Sandra Fodrey Chandra & Leonard Gordon Rabbis Roberto Graetz & Judy

Shanks / Temple Isaiah Celia & Terry Harms Jewish Women International Ellyn Kaschak, PhD Laura Katz & Larry Farb John & Terry Levin Barbara & Mort Levinson, in honor

of Mr. & Mrs. Bob Weil, Bert Solomon, Gert Saunders, Jon Levinson, Gladys & Larry Marks, Jack & Elisa Klein, Sarah & Kate VanZanten, and in memory of Richard Kavich

Marcia Meister Rabbi Stephen Pearce /

Congregation Emanu-El Lisa & John Pritzker Roselyne C. Swig

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2007 Foundation Grants

Individual & Corporate Gifts

Ingrid Tauber, in honor of Sue Moldaw The Wireless Foundation

Shomeret/Guardian: $540

Anne Bakar / Telecare Corporation Ellen & Jon Benjamin Michael Bien & Jane Kahn Anlee Brickman Judy Caplan / Windrix Transcription Eva Chernov Lokey Congregation Etz Chayim Pamela Rose & Steven Dinkelspiel Rabbi Stacy Friedman /

Congregation Rodef Sholom Bethany & Jim Hornthal Pam Kramer Linda Kurtz Shirley Meister Harriet Prensky & William Pomeranz The Ruben Law Firm Meg Schultz Bob Stallings Hadara Stanton & Jerry Hersh Harriet Tucker Kate & Mark VanZanten Women of Temple Sinai

Chachamah/Wise One: $360

Leslie Behar Riva Berelson Cheryl Feiner Carol Goldberg Ron & Stacy Kahn Minouche Kandel & Rick Sheinfield Rabbi Janet Marder / Cong.Beth Am

Gomelet Chesed/Benefactor: $180

Irene Abrams-Shatzki Afikomen Judaica Robin Bacci / RAB Motors Wendy Bear Ann & Irwin Bear Anne & Michael Becker Eve Bernstein & Alex Gersznowicz Judy & Jordan Bloom Camp Tawonga Linda Cantrell Congregation Kol Shofar Mr. & Mrs. Donald DeFriese Susan Diamond & Martin Schenker Laurie Earp, in honor of Erin R.

Earp & Dylan G.R. Earp Lisa Elgazzar, in memory of Juan

Jose Tocino Lenero Anne Feld, in honor of Celia Harms Shelley Forrest Buffy Francisco Frances D. Green Rivka Greenberg Van & Jeri Hart Hannah Hochstaedter, in honor of

Naomi Tucker Jewish Community Relations Council Channah Katz

Martina & Michael Knee Arlene Kock Kol Shofar Thursday Morning Minyan Juan & Carol Korenbrot Eva-Lynne Leibman Susan Leipsic & Bill Storch, in

honor of Marjorie Swig Rick Liebman, in honor of Marjorie

Swig Sandra Lipkowitz Alex Madonik & Eve Sweetser, in

memory of Eleanor Madonik Ellen Marks, in memory of Shirley

Kroichick Midrasha of Berkeley Alexis Milea & Jerry Derblich Ann Myers National Council of Jewish Women,

Contra Costa Section Rabbi Drorah O'Donnel Setel Karen & Brian Perlman Ellen Peterson Linda Rae Paul Rhoda Goldman Plaza Kathryn Rudman San Francisco Interfaith Council Miriam Schaffer Michelle Joy Schwartz Marci Sherman Lydia & Doug Shorenstein Harmon M. Shragge, Jr. Rabbi Avi Shulman / Temple Beth

Torah Anne & David Steirman Ron & Susan Stoltz Temple Emanu-El Rabbi Eric Weiss / Bay Area Jewish

Healing Center Carol & Terry Winograd Linda & Kory Zipperstein

Madricha/Advocate: $108 Rabbi Camille Angel / Congregation

Sha'ar Zahav Anonymous Mr. and Mrs. Robert Arenson Bill Bandas Evelyn Benas Leslie Berger Debbie Black Blue Shield of California Carol Cantwell & Rachel Lanzerotti, in

honor of Beth Freedman & Bonnie Feinberg

Linda Cox Myers Kay Daniels Zephira Derblich-Milea Linda Frank Michael Freeman, in honor of

Marjorie Swig Brenda Gates-Monasch & Walter

Monasch General Lighting Corporation Linda Gerard & Danny Grossman

Rabbi Rosalind Glazer / Congregation Beth Israel-Judea, in honor of Doron Lev

Dr. Erica Goode Rabbi Marvin Goodman & Deborah

Kelman Marsha Guggenheim Daniel Guterman Susan Hamlin Elvia & Jerry Harris, in memory of

Rosa Harris Marilyn Higuera Lisa Hillman Victor & Lorraine Honig Margalit Ir Yeva Johnson & Michael Potter Ann Kelly Wendy & Howard Kleckner Jill Kneeter & Rabbi Edward Zerin Rachel Krug Michelle Kuppich La Casa de Las Madres Barbara Leff Jo Anne & Hank Lerner Robyn Lieberman & Asher Kotz Kate Lorig Linda & Steve Mayne Vivian & Steve McClure Elaine Moise Abby & Jason Porth Progressive Jewish Alliance The Riley Center Toby & Robert Rubin Chantal Saperstein Jewish Federation of the Greater

East Bay Dana & Aaron Sheanin Joan Sopher Jamie & Evan Traeger-Muney Walter & Elise Haas Fund Miriam Weil Elisha Ziskind

Ozeret/Supporter: $72

Albertsons Deborah Bloch Michelle Booth Robyn Carmel Dorothy Chafets, in honor of

Barbara Levinson Rabbi Steven & Leona Chester Cong. Beth Emek Kindergarten Class Dayenu Judaica Marc Dollinger, Ph.D. John Ebel-Davies Ann & Stan Forman, in honor of

Hymie Mayer Marianne & Herb Friedman Denise & Ben Gage Ms. Jerilyn Gelt Danny Greene Bruce Gribens

Elayne Grossbard Ellen Gumbiner Andrea Jacoby, in memory of Martin

& Yvonne Jacoby Caroline Kahn Werboff Jonathan Kaplan Diana Kennedy, in honor of Mark

Goldstein & Judy Reynolds & in honor of Josh Miller & Rachel Gold

Dawn Kepler & Mark Snyder Steve & Ellen Manganiello Aaron Matzkin, in honor of Zephira

Derblich-Milea Jan Cook Reicher & Joseph Alouf Joyce Leslie Schriebman Judy & David Schwartz Victoria Treyger

Chaverah/Friend

Ackerman's Servicing Volvos Nicole Altamirano Andrew Altman-Ohr & Stacey

Roberts-Ohr Cynthia & Paul Anderson Anonymous Saul Arnold Rose Barlow Renee Bauer & Laurie Zimmerman,

in honor of Rosyland Bauer Rosyland & Dr. Robert Bauer, in

honor of Shaina Goper Alicia & Michael Baumstein Marsha Lee & Norman Berkman Rabbi Andrea Berlin Jane & Bob Bessin, in memory of

Tina Kessler Paula Birnbaum & Neil Solomon Claudio Bluer Rabbi David Booth / Cong. Kol Emeth Kacie Borquez Art & Sheila Braufman, in honor of

Zephira Derblich-Milea Randi Brenowitz Phyllis Brown, in honor of Sherry

Brown-Ryther Jenny Byers Julia Caplan Barbara Casaretto Susan Cohen Congregation B'nai Shalom Congregation Emeth Copier Services Solutions Donita Decker, in honor of Pam Kramer Paulette Dolin Betsy & David Eckstein, in honor of

Linda Kalinowski Shoshana Ellenberg Jill & Marc Engel, in honor of Bess Mintz Drs. Charles & Lois Epstein Tammy Ferman Rabbi Michelle Fisher Dianne Fohrman Rabbi Dan Goldblatt Mrs. Juliette Goldman, in memory of

Maurice Minkin George Goodman

Myra Green Cherie & Frederick Half Bethany & Jim Hornthal Elizheva Hurvich, in honor of Aliza

Rothman Labowitz Wendy Hussey Joel & Helen Isaacson Lior Jacober Helen & Irving Jarkovsky, in honor

of Janie Gumpert Irving & Janice Katz Paula Keane Rachel & Michael Kesselman Ken Kirsch Susan Kitchell, in memory of

Walter Kitchell Joan Korin & Ronn Berrol Danny & Ninaya Laub, in honor of

Joel & Susan Stern David Lee & Barbara Petterson Deb Levine & Richard Foxall Henry & Eva Linker Sheila Lippman Desmid Bendix Lyon Sharon Marks Ed Mendelssohn Hilda Namm David & Ellen Newman Linda & Christian Peacock Robin Press & Michael Herzog Judith & Harry Radousky, in honor

of Debbie Mufelder Ellen Raff Peskin & Ben Heschen Sherri Richards Sarah Richmond, in honor of Dina Lane Barry Robbins Julie Robbins Moe Rubinstein, in honor of Ida Gelbart Mr. & Mrs. Burton B. Ruby, in

honor of Shira Saliman Linda Salmon Norma Satten Lynne Schaer Rabbi Aaron Schonbrun /

Congregation Beth David Rabbi Judy Shanks & James Gracer Phoebe Silver Leslie Simon Anita L. Stapen Joan Steber Carol Stone Abigail Adams Stricker Diane Swanson Christine Taich Marilyn Taubman Andrea Toll Holly Trief Naomi Tucker Beverly & Jerry Turchin Alice Webber & Stephen Tobias Jessica Weddle Abigail Weissman, in honor of

Congregation Sha’ar Zahav Women’s Chavurah

Val Westen

Janelle White Laurie & Chris Williams Rabbi Bridget Wynne Gary & Linda Zellerbach Reuben Zellman, in memory of

Margaret Zellman Kukreja Alanna Zrimsek, in honor of Cissie

Swig & Ann Bear

Afikomen Judaica Aimee Golant Judaica Alternative Telecom & Networks Avi-ously Delicious, Fine Catering Ann Bear Chloe Benjamin Berkeley Bowl Berkeley Jewish Women's Quilting

Group Blankets of Kindness Committee of

Peninsula Temple Sholom Arlynn Bloom Bob & Bob Bookshop West Portal Bureau of Jewish Education Café NS California Roof Management Center for Professional Development The Club at the Claremont Resort Cole Hardware Congregation Beth Israel-Judea Congregation Emanu-El Continental Caterers Cornerstone Properties CRM Construction Cyn at Regis Salon Daniela Designs Dayenu Judaica Dewskin Studios Sarah Dorrance Eileen Downey Embassy Suites Anaheim North Full Court Press Garibaldi’s Toni Garrett Brenda Gates-Monasch Garibaldi’s Gathering Glass Studio Gleim Jewelers Glow Spa Glowimages Grand Bakery Rivka Greenberg Amy J. Gup Haig’s Delicacies Karen Hecht Connie Ho, MD Infineon Raceway Julie Iny & Lewis Woods J. Lohr Vineyards & Wines JCCSF Spa Jewish Vocational Service Sharice Johnson Kaiser Permanente

Linda & Tom Kalinowski Gabriel Kardener Ellyn Kaschak Paula Keane Dawn Kepler & Mark Snyder Jill Kneeter Knitzvah Barbara Lande Design Laser Quest Eva-Lynne Leibman Barbara Levinson Liz Claiborne Mariah Sterling Silver Jewelry La Méditerranée Milk & Honey Catering Miriam's Well Nail Pretty Bobbi Naaler Hiroko Nogami-Rosen Peaberry’s Coffee Paramount's Great America Peninsula Beauty Supply Peninsula Temple Sholom Pharmaca Integrative Pharmacy Piazza’s Fine Foods Pinkies Nail Salon Carol & Tom Platner Punchline San Francisco Larry Rosenberg Photography Rosicrucian Egyptian Museum San Francisco Giants San Jose Giants San Jose Museum of Quilts & Textiles San Jose Sharks Schizandra Health Center Semifreddi's Sharon & Orr Shakked Six Flags Magic Mountain Sky High Sports Rabbi Shula Stevens Tree Stuber Sugar Bowl Sweet Things Taste By Two TheatreWorks Towns End Naomi Tucker Veritable Vegetable Tiffany Watson Laurie & Chris Williams Heidi Winig Gina Yoli David Zebker

Donors, cont’d from p.3

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In-Kind Contributions

Thanks to the many individuals, businesses and organizations who make our programs a success. Any

omissions are unintentional.

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San Francisco Interfaith Council Honors Shalom Bayit

At the 10th Annual Mayor’s Interfaith Thanksgiving Prayer Breakfast, Shalom Bayit received the 2007 Models of Hope Award honoring our work to end violence in San Francisco. The award, presented by the SF Interfaith Council, recognized community initiatives that are models of inspiration and hope in their quest to end violence of all kinds. “Among the many impressive efforts of Shalom Bayit,” writes Interfaith Council organizer Abby Michelson Porth of the Jewish Community Relations Council, “is its utilization of Jewish healing rituals to help survivors of abuse transform their lives within a spiritual framework, and also its coordination of more than 40 rabbis on their Rabbinic Advisory Council.” Adds Rabbi Eric Weiss,

Executive Director of the Bay Area Jewish Healing Center, “Shalom Bayit’s work changes the quality of life for our citizens one family at a time, every day of the year. Shalom Bayit is an unsung hero in our communi ty .” For more information on our Bay Area and statewide interfaith clergy training initiatives, call (510) 451-8874.

New Peninsula Office Opens

After six years of successful operations based out of our Oakland office (and nine years prior to that with no office at all), Shalom Bayit is pleased to announce the opening of a Peninsula-based

satellite office for client services. Thanks to generous donors on the Peninsula, and with additional support from the Jewish Community Endowment Fund, our long time dream of locating services on the Peninsula has become a reality.

While maintaining our main office in Oakland and our satellite services in “borrowed spaces” in San Francisco, Marin, and San Jose, the Peninsula office will provide a stable and confidential location for women on the Peninsula to access Shalom Bayit’s services. Our new Peninsula home will be available for client counseling sessions, community meetings and support groups. The office will help reduce the complex arrangements we make each time our counselor meets with a woman in need of our services, traveling to meet each individual woman for support. We are grateful to many Jewish Community Centers, synagogues and other agencies throughout the Bay Area who provide occasional free meeting space for this purpose, but it is not ideal for providing confidential counseling to victims of abuse. In order to reduce barriers to accessing our services, it was important for us to secure a private location where we can meet with women in need of confidential counseling. The office will also strengthen our Peninsula presence, bringing our programs directly to areas of need.

The office will provide a regular, accessible local meeting location for clients and constituents, and greatly increase our accessibility to battered women on the Peninsula in need of our services. To reach our Peninsula office, call (650) 574-SAFE.

Warm thanks to Steve Kaufman, Holly & Jeff Ullman, Rabbi Marv Goodman, Alternative Telecom & Networks,

The Jewish Community Endowment Fund, and our many Peninsula donors who made this dream possible!

Shalom Bayit Becomes San Francisco Jewish Community

Federation Beneficiary

The Jewish Community Federation of San Francisco, the Peninsula, Marin & Sonoma Counties has accepted Shalom Bayit as a new beneficiary agency. Shalom Bayit now joins the network of Federation-affiliated agencies that work together to build a strong Jewish community. As we mark and celebrate Shalom Bayit’s 15th anniversary of providing Jewish-focused domestic violence services, we can’t think of a better way to mark this milestone than by the receiving of this great honor. Joining the Federation family will bring important visibility and long-term sustainability to our efforts. We thank the JCF Board, Caring Commission, and professional leadership for your support and recognition of domestic violence as a critical issue facing our community today.

(L to R) Board member Ellen Benjamin, 15th Anniversary co-chair Linda Kalinowski, Youth Program Coordinator Zephira Derblich-Milea

AROUND THE BAY. . .Announcements & Regional Programs

After extensive outreach efforts over the past six months, Shalom Bayit launched our new Marin Support Group, facilitated by Aliza Rothman and Marjorie Swig. With six women participating from throughout the North Bay region, the group is providing critical crisis intervention, spiritual support, and domestic violence education for women who have been in abusive relationships. The group will run through February. Whether the abuse is past or present, the spiritual healing group provides a place for women to break the isolation they experienced as victims of abuse, and create community with others who share similar experiences. Together the group participants find healing and forge a path towards a life free from violence.

The group is provided in collaboration with the Bay Area Jewish Healing Center and is made possible by a grant from the Jewish Community Endowment Newhouse Fund, together with contributions from our many generous donors in Marin. Co-sponsors include Congregation Rodef Sholom, Congregation Kol Shofar, Family & Children’s Law Center, Marin Abused Women’s Services, and the Osher Marin JCC.

Marin Support Group Underway

Shalom Bayit P.O. Box 10102

Oakland, CA 94610 www.shalom-bayit.org

www.love-shouldnt-hurt.org Phone: 510-451-8874

Helpline: 510-451-SAFE or 650-574-SAFE

Bay Area toll-free helpline: 866-SHALOM-7

Rabbinic Advisory Council Steven Chester & Stacy Friedman Co-Chairs

Leslie Alexander Camille Angel Melanie Aron Pam Frydman Baugh Allen Bennett Mark Bloom David Booth Karen Citron Micah Citrin David Cooper Lavey Derby Kim Ettlinger Nat Ezray Dan Feder Yitzchok Feldman Rosalind Glazer Dan Goldblatt Marv Goodman Sarah Graff Roberto Graetz Margie Jacobs Burt Jacobson Stuart Kelman Noa Kushner Chai Levy Sheldon Lewis Jane Litman Janet Marder Jackie Mates-Muchin Sydney Mintz Laura Novak-Winer Elisheva Salamo Julie Saxe-Taller Miriam Senturia Judy Shanks Shula Stevens Mimi Weisel Eric Weiss Bridget Wynne

Advisory Board Ellen Benjamin Michelle Booth Celia Harms Ellyn Kaschak, PhD Laura Katz Kate VanZanten

Honorary Members: Deborah Edelman, DrPh Minouche Kandel, JD Pam Kramer Roselyne C. Swig

Inkind and financial contributions are fully tax deductible. Please send your gift to “Tides Center / Shalom Bayit”

at PO Box 10102, Oakland 94610 or donate securely online at www.shalom-bayit.org Page 6

Don’t forget to bring us those old cell phones!

You will be helping to provide 911 emergency phones for

battered women, and raising funds for Shalom Bayit too!

Adopt-a-Family

Thanks to YOUR wonderful generosity over a dozen Shalom Bayit families this year celebrated a great Chanukah miracle as our staff delivered toys, gifts, clothing, food and other surprises to fulfill their

holiday wish lists. Thank you to our Adopt-A-Family sponsors: Berkeley Midrasha, Carol Platner, Claremont Hotel & Resorts, Lori Fineman / Women’s

American ORT, National Council of Jewish Women—Contra Costa Section, Susan Rancer and friends, Sandra Lipkowitz & the SF Mah Jong girls.

You bring light to those coming out of darkness, and warm the hearts of our children as we give them a Chanukah like no other.

What is The Tides Center, anyway? Many of you may wonder about the nature of Shalom Bayit’s relationship with the Tides Center, or why their name appears on your statement when you make a donation to us. Based in San Francisco, the Tides Center is an organization dedicated to providing fiscal sponsorship to small social justice organizations. For a small income-based fee, Tides provides our nonprofit tax status and many administrative services such as accounting, payroll, HR, health insurance, liability coverage, and more.

A team of specialists processes our grants and donations, ensures compliance with all laws governing nonprofits, maintains due diligence in regards to our finances (including an annual audit), and provides experts in many areas of nonprofit management. These invaluable services enable small agencies like ours to focus on the programmatic work we do best, while maintaining the highest fiscal accountability. As our nonprofit status is through Tides, Shalom Bayit is legally a “project of the Tides Center,” and our staff are Tides employees. Though there are over 300 Tides projects, Shalom Bayit maintains a unique mission and advisory board. Here, Shalom Bayit staff is pictured with some of our Tides team at a recent project meeting and luncheon. Thanks, Tides for all you do for us!

W ish List

New computers Phone Cards

Gift cards to Safeway, Albertson’s, or Trader Joe’s

The Youth Program at Shalom Bayit

Love Shouldn’t Hurt reaches adolescent and young adult Jews (ages 11-21) in the greater Bay Area with abuse prevention and healthy relationships education. Since 2002, over 2,400 youth have participated in our workshops.

This year we reached 450 youth and youth educators, and led more parent education workshops than before, reaching over 60 parents of teens. Workshops offer strategies for abuse prevention and healthy relationship development among teens. Parents learn how to talk to teens about relationships, identify warning signs of abuse, and help those who may be in an abusive relationship.

In March we debuted our long awaited national curriculum on Jewish teen dating violence prevention. Love Shouldn’t Hurt is now being used all over the world, including Australia, Canada,

England, Israel, New Zealand, and in Jewish communities across the US. Our successful Bay Area program will now be helping Jewish youth around the globe to prevent dating violence before it starts.

Love Shouldn’t Hurt

Many thanks to The Hadassah Foundation, Blue Shield of California Foundation, the Jewish Community Foundation & Federation of the Greater East Bay, the Richard & Rhoda Goldman Fund, and Verizon Wireless for providing vital support to bring Love Shouldn’t Hurt to Jewish Communities everywhere.

Front row: Zephira Derblich-Milea, Sonya Watson, Naomi Tucker, Liming Tjandrajati. Back: Aliza Rothman, Alex Vazquez, Allen Abiva, Ivana Tjokro, Irene Lei