Relationship Relationship andand

Goal Setting CurriculumGoal Setting Curriculum

Today’s Topic –

Ground Rules, Goal Setting, and Love

IntroductionIntroduction

This program is designed to focus on the This program is designed to focus on the connection between healthy choices and connection between healthy choices and the success of these choices as it pertains the success of these choices as it pertains to dating and relationship progression.to dating and relationship progression.

The focus remains on goal setting, so you The focus remains on goal setting, so you can build positive relationships in dating.can build positive relationships in dating.

All conversations must remain in context All conversations must remain in context with the discussion and refrain from any with the discussion and refrain from any inappropriate comments or gestures inappropriate comments or gestures please.please.

Ground RulesGround Rules• No namesNo names

• Don’t reveal personal information you Don’t reveal personal information you haven’t cleared first.haven’t cleared first.

• Raise your hand if instructedRaise your hand if instructed

• One person talking at a time – no side One person talking at a time – no side conversationsconversations

• Keep giggling to a minimum – uncomfortableKeep giggling to a minimum – uncomfortable

• No inappropriate use of slang terms or No inappropriate use of slang terms or sexually related languagesexually related language

Goal Setting• What is a goal?What is a goal?

• What do we need to do What do we need to do to be successful in to be successful in reaching our goals?reaching our goals?

• Why do so many people Why do so many people fail in achieving their fail in achieving their goals? goals?

• Should we protect our Should we protect our goals from sabotage?goals from sabotage?

• Ex: New Years Eve Ex: New Years Eve GoalsGoals

5 Year Goals5 Year Goals 10 Year 10 Year GoalsGoals•Drivers License

•Get a car

•Graduate High School

•Get into College

•Get a job

•Have a boyfriend/girlfriend

•Buy a new car

•Travel/Vacations

•Graduate College

•Career $$$$

•Significant Relationship

•Get Married

•Start a Family

Know What you Want Know What you Want Before…Before…

• 1. Know what you want in a relationship1. Know what you want in a relationship

• 2. Know why you want these things and 2. Know why you want these things and the consequences that may follow themthe consequences that may follow them

• 3. Know them before you begin a 3. Know them before you begin a relationshiprelationship

• 4. Know how to tell your partner these 4. Know how to tell your partner these things at the start of the relationshipthings at the start of the relationship

Copyright 2003 K. Weiss

Love – Where do we get Love – Where do we get it?it?

• Mom and DadMom and Dad

• GrandparentsGrandparents

• FriendshipsFriendships

• Adult relationshipsAdult relationships

What happens if you don’t feel loved What happens if you don’t feel loved and how do you see kids today and how do you see kids today seeking love?seeking love?

Sexual ExpressionSexual ExpressionSex was designed to feel good, however if you Sex was designed to feel good, however if you

are not mature or ready for the sexual are not mature or ready for the sexual advancements, then it can create a advancements, then it can create a whirlwind of emotions that are unpleasant.whirlwind of emotions that are unpleasant.

How does our media play a role with Sexual How does our media play a role with Sexual Expression???? Expression????

Name calling in High School-Name calling in High School-

Why do you think so many people are Why do you think so many people are labeled in High School by their behaviors? labeled in High School by their behaviors? Why don’t adults act in this same manner?Why don’t adults act in this same manner?