Principle-Centered Relationship Key to Successful Work and Personal Life

Principle-Centered Relationship: Key to Successful Work and Personal Life

Principle-Centered RelationshipKey to Successful Work and Personal Life

Mohammad Radzi Zainal


• Being proactive is more than taking initiative. It is recognizing that we are responsible (response-ability) for our own choices and have the freedom to choose based on PRINCIPLES and values rather than on moods or conditions. Proactive people are agents of change and choose not to be victims, to be reactive, or to blame others"

-- Stephen R.Covey


Relationship Problems in Work and Personal Life

• Some people justify heavy-handed means in the name of virtuous ends. They say “business is business” and that “ethics” and “principles” sometimes have to take a backseat to profit……these same people see no correlation between the quality of their personal lives at home and the quality of their products and services at work…


…Because of the social and political environments inside their organisations and the fragmented markets outside, they think they can abuse relationships at will and still get results.

- Principle Centered Leadership


•“Weekend” Mentality

–writing a corporate mission statement over a weekend instead of to involve all the people and take six months to write a corporate mission statement

–trying to change company company culture on a weekend

–trying to rebuild marriage over a weekend

–trying to rebuild an alienated relationship with the kids on a weekend


• Some parents don’t pay the price with their kids, thinking they can fake it for public image and then shout and yell and slam the door. They are then shocked to see that their teenage kids experiment with drugs, alcohol, and sex to fill the void in their lives.


Scary Stories

• ENRON

• WORLDCOM

• Parmalat

…. Any more and how many more?


Charged with giving false info

KUALA LUMPUR, Aug 13:

A financial controller and a partner of an audit firm were charged in the Sessions Court today with four counts of providing false information to the Securities Commission.

They were alleged to have done so in a questionnaire pertaining to the use of about RM16.9 million in proceeds from a rights issue.

Tan Kam Sang, 37, of the now delisted Kiara Emas Asia Industries Bhd, and T. Ravandaran, 52, of Messrs Arthur Andersen & Co, claimed trial to the charges.

Tan was the accountant and Ravandaran an auditor of Kiara Emas Asia, which was delisted from the then Kuala Lumpur Stock Exchange (Bursa Malaysia) on Nov 19, last year.

NST August 14, 2004


Where Did It Probably Start?

• Problems stem from poor relationships at the very top – between partners in a firm, between owners and the president of a company, between the president and the executive vice-president and between the spouses


How are you doing?

* How am I doing as a leader? The answer is how are the people you lead doing. Do they learn? Do they visit customers? Do they manage conflict? Do they initiate change? Are they growing and getting promoted? You won’t remember when you retire what you did first quarter 1994, or the third….


….What you’ll remember is how many people you developed. How many people you helped have a better career because of your interest and your dedication to their development….. When confused as to how you’re doing as a leader, find out how the people you lead are doing. You’ll know the answer.

- Larry Bossidy, Former CEO of Honeywell

*Noel M. Tichy – The Leadership Engine


Principle-Centered RelationshipRelationship – synonym- association, affiliation, connection, rapport, bond, liaison, link etc

The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People defined Relationships to be:– Social – our relationships with others i.e. peers,

co-workers, clients, vendors, family, friends etc– Emotional – our relationship with ourselves


Principle-Centered Relationship• Principle – synonym- standard, belief,

attitude• are like compass: always pointing the way, if

we know how to read them, we won’t get lost, confused or fooled by conflicting voices and values.

• self-evident, self-validating natural laws, don’t change or shift, provide “true north” direction to our lives when navigating the “streams” of our environments.

• apply at all times in all places.

Principle-centered leadership is based on the reality that we cannot violate these natural laws with impunity……

- The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People & Principle-Centered Leadership


Where Do I Begin?

• It is ALL about RELATIONSHIPS, with– Others– Self


It Shall Be Character Ethic

PERSONALITY

CHARACTER

•Image•First Impression•Technique•Strategies•Tactics•Skills

•Principles•Values


Principle-Centered Relationship

• Trustworthiness at the Personal level– Character – what you are as a person– Competence – what you can do

• Trust at the Interpersonal level– All relationships is based on trust, and the

foundation of trust is trustworthiness.– Enable for a win-win agreement, clear

communication, synergy & productive interdependency


Principle-Centered Relationship

• Trust – or the lack of it- is at the root of success or failure in relationships and in the bottom-line results of business, industry, education, and government.


“It is more noble to give yourself completely to one individual than to labour diligently for the salvation of the masses.”

- Dag Hammarskjold – Former UN Secretary General

Meaning – We could be devoting many hours, many days or many weeks to the thousand of people and projects “out there” and still not have a deep, meaningful relationship with our own spouses, teenage kids, or close associates. And it would take more nobility of character – more humility,courage, and strength – to rebuild that one relationship than it would to continue putting in all those hours for all those people and causes.


Building & Sustaining Principle-Centered Relationship

• Character Traits– Integrity – around a balanced set of

principles– Maturity– Abundance Mentality


Five Suggestions…to start with

• Never make a promise we will not keep.• Make meaningful promises, resolutions, and

commitments to do better and to be better.• Use self-knowledge and be very selective

about the promises we make.• Consider promises as a measure of our

integrity and faith in ourselves• Remember that our personal integrity or self-

mastery is a basis for our success with others.


Moment to ponder

• What is the point of having a set organisational core/shared values, if they are not going to be behaved and they are being applied by “us and them” rule…….


Identify your guiding Principles………

And live by them!

Thank you…… all the best

Principle-Centered Relationship Key to Successful Work and Personal Life

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