1. Ann Rossiter, Executive DirectorSprezzatura: the art of collaboration5 September 2014Northern Collaboration Conference 2014

2. Why collaborate? 3. Why collaborate? 4. Why collaborate? 5. The collaboration spectrum#low medium hightransactional mutual symbiotic Archer and Cameron 6. The fetish of assertion 7. Lessons from a business guru:key skills and essential attitudes# Find the personal motive for collaborating Find ways of simplifying complex situations for staff Prepare for how you are going to handle conflict well in advance Recognise that there are some people or organisations you just can'tpartner with Have the courage to act for the long term Actively manage the tension between focusing on delivery and on buildingrelationships Invest in strong personal relationships at all levels Inject energy, passion and drive into your leadership style Have the confidence to share the credit generously Continually develop your interpersonal skills, in particular: empathy,patience, tenacity, holding difficult conversations, and coalition building 8. What does collaboration look like? 9. What does collaboration look like?# 10. Models of cooperation#DialeticalMoving towards a commonunderstandingListening to argument andrespondingSympathy:I know how you feelEnables quick decisionmakingDialogicalOpening space fordisagreementListening to intent (theunsaid)Empathy:I hear what you sayEnables understanding ofcomplexity 11. Is this meeting dialogical? Are we pushing towards a conclusion? (dialetical) Are we refraining from insisting but listening instead? (dialogical) Are we using the subjunctive? (dialogical) Are we using irony about ourselves? (dialogical) Are some people withdrawing and not contributing? (dialetical) Are we feeling anxiety? (dialogical) Are we identifying disagreements? (dialogical)# 12. Sprezzatura:lightness in gesture and speech, or nonchalanceBaldassare Castiglione's The Book of the Courtier, 1528# 13. Lessons from a diplomat# 14. Lessons from a diplomat A bout de papier:if you felt able to propose . I should be prepared to try it out The dmarche:a document without author which floats a set of ideas and talking points forcirculation The rituals of casualnessThe aspects and manner of friendliness and informalitySir Ernest Satows Satows Diplomatic Practice# 15. The collaboration spectrum#low medium hightransactional mutual symbioticdialetical dialogical Archer and Cameron 16. Models of cooperation#DialeticalEnables quick decisionmakingEasier in formal meetingsRequires compromiseSuppresses conflictDialogicalEnables understanding ofcomplexityEasier in informal meetingsRequires adaptationExplores conflict 17. Further reading David Archer and Alex Cameron Collaborative Leadership: BuildingRelationships, handling conflicts and sharing control Routledge 2nd Edition2013 Margaret Heffernan A Bigger Prize: why competition isnt everything andhow we can do better Simon and Schuster 2014 Martha Nussbaum and Amatrya Sen The Quality of Life Oxford: ClarendonPress, 1993 Sir E. Satow A Guide to Diplomatic Practice Longmans, Green & Co.London & New York, 1917 Richard Sennett Together Allen Lane 2012# 18. Ann Rossiter, Executive DirectorSprezzatura: the art of collaboration5 September 2014Northern Collaboration Conference 2014