Attraction Mastermind Group Bible

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Attraction Mastermind Group Bible

Version 2012-05-12

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1 Technique Rating System ........................................................................... 2

2 Girl Versus Woman Opener (Rating: 5) ........................................................... 3

3 Compliment Gender Opener (Rating: 5) .......................................................... 5

4 Fashion Blog Project (Rating: 5) ................................................................... 7

5 Attractive Intentions (Rating: 5) .................................................................... 9

6 Pre-Opener Hook Test (Rating: 5) ................................................................. 10

7 Spontaneous Accessory Complement Opener (Rating: 4) ..................................... 13

8 What Would You Do Game (Rating: 4) ........................................................... 16

9 Other New Opening Techniques (Rating: 4) ..................................................... 19

10 How to Test Techniques and the Value of Techniques (Rating: 4) ........................... 20

11 AMG Conference call Download (2012-04-15) (Rating: 3) ..................................... 21

12 Spontaneous Improvised Opener (Rating: 3) .................................................... 21

13 Spontaneous Direct Opener (Rating: 3) ........................................................... 22

14 Kid On A Leash Opener (Rating: 3) ............................................................... 25

15 Androgynous Baby Name Opener (Rating: 3) ................................................... 29

16 Exaggerated Trivia Technique (Rating: 3) ........................................................ 31

17 Oh My God Opener (Rating: 3) ..................................................................... 34

18 Expectant Handshake Opener (Rating: 3) ........................................................ 35

19 Cosmo Conversation Starters (Rating: 3) ......................................................... 37

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2 Girl Versus Woman Opener (Rating: 5)

* How can the Girl Versus Woman Opener help my game? * Greetings Attraction Mastermind Group (AMG), This post is part of a summary of the AMG group discussion from Sunday, April 15th, 2012. Test this technique in the field and report back with results from the field. AMG Bible Girl Versus Woman Opener Credit: Style "Let me ask you a question," or "Let me ask you something," "and there is a reason that I'm asking that I'll tell you in a minute," or "and I'll tell you why I'm asking in a second," "The question is, do you prefer being called a girl or a woman?" (She answers.) "Interesting." "The reason I'm asking is because I was with a group of my friends, and one of them was a therapist, and they said that every time a client says 'girl', that means she is a minor and they are legally obliged to report them. And we thought that was strange or odd, because we felt like most people like to be called a 'girl', and being called a 'woman' could be an insult. So let me ask you, at what age does somebody become a 'woman' and is no longer a 'girl'?"






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(If they say 28, then their age is usually 27. (One year less than what they say.)) "And I'll tell you another interesting thing, we used the word 'spouse', and she said the word 'spouse' was, like, not politically correct because it is racist against, like, Lesbian-Gay-Bisexual-Transgender communities; so, it's insane that most words - you can't really use. Don't you think?" or "What do you think?" or (Pause allowing for a response.) ... Your experience from the field is valued so please share what you have observed. From this technique, you can also derive the "Boy Versus Man Opener". (Credit: Taras) And also compare how the "girl to woman" title transition is compared and contrasted to the "boy to man" title transition. This technique can branch into discussions on political correctness. As a playful tease, you might keep her in the girl world for a while and encourage her to work to earn woman status. (Credit: Shaman) Current Technique Rating: 4 Stars - A lot of guys have been using is really, really successfully. Be careful talking about going to a therapist and talking about underage girls. ... Test this technique in the field and report back with results from the field. Discussion welcome.






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; [email protected] ; :) ;D; Get updates and participate in this conversational thread here: http://www.stylelife.com/eliteforums/showthread.php?p=144023 ~~~ 3 Compliment Gender Opener (Rating: 5)

* How can the Compliment Gender Opener help my game? * The following notes are from the Attraction Mastermind Group Conference Call on 2012-04-15. Compliment Gender Opener Credit: Taras "Hey Guys, I always wanted to know this from a woman; what would you guys prefer... a compliment from a guy or a woman?" Possible Root: "Help me solve this debate that I've been having with a friend of mine." I set it up like I've been having a discussion or a debate with a friend of mine. Or tell a story of how you saw a girl receive a similar compliment from a guy who got blown-off, and then later a similar compliment from a girl who was accepted in a friendly way. This opener can lead into a discussion about psychology, and different reasons why men and women give compliments.



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Some people prefer compliments from guys, and some people prefer compliments from women, and find out the reasons why. Openers and conversational starters work better when you really care about them. Be prepared to answer this question at all times: Why is this issue burning in your heart and mind to the point that you just have to ask a stranger about it? (There should be a semi-intense back story around how your interest came to be focused on the issue.) Be careful about, "can I get a female opinion on something", because it can be a trigger for someone to feel like you are using a trite script. Instead, try: "Let me get your take on this." "I wanna get your opinion on this." "What do you think of this." "How true is this, on a scale of 1 to 10 for you?" You could also interject this technique if an alpha male other guy enters your group. Here are some other directions that the conversation could be branched into: "What does it mean coming from a guy? Does he have a hidden agenda?" "What is the difference between a compliment from a guy who is a stranger and walks up to you versus a compliment from a guy you know well?" "What is the difference between a compliment from a guy who you are attracted to versus a compliment from a guy who you are not attracted to?" "If a guy gives a guy a compliment what does that mean?" "If a girl gives a guy a compliment what does that mean?" Current Technique Rating: 3 stars because it's been field tested by only one person and it's based on a popular existing idea. (Soon to be 4 stars.) Submit the answers found in your research on this thread.






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Test this technique in the field and report back with results from your new conversational partners. Get updates and participate in this conversational thread here: http://www.stylelife.com/eliteforums/showthread.php?p=144043 Discussion welcome. ; [email protected] ; :) ;D; ~~~ 4 Fashion Blog Project (Rating: 5)

* What are your field test results from your Fashion Blog Project? * Fashion Blogging for Fun and Profit "Hey. That's a nice coach hobo you've got there. And you matched it well with the Jimmy Choo flats... You've got a pretty good fashion sense, and you are put together rather well. In fact, you'd be a perfect nominee for my fashion blog." ... "Oh, really? Tell me more!" Some hobbies align better with social networking than others. Fashion blogging is one of those hobbies. A web log or 'blog' is simply a series of posts that someone can find in one website. Wordpress is one of the best free blogging services you can find, with blogger as a decent runner-up. Once you've setup your blog, you can add some credibility to your website buy purchasing an actual domain through a domain name registration service like GoDaddy or register.com, then pointing or forwarding your website to your blog. So, for example, instead of "diegosfashionblog.wordpress.com" you can be known simply as "diegosfashionblog.com" For a finishing touch, you can design your business cards at vistaprint. You are now ready to bust out your opener as seen above. Generally speaking, you can open anyone, anytime, anywhere with a casual, platonic, indirect approach like this. Right about the time my partner's interest is piqued, I pull out my Sony stereo IC







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recorder and press the record button. The red light comes on and we are on the air. How exciting. "You know, I host my own podcast on the blog, and it goes something like this ..." I speak into the microphone like a reporter. "What's up everybody, it's your boy, Diego, and I'm here with..." I put the microphone in front of my partner, and they always say their name. "Aylah." I switch the microphone back and forth between us to capture whoever is speaking like a man-on-the-street newscaster. "I'm here with Aylah, and she is a nominee for the fashion blog today because she is very well put together with her Coach hobo and matching Jimmy Choo flats. I tour through an outfit top-down or bottom-up, how would you like to run with it today, Aylah?" ... "Uh... bottom's up?" ... "Absolutely. Sounds great. So we already made notice of your adorable burgundy patent leather shoes with the black faux gems. Were they on sale? Where did you pick them up?" ... "As a matter of fact, I got them on sale at the Nordstrom Rack. They have great clearance items there." ... "Do tell! I'm sure our listeners will be writing that hot tip down. Now let's move up to your skirt. That isn't a Forever 21 high waist denim pencil skirt, is it?" ... "How did you know!?" Continue the interview by moving up the subject through each clothing item and accessory. Don't forget the details of her nail polish, hairstyle and makeup. Who is the designer? Where did you get it from? How did you select it to fit in with this outfit? As a beginner, you will be asking questions mostly, which is fine. But as you get more experience, you will be able to hit with more and better quality cold reads as you can see above. The interview doesn't have to follow a strict regimen of her outfit, and you'll find many interesting conversational tangents that she may be excited to tell you about. "And I love these bangles. Where did you get them?" ... "Actually, I got them last month on a visit to Thailand." ... "Really? Did you have a good time?" ... "Oh, my God, I had such a great time, we took a day trip from Bangkok to Ayutthaya to see the temples there." ... "Weren't those the temples used in the movie Mortal Kombat!?" ... "That's right!" Use your conversational branching skills to create a fun, up-beat and enjoyable interview for everyone. "Well, thanks for sharing your time with us, Aylah. Any last words of fashion advice for the listeners out there?" ... "Just wear what you like and make sure you make a statement that you want to make." ... "Fantastic, this is Diego and Aylah signing out." ... "Bye." I turn the recorder off, then back on again. "Wow, that was great Aylah. Listen, I'll be happy to send you the link to your post. How many e-mail addresses do you have?" ... "Uh. Two." ... "Great, which one do you use most often." ... "Mmm. The one at work." ... "Swell, how do you spell that." "A-Y-L-A-H at C-O-M-P-A-N-Y dot com"... "Fantastic. You know, you've got a great, playful energy, and I might






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be sending you and invite to some parties I'm hosting. So you are here in area code five-one-oh..." ... "five-five-five one-two-one-two" ... "Excellent. I bet you didn't know that was going to happen today, did you?" ... "No way." ... "Now, wasn't that fun?" ... "Totally." ... "So, the last part of the blog post is a fashionable picture of your outfit, of course it wouldn't be a good article without a little show and tell, right?" I pull out my 9 megapixel digital camera and we get a few fashion plate poses "on film". She loves being the star of this show. "That was really fun, maybe I could model another outfit for you sometime." ... "Maybe, we'll see. I'll have to see if it qualifies first." Get updates and participate in this conversational thread here: http://www.stylelife.com/eliteforums/showthread.php?p=144281 Discussion welcome. ; [email protected] ; :) ;D; ~~~ 5 Attractive Intentions (Rating: 5)

* Which intentions are attractive? * Greetings Attraction Mastermind Group (AMG), During the AMG discussion on Sunday, April 14th, 2012, Style sayeth: "One thing that I am finding is that going out with the intention to "pick up" or the intention to "seduce" can sometimes repel people because it is too needy. But going out with the intention to test out a new idea to see if it works is going to give you ten times more motivation to get out into the field, and ten times the results because you are doing it for you and not to get somebody's attention - which is much more non-needy." From your experience, what intentions have you found that attract people?







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From your experience, what intentions have you found that repel people? Get updates and participate in this conversational thread here: http://www.stylelife.com/eliteforums/showthread.php?p=144022 Discussion welcome. ; [email protected] ; :) ;D; ~~~ 6 Pre-Opener Hook Test (Rating: 5)

* How can the Pre-Opener Hook Test help my game? * The following notes are from the Attraction Mastermind Group Conference Call on 2012-04-15. The Pre-Opener Hook Test Credit: Vin This technique is a way to deliver an opener, especially if you are not in the mood to approach and open. What you can do is say, "Hey, let me ask you a question." Pause. Look at their faces. Then say, "It's OK. Never mind." And start walking away. This could be a warm-up routine that reduces approach anxiety a lot because you just have to deliver two lines then eject. (DDG's Nota Bene: A general principle of developing a relationship is to not eject prematurely, especially out of irrational fear, but exceptions may be noted for good psychological reason as shown below. Also, for a group that you have a high likelihood of opportunity to re-open this is more OK. For a group you are less likely to ever see







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again, this is less OK. The term 'group' in this paragraph is defined as 'one or more persons'.) It also could work as a tease, because they may get interested and stop you from leaving. And if that happens then you are more confident about delivering your actual opener. Be sure that you already have an opener memorized and on-cue if they do ask you about the question. How many times have they asked versus not asked for you to come back? Vin has done 5 times, and 50% of the time they have asked for him to come back. We can play with this technique. When it was first described, it seems like there is no good reason to blow an interaction out needlessly and lose a conversational partner prematurely. But upon deeper inspection, it seems like a great way to flip the script and have them ask you for your attention. We can call this the pre-opener hook (test). Make a way that later you can re-approach the group somehow and you don't burn-out your venue. The trick is to add a challenge following the parting bit, like, "Oh never mind, I don't know if you could handle this one." or "You know what, I don't think you guys can handle this." or "You know what, this might be too much for you guys." Add a way to re-enter the group later, like, "You know what? I think you guys are ready for this question now." Your actual question could be really good, or it could be really silly because the tension and opposite-humor could be funny too. Any of the other openers or conversation starters would work.






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The "woman versus girl opener" would be very good here because it calls on them to participate in the conversation. The "dental floss opener" would work well here for the sake of opposite humor. The technique demonstrates your willingness to walk away which is powerful. or "Oh, you know, OK never mind." "Oh, so OK so you guys CAN handle it. OK what about this ..." The tech could be a way to get over shyness, and it could also add power to a standard opener, as it tests their willingness to engage - if they let you know or call you back immediately. So it tests a hook-point. If they are staring and waiting, it could be good sign. (Versus being ignored.) You are almost forcing the hook point early on if they are like 'no don't leave'. By the principle of commitment and consistency they now wanna hear your stuff. If you practice improv, the "yes and" exercise is a good way to see new ideas. Instead of doubting this technique because it could lose sets prematurely, by looking deeper into it we might find it's power. During the week be sure and test out a new idea, and bring it to the call or to the forum, (versus just bringing up an fresh idea that has never been tested in the field before.) This section of the AMG Bible could be all about openers, and another section could be all about body language (or all about kino escalation). Current Technique Rating: 2 Stars because it is a new idea that is field tested by one person. It could be a 5 star bit of material one day. Test this technique in the field and report back with results from your new conversational partners. Discussion welcome. Get updates and participate in this conversational thread here: http://www.stylelife.com/eliteforums/showthread.php?p=144112







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* How can the Spontaneous Accessory Complement Opener help my game? * The following are notes from the Attraction Mastermind Group Conference Call on 2012-04-15. The Spontaneous Accessory Complement Opener Credit: Edgar "That's a cool bag. Where'd you get it?" (Um, I really can't remember.) "That's cool. It reminds me of Venice 'cause I'm always out at Venice, and it seems like a really great place." (We talk about where she has been and where I have been.) ~ or ~ "That's a really cool necklace. Is that your birth stone?" (We talked about zodiac signs. She didn't want to let me go. She followed me around.) ~ or ~ "Wow, that's a cool tattoo. Who did your work?" (Have knowledge about artists in the area if you are going to ask this.) ...






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Consider using your own experiences as ways to connect with people which will be more solid, versus using stories from other people's lives, which may be less solid the more you dive into the story. Make special notice of an outstanding purse or necklace or jewelry or something she is wearing. Something out of the ordinary that sets them apart. I don't make it like I am hitting on them. (Chris Rock: "How About Some Dick?") Also, wear noteworthy accessories yourself with interesting stories behind them to share and relate. Wearing a Buddhist beaded bracelet might lead to a story about a Buddhist temple in Taiwan and emotional responses. Stevie PUA came up with the term Neutral Entertaining Opener (NEO) similar to these. Beginners might have a challenge with this unscripted approach, intermediates might benefit more from it. Just because you are interacting does not mean you are attracting. Did you exchange contact information? Did that person see you again? Did that person want to see you again? Be careful when teasing by implying that their accessory is "wacky". Do not cross the line in hurting their identity's feelings; use only with supermodels who have "heard it all" and are bored with standard approaches. You can also tease by implying an item might be from a "lower-shelf" designer. Recognize the brands they are wearing to make a connection. Become an authority on something that she is interested in. (Like fashion. Or local tattoo artists.)






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Think about asking depthful questions that lead into extended interesting stories rather than questions with short answers. ... Here are some add-ons from: Nevis I was at a bar with a friend. A girl passes us and I lean back and say, "That's a nice belt." (I complimented her belt.) She comes back with, "Are you gay?" And I come back with, "Oh, I've just got a sister so I notice these things." She comes back with, "You guys are too old." And I say, "You are just like my little sister, nice and cute." We were pissing her off playfully, but we started with a compliment on her dress. Later she bought us a beer. Those were great bullshit-test responses. I thought, "Let's just do the compliment and see what happens." We just started speaking to her, and it went on from there. I liked the tease about her being your little sister. I said, "That little belt you have there fits the outfit well." "I have a sister so I notice these things." It's great that the speech here shows that you don't have to be an expert in fashion of tattoo artists, of purse designers. She said, "I think you are a bit old to be talking to a young college girl." And I said, "You are just like my little sister - cute and annoying." She started laughing. That was a great playful tease. ...






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Test this technique in the field and report back with results from your new conversational partners. Current Technique Rating: (How would you rate it? And why?) Discussion welcome. Get updates and participate in this conversational thread here: http://www.stylelife.com/eliteforums/showthread.php?p=144092 ; [email protected] ; :) ;D; ~~~ 8 What Would You Do Game (Rating: 4)

* What are your field test results from the What Would You Do Game? * The following notes are from the Attraction Mastermind Group Conference Call on 2012-04-15. The What Would You Do Game Credit: Unknown. Please identify yourself when speaking on a conference call to receive credit. If you know who originated this technique, please let us know. In a high-energy fast-moving crowded bar. Bump shoulders and say: "Quick. What would you do right now if this bar caught on fire?" What would you do if there was a terrorist attack? What would you do if a fire broke out? Kind of like the movie Cloverdale. Tease and disqualify her for her ideas, qualify your self for your ideas.







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It may run contrary to the "everyone is out to have fun tonight" principle to be put in a panic state of mind. It might be good to develop rapport 30 minutes into a conversation and you wanna play a game. "Hey, what would you do if a fight broke out right now?" "Hey, what would you do if there was a fire right now?" "Hey, what would you do if there was an earthquake now?" "Hey, what would you do if ten masked men ran in here with machine guns and everyone hit the ground right now?" "Hey, what would you do if somebody grabbed me and ran away with me?" "Hey, what would you do if a stampeded of elephants came down the street right now?" "Hey, what would you do if a tiger jumped at us right now?" And girl stuff: (What would be a female's worst nightmare?) "What would you do if that girl right there called you a bitch and slapped you?" "What would you do if a girl walked in here wearing the same dress as you?" "What would you do if a girl walked in here wearing the same hairdo as you?" "What would you do if a really cute guy hit on you right now?" (That might make her laugh.) "What would you do if that guy (point to a non-cute guy) hit on you right now?" "What would you do if that guy (point to a guy) slapped you on the ass?" "What would you do if that amazingly hot guy game up to you and gave you a compliment?"






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"I have a really important question to ask you. What would you do if that girl walked up to you and slapped you right now?" (Credit: Andrew) The Disaster Survival Rapport Builder See also: Fuck, Marry, Kill The "What Would You Do If" Technique ... "Which would you rather happen? A fight break out or a girl walk in here wearing your exact same dress?" After you hit the hook point you can go into rapport when you are isolated. It might be good as an opener or after you have established a decent amount of knee-deep rapport. The chick disaster survival rapport game. The AMG Bible. Tactics and Techniques. Later we will test Day-Two Techniques, and Last Minute Tension Techniques, and Threesome Techniques. "Hey, I was watching this TV show, 'What Would You Do', and we wanted to get your opinion on it..." (Credit: Benjamin) As a root. See also: The TV Show "Lying Game" incorporated into the "Lying Game Technique". "The year is 2015, and the Buddhist terrorists have taken over Facebook and twitter and crashed it. What are you gonna do?" (Depends on the girl. Calibrate.) "I'm curious what would you do if you had a girl disaster happening right now?" Pause. Scope her out, see what's going on. She might ask, "Well, what do you mean? What's going on?"






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And you can respond, "Well, you know, if someone came in right now with the same hairdo, the same dress, or oooh, the same shoes, what would you do?" "I just wanted to see what type of girl you were." "Or see how you'd react, if you'd compete." "Or just how you'd take it." It may be good as a rapport technique. "What if that girl over there just came right up to you and slapped you." "Well, I just wanted to clue you in, I was talking to this other woman over there earlier and she really looks like the jealous type, just so you know" (Credit: Jim) It could work to make the scenario more of a natural conversation versus a game in addition to a preposterous game that you take turns with. ... Test this technique in the field and report back with results from your new conversational partners. Current Technique Rating: (How would you rate it? And why?) Discussion welcome. Get updates and participate in this conversational thread here: http://www.stylelife.com/eliteforums/showthread.php?p=144177 ; [email protected] ; :) ;D; ~~~ 9 Other New Opening Techniques (Rating: 4)

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~~~ 10 How to Test Techniques and the Value of Techniques (Rating: 4)

* How can I test my delivery of a script? * Hey Vinniechase, Here are some great ways to test your delivery of a script: o Record your voice reading the script and listen to the recording. Would you want to date the person that you are listening to? Why or why not? Make changes accordingly. or o Record your voice reading the script and play the recording to your friends and ask them for honest feedback on the attractiveness of the delivery. or o Record your voice reading the script and upload to soundcloud.com or some such audio cloud service and post the link here for peer review. (Attachments to posts here apparently don't support MP3, but do support ZIP, so that might be an alternate way.) General principles for an attractive masculine voice off the top of my head are: o Deep, low pitch. o Loud enough to understand. Not too loud that is yelling. o Emotionally passionate and expressive; not flat or monotone. o Reflecting the emotionality tonalities of the content of what is being expressed. o Variation of pace and tempo for different parts of a story. o Variation of volume for different parts of a story. o Knowledgeable use of innuendo, humor, subtlety, confidence, and nuance.






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o Knowledgeable use of dominant command versus submissive request tonalities. Discussion welcome. ; [email protected] ; :) ;D; Get updates and participate in this conversational thread here: http://www.stylelife.com/eliteforums/showthread.php?p=144113 ~~~ 11 AMG Conference call Download (2012-04-15) (Rating: 3)

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* How can the Spontaneous Improvised Opener help my game? * The following notes are from the Attraction Mastermind Group Conference Call on 2012-04-15. The Spontaneous Improvised Opener. Credit: Edgar. I just open my mouth and I don't think about what I'm going to say too much. Approach with no script. Or a minimal script.








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Approach with no long term plan of what to say. Rely on your instincts. Display a friendly, up-beat presentation. Find a reason to continue the conversation later. Exchange contact information. Test this technique in the field and report back with results from your new conversational partners. Current Technique Rating: (How would you rate it?) Discussion welcome. Get updates and participate in this conversational thread here: http://www.stylelife.com/eliteforums/showthread.php?p=144109 ; [email protected] ; :) ;D; ~~~ 13 Spontaneous Direct Opener (Rating: 3)

* How can the Spontaneous Direct opener help my game? * The following notes are from the Attraction Mastermind Group Conference Call on 2012-04-15. The Spontaneous Direct Opener Author: Jone Finland I don't plan, or try not to plan anything during a cold approach.







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I verbalize what I'm feeling and what I'm noticing. I go direct. "Hi. I noticed you there. And I thought you were attractive. And I wanted to get to know you." Then I see where it goes from there. I try to be very honest all the time, and reveal what I'm feeling with an open heart. I might notice her reaction and verbalize about it. "I am noticing that you are not open at the moment." I bring the conversation to what is happening at the moment. I used to use planned routines with sometimes success, but only superficial success because my heart was not open and I was unmotivated to make a real connection without planning. Sometimes I might connect like magically, and sometimes not, it doesn't bother me. (Style) That is true, I do that now as well. When learning openers and routines, though, you might get a 90% success rate. Now I might not care so much about running perfect game as much as enjoying self. If I do or don't connect it's OK because there are just so many people to meet. It is a great place to get to, and I commend you. I have met some great people using techniques, but also there is something to be said for just allowing the process to happen spontaneously. For beginners, thought, going through the steps and learning by the numbers ensures success. ... See also, the "Four Stages of Competence", a'la Wikipedia. In psychology, the four stages of competence, or the "conscious competence" learning model, relates to the psychological states involved in the process of progressing from incompetence to competence in a skill.






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Unconscious incompetence - The individual does not understand or know how to do something and does not necessarily recognize the deficit. They may deny the usefulness of the skill. The individual must recognize their own incompetence, and the value of the new skill, before moving on to the next stage. The length of time an individual spends in this stage depends on the strength of the stimulus to learn. Conscious incompetence - Though the individual does not understand or know how to do something, he or she does recognize the deficit, as well as the value of a new skill in addressing the deficit. The making of mistakes can be integral to the learning process at this stage. Conscious competence - The individual understands or knows how to do something. However, demonstrating the skill or knowledge requires concentration. It may be broken down into steps, and there is heavy conscious involvement in executing the new skill. Unconscious competence - The individual has had so much practice with a skill that it has become "second nature" and can be performed easily. As a result, the skill can be performed while executing another task. The individual may be able to teach it to others, depending upon how and when it was learned. ... When something is a little weird, you might want to mention it. Adam Lyons has a catch phrase, "When in doubt, call it out." It may be important for her to know that you can feel what is going on in the same way as her and that you get her. As another goal, not matter what style you do use now, test out other styles outside your comfort zone. If you are more spontaneous try a memorized script approach, if you are more scripted try a spontaneous approach. ... (Jone) Even if I ran out of things to say, I also say that, like, "Hey, you know I just ran out of things to say." (DDG's Nota Bene: Read the following magazines cover to cover and you will always have something interesting to say:






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PEOPLE MAGAZINE - To discuss celebrities - which are people you both have in common - since you both know them. COSMOPOLITAN MAGAZINE - To relate to the female mind. THE NATIONAL ENQUIRER - To tell outlandish entertaining stories. THE WEEK - To get sophisticated and intelligent and significant. Then read the book INTELLECTUAL FOREPLAY by Eve Ecshner Hogan to get into real deep rapport. ) If stops then OK, I am not attached to the outcome. I believe everything good comes to my life when the right time will be. If it goes well then great or if not it's OK too. (Style) It's good to get away from too much intentionality, or trying to force an outcome, rather than making genuine authentic connections. We could have an entire program on the ins and outs of "no-game game". ... Test this technique in the field and report back with results from your new conversational partners. Current Technique Rating: (How would you rate it? And why?) Discussion welcome. Get updates and participate in this conversational thread here: http://www.stylelife.com/eliteforums/showthread.php?p=144116 ; [email protected] ; :) ;D; ~~~ 14 Kid On A Leash Opener (Rating: 3)







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* What are your field test results from the Kid On A Leash Opener? * The following notes are from the Attraction Mastermind Group Conference Call on 2012-04-15. The Kid on a Leash Opener Credit: Subwolf Gigantor has used this. I've used it a dozen times. I pre-set-it-up with bartenders and people nearby in the bar. When ladies or groups come in, I'll say, "Hey, I was just talking to so-and-so about this let me see what you think about it." This is an opener I have been been using because I got it from Facebook where people were passionately discussing it. I'll say, "Hey, have you ever seen any moms in the stores and they have their kids on these leashes ? My friend Becky, we were at the store, and we saw one and she got really pissed off. What do you think about that?" (They respond.) Then I'll have this story to go with it. "Yeah, you know I was at Macy's looking at the shirts, and there was this little girl all by herself. What happened was, someone had left her and forgot about her, so I took her to security and eventually she was re-united with her mother. ... So maybe it is good to have a leash on your kids, because it's not good to lose your kids like that, eh?"






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This story gets my audience thinking, "Awww, you helped a little girl. How sweet you are!" Then I'll notice her ring and go into the ring finger technique. "Oh, that's a nice ring you have." It's similar to the accessory opener. (Great job with the story, it appears to make people comfortable, and it makes you look like a good guy who is not threatening.) (Be careful about telling stories that are a fib or blatant untruth about what really happened to you because you may feel or even look disingenuous which is unattractive.) The original introduction to the book THE GAME was a couple pages of outlandish fictitious stories. They were other people's stories. The best stories that could be found. They were like training wheels. Or an acting lesson. They allowed me to get comfortable socially. True stories from your own life are the best. Tall tales from the original preface of THE GAME: "My name is Neil Strauss, but my friends call me Style. I was born over the Atlantic Ocean. One of my mothers; I have two, but that's another story; went into labor on an airplane - a week prematurely on her way home from Paris. Fortunately, my uncle, an oncologist, was traveling with her and he delivered me. Ever since then 23 has been my lucky number. That's the row I came into being in. ... So, what's your name? ... Nice name. I had a girlfriend once with the same name, in fact she was the first girl I ever fell in love with. I took her to prom and afterward we just sat on the grass, talking. I was behind her, like this, and she told me about her mother dying and how hard it was on her and her father. As she spoke, I could feel butterflies in my stomach, and the faster they flapped, the more my face began to flush, 'til tears began welling up into my eyes and I just thought... Oh, never mind. I talk too much. Would you like to ..." If you are just starting out - getting out there in real interactions you might want to be flexible in your storytelling. Eventually all your stories will be true stories from your life.






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Go out and enjoy the interaction and get comfortable telling stories. Play with the stories that you are able to tell as resources. I really do believe in truth and integrity. In addition, there may be ways to trick the self into being comfortable in social situations. There may or may not be a moral issue about telling fictional stories, or tall tales, or jokes, or even using sarcasm. Different types of stories may be good for your social development. No harm came from it. When you are late, and you say that you are caught in traffic and that is a fib, that may be wrong. But how much harm does it do in the world? ... These are just words. It's totally OK for her to say, "Is that a pickup line?" and for you to say, "Ya. That's my favorite pick-up line." It's OK to tell obvious tall tales, as long as you are authentic about it if you are called-out on it. ... You can also tease her or try to make fun of her by saying, "I bet when you were younger, you must have been one of those kids who needed to be on a leash. In fact, where is your leash now?" Later on this could be an inside joke or a nickname, calling her "The Kid On The Leash". ... Test this technique in the field and report back with results from your new conversational partners. Current Technique Rating: (How would you rate it? And why?)






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Discussion welcome. Get updates and participate in this conversational thread here: http://www.stylelife.com/eliteforums/showthread.php?p=144171 ; [email protected] ; :) ;D; ~~~ 15 Androgynous Baby Name Opener (Rating: 3)

* What are your field test results from the Androgynous Baby Name Opener? * The following notes are from the Attraction Mastermind Group Conference Call on 2012-04-15. Androgynous Baby Name Opener Credit: Revolver "Hey. Let me get your help on this. I've been thinkin' about this all day. Can you help me think of any baby names that work really well for a baby boy or a baby girl?" (They answer.) "Cool. Thanks. The reason I'm asking is that my friend is having a baby and they want the gender to be a surprise, but they also want to have a name ready so they can put something down on the birth certificate right away." ... (Regarding any gender-neutral names you may think of.) "Can I get your opinion on this. Do you think Devon is more of a boy's name or a girl's name? I'm taking a poll because I used to think it was a girl's name, but I've been running into a lot of guys who's name is Devon. So what do you think?"







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(You can also carry a real sheet and tally mark system as the poll.) "Charlie" could be a guy's or girl's name. "Would you have a girl named, 'If'?" (Editor: I like it, actually!) ... It's a fun question because it makes you think. It's fun, easy, and great to use. (And it's got a beat that you can really dance to! - American Bandstand.) ... (Based on the leash opener.) "You know, what's up with all these knit animal hats that people are wearing? I saw a woman who was probably, like, in her late 20's wearing one, and I thought that was a little weird; I thought they were more just for kids. Do you think it's OK for a woman that old to be wearing one of these knit animal hats?" ... "Hey, that's my brother's name." "Hey, that's my best friend's name." ... "It's like, if you have a certain name, you are destined for a certain kind of job. Like, for example, if your name is 'Candy', they you are definitely gonna be a waitress. Or if your name is 'Ruben', you'll be destined to be a plumber." You can tease them. "Aw, yeah, you look like a (insert boy's name here)." Rated: 3 stars, expected to be a 4 ... Test this technique in the field






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and report back with results from your new conversational partners. Current Technique Rating: (How would you rate it? And why?) Discussion welcome. Get updates and participate in this conversational thread here: http://www.stylelife.com/eliteforums/showthread.php?p=144172 ; [email protected] ; :) ;D; ~~~ 16 Exaggerated Trivia Technique (Rating: 3)

* What are your field results from the Exaggerated Trivia technique? * The following notes are from the Attraction Mastermind Group Conference Call on 2012-04-15. The Exaggerated Trivia Technique Credit: Unknown. Please identify yourself before speaking on the conference call. If you know who authored this technique, please let us know. "Can I ask you a personal question." (They might look at you in a goofy way.) "What's your favorite dinosaur." Say, "Can I ask you a personal question." then make it something trivial. It's like a take-away, or a shock value approach. They are expecting the worst, then it's kind-of funny.







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Then you can take it in an innuendo direction. "So, what's your favorite thing about a brontosaurus ... oh, the long neck? Know what I mean?" The Trivial Disruptor. The Exaggerated Disruptor. The Scary Question. The Oxymoron. The Ironic Disruptor. The Big Question Disruptor. "You know, I've got a confession to make. ... OK. Let's get some food I'm hungry." ... This tech can be used at any time, not just when opening. (As with many openers, ice-breakers, or conversation starters.) "I have a very personal personal question to ask you. ... What's your favorite color?" "I have a question to ask." or "I have a confession to make." or "I have a really pressing issue that I need ask the two of yous opinion on. ... I really need to decide on whether or not I should get a bud light or a captain'n'coke." (And they'll be, like, "Definitely a captain and coke.) Then I'll automatically order the opposite of whatever they say.






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Segue into the best friends test. (Or exit notes out of that? Unintelligible.) If you just bow down and order whatever they said then they will not respect you for it. (DDG's Nota Bene: Every time I walk into McDonald's, I always approach the cutest employee and ask, "So, what's good today?" or "What would you recommend from the menu?" ) "I wanna ask a really important question." "I have to ask you a really important question." ... "Do you know what time it is?" "We have to ask you a really important question that will change the rest of our lives." (Dental Floss Opener.) See how big you can make the question, and how small you can make the response. ... Variation: "All right. Well. I have an important question. What makes a good first impression for you?" (And be demonstrating some good first impression gestures like eye contact and smiling.) "Hey. You know. I'm giving advice to a friend, and this friend just broke up from a long relationship, and we're talking about what's the best way to make a first impression. What do people notice first. And I wanna give them a list of the top three things that people notice because I'm going to call them in a minute. ... And I'm off the market myself, so don't get too excited." ... Test this technique in the field and report back with results from your new conversational partners. Current Technique Rating: (How would you rate it? And why?) Discussion welcome. Get updates and participate in this conversational thread here:






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* What are your field test results from the Oh My God opener? * The following notes are from the Attraction Mastermind Group Conference Call on 2012-04-15. The Oh My God Opener "Oh, my God. This person just came up to me and said she is a White Witch. What do you think that means?" "Oh, my God. That girl just handed me her drink. I was about to take a sip of it. And then I thought, hmmm, what could be in her drink. Do you think I should drink this or not?" It just happened recently. This is a non-opinion type of opener. ... Test this technique in the field and report back with results from your new conversational partners. Current Technique Rating: (How would you rate it? And why?) Discussion welcome. Get updates and participate in this conversational thread here:







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http://www.stylelife.com/eliteforums/showthread.php?p=144175 ; [email protected] ; :) ;D; ~~~ 18 Expectant Handshake Opener (Rating: 3)

* What are your field test results from the Expectant Handshake Opener? * The following notes are from the Attraction Mastermind Group Conference Call on 2012-04-15. The Expectant Handshake Opener Credit: Dominator Step 1. Go to a bar. Step 2. See girl who shows you some interest. Step 3. Walk up to her. Step 4. Hold your hand out as if for a handshake. Step 5. She wonders what you are gonna say. Step 6. She shakes your hand. Step 7. Introduce yourself and ask her name. "I'm Stu. What's your name?" Step 8. She tells you her name. Step 9. Tease her about her name. "Oh, that's a strange and funny name. Make a bit of fun over her." Step 10. Don't let go of her hand right away.







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Step 11. Spin her around. Step 12. Compliment her accessories. "That's a nice necklace." Step 13. Ask about it. "Where'd you get that from?" Step 14. Make small talk. Step 15. Be natural. Step 16. You can comment on her dancing. Step 17. Get closer to her. Step 18. Be direct. Step 19. Move in with your body language. Step 20. Find a reason that she would want to connect with you later. Step 21. Exchange contact information. This technique might be good if you already know the person. Sometimes they may be caught off guard and get intimidated. Build comfort first. Don't invade their space. Be confident. Tease her too much and she'll run away. They might warm up to you. Dance with them. Enjoy each others' company. Someone who is stand-offish to physical contact might be wierded-out by a too-forward approach. As a variant: (Offer hand for hand shake.) "Hey, that's a nice belt, I saw five other girls wearing it at the other club I just at. Just to let you know." (Listen to the AMG Conference call from 2012-04-15 for Style's Fun Handshake Game.)






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(DDG's Nota Bene: Play DDG's handshake to fist-bump game. When they offer a hand shake, throw up a fist-bump. When they switch to a fist-bump, you switch at the same time to a hand-shake. When they switch back, you switch back at the same time. See how many times you can lead the switch. Also works in Japan with handshakes and bowing. This may work better on someone you already know. Report on results.) ... Test this technique in the field and report back with results from your new conversational partners. Current Technique Rating: (How would you rate it? And why?) Discussion welcome. Get updates and participate in this conversational thread here: http://www.stylelife.com/eliteforums/showthread.php?p=144179 ; [email protected] ; :) ;D; ~~~ 19 Cosmo Conversation Starters (Rating: 3)

* What are your field test results from Cosmo's Conversation Starters? * Inspiration can come from various sources. Part of the game is asymmetrical. Women can get away with things that men can't. If a woman asks the guy next door to help fix her sink, it will all look normal. If a man asks the girl next door to help fix his sink, it might look weak. (Especially when we have so many better ways to connect with women.) But part of the game is symmetrical. Men have been learning game skills from women for centuries, as told in THE ART OF SEDUCTION by Robert Greene.







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I have put stars ("*") next to the techniques in the article below that I would feel most comfortable using in the field. That does not mean I would not do the others, just that the non-star ones would need a lot of tweaking and I'm not gonna re-write the article here. Of course, you'll need to substitute the word "girl" for "guy", but I'm sure you knew that. No jokes about hitting on guys, please. (Unless that is your thing - then no offense.) ... 30 Sexy Conversation Starters If you still have bruises from kicking yourself the last time you didn't make a move on a lusty lad, try one of Cosmo's irresistible lure-him-in tricks. Yes, it's that time of year when the livin' is easy, but as you know, picking up a guy ain't always a breeze. There is nothing as hair-pullingly frustrating as being surrounded by a slew of delectable men and not being armed with a great strategy to break the ice and win a stud's attention — not to mention his heart. Cosmo knows that the biggest hurdle in looking a new guy is choosing the perfect words or executing an eye-catching stunt that will launch you into a full-on flirtation. So we devised a handy chat-him-up crib sheet filled with sizzling, surprising icebreakers that will make babes eager to banter with you. Use it anytime you see a man you simply must meet. The beach is bustling, with bronzed boys everywhere... Paddle up to a sexy surfer and say, "I drifted away from where my girlfriends are sitting. Would you mind if I climbed on your board for a second so I can get a better view of the beach?" When the gorgeous guy on the towel near you is smoothing on sunscreen, ask if he wouldn't mind giving you a dab. Rub it on your shoulders, then strain to reach the middle of your back, look defeated, and ask him for a heavenly hand. Get the gals together and start a rowdy game of Sandbunny. Never heard of it? That's the point; no guy will have either. Make up any rules you want — as long as they have you running around a lot and cheering loudly. When a circle of intrigued sporty studs forms around you and your bunny-mates, challenge them to a game.






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* If you spy a cutie with a cooler of drinks, saunter over to him and offer a tantalizing trade. Say, "I'll give you half of this watermelon for a couple of sodas. Pretty sweet deal, huh?" * Ask a cute beachcomber to take a picture of you "to send to a friend." Ask him if he'll pose in the shot and pretend to be your boyfriend. (Just kidding.) It's Saturday night, and the bar is swarming with single studs... * Ask the guy near the jukebox if he has four quarters for your dollar, then sweetly inquire if he'll be your deejay and help you pick out a few songs. * While he's waiting for his turn during a pool game, tell a sharp shooter that you and your pal have wagered a beer on who will win, and he'd better not let you down. Don a necklace or T-shirt with your name on it or, if you're more daring, a cute moniker like Sweet Devil or Foxy Mama. Don't be surprised if a friendly fella starts chatting you up to see if you really live up to your title. * Go to a sports bar wearing the cap of your favorite baseball, basketball, or football team. Guys who are also fans will want to bond, while rivals will pick a flirty fight. "Lose" one of your earrings. Start eyeing the ground, especially near that dude you'd like to date. Lift your hair and show him the other earring so he can help you in your search. When you both hit the floor, lock eyes with him, then smile when you're just inches away from each other's lips. You're at a bookstore, a prime place to meet a cultured cutie... * Ask the adorable guy in the fiction section if he can help you remember that best-seller by Tom What's-his-name. When he says he doesn't know, ask him to recommend a high-suspense book — you love a little mystery. * Hang out in the travel section, planning an "upcoming trip." Ask a gorgeous globe-trotter for suggestions about where the hottest vacation locales are. * Sit down at a table near him with a stack of intriguing books (a massage manual, a guide to mountain climbing, a Thai cookbook). Minutes later, ask if he'll watch them so they don't get reshelved while you make a quick phone call. If he works there, special-order an out-of-stock book and ask him to call you — any time at all — when it comes in.






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* Pick out a humor book, sit down next to him, and start laughing seductively. Lock eyes with him and let him know you're not a psycho — this book is just so funny! Lean in to show him a hilarious line. At a party, a man has you mesmerized... When he comes into the kitchen for another beer, enlist his help in opening a jar of olives or a bottle of wine. * Say, "You look so familiar. Didn't we meet at Lisa's coed naked lawn-bowling party?" It doesn't matter that he won't even know who Lisa is; he'll be so intrigued, he won't be able to resist asking what exactly happens at a naked lawn-bowling party. * Bring a hilarious card for the host of the soiree. Have everyone at the party sign it — it's an easy ticket to talk to your target. * Practice some psychic savvy — read a few of your pals' palms, then ask him if he'd like you to read his. * In front of the guy who's caught your eye, loudly announce to a pal that you're launching a thrill campaign to add excitement to your life — and you're now officially up for almost anything. Glance at him and ask, "Any suggestions?" You're getting hot at the gym, and it's not from working out... Lay your mat near a dude doing crunches, and when he takes a sit-up break, ever-so-politely ask if he can show you the best move to get six-pack abs. You want to try the leg-press machine, but the last user left heavy weights on it. Ask a buff boy to help you remove them. * Situate yourself near the hottie in your yoga class. When the instructor asks everyone to pair up for a headstand drill, ask him to be your partner. Just make sure to tuck in your shirt (or forget to). * Compliment a stylish stud on his awesome, state-of-the-art athletic shoes and ask him where he bought them. * After breaking a sweat, turn to a mouthwatering man and exclaim, "Ooh, I can't catch my breath — I just don't know if it's the workout or the company." In the coffee shop, you scope out a hunky java junkie...






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* If he has the latest laptop (or Palm or cell phone), ask him how he likes it and if you could take a look since you're thinking of buying one... ...If you're feeling bold, type in your name and phone number. If possible, add in the line, "I'd love to take a closer look at the merchandise." After taking a big sip of your mocha so your smackers get doused with whipped cream, ask if there's any whipped cream on your lip. Take a long time licking it off. * Ask to borrow the movie section of his newspaper to see what's playing that night and casually inquire if he's seen any good flicks lately. If he gets really animated during your cinema chat, invite him to catch a 7:30 show with you. * While standing by him in line for coffee, debate out loud which brew to order. "Do I want a skim latte with a shot of hazelnut? Is the caramel cappuccino good? Maybe I should try that." Then gently tap his shoulder and ask, "What do you think I should get?" He's sure to offer advice. * As you're walking by a hot joe-sipping stud, seductively utter, "You know what they say about men who drink coffee...." When he smiles and asks, "What?" Tell him, "Catch me here at this time tomorrow and I'll tell you all about it." These readers' bag-him bombs sent would-be Romeos running for the hills. "While my lame dinner date was in the bathroom, a hot guy introduced himself. 'I'm sort of here with someone,' I told him. But when he left the restaurant, I ran into the street, yelling, 'We can still exchange numbers!' 'Never mind,' he said. 'I don't go for the desperate type.'"—Sarah, 27 "I asked a cute guy if I could use his cell phone to make a really fast 'emergency' call. While I was dialing my home number, thinking of something convincing to say, my own cell phone started to ring in my bag."—Natalie, 23 "I saw a stud walking his dog, so I purposely dropped my dog Pepper's leash, knowing my pup would run over to his pup. When the guy petted Pepper, my dog peed on his leg."—Erica, 31






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"I'd been chatting with this guy in a bar, telling him about the band I play in. 'You sound very talented,' he said. Feeling drunkenly bold, I murmured, 'That's not my only talent' and leaned in to kiss him. He pulled away and said, 'Nothing personal. I just don't like girls.'"—Heidi, 26 Source: cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/dating-advice/30-conversation-starters ... Test the techniques that you feel comfortable using in the field and report back with results from your new conversational partners. Discussion welcome. Get updates and participate in this conversational thread here: http://www.stylelife.com/eliteforums/showthread.php?p=144183 ; [email protected] ; :) ;D; ~~~




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