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IntroductionIntroduction

Finding Out Who You Are andFinding Out Who You Are and

What Youre Looking In TheWhat Youre Looking In TheDating WorldDating World

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IndexedIndexed

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Meeting at HopeMeeting at Hope

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But, more about us laterBut, more about us later

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Being single can be FUNBeing single can be FUN

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But we all desire to find that specialBut we all desire to find that special

someone.someone.

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Any road will take you there. -Any road will take you there. -

Alice in WonderlandAlice in Wonderland

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How to get where you want to goHow to get where you want to go

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First begins with figuring out whereFirst begins with figuring out where

you areyou are

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Keirsey Temperament SorterKeirsey Temperament Sorter

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Which one are you?Which one are you?

Act first, think/reflect laterAct first, think/reflect later

Feel deprived when cutoffFeel deprived when cutofffrom interaction with thefrom interaction with theoutside worldoutside world

Usually open to andUsually open to andmotivated by outsidemotivated by outsideworld of people andworld of people andthingsthings

Enjoy wide variety andEnjoy wide variety andchange in peoplechange in peoplerelationshipsrelationships

Think/reflect first, thenThink/reflect first, thenActAct

Regularly require anRegularly require anamount of "private time"amount of "private time"

to recharge batteriesto recharge batteriesMotivated internally, mindMotivated internally, mindis sometimes so active itis sometimes so active itis "closed" to outsideis "closed" to outsideworldworld

Prefer one-to-onePrefer one-to-onecommunication andcommunication andrelationshipsrelationships

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EE II

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Which one of these are you?Which one of these are you?

Mentally live in the Now,Mentally live in the Now,attending to presentattending to presentopportunitiesopportunities

Using common sense andUsing common sense andcreating practical solutions iscreating practical solutions is

automatic-instinctualautomatic-instinctualMemory recall is rich in detailMemory recall is rich in detailof facts and past eventsof facts and past events

Best improvise from pastBest improvise from pastexperienceexperience

Like clear and concreteLike clear and concreteinformation; dislike guessinginformation; dislike guessingwhen facts are "fuzzy"when facts are "fuzzy"

Mentally live in the Future,Mentally live in the Future,attending to future possibilitiesattending to future possibilities

Using imagination andUsing imagination andcreating/inventing newcreating/inventing newpossibilities is automatic-possibilities is automatic-

instinctualinstinctualMemory recall emphasizesMemory recall emphasizespatterns, contexts, andpatterns, contexts, andconnectionsconnections

Best improvise from theoreticalBest improvise from theoretical

understandingunderstandingComfortable with ambiguous,Comfortable with ambiguous,fuzzy data and with guessingfuzzy data and with guessingits meaning.its meaning.

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SS NN

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Left or RightLeft or Right

Instinctively search forInstinctively search forfacts and logic in afacts and logic in adecision situation.decision situation.

Naturally notices tasksNaturally notices tasks

and work to beand work to beaccomplished.accomplished.

Easily able to provide anEasily able to provide anobjective and criticalobjective and criticalanalysis.analysis.

Accept conflict as aAccept conflict as anatural, normal part ofnatural, normal part ofrelationships with people.relationships with people.

Instinctively employInstinctively employpersonal feelings andpersonal feelings andimpact on people inimpact on people indecision situationsdecision situations

Naturally sensitive toNaturally sensitive topeople needs andpeople needs andreactions.reactions.

Naturally seek consensusNaturally seek consensusand popular opinions.and popular opinions.

Unsettled by conflict;Unsettled by conflict;have almost a toxichave almost a toxicreaction to disharmony.reaction to disharmony.

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TT FF

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Last oneLast one

Plan many of the detailsPlan many of the detailsin advance before movingin advance before movinginto action.into action.

Focus on task-relatedFocus on task-relatedaction; completeaction; completemeaningful segmentsmeaningful segmentsbefore moving on.before moving on.

Work best and avoidWork best and avoidstress when able to keepstress when able to keepahead of deadlines.ahead of deadlines.

Naturally use targets,Naturally use targets,dates and standarddates and standardroutines to manage life.routines to manage life.

Comfortable moving intoComfortable moving intoaction without a plan;action without a plan;plan on-the-go.plan on-the-go.

Like to multitask, haveLike to multitask, havevariety, mix work andvariety, mix work andplay.play.Naturally tolerant of timeNaturally tolerant of timepressure; work best closepressure; work best closeto the deadlines.to the deadlines.

Instinctively avoidInstinctively avoidcommitments whichcommitments whichinterfere with flexibility,interfere with flexibility,freedom and varietyfreedom and variety

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JJ PP

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What it all meansWhat it all means

Introvert vsIntrovert vs

ExtrovertExtrovert

Intuitive vs SensingIntuitive vs Sensing

Thinker vs FeelerThinker vs Feeler

Judging vsJudging vs

PerceivingPerceiving

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Artisian (SP)Artisian (SP)

Lives life one day at a timeLives life one day at a time

Spontaneous pleasure seekersSpontaneous pleasure seekers

Playful in romantic relationshipsPlayful in romantic relationshipsPermissive as parentsPermissive as parents

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Idealist (NF)Idealist (NF)

Tend to study humanitiesTend to study humanities

Seek careers facilitating personal growthSeek careers facilitating personal growth

of othersof others

Seek to promote the happiness ofSeek to promote the happiness of

fulfillment of individuals and societyfulfillment of individuals and society

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Rationals (NT)Rationals (NT)

Trust reason implicitlyTrust reason implicitly

Rely on objective observations and factualRely on objective observations and factual

analysisanalysis

Seek a logical argument as a basis forSeek a logical argument as a basis for

actionaction

Strive to gain as much information asStrive to gain as much information aspossiblepossible

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What works well togetherWhat works well together

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What worksWhat works

Idealist/RationalsIdealist/Rationals

Idealist/GuardianIdealist/Guardian

Idealist/ArtisiansIdealist/Artisians

Rationals/IdealistRationals/Idealist

Rationals/ArtisiansRationals/Artisians

Rationals/GuardiansRationals/Guardians

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What else worksWhat else works

Artisians/GuardiansArtisians/Guardians

Artisians/RationalsArtisians/Rationals

Artisians/IdealistArtisians/Idealist

Guardians/ArtisiansGuardians/Artisians

Guardians/IdealistGuardians/Idealist

Guardians/RationalsGuardians/Rationals

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What it all meansWhat it all means

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Whatever we reject in ourselves weWhatever we reject in ourselves we

become attracted to in a mate becausebecome attracted to in a mate because

that person becomes all we wish we couldthat person becomes all we wish we could

be.be.

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However that becomes big trouble downHowever that becomes big trouble down

the road. Sothe road. So

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Get to know yourselfGet to know yourself

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And then find someone like you.And then find someone like you.

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THE ENDTHE END

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Almost HomeworkAlmost Homework

Write a personal ad on the note cardWrite a personal ad on the note card

Give it to 3 trusted friends and ask if theyGive it to 3 trusted friends and ask if they

agree with: Who you are, and what youreagree with: Who you are, and what youre

looking for.looking for.