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What Do Women Want?
to feel like a woman
in the words of a female friend talking about her ideal man:1. he could knock someone out but probably wont today or anything2. hes a little mischievous... knows some sort of secret that you
dont even know you want to know yet
3. he has already envisioned pulling your hair really hard, and figuredout that youd like it regardless of what you think
4. hes self-content doesnt need your approval to legitimize his dayor night or anything
5. but in that same moment gives the distinct impression that if hecould have you well, its as if it would change the world.
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Decoding Female Logic
they want to feel comfortableand secure they want to feel excitedand aroused they want to feel engagedand enchanted
lets look at all of this in the context of female sexualattraction
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Engagement + Arousal + Comfort
engagement = active interest and participation insomeone elses life
curiosity, potential future outcomes,chasing a shiny object,
arousal = emotional preparedness for mating being desired, laughing and feeling good, physical stimulation,
fear
comfort = emotional state of assuredness, free of worry trust in reputation, similar value systems, empathy, vulnerability
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One Word to Rule Them All: Confidence
safe, yet mysteriously arousing A feeling of self-assurance arising
from ones self-appreciation of onesown abilities or qualities. confidence with women:
self-appreciation of who you uniquely are self-appreciation of your own life and what you can add to others self-appreciation of your ability to make women feel good sharing these things with women in a way that adds value
Interest &Enchantment
Attraction &Arousal
Fear
DiscomfortAnnoyance
Boredom
Comfort
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The Value of Being a Nice Guy
Fear
Discomfort
Hostility
Annoyance
Boredom
Comfort
it makes them feel comfort But no strength in your masculinity
it doesnt excite them
all of his actions indicate the he doesnt feel that henaturally deserves her sexually
caveat: it can work with some insecure girls, or womenwho are looking to settle down
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The Value of Being a Jerk
his aloofness and non-needinessare not genuine confidence, butmay feel that way to a woman
if he is dominant, it is very exciting,potentially arousal-inducing
you cannot be a jerk without being dominant the DYD effect: cocky/funny and closed off
women arent attracted to the fact that hes a jerk,theyre attracted to the strong qualities he possesses
Attraction& Arousal
Fear
Discomfort
Hostility
Annoyance
Boredom
Excitement
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The Value of Looks, Cars, Money, etc.
indicators of value
sometimes forms of stimulation
some women have specific preferences identity: Ill only date rich guys in finance
sometimes, but rarely, lead to sex and relationships the virgin male model the hapless but rich investment banker
Interest &Enchantment
Fear
Discomfort
Hostility
Annoyance
Boredom
SPECIFIC
VALUE
FILTER
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The Value of Your Words
your words are an expression of your confidence andpersonality
emotionally stimulating used to trigger arousal used to create comfort used to engage her
learning what to say and do isimportant not making social errors and lowering the value of the place
dont get hung up on perfection - mediocre words from aconfident man always triumph over hilarity from a wimp
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The Value of Sex
the extreme of arousal: they take immense pleasurefrom sex the go mechanism: arousal or no arousal
except for rare instances, having sex means thinkingahead the no mechanism: comfort or no comfort the less arousing you are, the more interesting you must be to
them with respect to their specific preferences
sex is a big deal, but not a big deal with the right man the right man = the man who quickly stimulates intrigue, arousal
and comfort
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Different Women Value Different Things
different places in lives, different goals and values criteria: humor vs. dominance
different sensitivities to arousal and comfort
different willingness to commit
dont make the mistake of thinking that all women have to betaken through the same courtship process
dont make the mistake of thinking that any woman can bestolen with good game
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Tests for Confidence and High Value
can he stand up to the pressures of the world?
different types of tests originating out of respect and passion originating out of insecurity and fear of loss
examples of tests
token resistance to kisses why didnt you stand up to your boss at work? why dont you say you love me?
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Female Psychology: A Summary
women look for confidence and high value to feelengagement, comfort, and arousal
different women seek different types of men become a naturally attractive, confident, social man remove the blocks that prevent you from connecting with women you will rarely win on being interesting and appealing to their
preferences alone
they want a man who deserves them, and will test for itto know that their arousal and comfort is for real