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What Do Women Want?

to feel like a woman

in the words of a female friend talking about her ideal man:1. he could knock someone out but probably wont today or anything2. hes a little mischievous... knows some sort of secret that you

dont even know you want to know yet

3. he has already envisioned pulling your hair really hard, and figuredout that youd like it regardless of what you think

4. hes self-content doesnt need your approval to legitimize his dayor night or anything

5. but in that same moment gives the distinct impression that if hecould have you well, its as if it would change the world.

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Decoding Female Logic

they want to feel comfortableand secure they want to feel excitedand aroused they want to feel engagedand enchanted

lets look at all of this in the context of female sexualattraction

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Engagement + Arousal + Comfort

engagement = active interest and participation insomeone elses life

curiosity, potential future outcomes,chasing a shiny object,

arousal = emotional preparedness for mating being desired, laughing and feeling good, physical stimulation,

fear

comfort = emotional state of assuredness, free of worry trust in reputation, similar value systems, empathy, vulnerability

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One Word to Rule Them All: Confidence

safe, yet mysteriously arousing A feeling of self-assurance arising

from ones self-appreciation of onesown abilities or qualities. confidence with women:

self-appreciation of who you uniquely are self-appreciation of your own life and what you can add to others self-appreciation of your ability to make women feel good sharing these things with women in a way that adds value

Interest &Enchantment

Attraction &Arousal

Fear

DiscomfortAnnoyance

Boredom

Comfort

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The Value of Being a Nice Guy

Fear

Discomfort

Hostility

Annoyance

Boredom

Comfort

it makes them feel comfort But no strength in your masculinity

it doesnt excite them

all of his actions indicate the he doesnt feel that henaturally deserves her sexually

caveat: it can work with some insecure girls, or womenwho are looking to settle down

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The Value of Being a Jerk

his aloofness and non-needinessare not genuine confidence, butmay feel that way to a woman

if he is dominant, it is very exciting,potentially arousal-inducing

you cannot be a jerk without being dominant the DYD effect: cocky/funny and closed off

women arent attracted to the fact that hes a jerk,theyre attracted to the strong qualities he possesses

Attraction& Arousal

Fear

Discomfort

Hostility

Annoyance

Boredom

Excitement

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The Value of Looks, Cars, Money, etc.

indicators of value

sometimes forms of stimulation

some women have specific preferences identity: Ill only date rich guys in finance

sometimes, but rarely, lead to sex and relationships the virgin male model the hapless but rich investment banker

Interest &Enchantment

Fear

Discomfort

Hostility

Annoyance

Boredom

SPECIFIC

VALUE

FILTER

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The Value of Your Words

your words are an expression of your confidence andpersonality

emotionally stimulating used to trigger arousal used to create comfort used to engage her

learning what to say and do isimportant not making social errors and lowering the value of the place

dont get hung up on perfection - mediocre words from aconfident man always triumph over hilarity from a wimp

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The Value of Sex

the extreme of arousal: they take immense pleasurefrom sex the go mechanism: arousal or no arousal

except for rare instances, having sex means thinkingahead the no mechanism: comfort or no comfort the less arousing you are, the more interesting you must be to

them with respect to their specific preferences

sex is a big deal, but not a big deal with the right man the right man = the man who quickly stimulates intrigue, arousal

and comfort

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Different Women Value Different Things

different places in lives, different goals and values criteria: humor vs. dominance

different sensitivities to arousal and comfort

different willingness to commit

dont make the mistake of thinking that all women have to betaken through the same courtship process

dont make the mistake of thinking that any woman can bestolen with good game

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Tests for Confidence and High Value

can he stand up to the pressures of the world?

different types of tests originating out of respect and passion originating out of insecurity and fear of loss

examples of tests

token resistance to kisses why didnt you stand up to your boss at work? why dont you say you love me?

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Female Psychology: A Summary

women look for confidence and high value to feelengagement, comfort, and arousal

different women seek different types of men become a naturally attractive, confident, social man remove the blocks that prevent you from connecting with women you will rarely win on being interesting and appealing to their

preferences alone

they want a man who deserves them, and will test for itto know that their arousal and comfort is for real