Sample chapter from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Power
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TRANSFORMING PAIN
INTO POWER
Making the Most
of Your Emotions
by Doris Helge PhD
Amazoncom 1
Bestselling Book
Shimoda Publishing
Second Edition
copy 2012 2010 1998
Thank you for requesting this information This document includes the following materialexcerpted with permission from Transforming Pain Into Power Second Edition byDoris Helge PhD copy 2012 2010 1998
You may share this information with other people as long as you share the entire fileintact including this credit page
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 3
TRANSFORMING PAIN INTO POWERMaking the Most of Your Emotions
by Doris Helge PhDAll rights reserved No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any formor by any means graphic electronic or mechanical including photocopying recordingor by any information storage and retrieval system without written permission from theauthor except for the inclusion of brief quotations in a review
copy 2012 20101998 by Doris Helge
Published by Shimoda Publishing1225 E Sunset 317Bellingham WA 98226-3529
Cover Design Carey Klein Illustrations Leslie Lewis
Printed and bound in the United States of America10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1
Publisherrsquos Cataloging in Publication(Prepared by Quality Books Inc)
Helge DorisTransforming pain into power making the most of your emotions by DorisHelgep cmIncludes bibliographic references and indexPreassigned LCCN 96-69333ISBN 1-8855-98-88-2 (pbk) $16951 Self-actualization (Psychology) 2 EmotionsmdashTherapeutic use 3 Attitude(Psychology) 4 Choice (Psychology)
I TitleBF637S4H45 1997 158rsquo1
QBI96-40351
WARNINGmdashDISCLAIMER
This book is designed to provide information regarding the subject matter covered It is sold with theunderstanding that the publisher and author are not engaged in rendering legal psychological orother professional services If legal psychological or other expert assistance is required the servicesof a competent professional should be sought
It is not the purpose of this publication to reprint all of the information that is otherwise available to theauthor or publisher but to complement other texts You are urged to read all of the available materiallearn as much as posible and tailor the information to your individual needs
Every effort has been made to make this document as complete and accurate as possible Its purposeis to provide an additional point of view for educational purposes The author and publisher shall haveneither liability nor responsibility to any person or entity with respect to any loss or damage causedor alleged to be caused directly or indirectly by information in this book
IF YOU DO NOT WISH TO BE BOUND BY THE ABOVE YOU MAY RETURN THIS BOOK TO THEPUBLISHER IN GOOD CONDITION FOR A FULL REFUND
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 4
DedicationThis book is dedicated to the liberation of the people on thisplanet Once tasted we all hunger voraciously for a level offreedom that can only be gained by accepting responsibility forour own lives The bliss that it provides to us generates a drivebeyond any description other than we just want more of who wereally are My dream is that we will awaken one incredible dayand discover that we are living in harmony with each other Wewill have so much self-love that we treat every living thing withthe utmost respect They are all aspects of ourselves
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 5
CONTENTS
Testimonials From Readers of the First Edition iDedication ixAbout The Author xAcknowledgments xiGoing The DistancemdashWithout Resistance xiii
1 New Pieces for the Puzzle of Life12 Change Is GainmdashNot Pain 73 Allow The Creative Powers Within You To Explode
With An Awesome Force214 Why Are We So Afraid Of Our Emotions 355 From Blame And Judgment To Empowerment 576 Polarities Fully Experiencing Life897 Truth In A Bottle 1018 Mining The Gold In The Darkness1099 Upside Down And Backward 125
10 Cautions About Affirmations And Visualization 14511 Emotions Who Needs lsquoEm16312 Irsquoll Deal With It Later 18513 Looking Back From The Future 19314 Let Life Touch You 19715 How Do I Know When Irsquom Really Feeling21716 What Happens When Irsquom ldquoSo Closerdquo To Having
More Of What I Want 23317 Express Your Way To
Your Freedom And Wholeness 26118 Please Tell Me The Outcome Before I Decide To
Take The Risk 273vii
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19 How To Build Your Bridges 28320 Examples Of Expressive Techniques 31121 Transforming Pain Into Powermdash
The Story Of A Water Droplet 32322 A Parting Message From The Author335
Glossary 339Index359Bibliography365
LIST OF FIGURES
Figure 1Old Paradigm68
Figure 2We Endure Life And Feel Isolated FromOurselves And Each Other 70
Figure 3New Paradigm 72
Figure 4The Self-Perpetuating Process Of Self-TrustAnd Self-Love That Ensues When We MakeConscious Choices Without Self-Judgment 77
Figure 5Polarity Map96
Figure 6Personal Growth Funnel246
Figure 7Building A Bridge From Where We Are NowTo Where We Are Going 267
Figure 8Point Zero 299
viii
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Going the Distance ndashWithout the Resistance
Do you know anyone who has repeated the same painful ex-perience over and over
Why would we all have painful events in our lives if they didnrsquotserve us in some way
Would you like to learn how to stop trying to change thingsabout yourself and your lifendashndashand experience spontaneouschange
Yoursquoll Find Special Value in This Book if Yoursquove ever tried to release or let go of ldquoneg-
ativerdquo emotions such as anger fear or sad-ness only to find them returning to your door-step
Yoursquod like even more valuable tools for yourpersonal growth toolbox
Yoursquod like to USE your emotions to create a-bundant energy rewarding relationshipsand improved health
Yoursquod appreciate new ways to handle stressat work and at home
Use This Book to Drop self-judgments Allow yourself to be as powerful (capable) as
you really are Learn to USE painful experiencesndashndashinstead
of feeling used by them Safely and constructively experience anger
fear and sadnessndashndashand watch them spon-taneously change into love happiness andself-confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 8
Develop so much self-love that your relation-ships reflect that back to you
Discover that anger sadness and fear arejust raw neutral energy you can use to im-prove your life
Learn new ways to handle your frustrationsat work instead of lugging them homendashndashandprotect your immune system in the process
Develop your innate emotional power
This Book Offers Unique Tools That Will Help YouDiscover
Why there is nothing wrong with your life Why nothing about you needs to be fixed or
changed How all of your experiences and emotions
are essential for your personal growthndashndashandyour happiness
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 9
Chapter One
New Pieces For The Puzzle of Life
Birth canals are small uncomfortable passageways that simul-taneously produce almost indescribable pain and joy Wersquorealways giving birth to new aspects of ourselves We walk downfrightening paths so we can discover new layers of confidenceOur self-doubts arise so we can give birth to higher degrees ofself-love and empowerment When an uncomfortable feelingsuch as anger fear or sadness rears its head most of us wantto numb disguise or deny itmdashanything to get rid of it Thatdoesnrsquot work
We travel down the path of life only to discover that our feelingscontinue to demand our attention Since we didnrsquot heed their callthe first time they scream louder Our painful situations magnifyso we can gain the personal growth available from them
Have you ever known someone who left an unpleasant job orrelationship only to re-create it Although the characters andsetting change the new situation is very similar to the old Icannot tell you how many clients have moaned because oncea job or personal honeymoon was over they woke up with thestark realization ldquoThe people involved have different names thistime but Irsquove been in this situation before Yikes Itrsquos even worsethan last timerdquo
The popular recommendation is to counteract insecurities byldquofaking it lsquotil you make itrdquo This may temporarily suit our desire notto feel uncomfortable but itrsquos not a long-term solution If it werethe answer we wouldnrsquot have to keep faking it The messagesin this book can help you ldquomake itrdquo and the methods for doingso are field-tested You can create permanent positive changeinstead of settling for Band-Aids
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 10
Keep in mind that the suggestions in this book are based oncase studies with both genders and with people in all walks oflife from teenagers to senior citizens Irsquove worked with personsof extraordinary achievement levels and those who consideredthemselves low achievers
I also know the techniques work because Irsquove used them for manyyears There was a time in my professional speaking career thatI had spoken to several hundred people at a time but never toseveral thousand Because speaking to a larger crowd was a newchallenge my insecurities became apparent close to curtain timeWhen a runner came backstage to announce ldquoGuess how manytickets have been soldrdquo I didnrsquot share his enthusiasm Insteadmy self-doubt soared Rather than lying to myself about how Ifelt I allowed myself to be aware of what existedmdashan agonizingsense of unworthiness and the fear that I would go ldquobrain deadrdquoon stage The thought ldquoI have nothing of value to offer themrdquowafted through my consciousness even though I knew betterThe sensations were quite intense
Now for the good news Just as I advocate in this book thatwas the ticket to my freedom I fully experienced the feelings ofinsecurity allowing myself to sink to the ldquobottom of the bottomrdquo(see Figure 5 chapter 6) Itrsquos important to note that this processtook very little time By the time I needed to walk out on stageI felt more self-confident than I ever had Now I can speak tolarge crowds without feelings of self-doubt and unworthinesssurfacing
Why didnrsquot the process take very long Because we really do loveourselves enough to provide our next challenge We donrsquot brutallyshove ourselves farther out on a limb than itrsquos beneficial for usto go As Figure 5 chapter 6 indicates we meet our challenges(including feeling difficult emotions) by degrees You can use thematerial in this book to prove this principle to yourself
Itlsquos important to understand that pain and pleasure are side byside in our brains If we allow our unpleasant feelings (in this case
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fear and self-doubt) to be experienced new levels of their op-posites (higher levels of self-confidence and self-love) are im-mediately available to us Our ldquogremlinsrdquo are merely tools for ourpersonal growth They can only be ldquoconqueredrdquo by befriendingthem because they truly are our friends They are leading us tohigher levels of self-actualization even though the sensationsthey produce are sometimes uncomfortable
If I had attempted to dodge the challenge (denied my fear) Iwould have re-created the scenario latermdashin a magnified mannerThe anxiety level and the challenge would have felt even moreintense When we choose to work with uncomfortable feelingsthe first time they surface we shorten the time wersquore engagedin a particular challenge We leap into a new level of self-loveand happiness
I have shared the above example with you because many studiesindicate that public speaking is the worst fear of many people andsecond only to a dental visit for other individuals The true storyillustrates that the process of transforming pain into power canbe much quicker than we sometimes think Itrsquos not an endlessjourney and the rewards are amazing When we allow ourselvesto complete the personal growth spiral depicted in Figure 5chapter 6 wersquore ready for new challenges instead of continuingto battle the same insecurities over and over
Please note that I experienced instead of judged the feelingseven though they were quite uncomfortable Resisting or re-pressing emotions causes them to park their RVs turn on theirgenerators and plan to spend more time with us Saying helloto them creates a gentle beautiful transition Negative emotionsspontaneously transform into their opposites
In addition the effects of hiding from our pain can have tremen-dous implications for our health When we repress our feelingswe stifle the flow of energy in our bodies We inadvertently sup-press our immune systems We perceive events as more stressfulthan they really are We feel confused and less connected to
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those we love Whether wersquore avoiding our anger or our love theprice of our unwillingness to be honest about our feelings canbe quite high On the other hand allowing life to touch us hastremendous benefits
Studies that chemically analyzed tears indicated that teardropscleanse stress hormones so we feel less fatigued after cryingOur sobs are an innate gift because tears assist the body inwashing away toxins Many recent studies have explored whymen tend to die seven years earlier than women Researchersnoted that most men seldom cry Even when they allow tears towell up in their eyes they rarely shed these very precious innaterejuvenators It seems that we forgot to tell our little boys thatthe strongest treesmdashthose that tend to live the longestmdashbendwith the wind
Many women would rather cry or feel hurt than express angerJust as men were told ldquoBig boys donrsquot cryrdquo most women wereconditioned to believe that anger is unbecoming or ldquonot lady-likerdquoSome women fear anger because they have been in hurtful situ-ations when others were enraged Some women take pride inthe fact that they put the needs of others before their own but they secretly resent doing so
Gender-related patterns of hidden anger or sadness are asso-ciated with the physical diseases we tend to develop Recentstudies have examined why women tend to develop higher per-centages of chronic fatigue syndrome fibromyalgia and arthritiswhile men have higher percentages of other diseases such asheart attacks
Many people advocate releasing or letting go of painful experi-ences or emotions Feelings such as anger sadness and fearare often labeled ldquonegativerdquo or ldquotoxicrdquo Yet our creator placedpain and pleasure side by side in our brains Anger cuddled nextto love peace and happiness Fear nestled next to confidenceSadness snuggled up to joy
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The objective of always operating from love and joy is admirableyet most of us would like to omit a step that is essential beforewe can reach that point The physiology of the brain allows us toexperience the feelings we dislike when theyrsquore already present or cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to experience theiroppositesmdashlike love and happiness
Consider the example of angerndashndashpassion for ourselves the desirefor a better life Our frustration may feel like a voice screaminginto a megaphone ldquoI deserve better than thatrdquo or ldquoI want moreout of liferdquo When we embrace anger (experience it) moreself-love appears Once we express our irritations in a safe andconstructive way we discover wersquove been angry with ourselvesbecause we placed ourselves in an unfavorable situation Westop blaming other people Our compassion for them increasesForgiveness becomes automatic
Most parents love their children too much to try to protect themfrom painful learning experiences Wise parents shield theirchildren from unnecessary pain or danger by teaching themhow to be physically safe and develop decision-making skillsHowever parents with foresight know that efforts to guard theirchildren from any pain would cheat them out of developing theirabilities to meet life on its own terms They would grow up asshallow adults totally unprepared to solve problems or empowerthemselves by meeting new challenges The same is true for usas adults This book can assist you in finding value in all of yourpainful experiences
Discover the hidden gifts of anger empowerment and self-loveFind out how energizingndashndashand even funndashndashit can be to safely andconstructively experience your frustrations Learn how to protectyour health and your relationships during the process
Learn to feel the sweet memories hidden within your deepestgrief Discover what a friend your fear is Like the first robin ofspring it arrives to announce the imminent arrival of somethingworth celebratingmdashyour new layers of confidence
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Complacency creates stagnation Challenges create the insightswe need so we can enjoy a life rich in meaning joy on the joband rewarding relationships
Once we discover how to work with the flow of life instead ofresisting and judging unpleasant events or emotions wersquore freeWe know how to use discomfort to our advantage We effortlesslylaunch ourselves into higher highs than we ever dreamed werepossible
Discover how to allow your discomfort to drive you onward
Where there is fear there is self-confidence Where there is pain there is power Where there is anger there is love Where there is sadness there is joy Where there are no victims there can be no tyrants The road to pain is paved with our judgments and
expectations The road to success is paved with ldquofailuresrdquo Emotions are our personal language sensations
energy in motion
If you want even more happiness and love in your life allow lifeto touch you
CautionThis book can empower you to deal with the self-doubt and fearsthat surface when we approach new challenges You will soonlearn that fear is a formidable source of new power
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Why You Need This BookYou may have seen Dr Doris Your Joy amp Success Coachinterviewed on The Today Show CNN and NPR Doris HelgePhD is author of Amazoncom 1 Bestsellers like Joy on theJob Transforming Pain Into Power and Conquer Your InnerCritic Doris has helped thousands of people like you claim morehappiness and success Her books have been published in manyforeign languages
A licensed Master Certified Coach and Mentor Coach Doriswas named One of the Top Ten Coaches in America at arecent event in the FedEx office in Manhattan New York
Doris everlasting supply of joy springs from her own personalgrowth so shes a natural at helping you transform troublesomeissues into peace and personal power She has a unique intuitiveability to perceive whats been blocking your success andhappiness so you can quickly and easily resolve it With Dorishelp and respect for perfect timing your joy blocks are releasedwith gentleness and love
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Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
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ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 2
TRANSFORMING PAIN
INTO POWER
Making the Most
of Your Emotions
by Doris Helge PhD
Amazoncom 1
Bestselling Book
Shimoda Publishing
Second Edition
copy 2012 2010 1998
Thank you for requesting this information This document includes the following materialexcerpted with permission from Transforming Pain Into Power Second Edition byDoris Helge PhD copy 2012 2010 1998
You may share this information with other people as long as you share the entire fileintact including this credit page
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 3
TRANSFORMING PAIN INTO POWERMaking the Most of Your Emotions
by Doris Helge PhDAll rights reserved No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any formor by any means graphic electronic or mechanical including photocopying recordingor by any information storage and retrieval system without written permission from theauthor except for the inclusion of brief quotations in a review
copy 2012 20101998 by Doris Helge
Published by Shimoda Publishing1225 E Sunset 317Bellingham WA 98226-3529
Cover Design Carey Klein Illustrations Leslie Lewis
Printed and bound in the United States of America10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1
Publisherrsquos Cataloging in Publication(Prepared by Quality Books Inc)
Helge DorisTransforming pain into power making the most of your emotions by DorisHelgep cmIncludes bibliographic references and indexPreassigned LCCN 96-69333ISBN 1-8855-98-88-2 (pbk) $16951 Self-actualization (Psychology) 2 EmotionsmdashTherapeutic use 3 Attitude(Psychology) 4 Choice (Psychology)
I TitleBF637S4H45 1997 158rsquo1
QBI96-40351
WARNINGmdashDISCLAIMER
This book is designed to provide information regarding the subject matter covered It is sold with theunderstanding that the publisher and author are not engaged in rendering legal psychological orother professional services If legal psychological or other expert assistance is required the servicesof a competent professional should be sought
It is not the purpose of this publication to reprint all of the information that is otherwise available to theauthor or publisher but to complement other texts You are urged to read all of the available materiallearn as much as posible and tailor the information to your individual needs
Every effort has been made to make this document as complete and accurate as possible Its purposeis to provide an additional point of view for educational purposes The author and publisher shall haveneither liability nor responsibility to any person or entity with respect to any loss or damage causedor alleged to be caused directly or indirectly by information in this book
IF YOU DO NOT WISH TO BE BOUND BY THE ABOVE YOU MAY RETURN THIS BOOK TO THEPUBLISHER IN GOOD CONDITION FOR A FULL REFUND
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 4
DedicationThis book is dedicated to the liberation of the people on thisplanet Once tasted we all hunger voraciously for a level offreedom that can only be gained by accepting responsibility forour own lives The bliss that it provides to us generates a drivebeyond any description other than we just want more of who wereally are My dream is that we will awaken one incredible dayand discover that we are living in harmony with each other Wewill have so much self-love that we treat every living thing withthe utmost respect They are all aspects of ourselves
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 5
CONTENTS
Testimonials From Readers of the First Edition iDedication ixAbout The Author xAcknowledgments xiGoing The DistancemdashWithout Resistance xiii
1 New Pieces for the Puzzle of Life12 Change Is GainmdashNot Pain 73 Allow The Creative Powers Within You To Explode
With An Awesome Force214 Why Are We So Afraid Of Our Emotions 355 From Blame And Judgment To Empowerment 576 Polarities Fully Experiencing Life897 Truth In A Bottle 1018 Mining The Gold In The Darkness1099 Upside Down And Backward 125
10 Cautions About Affirmations And Visualization 14511 Emotions Who Needs lsquoEm16312 Irsquoll Deal With It Later 18513 Looking Back From The Future 19314 Let Life Touch You 19715 How Do I Know When Irsquom Really Feeling21716 What Happens When Irsquom ldquoSo Closerdquo To Having
More Of What I Want 23317 Express Your Way To
Your Freedom And Wholeness 26118 Please Tell Me The Outcome Before I Decide To
Take The Risk 273vii
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 6
19 How To Build Your Bridges 28320 Examples Of Expressive Techniques 31121 Transforming Pain Into Powermdash
The Story Of A Water Droplet 32322 A Parting Message From The Author335
Glossary 339Index359Bibliography365
LIST OF FIGURES
Figure 1Old Paradigm68
Figure 2We Endure Life And Feel Isolated FromOurselves And Each Other 70
Figure 3New Paradigm 72
Figure 4The Self-Perpetuating Process Of Self-TrustAnd Self-Love That Ensues When We MakeConscious Choices Without Self-Judgment 77
Figure 5Polarity Map96
Figure 6Personal Growth Funnel246
Figure 7Building A Bridge From Where We Are NowTo Where We Are Going 267
Figure 8Point Zero 299
viii
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 7
Going the Distance ndashWithout the Resistance
Do you know anyone who has repeated the same painful ex-perience over and over
Why would we all have painful events in our lives if they didnrsquotserve us in some way
Would you like to learn how to stop trying to change thingsabout yourself and your lifendashndashand experience spontaneouschange
Yoursquoll Find Special Value in This Book if Yoursquove ever tried to release or let go of ldquoneg-
ativerdquo emotions such as anger fear or sad-ness only to find them returning to your door-step
Yoursquod like even more valuable tools for yourpersonal growth toolbox
Yoursquod like to USE your emotions to create a-bundant energy rewarding relationshipsand improved health
Yoursquod appreciate new ways to handle stressat work and at home
Use This Book to Drop self-judgments Allow yourself to be as powerful (capable) as
you really are Learn to USE painful experiencesndashndashinstead
of feeling used by them Safely and constructively experience anger
fear and sadnessndashndashand watch them spon-taneously change into love happiness andself-confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 8
Develop so much self-love that your relation-ships reflect that back to you
Discover that anger sadness and fear arejust raw neutral energy you can use to im-prove your life
Learn new ways to handle your frustrationsat work instead of lugging them homendashndashandprotect your immune system in the process
Develop your innate emotional power
This Book Offers Unique Tools That Will Help YouDiscover
Why there is nothing wrong with your life Why nothing about you needs to be fixed or
changed How all of your experiences and emotions
are essential for your personal growthndashndashandyour happiness
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 9
Chapter One
New Pieces For The Puzzle of Life
Birth canals are small uncomfortable passageways that simul-taneously produce almost indescribable pain and joy Wersquorealways giving birth to new aspects of ourselves We walk downfrightening paths so we can discover new layers of confidenceOur self-doubts arise so we can give birth to higher degrees ofself-love and empowerment When an uncomfortable feelingsuch as anger fear or sadness rears its head most of us wantto numb disguise or deny itmdashanything to get rid of it Thatdoesnrsquot work
We travel down the path of life only to discover that our feelingscontinue to demand our attention Since we didnrsquot heed their callthe first time they scream louder Our painful situations magnifyso we can gain the personal growth available from them
Have you ever known someone who left an unpleasant job orrelationship only to re-create it Although the characters andsetting change the new situation is very similar to the old Icannot tell you how many clients have moaned because oncea job or personal honeymoon was over they woke up with thestark realization ldquoThe people involved have different names thistime but Irsquove been in this situation before Yikes Itrsquos even worsethan last timerdquo
The popular recommendation is to counteract insecurities byldquofaking it lsquotil you make itrdquo This may temporarily suit our desire notto feel uncomfortable but itrsquos not a long-term solution If it werethe answer we wouldnrsquot have to keep faking it The messagesin this book can help you ldquomake itrdquo and the methods for doingso are field-tested You can create permanent positive changeinstead of settling for Band-Aids
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 10
Keep in mind that the suggestions in this book are based oncase studies with both genders and with people in all walks oflife from teenagers to senior citizens Irsquove worked with personsof extraordinary achievement levels and those who consideredthemselves low achievers
I also know the techniques work because Irsquove used them for manyyears There was a time in my professional speaking career thatI had spoken to several hundred people at a time but never toseveral thousand Because speaking to a larger crowd was a newchallenge my insecurities became apparent close to curtain timeWhen a runner came backstage to announce ldquoGuess how manytickets have been soldrdquo I didnrsquot share his enthusiasm Insteadmy self-doubt soared Rather than lying to myself about how Ifelt I allowed myself to be aware of what existedmdashan agonizingsense of unworthiness and the fear that I would go ldquobrain deadrdquoon stage The thought ldquoI have nothing of value to offer themrdquowafted through my consciousness even though I knew betterThe sensations were quite intense
Now for the good news Just as I advocate in this book thatwas the ticket to my freedom I fully experienced the feelings ofinsecurity allowing myself to sink to the ldquobottom of the bottomrdquo(see Figure 5 chapter 6) Itrsquos important to note that this processtook very little time By the time I needed to walk out on stageI felt more self-confident than I ever had Now I can speak tolarge crowds without feelings of self-doubt and unworthinesssurfacing
Why didnrsquot the process take very long Because we really do loveourselves enough to provide our next challenge We donrsquot brutallyshove ourselves farther out on a limb than itrsquos beneficial for usto go As Figure 5 chapter 6 indicates we meet our challenges(including feeling difficult emotions) by degrees You can use thematerial in this book to prove this principle to yourself
Itlsquos important to understand that pain and pleasure are side byside in our brains If we allow our unpleasant feelings (in this case
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 11
fear and self-doubt) to be experienced new levels of their op-posites (higher levels of self-confidence and self-love) are im-mediately available to us Our ldquogremlinsrdquo are merely tools for ourpersonal growth They can only be ldquoconqueredrdquo by befriendingthem because they truly are our friends They are leading us tohigher levels of self-actualization even though the sensationsthey produce are sometimes uncomfortable
If I had attempted to dodge the challenge (denied my fear) Iwould have re-created the scenario latermdashin a magnified mannerThe anxiety level and the challenge would have felt even moreintense When we choose to work with uncomfortable feelingsthe first time they surface we shorten the time wersquore engagedin a particular challenge We leap into a new level of self-loveand happiness
I have shared the above example with you because many studiesindicate that public speaking is the worst fear of many people andsecond only to a dental visit for other individuals The true storyillustrates that the process of transforming pain into power canbe much quicker than we sometimes think Itrsquos not an endlessjourney and the rewards are amazing When we allow ourselvesto complete the personal growth spiral depicted in Figure 5chapter 6 wersquore ready for new challenges instead of continuingto battle the same insecurities over and over
Please note that I experienced instead of judged the feelingseven though they were quite uncomfortable Resisting or re-pressing emotions causes them to park their RVs turn on theirgenerators and plan to spend more time with us Saying helloto them creates a gentle beautiful transition Negative emotionsspontaneously transform into their opposites
In addition the effects of hiding from our pain can have tremen-dous implications for our health When we repress our feelingswe stifle the flow of energy in our bodies We inadvertently sup-press our immune systems We perceive events as more stressfulthan they really are We feel confused and less connected to
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 12
those we love Whether wersquore avoiding our anger or our love theprice of our unwillingness to be honest about our feelings canbe quite high On the other hand allowing life to touch us hastremendous benefits
Studies that chemically analyzed tears indicated that teardropscleanse stress hormones so we feel less fatigued after cryingOur sobs are an innate gift because tears assist the body inwashing away toxins Many recent studies have explored whymen tend to die seven years earlier than women Researchersnoted that most men seldom cry Even when they allow tears towell up in their eyes they rarely shed these very precious innaterejuvenators It seems that we forgot to tell our little boys thatthe strongest treesmdashthose that tend to live the longestmdashbendwith the wind
Many women would rather cry or feel hurt than express angerJust as men were told ldquoBig boys donrsquot cryrdquo most women wereconditioned to believe that anger is unbecoming or ldquonot lady-likerdquoSome women fear anger because they have been in hurtful situ-ations when others were enraged Some women take pride inthe fact that they put the needs of others before their own but they secretly resent doing so
Gender-related patterns of hidden anger or sadness are asso-ciated with the physical diseases we tend to develop Recentstudies have examined why women tend to develop higher per-centages of chronic fatigue syndrome fibromyalgia and arthritiswhile men have higher percentages of other diseases such asheart attacks
Many people advocate releasing or letting go of painful experi-ences or emotions Feelings such as anger sadness and fearare often labeled ldquonegativerdquo or ldquotoxicrdquo Yet our creator placedpain and pleasure side by side in our brains Anger cuddled nextto love peace and happiness Fear nestled next to confidenceSadness snuggled up to joy
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 13
The objective of always operating from love and joy is admirableyet most of us would like to omit a step that is essential beforewe can reach that point The physiology of the brain allows us toexperience the feelings we dislike when theyrsquore already present or cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to experience theiroppositesmdashlike love and happiness
Consider the example of angerndashndashpassion for ourselves the desirefor a better life Our frustration may feel like a voice screaminginto a megaphone ldquoI deserve better than thatrdquo or ldquoI want moreout of liferdquo When we embrace anger (experience it) moreself-love appears Once we express our irritations in a safe andconstructive way we discover wersquove been angry with ourselvesbecause we placed ourselves in an unfavorable situation Westop blaming other people Our compassion for them increasesForgiveness becomes automatic
Most parents love their children too much to try to protect themfrom painful learning experiences Wise parents shield theirchildren from unnecessary pain or danger by teaching themhow to be physically safe and develop decision-making skillsHowever parents with foresight know that efforts to guard theirchildren from any pain would cheat them out of developing theirabilities to meet life on its own terms They would grow up asshallow adults totally unprepared to solve problems or empowerthemselves by meeting new challenges The same is true for usas adults This book can assist you in finding value in all of yourpainful experiences
Discover the hidden gifts of anger empowerment and self-loveFind out how energizingndashndashand even funndashndashit can be to safely andconstructively experience your frustrations Learn how to protectyour health and your relationships during the process
Learn to feel the sweet memories hidden within your deepestgrief Discover what a friend your fear is Like the first robin ofspring it arrives to announce the imminent arrival of somethingworth celebratingmdashyour new layers of confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 14
Complacency creates stagnation Challenges create the insightswe need so we can enjoy a life rich in meaning joy on the joband rewarding relationships
Once we discover how to work with the flow of life instead ofresisting and judging unpleasant events or emotions wersquore freeWe know how to use discomfort to our advantage We effortlesslylaunch ourselves into higher highs than we ever dreamed werepossible
Discover how to allow your discomfort to drive you onward
Where there is fear there is self-confidence Where there is pain there is power Where there is anger there is love Where there is sadness there is joy Where there are no victims there can be no tyrants The road to pain is paved with our judgments and
expectations The road to success is paved with ldquofailuresrdquo Emotions are our personal language sensations
energy in motion
If you want even more happiness and love in your life allow lifeto touch you
CautionThis book can empower you to deal with the self-doubt and fearsthat surface when we approach new challenges You will soonlearn that fear is a formidable source of new power
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 15
Why You Need This BookYou may have seen Dr Doris Your Joy amp Success Coachinterviewed on The Today Show CNN and NPR Doris HelgePhD is author of Amazoncom 1 Bestsellers like Joy on theJob Transforming Pain Into Power and Conquer Your InnerCritic Doris has helped thousands of people like you claim morehappiness and success Her books have been published in manyforeign languages
A licensed Master Certified Coach and Mentor Coach Doriswas named One of the Top Ten Coaches in America at arecent event in the FedEx office in Manhattan New York
Doris everlasting supply of joy springs from her own personalgrowth so shes a natural at helping you transform troublesomeissues into peace and personal power She has a unique intuitiveability to perceive whats been blocking your success andhappiness so you can quickly and easily resolve it With Dorishelp and respect for perfect timing your joy blocks are releasedwith gentleness and love
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Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 16
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Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 3
TRANSFORMING PAIN INTO POWERMaking the Most of Your Emotions
by Doris Helge PhDAll rights reserved No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any formor by any means graphic electronic or mechanical including photocopying recordingor by any information storage and retrieval system without written permission from theauthor except for the inclusion of brief quotations in a review
copy 2012 20101998 by Doris Helge
Published by Shimoda Publishing1225 E Sunset 317Bellingham WA 98226-3529
Cover Design Carey Klein Illustrations Leslie Lewis
Printed and bound in the United States of America10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1
Publisherrsquos Cataloging in Publication(Prepared by Quality Books Inc)
Helge DorisTransforming pain into power making the most of your emotions by DorisHelgep cmIncludes bibliographic references and indexPreassigned LCCN 96-69333ISBN 1-8855-98-88-2 (pbk) $16951 Self-actualization (Psychology) 2 EmotionsmdashTherapeutic use 3 Attitude(Psychology) 4 Choice (Psychology)
I TitleBF637S4H45 1997 158rsquo1
QBI96-40351
WARNINGmdashDISCLAIMER
This book is designed to provide information regarding the subject matter covered It is sold with theunderstanding that the publisher and author are not engaged in rendering legal psychological orother professional services If legal psychological or other expert assistance is required the servicesof a competent professional should be sought
It is not the purpose of this publication to reprint all of the information that is otherwise available to theauthor or publisher but to complement other texts You are urged to read all of the available materiallearn as much as posible and tailor the information to your individual needs
Every effort has been made to make this document as complete and accurate as possible Its purposeis to provide an additional point of view for educational purposes The author and publisher shall haveneither liability nor responsibility to any person or entity with respect to any loss or damage causedor alleged to be caused directly or indirectly by information in this book
IF YOU DO NOT WISH TO BE BOUND BY THE ABOVE YOU MAY RETURN THIS BOOK TO THEPUBLISHER IN GOOD CONDITION FOR A FULL REFUND
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 4
DedicationThis book is dedicated to the liberation of the people on thisplanet Once tasted we all hunger voraciously for a level offreedom that can only be gained by accepting responsibility forour own lives The bliss that it provides to us generates a drivebeyond any description other than we just want more of who wereally are My dream is that we will awaken one incredible dayand discover that we are living in harmony with each other Wewill have so much self-love that we treat every living thing withthe utmost respect They are all aspects of ourselves
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 5
CONTENTS
Testimonials From Readers of the First Edition iDedication ixAbout The Author xAcknowledgments xiGoing The DistancemdashWithout Resistance xiii
1 New Pieces for the Puzzle of Life12 Change Is GainmdashNot Pain 73 Allow The Creative Powers Within You To Explode
With An Awesome Force214 Why Are We So Afraid Of Our Emotions 355 From Blame And Judgment To Empowerment 576 Polarities Fully Experiencing Life897 Truth In A Bottle 1018 Mining The Gold In The Darkness1099 Upside Down And Backward 125
10 Cautions About Affirmations And Visualization 14511 Emotions Who Needs lsquoEm16312 Irsquoll Deal With It Later 18513 Looking Back From The Future 19314 Let Life Touch You 19715 How Do I Know When Irsquom Really Feeling21716 What Happens When Irsquom ldquoSo Closerdquo To Having
More Of What I Want 23317 Express Your Way To
Your Freedom And Wholeness 26118 Please Tell Me The Outcome Before I Decide To
Take The Risk 273vii
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 6
19 How To Build Your Bridges 28320 Examples Of Expressive Techniques 31121 Transforming Pain Into Powermdash
The Story Of A Water Droplet 32322 A Parting Message From The Author335
Glossary 339Index359Bibliography365
LIST OF FIGURES
Figure 1Old Paradigm68
Figure 2We Endure Life And Feel Isolated FromOurselves And Each Other 70
Figure 3New Paradigm 72
Figure 4The Self-Perpetuating Process Of Self-TrustAnd Self-Love That Ensues When We MakeConscious Choices Without Self-Judgment 77
Figure 5Polarity Map96
Figure 6Personal Growth Funnel246
Figure 7Building A Bridge From Where We Are NowTo Where We Are Going 267
Figure 8Point Zero 299
viii
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 7
Going the Distance ndashWithout the Resistance
Do you know anyone who has repeated the same painful ex-perience over and over
Why would we all have painful events in our lives if they didnrsquotserve us in some way
Would you like to learn how to stop trying to change thingsabout yourself and your lifendashndashand experience spontaneouschange
Yoursquoll Find Special Value in This Book if Yoursquove ever tried to release or let go of ldquoneg-
ativerdquo emotions such as anger fear or sad-ness only to find them returning to your door-step
Yoursquod like even more valuable tools for yourpersonal growth toolbox
Yoursquod like to USE your emotions to create a-bundant energy rewarding relationshipsand improved health
Yoursquod appreciate new ways to handle stressat work and at home
Use This Book to Drop self-judgments Allow yourself to be as powerful (capable) as
you really are Learn to USE painful experiencesndashndashinstead
of feeling used by them Safely and constructively experience anger
fear and sadnessndashndashand watch them spon-taneously change into love happiness andself-confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 8
Develop so much self-love that your relation-ships reflect that back to you
Discover that anger sadness and fear arejust raw neutral energy you can use to im-prove your life
Learn new ways to handle your frustrationsat work instead of lugging them homendashndashandprotect your immune system in the process
Develop your innate emotional power
This Book Offers Unique Tools That Will Help YouDiscover
Why there is nothing wrong with your life Why nothing about you needs to be fixed or
changed How all of your experiences and emotions
are essential for your personal growthndashndashandyour happiness
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 9
Chapter One
New Pieces For The Puzzle of Life
Birth canals are small uncomfortable passageways that simul-taneously produce almost indescribable pain and joy Wersquorealways giving birth to new aspects of ourselves We walk downfrightening paths so we can discover new layers of confidenceOur self-doubts arise so we can give birth to higher degrees ofself-love and empowerment When an uncomfortable feelingsuch as anger fear or sadness rears its head most of us wantto numb disguise or deny itmdashanything to get rid of it Thatdoesnrsquot work
We travel down the path of life only to discover that our feelingscontinue to demand our attention Since we didnrsquot heed their callthe first time they scream louder Our painful situations magnifyso we can gain the personal growth available from them
Have you ever known someone who left an unpleasant job orrelationship only to re-create it Although the characters andsetting change the new situation is very similar to the old Icannot tell you how many clients have moaned because oncea job or personal honeymoon was over they woke up with thestark realization ldquoThe people involved have different names thistime but Irsquove been in this situation before Yikes Itrsquos even worsethan last timerdquo
The popular recommendation is to counteract insecurities byldquofaking it lsquotil you make itrdquo This may temporarily suit our desire notto feel uncomfortable but itrsquos not a long-term solution If it werethe answer we wouldnrsquot have to keep faking it The messagesin this book can help you ldquomake itrdquo and the methods for doingso are field-tested You can create permanent positive changeinstead of settling for Band-Aids
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 10
Keep in mind that the suggestions in this book are based oncase studies with both genders and with people in all walks oflife from teenagers to senior citizens Irsquove worked with personsof extraordinary achievement levels and those who consideredthemselves low achievers
I also know the techniques work because Irsquove used them for manyyears There was a time in my professional speaking career thatI had spoken to several hundred people at a time but never toseveral thousand Because speaking to a larger crowd was a newchallenge my insecurities became apparent close to curtain timeWhen a runner came backstage to announce ldquoGuess how manytickets have been soldrdquo I didnrsquot share his enthusiasm Insteadmy self-doubt soared Rather than lying to myself about how Ifelt I allowed myself to be aware of what existedmdashan agonizingsense of unworthiness and the fear that I would go ldquobrain deadrdquoon stage The thought ldquoI have nothing of value to offer themrdquowafted through my consciousness even though I knew betterThe sensations were quite intense
Now for the good news Just as I advocate in this book thatwas the ticket to my freedom I fully experienced the feelings ofinsecurity allowing myself to sink to the ldquobottom of the bottomrdquo(see Figure 5 chapter 6) Itrsquos important to note that this processtook very little time By the time I needed to walk out on stageI felt more self-confident than I ever had Now I can speak tolarge crowds without feelings of self-doubt and unworthinesssurfacing
Why didnrsquot the process take very long Because we really do loveourselves enough to provide our next challenge We donrsquot brutallyshove ourselves farther out on a limb than itrsquos beneficial for usto go As Figure 5 chapter 6 indicates we meet our challenges(including feeling difficult emotions) by degrees You can use thematerial in this book to prove this principle to yourself
Itlsquos important to understand that pain and pleasure are side byside in our brains If we allow our unpleasant feelings (in this case
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 11
fear and self-doubt) to be experienced new levels of their op-posites (higher levels of self-confidence and self-love) are im-mediately available to us Our ldquogremlinsrdquo are merely tools for ourpersonal growth They can only be ldquoconqueredrdquo by befriendingthem because they truly are our friends They are leading us tohigher levels of self-actualization even though the sensationsthey produce are sometimes uncomfortable
If I had attempted to dodge the challenge (denied my fear) Iwould have re-created the scenario latermdashin a magnified mannerThe anxiety level and the challenge would have felt even moreintense When we choose to work with uncomfortable feelingsthe first time they surface we shorten the time wersquore engagedin a particular challenge We leap into a new level of self-loveand happiness
I have shared the above example with you because many studiesindicate that public speaking is the worst fear of many people andsecond only to a dental visit for other individuals The true storyillustrates that the process of transforming pain into power canbe much quicker than we sometimes think Itrsquos not an endlessjourney and the rewards are amazing When we allow ourselvesto complete the personal growth spiral depicted in Figure 5chapter 6 wersquore ready for new challenges instead of continuingto battle the same insecurities over and over
Please note that I experienced instead of judged the feelingseven though they were quite uncomfortable Resisting or re-pressing emotions causes them to park their RVs turn on theirgenerators and plan to spend more time with us Saying helloto them creates a gentle beautiful transition Negative emotionsspontaneously transform into their opposites
In addition the effects of hiding from our pain can have tremen-dous implications for our health When we repress our feelingswe stifle the flow of energy in our bodies We inadvertently sup-press our immune systems We perceive events as more stressfulthan they really are We feel confused and less connected to
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 12
those we love Whether wersquore avoiding our anger or our love theprice of our unwillingness to be honest about our feelings canbe quite high On the other hand allowing life to touch us hastremendous benefits
Studies that chemically analyzed tears indicated that teardropscleanse stress hormones so we feel less fatigued after cryingOur sobs are an innate gift because tears assist the body inwashing away toxins Many recent studies have explored whymen tend to die seven years earlier than women Researchersnoted that most men seldom cry Even when they allow tears towell up in their eyes they rarely shed these very precious innaterejuvenators It seems that we forgot to tell our little boys thatthe strongest treesmdashthose that tend to live the longestmdashbendwith the wind
Many women would rather cry or feel hurt than express angerJust as men were told ldquoBig boys donrsquot cryrdquo most women wereconditioned to believe that anger is unbecoming or ldquonot lady-likerdquoSome women fear anger because they have been in hurtful situ-ations when others were enraged Some women take pride inthe fact that they put the needs of others before their own but they secretly resent doing so
Gender-related patterns of hidden anger or sadness are asso-ciated with the physical diseases we tend to develop Recentstudies have examined why women tend to develop higher per-centages of chronic fatigue syndrome fibromyalgia and arthritiswhile men have higher percentages of other diseases such asheart attacks
Many people advocate releasing or letting go of painful experi-ences or emotions Feelings such as anger sadness and fearare often labeled ldquonegativerdquo or ldquotoxicrdquo Yet our creator placedpain and pleasure side by side in our brains Anger cuddled nextto love peace and happiness Fear nestled next to confidenceSadness snuggled up to joy
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 13
The objective of always operating from love and joy is admirableyet most of us would like to omit a step that is essential beforewe can reach that point The physiology of the brain allows us toexperience the feelings we dislike when theyrsquore already present or cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to experience theiroppositesmdashlike love and happiness
Consider the example of angerndashndashpassion for ourselves the desirefor a better life Our frustration may feel like a voice screaminginto a megaphone ldquoI deserve better than thatrdquo or ldquoI want moreout of liferdquo When we embrace anger (experience it) moreself-love appears Once we express our irritations in a safe andconstructive way we discover wersquove been angry with ourselvesbecause we placed ourselves in an unfavorable situation Westop blaming other people Our compassion for them increasesForgiveness becomes automatic
Most parents love their children too much to try to protect themfrom painful learning experiences Wise parents shield theirchildren from unnecessary pain or danger by teaching themhow to be physically safe and develop decision-making skillsHowever parents with foresight know that efforts to guard theirchildren from any pain would cheat them out of developing theirabilities to meet life on its own terms They would grow up asshallow adults totally unprepared to solve problems or empowerthemselves by meeting new challenges The same is true for usas adults This book can assist you in finding value in all of yourpainful experiences
Discover the hidden gifts of anger empowerment and self-loveFind out how energizingndashndashand even funndashndashit can be to safely andconstructively experience your frustrations Learn how to protectyour health and your relationships during the process
Learn to feel the sweet memories hidden within your deepestgrief Discover what a friend your fear is Like the first robin ofspring it arrives to announce the imminent arrival of somethingworth celebratingmdashyour new layers of confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 14
Complacency creates stagnation Challenges create the insightswe need so we can enjoy a life rich in meaning joy on the joband rewarding relationships
Once we discover how to work with the flow of life instead ofresisting and judging unpleasant events or emotions wersquore freeWe know how to use discomfort to our advantage We effortlesslylaunch ourselves into higher highs than we ever dreamed werepossible
Discover how to allow your discomfort to drive you onward
Where there is fear there is self-confidence Where there is pain there is power Where there is anger there is love Where there is sadness there is joy Where there are no victims there can be no tyrants The road to pain is paved with our judgments and
expectations The road to success is paved with ldquofailuresrdquo Emotions are our personal language sensations
energy in motion
If you want even more happiness and love in your life allow lifeto touch you
CautionThis book can empower you to deal with the self-doubt and fearsthat surface when we approach new challenges You will soonlearn that fear is a formidable source of new power
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 15
Why You Need This BookYou may have seen Dr Doris Your Joy amp Success Coachinterviewed on The Today Show CNN and NPR Doris HelgePhD is author of Amazoncom 1 Bestsellers like Joy on theJob Transforming Pain Into Power and Conquer Your InnerCritic Doris has helped thousands of people like you claim morehappiness and success Her books have been published in manyforeign languages
A licensed Master Certified Coach and Mentor Coach Doriswas named One of the Top Ten Coaches in America at arecent event in the FedEx office in Manhattan New York
Doris everlasting supply of joy springs from her own personalgrowth so shes a natural at helping you transform troublesomeissues into peace and personal power She has a unique intuitiveability to perceive whats been blocking your success andhappiness so you can quickly and easily resolve it With Dorishelp and respect for perfect timing your joy blocks are releasedwith gentleness and love
SIGN UP FOR YOUR FREE E-ZINE
Do you want to receive a steady supply of the latest and greatestways to increase your happiness and success
Subscribe to Dorisrsquo free e-zine More Joy for Me Now byvisiting httpFreeJoyEbookscom Youll love gainingfresh new ideas every month
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 16
You were born withthe right to be happy
The following books will help you discover peace joyand personal fulfillment Order your copies today
Joy on the JobOver 365 Ways to Create
the Joy and Fulfillment You DeservehttpJoyOnTheJobBookcom
Transforming Pain Into PowerMaking the Most of Your Emotions
httpTransformingPainIntoPowercom
Conquer Your Inner CriticNow
httpCoachingByDoriscominnercriticresources
Secrets of Thriving in the Midst of Difficult People
httpwwwCoachingByDoriscom
TAKE ADVANTAGE OFINDIVIDUAL OR GROUP
COACHING
Are YOU ready to become the confident empowered personyou are destined to become Sign up for your complimentaryconsultation at httpCoachingByDoriscomcontact
We guarantee youll depart from Your Personal BreakthroughSession with licensed Certified Master Coach Dr Doris withthese benefits
middot Youll enjoy crystal-clear clarity about your next best stepmiddot Youll be laser-focused on your goalmiddot Youll gain enthusiasm and a high level of energymiddot Yoursquoll feel the support and inner strength you need to go
forward with joy
SEE VIDEOS THAT WILL ELEVATEYOUR HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS
View Transforming Pain Into Power
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-transforming-pain-into-power
View Happiness At Work
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-happiness-at-work
Sample material fromTransforming Pain Into Power 17
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 18
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FREE
PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT TELECLASSES
Doris provides weekly teleclasses that help you claim morehappiness and success in all areas of your life One of the mostpopular is
Transform a Painful Relationship
Into a Powerful Partnership
If you are troubled by a painful professional or personalrelationship discover how to transform conflicts into peacefulproductive partnerships Every difficult person will eitherbecome part of your support system or youll easily neutralizetheir opposition
Discover more athttpCoachingByDoriscomempowermeteleclass
Sign up for your free test drive athttpTeleclassesWithDoriscom
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 19
Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
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ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 4
DedicationThis book is dedicated to the liberation of the people on thisplanet Once tasted we all hunger voraciously for a level offreedom that can only be gained by accepting responsibility forour own lives The bliss that it provides to us generates a drivebeyond any description other than we just want more of who wereally are My dream is that we will awaken one incredible dayand discover that we are living in harmony with each other Wewill have so much self-love that we treat every living thing withthe utmost respect They are all aspects of ourselves
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CONTENTS
Testimonials From Readers of the First Edition iDedication ixAbout The Author xAcknowledgments xiGoing The DistancemdashWithout Resistance xiii
1 New Pieces for the Puzzle of Life12 Change Is GainmdashNot Pain 73 Allow The Creative Powers Within You To Explode
With An Awesome Force214 Why Are We So Afraid Of Our Emotions 355 From Blame And Judgment To Empowerment 576 Polarities Fully Experiencing Life897 Truth In A Bottle 1018 Mining The Gold In The Darkness1099 Upside Down And Backward 125
10 Cautions About Affirmations And Visualization 14511 Emotions Who Needs lsquoEm16312 Irsquoll Deal With It Later 18513 Looking Back From The Future 19314 Let Life Touch You 19715 How Do I Know When Irsquom Really Feeling21716 What Happens When Irsquom ldquoSo Closerdquo To Having
More Of What I Want 23317 Express Your Way To
Your Freedom And Wholeness 26118 Please Tell Me The Outcome Before I Decide To
Take The Risk 273vii
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19 How To Build Your Bridges 28320 Examples Of Expressive Techniques 31121 Transforming Pain Into Powermdash
The Story Of A Water Droplet 32322 A Parting Message From The Author335
Glossary 339Index359Bibliography365
LIST OF FIGURES
Figure 1Old Paradigm68
Figure 2We Endure Life And Feel Isolated FromOurselves And Each Other 70
Figure 3New Paradigm 72
Figure 4The Self-Perpetuating Process Of Self-TrustAnd Self-Love That Ensues When We MakeConscious Choices Without Self-Judgment 77
Figure 5Polarity Map96
Figure 6Personal Growth Funnel246
Figure 7Building A Bridge From Where We Are NowTo Where We Are Going 267
Figure 8Point Zero 299
viii
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Going the Distance ndashWithout the Resistance
Do you know anyone who has repeated the same painful ex-perience over and over
Why would we all have painful events in our lives if they didnrsquotserve us in some way
Would you like to learn how to stop trying to change thingsabout yourself and your lifendashndashand experience spontaneouschange
Yoursquoll Find Special Value in This Book if Yoursquove ever tried to release or let go of ldquoneg-
ativerdquo emotions such as anger fear or sad-ness only to find them returning to your door-step
Yoursquod like even more valuable tools for yourpersonal growth toolbox
Yoursquod like to USE your emotions to create a-bundant energy rewarding relationshipsand improved health
Yoursquod appreciate new ways to handle stressat work and at home
Use This Book to Drop self-judgments Allow yourself to be as powerful (capable) as
you really are Learn to USE painful experiencesndashndashinstead
of feeling used by them Safely and constructively experience anger
fear and sadnessndashndashand watch them spon-taneously change into love happiness andself-confidence
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Develop so much self-love that your relation-ships reflect that back to you
Discover that anger sadness and fear arejust raw neutral energy you can use to im-prove your life
Learn new ways to handle your frustrationsat work instead of lugging them homendashndashandprotect your immune system in the process
Develop your innate emotional power
This Book Offers Unique Tools That Will Help YouDiscover
Why there is nothing wrong with your life Why nothing about you needs to be fixed or
changed How all of your experiences and emotions
are essential for your personal growthndashndashandyour happiness
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Chapter One
New Pieces For The Puzzle of Life
Birth canals are small uncomfortable passageways that simul-taneously produce almost indescribable pain and joy Wersquorealways giving birth to new aspects of ourselves We walk downfrightening paths so we can discover new layers of confidenceOur self-doubts arise so we can give birth to higher degrees ofself-love and empowerment When an uncomfortable feelingsuch as anger fear or sadness rears its head most of us wantto numb disguise or deny itmdashanything to get rid of it Thatdoesnrsquot work
We travel down the path of life only to discover that our feelingscontinue to demand our attention Since we didnrsquot heed their callthe first time they scream louder Our painful situations magnifyso we can gain the personal growth available from them
Have you ever known someone who left an unpleasant job orrelationship only to re-create it Although the characters andsetting change the new situation is very similar to the old Icannot tell you how many clients have moaned because oncea job or personal honeymoon was over they woke up with thestark realization ldquoThe people involved have different names thistime but Irsquove been in this situation before Yikes Itrsquos even worsethan last timerdquo
The popular recommendation is to counteract insecurities byldquofaking it lsquotil you make itrdquo This may temporarily suit our desire notto feel uncomfortable but itrsquos not a long-term solution If it werethe answer we wouldnrsquot have to keep faking it The messagesin this book can help you ldquomake itrdquo and the methods for doingso are field-tested You can create permanent positive changeinstead of settling for Band-Aids
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 10
Keep in mind that the suggestions in this book are based oncase studies with both genders and with people in all walks oflife from teenagers to senior citizens Irsquove worked with personsof extraordinary achievement levels and those who consideredthemselves low achievers
I also know the techniques work because Irsquove used them for manyyears There was a time in my professional speaking career thatI had spoken to several hundred people at a time but never toseveral thousand Because speaking to a larger crowd was a newchallenge my insecurities became apparent close to curtain timeWhen a runner came backstage to announce ldquoGuess how manytickets have been soldrdquo I didnrsquot share his enthusiasm Insteadmy self-doubt soared Rather than lying to myself about how Ifelt I allowed myself to be aware of what existedmdashan agonizingsense of unworthiness and the fear that I would go ldquobrain deadrdquoon stage The thought ldquoI have nothing of value to offer themrdquowafted through my consciousness even though I knew betterThe sensations were quite intense
Now for the good news Just as I advocate in this book thatwas the ticket to my freedom I fully experienced the feelings ofinsecurity allowing myself to sink to the ldquobottom of the bottomrdquo(see Figure 5 chapter 6) Itrsquos important to note that this processtook very little time By the time I needed to walk out on stageI felt more self-confident than I ever had Now I can speak tolarge crowds without feelings of self-doubt and unworthinesssurfacing
Why didnrsquot the process take very long Because we really do loveourselves enough to provide our next challenge We donrsquot brutallyshove ourselves farther out on a limb than itrsquos beneficial for usto go As Figure 5 chapter 6 indicates we meet our challenges(including feeling difficult emotions) by degrees You can use thematerial in this book to prove this principle to yourself
Itlsquos important to understand that pain and pleasure are side byside in our brains If we allow our unpleasant feelings (in this case
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 11
fear and self-doubt) to be experienced new levels of their op-posites (higher levels of self-confidence and self-love) are im-mediately available to us Our ldquogremlinsrdquo are merely tools for ourpersonal growth They can only be ldquoconqueredrdquo by befriendingthem because they truly are our friends They are leading us tohigher levels of self-actualization even though the sensationsthey produce are sometimes uncomfortable
If I had attempted to dodge the challenge (denied my fear) Iwould have re-created the scenario latermdashin a magnified mannerThe anxiety level and the challenge would have felt even moreintense When we choose to work with uncomfortable feelingsthe first time they surface we shorten the time wersquore engagedin a particular challenge We leap into a new level of self-loveand happiness
I have shared the above example with you because many studiesindicate that public speaking is the worst fear of many people andsecond only to a dental visit for other individuals The true storyillustrates that the process of transforming pain into power canbe much quicker than we sometimes think Itrsquos not an endlessjourney and the rewards are amazing When we allow ourselvesto complete the personal growth spiral depicted in Figure 5chapter 6 wersquore ready for new challenges instead of continuingto battle the same insecurities over and over
Please note that I experienced instead of judged the feelingseven though they were quite uncomfortable Resisting or re-pressing emotions causes them to park their RVs turn on theirgenerators and plan to spend more time with us Saying helloto them creates a gentle beautiful transition Negative emotionsspontaneously transform into their opposites
In addition the effects of hiding from our pain can have tremen-dous implications for our health When we repress our feelingswe stifle the flow of energy in our bodies We inadvertently sup-press our immune systems We perceive events as more stressfulthan they really are We feel confused and less connected to
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 12
those we love Whether wersquore avoiding our anger or our love theprice of our unwillingness to be honest about our feelings canbe quite high On the other hand allowing life to touch us hastremendous benefits
Studies that chemically analyzed tears indicated that teardropscleanse stress hormones so we feel less fatigued after cryingOur sobs are an innate gift because tears assist the body inwashing away toxins Many recent studies have explored whymen tend to die seven years earlier than women Researchersnoted that most men seldom cry Even when they allow tears towell up in their eyes they rarely shed these very precious innaterejuvenators It seems that we forgot to tell our little boys thatthe strongest treesmdashthose that tend to live the longestmdashbendwith the wind
Many women would rather cry or feel hurt than express angerJust as men were told ldquoBig boys donrsquot cryrdquo most women wereconditioned to believe that anger is unbecoming or ldquonot lady-likerdquoSome women fear anger because they have been in hurtful situ-ations when others were enraged Some women take pride inthe fact that they put the needs of others before their own but they secretly resent doing so
Gender-related patterns of hidden anger or sadness are asso-ciated with the physical diseases we tend to develop Recentstudies have examined why women tend to develop higher per-centages of chronic fatigue syndrome fibromyalgia and arthritiswhile men have higher percentages of other diseases such asheart attacks
Many people advocate releasing or letting go of painful experi-ences or emotions Feelings such as anger sadness and fearare often labeled ldquonegativerdquo or ldquotoxicrdquo Yet our creator placedpain and pleasure side by side in our brains Anger cuddled nextto love peace and happiness Fear nestled next to confidenceSadness snuggled up to joy
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 13
The objective of always operating from love and joy is admirableyet most of us would like to omit a step that is essential beforewe can reach that point The physiology of the brain allows us toexperience the feelings we dislike when theyrsquore already present or cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to experience theiroppositesmdashlike love and happiness
Consider the example of angerndashndashpassion for ourselves the desirefor a better life Our frustration may feel like a voice screaminginto a megaphone ldquoI deserve better than thatrdquo or ldquoI want moreout of liferdquo When we embrace anger (experience it) moreself-love appears Once we express our irritations in a safe andconstructive way we discover wersquove been angry with ourselvesbecause we placed ourselves in an unfavorable situation Westop blaming other people Our compassion for them increasesForgiveness becomes automatic
Most parents love their children too much to try to protect themfrom painful learning experiences Wise parents shield theirchildren from unnecessary pain or danger by teaching themhow to be physically safe and develop decision-making skillsHowever parents with foresight know that efforts to guard theirchildren from any pain would cheat them out of developing theirabilities to meet life on its own terms They would grow up asshallow adults totally unprepared to solve problems or empowerthemselves by meeting new challenges The same is true for usas adults This book can assist you in finding value in all of yourpainful experiences
Discover the hidden gifts of anger empowerment and self-loveFind out how energizingndashndashand even funndashndashit can be to safely andconstructively experience your frustrations Learn how to protectyour health and your relationships during the process
Learn to feel the sweet memories hidden within your deepestgrief Discover what a friend your fear is Like the first robin ofspring it arrives to announce the imminent arrival of somethingworth celebratingmdashyour new layers of confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 14
Complacency creates stagnation Challenges create the insightswe need so we can enjoy a life rich in meaning joy on the joband rewarding relationships
Once we discover how to work with the flow of life instead ofresisting and judging unpleasant events or emotions wersquore freeWe know how to use discomfort to our advantage We effortlesslylaunch ourselves into higher highs than we ever dreamed werepossible
Discover how to allow your discomfort to drive you onward
Where there is fear there is self-confidence Where there is pain there is power Where there is anger there is love Where there is sadness there is joy Where there are no victims there can be no tyrants The road to pain is paved with our judgments and
expectations The road to success is paved with ldquofailuresrdquo Emotions are our personal language sensations
energy in motion
If you want even more happiness and love in your life allow lifeto touch you
CautionThis book can empower you to deal with the self-doubt and fearsthat surface when we approach new challenges You will soonlearn that fear is a formidable source of new power
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 15
Why You Need This BookYou may have seen Dr Doris Your Joy amp Success Coachinterviewed on The Today Show CNN and NPR Doris HelgePhD is author of Amazoncom 1 Bestsellers like Joy on theJob Transforming Pain Into Power and Conquer Your InnerCritic Doris has helped thousands of people like you claim morehappiness and success Her books have been published in manyforeign languages
A licensed Master Certified Coach and Mentor Coach Doriswas named One of the Top Ten Coaches in America at arecent event in the FedEx office in Manhattan New York
Doris everlasting supply of joy springs from her own personalgrowth so shes a natural at helping you transform troublesomeissues into peace and personal power She has a unique intuitiveability to perceive whats been blocking your success andhappiness so you can quickly and easily resolve it With Dorishelp and respect for perfect timing your joy blocks are releasedwith gentleness and love
SIGN UP FOR YOUR FREE E-ZINE
Do you want to receive a steady supply of the latest and greatestways to increase your happiness and success
Subscribe to Dorisrsquo free e-zine More Joy for Me Now byvisiting httpFreeJoyEbookscom Youll love gainingfresh new ideas every month
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 16
You were born withthe right to be happy
The following books will help you discover peace joyand personal fulfillment Order your copies today
Joy on the JobOver 365 Ways to Create
the Joy and Fulfillment You DeservehttpJoyOnTheJobBookcom
Transforming Pain Into PowerMaking the Most of Your Emotions
httpTransformingPainIntoPowercom
Conquer Your Inner CriticNow
httpCoachingByDoriscominnercriticresources
Secrets of Thriving in the Midst of Difficult People
httpwwwCoachingByDoriscom
TAKE ADVANTAGE OFINDIVIDUAL OR GROUP
COACHING
Are YOU ready to become the confident empowered personyou are destined to become Sign up for your complimentaryconsultation at httpCoachingByDoriscomcontact
We guarantee youll depart from Your Personal BreakthroughSession with licensed Certified Master Coach Dr Doris withthese benefits
middot Youll enjoy crystal-clear clarity about your next best stepmiddot Youll be laser-focused on your goalmiddot Youll gain enthusiasm and a high level of energymiddot Yoursquoll feel the support and inner strength you need to go
forward with joy
SEE VIDEOS THAT WILL ELEVATEYOUR HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS
View Transforming Pain Into Power
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-transforming-pain-into-power
View Happiness At Work
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-happiness-at-work
Sample material fromTransforming Pain Into Power 17
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 18
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FREE
PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT TELECLASSES
Doris provides weekly teleclasses that help you claim morehappiness and success in all areas of your life One of the mostpopular is
Transform a Painful Relationship
Into a Powerful Partnership
If you are troubled by a painful professional or personalrelationship discover how to transform conflicts into peacefulproductive partnerships Every difficult person will eitherbecome part of your support system or youll easily neutralizetheir opposition
Discover more athttpCoachingByDoriscomempowermeteleclass
Sign up for your free test drive athttpTeleclassesWithDoriscom
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 19
Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 5
CONTENTS
Testimonials From Readers of the First Edition iDedication ixAbout The Author xAcknowledgments xiGoing The DistancemdashWithout Resistance xiii
1 New Pieces for the Puzzle of Life12 Change Is GainmdashNot Pain 73 Allow The Creative Powers Within You To Explode
With An Awesome Force214 Why Are We So Afraid Of Our Emotions 355 From Blame And Judgment To Empowerment 576 Polarities Fully Experiencing Life897 Truth In A Bottle 1018 Mining The Gold In The Darkness1099 Upside Down And Backward 125
10 Cautions About Affirmations And Visualization 14511 Emotions Who Needs lsquoEm16312 Irsquoll Deal With It Later 18513 Looking Back From The Future 19314 Let Life Touch You 19715 How Do I Know When Irsquom Really Feeling21716 What Happens When Irsquom ldquoSo Closerdquo To Having
More Of What I Want 23317 Express Your Way To
Your Freedom And Wholeness 26118 Please Tell Me The Outcome Before I Decide To
Take The Risk 273vii
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19 How To Build Your Bridges 28320 Examples Of Expressive Techniques 31121 Transforming Pain Into Powermdash
The Story Of A Water Droplet 32322 A Parting Message From The Author335
Glossary 339Index359Bibliography365
LIST OF FIGURES
Figure 1Old Paradigm68
Figure 2We Endure Life And Feel Isolated FromOurselves And Each Other 70
Figure 3New Paradigm 72
Figure 4The Self-Perpetuating Process Of Self-TrustAnd Self-Love That Ensues When We MakeConscious Choices Without Self-Judgment 77
Figure 5Polarity Map96
Figure 6Personal Growth Funnel246
Figure 7Building A Bridge From Where We Are NowTo Where We Are Going 267
Figure 8Point Zero 299
viii
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 7
Going the Distance ndashWithout the Resistance
Do you know anyone who has repeated the same painful ex-perience over and over
Why would we all have painful events in our lives if they didnrsquotserve us in some way
Would you like to learn how to stop trying to change thingsabout yourself and your lifendashndashand experience spontaneouschange
Yoursquoll Find Special Value in This Book if Yoursquove ever tried to release or let go of ldquoneg-
ativerdquo emotions such as anger fear or sad-ness only to find them returning to your door-step
Yoursquod like even more valuable tools for yourpersonal growth toolbox
Yoursquod like to USE your emotions to create a-bundant energy rewarding relationshipsand improved health
Yoursquod appreciate new ways to handle stressat work and at home
Use This Book to Drop self-judgments Allow yourself to be as powerful (capable) as
you really are Learn to USE painful experiencesndashndashinstead
of feeling used by them Safely and constructively experience anger
fear and sadnessndashndashand watch them spon-taneously change into love happiness andself-confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 8
Develop so much self-love that your relation-ships reflect that back to you
Discover that anger sadness and fear arejust raw neutral energy you can use to im-prove your life
Learn new ways to handle your frustrationsat work instead of lugging them homendashndashandprotect your immune system in the process
Develop your innate emotional power
This Book Offers Unique Tools That Will Help YouDiscover
Why there is nothing wrong with your life Why nothing about you needs to be fixed or
changed How all of your experiences and emotions
are essential for your personal growthndashndashandyour happiness
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 9
Chapter One
New Pieces For The Puzzle of Life
Birth canals are small uncomfortable passageways that simul-taneously produce almost indescribable pain and joy Wersquorealways giving birth to new aspects of ourselves We walk downfrightening paths so we can discover new layers of confidenceOur self-doubts arise so we can give birth to higher degrees ofself-love and empowerment When an uncomfortable feelingsuch as anger fear or sadness rears its head most of us wantto numb disguise or deny itmdashanything to get rid of it Thatdoesnrsquot work
We travel down the path of life only to discover that our feelingscontinue to demand our attention Since we didnrsquot heed their callthe first time they scream louder Our painful situations magnifyso we can gain the personal growth available from them
Have you ever known someone who left an unpleasant job orrelationship only to re-create it Although the characters andsetting change the new situation is very similar to the old Icannot tell you how many clients have moaned because oncea job or personal honeymoon was over they woke up with thestark realization ldquoThe people involved have different names thistime but Irsquove been in this situation before Yikes Itrsquos even worsethan last timerdquo
The popular recommendation is to counteract insecurities byldquofaking it lsquotil you make itrdquo This may temporarily suit our desire notto feel uncomfortable but itrsquos not a long-term solution If it werethe answer we wouldnrsquot have to keep faking it The messagesin this book can help you ldquomake itrdquo and the methods for doingso are field-tested You can create permanent positive changeinstead of settling for Band-Aids
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 10
Keep in mind that the suggestions in this book are based oncase studies with both genders and with people in all walks oflife from teenagers to senior citizens Irsquove worked with personsof extraordinary achievement levels and those who consideredthemselves low achievers
I also know the techniques work because Irsquove used them for manyyears There was a time in my professional speaking career thatI had spoken to several hundred people at a time but never toseveral thousand Because speaking to a larger crowd was a newchallenge my insecurities became apparent close to curtain timeWhen a runner came backstage to announce ldquoGuess how manytickets have been soldrdquo I didnrsquot share his enthusiasm Insteadmy self-doubt soared Rather than lying to myself about how Ifelt I allowed myself to be aware of what existedmdashan agonizingsense of unworthiness and the fear that I would go ldquobrain deadrdquoon stage The thought ldquoI have nothing of value to offer themrdquowafted through my consciousness even though I knew betterThe sensations were quite intense
Now for the good news Just as I advocate in this book thatwas the ticket to my freedom I fully experienced the feelings ofinsecurity allowing myself to sink to the ldquobottom of the bottomrdquo(see Figure 5 chapter 6) Itrsquos important to note that this processtook very little time By the time I needed to walk out on stageI felt more self-confident than I ever had Now I can speak tolarge crowds without feelings of self-doubt and unworthinesssurfacing
Why didnrsquot the process take very long Because we really do loveourselves enough to provide our next challenge We donrsquot brutallyshove ourselves farther out on a limb than itrsquos beneficial for usto go As Figure 5 chapter 6 indicates we meet our challenges(including feeling difficult emotions) by degrees You can use thematerial in this book to prove this principle to yourself
Itlsquos important to understand that pain and pleasure are side byside in our brains If we allow our unpleasant feelings (in this case
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 11
fear and self-doubt) to be experienced new levels of their op-posites (higher levels of self-confidence and self-love) are im-mediately available to us Our ldquogremlinsrdquo are merely tools for ourpersonal growth They can only be ldquoconqueredrdquo by befriendingthem because they truly are our friends They are leading us tohigher levels of self-actualization even though the sensationsthey produce are sometimes uncomfortable
If I had attempted to dodge the challenge (denied my fear) Iwould have re-created the scenario latermdashin a magnified mannerThe anxiety level and the challenge would have felt even moreintense When we choose to work with uncomfortable feelingsthe first time they surface we shorten the time wersquore engagedin a particular challenge We leap into a new level of self-loveand happiness
I have shared the above example with you because many studiesindicate that public speaking is the worst fear of many people andsecond only to a dental visit for other individuals The true storyillustrates that the process of transforming pain into power canbe much quicker than we sometimes think Itrsquos not an endlessjourney and the rewards are amazing When we allow ourselvesto complete the personal growth spiral depicted in Figure 5chapter 6 wersquore ready for new challenges instead of continuingto battle the same insecurities over and over
Please note that I experienced instead of judged the feelingseven though they were quite uncomfortable Resisting or re-pressing emotions causes them to park their RVs turn on theirgenerators and plan to spend more time with us Saying helloto them creates a gentle beautiful transition Negative emotionsspontaneously transform into their opposites
In addition the effects of hiding from our pain can have tremen-dous implications for our health When we repress our feelingswe stifle the flow of energy in our bodies We inadvertently sup-press our immune systems We perceive events as more stressfulthan they really are We feel confused and less connected to
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 12
those we love Whether wersquore avoiding our anger or our love theprice of our unwillingness to be honest about our feelings canbe quite high On the other hand allowing life to touch us hastremendous benefits
Studies that chemically analyzed tears indicated that teardropscleanse stress hormones so we feel less fatigued after cryingOur sobs are an innate gift because tears assist the body inwashing away toxins Many recent studies have explored whymen tend to die seven years earlier than women Researchersnoted that most men seldom cry Even when they allow tears towell up in their eyes they rarely shed these very precious innaterejuvenators It seems that we forgot to tell our little boys thatthe strongest treesmdashthose that tend to live the longestmdashbendwith the wind
Many women would rather cry or feel hurt than express angerJust as men were told ldquoBig boys donrsquot cryrdquo most women wereconditioned to believe that anger is unbecoming or ldquonot lady-likerdquoSome women fear anger because they have been in hurtful situ-ations when others were enraged Some women take pride inthe fact that they put the needs of others before their own but they secretly resent doing so
Gender-related patterns of hidden anger or sadness are asso-ciated with the physical diseases we tend to develop Recentstudies have examined why women tend to develop higher per-centages of chronic fatigue syndrome fibromyalgia and arthritiswhile men have higher percentages of other diseases such asheart attacks
Many people advocate releasing or letting go of painful experi-ences or emotions Feelings such as anger sadness and fearare often labeled ldquonegativerdquo or ldquotoxicrdquo Yet our creator placedpain and pleasure side by side in our brains Anger cuddled nextto love peace and happiness Fear nestled next to confidenceSadness snuggled up to joy
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 13
The objective of always operating from love and joy is admirableyet most of us would like to omit a step that is essential beforewe can reach that point The physiology of the brain allows us toexperience the feelings we dislike when theyrsquore already present or cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to experience theiroppositesmdashlike love and happiness
Consider the example of angerndashndashpassion for ourselves the desirefor a better life Our frustration may feel like a voice screaminginto a megaphone ldquoI deserve better than thatrdquo or ldquoI want moreout of liferdquo When we embrace anger (experience it) moreself-love appears Once we express our irritations in a safe andconstructive way we discover wersquove been angry with ourselvesbecause we placed ourselves in an unfavorable situation Westop blaming other people Our compassion for them increasesForgiveness becomes automatic
Most parents love their children too much to try to protect themfrom painful learning experiences Wise parents shield theirchildren from unnecessary pain or danger by teaching themhow to be physically safe and develop decision-making skillsHowever parents with foresight know that efforts to guard theirchildren from any pain would cheat them out of developing theirabilities to meet life on its own terms They would grow up asshallow adults totally unprepared to solve problems or empowerthemselves by meeting new challenges The same is true for usas adults This book can assist you in finding value in all of yourpainful experiences
Discover the hidden gifts of anger empowerment and self-loveFind out how energizingndashndashand even funndashndashit can be to safely andconstructively experience your frustrations Learn how to protectyour health and your relationships during the process
Learn to feel the sweet memories hidden within your deepestgrief Discover what a friend your fear is Like the first robin ofspring it arrives to announce the imminent arrival of somethingworth celebratingmdashyour new layers of confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 14
Complacency creates stagnation Challenges create the insightswe need so we can enjoy a life rich in meaning joy on the joband rewarding relationships
Once we discover how to work with the flow of life instead ofresisting and judging unpleasant events or emotions wersquore freeWe know how to use discomfort to our advantage We effortlesslylaunch ourselves into higher highs than we ever dreamed werepossible
Discover how to allow your discomfort to drive you onward
Where there is fear there is self-confidence Where there is pain there is power Where there is anger there is love Where there is sadness there is joy Where there are no victims there can be no tyrants The road to pain is paved with our judgments and
expectations The road to success is paved with ldquofailuresrdquo Emotions are our personal language sensations
energy in motion
If you want even more happiness and love in your life allow lifeto touch you
CautionThis book can empower you to deal with the self-doubt and fearsthat surface when we approach new challenges You will soonlearn that fear is a formidable source of new power
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 15
Why You Need This BookYou may have seen Dr Doris Your Joy amp Success Coachinterviewed on The Today Show CNN and NPR Doris HelgePhD is author of Amazoncom 1 Bestsellers like Joy on theJob Transforming Pain Into Power and Conquer Your InnerCritic Doris has helped thousands of people like you claim morehappiness and success Her books have been published in manyforeign languages
A licensed Master Certified Coach and Mentor Coach Doriswas named One of the Top Ten Coaches in America at arecent event in the FedEx office in Manhattan New York
Doris everlasting supply of joy springs from her own personalgrowth so shes a natural at helping you transform troublesomeissues into peace and personal power She has a unique intuitiveability to perceive whats been blocking your success andhappiness so you can quickly and easily resolve it With Dorishelp and respect for perfect timing your joy blocks are releasedwith gentleness and love
SIGN UP FOR YOUR FREE E-ZINE
Do you want to receive a steady supply of the latest and greatestways to increase your happiness and success
Subscribe to Dorisrsquo free e-zine More Joy for Me Now byvisiting httpFreeJoyEbookscom Youll love gainingfresh new ideas every month
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 16
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The following books will help you discover peace joyand personal fulfillment Order your copies today
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forward with joy
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Sample material fromTransforming Pain Into Power 17
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 18
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Doris provides weekly teleclasses that help you claim morehappiness and success in all areas of your life One of the mostpopular is
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Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 19
Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 6
19 How To Build Your Bridges 28320 Examples Of Expressive Techniques 31121 Transforming Pain Into Powermdash
The Story Of A Water Droplet 32322 A Parting Message From The Author335
Glossary 339Index359Bibliography365
LIST OF FIGURES
Figure 1Old Paradigm68
Figure 2We Endure Life And Feel Isolated FromOurselves And Each Other 70
Figure 3New Paradigm 72
Figure 4The Self-Perpetuating Process Of Self-TrustAnd Self-Love That Ensues When We MakeConscious Choices Without Self-Judgment 77
Figure 5Polarity Map96
Figure 6Personal Growth Funnel246
Figure 7Building A Bridge From Where We Are NowTo Where We Are Going 267
Figure 8Point Zero 299
viii
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 7
Going the Distance ndashWithout the Resistance
Do you know anyone who has repeated the same painful ex-perience over and over
Why would we all have painful events in our lives if they didnrsquotserve us in some way
Would you like to learn how to stop trying to change thingsabout yourself and your lifendashndashand experience spontaneouschange
Yoursquoll Find Special Value in This Book if Yoursquove ever tried to release or let go of ldquoneg-
ativerdquo emotions such as anger fear or sad-ness only to find them returning to your door-step
Yoursquod like even more valuable tools for yourpersonal growth toolbox
Yoursquod like to USE your emotions to create a-bundant energy rewarding relationshipsand improved health
Yoursquod appreciate new ways to handle stressat work and at home
Use This Book to Drop self-judgments Allow yourself to be as powerful (capable) as
you really are Learn to USE painful experiencesndashndashinstead
of feeling used by them Safely and constructively experience anger
fear and sadnessndashndashand watch them spon-taneously change into love happiness andself-confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 8
Develop so much self-love that your relation-ships reflect that back to you
Discover that anger sadness and fear arejust raw neutral energy you can use to im-prove your life
Learn new ways to handle your frustrationsat work instead of lugging them homendashndashandprotect your immune system in the process
Develop your innate emotional power
This Book Offers Unique Tools That Will Help YouDiscover
Why there is nothing wrong with your life Why nothing about you needs to be fixed or
changed How all of your experiences and emotions
are essential for your personal growthndashndashandyour happiness
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 9
Chapter One
New Pieces For The Puzzle of Life
Birth canals are small uncomfortable passageways that simul-taneously produce almost indescribable pain and joy Wersquorealways giving birth to new aspects of ourselves We walk downfrightening paths so we can discover new layers of confidenceOur self-doubts arise so we can give birth to higher degrees ofself-love and empowerment When an uncomfortable feelingsuch as anger fear or sadness rears its head most of us wantto numb disguise or deny itmdashanything to get rid of it Thatdoesnrsquot work
We travel down the path of life only to discover that our feelingscontinue to demand our attention Since we didnrsquot heed their callthe first time they scream louder Our painful situations magnifyso we can gain the personal growth available from them
Have you ever known someone who left an unpleasant job orrelationship only to re-create it Although the characters andsetting change the new situation is very similar to the old Icannot tell you how many clients have moaned because oncea job or personal honeymoon was over they woke up with thestark realization ldquoThe people involved have different names thistime but Irsquove been in this situation before Yikes Itrsquos even worsethan last timerdquo
The popular recommendation is to counteract insecurities byldquofaking it lsquotil you make itrdquo This may temporarily suit our desire notto feel uncomfortable but itrsquos not a long-term solution If it werethe answer we wouldnrsquot have to keep faking it The messagesin this book can help you ldquomake itrdquo and the methods for doingso are field-tested You can create permanent positive changeinstead of settling for Band-Aids
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 10
Keep in mind that the suggestions in this book are based oncase studies with both genders and with people in all walks oflife from teenagers to senior citizens Irsquove worked with personsof extraordinary achievement levels and those who consideredthemselves low achievers
I also know the techniques work because Irsquove used them for manyyears There was a time in my professional speaking career thatI had spoken to several hundred people at a time but never toseveral thousand Because speaking to a larger crowd was a newchallenge my insecurities became apparent close to curtain timeWhen a runner came backstage to announce ldquoGuess how manytickets have been soldrdquo I didnrsquot share his enthusiasm Insteadmy self-doubt soared Rather than lying to myself about how Ifelt I allowed myself to be aware of what existedmdashan agonizingsense of unworthiness and the fear that I would go ldquobrain deadrdquoon stage The thought ldquoI have nothing of value to offer themrdquowafted through my consciousness even though I knew betterThe sensations were quite intense
Now for the good news Just as I advocate in this book thatwas the ticket to my freedom I fully experienced the feelings ofinsecurity allowing myself to sink to the ldquobottom of the bottomrdquo(see Figure 5 chapter 6) Itrsquos important to note that this processtook very little time By the time I needed to walk out on stageI felt more self-confident than I ever had Now I can speak tolarge crowds without feelings of self-doubt and unworthinesssurfacing
Why didnrsquot the process take very long Because we really do loveourselves enough to provide our next challenge We donrsquot brutallyshove ourselves farther out on a limb than itrsquos beneficial for usto go As Figure 5 chapter 6 indicates we meet our challenges(including feeling difficult emotions) by degrees You can use thematerial in this book to prove this principle to yourself
Itlsquos important to understand that pain and pleasure are side byside in our brains If we allow our unpleasant feelings (in this case
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 11
fear and self-doubt) to be experienced new levels of their op-posites (higher levels of self-confidence and self-love) are im-mediately available to us Our ldquogremlinsrdquo are merely tools for ourpersonal growth They can only be ldquoconqueredrdquo by befriendingthem because they truly are our friends They are leading us tohigher levels of self-actualization even though the sensationsthey produce are sometimes uncomfortable
If I had attempted to dodge the challenge (denied my fear) Iwould have re-created the scenario latermdashin a magnified mannerThe anxiety level and the challenge would have felt even moreintense When we choose to work with uncomfortable feelingsthe first time they surface we shorten the time wersquore engagedin a particular challenge We leap into a new level of self-loveand happiness
I have shared the above example with you because many studiesindicate that public speaking is the worst fear of many people andsecond only to a dental visit for other individuals The true storyillustrates that the process of transforming pain into power canbe much quicker than we sometimes think Itrsquos not an endlessjourney and the rewards are amazing When we allow ourselvesto complete the personal growth spiral depicted in Figure 5chapter 6 wersquore ready for new challenges instead of continuingto battle the same insecurities over and over
Please note that I experienced instead of judged the feelingseven though they were quite uncomfortable Resisting or re-pressing emotions causes them to park their RVs turn on theirgenerators and plan to spend more time with us Saying helloto them creates a gentle beautiful transition Negative emotionsspontaneously transform into their opposites
In addition the effects of hiding from our pain can have tremen-dous implications for our health When we repress our feelingswe stifle the flow of energy in our bodies We inadvertently sup-press our immune systems We perceive events as more stressfulthan they really are We feel confused and less connected to
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 12
those we love Whether wersquore avoiding our anger or our love theprice of our unwillingness to be honest about our feelings canbe quite high On the other hand allowing life to touch us hastremendous benefits
Studies that chemically analyzed tears indicated that teardropscleanse stress hormones so we feel less fatigued after cryingOur sobs are an innate gift because tears assist the body inwashing away toxins Many recent studies have explored whymen tend to die seven years earlier than women Researchersnoted that most men seldom cry Even when they allow tears towell up in their eyes they rarely shed these very precious innaterejuvenators It seems that we forgot to tell our little boys thatthe strongest treesmdashthose that tend to live the longestmdashbendwith the wind
Many women would rather cry or feel hurt than express angerJust as men were told ldquoBig boys donrsquot cryrdquo most women wereconditioned to believe that anger is unbecoming or ldquonot lady-likerdquoSome women fear anger because they have been in hurtful situ-ations when others were enraged Some women take pride inthe fact that they put the needs of others before their own but they secretly resent doing so
Gender-related patterns of hidden anger or sadness are asso-ciated with the physical diseases we tend to develop Recentstudies have examined why women tend to develop higher per-centages of chronic fatigue syndrome fibromyalgia and arthritiswhile men have higher percentages of other diseases such asheart attacks
Many people advocate releasing or letting go of painful experi-ences or emotions Feelings such as anger sadness and fearare often labeled ldquonegativerdquo or ldquotoxicrdquo Yet our creator placedpain and pleasure side by side in our brains Anger cuddled nextto love peace and happiness Fear nestled next to confidenceSadness snuggled up to joy
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 13
The objective of always operating from love and joy is admirableyet most of us would like to omit a step that is essential beforewe can reach that point The physiology of the brain allows us toexperience the feelings we dislike when theyrsquore already present or cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to experience theiroppositesmdashlike love and happiness
Consider the example of angerndashndashpassion for ourselves the desirefor a better life Our frustration may feel like a voice screaminginto a megaphone ldquoI deserve better than thatrdquo or ldquoI want moreout of liferdquo When we embrace anger (experience it) moreself-love appears Once we express our irritations in a safe andconstructive way we discover wersquove been angry with ourselvesbecause we placed ourselves in an unfavorable situation Westop blaming other people Our compassion for them increasesForgiveness becomes automatic
Most parents love their children too much to try to protect themfrom painful learning experiences Wise parents shield theirchildren from unnecessary pain or danger by teaching themhow to be physically safe and develop decision-making skillsHowever parents with foresight know that efforts to guard theirchildren from any pain would cheat them out of developing theirabilities to meet life on its own terms They would grow up asshallow adults totally unprepared to solve problems or empowerthemselves by meeting new challenges The same is true for usas adults This book can assist you in finding value in all of yourpainful experiences
Discover the hidden gifts of anger empowerment and self-loveFind out how energizingndashndashand even funndashndashit can be to safely andconstructively experience your frustrations Learn how to protectyour health and your relationships during the process
Learn to feel the sweet memories hidden within your deepestgrief Discover what a friend your fear is Like the first robin ofspring it arrives to announce the imminent arrival of somethingworth celebratingmdashyour new layers of confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 14
Complacency creates stagnation Challenges create the insightswe need so we can enjoy a life rich in meaning joy on the joband rewarding relationships
Once we discover how to work with the flow of life instead ofresisting and judging unpleasant events or emotions wersquore freeWe know how to use discomfort to our advantage We effortlesslylaunch ourselves into higher highs than we ever dreamed werepossible
Discover how to allow your discomfort to drive you onward
Where there is fear there is self-confidence Where there is pain there is power Where there is anger there is love Where there is sadness there is joy Where there are no victims there can be no tyrants The road to pain is paved with our judgments and
expectations The road to success is paved with ldquofailuresrdquo Emotions are our personal language sensations
energy in motion
If you want even more happiness and love in your life allow lifeto touch you
CautionThis book can empower you to deal with the self-doubt and fearsthat surface when we approach new challenges You will soonlearn that fear is a formidable source of new power
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 15
Why You Need This BookYou may have seen Dr Doris Your Joy amp Success Coachinterviewed on The Today Show CNN and NPR Doris HelgePhD is author of Amazoncom 1 Bestsellers like Joy on theJob Transforming Pain Into Power and Conquer Your InnerCritic Doris has helped thousands of people like you claim morehappiness and success Her books have been published in manyforeign languages
A licensed Master Certified Coach and Mentor Coach Doriswas named One of the Top Ten Coaches in America at arecent event in the FedEx office in Manhattan New York
Doris everlasting supply of joy springs from her own personalgrowth so shes a natural at helping you transform troublesomeissues into peace and personal power She has a unique intuitiveability to perceive whats been blocking your success andhappiness so you can quickly and easily resolve it With Dorishelp and respect for perfect timing your joy blocks are releasedwith gentleness and love
SIGN UP FOR YOUR FREE E-ZINE
Do you want to receive a steady supply of the latest and greatestways to increase your happiness and success
Subscribe to Dorisrsquo free e-zine More Joy for Me Now byvisiting httpFreeJoyEbookscom Youll love gainingfresh new ideas every month
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 16
You were born withthe right to be happy
The following books will help you discover peace joyand personal fulfillment Order your copies today
Joy on the JobOver 365 Ways to Create
the Joy and Fulfillment You DeservehttpJoyOnTheJobBookcom
Transforming Pain Into PowerMaking the Most of Your Emotions
httpTransformingPainIntoPowercom
Conquer Your Inner CriticNow
httpCoachingByDoriscominnercriticresources
Secrets of Thriving in the Midst of Difficult People
httpwwwCoachingByDoriscom
TAKE ADVANTAGE OFINDIVIDUAL OR GROUP
COACHING
Are YOU ready to become the confident empowered personyou are destined to become Sign up for your complimentaryconsultation at httpCoachingByDoriscomcontact
We guarantee youll depart from Your Personal BreakthroughSession with licensed Certified Master Coach Dr Doris withthese benefits
middot Youll enjoy crystal-clear clarity about your next best stepmiddot Youll be laser-focused on your goalmiddot Youll gain enthusiasm and a high level of energymiddot Yoursquoll feel the support and inner strength you need to go
forward with joy
SEE VIDEOS THAT WILL ELEVATEYOUR HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS
View Transforming Pain Into Power
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-transforming-pain-into-power
View Happiness At Work
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-happiness-at-work
Sample material fromTransforming Pain Into Power 17
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 18
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FREE
PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT TELECLASSES
Doris provides weekly teleclasses that help you claim morehappiness and success in all areas of your life One of the mostpopular is
Transform a Painful Relationship
Into a Powerful Partnership
If you are troubled by a painful professional or personalrelationship discover how to transform conflicts into peacefulproductive partnerships Every difficult person will eitherbecome part of your support system or youll easily neutralizetheir opposition
Discover more athttpCoachingByDoriscomempowermeteleclass
Sign up for your free test drive athttpTeleclassesWithDoriscom
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 19
Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 7
Going the Distance ndashWithout the Resistance
Do you know anyone who has repeated the same painful ex-perience over and over
Why would we all have painful events in our lives if they didnrsquotserve us in some way
Would you like to learn how to stop trying to change thingsabout yourself and your lifendashndashand experience spontaneouschange
Yoursquoll Find Special Value in This Book if Yoursquove ever tried to release or let go of ldquoneg-
ativerdquo emotions such as anger fear or sad-ness only to find them returning to your door-step
Yoursquod like even more valuable tools for yourpersonal growth toolbox
Yoursquod like to USE your emotions to create a-bundant energy rewarding relationshipsand improved health
Yoursquod appreciate new ways to handle stressat work and at home
Use This Book to Drop self-judgments Allow yourself to be as powerful (capable) as
you really are Learn to USE painful experiencesndashndashinstead
of feeling used by them Safely and constructively experience anger
fear and sadnessndashndashand watch them spon-taneously change into love happiness andself-confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 8
Develop so much self-love that your relation-ships reflect that back to you
Discover that anger sadness and fear arejust raw neutral energy you can use to im-prove your life
Learn new ways to handle your frustrationsat work instead of lugging them homendashndashandprotect your immune system in the process
Develop your innate emotional power
This Book Offers Unique Tools That Will Help YouDiscover
Why there is nothing wrong with your life Why nothing about you needs to be fixed or
changed How all of your experiences and emotions
are essential for your personal growthndashndashandyour happiness
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 9
Chapter One
New Pieces For The Puzzle of Life
Birth canals are small uncomfortable passageways that simul-taneously produce almost indescribable pain and joy Wersquorealways giving birth to new aspects of ourselves We walk downfrightening paths so we can discover new layers of confidenceOur self-doubts arise so we can give birth to higher degrees ofself-love and empowerment When an uncomfortable feelingsuch as anger fear or sadness rears its head most of us wantto numb disguise or deny itmdashanything to get rid of it Thatdoesnrsquot work
We travel down the path of life only to discover that our feelingscontinue to demand our attention Since we didnrsquot heed their callthe first time they scream louder Our painful situations magnifyso we can gain the personal growth available from them
Have you ever known someone who left an unpleasant job orrelationship only to re-create it Although the characters andsetting change the new situation is very similar to the old Icannot tell you how many clients have moaned because oncea job or personal honeymoon was over they woke up with thestark realization ldquoThe people involved have different names thistime but Irsquove been in this situation before Yikes Itrsquos even worsethan last timerdquo
The popular recommendation is to counteract insecurities byldquofaking it lsquotil you make itrdquo This may temporarily suit our desire notto feel uncomfortable but itrsquos not a long-term solution If it werethe answer we wouldnrsquot have to keep faking it The messagesin this book can help you ldquomake itrdquo and the methods for doingso are field-tested You can create permanent positive changeinstead of settling for Band-Aids
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 10
Keep in mind that the suggestions in this book are based oncase studies with both genders and with people in all walks oflife from teenagers to senior citizens Irsquove worked with personsof extraordinary achievement levels and those who consideredthemselves low achievers
I also know the techniques work because Irsquove used them for manyyears There was a time in my professional speaking career thatI had spoken to several hundred people at a time but never toseveral thousand Because speaking to a larger crowd was a newchallenge my insecurities became apparent close to curtain timeWhen a runner came backstage to announce ldquoGuess how manytickets have been soldrdquo I didnrsquot share his enthusiasm Insteadmy self-doubt soared Rather than lying to myself about how Ifelt I allowed myself to be aware of what existedmdashan agonizingsense of unworthiness and the fear that I would go ldquobrain deadrdquoon stage The thought ldquoI have nothing of value to offer themrdquowafted through my consciousness even though I knew betterThe sensations were quite intense
Now for the good news Just as I advocate in this book thatwas the ticket to my freedom I fully experienced the feelings ofinsecurity allowing myself to sink to the ldquobottom of the bottomrdquo(see Figure 5 chapter 6) Itrsquos important to note that this processtook very little time By the time I needed to walk out on stageI felt more self-confident than I ever had Now I can speak tolarge crowds without feelings of self-doubt and unworthinesssurfacing
Why didnrsquot the process take very long Because we really do loveourselves enough to provide our next challenge We donrsquot brutallyshove ourselves farther out on a limb than itrsquos beneficial for usto go As Figure 5 chapter 6 indicates we meet our challenges(including feeling difficult emotions) by degrees You can use thematerial in this book to prove this principle to yourself
Itlsquos important to understand that pain and pleasure are side byside in our brains If we allow our unpleasant feelings (in this case
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 11
fear and self-doubt) to be experienced new levels of their op-posites (higher levels of self-confidence and self-love) are im-mediately available to us Our ldquogremlinsrdquo are merely tools for ourpersonal growth They can only be ldquoconqueredrdquo by befriendingthem because they truly are our friends They are leading us tohigher levels of self-actualization even though the sensationsthey produce are sometimes uncomfortable
If I had attempted to dodge the challenge (denied my fear) Iwould have re-created the scenario latermdashin a magnified mannerThe anxiety level and the challenge would have felt even moreintense When we choose to work with uncomfortable feelingsthe first time they surface we shorten the time wersquore engagedin a particular challenge We leap into a new level of self-loveand happiness
I have shared the above example with you because many studiesindicate that public speaking is the worst fear of many people andsecond only to a dental visit for other individuals The true storyillustrates that the process of transforming pain into power canbe much quicker than we sometimes think Itrsquos not an endlessjourney and the rewards are amazing When we allow ourselvesto complete the personal growth spiral depicted in Figure 5chapter 6 wersquore ready for new challenges instead of continuingto battle the same insecurities over and over
Please note that I experienced instead of judged the feelingseven though they were quite uncomfortable Resisting or re-pressing emotions causes them to park their RVs turn on theirgenerators and plan to spend more time with us Saying helloto them creates a gentle beautiful transition Negative emotionsspontaneously transform into their opposites
In addition the effects of hiding from our pain can have tremen-dous implications for our health When we repress our feelingswe stifle the flow of energy in our bodies We inadvertently sup-press our immune systems We perceive events as more stressfulthan they really are We feel confused and less connected to
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 12
those we love Whether wersquore avoiding our anger or our love theprice of our unwillingness to be honest about our feelings canbe quite high On the other hand allowing life to touch us hastremendous benefits
Studies that chemically analyzed tears indicated that teardropscleanse stress hormones so we feel less fatigued after cryingOur sobs are an innate gift because tears assist the body inwashing away toxins Many recent studies have explored whymen tend to die seven years earlier than women Researchersnoted that most men seldom cry Even when they allow tears towell up in their eyes they rarely shed these very precious innaterejuvenators It seems that we forgot to tell our little boys thatthe strongest treesmdashthose that tend to live the longestmdashbendwith the wind
Many women would rather cry or feel hurt than express angerJust as men were told ldquoBig boys donrsquot cryrdquo most women wereconditioned to believe that anger is unbecoming or ldquonot lady-likerdquoSome women fear anger because they have been in hurtful situ-ations when others were enraged Some women take pride inthe fact that they put the needs of others before their own but they secretly resent doing so
Gender-related patterns of hidden anger or sadness are asso-ciated with the physical diseases we tend to develop Recentstudies have examined why women tend to develop higher per-centages of chronic fatigue syndrome fibromyalgia and arthritiswhile men have higher percentages of other diseases such asheart attacks
Many people advocate releasing or letting go of painful experi-ences or emotions Feelings such as anger sadness and fearare often labeled ldquonegativerdquo or ldquotoxicrdquo Yet our creator placedpain and pleasure side by side in our brains Anger cuddled nextto love peace and happiness Fear nestled next to confidenceSadness snuggled up to joy
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 13
The objective of always operating from love and joy is admirableyet most of us would like to omit a step that is essential beforewe can reach that point The physiology of the brain allows us toexperience the feelings we dislike when theyrsquore already present or cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to experience theiroppositesmdashlike love and happiness
Consider the example of angerndashndashpassion for ourselves the desirefor a better life Our frustration may feel like a voice screaminginto a megaphone ldquoI deserve better than thatrdquo or ldquoI want moreout of liferdquo When we embrace anger (experience it) moreself-love appears Once we express our irritations in a safe andconstructive way we discover wersquove been angry with ourselvesbecause we placed ourselves in an unfavorable situation Westop blaming other people Our compassion for them increasesForgiveness becomes automatic
Most parents love their children too much to try to protect themfrom painful learning experiences Wise parents shield theirchildren from unnecessary pain or danger by teaching themhow to be physically safe and develop decision-making skillsHowever parents with foresight know that efforts to guard theirchildren from any pain would cheat them out of developing theirabilities to meet life on its own terms They would grow up asshallow adults totally unprepared to solve problems or empowerthemselves by meeting new challenges The same is true for usas adults This book can assist you in finding value in all of yourpainful experiences
Discover the hidden gifts of anger empowerment and self-loveFind out how energizingndashndashand even funndashndashit can be to safely andconstructively experience your frustrations Learn how to protectyour health and your relationships during the process
Learn to feel the sweet memories hidden within your deepestgrief Discover what a friend your fear is Like the first robin ofspring it arrives to announce the imminent arrival of somethingworth celebratingmdashyour new layers of confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 14
Complacency creates stagnation Challenges create the insightswe need so we can enjoy a life rich in meaning joy on the joband rewarding relationships
Once we discover how to work with the flow of life instead ofresisting and judging unpleasant events or emotions wersquore freeWe know how to use discomfort to our advantage We effortlesslylaunch ourselves into higher highs than we ever dreamed werepossible
Discover how to allow your discomfort to drive you onward
Where there is fear there is self-confidence Where there is pain there is power Where there is anger there is love Where there is sadness there is joy Where there are no victims there can be no tyrants The road to pain is paved with our judgments and
expectations The road to success is paved with ldquofailuresrdquo Emotions are our personal language sensations
energy in motion
If you want even more happiness and love in your life allow lifeto touch you
CautionThis book can empower you to deal with the self-doubt and fearsthat surface when we approach new challenges You will soonlearn that fear is a formidable source of new power
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 15
Why You Need This BookYou may have seen Dr Doris Your Joy amp Success Coachinterviewed on The Today Show CNN and NPR Doris HelgePhD is author of Amazoncom 1 Bestsellers like Joy on theJob Transforming Pain Into Power and Conquer Your InnerCritic Doris has helped thousands of people like you claim morehappiness and success Her books have been published in manyforeign languages
A licensed Master Certified Coach and Mentor Coach Doriswas named One of the Top Ten Coaches in America at arecent event in the FedEx office in Manhattan New York
Doris everlasting supply of joy springs from her own personalgrowth so shes a natural at helping you transform troublesomeissues into peace and personal power She has a unique intuitiveability to perceive whats been blocking your success andhappiness so you can quickly and easily resolve it With Dorishelp and respect for perfect timing your joy blocks are releasedwith gentleness and love
SIGN UP FOR YOUR FREE E-ZINE
Do you want to receive a steady supply of the latest and greatestways to increase your happiness and success
Subscribe to Dorisrsquo free e-zine More Joy for Me Now byvisiting httpFreeJoyEbookscom Youll love gainingfresh new ideas every month
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 16
You were born withthe right to be happy
The following books will help you discover peace joyand personal fulfillment Order your copies today
Joy on the JobOver 365 Ways to Create
the Joy and Fulfillment You DeservehttpJoyOnTheJobBookcom
Transforming Pain Into PowerMaking the Most of Your Emotions
httpTransformingPainIntoPowercom
Conquer Your Inner CriticNow
httpCoachingByDoriscominnercriticresources
Secrets of Thriving in the Midst of Difficult People
httpwwwCoachingByDoriscom
TAKE ADVANTAGE OFINDIVIDUAL OR GROUP
COACHING
Are YOU ready to become the confident empowered personyou are destined to become Sign up for your complimentaryconsultation at httpCoachingByDoriscomcontact
We guarantee youll depart from Your Personal BreakthroughSession with licensed Certified Master Coach Dr Doris withthese benefits
middot Youll enjoy crystal-clear clarity about your next best stepmiddot Youll be laser-focused on your goalmiddot Youll gain enthusiasm and a high level of energymiddot Yoursquoll feel the support and inner strength you need to go
forward with joy
SEE VIDEOS THAT WILL ELEVATEYOUR HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS
View Transforming Pain Into Power
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-transforming-pain-into-power
View Happiness At Work
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-happiness-at-work
Sample material fromTransforming Pain Into Power 17
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 18
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FREE
PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT TELECLASSES
Doris provides weekly teleclasses that help you claim morehappiness and success in all areas of your life One of the mostpopular is
Transform a Painful Relationship
Into a Powerful Partnership
If you are troubled by a painful professional or personalrelationship discover how to transform conflicts into peacefulproductive partnerships Every difficult person will eitherbecome part of your support system or youll easily neutralizetheir opposition
Discover more athttpCoachingByDoriscomempowermeteleclass
Sign up for your free test drive athttpTeleclassesWithDoriscom
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 19
Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 8
Develop so much self-love that your relation-ships reflect that back to you
Discover that anger sadness and fear arejust raw neutral energy you can use to im-prove your life
Learn new ways to handle your frustrationsat work instead of lugging them homendashndashandprotect your immune system in the process
Develop your innate emotional power
This Book Offers Unique Tools That Will Help YouDiscover
Why there is nothing wrong with your life Why nothing about you needs to be fixed or
changed How all of your experiences and emotions
are essential for your personal growthndashndashandyour happiness
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 9
Chapter One
New Pieces For The Puzzle of Life
Birth canals are small uncomfortable passageways that simul-taneously produce almost indescribable pain and joy Wersquorealways giving birth to new aspects of ourselves We walk downfrightening paths so we can discover new layers of confidenceOur self-doubts arise so we can give birth to higher degrees ofself-love and empowerment When an uncomfortable feelingsuch as anger fear or sadness rears its head most of us wantto numb disguise or deny itmdashanything to get rid of it Thatdoesnrsquot work
We travel down the path of life only to discover that our feelingscontinue to demand our attention Since we didnrsquot heed their callthe first time they scream louder Our painful situations magnifyso we can gain the personal growth available from them
Have you ever known someone who left an unpleasant job orrelationship only to re-create it Although the characters andsetting change the new situation is very similar to the old Icannot tell you how many clients have moaned because oncea job or personal honeymoon was over they woke up with thestark realization ldquoThe people involved have different names thistime but Irsquove been in this situation before Yikes Itrsquos even worsethan last timerdquo
The popular recommendation is to counteract insecurities byldquofaking it lsquotil you make itrdquo This may temporarily suit our desire notto feel uncomfortable but itrsquos not a long-term solution If it werethe answer we wouldnrsquot have to keep faking it The messagesin this book can help you ldquomake itrdquo and the methods for doingso are field-tested You can create permanent positive changeinstead of settling for Band-Aids
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 10
Keep in mind that the suggestions in this book are based oncase studies with both genders and with people in all walks oflife from teenagers to senior citizens Irsquove worked with personsof extraordinary achievement levels and those who consideredthemselves low achievers
I also know the techniques work because Irsquove used them for manyyears There was a time in my professional speaking career thatI had spoken to several hundred people at a time but never toseveral thousand Because speaking to a larger crowd was a newchallenge my insecurities became apparent close to curtain timeWhen a runner came backstage to announce ldquoGuess how manytickets have been soldrdquo I didnrsquot share his enthusiasm Insteadmy self-doubt soared Rather than lying to myself about how Ifelt I allowed myself to be aware of what existedmdashan agonizingsense of unworthiness and the fear that I would go ldquobrain deadrdquoon stage The thought ldquoI have nothing of value to offer themrdquowafted through my consciousness even though I knew betterThe sensations were quite intense
Now for the good news Just as I advocate in this book thatwas the ticket to my freedom I fully experienced the feelings ofinsecurity allowing myself to sink to the ldquobottom of the bottomrdquo(see Figure 5 chapter 6) Itrsquos important to note that this processtook very little time By the time I needed to walk out on stageI felt more self-confident than I ever had Now I can speak tolarge crowds without feelings of self-doubt and unworthinesssurfacing
Why didnrsquot the process take very long Because we really do loveourselves enough to provide our next challenge We donrsquot brutallyshove ourselves farther out on a limb than itrsquos beneficial for usto go As Figure 5 chapter 6 indicates we meet our challenges(including feeling difficult emotions) by degrees You can use thematerial in this book to prove this principle to yourself
Itlsquos important to understand that pain and pleasure are side byside in our brains If we allow our unpleasant feelings (in this case
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 11
fear and self-doubt) to be experienced new levels of their op-posites (higher levels of self-confidence and self-love) are im-mediately available to us Our ldquogremlinsrdquo are merely tools for ourpersonal growth They can only be ldquoconqueredrdquo by befriendingthem because they truly are our friends They are leading us tohigher levels of self-actualization even though the sensationsthey produce are sometimes uncomfortable
If I had attempted to dodge the challenge (denied my fear) Iwould have re-created the scenario latermdashin a magnified mannerThe anxiety level and the challenge would have felt even moreintense When we choose to work with uncomfortable feelingsthe first time they surface we shorten the time wersquore engagedin a particular challenge We leap into a new level of self-loveand happiness
I have shared the above example with you because many studiesindicate that public speaking is the worst fear of many people andsecond only to a dental visit for other individuals The true storyillustrates that the process of transforming pain into power canbe much quicker than we sometimes think Itrsquos not an endlessjourney and the rewards are amazing When we allow ourselvesto complete the personal growth spiral depicted in Figure 5chapter 6 wersquore ready for new challenges instead of continuingto battle the same insecurities over and over
Please note that I experienced instead of judged the feelingseven though they were quite uncomfortable Resisting or re-pressing emotions causes them to park their RVs turn on theirgenerators and plan to spend more time with us Saying helloto them creates a gentle beautiful transition Negative emotionsspontaneously transform into their opposites
In addition the effects of hiding from our pain can have tremen-dous implications for our health When we repress our feelingswe stifle the flow of energy in our bodies We inadvertently sup-press our immune systems We perceive events as more stressfulthan they really are We feel confused and less connected to
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 12
those we love Whether wersquore avoiding our anger or our love theprice of our unwillingness to be honest about our feelings canbe quite high On the other hand allowing life to touch us hastremendous benefits
Studies that chemically analyzed tears indicated that teardropscleanse stress hormones so we feel less fatigued after cryingOur sobs are an innate gift because tears assist the body inwashing away toxins Many recent studies have explored whymen tend to die seven years earlier than women Researchersnoted that most men seldom cry Even when they allow tears towell up in their eyes they rarely shed these very precious innaterejuvenators It seems that we forgot to tell our little boys thatthe strongest treesmdashthose that tend to live the longestmdashbendwith the wind
Many women would rather cry or feel hurt than express angerJust as men were told ldquoBig boys donrsquot cryrdquo most women wereconditioned to believe that anger is unbecoming or ldquonot lady-likerdquoSome women fear anger because they have been in hurtful situ-ations when others were enraged Some women take pride inthe fact that they put the needs of others before their own but they secretly resent doing so
Gender-related patterns of hidden anger or sadness are asso-ciated with the physical diseases we tend to develop Recentstudies have examined why women tend to develop higher per-centages of chronic fatigue syndrome fibromyalgia and arthritiswhile men have higher percentages of other diseases such asheart attacks
Many people advocate releasing or letting go of painful experi-ences or emotions Feelings such as anger sadness and fearare often labeled ldquonegativerdquo or ldquotoxicrdquo Yet our creator placedpain and pleasure side by side in our brains Anger cuddled nextto love peace and happiness Fear nestled next to confidenceSadness snuggled up to joy
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 13
The objective of always operating from love and joy is admirableyet most of us would like to omit a step that is essential beforewe can reach that point The physiology of the brain allows us toexperience the feelings we dislike when theyrsquore already present or cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to experience theiroppositesmdashlike love and happiness
Consider the example of angerndashndashpassion for ourselves the desirefor a better life Our frustration may feel like a voice screaminginto a megaphone ldquoI deserve better than thatrdquo or ldquoI want moreout of liferdquo When we embrace anger (experience it) moreself-love appears Once we express our irritations in a safe andconstructive way we discover wersquove been angry with ourselvesbecause we placed ourselves in an unfavorable situation Westop blaming other people Our compassion for them increasesForgiveness becomes automatic
Most parents love their children too much to try to protect themfrom painful learning experiences Wise parents shield theirchildren from unnecessary pain or danger by teaching themhow to be physically safe and develop decision-making skillsHowever parents with foresight know that efforts to guard theirchildren from any pain would cheat them out of developing theirabilities to meet life on its own terms They would grow up asshallow adults totally unprepared to solve problems or empowerthemselves by meeting new challenges The same is true for usas adults This book can assist you in finding value in all of yourpainful experiences
Discover the hidden gifts of anger empowerment and self-loveFind out how energizingndashndashand even funndashndashit can be to safely andconstructively experience your frustrations Learn how to protectyour health and your relationships during the process
Learn to feel the sweet memories hidden within your deepestgrief Discover what a friend your fear is Like the first robin ofspring it arrives to announce the imminent arrival of somethingworth celebratingmdashyour new layers of confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 14
Complacency creates stagnation Challenges create the insightswe need so we can enjoy a life rich in meaning joy on the joband rewarding relationships
Once we discover how to work with the flow of life instead ofresisting and judging unpleasant events or emotions wersquore freeWe know how to use discomfort to our advantage We effortlesslylaunch ourselves into higher highs than we ever dreamed werepossible
Discover how to allow your discomfort to drive you onward
Where there is fear there is self-confidence Where there is pain there is power Where there is anger there is love Where there is sadness there is joy Where there are no victims there can be no tyrants The road to pain is paved with our judgments and
expectations The road to success is paved with ldquofailuresrdquo Emotions are our personal language sensations
energy in motion
If you want even more happiness and love in your life allow lifeto touch you
CautionThis book can empower you to deal with the self-doubt and fearsthat surface when we approach new challenges You will soonlearn that fear is a formidable source of new power
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 15
Why You Need This BookYou may have seen Dr Doris Your Joy amp Success Coachinterviewed on The Today Show CNN and NPR Doris HelgePhD is author of Amazoncom 1 Bestsellers like Joy on theJob Transforming Pain Into Power and Conquer Your InnerCritic Doris has helped thousands of people like you claim morehappiness and success Her books have been published in manyforeign languages
A licensed Master Certified Coach and Mentor Coach Doriswas named One of the Top Ten Coaches in America at arecent event in the FedEx office in Manhattan New York
Doris everlasting supply of joy springs from her own personalgrowth so shes a natural at helping you transform troublesomeissues into peace and personal power She has a unique intuitiveability to perceive whats been blocking your success andhappiness so you can quickly and easily resolve it With Dorishelp and respect for perfect timing your joy blocks are releasedwith gentleness and love
SIGN UP FOR YOUR FREE E-ZINE
Do you want to receive a steady supply of the latest and greatestways to increase your happiness and success
Subscribe to Dorisrsquo free e-zine More Joy for Me Now byvisiting httpFreeJoyEbookscom Youll love gainingfresh new ideas every month
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 16
You were born withthe right to be happy
The following books will help you discover peace joyand personal fulfillment Order your copies today
Joy on the JobOver 365 Ways to Create
the Joy and Fulfillment You DeservehttpJoyOnTheJobBookcom
Transforming Pain Into PowerMaking the Most of Your Emotions
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Conquer Your Inner CriticNow
httpCoachingByDoriscominnercriticresources
Secrets of Thriving in the Midst of Difficult People
httpwwwCoachingByDoriscom
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COACHING
Are YOU ready to become the confident empowered personyou are destined to become Sign up for your complimentaryconsultation at httpCoachingByDoriscomcontact
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middot Youll enjoy crystal-clear clarity about your next best stepmiddot Youll be laser-focused on your goalmiddot Youll gain enthusiasm and a high level of energymiddot Yoursquoll feel the support and inner strength you need to go
forward with joy
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Sample material fromTransforming Pain Into Power 17
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 18
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Doris provides weekly teleclasses that help you claim morehappiness and success in all areas of your life One of the mostpopular is
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Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 19
Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 9
Chapter One
New Pieces For The Puzzle of Life
Birth canals are small uncomfortable passageways that simul-taneously produce almost indescribable pain and joy Wersquorealways giving birth to new aspects of ourselves We walk downfrightening paths so we can discover new layers of confidenceOur self-doubts arise so we can give birth to higher degrees ofself-love and empowerment When an uncomfortable feelingsuch as anger fear or sadness rears its head most of us wantto numb disguise or deny itmdashanything to get rid of it Thatdoesnrsquot work
We travel down the path of life only to discover that our feelingscontinue to demand our attention Since we didnrsquot heed their callthe first time they scream louder Our painful situations magnifyso we can gain the personal growth available from them
Have you ever known someone who left an unpleasant job orrelationship only to re-create it Although the characters andsetting change the new situation is very similar to the old Icannot tell you how many clients have moaned because oncea job or personal honeymoon was over they woke up with thestark realization ldquoThe people involved have different names thistime but Irsquove been in this situation before Yikes Itrsquos even worsethan last timerdquo
The popular recommendation is to counteract insecurities byldquofaking it lsquotil you make itrdquo This may temporarily suit our desire notto feel uncomfortable but itrsquos not a long-term solution If it werethe answer we wouldnrsquot have to keep faking it The messagesin this book can help you ldquomake itrdquo and the methods for doingso are field-tested You can create permanent positive changeinstead of settling for Band-Aids
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 10
Keep in mind that the suggestions in this book are based oncase studies with both genders and with people in all walks oflife from teenagers to senior citizens Irsquove worked with personsof extraordinary achievement levels and those who consideredthemselves low achievers
I also know the techniques work because Irsquove used them for manyyears There was a time in my professional speaking career thatI had spoken to several hundred people at a time but never toseveral thousand Because speaking to a larger crowd was a newchallenge my insecurities became apparent close to curtain timeWhen a runner came backstage to announce ldquoGuess how manytickets have been soldrdquo I didnrsquot share his enthusiasm Insteadmy self-doubt soared Rather than lying to myself about how Ifelt I allowed myself to be aware of what existedmdashan agonizingsense of unworthiness and the fear that I would go ldquobrain deadrdquoon stage The thought ldquoI have nothing of value to offer themrdquowafted through my consciousness even though I knew betterThe sensations were quite intense
Now for the good news Just as I advocate in this book thatwas the ticket to my freedom I fully experienced the feelings ofinsecurity allowing myself to sink to the ldquobottom of the bottomrdquo(see Figure 5 chapter 6) Itrsquos important to note that this processtook very little time By the time I needed to walk out on stageI felt more self-confident than I ever had Now I can speak tolarge crowds without feelings of self-doubt and unworthinesssurfacing
Why didnrsquot the process take very long Because we really do loveourselves enough to provide our next challenge We donrsquot brutallyshove ourselves farther out on a limb than itrsquos beneficial for usto go As Figure 5 chapter 6 indicates we meet our challenges(including feeling difficult emotions) by degrees You can use thematerial in this book to prove this principle to yourself
Itlsquos important to understand that pain and pleasure are side byside in our brains If we allow our unpleasant feelings (in this case
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 11
fear and self-doubt) to be experienced new levels of their op-posites (higher levels of self-confidence and self-love) are im-mediately available to us Our ldquogremlinsrdquo are merely tools for ourpersonal growth They can only be ldquoconqueredrdquo by befriendingthem because they truly are our friends They are leading us tohigher levels of self-actualization even though the sensationsthey produce are sometimes uncomfortable
If I had attempted to dodge the challenge (denied my fear) Iwould have re-created the scenario latermdashin a magnified mannerThe anxiety level and the challenge would have felt even moreintense When we choose to work with uncomfortable feelingsthe first time they surface we shorten the time wersquore engagedin a particular challenge We leap into a new level of self-loveand happiness
I have shared the above example with you because many studiesindicate that public speaking is the worst fear of many people andsecond only to a dental visit for other individuals The true storyillustrates that the process of transforming pain into power canbe much quicker than we sometimes think Itrsquos not an endlessjourney and the rewards are amazing When we allow ourselvesto complete the personal growth spiral depicted in Figure 5chapter 6 wersquore ready for new challenges instead of continuingto battle the same insecurities over and over
Please note that I experienced instead of judged the feelingseven though they were quite uncomfortable Resisting or re-pressing emotions causes them to park their RVs turn on theirgenerators and plan to spend more time with us Saying helloto them creates a gentle beautiful transition Negative emotionsspontaneously transform into their opposites
In addition the effects of hiding from our pain can have tremen-dous implications for our health When we repress our feelingswe stifle the flow of energy in our bodies We inadvertently sup-press our immune systems We perceive events as more stressfulthan they really are We feel confused and less connected to
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 12
those we love Whether wersquore avoiding our anger or our love theprice of our unwillingness to be honest about our feelings canbe quite high On the other hand allowing life to touch us hastremendous benefits
Studies that chemically analyzed tears indicated that teardropscleanse stress hormones so we feel less fatigued after cryingOur sobs are an innate gift because tears assist the body inwashing away toxins Many recent studies have explored whymen tend to die seven years earlier than women Researchersnoted that most men seldom cry Even when they allow tears towell up in their eyes they rarely shed these very precious innaterejuvenators It seems that we forgot to tell our little boys thatthe strongest treesmdashthose that tend to live the longestmdashbendwith the wind
Many women would rather cry or feel hurt than express angerJust as men were told ldquoBig boys donrsquot cryrdquo most women wereconditioned to believe that anger is unbecoming or ldquonot lady-likerdquoSome women fear anger because they have been in hurtful situ-ations when others were enraged Some women take pride inthe fact that they put the needs of others before their own but they secretly resent doing so
Gender-related patterns of hidden anger or sadness are asso-ciated with the physical diseases we tend to develop Recentstudies have examined why women tend to develop higher per-centages of chronic fatigue syndrome fibromyalgia and arthritiswhile men have higher percentages of other diseases such asheart attacks
Many people advocate releasing or letting go of painful experi-ences or emotions Feelings such as anger sadness and fearare often labeled ldquonegativerdquo or ldquotoxicrdquo Yet our creator placedpain and pleasure side by side in our brains Anger cuddled nextto love peace and happiness Fear nestled next to confidenceSadness snuggled up to joy
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 13
The objective of always operating from love and joy is admirableyet most of us would like to omit a step that is essential beforewe can reach that point The physiology of the brain allows us toexperience the feelings we dislike when theyrsquore already present or cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to experience theiroppositesmdashlike love and happiness
Consider the example of angerndashndashpassion for ourselves the desirefor a better life Our frustration may feel like a voice screaminginto a megaphone ldquoI deserve better than thatrdquo or ldquoI want moreout of liferdquo When we embrace anger (experience it) moreself-love appears Once we express our irritations in a safe andconstructive way we discover wersquove been angry with ourselvesbecause we placed ourselves in an unfavorable situation Westop blaming other people Our compassion for them increasesForgiveness becomes automatic
Most parents love their children too much to try to protect themfrom painful learning experiences Wise parents shield theirchildren from unnecessary pain or danger by teaching themhow to be physically safe and develop decision-making skillsHowever parents with foresight know that efforts to guard theirchildren from any pain would cheat them out of developing theirabilities to meet life on its own terms They would grow up asshallow adults totally unprepared to solve problems or empowerthemselves by meeting new challenges The same is true for usas adults This book can assist you in finding value in all of yourpainful experiences
Discover the hidden gifts of anger empowerment and self-loveFind out how energizingndashndashand even funndashndashit can be to safely andconstructively experience your frustrations Learn how to protectyour health and your relationships during the process
Learn to feel the sweet memories hidden within your deepestgrief Discover what a friend your fear is Like the first robin ofspring it arrives to announce the imminent arrival of somethingworth celebratingmdashyour new layers of confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 14
Complacency creates stagnation Challenges create the insightswe need so we can enjoy a life rich in meaning joy on the joband rewarding relationships
Once we discover how to work with the flow of life instead ofresisting and judging unpleasant events or emotions wersquore freeWe know how to use discomfort to our advantage We effortlesslylaunch ourselves into higher highs than we ever dreamed werepossible
Discover how to allow your discomfort to drive you onward
Where there is fear there is self-confidence Where there is pain there is power Where there is anger there is love Where there is sadness there is joy Where there are no victims there can be no tyrants The road to pain is paved with our judgments and
expectations The road to success is paved with ldquofailuresrdquo Emotions are our personal language sensations
energy in motion
If you want even more happiness and love in your life allow lifeto touch you
CautionThis book can empower you to deal with the self-doubt and fearsthat surface when we approach new challenges You will soonlearn that fear is a formidable source of new power
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 15
Why You Need This BookYou may have seen Dr Doris Your Joy amp Success Coachinterviewed on The Today Show CNN and NPR Doris HelgePhD is author of Amazoncom 1 Bestsellers like Joy on theJob Transforming Pain Into Power and Conquer Your InnerCritic Doris has helped thousands of people like you claim morehappiness and success Her books have been published in manyforeign languages
A licensed Master Certified Coach and Mentor Coach Doriswas named One of the Top Ten Coaches in America at arecent event in the FedEx office in Manhattan New York
Doris everlasting supply of joy springs from her own personalgrowth so shes a natural at helping you transform troublesomeissues into peace and personal power She has a unique intuitiveability to perceive whats been blocking your success andhappiness so you can quickly and easily resolve it With Dorishelp and respect for perfect timing your joy blocks are releasedwith gentleness and love
SIGN UP FOR YOUR FREE E-ZINE
Do you want to receive a steady supply of the latest and greatestways to increase your happiness and success
Subscribe to Dorisrsquo free e-zine More Joy for Me Now byvisiting httpFreeJoyEbookscom Youll love gainingfresh new ideas every month
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 16
You were born withthe right to be happy
The following books will help you discover peace joyand personal fulfillment Order your copies today
Joy on the JobOver 365 Ways to Create
the Joy and Fulfillment You DeservehttpJoyOnTheJobBookcom
Transforming Pain Into PowerMaking the Most of Your Emotions
httpTransformingPainIntoPowercom
Conquer Your Inner CriticNow
httpCoachingByDoriscominnercriticresources
Secrets of Thriving in the Midst of Difficult People
httpwwwCoachingByDoriscom
TAKE ADVANTAGE OFINDIVIDUAL OR GROUP
COACHING
Are YOU ready to become the confident empowered personyou are destined to become Sign up for your complimentaryconsultation at httpCoachingByDoriscomcontact
We guarantee youll depart from Your Personal BreakthroughSession with licensed Certified Master Coach Dr Doris withthese benefits
middot Youll enjoy crystal-clear clarity about your next best stepmiddot Youll be laser-focused on your goalmiddot Youll gain enthusiasm and a high level of energymiddot Yoursquoll feel the support and inner strength you need to go
forward with joy
SEE VIDEOS THAT WILL ELEVATEYOUR HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS
View Transforming Pain Into Power
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-transforming-pain-into-power
View Happiness At Work
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-happiness-at-work
Sample material fromTransforming Pain Into Power 17
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 18
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FREE
PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT TELECLASSES
Doris provides weekly teleclasses that help you claim morehappiness and success in all areas of your life One of the mostpopular is
Transform a Painful Relationship
Into a Powerful Partnership
If you are troubled by a painful professional or personalrelationship discover how to transform conflicts into peacefulproductive partnerships Every difficult person will eitherbecome part of your support system or youll easily neutralizetheir opposition
Discover more athttpCoachingByDoriscomempowermeteleclass
Sign up for your free test drive athttpTeleclassesWithDoriscom
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 19
Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 10
Keep in mind that the suggestions in this book are based oncase studies with both genders and with people in all walks oflife from teenagers to senior citizens Irsquove worked with personsof extraordinary achievement levels and those who consideredthemselves low achievers
I also know the techniques work because Irsquove used them for manyyears There was a time in my professional speaking career thatI had spoken to several hundred people at a time but never toseveral thousand Because speaking to a larger crowd was a newchallenge my insecurities became apparent close to curtain timeWhen a runner came backstage to announce ldquoGuess how manytickets have been soldrdquo I didnrsquot share his enthusiasm Insteadmy self-doubt soared Rather than lying to myself about how Ifelt I allowed myself to be aware of what existedmdashan agonizingsense of unworthiness and the fear that I would go ldquobrain deadrdquoon stage The thought ldquoI have nothing of value to offer themrdquowafted through my consciousness even though I knew betterThe sensations were quite intense
Now for the good news Just as I advocate in this book thatwas the ticket to my freedom I fully experienced the feelings ofinsecurity allowing myself to sink to the ldquobottom of the bottomrdquo(see Figure 5 chapter 6) Itrsquos important to note that this processtook very little time By the time I needed to walk out on stageI felt more self-confident than I ever had Now I can speak tolarge crowds without feelings of self-doubt and unworthinesssurfacing
Why didnrsquot the process take very long Because we really do loveourselves enough to provide our next challenge We donrsquot brutallyshove ourselves farther out on a limb than itrsquos beneficial for usto go As Figure 5 chapter 6 indicates we meet our challenges(including feeling difficult emotions) by degrees You can use thematerial in this book to prove this principle to yourself
Itlsquos important to understand that pain and pleasure are side byside in our brains If we allow our unpleasant feelings (in this case
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 11
fear and self-doubt) to be experienced new levels of their op-posites (higher levels of self-confidence and self-love) are im-mediately available to us Our ldquogremlinsrdquo are merely tools for ourpersonal growth They can only be ldquoconqueredrdquo by befriendingthem because they truly are our friends They are leading us tohigher levels of self-actualization even though the sensationsthey produce are sometimes uncomfortable
If I had attempted to dodge the challenge (denied my fear) Iwould have re-created the scenario latermdashin a magnified mannerThe anxiety level and the challenge would have felt even moreintense When we choose to work with uncomfortable feelingsthe first time they surface we shorten the time wersquore engagedin a particular challenge We leap into a new level of self-loveand happiness
I have shared the above example with you because many studiesindicate that public speaking is the worst fear of many people andsecond only to a dental visit for other individuals The true storyillustrates that the process of transforming pain into power canbe much quicker than we sometimes think Itrsquos not an endlessjourney and the rewards are amazing When we allow ourselvesto complete the personal growth spiral depicted in Figure 5chapter 6 wersquore ready for new challenges instead of continuingto battle the same insecurities over and over
Please note that I experienced instead of judged the feelingseven though they were quite uncomfortable Resisting or re-pressing emotions causes them to park their RVs turn on theirgenerators and plan to spend more time with us Saying helloto them creates a gentle beautiful transition Negative emotionsspontaneously transform into their opposites
In addition the effects of hiding from our pain can have tremen-dous implications for our health When we repress our feelingswe stifle the flow of energy in our bodies We inadvertently sup-press our immune systems We perceive events as more stressfulthan they really are We feel confused and less connected to
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 12
those we love Whether wersquore avoiding our anger or our love theprice of our unwillingness to be honest about our feelings canbe quite high On the other hand allowing life to touch us hastremendous benefits
Studies that chemically analyzed tears indicated that teardropscleanse stress hormones so we feel less fatigued after cryingOur sobs are an innate gift because tears assist the body inwashing away toxins Many recent studies have explored whymen tend to die seven years earlier than women Researchersnoted that most men seldom cry Even when they allow tears towell up in their eyes they rarely shed these very precious innaterejuvenators It seems that we forgot to tell our little boys thatthe strongest treesmdashthose that tend to live the longestmdashbendwith the wind
Many women would rather cry or feel hurt than express angerJust as men were told ldquoBig boys donrsquot cryrdquo most women wereconditioned to believe that anger is unbecoming or ldquonot lady-likerdquoSome women fear anger because they have been in hurtful situ-ations when others were enraged Some women take pride inthe fact that they put the needs of others before their own but they secretly resent doing so
Gender-related patterns of hidden anger or sadness are asso-ciated with the physical diseases we tend to develop Recentstudies have examined why women tend to develop higher per-centages of chronic fatigue syndrome fibromyalgia and arthritiswhile men have higher percentages of other diseases such asheart attacks
Many people advocate releasing or letting go of painful experi-ences or emotions Feelings such as anger sadness and fearare often labeled ldquonegativerdquo or ldquotoxicrdquo Yet our creator placedpain and pleasure side by side in our brains Anger cuddled nextto love peace and happiness Fear nestled next to confidenceSadness snuggled up to joy
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 13
The objective of always operating from love and joy is admirableyet most of us would like to omit a step that is essential beforewe can reach that point The physiology of the brain allows us toexperience the feelings we dislike when theyrsquore already present or cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to experience theiroppositesmdashlike love and happiness
Consider the example of angerndashndashpassion for ourselves the desirefor a better life Our frustration may feel like a voice screaminginto a megaphone ldquoI deserve better than thatrdquo or ldquoI want moreout of liferdquo When we embrace anger (experience it) moreself-love appears Once we express our irritations in a safe andconstructive way we discover wersquove been angry with ourselvesbecause we placed ourselves in an unfavorable situation Westop blaming other people Our compassion for them increasesForgiveness becomes automatic
Most parents love their children too much to try to protect themfrom painful learning experiences Wise parents shield theirchildren from unnecessary pain or danger by teaching themhow to be physically safe and develop decision-making skillsHowever parents with foresight know that efforts to guard theirchildren from any pain would cheat them out of developing theirabilities to meet life on its own terms They would grow up asshallow adults totally unprepared to solve problems or empowerthemselves by meeting new challenges The same is true for usas adults This book can assist you in finding value in all of yourpainful experiences
Discover the hidden gifts of anger empowerment and self-loveFind out how energizingndashndashand even funndashndashit can be to safely andconstructively experience your frustrations Learn how to protectyour health and your relationships during the process
Learn to feel the sweet memories hidden within your deepestgrief Discover what a friend your fear is Like the first robin ofspring it arrives to announce the imminent arrival of somethingworth celebratingmdashyour new layers of confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 14
Complacency creates stagnation Challenges create the insightswe need so we can enjoy a life rich in meaning joy on the joband rewarding relationships
Once we discover how to work with the flow of life instead ofresisting and judging unpleasant events or emotions wersquore freeWe know how to use discomfort to our advantage We effortlesslylaunch ourselves into higher highs than we ever dreamed werepossible
Discover how to allow your discomfort to drive you onward
Where there is fear there is self-confidence Where there is pain there is power Where there is anger there is love Where there is sadness there is joy Where there are no victims there can be no tyrants The road to pain is paved with our judgments and
expectations The road to success is paved with ldquofailuresrdquo Emotions are our personal language sensations
energy in motion
If you want even more happiness and love in your life allow lifeto touch you
CautionThis book can empower you to deal with the self-doubt and fearsthat surface when we approach new challenges You will soonlearn that fear is a formidable source of new power
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 15
Why You Need This BookYou may have seen Dr Doris Your Joy amp Success Coachinterviewed on The Today Show CNN and NPR Doris HelgePhD is author of Amazoncom 1 Bestsellers like Joy on theJob Transforming Pain Into Power and Conquer Your InnerCritic Doris has helped thousands of people like you claim morehappiness and success Her books have been published in manyforeign languages
A licensed Master Certified Coach and Mentor Coach Doriswas named One of the Top Ten Coaches in America at arecent event in the FedEx office in Manhattan New York
Doris everlasting supply of joy springs from her own personalgrowth so shes a natural at helping you transform troublesomeissues into peace and personal power She has a unique intuitiveability to perceive whats been blocking your success andhappiness so you can quickly and easily resolve it With Dorishelp and respect for perfect timing your joy blocks are releasedwith gentleness and love
SIGN UP FOR YOUR FREE E-ZINE
Do you want to receive a steady supply of the latest and greatestways to increase your happiness and success
Subscribe to Dorisrsquo free e-zine More Joy for Me Now byvisiting httpFreeJoyEbookscom Youll love gainingfresh new ideas every month
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 16
You were born withthe right to be happy
The following books will help you discover peace joyand personal fulfillment Order your copies today
Joy on the JobOver 365 Ways to Create
the Joy and Fulfillment You DeservehttpJoyOnTheJobBookcom
Transforming Pain Into PowerMaking the Most of Your Emotions
httpTransformingPainIntoPowercom
Conquer Your Inner CriticNow
httpCoachingByDoriscominnercriticresources
Secrets of Thriving in the Midst of Difficult People
httpwwwCoachingByDoriscom
TAKE ADVANTAGE OFINDIVIDUAL OR GROUP
COACHING
Are YOU ready to become the confident empowered personyou are destined to become Sign up for your complimentaryconsultation at httpCoachingByDoriscomcontact
We guarantee youll depart from Your Personal BreakthroughSession with licensed Certified Master Coach Dr Doris withthese benefits
middot Youll enjoy crystal-clear clarity about your next best stepmiddot Youll be laser-focused on your goalmiddot Youll gain enthusiasm and a high level of energymiddot Yoursquoll feel the support and inner strength you need to go
forward with joy
SEE VIDEOS THAT WILL ELEVATEYOUR HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS
View Transforming Pain Into Power
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-transforming-pain-into-power
View Happiness At Work
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-happiness-at-work
Sample material fromTransforming Pain Into Power 17
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 18
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FREE
PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT TELECLASSES
Doris provides weekly teleclasses that help you claim morehappiness and success in all areas of your life One of the mostpopular is
Transform a Painful Relationship
Into a Powerful Partnership
If you are troubled by a painful professional or personalrelationship discover how to transform conflicts into peacefulproductive partnerships Every difficult person will eitherbecome part of your support system or youll easily neutralizetheir opposition
Discover more athttpCoachingByDoriscomempowermeteleclass
Sign up for your free test drive athttpTeleclassesWithDoriscom
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 19
Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 11
fear and self-doubt) to be experienced new levels of their op-posites (higher levels of self-confidence and self-love) are im-mediately available to us Our ldquogremlinsrdquo are merely tools for ourpersonal growth They can only be ldquoconqueredrdquo by befriendingthem because they truly are our friends They are leading us tohigher levels of self-actualization even though the sensationsthey produce are sometimes uncomfortable
If I had attempted to dodge the challenge (denied my fear) Iwould have re-created the scenario latermdashin a magnified mannerThe anxiety level and the challenge would have felt even moreintense When we choose to work with uncomfortable feelingsthe first time they surface we shorten the time wersquore engagedin a particular challenge We leap into a new level of self-loveand happiness
I have shared the above example with you because many studiesindicate that public speaking is the worst fear of many people andsecond only to a dental visit for other individuals The true storyillustrates that the process of transforming pain into power canbe much quicker than we sometimes think Itrsquos not an endlessjourney and the rewards are amazing When we allow ourselvesto complete the personal growth spiral depicted in Figure 5chapter 6 wersquore ready for new challenges instead of continuingto battle the same insecurities over and over
Please note that I experienced instead of judged the feelingseven though they were quite uncomfortable Resisting or re-pressing emotions causes them to park their RVs turn on theirgenerators and plan to spend more time with us Saying helloto them creates a gentle beautiful transition Negative emotionsspontaneously transform into their opposites
In addition the effects of hiding from our pain can have tremen-dous implications for our health When we repress our feelingswe stifle the flow of energy in our bodies We inadvertently sup-press our immune systems We perceive events as more stressfulthan they really are We feel confused and less connected to
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 12
those we love Whether wersquore avoiding our anger or our love theprice of our unwillingness to be honest about our feelings canbe quite high On the other hand allowing life to touch us hastremendous benefits
Studies that chemically analyzed tears indicated that teardropscleanse stress hormones so we feel less fatigued after cryingOur sobs are an innate gift because tears assist the body inwashing away toxins Many recent studies have explored whymen tend to die seven years earlier than women Researchersnoted that most men seldom cry Even when they allow tears towell up in their eyes they rarely shed these very precious innaterejuvenators It seems that we forgot to tell our little boys thatthe strongest treesmdashthose that tend to live the longestmdashbendwith the wind
Many women would rather cry or feel hurt than express angerJust as men were told ldquoBig boys donrsquot cryrdquo most women wereconditioned to believe that anger is unbecoming or ldquonot lady-likerdquoSome women fear anger because they have been in hurtful situ-ations when others were enraged Some women take pride inthe fact that they put the needs of others before their own but they secretly resent doing so
Gender-related patterns of hidden anger or sadness are asso-ciated with the physical diseases we tend to develop Recentstudies have examined why women tend to develop higher per-centages of chronic fatigue syndrome fibromyalgia and arthritiswhile men have higher percentages of other diseases such asheart attacks
Many people advocate releasing or letting go of painful experi-ences or emotions Feelings such as anger sadness and fearare often labeled ldquonegativerdquo or ldquotoxicrdquo Yet our creator placedpain and pleasure side by side in our brains Anger cuddled nextto love peace and happiness Fear nestled next to confidenceSadness snuggled up to joy
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 13
The objective of always operating from love and joy is admirableyet most of us would like to omit a step that is essential beforewe can reach that point The physiology of the brain allows us toexperience the feelings we dislike when theyrsquore already present or cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to experience theiroppositesmdashlike love and happiness
Consider the example of angerndashndashpassion for ourselves the desirefor a better life Our frustration may feel like a voice screaminginto a megaphone ldquoI deserve better than thatrdquo or ldquoI want moreout of liferdquo When we embrace anger (experience it) moreself-love appears Once we express our irritations in a safe andconstructive way we discover wersquove been angry with ourselvesbecause we placed ourselves in an unfavorable situation Westop blaming other people Our compassion for them increasesForgiveness becomes automatic
Most parents love their children too much to try to protect themfrom painful learning experiences Wise parents shield theirchildren from unnecessary pain or danger by teaching themhow to be physically safe and develop decision-making skillsHowever parents with foresight know that efforts to guard theirchildren from any pain would cheat them out of developing theirabilities to meet life on its own terms They would grow up asshallow adults totally unprepared to solve problems or empowerthemselves by meeting new challenges The same is true for usas adults This book can assist you in finding value in all of yourpainful experiences
Discover the hidden gifts of anger empowerment and self-loveFind out how energizingndashndashand even funndashndashit can be to safely andconstructively experience your frustrations Learn how to protectyour health and your relationships during the process
Learn to feel the sweet memories hidden within your deepestgrief Discover what a friend your fear is Like the first robin ofspring it arrives to announce the imminent arrival of somethingworth celebratingmdashyour new layers of confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 14
Complacency creates stagnation Challenges create the insightswe need so we can enjoy a life rich in meaning joy on the joband rewarding relationships
Once we discover how to work with the flow of life instead ofresisting and judging unpleasant events or emotions wersquore freeWe know how to use discomfort to our advantage We effortlesslylaunch ourselves into higher highs than we ever dreamed werepossible
Discover how to allow your discomfort to drive you onward
Where there is fear there is self-confidence Where there is pain there is power Where there is anger there is love Where there is sadness there is joy Where there are no victims there can be no tyrants The road to pain is paved with our judgments and
expectations The road to success is paved with ldquofailuresrdquo Emotions are our personal language sensations
energy in motion
If you want even more happiness and love in your life allow lifeto touch you
CautionThis book can empower you to deal with the self-doubt and fearsthat surface when we approach new challenges You will soonlearn that fear is a formidable source of new power
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 15
Why You Need This BookYou may have seen Dr Doris Your Joy amp Success Coachinterviewed on The Today Show CNN and NPR Doris HelgePhD is author of Amazoncom 1 Bestsellers like Joy on theJob Transforming Pain Into Power and Conquer Your InnerCritic Doris has helped thousands of people like you claim morehappiness and success Her books have been published in manyforeign languages
A licensed Master Certified Coach and Mentor Coach Doriswas named One of the Top Ten Coaches in America at arecent event in the FedEx office in Manhattan New York
Doris everlasting supply of joy springs from her own personalgrowth so shes a natural at helping you transform troublesomeissues into peace and personal power She has a unique intuitiveability to perceive whats been blocking your success andhappiness so you can quickly and easily resolve it With Dorishelp and respect for perfect timing your joy blocks are releasedwith gentleness and love
SIGN UP FOR YOUR FREE E-ZINE
Do you want to receive a steady supply of the latest and greatestways to increase your happiness and success
Subscribe to Dorisrsquo free e-zine More Joy for Me Now byvisiting httpFreeJoyEbookscom Youll love gainingfresh new ideas every month
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 16
You were born withthe right to be happy
The following books will help you discover peace joyand personal fulfillment Order your copies today
Joy on the JobOver 365 Ways to Create
the Joy and Fulfillment You DeservehttpJoyOnTheJobBookcom
Transforming Pain Into PowerMaking the Most of Your Emotions
httpTransformingPainIntoPowercom
Conquer Your Inner CriticNow
httpCoachingByDoriscominnercriticresources
Secrets of Thriving in the Midst of Difficult People
httpwwwCoachingByDoriscom
TAKE ADVANTAGE OFINDIVIDUAL OR GROUP
COACHING
Are YOU ready to become the confident empowered personyou are destined to become Sign up for your complimentaryconsultation at httpCoachingByDoriscomcontact
We guarantee youll depart from Your Personal BreakthroughSession with licensed Certified Master Coach Dr Doris withthese benefits
middot Youll enjoy crystal-clear clarity about your next best stepmiddot Youll be laser-focused on your goalmiddot Youll gain enthusiasm and a high level of energymiddot Yoursquoll feel the support and inner strength you need to go
forward with joy
SEE VIDEOS THAT WILL ELEVATEYOUR HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS
View Transforming Pain Into Power
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-transforming-pain-into-power
View Happiness At Work
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-happiness-at-work
Sample material fromTransforming Pain Into Power 17
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 18
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FREE
PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT TELECLASSES
Doris provides weekly teleclasses that help you claim morehappiness and success in all areas of your life One of the mostpopular is
Transform a Painful Relationship
Into a Powerful Partnership
If you are troubled by a painful professional or personalrelationship discover how to transform conflicts into peacefulproductive partnerships Every difficult person will eitherbecome part of your support system or youll easily neutralizetheir opposition
Discover more athttpCoachingByDoriscomempowermeteleclass
Sign up for your free test drive athttpTeleclassesWithDoriscom
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 19
Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material from ldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 12
those we love Whether wersquore avoiding our anger or our love theprice of our unwillingness to be honest about our feelings canbe quite high On the other hand allowing life to touch us hastremendous benefits
Studies that chemically analyzed tears indicated that teardropscleanse stress hormones so we feel less fatigued after cryingOur sobs are an innate gift because tears assist the body inwashing away toxins Many recent studies have explored whymen tend to die seven years earlier than women Researchersnoted that most men seldom cry Even when they allow tears towell up in their eyes they rarely shed these very precious innaterejuvenators It seems that we forgot to tell our little boys thatthe strongest treesmdashthose that tend to live the longestmdashbendwith the wind
Many women would rather cry or feel hurt than express angerJust as men were told ldquoBig boys donrsquot cryrdquo most women wereconditioned to believe that anger is unbecoming or ldquonot lady-likerdquoSome women fear anger because they have been in hurtful situ-ations when others were enraged Some women take pride inthe fact that they put the needs of others before their own but they secretly resent doing so
Gender-related patterns of hidden anger or sadness are asso-ciated with the physical diseases we tend to develop Recentstudies have examined why women tend to develop higher per-centages of chronic fatigue syndrome fibromyalgia and arthritiswhile men have higher percentages of other diseases such asheart attacks
Many people advocate releasing or letting go of painful experi-ences or emotions Feelings such as anger sadness and fearare often labeled ldquonegativerdquo or ldquotoxicrdquo Yet our creator placedpain and pleasure side by side in our brains Anger cuddled nextto love peace and happiness Fear nestled next to confidenceSadness snuggled up to joy
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 13
The objective of always operating from love and joy is admirableyet most of us would like to omit a step that is essential beforewe can reach that point The physiology of the brain allows us toexperience the feelings we dislike when theyrsquore already present or cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to experience theiroppositesmdashlike love and happiness
Consider the example of angerndashndashpassion for ourselves the desirefor a better life Our frustration may feel like a voice screaminginto a megaphone ldquoI deserve better than thatrdquo or ldquoI want moreout of liferdquo When we embrace anger (experience it) moreself-love appears Once we express our irritations in a safe andconstructive way we discover wersquove been angry with ourselvesbecause we placed ourselves in an unfavorable situation Westop blaming other people Our compassion for them increasesForgiveness becomes automatic
Most parents love their children too much to try to protect themfrom painful learning experiences Wise parents shield theirchildren from unnecessary pain or danger by teaching themhow to be physically safe and develop decision-making skillsHowever parents with foresight know that efforts to guard theirchildren from any pain would cheat them out of developing theirabilities to meet life on its own terms They would grow up asshallow adults totally unprepared to solve problems or empowerthemselves by meeting new challenges The same is true for usas adults This book can assist you in finding value in all of yourpainful experiences
Discover the hidden gifts of anger empowerment and self-loveFind out how energizingndashndashand even funndashndashit can be to safely andconstructively experience your frustrations Learn how to protectyour health and your relationships during the process
Learn to feel the sweet memories hidden within your deepestgrief Discover what a friend your fear is Like the first robin ofspring it arrives to announce the imminent arrival of somethingworth celebratingmdashyour new layers of confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 14
Complacency creates stagnation Challenges create the insightswe need so we can enjoy a life rich in meaning joy on the joband rewarding relationships
Once we discover how to work with the flow of life instead ofresisting and judging unpleasant events or emotions wersquore freeWe know how to use discomfort to our advantage We effortlesslylaunch ourselves into higher highs than we ever dreamed werepossible
Discover how to allow your discomfort to drive you onward
Where there is fear there is self-confidence Where there is pain there is power Where there is anger there is love Where there is sadness there is joy Where there are no victims there can be no tyrants The road to pain is paved with our judgments and
expectations The road to success is paved with ldquofailuresrdquo Emotions are our personal language sensations
energy in motion
If you want even more happiness and love in your life allow lifeto touch you
CautionThis book can empower you to deal with the self-doubt and fearsthat surface when we approach new challenges You will soonlearn that fear is a formidable source of new power
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 15
Why You Need This BookYou may have seen Dr Doris Your Joy amp Success Coachinterviewed on The Today Show CNN and NPR Doris HelgePhD is author of Amazoncom 1 Bestsellers like Joy on theJob Transforming Pain Into Power and Conquer Your InnerCritic Doris has helped thousands of people like you claim morehappiness and success Her books have been published in manyforeign languages
A licensed Master Certified Coach and Mentor Coach Doriswas named One of the Top Ten Coaches in America at arecent event in the FedEx office in Manhattan New York
Doris everlasting supply of joy springs from her own personalgrowth so shes a natural at helping you transform troublesomeissues into peace and personal power She has a unique intuitiveability to perceive whats been blocking your success andhappiness so you can quickly and easily resolve it With Dorishelp and respect for perfect timing your joy blocks are releasedwith gentleness and love
SIGN UP FOR YOUR FREE E-ZINE
Do you want to receive a steady supply of the latest and greatestways to increase your happiness and success
Subscribe to Dorisrsquo free e-zine More Joy for Me Now byvisiting httpFreeJoyEbookscom Youll love gainingfresh new ideas every month
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 16
You were born withthe right to be happy
The following books will help you discover peace joyand personal fulfillment Order your copies today
Joy on the JobOver 365 Ways to Create
the Joy and Fulfillment You DeservehttpJoyOnTheJobBookcom
Transforming Pain Into PowerMaking the Most of Your Emotions
httpTransformingPainIntoPowercom
Conquer Your Inner CriticNow
httpCoachingByDoriscominnercriticresources
Secrets of Thriving in the Midst of Difficult People
httpwwwCoachingByDoriscom
TAKE ADVANTAGE OFINDIVIDUAL OR GROUP
COACHING
Are YOU ready to become the confident empowered personyou are destined to become Sign up for your complimentaryconsultation at httpCoachingByDoriscomcontact
We guarantee youll depart from Your Personal BreakthroughSession with licensed Certified Master Coach Dr Doris withthese benefits
middot Youll enjoy crystal-clear clarity about your next best stepmiddot Youll be laser-focused on your goalmiddot Youll gain enthusiasm and a high level of energymiddot Yoursquoll feel the support and inner strength you need to go
forward with joy
SEE VIDEOS THAT WILL ELEVATEYOUR HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS
View Transforming Pain Into Power
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-transforming-pain-into-power
View Happiness At Work
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-happiness-at-work
Sample material fromTransforming Pain Into Power 17
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 18
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FREE
PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT TELECLASSES
Doris provides weekly teleclasses that help you claim morehappiness and success in all areas of your life One of the mostpopular is
Transform a Painful Relationship
Into a Powerful Partnership
If you are troubled by a painful professional or personalrelationship discover how to transform conflicts into peacefulproductive partnerships Every difficult person will eitherbecome part of your support system or youll easily neutralizetheir opposition
Discover more athttpCoachingByDoriscomempowermeteleclass
Sign up for your free test drive athttpTeleclassesWithDoriscom
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 19
Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 13
The objective of always operating from love and joy is admirableyet most of us would like to omit a step that is essential beforewe can reach that point The physiology of the brain allows us toexperience the feelings we dislike when theyrsquore already present or cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to experience theiroppositesmdashlike love and happiness
Consider the example of angerndashndashpassion for ourselves the desirefor a better life Our frustration may feel like a voice screaminginto a megaphone ldquoI deserve better than thatrdquo or ldquoI want moreout of liferdquo When we embrace anger (experience it) moreself-love appears Once we express our irritations in a safe andconstructive way we discover wersquove been angry with ourselvesbecause we placed ourselves in an unfavorable situation Westop blaming other people Our compassion for them increasesForgiveness becomes automatic
Most parents love their children too much to try to protect themfrom painful learning experiences Wise parents shield theirchildren from unnecessary pain or danger by teaching themhow to be physically safe and develop decision-making skillsHowever parents with foresight know that efforts to guard theirchildren from any pain would cheat them out of developing theirabilities to meet life on its own terms They would grow up asshallow adults totally unprepared to solve problems or empowerthemselves by meeting new challenges The same is true for usas adults This book can assist you in finding value in all of yourpainful experiences
Discover the hidden gifts of anger empowerment and self-loveFind out how energizingndashndashand even funndashndashit can be to safely andconstructively experience your frustrations Learn how to protectyour health and your relationships during the process
Learn to feel the sweet memories hidden within your deepestgrief Discover what a friend your fear is Like the first robin ofspring it arrives to announce the imminent arrival of somethingworth celebratingmdashyour new layers of confidence
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 14
Complacency creates stagnation Challenges create the insightswe need so we can enjoy a life rich in meaning joy on the joband rewarding relationships
Once we discover how to work with the flow of life instead ofresisting and judging unpleasant events or emotions wersquore freeWe know how to use discomfort to our advantage We effortlesslylaunch ourselves into higher highs than we ever dreamed werepossible
Discover how to allow your discomfort to drive you onward
Where there is fear there is self-confidence Where there is pain there is power Where there is anger there is love Where there is sadness there is joy Where there are no victims there can be no tyrants The road to pain is paved with our judgments and
expectations The road to success is paved with ldquofailuresrdquo Emotions are our personal language sensations
energy in motion
If you want even more happiness and love in your life allow lifeto touch you
CautionThis book can empower you to deal with the self-doubt and fearsthat surface when we approach new challenges You will soonlearn that fear is a formidable source of new power
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 15
Why You Need This BookYou may have seen Dr Doris Your Joy amp Success Coachinterviewed on The Today Show CNN and NPR Doris HelgePhD is author of Amazoncom 1 Bestsellers like Joy on theJob Transforming Pain Into Power and Conquer Your InnerCritic Doris has helped thousands of people like you claim morehappiness and success Her books have been published in manyforeign languages
A licensed Master Certified Coach and Mentor Coach Doriswas named One of the Top Ten Coaches in America at arecent event in the FedEx office in Manhattan New York
Doris everlasting supply of joy springs from her own personalgrowth so shes a natural at helping you transform troublesomeissues into peace and personal power She has a unique intuitiveability to perceive whats been blocking your success andhappiness so you can quickly and easily resolve it With Dorishelp and respect for perfect timing your joy blocks are releasedwith gentleness and love
SIGN UP FOR YOUR FREE E-ZINE
Do you want to receive a steady supply of the latest and greatestways to increase your happiness and success
Subscribe to Dorisrsquo free e-zine More Joy for Me Now byvisiting httpFreeJoyEbookscom Youll love gainingfresh new ideas every month
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 16
You were born withthe right to be happy
The following books will help you discover peace joyand personal fulfillment Order your copies today
Joy on the JobOver 365 Ways to Create
the Joy and Fulfillment You DeservehttpJoyOnTheJobBookcom
Transforming Pain Into PowerMaking the Most of Your Emotions
httpTransformingPainIntoPowercom
Conquer Your Inner CriticNow
httpCoachingByDoriscominnercriticresources
Secrets of Thriving in the Midst of Difficult People
httpwwwCoachingByDoriscom
TAKE ADVANTAGE OFINDIVIDUAL OR GROUP
COACHING
Are YOU ready to become the confident empowered personyou are destined to become Sign up for your complimentaryconsultation at httpCoachingByDoriscomcontact
We guarantee youll depart from Your Personal BreakthroughSession with licensed Certified Master Coach Dr Doris withthese benefits
middot Youll enjoy crystal-clear clarity about your next best stepmiddot Youll be laser-focused on your goalmiddot Youll gain enthusiasm and a high level of energymiddot Yoursquoll feel the support and inner strength you need to go
forward with joy
SEE VIDEOS THAT WILL ELEVATEYOUR HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS
View Transforming Pain Into Power
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-transforming-pain-into-power
View Happiness At Work
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-happiness-at-work
Sample material fromTransforming Pain Into Power 17
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 18
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FREE
PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT TELECLASSES
Doris provides weekly teleclasses that help you claim morehappiness and success in all areas of your life One of the mostpopular is
Transform a Painful Relationship
Into a Powerful Partnership
If you are troubled by a painful professional or personalrelationship discover how to transform conflicts into peacefulproductive partnerships Every difficult person will eitherbecome part of your support system or youll easily neutralizetheir opposition
Discover more athttpCoachingByDoriscomempowermeteleclass
Sign up for your free test drive athttpTeleclassesWithDoriscom
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 19
Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 14
Complacency creates stagnation Challenges create the insightswe need so we can enjoy a life rich in meaning joy on the joband rewarding relationships
Once we discover how to work with the flow of life instead ofresisting and judging unpleasant events or emotions wersquore freeWe know how to use discomfort to our advantage We effortlesslylaunch ourselves into higher highs than we ever dreamed werepossible
Discover how to allow your discomfort to drive you onward
Where there is fear there is self-confidence Where there is pain there is power Where there is anger there is love Where there is sadness there is joy Where there are no victims there can be no tyrants The road to pain is paved with our judgments and
expectations The road to success is paved with ldquofailuresrdquo Emotions are our personal language sensations
energy in motion
If you want even more happiness and love in your life allow lifeto touch you
CautionThis book can empower you to deal with the self-doubt and fearsthat surface when we approach new challenges You will soonlearn that fear is a formidable source of new power
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 15
Why You Need This BookYou may have seen Dr Doris Your Joy amp Success Coachinterviewed on The Today Show CNN and NPR Doris HelgePhD is author of Amazoncom 1 Bestsellers like Joy on theJob Transforming Pain Into Power and Conquer Your InnerCritic Doris has helped thousands of people like you claim morehappiness and success Her books have been published in manyforeign languages
A licensed Master Certified Coach and Mentor Coach Doriswas named One of the Top Ten Coaches in America at arecent event in the FedEx office in Manhattan New York
Doris everlasting supply of joy springs from her own personalgrowth so shes a natural at helping you transform troublesomeissues into peace and personal power She has a unique intuitiveability to perceive whats been blocking your success andhappiness so you can quickly and easily resolve it With Dorishelp and respect for perfect timing your joy blocks are releasedwith gentleness and love
SIGN UP FOR YOUR FREE E-ZINE
Do you want to receive a steady supply of the latest and greatestways to increase your happiness and success
Subscribe to Dorisrsquo free e-zine More Joy for Me Now byvisiting httpFreeJoyEbookscom Youll love gainingfresh new ideas every month
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 16
You were born withthe right to be happy
The following books will help you discover peace joyand personal fulfillment Order your copies today
Joy on the JobOver 365 Ways to Create
the Joy and Fulfillment You DeservehttpJoyOnTheJobBookcom
Transforming Pain Into PowerMaking the Most of Your Emotions
httpTransformingPainIntoPowercom
Conquer Your Inner CriticNow
httpCoachingByDoriscominnercriticresources
Secrets of Thriving in the Midst of Difficult People
httpwwwCoachingByDoriscom
TAKE ADVANTAGE OFINDIVIDUAL OR GROUP
COACHING
Are YOU ready to become the confident empowered personyou are destined to become Sign up for your complimentaryconsultation at httpCoachingByDoriscomcontact
We guarantee youll depart from Your Personal BreakthroughSession with licensed Certified Master Coach Dr Doris withthese benefits
middot Youll enjoy crystal-clear clarity about your next best stepmiddot Youll be laser-focused on your goalmiddot Youll gain enthusiasm and a high level of energymiddot Yoursquoll feel the support and inner strength you need to go
forward with joy
SEE VIDEOS THAT WILL ELEVATEYOUR HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS
View Transforming Pain Into Power
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-transforming-pain-into-power
View Happiness At Work
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-happiness-at-work
Sample material fromTransforming Pain Into Power 17
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 18
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FREE
PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT TELECLASSES
Doris provides weekly teleclasses that help you claim morehappiness and success in all areas of your life One of the mostpopular is
Transform a Painful Relationship
Into a Powerful Partnership
If you are troubled by a painful professional or personalrelationship discover how to transform conflicts into peacefulproductive partnerships Every difficult person will eitherbecome part of your support system or youll easily neutralizetheir opposition
Discover more athttpCoachingByDoriscomempowermeteleclass
Sign up for your free test drive athttpTeleclassesWithDoriscom
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 19
Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 15
Why You Need This BookYou may have seen Dr Doris Your Joy amp Success Coachinterviewed on The Today Show CNN and NPR Doris HelgePhD is author of Amazoncom 1 Bestsellers like Joy on theJob Transforming Pain Into Power and Conquer Your InnerCritic Doris has helped thousands of people like you claim morehappiness and success Her books have been published in manyforeign languages
A licensed Master Certified Coach and Mentor Coach Doriswas named One of the Top Ten Coaches in America at arecent event in the FedEx office in Manhattan New York
Doris everlasting supply of joy springs from her own personalgrowth so shes a natural at helping you transform troublesomeissues into peace and personal power She has a unique intuitiveability to perceive whats been blocking your success andhappiness so you can quickly and easily resolve it With Dorishelp and respect for perfect timing your joy blocks are releasedwith gentleness and love
SIGN UP FOR YOUR FREE E-ZINE
Do you want to receive a steady supply of the latest and greatestways to increase your happiness and success
Subscribe to Dorisrsquo free e-zine More Joy for Me Now byvisiting httpFreeJoyEbookscom Youll love gainingfresh new ideas every month
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 16
You were born withthe right to be happy
The following books will help you discover peace joyand personal fulfillment Order your copies today
Joy on the JobOver 365 Ways to Create
the Joy and Fulfillment You DeservehttpJoyOnTheJobBookcom
Transforming Pain Into PowerMaking the Most of Your Emotions
httpTransformingPainIntoPowercom
Conquer Your Inner CriticNow
httpCoachingByDoriscominnercriticresources
Secrets of Thriving in the Midst of Difficult People
httpwwwCoachingByDoriscom
TAKE ADVANTAGE OFINDIVIDUAL OR GROUP
COACHING
Are YOU ready to become the confident empowered personyou are destined to become Sign up for your complimentaryconsultation at httpCoachingByDoriscomcontact
We guarantee youll depart from Your Personal BreakthroughSession with licensed Certified Master Coach Dr Doris withthese benefits
middot Youll enjoy crystal-clear clarity about your next best stepmiddot Youll be laser-focused on your goalmiddot Youll gain enthusiasm and a high level of energymiddot Yoursquoll feel the support and inner strength you need to go
forward with joy
SEE VIDEOS THAT WILL ELEVATEYOUR HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS
View Transforming Pain Into Power
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-transforming-pain-into-power
View Happiness At Work
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-happiness-at-work
Sample material fromTransforming Pain Into Power 17
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 18
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FREE
PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT TELECLASSES
Doris provides weekly teleclasses that help you claim morehappiness and success in all areas of your life One of the mostpopular is
Transform a Painful Relationship
Into a Powerful Partnership
If you are troubled by a painful professional or personalrelationship discover how to transform conflicts into peacefulproductive partnerships Every difficult person will eitherbecome part of your support system or youll easily neutralizetheir opposition
Discover more athttpCoachingByDoriscomempowermeteleclass
Sign up for your free test drive athttpTeleclassesWithDoriscom
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 19
Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 16
You were born withthe right to be happy
The following books will help you discover peace joyand personal fulfillment Order your copies today
Joy on the JobOver 365 Ways to Create
the Joy and Fulfillment You DeservehttpJoyOnTheJobBookcom
Transforming Pain Into PowerMaking the Most of Your Emotions
httpTransformingPainIntoPowercom
Conquer Your Inner CriticNow
httpCoachingByDoriscominnercriticresources
Secrets of Thriving in the Midst of Difficult People
httpwwwCoachingByDoriscom
TAKE ADVANTAGE OFINDIVIDUAL OR GROUP
COACHING
Are YOU ready to become the confident empowered personyou are destined to become Sign up for your complimentaryconsultation at httpCoachingByDoriscomcontact
We guarantee youll depart from Your Personal BreakthroughSession with licensed Certified Master Coach Dr Doris withthese benefits
middot Youll enjoy crystal-clear clarity about your next best stepmiddot Youll be laser-focused on your goalmiddot Youll gain enthusiasm and a high level of energymiddot Yoursquoll feel the support and inner strength you need to go
forward with joy
SEE VIDEOS THAT WILL ELEVATEYOUR HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS
View Transforming Pain Into Power
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-transforming-pain-into-power
View Happiness At Work
httpcoachingbydoriscomview-happiness-at-work
Sample material fromTransforming Pain Into Power 17
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 18
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FREE
PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT TELECLASSES
Doris provides weekly teleclasses that help you claim morehappiness and success in all areas of your life One of the mostpopular is
Transform a Painful Relationship
Into a Powerful Partnership
If you are troubled by a painful professional or personalrelationship discover how to transform conflicts into peacefulproductive partnerships Every difficult person will eitherbecome part of your support system or youll easily neutralizetheir opposition
Discover more athttpCoachingByDoriscomempowermeteleclass
Sign up for your free test drive athttpTeleclassesWithDoriscom
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 19
Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
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COACHING
Are YOU ready to become the confident empowered personyou are destined to become Sign up for your complimentaryconsultation at httpCoachingByDoriscomcontact
We guarantee youll depart from Your Personal BreakthroughSession with licensed Certified Master Coach Dr Doris withthese benefits
middot Youll enjoy crystal-clear clarity about your next best stepmiddot Youll be laser-focused on your goalmiddot Youll gain enthusiasm and a high level of energymiddot Yoursquoll feel the support and inner strength you need to go
forward with joy
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TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FREE
PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT TELECLASSES
Doris provides weekly teleclasses that help you claim morehappiness and success in all areas of your life One of the mostpopular is
Transform a Painful Relationship
Into a Powerful Partnership
If you are troubled by a painful professional or personalrelationship discover how to transform conflicts into peacefulproductive partnerships Every difficult person will eitherbecome part of your support system or youll easily neutralizetheir opposition
Discover more athttpCoachingByDoriscomempowermeteleclass
Sign up for your free test drive athttpTeleclassesWithDoriscom
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 19
Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 18
TAKE ADVANTAGE OF FREE
PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT TELECLASSES
Doris provides weekly teleclasses that help you claim morehappiness and success in all areas of your life One of the mostpopular is
Transform a Painful Relationship
Into a Powerful Partnership
If you are troubled by a painful professional or personalrelationship discover how to transform conflicts into peacefulproductive partnerships Every difficult person will eitherbecome part of your support system or youll easily neutralizetheir opposition
Discover more athttpCoachingByDoriscomempowermeteleclass
Sign up for your free test drive athttpTeleclassesWithDoriscom
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 19
Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 19
Testimonials From Readers
ldquoIf you want to fully live READ THIS BOOK Dr Helgersquos strategiesare practical and pleasurablerdquo
Harold H Bloomfield MD psychiatrist and author of How toSurvive the Loss of a Love
ldquoLearning to turn pain into power is everyonersquos challenge and thisbook teaches how Reading it will help you master liferdquo
Mark Victor Hansen co-author Chicken Soup for the SoulNew York Times Bestseller 1 series
ldquoI have been so thoroughly impressed enlightened and guided bythis book that I have suggested it to almost everyone I knowrdquo
Rebecca Sain State Coordinator American Holistic NursesAssociation
ldquoYou brought important information to our viewers first letting themknow they are not alone and then helping them understand how toimprove their livesrdquo
Peter Anthony Holder Host CJAD Tonight Montreal Que-bec
ldquoThose challenged by loss of a relationship job or loved one thosewith a health problem and those dealing with abuse or anger canfind exceptional value in this workrdquo
The Atlanta JournalThe Atlanta Constitution Atlanta Geor-gia
ldquoHelgersquos work contributes to our health joy freedom and peace Sincethat is what we all want this book is a road map homerdquo
Aquarius Magazine
ldquoA startlingly practical self-help book featuring thoughtful explorations ofour own emotions and how we can focus our risk taking to accomplishresults that matterrdquo
Bookman News (Bookman Book Review Syndicate)
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 20
ldquoYour great book made a splendid addition to our magazine Keep upthe wonderful writingrdquo
Personal Transformation Magazine
ldquoPowerful insights valuable exercises and unique tools for facingour personal challenges and our inherent resistance to the inevitablechanges in our lives Helge writes with an articulate passion born ofpersonal experience a candid self-assessment and research withclients This book is highly recommendedrdquo
The Midwest Book Review
ldquoHelgersquos unorthodox self-help book is not comprised of nebulousconcepts She spent years formulating concrete steps that peoplecan follow to become happier and healthierrdquo
Texas Alcalde
ldquoA heart-felt practical guide to managing lifersquos challengesmdasha mostwelcome contribution to the personal growth fieldrdquo
Tom Kenyon psychotherapist and author of Brain States
ldquoReaders at all levels of personal growth will find great value in thisbook Helge shares powerful techniques for experiencing and dissi-pating emotions This book is an excellent resource of strategies andexercises that work with people of all agesrdquo
Tony Cecala PhD Publisher The Holistic Networker
ldquoDr Helge shows us how to embrace our humanity so that we canopen the door to our divinity Her work is deeply personal helpful andsincererdquo
Dr Rudy Scarfalotto DC author The Alchemy of Oppo-sites
ldquoYes Yes Yes You have touched me so deeplyrdquoCarol Keeffe author of How to Get What You Want in Your LifeWith the Money You Already Have
ldquoThis was a wonderful next step for me after I worked with my 12-stepprogram I feel very empowered and I know Irsquom in charge of my ownliferdquo
C L Monroe New Orleans
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
ldquoI recommend this incredible book to ALL of my clients and Irsquovenever said that beforerdquo
Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
ldquoI am proud to endorse your work It was enlightening as I was goingthrough some fearful and exciting times Reading your work helpedme recognize and accept my feelings and know that I am OK and inthe flow of life It has helped merdquo
Sue Bailey board member Society of Government MeetingPlanners Washington
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 21
ldquoDoris leads those with broken wings through her wise counsel loveand practical techniques She is touching hearts and changing livesIf you are ready to change old patterns and walk through the desert tothe oasis with grace treat yourselfmdashRead this bookrdquo
Beth Franklin Executive Director Literacy Council of Ala-bama
ldquoThis is The Bible of Personal Growth A breakthrough book in un-derstanding who we are and how we can realize the wonderful divineand perfect person we are all becomingrdquo
Edward A Thomas Attorney at Law Quincy MA
ldquoPractical simple and powerful mdash the Zen of transforming pain intopowerful change in your liferdquo
Victor S Sierpina MD University of Texas Medical Branchat Galveston
ldquoOur office worked with Dorisrsquo techniques and now our employees areenergized motivated and de-stressedrdquo
Lawrence M Sinclair Floor Supervisor Royal Inc Chicago
ldquoIf yoursquod like to know why God allows painful events in all of our livesread this bookrdquo
Rev Dave Logan First Memorial Church Los Angeles
ldquoTrying to let go of or release emotions like anger and fear guaranteesthat theyrsquoll keep reappearing Dorisrsquo work is the missing piece I sharewith my clients When they use her techniques they watch theirself-judgments melt their anger turn into love and their fear becomeself-confidencerdquo
C Dana Roberts psychologist New York City
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Natasha Dixon psychotherapist San Diego California
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ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
Sample material fromldquoTransforming Pain Into Powerrdquo 22
ldquoThe most liberating magnificently simple and thoroughly helpful (yesREALLY helpful) book on the market Unlike your usual self-help tomesthere are no mantras to say no affirmations to intone religiously threetimes a day and no exercises that must be done before going to bedThank you With Dorisrsquo work your feelings fall into proper perspectiveand stop draining your energy and this happens SPONTANEOUSLYWe urge you to buy this worthwhile book as soon as possiblerdquo
Joanna and Richard Swanson CEO and owner MountainMist Resort NC
ldquoNow I trust myself even when my life feels stagnant Dorisrsquo workbrought multiple benefits to my audience Irsquove learned to see thetransformation that is taking place even when things feel stuck and thetendency is to panicrdquo
Elizabeth Ann Wright Host ldquoUltimate Solutionsrdquo WGUNAtlanta GA
ldquoWhen we discovered that our child had ADD we began a ride onthe emotional roller coaster The ideas in this book allowed us to takeourselves offrdquo
Paul and Lynnette Oliver parents of a child with ADD
ldquoIf these ideas were made available to all of those who feel disem-powered violencemdashin the workplace and in homesmdashwould cease toexistrdquo
Brenda Holbrook Director NY Violence Prevention Center
ldquoDr Helgersquos work sets people free to fully enjoy their lives and be betterprofessionals and parentsrdquo
Judy Wright author of over a dozen childrensrsquo books
ldquoA masterpiece whose time has come written with love and compas-sionrdquo
Don Petrocelle author Poetic Odyssey
ldquoI donrsquot know of anyone who wonrsquot find value in this book It has helpedme tremendously and is my standby in tough times You will help manypeople with this informationrdquo
Doug Gazley Director of Music Unity of Gwinnett AtlantaGA
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