Michigan Merit Curriculum Health Behaviors 3.1 Explain the
effects of violence on individuals, families, communities, and our
nation. 3.2 Describe the characteristics of situations which are
dangerous, and those that must be reported to the authorities. 3.3
Define and describe bullying, sexual violence, and sexual
harassment, and their effects on individuals and communities. 3.6
Apply strategies to access and get help for self or others. 3.7
Apply strategies to avoid and report dangerous situations,
including conflicts involving weapons and gangs. 3.8 Demonstrate
strategies to stay in a violent situation. 3.11 Analyze social
pressure to refrain from telling on others or reporting dangerous
situations. 3.12 Analyze the role of friends and peers in the
escalation of conflicts and the promotion of violence. 3.13
Demonstrate the ability to use conflict resolutions skills. 3.14
Evaluate the characteristics of a conflict which must be managed
rather than resolved. 3.15 Evaluate the impact of media on the
prevalence of violence. 3.16 Apply strategies to stop or
de-escalate a conflict.
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Define conflict Describe how conflicts develop. Discuss ways to
recognize conflict and its source.
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Conflict is any disagreement, struggle, or fight. Conflicts are
a normal part of life. Whenever your wants, needs, wishes, demands,
values, or beliefs clash with someone elses, a conflict is almost
certain to arise.
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Defining Conflict Assignment: ( home, school, nation) Part
1:Use pictures and/or words to define negative conflict. ( wants,
needs, values, wishes, demands clash) Part 2: Use pictures and/or
words to define positive conflict. Positive conflict can lead to
positive changes, new viewpoints, and stronger commitment to ones
values, personal growth (debate)
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Negative conflict: politics, shotgun, video games, use of
computer at home, use of one car, what and where to eat, grades,
pay up debts, need for money, losing, go to party v babysitting,
USA v Iraq, basketball player and referee, name calling, playing
time, one pizza slice left,. Positive conflicts: understand, make
friends, war, debate, two good colleges, resolve problems, husband
and wife agreeing, win-win situations.
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People live, work, and play together. To do so, people must
understand the following ideas : Conflict is a part of everyday
life. Conflict can be handled in positive or negative ways.
Conflict can have either creative or destructive results. Conflict
can be a positive force for personal growth and social change.
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Conflict will happen; violence does not have to happen. It is
not our choice whether or not to have conflict It is our choice how
to act when we do have conflict.
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Power struggles teen/parents Personal loyalties angry at best
friend for taking another persons side. Jealousy and Envy teen
upset when a friend dates a boy she likes. Property disputes teen
angry with sibling for borrowing MP3 player Conflicting attitudes
and values two friends argue because one friend wants to hang
around the cool kids and other with everyone. Lack of respect teen
rude to a classmate of a prejudice against an ethnic group.
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Responses To Conflict Worksheet: show the responses that are
typical for you when you are in a conflict with another person.
often sometimes or never. Yell back or threaten the person Avoid or
ignore the person Change the subject Try to understand the other
side Complain to an adult Call the other person names Let the
person have his or her way Try to reach a compromise
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Interpersonal Conflicts are disagreements between groups of any
size, from two people to entire nations. Example: teens meeting
after school to settle a disagreement.
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Internal Conflicts are struggles within yourself. Most of us
have negative ideas about conflict, and these negative ideas often
create barriers to our willingness or ability to deal with
conflict.
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CONFLICT HAPPENS WORKSHEET: On a sheet of paper record 1
example of conflicts you have experienced or know that others have
for each of the following settings. HOME (with parents or others
adults) HOME (with brothers, sisters, other kids) AT SCHOOL (with
peers) AT SCHOOL (with teachers, other adults) AT SCHOOL (with
rules, expectations) IN THE NEWS
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PHYSICALEMOTIONAL A knot in the stomachFeeling concerned Faster
heart rateGetting defensive A lump in the throatWanting to cry Cold
and sweating palmsWanting to lash out A sudden surge of
energyWanting to escape Confrontational-or fighting-body language,
such as clenching your fists Not feeling valued CONFLICT WARNING
SIGNS
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Often sometimes or never. Let an adult decide who is right Talk
to find ways to agree Apologize Hit or push back Cry Make it into a
joke Pretend my feelings are not hurt
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Handout worksheet: Responses
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Responses to conflict generally fall into one of three
categories: soft responses, hard responses, or principled
responses. SOFT RESPONSES have you ever: Ignored a conflict, hoping
it would go away? Denied that a conflict mattered to you? Withdrawn
from a situation and not shared what you felt? Given in just to be
nice?
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Soft responses to conflict involve avoidance, by withdrawing
from the situation, ignoring the problem, or denying their
feelings. Avoidance may help in the short run, it might help
someone keep from losing his or her temper. Avoidance usually
causes self-doubt and makes the person feel anxious about the
future. Plus, because the conflict is never brought up, it can
never be resolved.
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HARD RESPONSES Have you ever: Threatened another person? Shoved
or pushed someone out of frustration? Yelled words you really didnt
mean? Hit someone or destroyed something out of anger? Hard
responses to conflict involve CONFRONTATION.
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HARD RESPONSES Confrontation in response to conflict means a
person expresses anger, verbal or physical threats, or aggression.
The person may resort to bribery or to punishments like withholding
money, favors, or affection. These actions show a win-lose attitude
toward conflict, or the attitude that one person must win and the
other person must lose in a conflict. This attitude prevents
cooperation and keeps people from reaching a mutually satisfying
solution.
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Have you ever: Listened with the intent to understand the other
persons point of view? Cooperated with someone else without giving
in? Shown respect for differences between you and another person?
Looked for ways to resolve a problem that helped everyone
involved?
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A principled response to conflict involves communication.
Communicating means participation in a common understanding, not
necessarily agreeing. People in conflict who seek first to
understand the other persons side, then be understood, produce
win-win solutions. Both people get their needs met, and no one
loses.
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YouTube - Conflict Resolution - The Waterboy YouTube - Conflict
Resolution - The Waterboy
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Responses to conflict generally fall into one of three
categories: Soft responses Hard responses Principled
responses.
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Have students get into groups and make up a conflict between
two or more people. In your group role play a soft response to the
conflict and share with the class. In your group role play a hard
response to the conflict and share with the class. In your group
role play a principled response to the conflict and share with the
class.
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BELONGING POWER FREEDOM FUN
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ORIGINS OF CONFLICT Most every dispute between people involves
the attempt to meet certain basic needs for belonging, power,
freedom, or fun. Understanding how to resolve a conflict begins
with identifying the origin of the conflict.
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BASIC NEEDS AND CONFLICT Our BELONGING need is met by
developing and maintaining relationships with others where we have
the opportunity to love, share, and cooperate. Our POWER need is
met by achieving, accomplishing, and being recognized and
respected. Our FREEDOM need is met by making choices in our lives.
Our FUN need is met by laughing.
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BASIC NEEDS AND CONFLICT Suppose you are in conflict with a
parent about the chores you must do around the house. This conflict
might be the result of your need to have the freedom to make your
own choices about how to spend your time.
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Basic Needs You may be mad at the coach because you think you
deserve more playing time, and his/her decision not to let you play
is frustrating your power need-you think they do not recognize your
ability and not playing deprives you of the chance to gain respect
from your teammates and the fans.
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We are all born with the same four basic needs. How we meet
those needs may be different from what others choose. These
different choices may cause a conflict, either because two people
are trying to satisfy the same need in two different ways or
because they are each trying to satisfy a different basic need. We
are all born with the same four basic needs. How we meet those
needs may be different from what others choose. These different
choices may cause a conflict, either because two people are trying
to satisfy the same need in two different ways or because they are
each trying to satisfy a different basic need.
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BASIC NEEDS: on a sheet of paper use pictures/words to describe
what you personally do to satisfy your needs in the 4 areas. Note
the similarities and differences and report back to the class.
FREEDOM FUN BELONGINGPOWER CURFEW
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When resources are limited, conflict may result. Conflicts that
involve limited resources are about: A conflict about MONEY A
conflict about personal/school PROPERTY A conflict about TIME We
each want money or property or time because we see these as things
that allow us to satisfy our basic needs.
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If we have money, we can afford to do more (freedom, fun,
belonging). We can buy things like great clothes, sports equipment,
or audio- video products to gain recognition (power). When we have
plenty of time, we can do our work (power) and also hang out with
our friends (fun, belonging, freedom). Resources are WANTS that we
choose to satisfy our basic needs.
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Columbine Shooting: The Final Report 1/5 - YouTube Columbine
Shooting: The Final Report 1/5 - YouTube
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Columbine Shooting: The Final Report 2/5 - YouTube Columbine
Shooting: The Final Report 2/5 - YouTube
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Columbine Shooting: The Final Report 3/5 - YouTube Columbine
Shooting: The Final Report 3/5 - YouTube
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Columbine Shooting: The Final Report 4/5 - YouTube Columbine
Shooting: The Final Report 4/5 - YouTube
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The Columbine Killers - Part 5 of 5 - YouTube The Columbine
Killers - Part 5 of 5 - YouTube
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Conflict Management If not managed well conflicts can escalate
and result in threats, verbal abuse, and physical violence.
Homicide is the willful killing of one human being by another is
the second leading cause of death in the United States for people
15 to 24 years old.
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Violence leads to personal and societal tragedy; yet, many
Americans pay money to watch or listen to forms of violence as
entertainment. How do you think media violence impacts the emotions
of those who watch it? How do you think media violence impacts what
a person thinks about violence ? Violence leads to personal and
societal tragedy; yet, many Americans pay money to watch or listen
to forms of violence as entertainment. How do you think media
violence impacts the emotions of those who watch it? How do you
think media violence impacts what a person thinks about violence
?
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How we act in conflict or a potentially violent situation is
our choice and depends on how we think about the situation and how
we feel about it. Thoughts can help to determine emotions, and
emotions can impact how we think about situations. Thoughts include
beliefs and values, knowledge, and perceptions of situations. How
we act in conflict or a potentially violent situation is our choice
and depends on how we think about the situation and how we feel
about it. Thoughts can help to determine emotions, and emotions can
impact how we think about situations. Thoughts include beliefs and
values, knowledge, and perceptions of situations.
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YouTube - Tribute to Columbine 1999 YouTube - Tribute to
Columbine 1999
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Conflict Resolution is the process of ending a conflict by
cooperating and problem solving together. It involves
communication, cooperation and compromise. It involves the Three
Rs-RESPECT, RIGHTS, AND RESPONSIBILITY.
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Show respect to others. Respect the rights of others. No one
owns anyone else. Take responsibility for your actions!
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Negotiation is a process in which compromise is used to reach
agreement. Rules for negotiation: Make sure everyone is calm. Be
sure each person is willing to try to negotiate. Listen carefully
and show empathy. Express emotions constructively. Avoid blaming,
name-calling and insults.
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YouTube - I shall prove my point - training in negotiations
YouTube - I shall prove my point - training in negotiations
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Avoid guns and alcohol and other drugs. Resist becoming a
member of a gang. Limit your exposure to media that promote and
glamorize violence and prejudice.
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LIST 3 STATISTICS List 5 violence prevention steps (school,
community, parties)