Trust  Yourself  Leslie  Jo  Saul  October  18,  2013      Do  you  ever  doubt  your  abilities?    We  all  question  ourselves  every  once  in  a  while.  That’s  perfectly  natural  and  perfectly  healthy.  But  refusing  to  trust  yourself  in  the  longterm  will  not  only  stop  you  from  living  your  life  in  the  here  and  now,  it  can  even  keep  you  from  unleashing  your  potential  self  in  the  future.    We  all  long  for  lives  full  of  happiness,  creativity  and  fulfillment–so  why  do  so  many  of  us  not  trust  ourselves  to  make  it  happen?    I  was  speaking  with  a  client  recently  who  felt  utterly  stuck  in  her  current  situation.  From  the  outside,  her  life  was  admirable,  even  enviable  to  those  around  her–she’s  worked  very  hard  and  achieved  a  lot  of  success,  she’s  traveled  the  world,  and  built  a  wonderful  career  despite  much  discrimination.  She’s  currently  in  the  process  of  starting  a  family  and  her  own  business  at  the  same  time.  In  other  words,  she’s  going  through  a  lot  of  big  changes  all  at  once.    The  longer  I  talked  with  her,  the  more  I  realized  the  key  issue:  she  simply  didn’t  trust  in  herself  and  in  the  process  of  transformation.  Day  in  and  day  out,  we  pay  each  other  so  many  compliments,  but  why  do  we  feel  it’s  not  okay  to  do  the  same  for  ourselves?  How  do  we  find  so  many  flaws  in  ourselves  when  others  see  only  beauty?  In  these  moments,  think  about  this:  what  if  you  treated  another  person  the  way  you  treat  yourself?  If  they  don’t  deserve  that,  why  should  you?    I  told  this  client  that  whenever  she’s  doubting  herself,  she  should  pause  and  take  an  inventory  of  her  emotions.  Why  is  she  saying  these  things  to  herself?  Are  they  really  true?  I  told  her  she  had  come  so  far,  it  would  be  a  shame  not  to  put  trust  in  herself.  If  you–you,  reading  this  blogpost–if  you  have  this  kind  of  self  doubt,  I  urge  you  to  do  the  same.  Whenever  the  thoughts  set  in  and  the  anxiety  rises,  take  a  breath.  Remind  yourself  that  you  are  all  you  have.  Love  yourself.  Trust  yourself.  The  more  you  do  this,  the  easier  things  will  be.  Over  time,  you  may  even  discover  that  these  constricting  beliefs  and  attitudes  will  disappear.