What is your “Love Language”?#1-30 and title your paper.

#1)•A) Sweet notes from my partner make me feel good. •E) I love my partner’s hugs.

#2•B) I like to be alone with my partner. •D) I feel loved when my partner washes my car.

#3 •C) Receiving special gifts from my partner makes me happy. •B) I enjoy long trips with my partner.

#4D) I feel loved when my partner helps me with the laundry. E) I like it when my partner hugs me.

#5•E) I feel loved when my partner puts his/her arm around me. •C) I know my partner loves me because s/he surprises me with small presents.

#6•B) I like going most anywhere with my partner. •E) I like to hold my partner’s hand.

#7•C) I value the gifts my partner gives me. •A) I love to hear my partner say s/he loves me.

#8•E) I like for my partner to sit close to me. •A) My partner tells me I look good, and I like that.

#9•B) Spending time with my partner makes me happy. •C) Even the smallest present from my partner is important to me.

#10•A) I feel loved when my partner tells me s/he is proud of me.•D) When my partner helps clean up after me, I know that s/he loves me.

#11•B) No matter what we do, I love doing things with my partner. •A) Supportive comments from my partner make me feel good.

#12•D) Little things my partner does for me mean more to me than things s/he says. •E) I love to hug my partner.

#13•A) My partner’s praise means a lot to me. •C) It means a lot to me that my partner gives me gifts I really like.

#14•B) Just being around my partner makes me feel good. •E) I love it when my partner gives me a massage.

#15•A) My partner’s reactions to my accomplishments are so encouraging. •D) It means a lot to me when my partner helps with something I know s/he hates.

#16•E) I never get tired of my partner’s kisses. •B) I love that my partner shows real interest in things I like to do.

#17•D) I can count on my partner to help me with projects. •C) I still get excited when opening a present from my partner.

#18A) I love for my partner to compliment my appearance. B) I love that my partner listens to me and respects my ideas.

#19E) I can’t help but touch my partner when s/he’s close by. D) My partner sometimes runs errands for me, and I appreciate that.

#20D) My partner deserves an award for all the things s/he does to help me. C) I’m sometimes amazed at how thoughtful my partner’s gifts to me are.

#21B) I love having my partner’s undivided attention. D) I love that my partner helps clean the house.

#22C) I look forward to seeing what my partner gives me for my birthday. A) I never get tired of hearing my partner tell me that I am important to him/her.

#23C) My partner lets me know s/he loves me by giving me things. D) My partner shows his/her love by helping me without me having to ask.

#24B) My partner doesn’t interrupt me when I am talking, and I like that. C) I never get tired of receiving gifts from my partner.

#25D) My partner is good about asking how s/he can help when I’m tired. B) It doesn’t matter where we go, I just like going places with my partner.

#26E) I love cuddling with my partner. C) I love surprise presents from my partner.

#27A) My partner’s encouraging words give me confidence. B) I love to watch movies with my partner.

#28C) I couldn’t ask for any better gifts than the ones my partner gives me. E) I love it that my partner is affectionate with me.

#29D) It means a lot to me when my partner helps me despite being busy. A) It makes me feel really good when my partner tells me s/he appreciates me.

#30E) I love hugging and kissing my partner after we’ve been apart for a while. A) I love hearing my partner tell me that s/he missed me.

SCORING: (total up each)A =B = C = D = E =

SCORING: (total up each)A = Words of AffirmationB = Quality TimeC = Receiving GiftsD = Acts of ServiceE = Physical Touch

What can we do? In order to improve communication /

relationships in my life, I can know their “Love Language” and…

Words of Affirmation1.Print on a 3x5 card “Words are important!” 2.For one week keep track of all the positive words

you say to your partner.3.Goal = one different compliment for each day for a

month.4.As you watch TV, read, or listen to others: record

WOA that others use, then use them on your partner.

5.Write a love letter, paragraph or a sentence to your partner. Give it quietly or with fanfare.

6.Compliment your partner in front of his or her friends or family.

7.Tell your partner how much you appreciate his/her strengths.

Quality Time1.Walk together. 2.Go to a park and rent bikes (watch ducks, learn

favorite colors).3.Ask partner for a list of preferred activities( freebies

vs.$).4.Ask where partner prefers sitting when talking to

you( text her to make a date there).5.Do an activity that your partner enjoys.6.Make time everyday to share certain events of the

day.7.Play lets “review our history” (ex, when did you feel

your parents were proud of you?)8.Camp out in the living room. (eat drink and talk…

NO TV!)

Receiving Gifts 1.Give your partner small gifts throughout the day2.Keep an eye out when your out with your

partner for meaningful/symbolic gifts.3.Make a handmade gift4.Give a gift every week5.Listen carefully to your partner for hints and

write it down in a “gift idea notebook”6.Ask a family member or friend of your partner

for gift ideas7.Read a book together and discuss it8.Give a lasting tribute (in honor of your partner)9. Give a living (plant a tree)

Acts of Service1. Do one of the things your partner wants you to do each week2. Make note cards of what you will do for your spouse each

day 3. Give your partner a love note4. Ask for a list of things that your partner wants you to do for

them.5. If your partner nags about something that is important to her,

do it to express to express your love.

6. Write down in words your feelings 7. Perform a major act of service8. Do the “little things” your partner really wants the most

Physical Touch1.Hold your partner’s hand2.Play “footsies” 3.While expressing your feelings, hug your

partner4.Give a foot/shoulder massage5.Show your affection in front of other people6.When you first see them, greet them with a

hug and kiss

Elaboration / Description:

My “love language” is (characterized as/ known as) ___. One (indicator/characteristic) of this is ___, which is (illustrated/defined) by ___. It is important to understand this because ___.