Upbringing of Children in

the right way… Nurturing thoughts for young parents

Dr.Balasubramanian (Balasandilyan)

Thought Leader and CEO www.visionunlimited.in

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Nuts and Bolts of Parenting Many parents crib that their

children are adamant and

dominant. This tendency goes up

when the child starts going to the

school. BUT they are like clay. It

is very easy to shape and mold

them. It is possible to mend them

and bring them up with lots of

values for sure.

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Pamper not in the name of love Many parents do the mistake of

pampering their children in the

name of love and affection.

Excessive hugging, kissing and

granting them more without their

asking for…, not necessary. It all

starts from feeding the milk itself.

These type of kids take it for

granted that they would get

everything they ask. It is next to

impossible to bring them under

control.

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Grant anything if it is necessary If the children’s demand for a

product or an item is necessary

and significant, and you can

afford to get the same…you may

grant them. We need to

understand the actual need or

purpose.

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Be firm on adamant situations If the child is adamant on a thing

or product which is not very

necessary or important, you may

be firm in not granting or getting

the same. If the child is still

adamant in the shop, try to

explain your state. If the situation

remains the same, just start

moving from the shop, the child

will surely follow you. Next time

the child knows your mind.

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No need to sympathize… The child may roll down, shout

and scream , knock the head on

the wall or floor. It is fine. The act

has to stop when it pains. If you

sympathize and oblige, it is an

indication to the child that such

acts can bring favorable results.

Therefore it is in your hands to

tackle such situation.

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Difficulty in studying… Lots of children postpone doing

home work. Some do not want to

do because it is difficult. Find out

the reason. Is it the subject, tough

teacher or punishing mother or

adamant sibling..? It is better to

sit with them, simplify the lesson

with your narration like a story

and create a liking in them for the

subject. Assure your help, hand-

holding and support.

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Discourage junk food Do not bow down because the

child is adamant when they ask

for packed food, junk food, fast

food etc. Give them the taste of

fruits, vegetables. Introduce some

new recipes of nutritious food like

soup, salad, cut fruits, sprouts,

milk and milk products. Some

how say ‘good bye’ to junk food

and fast food to save them aging

fast.

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Time management Some children waste lot of time in

watching TV, mobile like gadgets,

video games etc. Encourage and

educate them on reading habits,

making handicrafts, drawing and

painting etc.

Obviously the TV time comes

down when they are usefully

occupied with other equally

interesting things.

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Punctuality in early age When children intentionally

delay in starting for the school, let them get punished in the school. If they get the personal experience of agony the children would try to be punctual and never be late.

There are few parents who themselves delay…then the parents need to be corrected.

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Let them experience Nothing wrong in telling children

what are the repercussions for

every act of theirs (good and

bad).

If they are accepting or valuing

your opinion, let them experience

the pain, failure. The experience

would bring them the needed

wisdom.

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Silence is the best ‘punishment’ Children who pester often,

adamant, rebel in nature,

disorganized, not disciplined…As

parents, you may not shout, yell,

beat or punish.

Keep your cool, calm and silence

even after watching what is not

desired of them.

There is not better punishment

than ‘silence’. They would rather

surrender to your love and care

sooner or later.

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Kids are smart in understanding

body language Hard words, punishment, showing

agony and anger, scolding –

some times may not work.

Your facial expressions, nods,

eye cues, starring looks – many a

times would convey the needed

message and they rather

understand gestural

communication better and that is

the way to correct children…!

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Make parenting enjoyable…! Parenting is an internal affair

Time for ‘two’ to come together

There cannot be two bosses in

the house

Are you a concerned parent or a

critical parent?

Being different is wise, otherwise

critical

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Best wishes

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