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THE GIFT OF QUESTIONS

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CHANGE THE LANDSCAPE OF YOUR LIFE.

Find the new in you with questions that clarify, provide direction , motivation and deliberate purpose!

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes” Marcel Proust

Use this time to go within . Let the tranquility of the landscapes vitalise you.

Ask yourself do you need to clarify your personal vision more clearly?

Use any of the quotes to inspire you and let the landscapes provide safe tranquil spaces for your thoughts.

Easily make this the best year of your life, gain insight, about issues and dilemmas that hold you back. Create substantial difference to be your best.

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It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure,to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful... Alan Cohen

How do we reach our personal best, embrace new growth and let go of what no longer serves us. Many people fear change thinking when life feels stuck they will need to make drastic shifts but what about baby steps. It is not the size of change but the

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specific direction and preciseness that creates the most pivotal influence. Sometimes it is the smallest measure of difference that promotes the greatest advantage... like a candle in the darkness.

If you are wanting to energise your focus, clarify your life’s path, raise your standards, find out who you really are and what matters most in your life’s journey this journal may be for you.

Ask yourself questions to clarify and distil what really matters to live your life on purpose Go deeper until you find your answers.

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In Which Part of your life do you need to embrace courage to seek more of your journey outside your usual patterns of behavior?

Are their areas in your life where you may be stuck in a rut, limited by old beliefs or rules that keep you reliving your past history. Are there “chains” that bind you ?

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To use this coaching module you must identify an area of your life you wish to work on pick a goal related to what you have identified for yourself.

What is on your mind at the moment. It may be an issue or more of a challenge, it may be something new exciting, positive or a worry. This needs to be something you can control or influence.

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Use this module to work on your goal until you have achieved your outcome.

What is it about this situation that has led you to choose it?

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How would you like this situation to be?

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How is it important to you in your ideal life?

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An extraordinary Life awaits you, you are the driver and the power, you are all you need to be to live your life with vision on purpose.

Are there things you have been avoiding, dreaming about, unable to commit to or self -sabotaging?

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What is it specifically that you want? What will make the most significant difference to move swiftly in the direction of your desires?

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Life is your journey, you only get to do it once.

What are your intentions how can you move in the direction of your true self?

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Write it down…

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“ Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of doing it. The time will pass anyway: we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use” Earl Nightingale

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Determine what is most important to you and begin to live your life before someone else does!

Where is your focus ?

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Write down what you are thinking, give the situation a name and conceptualise how you can achieve this. What would be an outcome for this issue.

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How could you make your idea even more clear?

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You must have a specific goal!

How do you want to solve this issue?

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Use the power of imagination let your mind wander to a time when this issue is as you want it to be. What do you see that demonstrates you have succeeded with this issue?

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What are you doing that shows you have achieved your goal?

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What are other people doing that tells you that you have succeeded with the issue?

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Know your intentions clearly.

See a difference!

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What can you visualize for yourself around this ?

How is it important to those you care about, in

your career, your relationships, your children?

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When do you want to be in this position, with your issue sorted.

Next week, next month next year?

If you have a very big goal and a big time frame break it down into smaller goals.

Do you have control and influence over this goal.?

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How do you know when you have achieved your goal?

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Do you have a big enough reason to achieve this goal.

“ It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves” Edmuund Hillary

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Next Step - REALITY Check

What is happening right now that tells you this is important?

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“ There are only three types of people: those who make things happen, and those who ask – What happened? Ann Launders.

What is missing in your life?

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If you haven’t the strength to impose your own terms on life, you must accept the terms it offers you.” T.S. Elliot

‘What are you tolerating that needs to be different ?

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what is happening that needs to continue ?

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Given there is no such thing as failure only feedback….

What have you tried so far to transform the issue, what results did you get and what did you learn?

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What else?

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What will it take for you to act on this to move outside your comfort zone?

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Often it is not so comfortable anyway, for many it maybe an anchoring zone tying you down to all that you know, but what if life could be easier, more rewarding.

“ The world is round, the place which may seem like the end may also be the beginning” Ivy Baker Priest

Next Step - Consider Your Options

What options do you have? What would be your next step forward?

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How will you move forward?

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Is there anything that prevents you acting on this?

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“Don’t be afraid to take a big step if one is indicated; you can’t cross a chasm in two small jumps”

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Make it easily worthwhile

What could you see if you were able to see yourself outside your current comfort zone?

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“ The best way out is always through” Robert Frost

What would you be thinking and what would you be telling yourself if you allowed yourself to do things differently? How would you feel? What actions could you take? Change your mindset effortlessly.

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“ Nothing Splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside them was superior to circumstances.” Bruce Barten

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Avoid being a victim of life’s circumstances. It is you that shapes your life not outside

issues fears and worries.

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What fears and worries need to go for you to achieve your goal?

Believe that you are absolutely

Responsible for how you decide to respond and react to life. You get what you focus on without exception!

What is it you most need to do to “ move beyond limiting circumstances,” to meet your goal be this emotional, physical, spiritual or within your thought patterns?

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What limiting beliefs lead you to procrastination or self sabotage? What obstacles currently stand in your way of achieving your goal? What are the limiting beliefs and rules that you have set for yourself and others?

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Do you know your values around this issue and in general. Are your actions in line with your values?

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Are your obstacles a reality or a perception? How can you deal with them, who do you need to be to resolve this?

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“ First say to yourself what you would be, then do what you have to do

Epictetus

Who are you ?

who must you be to deal with this ?

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“ You live in a magnificent universe where devine order reigns, Nothing is missing”Dr John F. Demartini

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To live your best life what do you need to know about yourself? To achieve your goal?

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What are you tolerating, if nothing is missing what is needed ?

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What have you been putting off that you need to do

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“How do your thoughts and actions, influence this issue?

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How does this affect your loved ones or Other people that matter?

What is the impact now and in the future?

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How could facing your fears and worries shift your perspective, turn things around.

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“ How am I going to live today to create the tomorrow I am committed to? ”

How is your life working out right now, what do you have to do to easily create your ideal life?

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What do you need to do less of - or more of ?

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what education or training do you need and what resources are available to you?

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Who is on your team that could help you?

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How will you most help yourself? What motivation will you need?

Could a coach , cheer leader or mentor to help with this?

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“ People who are unable to motivate themselves must be content with mediocrity, no matter how impressive their other talents” Andrew Carnegie

Motivation comes from being aligned with your highest values. Everything consciously or unconsciously about what you choose to do is either moving towards what you want for yourself or moving away from what you don’t want for yourself.

What is it that you are moving towards or unconsciously away from?

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How are your values and beliefs impacting on your issues, what rules are you creating for yourself.

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“ Try not to become a man of success but a man of value”

Albert Einstein

What beliefs would you need to sustain you in achieving your outcome?

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“ Create a new empowering alternative for getting yourself out of pain and into pleasure, that is as powerful and as convenient as your old approach was” Anthony Robbins

Who has already achieved a similar outcome?

What role models do you have, what could you learn from them?

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About their beliefs, their energy, their manner, their actions, their strategies, their choices!

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With your workbook and thoughts we have explored where you are and where you want to be, now really look at

Your Options

Real change always comes from the inside out.

Brainstorm as many ideas as you can for options about what you could do about your situation.

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“ If you keep thinking about what you want to do or what you hope will happen, you don’t do it and it won’t happen.” Joe Dimaggio

Write down anything that could move you one step closer to your goal.

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“I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavour.” Henry David Theroe

What could you do if you weren’t answerable to anyone about your choices?

What could you achieve without fear?

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If every belief you had about this situation totally supported and sustained you how would you make a shift quickly and easily?

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What would you do if you knew you could not fail?

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If you had a “clean slate” and were able to start over from a time before this was an issue for you what would you do?

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“ Circumstances may cause interruptions or delays, but never lose sight of the goal. Prepare yourself in every way you can by increasing your knowledge and adding to your experience so that you can make the most of opportunity when it occurs.”

Mario Andretti

What would someone else do in the same situation ?

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If you secretly knew what you needed to do next, what would it be, what would you need to believe?

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So having explored your issue, decided on an outcome and some options, it is time to commit to action because no decision has power unless we commit to an action.

Small changes can have an amazing impact. Once you have realized your new way forward is different from your current behaviour patterns begin to articulate the difference so that you can effectively close the gap. How to get from A to B is the game plan.

Next Step - The Way Forward

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Which of your options most interest you. How could you choose to move towards your goal?

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“ your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone’s else’s life...Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.” Steve Jobs

Develop a time frame for achieving this

“ Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you imagined.”

Henry David Thoreau

Which actions would bring you just one step closer to your outcome ?

“ There are only three kinds of people: Those that make things happen, those who watch things happen and those who ask, what happened? Ann Launders

Who must you be now to move on this?

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Is there anything you need to do before you can take these actions?

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“ You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them” Micheal Jordan.

How will new expectations support you?

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“ Wasting your time in anxious worry over what you may not have is a good way to waste what you need to get” Guy Finlay

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What resources, information or support do you need to get these actions done?

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Who would you need to tell about your commitment?

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“ Pick out associates whose behaviour is better than yours and you’ll drift in that direction” Warren Buffet

What else do you need to consider?

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“If you want to succeed you should strike out on new paths rather than travel the worn paths of accepted success.” John D Rockerfeller

The more clarity your have about the shift that is required the more depth you have to your vision, the more clearly your-self talk will be to inspire the actions that move you towards your intention.

When will you have completed these first action steps?

Write down your plan know the change.

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Remind yourself often and consistently of the benefits of shifting on your issue. Ask for support from a life coach or mentor or a champion friend who will support you.

“ The first requisite for success is the ability to apply your physical and mental energies to one problem incessantly without growing weary.” Thomas A. Edis

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Can you see the evidence that you have completed what you set out to do?

Hold onto the meaning this transformation will create in your life for you and your loved ones. Build significant reasons why this is important to you right now.

If you are still unclear go back to the process and repeat the steps until you know exactly what you could do to achieve your outcome?

“ The ladder of success is best climbed by stepping on the rungs of opportunity” Ayn Rand

Ensure that you account for all your opportunities.

“The best thing about the future is that it comes just one day at a time.” Abraham Lincoln

Write down how you will sustain this difference for you in your best life.

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Is there anything else you need to consider to make this issue complete.?

What have you learned about your issue and yourself?

On a scale of 1-10 how much is you issue resolved?

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Congratulations you have self coached on an issue that was important to you. This is part of many coaching models and tools. Your personal success and development is important to living your best life in career, relationship and family.

Living at cause means being effective and responsible for who you are.

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“ Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody else expects of you” Henry Ward Beeecher

Now that you have familiarized yourself with this process now that you can take full responsibility for achieving your goals. You can easily maximize your ability with coaching to achieve your potential and plan the next 10 years of your life!

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