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Super Saturday 2003
Becoming a Covenant Covenant MarriageMarriage Church
Super Saturday 2003
Why do people marry?
Identify 5 unhealthy reasons people marry?
Identify 5 healthy reasons people marry?
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A Christian Marriage Is…
a total commitment of two people to the person of Jesus Christ and each other. It is a commitment in which there is no holding back of anything.
a school, a learning and growing environment in which (if everything is as it should be) both partners can grow and develop. The relationship grows along with them.
H. Norman Wright
Super Saturday 2003
What Does a Covenant Marriage Church Affirm?
Believing that marriage is a covenant intended by God to be a lifelong fruitful relationship between a man and a woman, we vow to God, each other, our family, and our community to remain steadfast in unconditional love, reconciliation, and sexual purity while purposefully growing in our covenant marriage relationship.
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What does your church believebelieve about marriage?
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What does your church dodo to strengthen marriages?
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A Holistic
Approach
To Marriage
Ministry
Outreach Prevention
EnrichmentIntervention
Health
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Did You Know
The federal government issues thousands of reports on nearly every dimension of American life,…But it provides no annual index or report on the state of marriage.
Americans today tend to see marriage as a couples relationship, designed to fulfill the emotional needs of adults…People now expect their marriages to be a spiritualized union of souls.
The State of Our unions 2003The National Marriage Project
Super Saturday 2003
Did You Know
Marriage is a fundamental social institution. It is central to the nurture and raising of children. It is the “social glue” that reliably attaches fathers to children. It contributes to the physical, emotional and economic health of men, women and children, and thus to the nation as a whole. It is also one of the most highly prized of all human relationships and a central life goal of most Americans. The State of Our unions 2003
The National Marriage Project
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Did You Know
About a third of all children and more than two-thirds of African-American children are born out of wedlock.
Since 1960, there has been an 850 percent increase in the number of cohabiting couples who live with children.
The State of Our unions 2003The National Marriage Project
Roughly a million children each year experience parental divorce and its aftermath.
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Did You Know
Compared to married fathers, men who are not married to their children’s mothers are significantly less likely to be consistently and positively involved with their children during their growing up years.
In reality, marriage is the social glue that holds fathers to their offspring. Marriage encourages regular and routine father involvement.
The State of Our unions 2003The National Marriage Project
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Did You Know
Unmarried cohabiting fathers fail to show as much warmth or put in as much time or money in the care of their biological children as do married fathers.
Cohabiting men who are living with nonbiological children pose a risk of physical or sexual abuse to such children.
The State of Our unions 2003The National Marriage Project
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Consider
…the new soul-mate ideal may create unrealistic expectations for intimacy that, if unfulfilled, may lead to disappointment, estrangement and even a search for a new soul mate.
The State of Our unions 2003The National Marriage Project
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How will your church respond to couples?
•Soul-Mate Ideal
•Biblical Ideal
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The Marriage Ministry UmbrellaRelationship
Skill Development
Premarital Counseling
Marriage mentoring
Marriage Enrichment
and Education
Marriage Strengthenin
g and Rebuilding
Divorce Recovery Ministry
Children’s Ministry
Prepare Inventory
Paring Newlywed
Couple with Mentoring
Couple
Retreats Referral List of Local
Professional Counselors
Divorce Care Video Series and Support
Group
Adolescents FOCCUS Inventory
Outline of Mentor
Qualifications
Workshops and
Seminars
Retrouvaille Retreats
KidsHope Seminars for
Children
Young Adults DISC Personality Inventory
Clear Expectations and Definition
of Mentor Relationship
Enrich Inventory
Marriage Support Groups and Bible Study
Groups
Single Parent Family
Ministry
Adults Series of Focused Couple
Sessions
Prayer Ministry
REFOCCUS Inventory
Sermon Series and
Testimonies
Follow-Up Care
Resources Resources Resources Resources Resources Resources
Super Saturday 2003
Do You
Have a church developed and approved marriage policy?
Provide at least 3 marriage preparation sessions in addition to the ceremony planning session?
Do You
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Do You
Provide any additional follow up sessions during the first year of the marriage?
Provide on-going prayer ministry for nearly and newly married couples?
Do You
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Do You
Provide a marriage mentoring ministry for
nearly and newly married couples
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Do You
Provide at least one annual marriage strengthening retreat-workshop-seminar?
Provide an annual sermon series on relationships, marriage and family?
Do You
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Do You
Provide media resources for individuals, couples and families: books, magazines, tapes, videos?
Provide Bible studies for youth focusing on relationship building, choosing a life partner, handling emotions, marriage and family?
Do You
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Do You
Provide marriage and family testimonies and journey-sharing during worship services?
Have a referral network?
Do You
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Relationship Skill Development
Areas of Focus
CoupleCloseness
Couple Flexibility
Communication
Personality Compatibility
ConflictResolution
SexualRelations
hipLeisure Activities
Familyand
Friends
FinancialManagement
Spiritual Beliefs
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Relationship Skill DevelopmentI am very satisfied with how
we talk to each other.Yes No
We are creative in how we handle our differences.
Yes No
We feel very close to each other.
Yes No
My partner is seldom too controlling.
Yes No
When discussing problems, my partner understands my opinions and ideas.
Yes No
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I am completely satisfied with the amount of affection from my partner.
Yes No
We have a good balance of leisure time spent together and separately.
Yes No
My partner’s friends or family rarely interfere with our relationship.
Yes No
We agree on how to spend money. Yes NoI am satisfied with how we express spiritual values and beliefs.
Yes No
Relationship Skill Development
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MarriageMentoring
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Marriage MentoringPurposes
To guideguide and encourageencourage nearly and newly married couples toward toward healthy, healthy, growinggrowing marriage relationships.
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Marriage MentoringPurposes
To enlist and equip select lay couples to
minister to nearly and newly married couples
through intentional intentional marriage mentoring marriage mentoring
relationshipsrelationships that focus on mutual mutual
support, growth, support, growth, encouragementencouragement and
enrichment.enrichment.
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Marriage MentoringObjectivesTo provide a support ministry to nearly and newly married couples in developing healthy relational skills and in building spiritual, emotional and physical intimacy in marriage.To provide ongoing training to equip select couples to serve as marriage mentors to nearly and newly married couples.To provide regular group meeting experiences that focus on support, growth, enrichment and fellowship for couples participating in the mentoring ministry.
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Mentors are Not
PerfectCounselors or TherapistsExpertsFinal AuthoritiesRescuersParent Replacements
Intruders/MeddlersLong Term
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Mentoring Responsibilities
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Mentoring Responsibilities
Walk alongside the nearly-newly
married couple
Provide healthy, realistic role
modelingIdentity Resources
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Mentoring Responsibilities
Describe their own marital journey
difficulties and solutions discovered
“Normalize” disagreement and
conflict
Provide male and female
perspective
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Getting StartedAsk
What is God saying?
Where is God working?
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Getting StartedAsk
What are the needs?What are our resources?
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Getting StartedAsk
What are our objectives?
How do we invite and involve?
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Getting StartedAsk
What actions are taken by whom and when?
How do we celebrate?
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Getting StartedAsk
How do we evaluate?
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Covenant MarriageCovenant Marriage Resources
Covenant Marriage Sunday is the third Sunday in February
www.covenantmarriage.comCovenant Marriage Congregational Kit AvailablePosters,a 38 page Congregational Booklet with information on how to become a Covenant Marriage Congregation and how to prepare to celebrate a Covenant Marriage Sunday in your congregation, Covenant Certificate, Sermon & Bible study Helps, Covenant Marriage Movement Brochures, Covenant Marriage Couple's Brochures, Facts sheets, Commitment Cards, Bulletin Inserts, Resource Sheet/Order Form
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Becoming a Covenant Covenant MarriageMarriage Church