Success Mastery With NLP

ByCharles Faulkner &

Robert D. McDonald, M.S.for

NLP Comprehensive

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A BRIEF EXPLANATION OF NLP

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) studies the structure of subjective experience. That is, itstudies the experience of self that everyone has within their own minds. NLP holds that peoplethink and act based on their internal representations of the world and not on the world itself.Once we understand specifically how we create and maintain our inner thoughts and feelings,it is a simple matter for us to change them to more useful ones.

NLP was developed in the early 1970’s by an information scientist, Richard Bandler, and a lin-guistics professor, John Grinder. From their studies of successful people, they created a way toanalyze and transfer human excellence, resulting in a powerful, practical psychology.

Described as “software for your brain,” NLP allows you to automatically tap into your thoughtpatterns and change them.

In this NLP program, we start with the assumption that your mind is made up of different parts— that all people talk to themselves in different voices or attitudes depending on which “part”is conscious. There is a serious part of you and a fun-loving part, a part of you that is confidentand a part that feels self-doubt. Having different parts is a normal and healthy expression of yourmulti-faceted personality. Naturally, there are parts of you that you are very satisfied with, andparts that you would like to improve.

In this program we will teach you how to improve your internal communication . . . to get allyour parts coordinated and working together. You can learn to bring the fun-loving part to workto enjoy work more. Or, you can learn to use your doubter to doubt your potential for failure,rather than doubting your potential for success. You can have choices about your feelings,especially when it matters most.

You’ll also learn NLP Processes and Patterns. These are role-play-like exercises that can actuallyrestructure the way you think, allowing you to change old negative-thinking habits into resource-ful ones almost instantly.

NLP Patterns for SUCCESS MASTERY

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1 The Five Keys to Success Mastery

FOUR IMPORTANT FUNDAMENTALPRINCIPLES OF NLP

• THE MAP IS NOT THE TERRITORYWords and symbols art not reality, they merely represent reality.

• UNDERLYING EVERY BEHAVIOR IS A POSITIVE INTENTIONAt heart, our intentions are always good. Successful people intuitively knowhow to align effective action with their positive purposes.

• PEOPLEWORK PERFECTLYPeople regularly and consistently follow their mental maps to do the bestthey can with what they’ve got.

• CHOICE IS BETTER THAN NO CHOICEChoices enrich our mental maps and improve the quality of our lives.

THE FIVE KEYS TO SUCCESS MASTERY

• ACCESS YOUR MASTERY STATE OFMINDMaking permanent those occasional experiences of personal excellence.

• INNER TEAM BUILDINGBringing your “divided mind” into whole harmony.

• BUILD BELIEFS THAT SUPPORTMASTERYChanging limiting beliefs and creating new ones that sustain success.

• To BEAND BEGINWITH MASTERYLearning to begin everything you do in your Mastery state of mind.

• ACTINGWITHAWARENESSAttaining a permanent state of peak performance.

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AccessingYour Mastery State of Mind

The Mastery State of Mind invites sustained success. Since everyone has hadat least one experience of this quality State of Mind, NLP can help you deliberatelyaccess it again and again, whenever you want. Any successful experience can berecalled, amplified and used successfully throughout your memories of the past andeven your expectations of the future.

Your memories are like the pictures and sounds on a television screen. They arestored in the five sensory modalities: see, hear, touch, taste, and smell. Submodalitiesare like the volume, tone, brightness and color tint controls of your brain. You can usesubmodalities to transform your memories and expectations. This is a concept vital toNLP. Appendix 1 contains a partial list of possible submodalities.

FINDING THE ESSENCE: OFYOUR MASTERY STATE OFMIND

1. Remember a specific time and place you acted with mastery: at work, insports, after hours.

2. Step into that experience, taking your time to appreciate the state — seeingand hearing the experience again, feeling the things you felt then. Notice theNLP submodalities related to the experience. The sights, sounds, and sensationsof the experience. Make note of them.

3. Clear your mind.

4. Select an area or action in your life in which you already experience confi-dence, but haven’t yet felt a sense of mastery — select one you can vividlysee, hear, and feel.

5. Step in to that experience and notice the submodalities there. Then step out.

6. Notice which submodalities are different between the two experiences.

7. Clear your mind.

8. Once again, think of the experience you just recalled (the one in which youhaven’t yet experienced a sense of mastery), and this time transform it into themastery state of mind submodalities.

9. How does this action — putting the submodalities of your mastery state ofmind into another situation — change your perception and feelings? What haschanged? In what ways? Take your time to appreciate this newly changed state.Enjoy the clarity of mind, the feeling of totality or wholeness, the sense of confidence.


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CHANGING COMPETENCE INTO SUCCESS MASTERY

l. Select an activity you do with natural ease and skill. Think of a particular timeand place when you were doing it exquisitely.

2. As in the previous exercise, recall it as vividly as possible.

3. Clear your mind.

4. Now relive this experience with its submodalities transformed into thoseof your Mastery state of mind. Allow the entire experience to come to a fulland satisfying completion in your mind.

5. Think of the next time you’re going to engage in this behavior. How do youexperience it?


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Transforming Inner and Outer Critics

Doubts and criticisms occur when sweeping generalizations and judgments are madeabout specific ideas or actions . Doubts are evaluations showing uncertainty or fear offailure before an event. Criticisms are negative evaluations after an event has occurred.Doubts and criticisms can interfere with an outcome or lead to failure. Here’s how torespond to them.

NLP META-MODEL RESPONSES

RESPONDING TO UNIVERSALIZINGAND PERMANENTWORDS

Example: “You’ll never succeed.”Words: Never, forever, always, everyone, allResponse: Emphasize the word(s) as a question and add on others.

“NEVER? EVER? ANYwhere and ANYone for ALL time?”

RESPONDING TO UNIVERSALVALUE JUDGMENTS

Example: “That was a stupid thing to do.”Words: Bad, dumb, childish, selfish, sissy, chicken, immatureResponse: Acknowledge the value judgment as their observation.Ask for exceptions.

“What made it LOOK stupid to YOU” or “I’ll bet that LOOKED stupid to YOU.Out of all of it, what part wasn’t stupid?”

RESPONDING TO UNIVERSALRULESAND DEMANDS

Example: “You can’t do that.”Words: Should, have to, ought to, must: Shouldn’t, can’t, mustn’tResponse: Ask for the exception.

“What would happen if we did?” “What would happen if we didn’t?”


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TRANSFORMING THE INNER CRITIC INTO AN ALLY

1. Listen for an inner doubter or critic. If you don’t have one, stop doing thisprocess now. If there is more than one, do this pattern completely with onebefore proceeding to another.

2. Notice where that voice is in your inner mental space. Behind you? In frontof you? To one side or the other? Mentally note the place.

3. Notice what happens as that voice begins to move down one of your shoulders toyour elbow. It’s saying the same things, but now it sounds like a cartoon character.Hear the cartoon voice coming out of your thumb.

4. Say to your inner voice: “I have perceived you as a doubtful and critical voice.Please express your positive purpose to me. Tell me what you have been doing forme all these years. It might be safety, security, motivation, or something else. Letme appreciate you and your efforts.”

5. Ask your inner voice: “What do you want for me?” Listen carefully to that voiceexpressing its positive purpose. You may be surprised. When that partexpresses itself, take in its positive intention. Let that part of you know youappreciate it.

6. Say to your inner voice: “You know what kinds of voice tones I find irresistible.To get my attention and cooperation, use one of those attractive, compellingvoices.”

7. Now the voice moves out of your thumb and back up your arm and changes intoan attractive, enticing and compelling voice.

8. Let that compelling inner voice find a mental space comfortable for it. Now, howdo you feel? What’s it like to have this new ally and this new alliance? Whatprevious difficulties have just disappeared? What has become possible?


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Mastering Optimism

The quality of your excuses determines the quality of your life.

According to Dr. Martin Seligman, our Inner Interpreter has three languagedimensions: Time, Place and Person. Examples of each are listed below.

TIME: Excuses can be permanent or temporary.PERMANENT: “It’s all over.” “Things will never work out.”TEMPORARY: “THAT chance is past ... “THIS didn’t work the way we’ve

planned.”

PLACE: Excuses can be pervasive or specific.PERVASIVE: “All bosses are sexists.” “I’m a failure.” “I can’t sell.”SPECIFIC: “THAT boss acts like a sexist.” “I didn’t do what I planned

in THIS situation.” “I didn’t sell THAT customer.”

PERSON: Excuses can be personal or impersonal.PERSONAL: “I’m lazy. “I’m just irresponsible.” “It’s my fault.”IMPERSONAL: “The situation is difficult.” “There are too many responsibilities.”

“They played beyond themselves.”

TRANFORMINGYOUR INNER INTERPRETER

1. Think of a time things didn’t turn out the way you wanted. Be specific.

2. As you remember that incident, how do you explain to yourself that it didn’t turnout the way you wanted? Listen attentively — this is your Inner Interpreter —and write down whatever you hear. Notice the mental direction of the voice.

3. Repeat Steps 1 & 2 with two other events with some emotional importancefor you.

4. Look at the three Inner Interpreter explanations you’ve written. What’s similarbetween them? Check them for permanence of time, pervasiveness of place andexcess of responsibility.

5. Rewrite the explanations so they are more optimistic. Make them Temporary,so they only apply to THIS or THAT specific time. Make them Specific to theplace they happened. And make them “Response-able,” accentuating your actionsor external events. Complete this before going on.


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6. Notice where in mental space you heard the three explanations of yourInner Interpreter. Did all three explanations come from a similar location?

7. As you listen to your Inner Interpreter, realize this is the part of you thatexplains the world to you. Let this part of you know how much youappreciate its vigilance and concern. Thank this part for having gotten youthis far in life.

8. Since you want to receive even more value from your Inner Interpreter,update its explanations with more optimistic and useful ones. You knowthis can be done easily and rapidly because you have a vigilant and intelli-gent Inner Interpreter.

9. Listen to your Inner Interpreter as it moves its location to your elbow andbegins to sound like a newscaster. When you hear your Inner Interpreter’sexplanations coming out of your thumb, offer the ones you wrote forcreating more optimism. Listen as your Inner Interpreter takes them inand then provides you with many examples of mastering this skill. Howdifferent do you already feel with this change of explanations? Enjoy it.

10. Have your Inner Interpreter move back up your arm and shoulder to yourhead. Since it’s interested in getting your attention, have it also use a veryattractive, compelling tone of voice.


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Inner Team Building Pattern

An Inner Team will create a harmonious internal environment for success mastery.

INNER TEAM BUILDING PATTERN

1. With your eyes closed, imagine going to a place in nature where you feel verycomfortable. In that place in nature, create a table with six chairs around it.

2. Ask your unconscious mind for two parts of yourself that you really enjoy tocome forward. When they arrive, welcome them as they take their seats at thetable.

3. Ask your unconscious mind for two parts of your self that you find useful andpractical to come forward. When they arrive, welcome them as they take theirseats at the table, then introduce everyone there.

4. Ask your unconscious mind for two parts of yourself that you particularly dislikeand with which you are unhappy. When they arrive, welcome them as they taketheir seats at the table, then introduce everyone there.

5. Say to them all, “Please tell me who here feels the most misunderstood.” And askthe one who feels most misunderstood, “What is your positive purpose, the giftyou bring to me?” Listen to the answer. Notice that the others understand andappreciate the importance of this part’s gift.

6. Say to the remaining five parts, “Who among you feels me most misunderstood?”Ask the one who responds, “What is your positive purpose, the gift you bring tome?” Listen to the answer. Notice that the others understand and appreciate theimportance of this part’s gift.

7. Repeat this process with the remaining four, then three, parts.

8. When there are two parts remaining, say, “I’ve welcomed the other parts to thistable. I’d like to welcome you, as well. Please tell me, one at a time, the gift youbring to me.” Listen to their answers. Notice that the others understand andappreciate the importance of the gifts these parts bring.

9. Watch as the six parts create a circle of gifts by holding hands with each other.And, as the table fades away, stand in the middle of the circle of gifts and allowthese wonderful gifts, this inner team to merge into the center of your heart.


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Mastery Through Imagination

NLP Kinesthetic Shift Pattern

1. What specific and valuable change in your state of mind do you want?Self-confidence? Self-acceptance? Self-love? Simply notice what you wantand say it out loud or write it down.

2. Now, ask yourself, “What stops me from feeling the way I want to feel?” Becomeaware of any pictures or sounds in your mind that make you feel physicallyuncomfortable. Notice these uncomfortable feelings in your body. Describe themout loud or write them down.

3. Stand up. Close your eyes. Relax. Think of a time in your life when you werefeeling relatively calm, peaceful, and internally comfortable.

4. Now, recall the specific feelings in your body that stop you from getting what youwant. You’ll feel these uncomfortable feelings for only a very short time, so it’sokay to do this now.

5. Imagine these uncomfortable feelings moving down your body, down your legs,and leaving your body through your feet into the ground.

6. Imagine, while in the ground, those uncomfortable feelings are transformed into awonderful “you” who has a sense of humor and has already resolved the problemyou’ve been struggling with. The wonderful you is only a few steps ahead of youin time and therefore already feels the way you want to feel.

7. Now, imagine that the wonderful you emerges from the ground and stands a footin front of you, facing you. Notice that the wonderful you is not perfect, and he orshe is feeling confident, empowered, and has a fun sense of humor.

8. Physically place your hands on the wonderful you’s shoulders. Imagine you canfeel the inner strength, confidence and sense of humor radiating from the wonder-ful you.

9. Now, feel a light, summer rain falling from above and washing away the wonder-ful you. As the rain also washes over you, you feel refreshed.

10. Repeat this pattern (steps 5 through 10) three more times, each time a little faster.

11. Repeat steps 5 through 9, this time leaving the wonderful you standing in frontof you.


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12. Have the wonderful you turn around so he or she is facing away from you.Take one step forward as you bring the wonderful you into your body, soyou feel exactly what the wonderful you feels.

13. Allow these wonderful feelings to flow out of you and into the ground. As theyflow into the ground below you, an even more wonderful you, a magnificent you,emerges from the ground and stands facing you. Place your hands on his or hershoulders and feel the radiating sense of strength, confidence, and humor comingfrom the magnificent you into you.

14. As a light rain washes away the magnificent you, your arms return to your sides.

15. Repeat this pattern (steps 12 through 14) three more times, a little faster each time.

16. Repeat steps 12 and 13, leaving that last magnificent you in front of you. Noticehow you feel when you physically turn in every direction of the compass anddiscover that the magnificent you is always in front of you, encouraging you anddirectionalizing your brain toward the future.

17. Notice how good you feel and imagine the many ways you will continue toexperience these good feelings in the days, months and years to come.


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Actions Into Empowering Beliefs

Every moment of your life is an opportunity to change completely. Your beliefs.Your life’s direction. Your destiny. The following exercise tells you how.

1. Think of something you want to believe about yourself, but which you aren’t quitesure is true.

2. State your desired belief in a positive form. Make sure it’s truly yours, somethingyou can do something about. Make sure it’s respectful of your work, your familyand your friends, and about process, not static perfection. Complete this beforegoing on.

3. Ask yourself, “What would a person with this desired belief naturally do?”Imagine many different actions. List them.

4. Select a specific time and place in your future where you would like to haveyour desired belief.

5. Select an action from your list that’s evidence of your desired belief and isappropriate for that specific future time and place.

6. See yourself in your selected future time and place doing that action. Watch thescene (as though it were a movie) of that “future you” completing the actions ofyour desired belief. Revise the scene if it’s necessary so that it is positive andappropriate.

7. Rewind that scene to the beginning. Step into it and go through this future time asif you’re living it now. See the scene around you. Feel the feelings. Hear yourselfstateyour belief with conviction. Go through the scene to the end.

8. Repeat steps 4 through 7 three more times. Select a different appropriate actionfrom your list of actions for your desired belief each time, each with another futuretime: and place.


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To Be and Begin with Mastery

There are five distinct ways to experience the content of our lives: Doing,Knowing, Getting/Having, Relating and Being

DOING:

Are you action oriented? Do you prefer to “just do it”? Do you commonly use wordslike action, doing, active, take, move, build, run and play? Do you ask, “What needs tobe done?”

KNOWING:

Is understanding important to you? Is finding out often its own reward? Do you buylots of books? Do you commonly use words like know, understand, find out, study,school and learn?

GETTING/HAVING:

Are you interested in things? Do you seek to acquire the world around you? Do youcommonly use words like things, get, have, acquire, mine and theirs?

RELATING:

Are you a people person? Do you care more about how a person is feeling than whatthey’ve been doing or what they’ve learned? Do you use words like relating, relation-ship, connection, communication and feeling?

BEING:

Is place very important to you? Are you interested in “where” — both physically andmetaphorically? Do you use words like being, place and home?


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DISCOVERING THE CONTENTS OFYOUR LIFE

1. Ask yourself, “What’s really important to me?”Write it down. (Notice which Content Area your answer contains — Doing,Knowing, Getting/Having, Relating or Being. For example, if your answer is“to love my family,” the Content Area is Relating. If “to sell more” is youranswer, then the Content Area is Doing.)

2. Ask yourself, “If I had that, fully and completely, then what?”Notice what answer comes to mind. It will be within another one of the ContentAreas.Write it down. (For example to “to sell more” [Doing] you would “Getmore money.”)

3. Using the answer to the Question posed in step 2, ask yourself, “If I fully andcompletely ____________________________, then what?”Write it down. (For example “Get more money” might lead to “Be happy.”)

4. Ask the question again, this time using the answer to step 3. Write down theanswer that comes to mind. If your answer to the last question was a ContentArea you haven’t written down, then repeat step 4 again until your combinationof Content Areas cycles back to one you have already written down.

5. You now have a series of Meta-Program Content Areas. (Doing to Getting toBeing to Relating etc...)

6. Return to step 1. Ask yourself, “What’s really important to me?” While you’rethinking, also ask yourself, “Is there anything I need to do, know, get or have,relate or be in order to access this?” Notice what answer, if any, comes up foryou. Write it down at the beginning of your Combination Content Areas. (Forexample you might need to “know more” “to sell more”)

7. Take a look at the combination of Content Areas you’ve written down. This isyour personal combination. Walk yourself through it. Does it feel familiar? Doesit make sense of a lot of your life? About where you’ve put your energy andattention? If not, repeat steps 1 through 6 to refine your combination of ContentAreas. (In the example, the entire sequence is Know more, to Do [sell] more, toGet more [money], to Be happy. Your combination may be in any sequence.)


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TO BE AND BEGIN WITH MASTERY

1. Recall your Mastery State of Mind submodalities for use later in this process.

2. Recall your personal combination of Content Areas. What is the first step for you?Remember a time you strongly expressed this Content Area. Imagine yourselffully in this state of mind and body. Take a moment to memorize your stanceand breathing.

3. Now, physically step forward Out of that Content Area and into your next ContentArea. Remember a time you strongly expressed this Content Area. Imagine your-self fully in this state of mind and body. Take a moment to memorize your stanceand breathing for this Content Area.

4. Then, physically step forward out of that Content Area and into your next ContentArea. Remember a time you strongly expressed this Content Area. Imagine your-self fully in this state of mind and body. Take a moment to memorize your stanceand breathing for this Content Area.

5. Continue this process until you reach your state of Being. It could be happiness,centeredness, peace, belonging or one of many others. Being has nothing to do orknow or get or have. Remember a time when you had your state of Being. Imagineyour self fully in this state of mind and body.

6. While in your stare of Being have its submodalities transform into the submodali-ties of your Mastery State of Mind. So you are now in a Master State of Being.

7. Holding this Mastery State of Being within you and throughout you, physicallystep back into your previous Content Area, taking your Mastery State of Beingwith you. Experience this Mastery State of Being filling and transforming thisContent Area of your life. Stay with this until it feels completed.

8. Taking your Mastery State of Being with you and throughout you, step backinto the previous Content Area. Notice the experience as this Content Area istransformed by your Mastery State of Being. Stay there until this feels complete.

9. Continue this process, step by step, Content Area by Content Area until youhave taken your Mastery State of Being all the way back into the first step in yourpersonal combination.

10. When is the next time you will start the first step of your combination? Noticeyour experience.


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NLP Belief Change Pattern

This NLP Belief Change Pattern is designed to gently transform limiting beliefsinto deeply felt, harmonious beliefs, creating a greater sense of self-worth, self-esteemand personal success mastery.

NLP BELIEF CHANGE PATTERN

1. Identify a belief you currently hold that limits you in some way.

2. Identify what you would rather believe, your Preferred Belief. State your PreferredBelief in a positive form. Make sure it’s truly yours, something you can do something about. Make sure it’s respectful of your work, family, friends, etc. Make sureit’s about process, not static perfection. Complete this before going on.

3. Create a label for each of six locations of change: Current Belief; Open to Doubt;Museum of Old Beliefs; Preferred Belief; Open to Believing; and The SacredPlace.

4. Place these labels on the floor in a clockwise direction as though they are placesettings around an imaginary dinner table.

5. Establish a “location anchor” for each of the six labels. That is, as you physicallystep from one label to the next, think of a vivid experience from your life whichfits each description. Complete one round of this before going on.

6. Standing in the Current Belief location, experience your limiting belief.

7. Taking your, limiting belief with you, step from the Current Belief location intothe Open to Doubt location. And notice how you now doubt that limiting belief.

8. Now take your doubted belief and step into the Museum of Old Beliefs.

9. Leave that old belief in the Museum of Old Beliefs, and step into your PreferredBelief location and fully experience it.

10. Now physically walk your Preferred Belief into the Open to Belief location. Feelyourself being open to believing it is true.

11. Now take your Preferred Belief and step into the Sacred Space location. Feel howsacred your preferred belief is within you.

12. Finish by feeling your now sacred Preferred Belief as you step into the CurrentBelief location.

© 1992 Robert Dilts, Conversational Belief Change: Sleight of Mouth Patterns,Meta Publications, Cupertino, CA. Used with permission.



Inner Alignment Pattern

What would your life be like if you could powerfully connect your highest pur-poses and values with your deepest sense of who you truly are? Here’s how:

INNER ALIGNMENT PATTERN

l. Identify when and where you want to experience Mastery.

2. Create six cards to represent the levels or locations of change. Label themEnvironment, Behavior, Capability, Beliefs, Identity, Spirituality. And arrangethem on the floor in the order given.

3. Stand in the Environment location with your back to the rest of the levels. Nowthink of where and when you want experience Mastery. Describe that Environ-ment aloud.

4 Step back into the Behavior location and ask, “What do I want to Do in that timeand place ?” Describe aloud what you want to be Doing, specifically.

5. Step back into the Capabilities location and ask, “How will I do those Behaviorsin that Environment?” Describe aloud what you want to say to yourself and seein your mind’s eye, in order to Act in those ways in that Environment.

6. Step back into the Beliefs location and ask, “What do I Believe that allows meto use those Capabilities, and take those Actions, in that Environment?”

7. Step back into the Identity location and ask, “Who am I that I would have thoseBeliefs?” Describe aloud a living metaphor for your identity.

8. Take a final step back into the Spirituality location and ask, “What is the overallVision or Purpose I am pursuing in life?” Describe aloud the Vision or Purposethat transcends all the levels of personal transformation before you.

9. Ask yourself, “Where does the energy for the transcendent Vision or Purposeenter my body?” Act as if you knew the answer and physically indicate wherethat energy comes from, where it enters your body and where it goes.

10. Step forward bringing the physical movement of the Vision into the locationof your Identity and feel them merge.

11. Bring both the Vision and your Identity, now an enriched Metaphor, into the levelof your Beliefs and feel them all merge.


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12. Bring Vision, Identity and Beliefs into the level of Capabilities and feel themall merge.

13. Bring Vision, Identity, Beliefs and Capabilities into the level of Behaviors andfeel them all merge.

14. Bring Vision, Identity, Beliefs, Capabilities and Behaviors into the level ofEnvironment and feel them merge.

© 1992 Robert Dilts, Cognitive Patterns of Jesus of Nazareth: Tools of the Spirit,1992 Dynamic Learning Publications. Ben Lomond, CA. Used with permission.


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Acting with Awareness

APPROACHES TO ACTING WITH AWARENESS

CHANGE WHO YOU ARE• Pretend to be someone else, anyone else.• See things from outside yourself and others

CHANGE WHAT YOU DO• Take up a new activity or hobby• Shift your focus of attention in your work

CHANGE WHERE YOU DO THINGS• Work, meet, lunch and consult in unusual locations• Rearrange your office until it feels like a different room

CHANGE WHEN YOU DO THINGS• Move appointments to different hours of the day• Change the sequence of appointments and activities.

CHANGE WHY YOU DO THINGS• Act as if some other reason is the real one for something• Have a secret job: making people feel good; noticing beauty in the world, etc.

CHANGE HOW YOU DO THINGS• Do an everyday task a little differently each day

REMEMBER:Every behavior is useful in some context!

Make an agreement with yourself that the new behavior-generating part of you (maybeyour inner child) can spontaneously come up with lots of new choices and actions andthat the discerning part of you (maybe your wise adult) will be responsible for findinga situation in which each new action will be useful and appropriate.


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Healthy Pleasures

Pleasure is natural and necessary for survival, learning and living.• Go for what satisfies you.• The pleasure is in you, not in the thing (person or place).• Go for pleasurable experiences directly.• Experiment and expand the possibilities of what gives you pleasure.• Raise your standards of your pleasures; especially the everyday ones.• Remember, you develop taste by experience. So enjoy.• Ask yourself “How can I make this experience better?”• Make time for pleasure, especially the everyday ones.• Be grateful. Thank yourself and whatever you believe in.

APPRECIATING SOMETHING

1. Close your eyes. Relax. Let your awareness go where it naturally will. Askyourself, “Where am I in my body?” Notice where your awareness of yourselfis in your body.

2. Move your sense of self down in to your heart area. Imagine it sinking furtherdownwith each exhale. When it is there, open your eyes and see how your percep-tions have been altered by this inner adjustment.

3. Close your eyes and let your sense of self-awareness continue down into yourbelly until it’s comfortably an inch or two below your belly button, the maritalarts chi point. Notice your feelings. Open your eyes and see how your percep-tions have changed.

4. If you have the opportunity, slowly get up and walk around, noticing how hav-ing your awareness in your chi point changes your walk and the way you sensethe world.

5. With your sense of self-awareness in your chi point, expand it in all directionsuntil it easily fills the room, yard, or neighborhood.

6. Notice something natural — a tree, a plant, a flower. Be attentive to it withoutany meaning or goal. Let your thoughts come and go as you notice how its col-ors shift with the wind. Or, taste a piece of fruit. Look at it, noticing its colorsand textures. Pick it up and feel it. Smell it. Open the fruit slowly with yourhands. Bite into it. Enjoy it.

7. On completing your explorations in awareness, have your sense of self move towhere you find it comfortable. You’ll find after doing this a few times, it becomeslarger, more flexible and more attentive.


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APPENDIX 1

SUBMODALITIES:THE BUILDING BLOCKS OF EXPERIENCE

Listed below are some of the most common submodalities. It is important to familiar-ize yourself with them because they’ll be useful as you engage in the techniquespresented in this program. Remember submodalities can be used to enhance, diminish,or change experience.

VISUAL

AUDITORY


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Brightness Contrast

Size Clarity

Color/Black & White Focus

Saturation (vividness) Framed/Panoramic

Hue or Color Balance Movement

Shape Perspective

Location Associated/Dissoicated

Distance 3-Dimensional/Flat

Pitch Duration

Tempo (speed) Location

Volume Distance

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APPENDIX 2 — SUCCESS MASTERY RESOURCES

NLP MASTERY RESOURCES

Andreas, Connirae and Steve Andreas. Heart of the Mind:Engaging Your Inner Power to Change with NLP.Real People Press, 1989

Andreas, Connirae and Tamara Andreas. The Aligned Self.Andreas, Steve and Connirae Andreas. Change Your Mind – and Keep the Change.Real People Press, 1987.

Bandler, Richard. Using Your Brain - for a Change.Real People Press, 1985.

Bandler, Richard and John Grinder. Reframing: Neuro-Linguistic Programming and theTransformation of Meaning.Real People Press. 1982.

Dilts, Robert B., Todd Epstein and Robert W. Dilts. Tools for Dreamers: Strategies forCreativity and the Structure of Innovation.Meta Publications, 1991.

NLP Comprehensive. NLP: The New Technology of Achievement.Nightingale-Conant, 1991.

OTHER MASTERY RESOURCES

Csikszentmihalyi, Mihaly, Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience.Harper & Row, 1990.

Gallwey, W. Timothy. The Inner Game of Tennis.Random House, 1974.

Kriegel, Robert and Louis Parker. If it ain’t broke – BREAK IT.Warner Books, 1991.

Leonard, George. Mastery: The Keys to Long Term Success and Fulfillment.Dutton, 1991.

Langer, Ellen J., Mindfulness.Addition-Wesley Publishing, 1989.

Orenstein, PhD. and David Sobel, M.D., Healthy Pleasures.Addition-Wesley Publishing, 1989.

Seligman, Martin, E. P., Learned Optimism.Simon & Schuster, 1990.


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