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A conversationabout government
surveillancewith William T.
Vollmann
Courtenay
Hameister onleaving the spotlight
A defense of
navel-gazing
Essays on solitude
and feathers,narcissism and
language, parentsand children
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Kathleen Holt
Jen Wick
Ben Waterhouse
Eloise Holland
Allison Dubinsky
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Sierra Bray
Reid Stubblefield
Brian Doyle
Debra Gwartney
Julia Heydon
Guy Maynard
Win McCormack
Greg Netzer
Camela Raymond
Kate Sage
Rich Wandschneider
Dave Weich
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Selfies by Oregon Humanitiesstaff and contributors. Far left
top: Annie Kaffen, far left bottom:
Jay Ponteri, center: Carolyn
Richardson, below: Jennifer Allen
Self Portrait No. 9 by Portland
artist Delaney Allen is part of his
series Painting A Portrait, which
was exhibited at Nationale Gallery
in Portland in Apr il 2012.
http://www.delaneyallen.com/
Delaney Allen, courtesy of
Nationale (Portland, OR)
Departments
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Editors Note
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Field Work
Think & Drin k goes statewideLetters to strangers A
Medford lecture series on
medicine and the humanitiesMemoirs of the Middle East
book club OH News 2014
Public Program Grants
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Profile
Paulann Petersen reflects on
her four years as Oregon PoetLaureate.
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From the Director
Adam Davis on conversations
taking us places we didnt think
wed go
Features: Me
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Whos Minding Your Business?
A conversation with .
At the Februar y 2014 Thin k &
Drink in Portland, the National
Book Awardwinning writer
and subject of FBI surveillance
discusses Unamericans and the
benefits of understanding how
others see you.
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Mark My Words
by
When it comes to narcissism, is it
really all about me?
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In Defense of Navel-Gazingby
To understand the world, one
must first understand oneself.
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Trapped in the Spotlight
by
When giving up your job means
giving up on yourself
30The Thing with Feathers
by
Opening up ones hands in the
hope that God will fall in
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You Remind Me of Me
by
Parent and child, strange and
baffling creatures that are part,
yet no part, of each other
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Posts
Readers write about Me
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Read. Talk. Think.
The Kinfolk Table by Nathan
Williams Bridging a Great
Divideby Kathie Durbin
The Great Floodgates of the
Wonderworld by Justin Hocking
The Evangelicals You Dont Know
by Tom Krattenmaker Outside
by Barry Lopez The Freeby
Willy Vlautin Torment Saintby
William Todd Schultz
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Croppings
Fractured Memories, Assembled
Traumas: The Work of Miguel
Aragnat Rogue Gallery and
Ar t Center
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We are excited to feature the work of
Oregon writers and artists in the pages of
Oregon Humanities. The cover of this issue
is a photograph by Portlander Delaney Allen,
Self Portrait No. 9, from his series Painting
a Portrait. You can see more of his work at
delaneyallen.com.
If youre an Oregon artist and have work
that we might consider for the Summer
2014 issue, on the theme Start, wed love
to know about it. Please familiarize yourself
with our publication (back issues viewable
online at oregonhumanities.org), then send
us the following by June 13, 2014:
a high-resolution digital image (300 dpi
at 8 x 10; scans or photographs, JPEG
or TIFF)
your name, the title of the work, the type
of media, as well as contact information
(email and phone number)
Please consider the constraints of a
magazine cover (e.g., vertical orientation,
nameplate, and cover lines). We are most
interested in works by Oregon-based artists.
Submissions can be sent to
[email protected] by post
to Oregon Humanitiesmagazine,
813 SW Alder St. Suite 702, Portland,
OR 97205.
Whats Mine Is Yours
M y f o u r - y e a r - o l d , l i k e a l l f o u r - y e a r - o l d s , i sa creature from the Land of Me. See that last banana sit-ting in the fruit bowl on the counter? Thats his. Never mind thathes already eaten two breakfasts this morning and one of them
was the second-to-the-last bana na. Never mind t hat he didnt
even want that banana until I expressed interest in it. Never
mind that Ipaidfor the bananawhats money to a four-year-
old? Never mind that hell peel the banana out of its skin, clutch it
tightly in his grubby paw, take one sloppy wet bite, and then leave
the rest on the dining room table to brown. That banana is his.
I know the point of being a parent is to shepherd a child from
the inward-focused, self-centered world of infancy and toddler-
hood to the world beyond, to give my son a sense of his social
responsibilities and obligations even as he makes a place for him-
self. The challenge is that the world beyond looks a lot like the
Land of Me, just populated by taller people with smart phones
who sha re their every word, action, a nd drea m with audiences
intimate and unknown. More of these tales of Me line up, glossy
and pert, on newsstands. They sit perfect-bound on bookstore
shelves and move in high-definition on TV screens during prime-
time. Im part of this world; I indulge. Im sometimes charmed by,
sometimes irritated with, and sometimes embarrassed for the
sharers and the tellers. Ive told some tales myself, but the doing
is still tentative and hard-considered for me, not a natural quick
click of a post button.
Unlike my children, who will grow up natives of this cultureof public narrative-building and shape-shifting, Ive had to adapt
to it. From my vantage point, the positioning of a private self in
a public world seems particular to this time and these technolo-
gies but is exacerbated by the inherited American sense of self-determination, trail-blazing, and reinvention. Weve always
been the heroes of our quests; now we are the storytellers and
publicists, too.
The discussions about narcissism, authenticity, and propriety
that happen when private lives are lived publicly feel perennial,
even though the players and the circumstances have changed.
These are ideas that are still intriguing, still worth arguing over,
but they are timeless. What feels newer and pressing are con-
cerns about complacency in light of technologys vast reach and
appeal, particularly regarding surveillance and citizens rights
to privacy.
Another concer n that feel s new and underd isc ussed is
whether my children and their peers, as they embark on the quest
of becoming who they want to be, will understand the value of
internal dialogue, of daydreaming, of turning an idea over and
over in their mindstesting it and absorbing it and making it
something integral to who they are. I hope they learn to shut out
the noise, resist the urge to perform, ignore the impulse to gather
external feedback. I hope they develop a capacity for solitude and
a habit of self-reflectionwhere the real me work is doneeven
as they push forward into this bright new world.
, Editor
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Always Happy Hour SomewhereOregon Humanities Think & Drink discussionprogram hits the road.
O n a T h u r s d a y e v e n i n g i n l a t eFebruary, on the heels of the 2014 WinterOlympics in Sochi, Russia, more than thirty
Salem residents joined Oregon Humanities in a
casual, public conversation with Jules Boykoff,
a former Olympic athlete and professor of poli-
tics and government at Pacific University, and
David Gutterman, a professor of politics at Wil-
lamette University and an Oregon Humanitiesboard member, at Grand Vines, a downtown
wine bar.
Field Work
The topic of discussion? Sochi, of course.With its record-brea king budget, unf ini shed
hotels, awe-inspiring sporting feats, and horse-
whip -wield ing Cossacks, the two-week spec-
tacle offered a curious collision of glamour and
squalor, nationalism and internationalism, and
athletics and activism. Both the events and the
political and social dramas surrounding them
provided plenty of fuel for conversations.
This evening in Salem was the first Think &
Drink program Oregon Humanities has held
outside of Portland. It will not be the last.
Think & Drink is a happy-hour series thatsparks provocative conversations about big
ideas through public discussions in informal
The 2014 Think & Drink Portland
series kicked off in February with
writer William T. Vollmann.
TIML
ABARGE
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Want to keepup with thehumanities inOregon?
Visit oregonhumanities.org
to sign up for our monthly
enewsletter. Like us on Facebook
Follow us on Twitter
settings. Oregon Humanities has presented
Think & Drink events in Portland since 2009,
with guest s including Congressman Ea rl Blu-
menauer, General Merrill McPeak, and writers
Ursula K. Le Guin and William T. Vollmann.
Now Oregon Humanities is moving the
Think & Drink model beyond Portland with a
series of pilot events around the state. Another
Think & Drink will take place this fall in Joseph,
featuring immigrant and civil rights advocate
Pramila Jayapal and Steve Williamson, com-
munity affairs director for the United Food
and Commercial Workers of Washington, who
will discuss the changing nature of labor in the
Pacific Northwest.
Think & Drink is an excellent format for
grappling with big ideas in a comfortable set-
ting, says Oregon Humanities executive
director, Adam Davis. The programs are lessformal than a lecture, and allow for more in-
depth discussion than a debate. They get people
together, in a room, to talk respectfully about
important issues, which enables participants
to become both better informed and more
connected with one another. And thats
what we at Oregon Humanities want to do:
Get Oregonians together to talk.
Guests in the 2014 Portland series include
Heidi Boghosian, director of the National Law-
yers Guild, on May 8; and Stephanie Coontz, a
professor at Evergreen State College who stud-ies the history of American family life and mar-
riage, on July 10.
Oregon Humanities also hope s to offer
Think & Drink events in Deschutes, Umatilla,
and Jackson Counties in 2014. If you would
like to see a Think & Drink in your community,
or if you know of a great venue or speaker for a
Think & Drink event, please email Adam Davis
The Best MedicineA Medford series uses the humanities to examine
the practice of medicine.
As the national debate about ourhealth care system rages, medical profes-sionals are searching for a nswers on the front
lines.
Weve kind of lost our way in medicine,says Alexander Krach, director of the Humane
Medicine Medical Humanities Program at the
Asa nte Health System in Medfor d. Hi stor i-
cally, medicine has always been both an art and
a science, but now its all diagnostic.
A seasoned emergency room and trau ma
nurse who recently applied to medical school,
Krach feels driven to change things. I found
what is the core of my work in trying to recon-
nect people to their relationships with one
another, he says.
He believes the humanities are the way to dothis. Last year, Krach helped bring two Oregon
Humanities Conversation Project programs
Once youve read Me, writeabout you.
This spring, Oregon Humanities is connecting
Oregonians to strangers from all over the state
through a letter-exchange program were calling
Dear Stranger.
Heres how it works: Write a letter. Address
it Dear Stranger. Fill a page, or maybe two.
Write about yourselfsome aspect of what
makes you you. Who you are, where you live,
what you do; where you come from, what you
have seen, and where you are going; your hopes
and fears and desires; a favorite story, or a ran-
dom memory; what me means to you.
Sign your letter, if you like, or leave it anony-
mous. Include your address in the letter if youd
like a reply from your stranger.
Then mail your letter and a stamped, self-
addressed envelope by May 5, 2014, to Dear
Stranger, Oregon Humanities, 813 SW Alder St.,
Suite 702, Portland, OR 97205.
When we receive your letter, well exchange
it with a letter from another writer. He or she will
get your letter; you will get his or hers. Read the
letter; what happens next is up to you. We hope
you will write back.
If your letter strikes a chord with us, we may
post it to oregonhumanities.org. If youd prefer
we do not, please enclose a note saying so.
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to Asante a s part of the health systems series
Humane Medicine: Exploring the Experience
of Patients and Providers through the Humani-
ties. The first program was Prakash Chenjeris
Beyond Human: Science, Technology, and the
Future of Human Nature, and the second
wa s Cou rt ney Campb ell s Gr ave Mat ter s:
Reflections on Life and Death across Cultures
and Traditions. The series was also funded
this February by an Oregon Humanities
Public Program Grant.
This is how were going to fix the sys-
tem, Krach says. Slow it down. Be present.
Listen to peoples stories. The series con-
tinues through June 2014 with topics that
include the aging process and illness in older
adults, the importance of the humanities in the
education of health care practitioners, and
reducing violence in our communities.
The Middle East, through MemoirA book club explores diversity through firsthandaccounts.
S i n c e S e p t e m b e r 2 0 1 3 , s e v e r a lPortlanders have gathered monthly at ameeting room in Multnomah Countys Cen-
tral Library to discuss memoirs by writers
from Middle Eastern countries. The intent,
says Elisheva Cohen, outreach coordinator
for Portland State Universitys Middle East
Studies Center, is to expose readers to the
diversity of Middle Eastern cultures throughprimary sources.
The book club, which goes by the name A
Oregon Humanities is pleased to
announce the appointment of two
new board members: Erious Johnson
Jr., an assistant attorney general at
the Oregon Department of Justice, and
Emily Karr, a Portland-based lawyer
and board member of both the Library
Foundation and Northwest Academy.
We se ek nomine es for ou r bo a rd of
directors who are interested in con-
necting Oregonians to ideas that
c ha ng e l i v e s a nd t r a ns f or m c om -
munities. Find more information ato r e g o n h u m a n i t i e s . o r g / a b o u t - u s /
nomination-process .
S i n c e 2 0 0 9 , O r e g o n H u m a n i t i e s
has provided opportunities for nonprofits
around the state to host free, humanities-
based public discussions through the Con-
versation Proje ct. Oregon nonprofits can
apply until May 31, 2014, to host Conversa-
tion Project programs in the summer and
fallvisit oregonhumanities.org to start
getting people talking.
2014
O r e g o n t e a c h e r s f r o m s i x t e e n
d i f f e r e n t
secondary schools around the state have
been chosen to design curriculum and
lead discussions for Idea Lab, a three-
day residential program where high-school juniors explore the pursuit of
happiness. The program will take place
July 2527 at the University of Portland.
To see full list of Idea Lab Fellows, please
visit oregonhumanities.org
I f y o u r e h a v i n g O r e g o n H u m a n i -
ties withdrawal after fin ishing this issue,
take a look at our blog, at oregonhuman-
ities.org/blog. Read interviews, news, and
fun tidbits, such as our O. Hm. Mixtape, inwhich Oregon Humanities staff and friends
Oregon Humanities News
Conversation Project leader Prakash
Chenjeris program Beyond
Human was featured in Asante
Health Systems series Humane
Medicine: Exploring the Experience
of Patients and Providers through
the Humanities.
Syrian writer Siham Tergemans
memoir was part of Multnomah
County Librarys A Day in the Life
book club.
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$10 per monthThats all it takes to cover the annual cost of Oregon
Humanitiesmagazine for five peoplethe local librarian,a state representative, a favorite neighbor, your sister,
and you.
Now everyone has a copy. Cue conversation.
Set up your monthly gift today at oregonhumanities.org.
2014 Public Program Grants
This February, the Oregon
Humanities board of directors
awarded $59,850 in grants to
eighteen nonprofit organizations
from around the state. These
grants will support public pro-
grams on topics such as cultural
identity, humane medical prac-
tices, and the empowerment
of women. To learn more about
the organizations listed below
(sorted alphabetically by city)
and their grant-funded projects,
visit oregonhumanities.org.
Day in the Life: Memoirs of the Middle East,
is presented by Multnomah County Library
and PSUs Portland Center for the Public
Humanities, Department of English, and
Middle East Studies Center, with funding from
Oregon Humanities. The discussions are free
and open to the public, and books are offered
free of charge.
I think participants have left with a much
more diverse understanding of the region,
Cohen says. Very early on we had a pretty in-
depth discussion of the veil and concepts of
womens oppression. Weve also been able
to contextualize Islam as a religion and give
understanding of what it means to be part of
that faith.
Andrea Rugh, a translator who spent manyyears in Egypt and Syria, echoed Cohen in her
discussion ofDaughter of Damascus, a little-
known autobiographical novel by Syrian writer
Siham Tergeman: We tend to think that theres
a universal worldview, but really thats not
true. Individualism is not an easy concept
for many people in the Arab world to under-
stand, and its just as hard for many Americans
to grasp an outlook that revolves around
obligations to family and friends.
A Day in the Life concludes T uesday, May
6, with a discussion of Orhan PamuksIstan-
bul: Memories and the City, led by PSU profes-
sor Pelin Basci. For more information, visit
middleeastpdx.org/memoir.
Chautauqua Poets and Writers/Friends of the
Ashland Public Library (Ashland); $3,500
Fishtrap (Enterprise); $2,500
Confederated Tribes of Grand Ronde (Grand
Ronde); $5,000
Josephine Community Libraries (Grants Pass);
$5,000
Rogue Community College Foundation/Rogue
Valley Oregon Action (Grants Pass); $4,500
Gorge Owned (Hood River); $2,350
Asante Health System (Medford); $5,000
Arts Council of Pendleton (Pendleton); $4,000
Umatilla County Historical Society
(Pendleton); $3,000
August Wilson Red Door Project/Oregon
Tradeswomen (Portland); $3,000
Healthy Democracy (Portland); $3,500
Miracle Theatre Group (Portland); $3,000
Northwest China Council (Portland); $1,000
PassinArt Theatre Company (Portland); $1,000
Triangle Productions (Portland); $1,000
YWCA of Greater Portland (Portland); $5,000
Oregon Black Pioneers (Salem); $3,000
Springeld Museum (Springeld); $4,500
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B Y H E R O W N R E C KO NING, P AU L A NNPetersen has traveled more than twenty-four thousand miles in the name of poetry in
her past four years as Oregons poet laureate.
Petersen has been required to make a minimum
of ten and up to twenty public appearances in
each of her two-year terms.
My husband says I took care of that in the
first month, she says.
A Portland native who lived in Klamath Fallsfor thirty-one years before returning to the
city, Petersen had done her share of traveling in
Oregon prior to being named poet laureate
in 2010. Id been to Paisley. Id been to Adel.
Id been to Plush, she says. But I have, i n these
four years, been to so many places I had not
been before.
The travel can be grueling. One trip, in
October 2013, took her from Klamath Falls to
Lakeview, Burns, Ontario, and Echo. People
say to me, You go to all these places, youre on
the move so much, Petersen says. It takes
energy, and Im seventy-one. But I say to those
people, if you saw the requests, if you saw the
invitations, how could you refuse?
Petersen has given readings at Portlands
Trinity Cathedral, to the Humanists of Greater
Portland, at the Lents International Farmers
Market, in the middle of the Morrison Bridge,
before open sessions of the legislature in Salem,
and on the radio variety showLive Wire.
She has written occasional poems for the
dedications of Cottonwood Canyon State Park,
Bates State Park, and Beaver Creek Natural
Area; for a new library in Lakeview and a peace
mosaic on the wall of the Salem Family YWCA;
and for Sustainable Northwest and the Audu-
bon Society of Portland events.
She has led writing workshops at Cape Look-
out State Park, the Boosters Hall in Christ-
mas Valley, the 168-student Ione Community
School, and the Caledonian Games in Athena;
wit h par ents and chi ldren at A. C. Gilb ert s
Discovery Village in Salem; with former Peace
Corps volunteers at a reunion in Portland; and
wit h inm ates of the Hil lcrest Youth Correc-tional Facility.
I had been in a lockdown facility before, but
that experience in Hillcrest, where every door
you walk through, someone unlocks it, you go
through, and someone locks it behind youits
such a different atmosphere from what [Im]
used to, Petersen says. All but one of the guys
read what they wrote in the workshop, and what
they had written was personal, in the sense
that it was very close to them emotionally. The
things they read were beautiful, were some-
times funny, were very moving.
Petersen has had some disappointments
in her term a s poet laureate. Her early plans
to lead writing workshops with teachers
were stym ied by cut s to in-ser vice days and
professional development budgets of Oregon
schools. Instead, Petersen partnered with a
nonprofit Portland publisher, Tavern Books,
in a campaign to place hand-selected poetry
collections into small rural and tribal librar-
ies in Oregon, free of charge.
The program, called Poetry State, hasbeen successful at placing collections in fif-
teen Oregon libraries. I sent out the word,
and people all over the state donated books
of poetry, to the point where [Tavern Books
cofounder Carl Adamshicks] doorstep would
be overflowing with books when the mail
arrived , Petersen says.
A s Pe t er se n com es t o t he en d of her
second and final termher successor will be
announced this springshe says she has no
regrets. Theres not a thing that I would want
to undo, nothing that I am not grateful for, shesays. It is a privilege, an honor to be an ambas-
sador for poetry in this wonderful state.
The Roads TakenPaulann Petersen reflects on her four years asOregons ambassador for poetry.
Oregon Poet Laureate
Paulann Petersen
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O NE E VE NING TH IS W INTE R I W E NTto a talk and then a discussion broke out.The talk was Oregon Humanities Think &
Drink program with writer William T. Voll-
mann, who for years has been the subject of
government surveillance. The discussion was
about race and privilege and what we most
ought to be talking about.
During the question and answer part of theevening, and again during a small-group discus-
sion that followed, Erious Johnson Jr., an Afri-
can American attorney who had recently moved
from New York to Oregon (and who has since
joined the Oregon Humanitie s boa rd), said
with passion that he didnt get it: he couldnt see
why everyone i n the room was worried about
the FBI tapping phones or the federal govern-
ment collecting information through comput-
ers. Erious said that in his world, in his peoples
world, the pressing issue is walking four blocks
home from the train without getting thrown to
the ground and arrested. He wondered aloud
whether the rest of us, with our furrowed brows
and our heavy concerns, werent simply look-
ing awayintentionally or accidentallyfrom
the other ways t hat the government exercises
its power in some of our lives. Erious also won-
dered why the more he tries to connect with
people at events like this, the more tenuous that
connection feels.
At that point in the post-talk discussion, the
focus shifted. Instead of continuing to directquestions at Vollmann, people tried and mostly
failed to respond to Eriouss concerns. People
were still try ing and mostly failing when it was
time to leave. Just before the discussion broke
up, Vollmann said three things to Erious. He
said he did not have the answer to Eriouss ques-
tions. He said, somewhat enigmatically, that
he thought it possible that twenty years from
now Erious might see his own concerns and
Vollma ns c oncerns as more connected. And
he said, with his open hand out, that he would
very much like for Erious to become his friend.When I left for home, Vollma nn and Erious,
along with a handf ul of other people, headed off
No Perfect AnswersThe unusual potential of a challenging discussion
to continue talking.
Neither Eriouss open and genuine offer of
disagreement nor Vollmanns open and genu-
ine offer of friendship solved the deep systemic
injustice we were talking about. Nothing was
solved by the discussion or by the talk that pre-
ceded it. No perfectly satisfying answers were
delivered, no utterly transformative changes
were proposed. Yet it was, from my perspective,
a rare and successful evening. We went places
we did not know we would go. We left with morequestions than answers and with a stinging
sense that each of us, and our community as a
whole, could do better. And some of usperhaps
even all of usfelt more connected to those we
did not know and may not have agreed with.
Challenging, open discussion holds unusual
potential. It can call us to presence as few other
things do, and it can lead in unpredictable ways
to relationships and actions that would not oth-
erwise seem possible. The content of the discus-
sion that night was challenging, unresolved,
and uncomfortable. Yet the feel of that discus-sion was hopeful. Hope alone is no solution, but
there arent any without it.
We left with more questions than answers
and with a stinging sense that each of us, and
our community as a whole, could do better.
KIMN
GUYEN
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I N T H E S E P T E M B E R 2 0 1 3 I S S U E O F H A R P E R Smagazine, William T. Vollmann w rote about his di scovery,through a Freedom of Information Act request, that he had been
a suspect in both the Unabomber and 2001 anthrax letter domes-
tic terrorism investigations by the FBI. A prolific writer whose
work includes war reporting, nonfiction books on poverty, train-
hopping, and Japanese theater, and the National Book Award
winning novelEurope Central, Vollmann was the first guest in
Oregon Humanities 2014 Think & Drink Portland series on the
theme Private. The following is an excerpt of his conversationwith Executive Director Adam Davis on February 5 at the Mis-
sion Theater in Portland.
Early in the conversation, Vollmann said he was never
arrested and he doesnt consider himself a victim. He also noted
that some of the reasons the FBI suspected him of being the
Unabomber were sort of plausible. I could see that they might
want to i nvestigate me if they had no better person to i nvesti-
gate. But, he said, officials were ham-handed and incompetent
about other parts of the investigation and, even though the Una-
bomber was caught, Vollmann believes his telephone and postal
correspondence still remain under surveillance. He received 294
redacted pages of a 785-page FBI file; at this writing, his requestsfor CIA files on him were rejected and an NSA request was still
pending.
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AD AM DAVI S: The Harpersessay started with talk of Steinbeck
[America and Americans] and then a category of people you refer
to as the Unamericans. Let me just stop there and ask: W hat does
Unamerican mean as a way of moving toward what American
means? Who are these Unamericans that you talk about?
WILLIAM T. VOLLMANN: Well, what does American mean
to you? To me, America has very good and very bad connota-
tions, as does any place, any country, any society. But when I
think about the good things about being an American, I think
about the freedom that we supposedly have to develop our ownindividuality and mind our own business and have other people
mind their business.
Recently I published a book that had a bunch of portraits of
myself in a dress. For several years, I was fooling around cross-
dressing and having a great time. And I cant say I was ashamed
of it. I had a lot of fun. At the same time, I wouldnt have liked it
if people were looking in and taking pictures through the win-
dow and posting those on the Internet. Now of course they can
do that. Now that the book [The Book of Dolores] is out they can
do whatever they want.
But I had this feeling that I could figure out who I was. I could
be what I wanted, and in a way thats not too different from anineteenth-century settler coming into the Wi llamette Valley
and saying, I want to start growing pears, I want to have a farm,
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A Think & Drink conversation
with writer William T. Vollmann
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and Im going to make anything that I can. Im going to do it my
way, and I can succeed or fail, but I have the right to do this. To
me, thats what being an American is. Taking chances, having
homes that are safe from others where we can succeed or fail.
And not having to do what were told. Not having to be spied
on and told that we have to do this or we have to do that. So the
Unamericans are the people who are trying to defeat this sort of
America, which ha s never completely existed and was built on
the back of Indian genocide andAfrican American slavery and all
kinds of other things. But that doesnt mean that our Constitu-
tion and the ideas that we pay lip service to shouldnt somehow
guide us and inspire us to become better and enlarge our own
freedom and the freedom of others.
A D: I want to push on that a little bit with a s entenc e of yours
from an earlier book in mind. The sentence is: I believe in the
Ame rican myth that it is both admirable and even possible to
devote ones life to a private dream. That seems to me to be a
complicated sentence. And its a little complicated to make sense
of what you just said, in part because youre both pointing back
to a time and acknowledging that that time didnt hold what you
said it held. So I want to ask whether theres been what feels like
a significant change to you, in terms of the way were monitored,or whether it feels like this has been there all along.
WTV: I think that if my name were Mohammed, I would be feel-
ing a lot more scared tha n I do now. And if I had been black in my
fathers time or my grandfathers time, I would have felt a lot of
fear and anger. Thats what I mean when I say that these ideals
never have been fully realized and maybe never will be. And then
Id also say that as we get older, we tend to think of the world as
becoming worse and worse. And so I bristle at the Internet and
I think, how awful, and Im just this old reactionary. It doesnt
really matter what I think. Its irrelevant what I think about the
Internet. And its a great tool, et cetera, et cetera. That having
been said, the government and these corporations, if they caneven be separated, know far more about you than strangers have
ever known about you in history. That is certain.
A D:Im going to ask a naive question: Thats a bad thing?
WTV: It wouldnt be a bad thing if you could have absolute con-
fidence in the motives of the people who were doing the watch-
ing and using this information and knew how it was going to be
used. But in fact, were being told by the president, Oh, yeah,
theres some misunderstanding. Trust me, its all gonna work
out. We dont know whats going to work out, or how its going
to work out. And were being asked to resign our liberties. Again,
there may be no problem for five years or fifty years. But all it
takes is an unscrupulous presidentand of course weve never
had any of thoseor some CEO who cares more about the bottom
line than about whats good for his customersweve certainly
never had any of those either. So this information is bound to
be misused, and its probably being misused now. And we know
that other people are minding our business. And I think that
we should tr y to find out how they re minding our business
and raise our voices if we dont like that theyre doing it. Try to
limit the ways that they can mind our business, if thats even
possible. And if it isnt possible, then we should think about
limiting our ex posure. We dont have to eschew the Internet, but
Im sure all of you can think of more creative ways to pollute the
data pool than I can. I urge you always to obfuscate and confuse
the issue. Fill in the wrong blank s. Its only going to help.
A D: Why are you sharing this [experience] with us? Why are you
putting it out thereto say it again provocativelyin our business?
Why put it out there?
WTV: I guess I feel that were all limited, and I know Im cer-
tainly very limited. I like to learn as much about the outside world
as I can, the world outside my head. Thats one of the reasons I
like riding the freight trains. Theres nothing like being on a rail
car and looking up at the stars overnight as youre going through
the mountains. You really feel the immensity of the world, and
all the things that you might do someday. Which, of course, is
something that you generally lose the next day. But its a brieflyinspiring feeling. And as I have tried to look at people unlike me
Al Qaeda t ypes, street prostitutes, drug pushers, whateverto
Im sure all of you can think of more
creative ways to pollute the datapool than I can. I urge you always toobfuscate and confuse the issue. Fill inthe wrong blanks. Its only going to help.
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enlarge my mind, I then decided I should come back to myself
to see how Im different and how I would approach myself as
a third sort of person, to learn about myself. In the process of
DoloresI actually found some of the photographs rather pathetic
and cruelwhen I was trying to look like a pretty woman, and I
couldnt do it. I look at the pictures in there, and I meanlook at
this persons face. This is my face. And I dont have to like what I
see. But I just have to look at it and say, This is my reality. And
if I do this with the rest of the world, I have to do it with myself,
too, to be fair.
A D: I feel like in a strange way youve just made an argument that
theres something useful about having someone else look at us in
this more external way.
WTV: Thats what readers are for. Everybody, from children
onward, likes to be seen. And thats one of the ways in which we
learn what were capable of and what were not. I would love to
be able to drive a nail in straight, but because I dont have depth
perception, I cant see in 3-D, I cant tell when a nail is perpen-
dicular to the wall. So as a result of having tried for many, many
years, and watching other people drive in nails really, really
easily when I cant do it, Ive learned something about reality.
A D:But thats what I mean: how great then to have huge govern-
ment entities with files on you.
WTV: Thats rightif the files have useful things to say, and if
the files are for your benefit.
A D: But I thought you were just making a case for the benefit of
seeing yourself from outside yourself, from another perspective?
So is the problemIm just trying to push on thiswhat they might
do with it?
WTV: Thats the main thing. But youre certainly right. It was
gratifying and flattering in a certain way to see that they had so
many pages about me. And, of course, I was curious about thecontent of hundreds of pages Ill never see. And it was a kind of
lesson in how I might appear to others.
Next time you fly, think about your TSA experience. And the
other TSA experiences that youve had. You might well get some
very courteous, helpful person who gets you through as quick ly
as possible. Or, from time to time, youll probably get a bully; my
late father always used to say, Give someone a little bit of power
and they turn into a Nazi. And then you might get people who
just dont really know very much and are taking the job because
thats the only job they can get. And theyre all human beings.
Im not knocking any of them in particular. But the fact that
some of them have power over us means that they might use the
power in a sort of ignorant and, therefore, detrimental way. And
imagine if those people then are writing information about you,
or misinformation, whatever, and making use of that informa-
tion. Putting you on a watch list, for instance, because they
misspelled your name and they decided maybe youre a terrorist,
or for some other reason.
A D: So, five minutes ago you said you feel hopef ul. W hat makes
you hopeful?
WTV: Well, for one thing, [Chelsea] Manning and [Edward]
Snowden are heroesto me, any way. So that NSA spook [James]
Clapper got caught in one of his lies: Oh no, we dont do this,
we dont do that. And maybe the paradigm will shift a little bit.And if all of us become more conscious about what were going to
accept and how we see the future, maybe lip service will be paid
to what we wish for, and maybe someday it will be more than lip
serviceif we really care. But its going to take a generation or
more to undo whats been done. And so, I think its possible, but
only if enough people really care.
Think & Drink is a happy-hour series that sparks provocative
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Mark MyWordsWhen it comes to narcissism, is it
really all about me?
I N A LONG ESSAY TITLED THE ME DECADE AND THEThird Great Awakening published inNew York magazinein 1976, writer Tom Wolfe mocked the baby boomers (those
born between 1946 and 1964) and what he saw as their pen-
chant for self-righteous self-improvement. More recently, a
Timemagazine cover story titled The Me Me Me Generation
by Joel Stein singled out the millennials (those born between
1980 and 2000) as lazy, entitled narcissists and suggested
higher rates of narcissism and materialism in members of this
generation. Wolfe linked the boomers obsessions to the postwar
affluence that allowed everyone time to focus on themselves; Stein
attributed millennials narcissism to excessive self-esteem
instilled by hovering parents and computer technology that
allowed people to become their own brands. So which is the real me
generation, the boomers or the millennials? Perhaps its neitherand simply the ca se that every generation enjoys complaining
about the one that follows. Or perhaps, as both Wolfe and Stein
hint, self-involvement has always been a feature of affluence.
It is just more widespread as our collective standard of living
rises, our leisure time increases, and technology and culture
offer new avenues for individuals to focus on themselves.
The terminology of grammar seems to mirror self-obses-
sion. We call the forms me,my,andIfirst-person pronouns,
as opposed to the second person (you,yours), and the third per-
son, which is everyone else.Me,my,andIare also singular first-
person pronouns, distinguished from the first-person plurals
us,we,and ours. When we talk about the me generation, whethermillennials or boomers, the grammar metaphor (I hesitate to
call it a meme) invokes a singular focus on the self.JENWICKSTUD
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MYarrogance, and narcissism?
Statistics about pronoun use suggest that the situation is dif-
ferentand more complicatedthan you might think. For about
two decades, social psychologist James W. Pennebaker of the
University of Texas at Austin has been doing large-scale com-
puter analysis of pronouns. Along with a legion of collaborators,
he has looked at a wide variety of texts and transcriptsfrom
blogs and love letters to poetr y, plays, and presidential speeches.
Pennebaker is interested in the grammar of power, emotion,
leadership, and community, and he believes that the small details
of pronouns and other small function words like adverbs, auxil-
iaries, and articles can tell us quite a lot.
For example, pronouns reveal the way individuals cope with
tragedy. His analysis of the first and last speeches ofKing Lear
show that in the beginning of the play, the arrogant Lear whodemands that his daughters profess their love for him speaks in
the plural: Know we have divided in three our kingdom; and it is
our fast intent to shake all cares and business from our age, con-
ferring them on younger strengths while we unburdened crawl
toward death In act 5, scene 3, when the dying Lear confronts
the corpse of his daughter Cordelia, he speaks in the singular:
Had I your tong ue and eyes, Id use them so that heavens vault
should crack. Shes gone forever! I know when one is dead and
when one lives. Lears percentage ofI,me,andmygoes from 2
percent of the total in act 1 to 7.4 percent in act 5, while the per-
centage of we,us,andourgoes from 12 percent to 0. Pronouns
reveal the way that Lear responds to tragedy.Moving beyond fictional characters to real people, Pen-
nebaker and his colleagues looked at thousands of diary entries
As re ad er s, we als o are conf li ct ed ab ou t fir st-p er son
pronouns. We have all probably received or sent cover letters
with too much first person in them:
Dear Ms. Holt,
Im applying for the position of staff writer at Ore-
gon Humanities. Im a great fit for the job because Ive
excelled at writing for other magazines, such asPort-
land Monthly, and I enjoy a loyal readership. I also love
writing about the humanities and I have never missed
a deadline.
I have several ideas for stories for your magazine
and I bring a valuable out-of-the box style. I have
enclosed a rsum with my job history and salaryrequirements, and I will call next week to set up a time
for an interview.
Sincerely,
Narcissa McSelfie
You get the idea. The fictitious writer seems to have only
her interests, accomplishments, and needs at heart, with no
consideration given to what she would bring to the position or
organization. And there are a lot ofI pronouns:Im applying,Im
a great fit,Ive excelled,I enjoy, and so on. Such letters are often
quickly dismissed, filed away with a rueful smile and a shakeof the head. But does the heavy use of the first-person singular
pronouns me,myself, andIreally signa l excessive self-esteem,
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written by people dealing with trauma. The use ofI, me,andmy
dropped as writers thought about their situations less person-
ally and as their psychological well-being improved. The change
in the way people used first-person pronouns turned out to be a
good indicator of improved mental health. Another study foundthe use of plural pronouns we,us,andourrevealing. Research-
ers looked at more than a thousand blog posts written in the
two months prior to and after the September 11 attacks. As you
might expect, the blog entries revealed psychological changes in
response to the attacks, with bloggers becoming more socially
engaged and distant from personal issues. Their use ofI,me,
andmyplummeted, while we,us,andourspiked.The need to be
part of a group during times of shared disaster is reflected in the
simplest of words. How we express ourselves in difficult circum-
stances, both individual and communal, is evident not just in
what we say, but how we say it. Style and content come together.
Computer analysis points to pronouns as an indicator of
our mental state in times of trouble, but what about in ordinary
times? What can pronouns tell us about our leaders? Like the
fictitious job applicant mentioned earlier, our political leaders
are sometimes accused of narcissismor worsewhen they
use first-person pronouns. Linguists and psychologists have
crunched the numbers on presidential press conferences since
the end of World War II and have found some surprising results.
Which modern president do you think used the first person the
most, and which used it the lowest? In order, from most frequent
use of first person to least frequent, the chief executives are:
Harry Truman, George H. W. Bush, Dwight Eisenhower, Ger-ald Ford, Lyndon Johnson, Bill Clinton, Jimmy Carter, George
W. Bush, Ronald Reagan, R ichard Nixon, John F. Kennedy, and
Barack Obama. Pennebaker suspects that writers who complain
about politicians excessive use ofI and meare engaging in a
bit of confirmation bias: if a pundit believes a politician is self-
obsessed, he or she pays attention to the politicians every use of
I,me,andmy. The lesson is that we should not trust our biases.
We should do the counting.
Anot her place to be cautiou s about readi ng too much into
first-person pronouns is in thinking about apologies. A serious
and sincere apology ought to address the person injured, identify
a harm, express regret, and show some moral awareness of onesbad behavior. This necessarily involves the first person, and good
apologies are oftenI-full, using the first person to both apologize
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for and name the harm. So, I might say,I apologize that I have not
gotten back to you,using the first person in both clauses. But if I
am trying to dodge responsibility, I might say,I apologize that the
exams are not graded yet, implying that I am somehow a sympa-
thetic bystander to the undone grading. Here are seven real-lifeapologies. Which seem most sincere to you?
I sincerely regret the unfortunate choice of lan-
guage which I used in my letter.
PRESIDENT HARRY TRUMAN
(two first-person pronouns)
I want to sincerely apologize for the remarks I
made on Sunday in Council Bluffs
SENATOR BOB KERREY
(two first-person pronouns)
What I said at the end of our election-night
coverage was both impolite and unfair. And Im
sorry. I regret it.
NEWS ANCHOR DAVID BRIN KLEY
(three first-person pronouns)
I sincerely apologize to those readers who have
been disappointed by my actions.
WRITER JAMES FREY(two first-person pronouns)
I regret deeply any injuries that may have been
done in the course of the events that led to this
decision.
PRESIDENT RICHARD NIXON(one first-person pronoun)
I didnt mean anything by it, and Im sorry if I
offended anybody.
GOLFER FUZZY ZOELLER
(three first-person pronouns)
I would like to offer an apology, a very heartfelt
apology, to the people of Alaska for the damage
caused by the grounding of a ship that I was in com-
mand of.
EXXON VALDEZ CAPTAIN JOSEPH HAZELWOOD
(two first-person pronouns)
Good apologies dont necessarily use more first-person pro-
nouns, but they do use them differently. The better apologies
(those by Truman, Kerrey, and Brinkley) use the first person
and the active voice to associate the speaker with the offense:
language which I used; remarks I made; what I said. The poorer
apologies (by Frey, Nixon, Zoeller, and Hazelwood) shift the
focus with conditionals (I apologize to readers who have been dis-
appointed by my actions;Im sorr y if I offended anybody) or use
complex abstractions that remove the speaker from the offense
(the grounding of a ship that I was in command of; injuries that may
have been done). Apologies must beI-full in a certai n ways, and
context matters.There is more to say about meandI, but you get the idea. A
closer look at the language reminds us that pronouns can tell us
a lot, but also that we should exercise some caution (and do some
counting and diagramming) when we make inferences from
pronouns to people. When the numbers are in and the sentences
diagrammed, it may indeed turn out that every generation is a
me generation.
Edwin Battistella teaches at Southern Oregon Universityin Ashland and is treasurer of Oregon Humanities board
of directors. His most recent book is Sorry About That: The
Language of Public Apology(Oxford University Press, 2014).
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In Defense ofNavel-Gazing
To understand the world, we must first
understand ourselves.
I W R I T E L Y R I C E S S A Y A N D M E M O I R , S O T H Ecommunication of complex, sometimes contradictoryemotions from one human to another lies at the heart of my
prose. I have found that many American readers are uncomfort-
able with writers who make earnest attempts to closely reveal,
then consider the self on the page in the world. Readers call
us navel-gazers, selfish, self-indulgent, and masturbatory. Our
family and friends are pitied, and we are advised to stop writing
and immediately seek therapy.This sends the false message thatany contemplation or storytelling about the self is superfluous
and narcissistic.
For me, to contemplate the self is also to contemplate other
humans, to whom we are thickly connected in mysterious and
concrete ways yet from whom we, at the same time, are deeply,
privately separate. AsWilliam Butler Yeats wrote, It must go
further still; that soul must become its own betrayer, its own
deliverer, the one activity, the mirror turn lamp. A close look
at self illuminates other. The soul betrays itself by shedding
itself. Self becomes other.By retreating inside himself, the
artist reaches far outside himself.
For instance, in the memoir The Year of Magical Thinking,Joan Didions narrator remembers the moment she saw her adult
daughter in the ICU, post-surgery, at UCLA hospital: Half of her
skull had been shaved for the surgery. I could see the long cut and
the metal staples that held it closed. She was again breathing only
through an endotracheal tube.Im here. Everythings fine.
The shaved skull, the long cut, and the metal staples that
held it closed convey the narrators sense of helplessness, of
horror. The metal staples evoke coarseness, inhuman invasion.
The third and fourth sentences reveal her maternal love, her
desire to project safety. Shes scared but shes aware that her role
in this moment is to protect her daughter even when she cant.This instance Didion recalls is deeply private. The narrator
describes her daughter at a vulnerable moment, when the body
cannot betray itself as anything other than a body in trauma.
Its also vulnerable for the narrator, the mother who cannot
prevent or fix her daughters illness. The contradictions revea led
in Didions prose allow readers to experience the instance
authentically through memory and imagination. As a reader, I
dont question whether Didion is indulging herself or exploiting
her experience or the experience of her daughter, because Im
too busy feeling the contradictions in Didions heart. The prose
transfers them from hers to mine.
InEnough About You: Adventures in Autobiography, DavidShields argues that the nonfiction writer uses the self as a
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and thoughts as a way of getting to the other, to reveal the humid
human condition. Shieldss various, adept arguments in this
book call attention to the prose of David Foster Wallace and
Geoff Dyer, the films of Ross McElwee, and the text-image works
of Sophie Calleworks that deeply mine the self while exploring
human experience.
Here is what the very cheeky William H. Gass says in his essayAutobiography:
Certainly if tribes are more interesting than nations, sects
more important than a common faith, and minorities major,
then what could be more majorly minor than me: me, me,
more me, as Joyce writes, me and mine and all that I have
done. Yet self-regard has never been enough. We want the
regard of others; they are to be looking as we look; we want
them to be absorbed by the same self that absorbs us: see me
see myself as you should see me; remember me when Im a
ghost; watch me turn myself into a book.
I enjoy Gasss compact phrasing, the exhilarating speed of his
thoughts, the repetition and the music his prose creates. The full-
rhyming, runni ng imperatives, see me see myself as you should
see me is a gleeful command for writers (and readers) of autobi-
ography to try to see the self that the self cannotsee.
With his seminal work Confessions, St. Augustine defined
the confessional mode as writing that not only reveals hidden
layers of self, but also releases the self into the open hands and
ears of the other, and, if only momentarily, from that which
burdens the heart. What burdens the heart? Love and death
burden the heart. Love and death stake outin our bodies, inour mindssecret chambers in which to dwell. Joy, reverence,
devotion. Adultery, breakups, loneliness, shame. Illness, bodily
impairment, death, grief. We shy away from speaking about
these experiences in our ordinar y lives. We feel ashamed of our
vulnerabil ity to physical and emotional wea kness and to deep
irresolvable uncertainty, to loss of bodily control. We go under-
ground with our experience. We secret away what we believe to
be hurtful, but what is most hurtful is our secrecy, which goes
against our nature as social animals who reach for attachment,
who need to feel known by others.
An act of secrecy is an act of separation. My own secrets
have hurt me and others around me because they have been away to stand apart f rom ot her human beings, and writ ing has
become, for me, one way to stand with other human beings. And
paramount to the confessional mode are the implied open hands
and ears of readers and listeners, of the other. As Gass says, We
want the regard of others, even if that other is imagined.
The writer makes use of form not to cloak but to reveal. Yetso many American memoirists miss the mark when they dont
make vigorous attempts to understand what, how, why, and to
whom they confess. This is narrative without essay, writing that
negates the contemplative impulse, memoir in which the writer
mistakenly employs the tools of the novelist and not the tools
of the essayist, the memoirist, the poet: meditation, image and
metaphor, sound, associative thinking.
When readers complain that a nonfiction work is self-indul-
gent or dismiss the work as navel-gazing, it is perhaps true that
the writer didnt reveal the self as divided and complex. Per-
haps the prose lacks specificity. Perhaps the emotions lack pre-
cision and nuance. Perhaps the soul fails to betray itself. Thereader does not feel that a complex human experience is being
portrayed on the page, but instead a simplistic, clumsy attempt.
An act of secrecy is an
act of separation. My
own secrets have hurt
me and others around
me because they have
been a way to standapart from other human
beings, and writing has
become, for me, one
way to stand with other
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This is a valid criticism. Every writer, confessional or not,
grapples with specificity and contradiction. Whether Im reading
fantasy fiction or confessional verse, I want to feel the expressed
experience on the page as idiosyncratic and complex, as lived.
I would suggest readers be more precise or direct about their
criticism. Do not call the writer selfishor self-indulgent. Call
the writing mishandled.In cases where the prose does fully describe varied human
experience and the contradictory inner life, perhaps readers
are projecting onto confessional first-person work their own
discomfort about sharing private experiences with others.
Fiction writers often elude such complaints even though they
fill their work with private experience, even though it is their
own divided selves forming on the page. The sincere writer of
any genre who aspires to make beautifully complex prose or
verse describes the divided self not to exploit or push away but to
reveal the self in the other, to connect human to human. Readers
can then get in touch with their own contradictions.
My favorite definition of the memoir form comes from John
DAgatas essay Mer-Mer: An Essay about How I Wish We Wrote
Our Nonfictions:
However, more deeply rooted in the term memoir is some-
thing much less confident. For embedded in Latins memoria
is the ancient Greek mrmeros, an offshoot of the Avestic Per-
sian mermara, itself a branch of the Indo-European root for
all that we think about but cannot grasp: mer-mer, to vividly
worry, to be a nxious about , to exhaustively ponder. In
the genuinely dusky light of real human memory there is an
activity far less sure of itself than the effortlessly recountedstories of todays sculpted memoirs. According to its roots,
in other words, memoir is an assaying of ideas, images, and
feelings. It is, in the best sense, an impulsive exploration. It is
not storytelling, it is not moralizing, it is not knowing, learn-
ing, or owning. Rather, etymologically speaking, at the core of
every memoir is anxiety and wonder and doubt.
Notice the emphasis on interiority: to exhaustively ponder
or an assaying of ideas, images, and feelings.Assaymeans to
examine or analyze. David Lazar argues in an essay from the
same book that memory is always in constant friction with pres-
ent desire, and yet what one finds in most American memoir ismemory-based prose organized by storytellingas opposed to
prose organized by the minds motion, by the bodys resident
desires and fears.
And what is it, dear, that you desire? And what is it that scares
you? Tell me, please. If you could do anything you wanted with-
out reprise or fear of reprise, what would you do? Do you know
why? How so? Tell me, help me feel less alone in the world. Tell
me who you are, Dorothea Lasky:
I am a wild band
That is going fast at you
Catch me catch me
Catch me Lord
I am a hot little thing that likes to kiss you
Kiss me kiss me
I cheer for writing that ends up treating the self as a singular,
mysterious, varied entity into which we tap through vocal idio-
syncrasy, hyper-detailing, and lucid, generous meditation. The
self is what we all have in common. To reach the self one must
leap into the divine, which is to say, one must simultaneously
be in touch with oneself and with the mysterious other, like the
fourteenth-century Eastern Orthodox monks who retreated to
a closet to pray. By cea sing to perceive t he outside world, they
could retreat with vigor inside the self with the hopes of achiev-
ing a more ex periential knowledge of God. For me, to contem-
plate the self is also to contemplate others.
Consider the navel: a scar on the abdomen caused by remov-
ing the umbilica l cord from a newborn. The baby, later a boy and
now a man, remains aware of the seam marking where he ends
and the world begins, and he looks again and again at it, studies
it closely, its particular shape, its contradictory qualities (a swell-ing housed inside a deep recess, a squishy stability, a wrinkled
mound-let), until he conjures the tw isted ghost tunnel that once
connected him to the other.
Jay Ponteris book Wedlocked(Hawthorne Books, 2013)
received an Oregon Book Award in 2014. Future Tense
Books will publish his chapbook, Darkmouth Strikes Again,
this spring. Ponteri teaches in the English department
at Marylhurst University and is the executive director of
Show:Tell, The Workshop for Teen Writers & Artists.
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Trapped inthe Spotlight
IMA GINE Y O U R E A N A C C O U NTA NT. ( O R , IF Y O U R E
an accountant, imagine youre you.)Now imagine that numbers terrify you. Your pulse quickens
and your throat closes up as youre buttoning your shirt for work
in the morning. Brushing your teeth, you feel disconnected from
reality as your mind races, imagining the thousands of numbers
that await you on your computer screen. When you finally reach
your desk and see all the spreadsheets laid out in front of you, it
feels like someone has attached electrodes to your upper body
and is slowly turning the knob up. Your chest tightens and buzzes
with energy, making it impossible to get a full breath.
If this happened to you every morning, continuing your
accounting career wouldnt be an option.
Now imagine youre a performer.Welcome to another day at work.
This was what show days felt like for me when I was hosting
Live Wire, a radio variety show that records in front of a live audi-
ence in Portland, Oregon, and airs on about forty public radio sta-tions nationally. I hosted the weekly show until March 16, 2013,
when a crippling two-day a nxiety attacknine years to the day
from our first showfinally made me realize that this might not
be the job for me.
Before then, the anxiety was more of a dull pain than a stab-
bing one. At the Monday writers meeting for each show, my chest
would start growing what I called my Dread Ball. It would star t
out the size of a pea, and by Wednesday it was a watermelon. By
show day on Saturday, my Dread Ball had turned into a giant,
human-size hamster ball Id walk around in, the rest of the world
dulled by the view through the plastic.
I did lots of things on the showread essays, performed insketchesbut those things didnt bother me. It was interviewing
people in front of an audience that filled me with dread (balls).JENWICKSTUD
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Its strange and awkward to meet someone for
the first time no matter what the situation
imagine doing it in front of four hundred peo-
ple. Now imagine that you are also strange and
awkward. Not a good combination. Addition-
ally, virtually every person I interviewed was
a leader in his or her field: Pulitzer Prizewin-
ning authors, Oscar-winning filmmakers, the
creator of the wiki. It felt like putting a magni-
fying glass on the giant holes in my education
once a week. I was always worried I would seemlike an idiot by comparison.
I stuck it out, though, for many reasons
that were smart: I worked with insanely tal-
ented people who made me look smarter, I met
extraordinary artists a nd got to ask them how
they made their work, and the show offered me
hard writing deadlines that resulted in public
humiliation in front of live audiences when not
met. I created more new work than most of the
writers I knew.
There were lots of great reasons to stay, but
there remained a dark one: the nagging, terrif y-ing idea that this job was the most interesting
thing about me.
I already knew I had trouble talking to strangers at par-
ties, and my eHarmony profile had caused exactly three men in
dad jeans to beat a path to my digital door, so I didnt feel like
I had a ton of personality traits to recommend me. This job
gave me great angst, but it also gave me great anecdotes. When
someone asked me, What do you do? my reply was shared
by only about five other people in the country. That felt like a
selling point for me. Of course I realize Im not a product, but
when youre a single woman in your forties, it s difficult not to
think of yourself as a brand. And if I was a brand, my flagship
product was the show. Once Id made the mistake of allowing myjob to define me i n that way, I could no longer consider quitting
my job without feeling like I was quitting myself.
But two days before our anniversary show last year, none of
the identity stuff mattered, because I was having a panic attack.
Not a hit-and-run panic attack, but the kind that sits down and
orders a double. The kind that wakes up with you and asks how
you slept. The kind that laughs when you tell it that you have a
show in two days so could it go bother Garrison Keillor, because
he seems like he could stand to gain from a little nervous energy?
And suddenly its the night before the show, and the panic attack
is still hanging around.
After a long, sobbing, terrified conversation with my brother,I finally called our producer and told her I couldnt do the show.
I called her with a problem and its solutionone of the guests we
Courtenay Hameister (right) quit as host ofLive Wire
Radio; she remained as head writer. Luke Burbank
(left) became the new host in September 2013.
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were planning to have on the show, Luke Burbank, could host it.
Luke is an incredibly quick-witted, charming, natural showman
who hosts his own popular podcast ca lled Too Beautiful to Live.
Wed actually booked him to see if hed be a good replacement for
me if I ever got sick, so it made perfect sense to tr y him out now.
The next night, the worst and the best thing happened:
the show was utterly, completely fine without me. Luke glided
through the show as if hed been there all along, and I could
suddenly breathe. Not through layers of fear, but into an open,
grateful chest that was happy to finally have air.
Af ter a couple week s of conversations in which my fr iends,
family, and colleagues watched me struggle to make the deci-sion theyd seen coming for years, I stepped down as host and
remained head wr iter and coproducer. I felt my body change the
moment I made the decision. My shoulders dropped, my chest
opened up, and my stomach was knot- and butterfly-free. It was
definitely, unequivocally, the right decision.
That said, I lost something big and beautiful the day I stepped
down, and it made me wonder: Why couldnt I push through the
anx iety and just enjoy the job? And if it was so wrong for me, why
did it take me nine years to leave it?
I asked those questions of William Todd Schultz, a profes-
sor of psychology at Pacific University and the author of Torment
Saint: The Life of Elliott Smith. Elliott Smith was a quiet, shy
singer whose career began in hard rock bands in Portland in the
early 90s. He became famous when director Gus Van Sant used
his understated, poignant solo music as the soundtrack to the
film Good Will Hunting. Schultzs book paints Smith as increas-
ingly uncomfortable with the limelight, culminating in his ner-
vous performance of the song Miss Misery at the 1998 Oscars.
My situation was obviously quite different from an inter-
nationally famous musicians, but Schultz said that even so,
there were things Smith did that couldve helped me. One of his
best tools in connecting to his audience was something I never
wouldve dreamed of doing: he showed them how scared he was.Elliott would just be visibly, openly anxious, he began. If he
felt like he couldnt finish, he would just stop a songbe openly,
flamboyantly v ulnerableto the point where the audience would
call out to him that he could do it. They became a part of the show,
and they loved that.
Schultz went on to say that one of the biggest impediments to
getting over performance anxiety is pretending you dont have
it. In addition to the anxiety youre already feeling, you dread the
humiliation youll feel when people find out youre anxious. In
Elliott Smiths case, he knew people loved to recognize their own
vulnerability in someone onstage, so he just told the truth about
it. When he did, he robbed t hose fears of their power.As a person whos been sharing humili ating stor ies wit h
audiences for ten years, this was a lesson I shouldve had down.
Plus, when it comes to human interaction, Ive
always believed that revealing vulnerability
appears weak on the surfacein, say, the Dar-winian sense of now you can see my jugular
and do what you will with it. But, in reality,
whats braver and more bada ss tha n offering
up your emotional jugular to someone and
begging them to take a whack? Sure, it changes
when youre ask ing four hundr ed people to
unsheathe their swords, but whos counting?
An other th ing I had in com mon wi th
Smithand another reason I ran into
problems, according to Schultzwas my
personality t ype.
A po pu la r mo del th at ps yc hologi st suse when discussing personality types is
what they call the Five Factor Theory or
This job gave me great
angst, but it also gave
me great anecdotes.When someone asked
me, What do you do?
my reply was shared by
only about five other
people in the country.
That felt like a selling
point for me. Of course I
realize Im not a product,
but when youre a single
woman in your forties,
its difficult not to thinkof yourself as a brand.
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The Big Five. It rates people in five broad
dimensions that describe human personal-
ity: Extroversion, Neuroticism, Agreeable-
ness, Conscientiousness, and Openness to
Experience/Intellect.
If youre like Elliott Smith, which I think
you are, he said, youre low in extrover-
sionmaybe in the 28th percentileand highin neuroticism. Thats the recipe for someone
whos going to st ruggle when it comes to stuff
like this.
Extroverts get energized and thrive on
external stimulation (like hundreds of clap-
ping people), while introverts get their energy
from time alone and are far more sensitive to
stimulus. Some level of extroversion is obvi-
ously important for a performer. And, accord-
ing to Schultz, being high in neuroticism is
particularly problematic for entertainers as it
leads to more pronounced anticipatory dread,which is a factor for all performers.
Schultz had me go to the Big Five website
and take a test to see where I la nded. I cant say he was dead-
on, but thats only because he missed my extroversion percen-
tile by three points.
THREE POINTS.
Hed said I might be in the 28th percentile. I was in the 31st.
You tend to shy away from social situations, the test results told
me. Well, that seems disastrous for a variety-show host, doesnt
it? What the hell was I thinking? Id always imagined myself to
be one of those strange introvert/extrovert hybrids. I love time to
myself, but when I dont have time with friends, I can get a little
grumpy/clinically depressed. So it shocked me that I was so low
on the extroversion scale.
My neuroticism percentile wasnt so shockingI was in the87th percentile there. (Single men: YES, I am still available! Call
me!) You are a generally anxious person and tend to worry about
things, said the test.
Oh, really? I replied. Well, youre not helping things.
I dont want to go over all my other scores because it was
pretty depressing overall, but its important to say that Schultz
felt I would score high in the openness to experience area,
which helped me succeed at the job for as long as I did. He was
rightI was in the 95th percentile.
You enjoy having novel experiences and seeing things in new
ways, the test said.
Thank you for finally saying something nice, jerk, I replied.
So perhaps the reason I stuck around as long as I did was that
the two most prominent aspects of my personality, according to
the testmy neuroticism and my curiositywere in a constant
battle to the death, with each one jockeying for position but never
quite winning. I do remember feeling almost schizophrenic dur-
ing some showsI would be so excited to finally be able to ask
Lynda Barry how she created such rich, sweet, hilarious charac-
ters, but devastated that I had to do it in front of a crowd. In the
end, it seems my neuroticism won, perhaps with an assist from
my introversion. And one big panic attack.
Schultz offered up one more reason why people with the lowextroversion/high neuroticism combination keep performing:
they, like everyone, crave connection.
So many people are temperamentally ill-equipped to be
onstage, he said. But they believe strongly in their work. They
need it to be heard, a nd they crave the response. The audience is
at the same time a source of anxiety and an attachment object
that provides comfort.
This I could relate to. This group of people, just by clicking
Buy Ticket, had no idea that by doing so, they were becoming
both my worst fear and my warmest security blanket. Perform-
ers dont generally tell stories about experiences were proud of
or that went wellwe tell stories about the moments that makeus feel the most awkward or alone because we desperately want
to know theyre shared. This is what stand-up comics do.
So many people are
temperamentally ill-
equipped to be onstage,he said. But they believe
strongly in their work.
They need it to be heard,
and they crave the
response. The audienceis, at the same time, a
source of anxiety and an
attachment object that
provides comfort.
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So why was that desire for connection so strong that I went
through hell to get it?
I asked the question of two extremely talented comedians
Luke Burbank, the current host ofLive Wire(as well as a Wait
Wait Dont Tell Mepanelist) and Ophira Eisenberg, the host of
NPRsAsk Me Anotherand a longtime stand-up comic.
Its been said to me by people Im married to that Im much
better at relating to large groups of people, Burbank quips. And
theres a reason for that. Your good interactions with a single per-
sonimagine sort of mainlining the best, uncut freaking adreno-
chrome of that. Its euphoric.
Eisenberg agrees. When Im not onstage for a while, I get a
little grumpy, she says. I can feel a sense of myself is affected bythe audiences reaction to me. And that s a little fucked up, but if
its your job to be propelled forward by positive reactions, doesnt
it naturally become part of who you are? So theres a portion of
my love for myself thats decided by a bunch of drunk people in a
basement, and I just have to live with that.
While this aspect works for Eisenberg and Burbank (Burbank
claims his audience high will usually last him until he encoun-
ters his next one), I think it was another part of my downfall. I
saw a picture of myself walking offstage after reading an essay
recently, and I was shocked. The smile on my face looked like
pure, unadulterated joy, but thats never the part I remember
when think ing of a show. The part I remember most is the week
of anticipatory dread I felt for the very reason Eisenberg men-
tions: that my success or failure was going to be decided by four
hundred people I didnt know. Sure, that can be a very successful
three hours, but successful enough to make up for the seventy-
eight hours you spent worrying? Its like Thanksgivi ng dinner: if
we were to actually see the work-to-enjoyment ratio of that meal,
we would never do it again. But almost none of us look at it that
way; its a matter of perspective.
Eisenbergs perspective is unquestionably positive. When
she told her first stand-up joke ever, she got one laugh. One. She
describes it as the biggest rush of her life. Why was she so thrilledwhen most people would have seen that as a failure?
It was from someone I didnt know, so I saw that as success,
she said. Some people have laugh ears, where they hear laughs
that arent there. Other people dont hear laughs that arethere
and come off the stage destroyed. If you really listen, you start to
make different choices and it gets better. It takes a long time to
have the guts to hea r your audience.
Burbank, it appears, is also beyond optimistic. In stand-up,
you only remember the people who laughed, he says. I would
record a set I thought was killing, and replay it to hear three
people laughing. Its a survival technique the spirit employs. You
dont do the math, otherwise you realize youre having a .05 per-cent success rate.
As for me, I cou ld nev er not do the math. I am what
psychologist Nancy Cantor referred to as a
defensive pessimist: a person who doesnt
expect the worst to happen, but prepares for it
just in case it does. And while this is an impor-
tant differentiation between me and, say,
Eeyore, defensive pessimism isnt enough to get
you through weekly three-hour performances.
Yes, you need to be able to realistically read
whats happening in your audience to be able
to respond appropriately, but to push through
the fear, and the nerves, and the YouTube com-
ments, over and over and over, you need what
Burbank and Eisenberg have in spades: a pow-erful, overarching, down-to-your-bones belief
that in the end, everything is going to be OK.
Ironically, now that Im out of the weekly
dread-terror-relief cycle, I finally believe that. I
still perform, but now I know very clearly which
experiences will bring me just the joy (reading
essays) and which to avoid (situations in which
I am paired with a genius and must ask them
questions that may expose me as a nongenius).
Ive defined for myself which relationships I
should spend time thinking about (the kind
with the people I love), and which I shouldnt
(the kind with four hundred strangers). And
Ive discovered that I should seek work in a field
in which neuroticism is a plus (I would make a
great Chihuahua, for instance).
Beyond those lessons, perhaps the biggest
solace I should take in all of this is how lucky
I am that my body and mind decided to rebel
against me that day last March, forcing me out
of my complacency. Some people, including the
extraordinarily talented and troubled Elliott
Smith, who lost his battle with depression inLos Angeles in October of 2003, arent so lucky.
In the end, Ive clearly figured out what Im
not, but have only narrowed down the field of
what I could be by one. It s scar y, I know. But
this scary, I can live with.
Courtenay Hameister is a playwright, a freelance writer, and
the head writer and coproducer for Live Wire, a nationally
syndicated radio variety show. You can find her on Twitter
@wisenheimer.
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IWA S I N L A GR A N DE FOR T H E A FT E R-noon , to hear a man speak about EmilyDickinson at a small inn. The room was full of
sun, and I sat on a white wicker love seat next to
a woman who wore too much perfume. I could
taste it. The white w icker love seat was the best
seat in the room, though, so I decided to put up
with the perfume, which was made easier by the
fact that I had what I thought was a bad cold,
and kept three or four cough drops in my mouth
constantly to keep from coughing. It turned out
to be pneumonia.
The man had written a biography of Dickin-
son calledMy Wars Are Laid Away in Books. He
was a sma ll, friendly man, and he spoke to us
as if he were telling stories of a beloved distantcousin with whom we had all lost touch. Not
that I would know about that. I have more than
thirty cousins, and most of them I have never
met. My parents chose to distance themselves
from their families upon the event of their scan-
dalous Catholic/Presbyterian marriage.
Emily Dickinson has long been on my list of
good ideas for how to spend my meager vaca-
tion, working through the poems as they hap-
pened in her life, reading text and footnotes.
Its something Ive always wanted to do. Id have
to read a couple hundred poems a day, though.This biographer just told us stories. It was easy
and pleasant.
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It was not pleasant thinking of the trip home. I tried not to
think about icy roads and snow between La Grande and Portland.
My father was a speeder, and a drinker, and I spent a fair amount of
my childhood in the backseats of various station wagons with my
eyes closed tight. I didnt get a drivers license until I was thirt y.
BEFORE LA GRA NDE, I H AD BEEN IN WALLOWA COUNTY, IN
Eastern Oregon, where my friend Suzy was the Fishtrap Writer-in-
Residence. Shed been teaching writing classes in some of the Wal-
lowa County public schools, in Enterprise, in Imnaha, in Joseph.
I was her guest author, and we were going to visit a one-room
schoolhouse in the tiny town of Troy.
Suzy piloted her minivan along a back road from the cabin on
Wallowa Lake. This route to Troy was out of the way and made
the trip even longer, which was