Sincere Seduction Intensive
Transcript of Sincere Seduction Intensive
SINCERE SEDUCTION
INTENSIVE
Part 9
BY: DAMIEN DIECKE
Website: www.schoolofattraction.com.au
Email: [email protected]
Phone: 1300 443 429
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“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”
― Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in a Strange Land
COURSE OVERVIEW TIME (min)
Mentoring and Leadership 45
Design your 30-Day Challenge 75
TOTAL TIME: 120
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“The next time you try to seduce anyone, don't do it with talk, with words. Women know more about words than men ever will.
And they know how little they can ever possibly mean.” ― William Faulkner
WHY IS MENTORING A VITAL PART OF YOUR EDUCATION?
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1. Your entire frame will change.
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2. Being responsible for others makes you more responsible for yourself.
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3. Teaches you to become self-directed.
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MENTORING AND LEADERSHIP
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4. Increases your sense of self-worth.
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5. Your entire frame will change.
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WHAT IS A MENTOR?
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1. A friend who provides guidance to new men.
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2. You introduce the new men to the SOA culture
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3. You show new men that pickup can be fun, not serious and scary
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4. He is a motivator.
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5. He is NOT a coach.
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6. He is NOT a passive bystander.
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MENTORING = ___________________________
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You need to lead by ___________________.
MENTOR SESSIONS STRUCTURE
1. There are 4 mentor sessions - If you want more, you will have to wait for availability.
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2. Each session is 4 hours long - 1 hour warmup - 3 hours practical.
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3. Each session will involve some dares to be completed.
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4. You will receive a session guide by email prior to each session.
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COMMANDING AUTHORITY
1. Our first instinct is to look for the man who looks the most like a "leader" in the current context.
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2. Leadership is an exercise of being decisive.
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1. To be a leader, I had to make ______________.
2. Be willing to be __________.
3. Command with authority and be ____________.
3. The leader always provides strong eye contact to those around him.
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When you are a listener, you should have _______________
4. A true leader can always lead by example.
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5. We are best lead by those we have rapport with.
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6. People perform best when leaders believe in their ability to push hard and do well.
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We perform best, when _____________.
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The first thing to do in every mentor session is to __________________
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The only way you can really let your mentees down is by
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YOU HAVE TO PICK ALL THE SETS FOR YOUR MENTEES
1. Girls who are in good mood.
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2. At night, no moving or dancing girls.
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3. Match energy level to that of mentee.
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4. Be sure to maintain momentum.
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THINGS YOU HAVE TO BE PREPARED FOR
SOMETIMES YOUR MENTEES MAY GET APPROACH ANXIETY
1. Get them to join you or someone else in set (beware guys with drastically different personalities)
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2. Reduce the difficulty of the next approach.
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3. Give them a time out.
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EXPECT TO FEEL SOME PRESSURE TO PERFORM
1. You don't need to be great at picking up women yet, some mentees may even have better
results than you.
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2. But you really want to demonstrate that you can act without hesitation.
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PLEASE LET A COACH KNOW ABOUT ANY EXTREME ISSUES A MENTEE MIGHT HAVE INCLUDING:
1. Mentee struggles to take any action over the session.
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2. Mentee leaves half way through a session.
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3. Gets visibly agitated in any way.
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If any mentee is in any way aggressive or rude to you, any students, or any
member of the general public, cease mentoring them immediately. We will
stand behind your decision.
MENTORING IS A GREAT RESPONSIBILITY – BE RESPONSIBLE
1. Please confirm mentor session with mentees as soon as you receive their details.
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2. Don't cancel or move sessions without very good reason.
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3. If coaches don't feel you are being responsible with mentees we reserve the right to cancel
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“It is your work in life that is the ultimate seduction.” ― Picasso
The next 30 days are the most important in the entire program.
At this point, clients choose one of 3 options:
1. You consider yourself "trained" and move on with your life.
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2. You take a break considering it well deserved.
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3. You recognise this as the most critical moment yet, and get make a massive 30 day
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MAKE A COMMITMENT RIGHT NOW
How you start something is ______________.
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DESIGN YOUR
30-DAY CHALLENGE
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HEADINGS
1. Not Yet Competent
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2. Showing Promise
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3. Great Work
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So long as _______________ you're going to get great results.
DRESS/STYLE
Showing Promise Great Work
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1. Get a female friend/date to take you shopping.
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2. Ask some shop assistants to help you pick good clothes.
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3. Keep a journal of clothing guys wear that you like.
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APPROACH ANXIETY
Showing Promise Great Work
1. State management
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2. Start approaches easy and work your way up
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3. Have a few nights of 30 approaches a night
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OPENING
Showing Promise Great Work
1. Ask wingmen for feedback on your opens.
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2. Focus on smiling and energy leves.
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3. Practice finding/using fun situational openers.
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SMILING
Showing Promise Great Work
1. Walk around club smiling at every woman you pass.
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2. Set a 15 minute phone alarm to vibrate reminder to smile.
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3. Practice teasing with wingman between sets.
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EYE CONTACT
Showing Promise Great Work
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1. Walk around for 15 minutes, looking at every woman you pass.
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2. Focus on one particular eye.
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3. Practice prolonged eye contact with wingman
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CONVERSATION SKILLS
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1. Practice QRA every day for a week 2x a per day.
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2. Have 5 topics prepared for every interaction as fallbacks.
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3. Role play with wingman - COnversation Activity
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DEALING WITH SHIT TESTS
Showing Promise Great Work
1. Every field report should contain shit tests and ideas for solution.
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2. Brainstorm every shit test with wingmen.
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HUMOUR
Showing Promise Great Work
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1. Field report - ideas for extra humour in every set
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2. Ensure you have 5 jokes you can tell.
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3. Find a funny way to answer 3 common questions.
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TEASING
Showing Promise Great Work
1. Field report - ideas for teasing in every set.
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2. Google way to tease girls, have 3 defaults.
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3. Commit to have 2 ways you will tease in every interaction.
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PHYSICAL CONTACT
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1. Touch every woman in first 10 seconds.
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2. Field Report - Record whether you regulated your touching with hers.
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3. Ask wingmen to provide feedback on your comfort touching.
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BUILDING RAPPORT
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1. Tell 2 passion stories in every interaction.
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2. Drill for passions in every interaction over 5 minutes.
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3. Practice getting to root emotion of every passion, and share your own.
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BUILDING ATTRACTION
Showing Promise Great Work
1. Ask wingmen to provide assessment of attraction level.
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2. Ensure your breath is great and you smell good.
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3. Beware supplicate smiling/laughing ask wingmen.
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ISOLATING
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1. Practice isolating a woman as an opener.
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2. Goal: isolate every woman after 5 minutes.
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3. Speak with authority; voice must be strong and self-assured.
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SCREENING
Showing Promise Great Work
1. Aim to screen 3 things in every interaction.
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2. Stop trying to make interactions smooth and just focus on asking.
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3. Set time limits within which screening must be done.
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GETTING PHONE NUMBERS
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1. Ask for numbers in EVERY interaction over 5 minutes.
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2. TELL, don't ASK.
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3. In journal, for every rejection, what's one change that would have nudged the
interaction to a better result?
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PHONE GAME
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1. Put all text conversations up for critique on forum.
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2. Brainstorm first text with wingmen right after getting number.
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3. Revise phone game module notes.
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DATING
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1. Repeat same date 3x over before changing.
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2. Share date plan on forum for feedback.
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3. Ensure your date plan satisfies all 11 commandments.
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MIXED SETS
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1. Generally approach the man first.
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2. Approach mixed set every second approach.
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3. Make first approach a mized set every time.
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MOVING SETS
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1. Practice stopping wingman from walking get feedback.
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2. Make every 2nd approach a moving set.
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3. Approach a moving set 1st every time.
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SEXUAL ESCALATION
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1. Practice sexual teasing.
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2. Tell 1 funny sexual story in every interaction.
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3. Ask 1 sexual screening question in every interaction.
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4. Make sexual conversation about and her 1x in all interactions over 20 minutes.
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ASKING WOMEN HOME
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1. Ask women home as an opener regularly until less scary.
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2. Ask every girl home if talking to at least 30 minutes.
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3. In every field report- how did she respond to each sexual escalation?
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ACTIVITY
What are your 3 most important skills to perfect in the next 30 days?
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Write down 2 SMART goals for each of the three skill sets.
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How many days a week will you commit right now to going out every week for the next 30
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This is the end of the beginning.
Step into the role of sincere seductionist:
The world is a better place that you are in it now.