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Seven Steps for Resolving ConflictsSeven Steps for Resolving Conflicts

“ “Do not let the Do not let the sunsun

go down on your go down on your wrath; neither wrath; neither

givegiveplace to the place to the

devil.”devil.”Ephesians 4:26,27Ephesians 4:26,27

“ “Do not let the Do not let the sunsun

go down on your go down on your wrath; neither wrath; neither

givegiveplace to the place to the

devil.”devil.”Ephesians 4:26,27Ephesians 4:26,27


Problems are like termites. The longer they are left,the more they multiply!

Problems are like termites. The longer they are left,the more they multiply!


Like a coin or a bill, Like a coin or a bill,

every story has two sides!every story has two sides!


My sideMy side Your sideYour side

The right side!The right side!

Three Sides?Three Sides?Seven Steps for Resolving ConflictsSeven Steps for Resolving Conflicts

““ Let each of you look out not Let each of you look out not only for his own interest, but only for his own interest, but also for the interests of others”also for the interests of others”

Philippians 2:4Philippians 2:4

““ Let each of you look out not Let each of you look out not only for his own interest, but only for his own interest, but also for the interests of others”also for the interests of others”

Philippians 2:4Philippians 2:4


“Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one.”

Colossians 4:6

“Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one.”

Colossians 4:6


SpeakerSpeaker1.Proble1.Problemm2.Feeling2.Feelingss3.Wants3.Wants4.“I” 4.“I” StatemeStatementsnts


“ An effective “I” statement states the problem, tells how I feel about it, and says what I want.”

“ An effective “I” statement states the problem, tells how I feel about it, and says what I want.”

Three Essentials to Successful Communication Three Essentials to Successful Communication

““ So then, my So then, my beloved brethren, let beloved brethren, let every man be swift every man be swift

to hear, slow to to hear, slow to speak, slow to speak, slow to

wrath.”wrath.”James 1:19James 1:19

““ So then, my So then, my beloved brethren, let beloved brethren, let every man be swift every man be swift

to hear, slow to to hear, slow to speak, slow to speak, slow to

wrath.”wrath.”James 1:19James 1:19


Tone of Voice38%

Words7%

Body Language

55%


Effective or active Effective or active listening hears what is listening hears what is said plus what’s not said plus what’s not said. It combines said. It combines

words, tone and body words, tone and body language to interpret language to interpret feelings. It grasps the feelings. It grasps the

total message.total message.

Effective or active Effective or active listening hears what is listening hears what is said plus what’s not said plus what’s not said. It combines said. It combines

words, tone and body words, tone and body language to interpret language to interpret feelings. It grasps the feelings. It grasps the

total message.total message.

Three Essentials to Successful Communication Three Essentials to Successful Communication

ListenerListener5. Interpreting5. Interpreting6. Empathizing6. Empathizing7. Mirroring7. Mirroring8. “You” Statement8. “You” Statement


Like a coin or a bill, Like a coin or a bill,

every story has two sides!every story has two sides!


TogetherTogether 9.Exchange 9.Exchange10.Discover 10.Discover each other’s each other’s real needs.real needs.

TogetherTogether 9.Exchange 9.Exchange10.Discover 10.Discover each other’s each other’s real needs.real needs.


The root of every marital problem is “self first”James 4: 1, 2

The solution to each conflict is “spouse first”Romans 15:1,2

The root of every marital problem is “self first”James 4: 1, 2

The solution to each conflict is “spouse first”Romans 15:1,2


“ For even Christ did not please Himself”

Romans 15:3

“ For even Christ did not please Himself”

Romans 15:3


Action Plan1.List all the

options.2.Decide on

the best one.3. Let it be a

win-win solution.

Action Plan1.List all the

options.2.Decide on

the best one.3. Let it be a

win-win solution.


“ Confess your faults

one to another…that

you may be healed.”James

5:16

“ Confess your faults

one to another…that

you may be healed.”James

5:16


The easy question: “Where was my mate wrong?”

The important question: “Where was I wrong?”

The easy question: “Where was my mate wrong?”

The important question: “Where was I wrong?”


When the storms arise, Christ, the Prince of

peace, will rise and say, “Peace, be still.”

When the storms arise, Christ, the Prince of

peace, will rise and say, “Peace, be still.”


There is There is another another conflict conflict that that needs to needs to be be resolved.resolved.

The two The two parties are parties are my God my God and I.and I.This This separation separation is caused is caused by sin.by sin.I was born I was born separated separated from my from my God.God.


“ But your iniquities have separated you from your God”

Isaiah 59:2

“ But your iniquities have separated you from your God”

Isaiah 59:2


There are seven steps There are seven steps forfor

reconciliation with God.reconciliation with God.He has taken six! He has taken six!

I only need to take one!I only need to take one!



At the close At the close of this of this meeting,meeting,I will inviteI will inviteevery man every man andandevery every womanwomanto come to to come to this altar this altar andandtake step take step #7!#7!

“ In the beginning was the Word, And the

Word was with God, And the Word was God.

And the Word was made flesh, And dwelt among us.” John 1:1,14

“ In the beginning was the Word, And the

Word was with God, And the Word was God.

And the Word was made flesh, And dwelt among us.” John 1:1,14


This a This a incompreincompre-hensible -hensible mystery!mystery!


The Mighty The Mighty God, God, implanted in implanted in the womb of a the womb of a woman, and woman, and be born of a be born of a virgin!virgin!

He is He is “Immanuel, “Immanuel, God with Us!”God with Us!”


“But God demonstrates His

own love toward us, in that while we were

still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans

5:8

“But God demonstrates His

own love toward us, in that while we were

still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans

5:8


• See His back bleeding from 39 lashes twice!

• Feel the nails tearing the flesh of His hands and feet!


• Hear His cry, “My God! Why have You forsaken Me?”


“ Seeing then that we have a great High

Priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God,

let us hold fast our confession.”

Hebrews 4:14

“ Seeing then that we have a great High

Priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God,

let us hold fast our confession.”

Hebrews 4:14


CHRIST IS MY PRIEST! I don’t need an earthly priest to intercede with God for me.I can talk to God myself, through Jesus, my heavenly High Priest. Christ gives me grace, pardon and peace continually.

CHRIST IS MY PRIEST! I don’t need an earthly priest to intercede with God for me.I can talk to God myself, through Jesus, my heavenly High Priest. Christ gives me grace, pardon and peace continually.


““ For the Lord Himself For the Lord Himself will descend from will descend from

heaven with a shout, heaven with a shout, with the voice of an with the voice of an archangel and the archangel and the trutrummpet of God.”pet of God.”

1 Thessalonians 4:161 Thessalonians 4:16

““ For the Lord Himself For the Lord Himself will descend from will descend from

heaven with a shout, heaven with a shout, with the voice of an with the voice of an archangel and the archangel and the trutrummpet of God.”pet of God.”

1 Thessalonians 4:161 Thessalonians 4:16


When When Jesus Jesus

ComesComesChrist’s Christ’s people dead: people dead: Resurrected – Resurrected –

1 Thess. 4:161 Thess. 4:16Christ’s Christ’s people alive: people alive: Translated – Translated –

1 Thess. 4:171 Thess. 4:17


Satan’s Satan’s people alive: people alive: Fall dead – Fall dead –

2 Thess. 1:7-2 Thess. 1:7-99Satan’s Satan’s people dead: people dead: Stay dead – Stay dead –

Rev. 20:5Rev. 20:5


For 1000 YearsFor 1000 YearsSatan’s people dead – Rev 20:5Satan’s people dead – Rev 20:5Satan Bound - Rev. 20: 1-3Satan Bound - Rev. 20: 1-3Christ’s people in heaven – Christ’s people in heaven – Rev. 20:4Rev. 20:4


End Of End Of MillenniuMillenniu

mmChrist’s Christ’s people & City people & City descend – descend – Rev 21:1Rev 21:1Satan’s people Satan’s people resurrected – resurrected – Rev. 20:5Rev. 20:5

Christ’s Christ’s people & City people & City descend – descend – Rev 21:1Rev 21:1Satan’s people Satan’s people resurrected – resurrected – Rev. 20:5Rev. 20:5


Earth’s last Earth’s last war – Rev. war – Rev. 20:7-920:7-9Satan, sin & Satan, sin & sinners sinners destroyed – destroyed – Rev. 20: 10, Rev. 20: 10, 1515New New Jerusalem! – Jerusalem! – Rev. 21: 1-2Rev. 21: 1-2

Earth’s last Earth’s last war – Rev. war – Rev. 20:7-920:7-9Satan, sin & Satan, sin & sinners sinners destroyed – destroyed – Rev. 20: 10, Rev. 20: 10, 1515New New Jerusalem! – Jerusalem! – Rev. 21: 1-2Rev. 21: 1-2


“God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no

more death, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are

passed away.” Revelation 21:4, KJV

“God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no

more death, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are

passed away.” Revelation 21:4, KJV


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