SELF DEVELOPMENTIN THE CONTEXT OF SPIRITUALITY

AND A PRACTICAL APPROACH

Sponsored by Uka Tarsadia University, Maliba Campus

Class 2 – ValuesClass 2 – ValuesAugust 10 2013by Hiren Shah

Arrange in the order from least value to highest value

1. Maruti Alto

2. Skoda Laura

3. Hyundai I-10

4. Mahindra Verito

5. Tata Nano

6. Honda City

1. Tata Nano

2. Maruti Alto – 3.21

3. Hyundai I-10 – 3.74

4. Mahindra Verito – 5.32

5. Honda City – 7.26

6. Skoda Laura – 14.64

Arrange in the order from least value to highest value

•Air

•Water

•Car

•Diamond

•One time Lunch

•Diamond is costly but useless to Live.

•Water/Air are necessary for Life.

•Do they have a price?

Valuables have a price. Values are priceless.

What will you save if your house is on fire . . .

•Life – Myself.

•Leave everything external.

•Most Valuable : LIFE

•Material items can never replace body parts.

•Difference between LIFE & BODY

•Body, Mind, Intellect - Intellectually strong morally weak individuals

•Heart, Soul - Development of wholesome personality

Man himself is Treasure, who is running after it.

Animal named man is interested more in “Gulkand” (a product made from rose petals) rather than rose.He is interested more in pickle instead of mangoes.Interested in cost more than value and in commission more than cost.

Gunvant Shah

What makes the LIFELIFE Valuable?•VV

aluesalues•M

akes person a Human•B

rings quality & meaning in Human life.•G

ives direction to our efforts.•W

HAT WE ARE is more important than What We Have

Activity – Two glasses – what will you prefer.

•ASPIRATION - AMBITION

Story of “Clay Balls”The real measure of a man's wealth is what he has invested in eternity.

What are VALUES . . . Show the presentation “Heaven’s Grocery store”

Activity : Note down values – Student with maximum values

Why are VALUES important for me?•C

lear set of Values gives us clarity and focus

•H

elps us prioritize

•W

hen straying it acts as a compass

•A

llows us to make consistent decisions

•a

nd take committed action.

Prioritizing Your Values . . . (Activity)• Identify the top three values that you consider as the most

important – you want to live by.

• The interesting part is: You can consciously change them - even radically if desired.

• When you change your values list and consciously act on it, you change your behavior.

Key Question?Key Question?What Drives my Life ?

•Aspiration

•Family / Personal Responsibilities

•Values

• Ambition• Family Expectations• Desires

Activity

How do I rank myself : what drives my life on a scale of (-10) to (+10)

Where totally driven by desires is (-10) and totally by Values is (+10)

How can I lead a life Driven by Values?

• Sow a thoughtthought, you reap an act• Sow an act, you reap a habit• Sow a habit, you reap a character• Sow a character, you reap a destiny

To become happier, we either need to:

a) Change the world, or b) Change our thinking. (Story of kartikey & Ganesh)

It is easier to change our Thinking!

If we both exchange one rupee, we have one rupee each. If we both exchange one rupee, we have one rupee each. But, if we exchange one good thought, we both have two good But, if we exchange one good thought, we both have two good

thoughtsthoughts

Every day in the morning say these 5 lines to yourself :1.I am the best2.I can do3.God is always with me4.I am the winner5.Today is my Day

Self = Values + GOAL

Aligning Values, Goals with the nature of real Self

Principles to help us with goals and values

•1. Decide based on what is good vs what is pleasant? • What is good is a value and what is pleasant is entertainment• Reading for the exam vs spending time with friends• Exercising vs indulging• Being Patient vs being lazy

• 2. What helps inner growth is of value • Sincerity, Humility vs Winning at any cost and being self righteous and arrogant• Reading, Contemplation, Introspection, Meditation, Helping • Seeking importance, showing off and looking for attention

•3. Prioritize based on the needs of your Soul, Mind and Body• Prayer, Reading, Meditating • Cooking, Exercising, Watching TV

Living Values

Is it enough to know about values?

How can we live them?

‘Living’ values every day• Think of a recent example when you were intolerant or

impatient with someone.• How did the other person feel at the time? How did you feel?• How do we feel when we are cheated?• How do we feel when we cheat someone else? • What do we think of others when they behave in a noble way?

First introspect, write in your diary and then share your reflections with a partner.

Question: What could I have done differently so that as to be tolerant, patient and helpful?

Ethical dilemmas

An example: Some mischief has been done by a student who is my friend in the college. I only know about it. The administration of the college has caught (unknowingly) another student.

Questions:What thoughts do I have? What do I do? What values do I consider? What values do I ignore?

Final Exercise

Questions:• What three changes I want to bring in myself?• My Action Plan

Do not add YEARS to life Do not add YEARS to life

But add LIFE to years But add LIFE to years