Self Developement

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What is Paradigm?

Our view of looking at anything is based on Facts and

Interpretation.

Family, School

Paradigm -> See -> Behave -> Results

Education, Experience & Environment

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1. Two people can see the same thing, disagree and yetboth be right.

2. Through continued, calm, respectful andspecific communication, each of us can finally seeothers point of view.

3. How powerfully conditioning affects ourperceptions, our paradigms.

4. If 10 seconds can have such strong impact then whatabout conditioning of a life time?

5. Paradigms are the sources of our attitudes andbehaviors.

6. Both our attitude and behavior towards lady will beconsistent with the way we saw her.


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6. Trying to change outward attitudes and behaviors will fail inthe long run if we will fail to examine the basic paradigmsfrom which those attitudes and behaviors flow.

7. Where we stand depends on where we sit.

8. We think we see things as they are and we are objective.

9. Actually we see the world as we are conditioned. When wedescribe the world we describe ourselves, our paradigms.

10. When people disagree we think something is wrong with

them.

11. This exercise shows sincere, clearheaded people see thingsdifferently, each looking though the unique lens ofexperience.


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That which got us where we are is not very likely to

get us where we want to go.

Vision, Need, Means, Rewards, Feedback

Tell Some Changes that have affected you

Ongoing process

Force to leave comfort & Causes stress

Challange -Alters the way we think

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Internal & External Forces

How to Deal Involve, Define Need, Disrupt

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Flexible, Honest, Focus

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Being Proactive means controlling the situation rather

than situation controlling you.

If you are not having your own strategy, then you are part

of someone elses strategy

Using resorces, Inventing ways

Information, Knowledge, Planning, Action

Pro Active, Reactive & Passive

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What is Leadership ?

Process whereby an individual inf luences a group of

individuals to achieve a common goal

Power, Knowledge, Personality, Ability, Referent,

Legimate, Coercive

Personality of Leader : Not Above, Not Better, Interactive

Who are your leaders and Why ?

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Styles of Leadership

Dictatorship, Consulting, Bureaucratic, Participative

Transactional & Transformational

Which one is better ?

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What is Character ?

Difference between Personality & Character

Caring

Fairness

Responsibility

Respect

Trustworthiness

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Contribution to Society


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What is Commitment ?

You are either In or Out. No In-Between

Be extremely careful while commiting about three things

No excuses, No reasons, Only Results

Risks - Overcommiting

Need / Purpose / Desire / Passion / Planning/ Bond

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Time, Money and Relationship.


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Attitude is state of mind or feelings about matter.

Emotional, Behavioral, Cognitive (Thinking)

Attitude impacts everything you do.

Attitude is by choice

Genetic, Phychic, Environmental

Committments, Inadequate Information, Emotions

Opinion, Beliefs and Values

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A = 1

T = 20

T = 20

I = 9T = 20

U = 21

D = 4

E = 5

ATTITUDE = 100

ATTITUDEISEVERYTHING!


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Accept responsibility

Ownership, Values, Mission, Discipline

Assess, Determine and Practice

Start and Manage to be Positive

Observe logically

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REACTIVE

Response

RESPONSIBLE

Stimulus

Stimulus


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2. Conscious Incompetence

3. Conscious Competence

4. Unconscious Competence

1. Unconscious Incompetence


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INFLUENCE YOUR ENVIRONMENT!

Sprinkle some positive on the negatives Focus on the good of each day

Stay out of the feeding frenzies

Say please and thank you

Practice EMPATHY Evaluate YOURbehavior

Never miss an opportunity to complement

Spread a SMILE aroundReplace the BAD HABITS!


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Time is the most important resource equally available to

all of us.

Do keep some time in day for yourself for developement.

Learn to delegate. Utilise available resources.

So you need to Protarise, with an eye on end results.

Research says that 20 % of our efforts get us 80% results

To get most out of it, we need to manage it effectively.

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Urgent & ImportantI

Urgent but Not ImportantII

Not Urgent but ImportantIII

Not Urgent Not ImportantIV


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Light Bill

Next Week submission of Assignments

Withdrawing money from Bank for marriage expensesCopying notes from friend

Exam Preparations

Drop friend at railway station to catch the train

Daily Evening get together with friendsNet SurfingExtra Curricular Activities (Culture / Sports)

Fitness Activity

Hospitalise an accident victim

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Teamwork involves working together to achieve

something beyond the capabilities of individuals working

alone.

Arrogance, Punishment, Inferiority & Distrust

Respect, Acceptance, Help Mutually

Social Need, Inf luenced by Communications

Relations between Individuals & Groups

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Inclusion, Affection, Control, Co-Dependency

Obsession, Misunderstanding, Gossip, Conf lit

Emotional Bank Balance

Differentiating, Confining, Stagnating, Avoiding,

Termination

Initiating, Experimenting, Intensifying, Integrating,

Bonding

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Dos Donts

Do take responsibility for your

actions

Do know your limits, your needs

Do strive to be flexible

Do pay attention

Do have the ability to say I dont

know

Stay away from gossip

Give credit where credit is due

Accept that absolutely no task is

beneath you

Don't coerce your relationshipsinto a predefined shape.

Don't keep score

Don't let problems sit

Don't take sides

Don't assume the problem

Don't be afraid of change

Do not show it when you dislike

someone


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Plan, Know Your Subject, Material, Audience NeedsStructure Message Clearly & Positively

Accept Stage Fright & Work on It.

Involve Participants; Rapport & Eye Contact, Be

Comfortable, Body Language & Gestures, SummerisePlanning Preparation Practice Performance

Rule of 6, 24,32,36' All Capital, Dark Light, Font; Avoid

Jargons, Vary pitch, Spell-check

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