Relationships: Is Family Conflict Always Bad?

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Relationships: Is Family Conflict Always Bad?

By Elsabe Smit, Author ofIt’s Over! Move On And Feel Good About Yourself

Are you fed up with conflict in your family? Do you want everyone to have peace? Read this article and discover how a peaceful family could in fact be a dysfunctional family.

A wise man once said that if you have a family with no strife, no issues, no conflict, you should be seriously concerned about the state of affairs.

This was brought home to me again when I asked about the feeding of my new grand-daughter – is it breast or bottle? I deliberately asked the question because I wanted to encourage the mother to exercise her personal choice. I believe that a mother instinctively knows what is good for her and her baby.

I recently heard about a matriarch – a mother of five (including twins) and grandmother of a handful – who is the oracle on motherhood, and nobody in her family would dare contradict her on how to raise a child. She had obviously missed the point that no two children are the same, unless you wear blinkers.

When a recent great-grandchild arrived, this oracle of motherhood insisted that the baby had to be breastfed. As a result the poor new mother was forced to sit with the new baby for seven hours so that she could learn to breastfeed.

Can you imagine that anyone can be so cruel and destructive? This matriarch likes to brag about how tight-knit her family is, and how they gather around her for all high days and holidays. Whenever a decision needs to be made by a child, the oracle is consulted – or rather they approach the matriarch for her verdict, which is followed to the letter, for fear of the consequences.

One person dared to contradict her and refused to follow her instructions, and was “excommunicated” on the spot and ignored by the rest of the family who are victims of mass hypnosis and would never question the judgment of the matriarch.

Then rather give me a family where the characters and their likes and dislikes are miles apart. I love to meet with my siblings whenever I can. We think in different ways, we have developed different cultures in our immediate families, and we represent extremes. This means we always have something to explore, and our arguments always end in love and understanding.

Every family needs balance, and you cannot possibly have balance when everyone sits


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on the same side of the see-saw. And when the matriarch sits on the high side of the see-saw and the rest of the family sits in worship on the low side of the see-saw, there is no balance.

The only way for that family to have any balance, is to have a common “enemy” which is the rest of the world. Anyone who dares to say that for example breastfeeding is an option rather than the only option becomes part of the common enemy. Where a family agrees on everything, I would wonder whether the family is really a healthy family.

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