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The Power of Listening
Chris Carter, Training CoordinatorOffice of Human Resource
Employee Development Center
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What is Listening? listening (ILA, 1996): the process of receiving, constructing meaning from, and responding to spoken and/or nonverbal messages; to hear something with thoughtful attention Effective communication is 2-waydepends on speaking and listening
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Listening vs. HearingHearing- physical process; natural; passive
Listening- physical & mental process; active; learned process; a skill
Listening is hard!You must choose to participate in the process of listening.
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Fast FactsWe listen at 125-250 wpm, think at 1000-3000 wpm75% of the time we are distracted, preoccupied or forgetful20% of the time, we remember what we hearMore than 35% of businesses think listening is a top skill for successLess than 2% of people have had formal education with listening
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Percentage of Communication
Mode of CommunicationFormal Yearsof TrainingPercentage of Time UsedWriting12 years9%Reading6-8 years16 %Speaking1-2 years30%Listening0-few hours45%
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Why Be A Good Listener?Needs of the Customer
To be recognized and rememberedTo feel valuedTo feel appreciatedTo feel respectedTo feel understoodTo feel comfortable about a want or need
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Listening is the most powerful form of acknowledgment a way of saying, You are important.
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Listening builds stronger relationships
creates a desire to cooperate among people because they feel accepted and acknowledged.
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Listening promotes being heard Seek first to understand, then be understood. - Stephen Covey
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Listening creates acceptance and openness conveys the message that I am not judging you.
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Listening leads to learning openness encourages personal growth and learning
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Listening reduces stress and tension minimizes confusion and misunderstanding, eliminating related stress and tension
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Listening is CRITICAL in conflict resolution much conflict comes from the need to be heard. Successful resolution depends on being a non-anxious presence.
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Barriers to ListeningEquate With HearingUninteresting TopicsSpeakers DeliveryExternal DistractionsMentally Preparing Response
Listening for FactsPersonal ConcernsPersonal BiasLanguage/Culture DifferencesFaking Attention
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Bad Listening HabitsCriticizing the subject or the speakerGetting over-stimulatedListening only for factsNot taking notes OR outlining everythingTolerating or creating distractionLetting emotional words block messageWasting time difference between speed of speech and speed of thought
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When Are You Listening?Non-Verbal Encouragers
Verbal Encouragers
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Active Listening Allows you to make sure you hear the words and understand the meaning behind the wordsGoal: go beyond listening to understanding
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Active Listening RequiresDefinite Intent to ListenFocus on the SpeakerVerbal and Non-Verbal EncouragersFeedback Loop to Insure Accuracy
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Active Listening (4 Steps)ListenQuestionReflect-ParaphraseAgree
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Step 1: ListenTo Feelings As Well As WordsWords Emotions -- ImplicationsFocus on SpeakerDont plan, speak, or get distractedWhat Is Speaker Talking About?Topic? Speaker? Listener? Others?Look At SpeakerUse Verbal & Non-Verbal Encouragers
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Step 2: Question3 PurposesDemonstrates you are listeningGather informationClarificationOpen-endedTell me more?How did you feel?Then what happened?
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Step 3: Reflect-ParaphraseReflect What Is Said (In your words)Reflect FeelingsReframeCapture the essence of the communicationRemove negative framingMove toward problem solving
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Step 4: AgreeGet Speakers Consent to Your ReframingSpeaker Has Been Heard and Knows It!Solution Is Near!
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ActivitySpeaker talk for 2 min.Listener listen using the skills weve discussedObserver observe the application of the skills and take notes