November/December 2011 Wellbeing Magazine

Nov/Dec 2011

Informative l inspiring l enlightening

NUTRITION l FITNESS l HEALTH l TRAVEL l COMPETITIONS

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HEALTHThe outward signs

WINTER BLUES:Seasonal AffectiveDisorder

Competitions:Bach Remedies

MiBody Analyser Scale

ASK THE EXPERTSallergies

Go Green Board Game

ASTHMADrug free therapy

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CONTENTSInside this issue...Dec/Nov 2011

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COMPETITIONS ............................... 11

Features

NUTRITION Outward signs of health problems......... 4

GARDENINGGrow your own herbs.............................8

BOOK REVIEWSChristmas gift ideas...............................9

HORSESConscious living..................................10

FITNESSWeekend warriors...............................14

MANAGING EMOTIONSHealthy anger......................................15

BIOGRAPHICAL COUNSELLINGThis is my life.....................................16

ASK THE EXPERTCat allergies....................................17

TRAVELSecrets of the Apennines.................19

HEALTHSo this is Christmas........................22

BUSINESS SHOWCASELiving from the heart.......................26

DEPRESSIONCoping with winter blues.................31

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Taking the time to look at someone’s outward appearance can be hugely important in not missing a health condition. When I see patients on a one to one basis, I’m pretty much assessing them as soon as they come through the door, i.e. do they actually look well and do their eyes, skin, nails etc. tell me anything about their overall health?

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Words:Kate Arnold

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As a complete unique individual you will have completely unique individual traits, not

only in your personality but also how you look. Starting with the eyes (often referred to as the windows of the soul) here are some symptoms that people suffer from and what they could but not necessarily mean: (so please dont all go rushing off to your GP unless you have real concerns!):

EyesGlassy-eyed: too much adrenaline, exhaustion, prescription or recreational drug useBloodshot: lack of vitamin B, tiredness, allergy, infectionItchy/dry: allergy, vitamin B deficiency or lack of tears (sjorgrens syndrome)Dark circles: tiredness, anaemia, parasites (often seen in children)Allergic shiners: usually seen in children - an allergy to a food or inhalantPhotophobia: lack of vitamin B, migraine/headache suffererSunken eyes: dehydration/exhaustionPallor under eyes: anaemia

NailsWhite spots on nail: calcium and/or zinc deficiency (often seen after an illness)Pitted nails: can indicate partial or total hair lossRidges: vertical can indicate general poor health and horizontal can occur after severe stress. PulseVery slow: i.e. if under 50 bpm and little/no exercise done it can be braccycardia - a sign of hypothyroidismFast/irregular pulse: heart conditions/anxiety/overactive thyroid SkinSpots: there are many reasons for spots or acne. Usually where they are on the face can give a clue, e.g. around the chin and hairline is usually hormonal.Rashes: can indicate an allergy or fungal infectionDry and scaly: dehydrated, lack of vitamin A, lack of EFA’s (essential fatty acids)

Skin colour:Lemon Yellow: lack of vitamin B12, pernicious anaemia

White: anaemia, lack of zincOrange: can indicate liver problems, jaundiceDark Pink/Red: high blood pressure/heart problems

Athletes foot: fungal infectionEasy bruising: can indicate a lack of vitamin CDandruff: usually a fungal infectionPsoriasis: stress, lack of EFA’s, allergyEczema: stress, lack of EFA’s, allergyVitiligo: autoimmune conditions/lack of PABA’s LipsCracked: lack of essential fatty acids or vitamin BlipsSores at the corners: lack of vitamin B3Dry: lack of EFA’s MouthDry mouth: dehydrated, medication or lack of saliva (sjorgrens syndrome)Ulcers on tongue: run down or allergyWhite coating round the gums: oral candidaBad breath: tooth decay or bad digestion

The outward signs ofHEALTH PROBLEMS

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The Four HumoursAlthough there is no scientific basis whatsoever, I love the idea of the very old practice of humors. Ancient Greek philosophers such as Hippocrates (400 BC) and Galen (140/150 AD) classified four types of “humors” in people. Each type was believed to be due to an excess of one of four bodily fluids, corresponding to their character. The personalities were termed “humors”. All diseases and disabilities resulted from an excess or deficit of one of these four humors. The four humors were identified as black bile, yellow bile, phlegm, and blood. Greeks and Romans, and the later Muslim and Western European medical establishments that adopted and adapted classical medical philosophy, believed that each of these humors would wax and wane in the body, depending on diet and activity. When a patient was suffering from a surplus or imbalance of one fluid, then his or her personality and physical health would be affected. This theory was closely related to the theory of the four elements: earth, fire, water and air - earth was predominantly present in the black bile, fire in the yellow bile, water in the phlegm, and all four elements were present in the blood. Theophrastus then developed a set of characters based on the humors. Those with too much blood were sanguine. Those with too much phlegm were phlegmatic. Those with too much yellow bile were choleric, and those with too much black bile were melancholic. Here are the general personality types of those humors:

SanguineA person who is sanguine is generally light-hearted, fun loving, a people person, loves to entertain, spontaneous, and confident. However they can be arrogant, cocky, and indulgent. He/She can be day-dreamy and off-task to the point of not accomplishing anything and can be impulsive, possibly acting on whims in an unpredictable fashion. The humour of Sanguine was once commonly treated with leeches.

CholericA person who is choleric is a doer. They have a lot of ambition, energy, and passion, and try to instil it in others. They can dominate people of other temperaments, especially phlegmatic types. Many great charismatic military and political figures were cholerics. On the negative side, they are easily angered or bad-tempered.

MelancholicA person who is a thoughtful ponderer has a melancholic disposition. Often very kind and considerate, melancholics can be highly creative - as in poetry and art - but also can become overly pre-occupied with the tragedy and cruelty in the world, thus becoming depressed. A melancholic is also often a perfectionist, being very particular about what they want and how they want it in some cases. This often results in being dissatisfied with one’s own artistic or creative works and always pointing out to themselves what could and should be

improved. They are often loners and most times choose to stay alone and reflect.

PhlegmaticWhile phlegmatic are generally self-content and kind, their shy personality can often inhibit enthusiasm in others and make themselves lazy and resistant to change. They are very consistent, relaxed, rational, curious, and observant, making them good administrators and diplomats. Like the sanguine personality, the phlegmatic has many friends. However the phlegmatic is more reliable and compassionate; these characteristics typically make the phlegmatic a more dependable friend. As I said, the humors have no scientifically proven basis, and are out of favour now. Like an astrology chart though, part of the thought process does have a sense of... something.

The Four Humours, Getty Images

YOUR PERSONALITYKate’s guide

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Type A personalityIf we bring things up to date slightly, our 21st century equivalent is the Type A and Type B personality, first suggested by Meyer Friedman, an American cardiologist, who noticed in the 1940s that the chairs in his waiting room got worn out from the edges. He hypothesized that his patients were driven, impatient people, who sat on the edge of their seats when waiting. They labelled these people “Type A” personalities. Type A personalities are workaholics, always busy, driven, somewhat impatient, and so on. Type B personalities, on the other hand are laid back and easy going. “Type A personality” has found its way into our general vocabulary. Since its inception, the theory has been widely popularized and also widely criticised for its scientific

shortcomings. It is thought to be that Type As tend to get more fatigue syndromes (the yuppie burn out so common in the ‘80s and ‘90s), and also heart disease, than Type Bs.Type A can be described as impatient, time-conscious, concerned about their status, highly competitive, ambitious, business-like, aggressive, having difficulty relaxing; and are sometimes disliked by individuals with Type B personalities for the way that they’re always rushing. They are often high-achieving workaholics who multi-task, drive themselves with deadlines, and are unhappy about delays. Because of these characteristics, Type A individuals are often described as “stress junkies.”

Type B personalityType B individuals, in contrast, are described as patient, relaxed, and

easy-going, generally lacking any sense of urgency. Because of these characteristics, Type B individuals are often described as apathetic and disengaged. Whatever your personality, there are certain traits individual to you that make you unique. That is why for me no one is ever treated the same. It’s extraordinary how two people with two similar health problems have completely different symptoms, coping strategies and outlooks and that’s why I love my job so much! Again there is no scientific basis on constitutions but there are certain types of people that are forever strong - Margaret Thatcher and Winston Churchill showed the same ‘never show weakness’ mentality. For me these people have strong constitutions and good genes, but maybe its more simple than that - perhaps they have a more healthy way of coping with stress than others.

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Words Pat Crawford, for Hadlow College

GET INSPIRED GROW TO IMPROVE YOUR WELLBEING

herbs

Wellbeing gardening

It is possible to keep a lot of herbs growing through the winter months on a

window sill that affords plenty of light - but the other, and very easy way, to extend the benefits that can be derived from these so useful plants involves drying them!

Thin-leaved plants such as peppermint, parsley, red clover and oregano are particularly easy to dry. They can either be hung in bunches - very decorative in a country kitchen or rustic dining area – or placed on a tray which is then put into the airing cupboard. The secret to success lies in drying slowly. They are dry when the leaves break easily under pressure. Another pretty infallible test can be carried out putting them into a clean, dry jam jar or similar - leave for two or three days in a warm place - then check to see if there is any moisture on the

glass. They are not ready if the glass is misted or moist.

Thicker leaved herbs such as sage, bay, Rosemary and thyme can be dried in the same way – however, it is important to make certain they have dried all the way through and not just on the surface. Try splitting the stems open – they should break with a little ‘snap’. If they are subjected to too much heat, the surface will dry but the inside will remain moist and the herbs will then rot. Liquorice, being very thick, needs especial care to prevent the outside of the root becoming dry and hard which prevents the centre drying out.

Dried herbs can be kept for a long time although they will lose quality as they age. When correctly dried, the leaves should remain green and not turn to a sludgy grey/khaki colour. Some herbs dry better than others but all lose

volatile oils as a result of the drying process – the more so if they are exposed to too much heat in an effort to dry them quickly. Many of the dried herbs sold in shops are ‘old’ and so it is important to buy from a reputable source. Some packets have transparent ‘windows’ making it easy to check the condition of the contents: beware those that have broken up into tiny pieces or look ‘dusty’.

The majority of practising medicinal herbalists like to work with fresh herbs – some of which they dry to make into tinctures or ‘teas’. Arguments abound about the benefits to be derived from ‘tea’ (made using water) versus ‘tincture’ (made using alcohol). Different properties are released according

to the method used, something which is taken into consideration by practising herbalists.

Teas and tinctures can be quite expensive to buy. Making basic forms of these herbal products at home is really quite simple and numerous books and websites providing information and guidelines have been published. Some are easy-to-read basic manuals suitable for the complete amateur – others require substantial herbal knowledge. Most give lists of uses - and the best include an A-Z listing ‘symptoms’ and ‘treatment’.

It is best to start with a really easy-to-

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Hadlow offers a wide range of career (including degree) and recreational courses for horticulturists and gardeners, including Medicinal Horticulture. Telephone: 0500 551434 for information.

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make tea such as peppermint – good for digestion. Place about two tablespoons of dried leaves in a teapot and cover with about three cups of freshly boiling water. (These quantities can be varied according to taste.) Steep for about three minutes, strain and serve – with or without sugar. In hot weather, the tea can be allowed to go cold and a few cubes of ice added. Served chilled, it’s refreshing. Served hot, it is invigorating!

There is no limit to the range of tinctures and teas that can be made at home. The fact that they are caffeine free is a big plus and they can be drunk according

to ‘mood’ as well as for their medicinal benefits. Christmas is approaching and attractively packaged, home-dried teas would make personalised – and very inexpensive – presents. Include information about the health benefits and the properties to be derived - plus guidelines about serving.

Benefits reported include: Fennel: improves the appetite, relieves stomach cramps, soothes a sore throat. Ginger: improves circulation, relieves the symptoms of flu and colds, relieves nausea. Lemon balm: lifts the spirit, relaxes the nerves and relieves stomach disorders. Peppermint: aids digestion, helps to reduce symptoms of IBS, useful as a decongestant.

The energy of this year is one of freedom, change, and expanding your boundaries. Louise Hay’s Calen-dar offers you 366 positive thoughts, affirmations, and words of wisdom to help you manifest love, success, health, and overal well-being.www.hayhouse.co.uk

Gift ideas for

2012

The Astrology of 2012 and how it affects you.Marcus Mason978-1-84850-498-1Whatever you believe about the nature and meaning of life, there can be no doubt that we are living in ‘interesting times’. 21st December 2012 marks the end of a 25,626-year Time Cycle, caused by the earth gradually changing her orientation in space.In this book Marcus

Dairy Diary 2012 ISBN 978-0-9560894-4-1Gift Set £8.99I love a good diary, an this is no exception. Full of facts and figures, from metric conversion and roast-ing times to wedding anniversa-ries and birthstones. Craft ideas, simple gardening tips, first aid, handy tips on stains as well as general information on the Olymics and useful numbers...all that before you get to the ca-landar and lots of tasty recipes on every page. I would be happy to have this handy diary under this year’s Christmas Tree.To order a copy along with The new Dairy Book of Home Cookery www.dairydiary.co.uk

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Wellbeing talks to Emma Colyer of Intuitive Horse,

Ringmer, about her work with

horses & healing.

My work at Intuitive Horse uses horses to help people recognise their behaviours towards others and the consequences of their behaviours. These behaviours may be very subtle, others may be more conscious. We all behave in different ways, many of which we learnt as a child. As young infants we look to our parents for guidance and safety and we devise strategies to get what we need. The strategies we learn as infants often stay with us throughout our lives; some are conscious behaviours, but most are subconscious.We all have parents and we pick up a lot of our behaviours from them and then mould them into our own ways of behaving. The trick is to

spot these behaviours and then decide whether they serve you in your life. I truly believe that if we have an awareness of self and some simple life skills, then we have the power to make effective decisions and choices about the way we live our lives. When we understand the drive behind why we do what we do it’s like a breath of fresh air!When you work with a horse at Intuitive Horse you are interacting with a ‘live being’; one who does not use our vocal language and cannot be fooled by words. Interacting with a horse is an experience more of body language and of using the feeling sense - the same as we used as infants. By working with a horse

you not only start to see how others respond to you, but also how the horse changes behaviour when you change your behaviour. This is because horses don’t carry the same emotional complexities that we do so they are able to just respond to you in the ‘present moment’. By working in this way with a horse you connect with your feelings, start to understand the drives behind your responses to the world as well as the response of others towards your actions and have the opportunity to choose a new response. This gives you instant feedback and a direct experience with yourself.

There is quite literally no hiding; it is exposing but very empowering.Intuitive horse can help anyone - you do not have to be suffering from any huge trauma to benefit from a session with a horse. I offer private sessions, 1 day workshops, days with the herd and 3 day retreats. Or why not buy a voucher session for a loved one for Christmas. For more info please visit my website www.intuitivehorse.co.uk or ring me on 07825 036 301

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COMPETITIONS

WIN a MiBody Analyser ScaleClosing date: 10th DecemberOne of the first steps to getting the body you want is knowing exactly what you’re made of. The MiBody Analyser Scale (£59.99) not only measures your weight, but also calculates your body fat, body water, muscle mass, visceral fat, Body Mass Index and Basal Metabolic Rate. The analyser scale also enables you to track your progress on your PC. Great for keeping you on track and motivated. Available at Argos and online at salterhousewares.com

Enter online at wellbeingmagazine.co.uk/competitions

WIN the New board game GO GREENClosing Date: 10th DecemberIf you’ve ever wanted to be-come self-sufficient, here’s your chance to give it a try.Go Green is a new board game for all ages. Use your wheelbarrow to move around the board to collect fruit, vegetables, pigs and chickens.The winner is the first to fill their garden and allotment with the most produce and animals.Seems simple. It is. But the ‘Green Fingers’ cards turn up unexpected twists and turns.So you’ll have to protect your chickens from foxes, sell your crops and livestock at the village fair and avoid drought, bird flu, and your animals escaping.And to make things even more interesting there’s ‘Natural Selec-tion’ cards - thought-provoking multiple choice questions you answer to win hay-bales. gogreenboardgame.co.uk

Win a Bach Emotional Eating Kit and Le Creuset SteamerClosing Date: 31st JanuaryBach Emotional Eating Kit is a set of three 10ml flower essenc-es to give a helping hand with diet and healthy living regimes. It is the first product available in the UK to help with emotional eating. You can create your own individual combination and adapt it to suit your changing moods. The essences are alcohol and additive free and suitable for the whole family. It is made using natural flower essences which originate from the Bach Centre and are produced according to Dr Bach’s traditional methods, which date back over 75 years.

Costs £11 and is available from Boots, Holland and Barrett and all good independent healthfood and pharmacy stores. For more information, visit bachremedies.co.uk

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Asthma & Chronic Hidden HyperventilationEvery asthmatic over-breathes or hyperventilates and it is this fact that predisposes them to the symptoms described as asthma.

If in any doubt about your breathing why not check your breathing now CLICK HERE

Orthodox Palliative TreatmentThe orthodox treatment aims to overcome the symptoms either by using a bronchodilator to open constricted airways and/or to reduce inflammation of the airways using a steroid inhaler. Additional drugs may be given to control other symptoms. By and large the treatment is symptomatic and does not address the underlying problems. Since every drug carries a risk of adverse side effects, this approach is good for the management of the condition but any method that can reduce the drug requirement safely makes good sense.

Addressing the Hyperventilation ProblemWhen the underlying hyperventilation is addressed by teaching the patient to normalize their breath-ing, symptoms begin to disappear and the person begins to return to a normal active life with less wheezing, less coughing, up to 90% less reliever medication and up to 50% less steroid medication.

The most effective well researched training is based on the Buteyko Method developed by a Russian Dr Konstantin Pavlovich Buteyko.

Not only does this method reduce the need for drugs but it provides the patient with a better moni-toring tool for their condition so making emergency hospital visits less likely, as they can seek additional medical help at an earlier stage and usually avoid major attacks.

Increased Safety with Better Monitoring Current drug therapy can often mask the severity of their condition and leave the patient unaware of the seriousness of the problem, so leading to far more emergency hospital admissions or deaths. It has been broadly agreed that the vast majority of asthma deaths are avoidable with better monitoring and better management.

Video DemonstrationThus there is a strong case to suggest the Buteyko Method can not only reduce drug dependency but also improve safety for the patient. For an actual record of this method in action visit the YouTube video wellbeingmagazine.co.uk/article/buteyko and visit AsthmaCareKent www.asthmacarekent.co.uk for information on courses in Kent.

is it possible and is it safe?

DRUG FREE ASTHMA THERAPY

Words: Michael Lingard BSc DO BIBH Buteyko Educator

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Do you find yourself compress-ing an entire

week’s worth of exercise into the only two days of rest you have—the weekend? If so, you have joined the forces of the “weekend warriors”—a term given to the busy bees that work all week and still find time to cram their weekends with vigorous exercise. Although this technique is not recom-mended, many young and middle-ages adults still insist on overexert-ing themselves over a two-day time span. The result: sprained ankles, damaged joints, torn ligaments, and physical exhaustion. These inju-ries that were caused by something as simple as not being prepared can substantially hinder any physical activity for the following weeks to come.Believe it or not, regard-less of the rigor these

assiduous weekend warriors put themselves through, injuries can be avoided. “One thing to watch out for,” Dr. Raj warns, “is being unpre-pared.” It may seem like there is nothing better than a sudden urge to take that thirty mile scenic bike ride to the beach, but there is also nothing worse than being sidelined for the next month or so because of an injury caused by negligence. Dr. Raj emphasizes the importance of stretching before strenuous activ-ity and understanding the steps to becoming a stellar participant in whatever activity you decide to take on. “In any activity you do, stretching beforehand is a must. For beginners, start at a low intensity and work your way up.” For beginner-level run-ners, Dr. Raj suggests running or jogging a few miles on a flat surface to get a feel

for the active lifestyle before pushing yourself beyond your body’s limitations. Taking baby steps will ensure a safe and effective workout, without completely draining yourself.Some of the most popular exercises can be the most risky ones when caution is ab-sent. Sprinting, weight-lifting, and downhill cross-training can be extremely dangerous if not performed correct-ly. Stretching before and after exercise is the best way to ensure that your muscles are properly warmed up. The consequences that can result from not stretching are pulling muscles, tearing liga-ments, and uncomfort-able soreness. A

weekend warrior may think that they can take on the world, but your muscles are delicate and need to be well taken care of. Just taking fifteen minutes to stretch and warm up will help you begin your workout safely and effectively.For those impulse moments when you are just itching to get outdoors, taking power walks or light jogs will get you some fresh air and the physical activ-ity that so many of us need to adopt in such a highly inactive society. Getting that extra leg up on others will not only help you physi-cally, but give you the confidence to succeed in many other aspects of your life.

Dr. Raj, is based in Beverly Hills, California, specialises in hip, knee, and joint replacements, arthritis pain, sports injuries, fractures, and additional focuses on providing top alternative, conservative, and surgical options for any joint, bone, or muscle pain.

Dr. Raj, Double Board Certified (American and Canadian) Orthopedic Surgeon talks to Wellbeing Magazine about the dangers of being unprepared for exercise.

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Healthy Anger

“The summer rioting in UK brought the issue of anger to the front of my mind. I’m fascinated by this emotion, as I feel it is rarely permitted to be

expressed in a healthy way.”

WORDS: SHEILA NURSTEN

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Anger is mostly misunderstood. I don’t claim to be an expert

on anger management, but what I do know is this: Unexpressed anger turns to rage. Rage is far more dangerous than anger. Once it reaches this boiling point, it is potentially destructive. So what can we do to have healthy anger?

In my personal journey, I have discovered three stages to heal anger - Release, Expression and Forgiveness. Anger is a fast moving emotion. It seeks an outlet, usually through the mouth or fists! If this physical release is suppressed, the anger simply stays locked in the body, waiting. This

can build and build, until the person can no longer contain it, and has some kind of tantrum, breakdown, or worse, depression. An ideal way to release this pent

up emotion is through physical exercise. One can take all those angry thoughts, really feel the anger, and then run, box, skip, or push weights.

Once the physical energy is spent, it is time to talk to whomever provoked the anger. This can now be done without the emotional charge surging

through the body, and set healthy personal boundaries. There are, of course, instances where it is impossible to speak the truth, because of the risk involved. One could then

write a letter explaining these feelings… and destroy the letter.

The last part of healing the anger is to forgive. First forgive yourself for your part in conflict, then forgive the others. Those who find forgiveness difficult, could try this meditation: Imagine yourself on a beautiful quiet beach.

Write in the sand “I forgive” and then write all the names of the people who come into your mind. In this peaceful place, it is easier to let go of any unhealthy attachments to negative relationships. When managed properly, anger becomes vital for our sense of self respect.

When coaching psychic development, I take a holistic approach to my students’ journeys. Only by becoming a clear channel, can we effectively bring forward spiritual messages.

For readings, spirit guide portraits, or personal development, please see my website www.tribal-angel.com

When managed properly, anger becomes vital for our

sense of self respect.



This is my Life?

How our past affects our

present and our future: Wellbeing

talks to Carine Biessels MBACP,

about her work as a Biographical

Counsellor

The more I work as a counsellor, the more I come to the

understanding that our life is more like our friend than our enemy.

The ‘classic’ approach in counselling and psychotherapy comes out of the experience that difficult events that happened to us in the past can still affect us daily unconsciously. In this way they can cost us a lot of energy, give us low moods or disturb our health. Like boulders in a stream, they have changed our life in such a subtle way that we might not even have noticed it, and in such a way really can disturb the stream of our vitality and motivation for life. Often these ‘boulders’ find a way to ask for our attention. Like a continuous feeling of ‘something is not right’, low mood or loss of enthusiasm in life for example.

Working in counselling or psychotherapy can then be very fruitful, sometimes by working through undigested experiences and giving them a place in our life, sometimes by finding and setting new boundaries, by acknowledging ourselves, our needs and that what is important to us. In biographical counselling we work just like that, but we do not only work with our past, the experiences we have been through, but also with our future and how we experience our life, right here, right now, today. It is a counselling method that works with the whole of our life, coming closer to who we are and what our life is about for us. To be in union and peace with our life can be a momentary state of well being. It can give the ultimate experience of being happy and healthy; a feeling of being satisfied, that we are who

we are, and that this is all we need to be. We are in tune with ourselves in our heart and reach with our own small individual life into the stream of the whole daily world. Everything seems to have its place and we feel we belong here on earth, together with our many brothers and sisters in life. Even in extreme situations, in our biography, in the experiences we have in our life, there is often a key, a seed of potential that connects to our eternal self, to who we are and why we are here on earth today. The people that we meet, the situations and events we go through, shape the course of our life. They influence us, in helpful and unhelpful ways and often they face us with a part of ourselves that we do not yet really know. Sometimes, in a difficult experience we can find an enormous inspiration to do something in our life

many years later. If I had not been in a crisis nine years ago for example, I would probably not be a biographical counsellor today. To find peace with our life can be quite a difficult challenge, if not impossible. There are always things in our life which have been so hard or so beautiful that we do not know where to place them inside us. Looking at my life, very often I feel like saying: ‘This is my life?’

Biographical Counselling is a

holistic stream of counselling based

on the philosophies of Rudolf Steiner

(Anthroposophy) and the latest researches

in counselling and psychotherapy.

Biographical Counselling is

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for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP).


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Ask the experts“I am badly allergic to a friend’s cat.”

QI don’t have pets myself, but whenever I visit her house I have to limit my stay to a couple of hours. I also have mild asthma and am allergic to dust and have hayfever. I take an anti-histimine before I arrive and also use a nasal spray. Is there a more natural and long

term solution that might help my body to stop over reacting to allergens? Wellbeing reader, Hastings

AAllergies are often a sign of an unbalanced immune system, with a heightened level of pro-inflammatory (Th2) cytokines (chemical messengers) sensitizing it to common allergens. Raised levels of Th2 cytokines

are also seen in several other common conditions, including asthma. One of the most effective categories of natural product for helping rebalance the immune system is mushrooms, specifically mushroom polysaccharides (beta-glucans and related compounds) that form a large part of their cell walls and which have been the subject of large scale clinical trials in relation to their potential in cancer therapy (for which they are licensed in the Far East). Their impact on the immune system is complex but broadly they promote a shift away from a Th2 dominant immune state. Although all mushrooms contain such polysaccharides, for allergy sufferers I usually suggest Reishi, which as well as polysaccharides contains high levels of triterpenes with anti-inflammatory and anti-histamine activity. It thus addresses both the symptoms and the underlying cause of the condition. Try to find a good Reishi supplement with high levels of polysaccharides and triterpenes, taking a high dose for an initial 2 weeks and then a lower maintenance dose, increasing on visits to your friend if you are still getting symptoms. Martin Powell, (BSc.(Hons), Dip.Ac, Dip.CHM, MRCHM)

Find out more...Martin Powell is a partner in Seahaven Acupuncture Clinic and Herbal Dispensary and the author

of Medicinal Mushrooms - A Clinical Guide. To Find Out More - You can contact Martin on 01273

917888 | [email protected] | www.mycotherapy.co.uk

Read more about the latest clinical trials in the article ‘Management of histamine-mediated allergic

responses’ available at www.wellbeingmagazine.co.uk (just type ‘Reishi’ in the search box on the

homepage).

Are you struggling with a niggling health issue? Send us your question and if you’re featured in the next edition we’ll send you some lovely freebies including a rather fine recipe book. Send your question to [email protected]. Sadly, we can’t reply to all emails personally. As with all health concerns, please seek advice from your GP in the first instance.

It can be so different than what we initially aimed it to be like. And if we would have the power to change it, what would we do? Biographical counselling can also be a wonderful experience when we work in groups. By working with themes in small groups, through dialogue and simple creative exercises we discover a rich variety and similarity in the personal stories and experiences of each other. It is a personal as well as a social experience in a safe and non-judgmental environment. Carine Biessels is a Biographical Counsellor based at Equilibrium in Lewes.

In January a ten week course on Monday afternoons will take place called ‘This is my life’. The course is part of the new fulltime ‘It’s my life’ course at Emerson College in East Sussex. For bookings and more information go to www.biographicalcounsellingwork.co.uk or email [email protected]

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Ask the experts“I am badly allergic to a friend’s cat.”

QI don’t have pets myself, but whenever I visit her house I have to limit my stay to a couple of hours. I also have mild asthma and am allergic to dust and have hayfever. I take an anti-histimine before I arrive and also use a nasal spray. Is there a more natural and long

term solution that might help my body to stop over reacting to allergens? Wellbeing reader, Hastings

AAllergies are often a sign of an unbalanced immune system, with a heightened level of pro-inflammatory (Th2) cytokines (chemical messengers) sensitizing it to common allergens. Raised levels of Th2 cytokines

are also seen in several other common conditions, including asthma. One of the most effective categories of natural product for helping rebalance the immune system is mushrooms, specifically mushroom polysaccharides (beta-glucans and related compounds) that form a large part of their cell walls and which have been the subject of large scale clinical trials in relation to their potential in cancer therapy (for which they are licensed in the Far East). Their impact on the immune system is complex but broadly they promote a shift away from a Th2 dominant immune state. Although all mushrooms contain such polysaccharides, for allergy sufferers I usually suggest Reishi, which as well as polysaccharides contains high levels of triterpenes with anti-inflammatory and anti-histamine activity. It thus addresses both the symptoms and the underlying cause of the condition. Try to find a good Reishi supplement with high levels of polysaccharides and triterpenes, taking a high dose for an initial 2 weeks and then a lower maintenance dose, increasing on visits to your friend if you are still getting symptoms. Martin Powell, (BSc.(Hons), Dip.Ac, Dip.CHM, MRCHM)

Find out more...Martin Powell is a partner in Seahaven Acupuncture Clinic and Herbal Dispensary and the author

of Medicinal Mushrooms - A Clinical Guide. To Find Out More - You can contact Martin on 01273

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Read more about the latest clinical trials in the article ‘Management of histamine-mediated allergic

responses’ available at www.wellbeingmagazine.co.uk (just type ‘Reishi’ in the search box on the

homepage).

Are you struggling with a niggling health issue? Send us your question and if you’re featured in the next edition we’ll send you some lovely freebies including a rather fine recipe book. Send your question to [email protected]. Sadly, we can’t reply to all emails personally. As with all health concerns, please seek advice from your GP in the first instance.

It can be so different than what we initially aimed it to be like. And if we would have the power to change it, what would we do? Biographical counselling can also be a wonderful experience when we work in groups. By working with themes in small groups, through dialogue and simple creative exercises we discover a rich variety and similarity in the personal stories and experiences of each other. It is a personal as well as a social experience in a safe and non-judgmental environment. Carine Biessels is a Biographical Counsellor based at Equilibrium in Lewes.

In January a ten week course on Monday afternoons will take place called ‘This is my life’. The course is part of the new fulltime ‘It’s my life’ course at Emerson College in East Sussex. For bookings and more information go to www.biographicalcounsellingwork.co.uk or email [email protected]

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Sarah Yearsley discovers inspirational mountain landscapes, forested valleys and welcoming family-run hotels on a walking holiday in northern Italy.

The summit of Mt. Everest isn’t the only place you feel like you’re standing on top of the world. Monte

Gennaio, in the Apennine mountains in northern Italy, can have much the same effect. At least it certainly did for my husband, Richard, and me as we triumphantly hugged each other one sun-drenched afternoon last summer and gazed out over a view that stretched more than 40 miles as far as the Duomo in Florence. At 5,915 feet, Monte Gennaio barely scrapes in as a foothill in Himalayan terms. But height isn’t everything. As anyone who loves walking will tell you, it’s a feeling of connection with previously unknown landscapes, the towns and villages that you pass through, the local culture and above all the people that makes for a truly memorable walking holiday. Not to mention wildlife that includes golden eagles, kestrels and buzzards, as well as deer, wild boar and the elu-sive muflone, a wild sheep that with its huge curved horns looks more like a cross between a goat and an ibex.Our route had been planned by Inntravel, our chosen operator, in collaboration with the owners of the family-run hotels at which we stayed along the route. Using detailed route

maps to guide us and exploring a new area every day, it was as if we had been given a local’s insight into a region largely unknown by most Brits while being given a home-from-home welcome each night by hosts for whom nothing was ever too much trouble.Our route took us through the most beautiful parts of a region that includes high mountain ridges, forested valleys, waterfalls and me-dieval town and villages, the spires of their ancient churches visible from miles around. Each day we would walk along a well-signed network of forest paths and mountain tracks, both high and low level, joining the towns of Porretta, Lizzano, Pianaccio and Vidiciatico Each day was an adventure in itself. These mountains have a fascinating history which includes a crossing by Hannibal’s army during Roman times and, more recently, the defeat after a fierce battle of the Germans defending the Gothic Line on Monte Belvedere in WW11. There was a rhythm to our days which was both invigorating and satisfying. Navigating with our route notes was a voyage of discovery in itself and apart from a few glitches (quite fun in themselves) we never

felt remotely lost. The terrain ranged from the forested lower slopes of beech, birch, oak and chestnut inter-spersed with pines and scotch firs to rolling heathland above the tree line. Each village we passed through also had its own unique history from the extraordinary leaning tower at Lizzano, said to outdo Pisa’s in its defiance of gravity, to Monteacuto perhaps the most dramatic of the mountain eyries.The euphoria of walking along the summit ridge of Monte Gennaio will live long in the memory. But even on the mountain tracks leading to the summit, history has become part of the landscape in the form of ancient stone posts marking the border between the states of Tuscany and Emilia-Romagna before the forma-tion of modern Italy. So it was not just the epic views themselves that took our hearts away but the people we had met and the unique and ancient way of life we had briefly touched in the valleys and hillsides below.

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What do they offer?Totally Tranquil is a beautiful therapy space providing accessible, affordable tranquil treatments for all people. It is on the ground floor and has a ramp for prams and wheelchairs.

Local business showcaseTotally Tranquil in Shoreham

Therapies offered include: reflexology, reiki, Swedish massage and Rassage - a combined triple treat of reiki, massage, hand and foot reflexology. All treatments and readings are £15 for 30 mins or £30 for 1hr. What makes them different? Totally Tranquil is

equipped with a hydraulic massage bed making it the perfect space for people with mobility problems and other disabilities. This also enables children to receive therapies as the bed lowers to 1ft from the floor. All clients are asked to complete a thorough

medical questionnaire with the therapist before their first treatment. This is done to ensure delivery of the most appropriate therapy to the client. It takes 15 mins and there is a separate charge for this time. This document is then used to track client progress within the therapy space.

Tell us more…The client can also have an Angel Card Reading to help them reflect on their daily and life issues. Mary has been practicing foot reflexology for 12 years, hand reflexology and reiki healing for 5 years, massage for 3 years and offering Rassage for 2

years. She has also been reading Angel cards for 4 years. She has a wealth of life experience and as a registered carer, is able to understand and empathise with the needs of other carers. She has first-hand experience of the needs of children with Autistic spectrum disorders, A.D.H.D. and

other learning disabilities.Where are they? Tarmount Studios, Tarmount Lane, Shoreham by Sea, BN43 5UT, near local bus routes and Shoreham train station. There is convenient low cost parking nearby and 3 disabled car park spaces immediately outside. The therapy space also doubles as a gift shop and sells unique flint jewellery, bespoke medicine bags created by a local shamanic practitioner, African drums, the Aromabreather face mask - a unique product created by Mary to help reduce the inhalation of some of the harmful chemicals found in daily life.Hours of BusinessMon 11-3pm, Tues-Fri

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Christmas Build your own...

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Peter Watts founded Good and Fair on two principles; good food, fairly traded. “Almost all of our stock is organic, as we are persuaded that this method of farming is not only better for the planet but also for the consumer and producer. If there is anything better than a win/win situation it is a win/win/win one! We strongly support the ethos of the fair trade movement and are very happy to stock these products but buy on quality not out of sympathy.”Find out more at www.goodandfair.co.uk

A locally made, fair trade hamper (beautifully gift wrapped of course) will not only send all the right ethical messages, but is

cost effective too.

Good and Fair wholefoods in Eastbourne has been busy visiting local businesses with loose goods, helping people create their own hampers for staff, friends and family. Why not book your visit by emailing [email protected].

Looking for unique, ethical and fairly traded presents this Christmas? Need gifts for clients or staff? Look no further…


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There is much controversy about who ‘owns’ this celebration – Chris-tians claim it as the celebration of Christ’s birthday and Pagans as the celebration of the winter solstice; the shortest day of the year and a sign that spring will soon be on its way. It was an early Christian theme to transform the traditions of other religions into their own, as a way of converting people. The Scandinavian feast of Yule, the Pagan fir tree, the Greek figure St Nicholas, the Celtic reverence of evergreen plants – the holly and the ivy – have all been amalgamated to create the hybrid Christmas that we know.

The office party is a (not so gentle) reminder of the Roman feast of Saturnalia, an orgy of excess and de-bauchery. After the church stamped out such merriment, it wasn’t until Queen Victoria set the scene for the modern Christmas that the fun really began again. Victoria and Albert are credited with centring the period round the family, starting the Christ-mas card exchange and adopting

the then expensive and imported turkey from the new Americas. Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol popularised Christmas as a holiday period in its own right and the idea of a feast day was reborn. Whilst Victoria ate oysters and turkey, the traditional meal was usually goose or beef for those who could afford it and rabbit for the very poor.

The Coca-Cola Company sealed the modern image of Father Christmas as we know him; through their advertising campaign of 1931 came the fat, jolly, white-bearded figure we associate with the con-sumerist act of present giving. This seems like a rather ironic change from the thinner English version that had in turn evolved from the Norse Odin, god of intoxicating drink and ecstasy!

So full circle, the usual fare of a modern Christmas Day is a good illustration of how out of touch many of us are with food preparation. Our digestion has a hard time with mod-ern preparation of meat – traditionally

it would be hung and cured to break down the proteins, but today it is on the plate in days. Much of the food we eat at Christmas has its origins in the need for preserving the food we grew or reared – pickling, curing, smoking, drying, chutneys and tradi-tional jams have all been replaced by chemicals or sugary versions in the modern world.

Most Christmas desserts were originally plum based and ways of preserving the fruits from when they ripen in September. The evolution of the plum pudding as Christmas des-sert charts our historical relationship with food – it started out as plum porridge an ancient throwback of cel-ebrating the winter festival with gruel, slowly over the ages, more fruit, then alcohol and sugar was added…see-ing a picture?

Christmas used to be a feast to stock up on some fat to see us through the lean months of winter. Now we have abundance aplenty all year round, do we really need this surplus?

SO THIS ISChristmas

It’s here again; the period of Christmas, it’s frenzied consumerism and glut-tony may just be the ultimate expression of our attitude to food and health - a crescendo of excess at the end of the year. But how did we get here and how can we find the true meaning of Christmas for our mouths, stomachs and health

for the winter ahead?It is always good to remember that Christmas in Britain was always a time to see

in the winter and prepare for the colder months to come. The difference between then and now is the availability of the food itself; when we relied on what the land gave us – what we grew and raised – every calorie was precious, especially those from fat, the best compact source of energy to see you through the winter. Now calories are too abundant and living in centrally heated homes, we have removed the need to produce as much body heat from fat. The motivation of a feast at the height of winter no longer fits with the way we live.

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Positive changes for Christmas that can follow into the New Year:

Seasonal FoodFoods in season in December in-clude celery, red cabbage, swede, pumpkin, celeriac, turnip, sprouts, beetroot and pears – a great mix-ture of vitamin C and the colourful plant chemicals carotenoids to support correct immune function for the winter months ahead. Turkey and game provide tryptophan and vitamin D to ward off Seasonal Af-fective Disorder

Buy localFind a local organic delivery box scheme that will send you seasonal food from your local environment – you can then learn to practice the lost art of cooking with what you have, rather than deciding what to shop for.

Good butcherIf you eat meat, find a good butcher and discuss the option of wild game or buy an organic turkey for the Christmas Day meal.

NutsChestnuts are a wonderful protein rich and tasty snack or the basis of a nut roast for Christmas day.Remember, Christmas is not a festi-val of sugar! The overindulgence of sweets, chocolate, pies and cake is the worst way to see yourself through the New Year into winter – see this as a time to build your resources and help your body to ward off illness. Have the more traditional shelled nuts, fruit and make some ginger cookies and mince pies.

Get outsideGet out into the cold – Britons watch an average of 8 hours TV a day over

the holidays in our centrally-heated homes. Walking, playing and laugh-ing outdoors will get your brain and circulation going and make your body create heat rather than store fat.

Spend lessSpend less money on things you don’t need and lessen the stress of financial worry that is so detrimental to the digestion and immune system.Have a good time! In the spirit of the original celebration, do what you need to do to prepare yourself for the cold months ahead. That may be more about relaxing and recuperating than creating the perfect modern day feast.

Charlotte practises as a Nutri-tional Therapist and Yoga Teacher in Brighton – see www.charlotte-wattshealth.com/yoga and is the author of The De-Stress Diet at www.de-stressyourlife.com

Christmas


HeavenlyTRUFFLES

Natural Nutritionist Nicki Edgell of Cliffe Osteopaths in Lewes shares her recipe for delicious festive truffles.

ingredientsdates: 1 cupApricots: 1 cupAlmonds: 2 cupssunflower seeds: 1 cup Pumpkin seeds: 1 cupZest and juice of a lemon Zest of an orangeCinnamon: 1 tspAllspice: 1 tsp

extra virgin coconut oil: 1 tbspground raw cacao nibs: ½ cup or 1 tbsp green & Blacks cocoa powderMetHOdsoak the fruit in the lemon juice and spices, and soak the nuts and seeds in water overnight. drain and rinse nuts/seeds and grind using a hand blender or in a food processor. then add remaining ingredients and puree until blended together. the mixture should be soft but not sticky. Add more cocoa

powder if too sticky. Breakoff small pieces and roll into balls. roll in cocoa powder or coat in melted g & B dark chocolate for a really special Festive treat. enjoy!For one-to-one nutritional

advice call nicki on 077864

05366. Visit

www.nutritionandhealing.co.uk

for information on cookery

workshops and nutrition

courses.

SPOTlightLocal Shiatsu practitioner,

Amy Law-Smith talks to Wellbeing about the evolution

of her practice, her own development as a practitioner,

and her passion for this ancient therapy.

Life is an exciting journey and my shiatsu training has been with me through the last seven years of my life. during this time the lessons that i have learnt have been life defining and from these experiences my shiatsu has evolved. it went from being a practice that i read about in a book and understood on an academic level to something that became very personal to me, working with energy became a way of life, a state of being.shiatsu is therapy that works on all levels of a person, it is many things to many people.

People seek shiatsu for various reasons; relief from physical problems, emotional pain, or just simply a space for them to be. in my work, my commitment to my own development means i am able to work with whatever people bring and i work towards the changes they

want to create in their lives.i am by nature a person that seeks truth, clarity and love. i believe that a person’s

truth, power and knowing are within themselves and i work to empower, to enable people to go where they want to and to be all that they want to be.Although Life is a journey, it is a journey with no end destination other than to just be - with the support of the special people in my life - the peace and

stillness i have inside, are the biggest gifts imaginable, i would like to thank those people very much. shiatsu is a gently hands on therapy that works to stimulate the energy flow within the body, to correct imbalances and promote well-being. shiatsu is done on a futon on the floor, treatments take place fully clothed, from my shiatsu room in eastbourne. i am open to home visits if this is preferable. i am also open to any questions people

may have about the way i

work or anything i do. 01323

749747 | 07971380547 |

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Popular “starvation diets” that significantly

restrict certain food groups like carbohydrates or encourage living off powdered meal replacements can cause muscle to be broken down resulting in a loss of energy and a slower metabolism. This will leave you feeling lethargic as well as being one of the major causes of yo-yo dieting and regaining all the weight lost. A far healthier way of losing excess fat and keeping it off is to adopt a program that measures your body composition rather than just the number on your bathroom scales.What is unhealthy body composition? Generally speaking, it refers to carrying too much fat in comparison to muscle. Body weight alone (what the scales say) is not a definitive assessment of body composition. Even after losing weight, you might still be considered “over-fat”. This occurs when the weight you lose comes predominantly from

muscle and not from fat, producing unhealthy body composition. There is no single cause of unhealthy body composition. Excessive fat accumulation can result from an imbalance between the calories you take in and the calories you burn, as well as lifestyle influences such as:A high-fat, high-sugar diet Overeating Lack of physical activity Excess alcohol intake Hormone imbalance Better body composition supports:Healthy ageing Cardiovascular healthBone healthEnergy levelsHormone balanceWeight managementHow do I achieve healthier body composition?Tanya Borowski, director of Nutritional Values and fully qualified nutritional therapist runs highly successful body composition programmes called FLT –FirstLine therapy. FLT has been developed by Metagenics in the US and is now taking the UK by storm. In the UK there are only 35 accredited FLT

practitioners who have become the experts in weight management and body composition support. The program has been scientifically designed to help a person lose weight and look slimmer by targeting fat and preserving muscle. A higher ratio of muscle-to-fat may increase the body’s metabolic rate, enabling the body to more effectively burn calories each day. This is in stark contrast to an unhealthy weight loss programme, which may help a person lose weight, but often results in muscle loss without as much fat loss. 6 week FLT body composition package with Nutritional Values includes:-

1. Initial health consultation including full assessment of possible roadblocks to weight loss i.e. hormonal imbalances.2. Four body composition tests -assessing active muscle tissues, fat mass and hydration status.3. A personalized FLT food plan 4. Thee follow-up consultations5. Personalised FLT© pack including:- your weight loss targets, shopping lists, recipe ideas, & weekly report of findings showing your personal body composition changes.6. Six weeks phone and e-mail supportAs such, the program has proved highly effective in:Shedding unwanted body fatIncreasing muscle mass & energyImproving satiety and reducing over eatingEnhancing skin condition

Contact: Tanya Borowski @ Nutritional Values 07515 411056 or [email protected] Cost for the six week package is £150 - that’s just £25 a week!www.nutritionalvalues.co.uk

It’s that time of year again where the crash dieting starts and resolutions are being made to change eating habits “for good this time”!

Words: Tanya BorrowskiA weighty issue…


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The inner journey encompasses many different approaches and techniques that are all aimed at improving a particular area of someone’s life, often somewhere that they feel that they have got stuck in.Often these areas are related to work or relationships, situations where it is easy to get caught in a circular conversation in the mind that ends up going nowhere. And even in good, open and communicative relationships there are often subjects that are not easy to discuss, such as money, sex, having children or not, and, again, the mental loop becomes limiting and more often than not, leads to other problems and difficul-ties, and sadly, to divorces and indi-viduals not speaking to each other anymore. Jerry’s Inner Referencing provides a way out of this loop, using techniques based on discovering the specific needs of each individual. Most of us are familiar with the word “need”, however, oftentimes we use it in ways that define a strategy rather than our true need. For example, we say things such as: “I need a new car to go to work”.

Based on the Inner Referencing model, the person visiting Jerry will find out that, actually, the need could be for ease or comfort or even self-expression. The car is one specific strategy, out of several (i.e. public transportation, bicycle, sharing a ride with someone, etc...), used to reach a workplace while fulfilling the needs for comfort and ease. Upon reaching

the work place the individual can, through her work, fulfill her need for expressing herself and her organiza-tional abilities.

When we are not conscious of our underlying needs, we jump into strat-egies; we “do things”. When we “do things” without knowing what needs we are trying to meet, we oftentimes end up confused, depressed, angry or sad, because we are acting out of unawareness.

Much like a holistic doctor will look beyond the symptoms to the root cause of an illness, so the Inner Referencing process will work on more deep rooted issues to avoid the ‘symptoms’ returning. Jerry Zondervan, explained that his work is aimed at getting to the person’s real feelings and needs. “I am trying to get to the truth of what the person needs,” Jerry explained. “I act as a mirror to help the person find out what they want in their heart, what needs of theirs they are trying to fulfill, rather than what strategies they are using to get to the result.” Jerry helps people discover and release their mental and emotional block-ages to realize their full potential and also brings to his work an approach that has a spiritual aspect. “I like to be delicate with spiritual matters in our “matter-of-factly” society, and

sometimes, once there is confidence in the process, I can offer some spiritual teachings, in particular from the Yogic and Buddhist approaches to life, to bring a deeper level of understanding to the sessions.”

Jerry went on to explain that “The philosophy of the Buddha, as well as Patañjali’s yogic wisdom bring in another dimension for people to absorb and use to improve their own particular life and help gain deeper insight into the issues they refer to as “problems”, and it often helps peo-ple see that a “problem” is really an opportunity for growth, rather than a situation in which we are irremediably stuck.” Ultimately-Jerry stresses-he is there to help the person find their own answers within themselves, and if everybody is in agreement, ancient wisdom can be used to speed up the process.

Jerry offers up to two free tel-ephone/Skype sessions (20 minutes each) or alternatively 2 sessions via email for people to experience his work, and is available throughout the UK on short notice in person (upon arrangement anywhere globally).

Author:Jerry ZondervanInner Referencingwww.caring-for.euconnect@ caring-for.eu

LIVINGfrom the heart


Coping with Winter BluesAs the evenings draw in, it’s easy to start to feel gloomy. With one in four of us expected to succumb to winter blues or full-blown Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), here’s how you can get through the season smiling.

WorDS: Dr J revell

Eat Yourself Happy: A regular source of fruits and

vegetables will help colds at bay and you feeling brighter. It really is worth avoiding those empty calories and quick fixes that will only end up leaving you even lower as they wear off. Be Prepared: It’s said that ‘there’s no such thing as bad weather – just bad clothes’. Take heed and kit yourself out properly. A good pair of shoes will see you through a soggy walk to work nicely.Don’t hibernate: ‘One of the problems during the winter months, is that we become more of a recluse’, says local Hypnotherapist and Life Coach, Sue Drake. Humans are not meant

to hibernate, however much you might feel like it. Hiding away won’t make you feel better. ‘Avoid lie-ins as they can alter our body-clock, leave you feeling stiff and a bit down in the dumps before you even start’, says local Chiropractor, Dr James Revell. Don’t get stuck in bed and end up missing out on precious winter daylight. Get up at your usual time, but go to bed earlier to get more sleep. Winter Fitness: Embrace winter and keep fit and active. Stuart Doree, sports massage therapist, suggests trying out some indoor sports or activity. Just doing some brisk walks will help keep you warm and happier!Wake Up Smiling: Wake up with a “dawn simulator

light” which floods your room with daylight. Studies show it boosts your internal body clock. Think Positive: Learn to think positively. Negative thoughts about the winter months can cause the brain to produce depressive chemicals. Try to focus on the small positives instead even if it’s little things like the train being on time or the traffic lights staying green. Tool Up: Hate de-icing the car? Don’t let the morning frost catch you frantically scratching the windscreen with one of your credit cards. Invest in an ice scraper or, even avoid this hassle altogether with a night ‘car cap’ from Halfords that can be whipped off in the morning (and try to leave that extra 5 minutes

to scrape for a stress-free start.)Keep it all in perspective: Remind yourself that this will pass. By Christmas, the days are already beginning to stretch again. Get out the holiday brochures and start dreaming!Need a helping hand?Contact any of these

practitioners at Lushington

Chiropractic. 01323 722499

www.chirocare.co.uk or visit their

own websites directly.

Sue Drake

www.newinsightshypnotherapy.com

Stuart Doree

www.eastbournemassage.co.uk

Christmas Wellbeing

Open Day Lushington Chiropractic

Thurs 8th Dec 12.00 to 2.30

then 5.00 to 7.30pm: Fantastic

health tips and a range of free

talks. Mini treatment tasters

and things to do: get your

blood pressure checked; have

a posture assessment; try a

free mini massage; speak to

the podiatrist about your feet;

try Chinese acupuncture for

the first time and find out more

about how hypnotherapy could

help you. All of the tasters

and information on the day

is free. Any funds raised on

the day will be donated to

Dr Barnardo’s. Lushington

Chiropractic, 30 Lushington

Rd, E’bourne, BN21 4LL www.

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Light amidst the darknessWords: Janis Muir

In the Northern Hemisphere we are used to the apparent closing down of nature every winter, sometimes the dark mornings and lack of sunlight and warmth are often experienced as depressing. Many of us suffer from winter depression sometimes termed ‘Seasonal Affective Disorder’. This isn’t a new phenomenon and our winter festivals were designed to evoke and celebrate some light in this darkness; to give hope and remind us of the spring to come.Just like in nature, a depressed state of mind is energy gone underground. On the surface is a barren landscape, there is no growth. In fact the reason we often feel so tired when depressed is that much psychic energy or libido is invested in keeping things exactly as they are when in fact one’s own inner nature is calling for growth. But change and revealing what lies beneath (being unknown) is scary, so we invest much energy in resistance. Reactive depression (a reaction to negative events) can also be seen this way, if, like the psychologist Carl Jung, we see outer events as an expression of an inner psychic reality. Often the changes that need to occur are like Rites of Passage that shed the old to bring forth the new. Indeed many societies have rites of passage ceremonies to evoke, symbolise and confirm outwardly an inner change and they are of great value psychologically. It’s as if something wants to be born; the energy goes underground and gestation begins. Winter as a metaphor for the state of depression or the ‘dark night of the soul’ works for me in that beneath that apparently barren surface lie the seeds, bulbs and roots full of potential and waiting to burst forth into life but buried in the unconscious. But as always care must be taken if one explores this darkness, for our conscious ego is but a small part of the whole. Work with the unconscious requires that we explore with sincerity and respect. Every time we give this potential the chance to be born into consciousness is a new birth. A divine birth is celebrated at Christmas and

another ‘recession’ Christmas represents a chance to discover the deeper meaning of this, which is that spark of beauty and divinity within waiting to be born. I read once about a lovely idea; that friends and family write down three things they love about all the others on separate bits of paper sealed in envelopes put on the Christmas tree to be opened and read on Christmas Day. When our true essence is reflected back at us this way we believe in ourselves. This present costs so little but its value is high.Time and time again it has been shown that a positive outlook strengthens the immune system which often feels weakened in winter. I am reminded of a saying attributed to Cattwg the Wise (a 6th Century Welsh saint): Shouldst thou desire to divert a person from his fault, bestow on him a good word again and again; for a man will be better by being commended, he will become worse by being censured. I once walked along feeling quite well when a friend greeted me saying, ‘How are you, you don’t look too well.’ My energy plummeted along with my mood! I think Cattwig was wise, knowing that negative words can be absorbed and taken on board especially when we are young or in a vulnerable state. To find light in the darkness often involves sacrifice and letting go of what no longer serves our higher purpose. I read about an elderly lady who dreamt that she stood in a dark room looking out into the night with only a lighted candle on the window sill. All of a sudden an icy wind came and blew out the candle leaving the room in darkness. But on the other side of the window in the night darkness she still saw the reflection of the candle where miraculously the flame of the candle still burned. She died not long after. So although Christmas can be tinged with sadness especially when we get older, look at the symbolism of the red berries for sacrifice, the evergreen for life everlasting, the angel on the tree (to know we are supported) and the fairy for magic; and don’t forget the lights in the darkness that represent our own inner light that once found again can never be lost; truly a Divine Birth.



Asking yourself what wellbeing means to you is the simple but powerful foundation for enjoying it in your life. We catch up with local Life Progress Coach, Laurence Davies who explains some simple steps he uses with clients to kick-start the journey to wellbeing!

Clarifying what wellbeing means for you, and committing to

the actions that support it, is the key to vibrant wellness. Wellbeing means different things to different people. What does wellbeing mean to you? Health; a sense of vibrancy; balance in your life and emotions; time and space to enjoy yourself; a sense of security…When I work with clients, often the first step to wellbeing is to make a list of what it really means to that person. This process alone

can be deeply nourishing and emotionally centering. It can be both enjoyable and transformative to spend some time sitting, breathing and contemplating (journaling, or even talking with a friend) about what wellbeing means to you and what it feels like. Not only is this enjoyable in itself, it also calls the now well-known “law of attraction” to your aid. It also allows you to look more closely at the actual steps you take in your life to support your wellbeing. After all, if your connection with what

wellbeing looks and feels like to you isn’t strong, how will you discover what you can actually do to support it in your life? We are often nagged by self-judgemental thoughts, what we “should” be

doing, without being authentically connected to the motivation to do so. The true connection with your personal picture of wellbeing is what allows you to take genuine command of your life and help yourself flourish. The important next step, and one that can often trip us up, is actually committing to building these actions into our lives. Challenges will come up, but don’t worry, recognising these, and considering what you can do about them is the key. Look honestly at yourself with self-acceptance and compassion. My experience and firm conviction is that there are always ways to overcome these challenges, and

create a life that allows you to experience the full vibrancy of yourself, by

putting wellbeing in the centre of your life.

Free 20 minute telephone consultation! Email

laurence.powerofperspective@

googlemail.com to claim, with

‘Wellbeing free consultation’

in the subject line. Subject to

availability, offer valid until 31st

December 2011. Laurence

Davies is based at Equilibrium

Complementary Health Clinic

in Lewes (www.equilibrium-

clinic.com). For more

information on his one-on-one

coaching, workshops and

classes around Sussex visit:

www.powerofperspective.org

Wellbeingcoaching

“We are often nagged by self-judgemental thoughts... what we should be doing.”

The Power of Committing to your

5 steps to activate wellbeing in your life!1) Make a list of what wellbeing means to you. What does it consist of? What does it feel like?

2) Consider what actions would support this.3) Make decisions to commit to these actions.

4) Consider what gets in the way and how you can meet these challenges.

5) Look honestly at yourself with compassion and reconnect to the value you are putting on your wellbeing.

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