Mastering the Gift of Mutual Mentorship (2017-01-18)

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Mentoring is a gift…

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Are you seeking a handout or real help?

Do you want an answer or are you really looking to learn?

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Do you know what help you want and how to ask for it?

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Think of it as a game of Chess…


The MIT Sloan Review


You can easily ask for the next move…



But wouldn’t you rather learn how to master the game?



Answers are for history lessonsQuestions are for future breakthroughs

Breakthroughs present opportunities for Startups


“We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we

created them."

Albert Einstein


Skills


Question Answers!


Are they appropriate for YOU? Tempt you to take the road already traveled Don’t develop curiosity… Combinatorial thinking can be much more powerful than

individual answers

… and what happens when you don’t have someone there to give you answers?


How about asking for questions?


SERIOUSLY!• Think about it… when you were

asked a really great question, did it get your mind working?

• Consider asking your mentor for great questions to help you puzzle the answer for yourself…

…enabling the “AHA!” moment


What’s stopping you from answering your own questions?


What do you need?• A new skill?• An experience?• Some knowledge?

How and where can I best get these?

Is it one-off help or is it an enduring kind of learning you need?

Mentorship is often only a part of the solutionSometimes mentors are just pointers to other resources


Mentors & Mentees


So how do you find the right questions?

Could you ask the market ?• Ask the customer, user, potential market?

At least understand their view of the problem


Tools


Tools for guiding you to the right questions…• Brainstorming• Research• Discovery, exploration• Field work, research• Surveys• Landing Pages• Etc…

• Frameworks (my personal favorite)


Problem solving skills…


See article on • 8 Levels of Problem Solving• 8 Ways to Encourage Breakout Solutions

Including a story of how Amazon turned a problem into a billion dollar business

http://www.mjskok.com/resource/how-amazon-turned-problem-bn-opportunity


Mentors: Nothing worse…


… than answering the wrong question well

Newton’s Apple vs Apple’s Newton


Startup Secret:

“Don’t take advice blindly, take it mindfully”Your mind and instincts are your best resources to set a course for something that can work for YOU.


Mentors: Develop your Mentees!


AHA!

Eureka!

&*!^#%!


Enabling the Eureka! moment…


Mentor to Mentee test:• If I give you this answer, then what will you do with it?• What comes next?

(Hint: If it only advances you one step, it's probably not a good question or answer. Remember the chess game, are you helping them master it?)


Enabling the Eureka! moment…


Example:Question for answer:• Mentee: Should I price this at x or y?• Mentor: y

Question for question:• Mentee: how should I charge for my product?• Mentor: where is the core value, who will see that and how will they value it?


What are you trying to develop in your Mentee?


Mentors, if you’re not giving Mentees answers, what are you giving them?• Curiosity• Joy of learning• Confidence to try• Resourcefulness, initiative – eg EXTERNAL validation

A journey from AHA to WOW - I can do this !!• Enlightenment


Mentors


Be open, honest and accurate wherever possible Don’t be afraid to say you don’t know either! Always look for teaching moments Bring humor, have fun!

“To encourage and beyond!” with apologies to Buzz Lightyear


Remember


For Startups in particular:

“There is no failure, only learning”#nomorefear #onlylearning

So make it safe and leave room to fail / learn


Startup Secret:

“Things are rarely ever as good as they seem, or as bad as they seem in the moment”

THE MENTOR’S ROLE IS TO PICK THE MENTEE UP WHEN THEY ARE DOWN, AND KEEP THEM FROM RISING TOO FAR UP!


How do you know you’re a good mentor or mentee?


Is this working?• Ask for feedback!

How do you improve?• Ask for measures for success!


Record & review regularly


Mentees - record what you learned!• Share with your mentor at your next checkpoint• How you learn is a great guide for your mentor to teach you

Mentors – figure out how to coach your specific mentee• Everyone learns differently, successes AND failures

Book: "On Managing Yourself” Review regularly

• Mutual feedback• If the relationship isn’t working… it won’t fix itself!


Aren’t we all possibly mentors?PEERS…


Peer Mentorship


The power of peer mentorship...• Who else are you on this journey with?

Co founders? Other founders, entrepreneurs? Other peers in school? Friends? Family (can be tricky!)


Surprise!

People trying to learn themselves, often make the best mentors, because they’re asking questions!


Mentoring is a gift…


The question is: • Do you have it?or • Do you give it?

Neither: At it’s best, giving and receiving


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The importance of YOU in the equation…

“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says I’m possible."

- Audrey Hepburn


Thank you!

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