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Transcript of Intimate Relationships and Communication Chapter 4.
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Developing Intimate Relationships
Successful Relationships require:– Positive Self-concept and Self-esteem
• developed in infancy and childhood
• gender roles
• attachment
• adult styles of loving
• less than ideal childhood can still have a successful relationship
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Developing Intimate Relationships
Successful Relationships require:– Friendships
• based on companionship, respect, acceptance, help, trust, loyalty and reciprocity
• may be longer lasting and more stable
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Love, Sex, and Commitment
One of the most basic and profound human emotions.
These 3 are linked ideals in intimate relationship.
Characteristics of love, sex and commitment.
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Sternberg’s Classifications of Love
Based on degrees of intimacy, passion and commitment:– Liking– Infatuation– Romantic– Fatuous– Empty– Companionate– Consummate
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The Pleasure and Pain of Love
Recognize the human emotions– Two components:
1. Physiological arousal
2. Emotional explanation
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The Transformation of Love
All relationships change over time. High levels of passion. Growth of intimacy. Reduction of romance and or passion to the
transformation of deep love.
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Stresses on a Intimate Partnership
Unequal or Premature commitment Unrealistic Expectations Competitiveness Balance of Time together and apart Jealousy
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Successful Relationships
Realistic expectations Mutual trust Open communication Effective ways to resolve conflict Agreement on religious/ethical values Equal roles Balance of individual and joint interests
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Ending a Relationship
Reasons why? Guidelines of a breakup
– Fair chance– Be fair– Be tactful– Time for resolving your anger and pain– The value of the experience
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Communication
Nonverbal Ability to interpret nonverbal messages Self-disclosure Listening Feedback is a constructive response Gender differences in communication
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Conflict and Conflict Resolution
Conflict resolution skills are vital for maintaining intimate relationships.
1. Clarify the issue.2. Find out what each person wants.3. Identify various alternatives.4. Decide how to negotiate.5. Solidify the agreements.6. Review and negotiate.
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Pairing and Singlehood
Choosing a Partner.– Attraction.– Similarities.– Communication.– Acceptance.
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Dating
Different cultures have different rituals for finding a mate.
American Culture.– Getting to know each other.– Traditional male-female dating pattern.– Dating of young people.
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Partnership
Gay and Lesbian– Sexual orientation– Homosexual relationships in relation to
heterosexual relationships– Traditional gender roles– Societal attitudes
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Singlehood
Diverse group Factors that contribute to a growing number Advantages Disadvantages Enjoyment depends upon:
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Divorce
High rates.. Why?– Process of Divorce.
• Physical separation.
• Emotional separation.
– Greatest stress producing event next to the death of a spouse.
– Recovery from divorce.– Remarriage.
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Family Life
Becoming a Parent Family life cycle Preparation for
parenthood– Own stability and readiness
to be a parent
– Physical health
– Teenage parenting
– Over the age of 35
– Nutritional habits
– Genetics
– Financial
– Considered educational and career plans
– Emotionally ready
– Social support
– Attitudes and aptitudes
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Preconception Care
Preexisting medical condition
Current use of medications and drugs
Use of tobacco and/or alcohol
Past problems with pregnancy
Disease risks and immunization history
Dietary habits Family history of
genetic diseases or multiple births
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Birth of First Child Stressful transition Return to traditional gender roles Each stage of the Family Life Cycle
– New parents:• worry about choices and mistakes• no set rules• most important is to promote satisfaction for
all family members.
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Birth of First Child
Later stages: balance between giving freedom and setting limits
Marital satisfaction tends to decline when children are in school
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Building Blocks of Parenting
Modeling Trust Respect Love and Discipline Honesty Positive Statements Time, Attention, Concern
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Single-parent Families
Differences to a traditional family life cycle.
Difficulties experienced as a single parent. Single Fatherhood. Children from single-parent families.
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Stepfamilies or Blended Families
3 out of 4 women and 4 out of 5 men will remarry. Should not be expected to duplicate the emotions
and relationships of an intact family. Healthy stepfamilies are less cohesive and more
adaptable than healthy intact families. Allow for more individual differences.
More of a history they have the more of a family unit is built.
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Qualities of Successful Families
Commitment Appreciation Communication Time together Spiritual wellness Coping with stress and crisis