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IMPROVING INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
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Communication Climate
The emotional feelings that are present when people interact with one another
Communication climates are metaphors for the feelings we have when interacting with others
Possible relational climates:-stormy-cold-sunny-warm
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How is communication climate determined?
By how communicators speak and act toward one another
By how much communicators feel that they are valued by the other person
The way another person treats us is often an indicator for how they feel toward us
We interpret other’s behaviors in order to determine how important we are to them
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Confirming responses
Messages that tell you that you are valued by the other person
Examples of confirming messages:“you matter to me”“you are special” Confirming messages may be
displayed verbally or nonverbally
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Three types of confirming messages
Recognition- showing recognition of another person’s presence
Acknowledgment- to recognize and validate another’s ideas and feelings
Endorsement- recognizing another’s ideas and feelings and showing agreement for them.
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Disconfirming responses
Messages that deny the values of another person
May take the form of disagreeing with or ignoring another person’s message
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How Do Communication Climates Develop?
Climates begin as soon as two people begin to communicate
The type of messages sent will determine if the climate will be good or bad
Verbal and nonverbal messages contribute to the feel of the climate
They develop according to communicators responses to one another
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Self-perpetuating Spirals
A spiral takes place when communicators reciprocate and build upon the messages that are sent to one another
Each person’s message reinforces the other’s message
Communicators build on one another’s messages
There are positive and negative spirals
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Two types of conflict spirals
Escalatory conflict spirals- one attack leads to another attack, and continues to build
De-escalatory conflict spirals- when communicators decrease amount of involvement with communication by continued withdraw
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The Gibb Categories for Defensive and Supportive
Behaviors
list of six pairs of contrasting messages that may either lead to confirming or disconfirming messages
Using confirming messages and avoiding disconfirming messages encourages positive relationships
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Gibb’s six pairs of Defensive and Supportive
behaviors:Defensive SupportiveEvaluation vs. DescriptionControl vs. Problem
OrientationStrategy vs. SpontaneityNeutrality vs. EmpathySuperiority vs. EqualityCertainty vs. Provisionalism
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Evaluation vs. Description
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Evaluative Communication
statements that come across as judgmental
Often involve an accusatory tone “you” statements Put the other person on the
defense
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Descriptive communication
focuses on the thoughts and feelings of the speaker instead of judging the listener
Describe how the other person’s behavior has effected him or her, rather than just judging it
Often involve “I” statements
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Control vs. Problem Orientation
Control- when sender tries to impose a solution on the receiver with little regard of how that person feels
Problem orientation- involves both communicators seeking a solution that is equally satisfying
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Strategy vs. Spontaneity
Strategy- involves the use of manipulation in order to get someone to behave a certain way
Spontaneity- the use of honesty to get others to behave a certain way
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Neutrality vs. Empathy
Neutrality- a neutral attitude shows a lack of concern for the other
Empathy- showing an understanding for what the other person is going through
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Superiority vs. Equality
Superiority- when people act as is they are better than others
Equality- when people behave as though they are equal to everyone else
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Certainty vs. Provisionalism
Certainty- messages that tell the receiver that the sender’s mind is already made up
-not open to suggestion Provisionalism- willing to
acknowledge other points of view even if they feel they have already made up their mind
- involves keeping an open mind
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ASSERTIVE BEHAVIOR
Enables an individual to act in his or her best interests without denying or infringing upon the rights of others
Allows people to speak their minds without hurting or threatening others
Allows people to express anger or disappointment without acting aggressively
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Four characteristics of assertive communicators
1. They are open about their feelings2. They are not anxious, they deal with
stressful situations calmly3. They are contentious, they stand up
and argue for their rights, even if this might entail a certain disagreement or conflict
4. They are not intimidated and are not easily persuaded by others
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PRINCIPLES FOR INCREASING
ASSERTIVENESS Analyze the assertive behavior of
others Analyze your own behaviors Record your behaviors Rehearse assertive behaviors Act on it, respond assertively when
given the chance
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Five characteristics of an assertive message
1. Behavioral description2. Your interpretation of the other’s
behavior3. A description of your feelings4. A description of the consequences5. A statement of your intentions
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CONFLICT
“Expressed struggle between at least two interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals, scarce rewards, and interference from the other parties in achieving their goals.”
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Expressed struggle…
Showing unhappiness or disappointment about a situation verbally or nonverbally
Both parties must be aware that a conflict exists in order to be in conflict
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Perceived incompatible goals…
Conflicts usually appear to be win-lose.
Those in conflict often assume that only one person can win ( so he or she fights to be the winner)
Although conflicts may appear to be win-lose there is often a win-win solution available
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Perceived scarce rewards…
Conflicts usually come about because partners believe there isn’t enough of something to go around. (i.e. money, food, love, jobs, time, etc.)
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Interdependence
In one way or another those in conflict are dependent upon each other for something
If both parties did not need one another they would not be motivated to pursue the conflict
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Three types of conflict
WIN-LOSE- one person wins the battle and one person looses (one party leaves satisfied, while the other leaves dissatisfied)
LOSE-LOSE- both parties lose (both parties leave with a feeling of dissatisfaction)
Compromise- a type of lose-lose conflict, both parties give in and leave dissatisfied
WIN-WIN-both parties win (both parties leave with a feeling of satisfaction)
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STEPS IN CREATEING A WIN-WIN CONFLICT
1. Identify your problem and unmet needs2. Set a specific time to deal with conflict (one
that puts both parties in a positive climate)3. Describe problem and needs4. Check back with other, in order to ensure
understanding5. Ask other what his or her needs are6. Paraphrase to make sure you understood7. Negotiate a solution8. Follow up on solution that was decided upon
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NEGOTIATE A SOLUTION
1. Identify and define conflict2. Generate a number of possible
solutions together3. Evaluate the alternative solutions
together4. Decide on the best solutions
together
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IN CONCLUSION
WE CAN ALL BE BETTER AT DEALING WITH CONFLICT WITH A LITTLE KNOWLEDGE AND A LOT OF PRACTICE