“I’m SO Angry!”
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Transcript of “I’m SO Angry!”
Conflict Management slides 2-14 Resolution Strategies slide 15
Bullying slides 16-18
Communication/NegotiationRefusal Skills Slides 19-20
Peer Pressure slides 21-25
Decision Making slides 26-29
“I’m SO Angry!”
Which movie to go see Cut off in traffic Someone spreading rumors ‘Stay at home mom’ or a career How late you can stay at a party Spending money How and where to spend your time Parents disagree with clothes/ hairstyle Can’t go to a school event because it falls on a
religious holiday You were excluded from a group
“What are we so mad about anyway? (examples)
◦ Conflict: a disagreement between people with opposing view points, ideas, or goals.
◦ Conflicts can be an exchange of words◦ Group confrontations can be ongoing◦ Conflicts that involve weapons can be serious
What is Conflict
Some conflicts are with YOURSELF!
1. Resources: something usable, such as goods, property, money or time.Examples??? Couples who fight over finances, whichrestaurant, flu shot dispensed, study or go to the mallwith your mom, fighting over the computer…
2. Values: your beliefs and ideas that you consider importantExamples??? Browns fan, daily PE class, politics,
3. Emotional Needs: the need to belong and feel respected and worthwhile examples??? Left out, disrespected, put down, feel it’s unfair didn't make the science Olympiad, sports team etc…
What Causes Conflict? 3 major reasons
Think of a conflict you’ve had recently and briefly describe.
Answer the following questions in your notes.
1.What was it about?2. What caused it? (Resources, Values, Emotional)
3. Was it resolved? Explain. If not what are some ways it can be resolved?
Activity
Managing my Anger/ConflictIf I learn to manage my
anger then…If I don’t and conflicts get
out of hand then…
Release frustrations of life.
Calls Attention to Problems
Helps us understand self and other’s values
Increases motivation to take action
Brings about change Healthier relationships
Anger can build and boil over
Can lead to violence Irrational thinking Not pleasant to be
around Lead to depression
(esp.boys)
Calm. It. Down.
Brainstorm
Ask Questions; to learn the other
person’s point of view
Attack the Problem- not the
person!
Explain how you feel; Let each
person tell their side
Talk to a trusted adult
Positive Ways to Manage Anger
Take a time out to cool down
COOL OFF– Calm Down
Attack the Problem not the person No name calling or put downs
Make a list Find a middle ground Find a creative solution
Brainstorm reasonable ways to handle the situation
Explain how his or actions make you feel
“I Feel…”
“hmmm how would I feel”Ask Questions
Learn the the other person’s point of view
If you cannot resolve problem yourself.
Ask for Help
Take a time out ◦ to calm down and think through my anger.
Allow each person to tell his or her side◦ then paraphrase the other persons position.
Let each person ask questions◦ in order to view the issue from the others point of
view. Keep brainstorming solutions
◦ either to find the middle ground or creative solution
Effective Conflict Management or Resolution Strategies
◦ Conflict is a normal part of most relationships because people have different perspectives and priorities. Conflict is inevitable.
◦ People can also be hurtful to each other because of thoughtlessness, annoyance, poor boundaries, and experimenting with negative uses of their power without realizing the impact.
Conflict vs. Bullying
Learning how to take charge of your own emotional and physical safety, how to act safely and respectfully towards others even if you feel frustrated or upset, how to set boundaries and respect the boundaries of others.
Conflict vs. Bullying
Steps to reduce cyber bullying 1. Do not respond or reply electronically2. Save the evidence3. Tell a trusted adult4. Report the issue to the cite
Cyber Bullying
Communication- The exchange of thoughts, feelings, beliefs and wants between two or more people.
Communication is important because…o It can start and make relationships strongo Helps people grow closero Vital in many areas of life ( work place,
marriages)
Communication Skills
Verbal Tone of voice Express feelings
through words
Non-Verbal Body Language Eye Contact Posture Facial Expressions Gestures
Communication Skills
Mixed Messages:
Occur when your
words say one
thing but your
body language
says another.
Say no in a firm voice Tell why not Offer other ideas Promptly leave
Refusal and Negotiation Skills
Pressure is the feeling that you are being pushed toward making a certain choice. A good or bad choice.
A peer is someone in your own age group.
Peer pressure is—you guessed it—the feeling that someone your own age is pushing you toward making a certain choice, good or bad.
Peer Pressure
Positive vs. Negative Peer Pressure
Positive Pressure of getting into
college Pressure to get to school
on time Pressure to make a
team/club Pressure to follow the
rules Pressure to respect
others
Negative Underage drinking Underage smoking Stealing Fighting Bullying
want to be accepted and liked by people their own age
are afraid of being rejected by others want to be liked and don’t want to lose a
friend want to appear grown up don’t want to be made fun of don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings aren’t sure of what they really want don’t know how to get out of the situation
What’s so difficult about avoiding peer pressure? Reasons we give in…
Insults: making a person feel bad for not doing something, so that they eventually will
Reasoning: pressure by giving a person reasons why they should do something
Rejection: pressure by threatening to end a relationship or a friendship
How do Peers… Pressure?
Sometimes a friend or peer can say something directly to you, that puts a lot of pressure on you and makes it hard to say no. This is an example of SPOKEN pressure.
You might think you are supposed to dress or act in a certain way because it seems like everyone else is doing it, or because it’s the “cool” thing to do. When you feel this way- even though nobody has said anything to you this is UNSPOKEN pressure.
Spoken vs. Unspoken Pressure
Decision making is the process of choosing what to do by considering the possible consequences of different choices.
Making a decision is not something you do from habit — it requires conscious thought.
Successful decision-making means making a choice that has enough of the important satisfactions (good) in it to outweigh the less important dissatisfactions (bad).
Decision Making
1. Identify the Problem◦ (Identify, ask yourself questions, what choices do you need to make and who else if anyone is involved)
What are the choices◦ (List everything, ask for suggestions and make sure they are safe.)
Gather Informationo (what’s helpful to know before making a decision)
Consider outcomes and values ◦ (honesty, respect and trust) Consequences of each options Healthful Ethical Legal and Parent
approval)
Make a decision and act◦ (Ready to take action, choose a course that supports your values, the impact of all choices on self and
others and ask a trusted adult if unsure.)
Evaluate your decision ◦ (Reach expectations, how did it affect others, how you feel about yourself and what could you do
differently)
Decision Making Skills
In everyday life we often have to make decisions fast, without enough time to systematically go through the previous actions and thinking steps. In such situations the most effective decision making strategy is to keep an eye on your goals and then let your intuition suggest the right choice.
Decision Making…
Materials: 1 Case studies worksheet (front/back) 1 Making Decision: Case Studies
Directions: Read through all 4 situations on the Making Decision: Case studies paper. Choose 2 of the situations and complete the Case Studies Worksheet. Use the one side for the first situation, and the reverse side for the following situation.
** OPTION- You may also choose 1 situation from the paper, and than make up your own situation or use a situation you are currently going through, or recently went through for the reverse side of the paper.
DUE Dates: 4th,5th and 6th -10/247th, and 8th- 10/25
Case Studies Activity