Friends

Review Quiz

• What does RBA stand for? (3 pts)

• List 2 Deposits into the RBA: (2pts)

• What are the 2 C’s in Healthy Relationships? (2pts)

• List one of the WAYS we communicate. (1pt)

• List one of the STYLES we communicate. (1pt)

• List 2 of the 4 Listening skills (2 pt)

Quote

• Quote: • A friend is someone who knows the

song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words

Journal

• Think of your most memorable moment with a friend/friends and write about it. What made is special, memorable, fun, serious etc.

• Your biggest fight you have had with a friend. Did you recover and what why do friends fight?

• Make a list of people that you consider your best friends (BFF) • What characteristics about them makes them

special to you and why they are your best friend

Ms. Ross Journal response

• 7th grade jacuzzi/laundry mat/vogue/NB girls trip

• BFF’s• Sister Lisa, Brother Shane, Julie (24yrs)

• Accepts me for who I am faults and all• Listens• Inspires• Fun• Laugh and play

Friendships

• You will develop many kinds of friendships throughout your life.

• Common attributes of Friends• Similar values, interests, beliefs and

attitudes• Share joy/disappointment/dreams and

concerns• Respect/care and support• Concern for each others safety

Different Kinds of Friendships

• Casual and close:

• Online:

• Platonic: relationship with member of the opposite sex

Problems in Relationships

• Cliques: small circle of friends, usually with similar backgrounds or tastes who exclude others

• Envy/Jealousy:• Things to ask yourself:

• what is making you feel jealous• Is my friend trying to deliberately make me feel this way• What can I do to manage/reduce these feelings• What positive qualities make this person a good friend

• The friendship changes for whatever reason• Pressure you to do things that are unsafe• Say hurtful things or disrespect you• Change your beliefs

Trouble in Paradise

• Allen ran up to Dave on the way to school. “Dave, what are you doing after school? Im going out with Eric’s group tonight and they invited you to come along.

• “Sorry I’ve got a project to finish” said Dave. “why do you want to hang out with those guys, anyway? I hear some of them have been in trouble with the police.”

• “They’re fund to be around,” Allen said. Then he added angrily, “Why are you so uptight?”

• Dave looked at Allen. They had been friends since gradeschool, but lately Allen seemed to lose interest in doing the things that they used to enjoy together. Allen quit the tae kwon do class and the math study group they were in. Now Allen was spending time with a rough crowd and getting into trouble at school. D

• Dave wondered how he should respond???

Writing

• Write and ending to the scenario in which Dave communicates to Allen that he thinks their friendship is changing.

• Make sure Allen knows Dave has decided to pursue healthier friendships. Use the following as guidelines:

• Write ending in dialog format (minimum 3 paragraphs)• Use at least one I message• Speak calmly and clearly• Use respectful tone• Listen carefully and ask appropriate questions• Use forms of body language (appropriate)

Peer Pressure

• Peers can influence how you think, feel and act.• Positive Peer Pressure• Negative Peer Pressure

• Harassment: persistently annoying others.

• Manipulation: indirect, dishonest way to controlor influence other people.

Methods of Manipulation

• Making threats

• Blackmail

• Mocking or Teasing

• “Guilt Trips”

• Bargaining

• Flattery

• Bribing

Assertive Refusal Skills

• State Your Position:• NO, firmly and simply

• Suggest Alternatives:• Suggest another activity

• Stand Your Ground:• Make it clear you meant what you said• Remove yourself from the situation

How to Make Others Like YouDale Carnagie- How to Win Friend and Influence People

• Six ways to make people like you1. Become genuinely interested in other

people2. Smile.3. Remember that a person's name is to that

person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

4. Be a good listener. 5. Encourage others to talk about

themselves. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.

6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.