EMPATHY

October 2, 2006

Charles Nesson

serve chocolates

be livingnot dying

onecannot

play this

game

Battle of Algiers

facts in context

Context is crucial to how we see facts. The meaning we give to facts often varies with our point of view.

There may be multiple ways to see facts, depending on what (or whose) viewpoint we take.

  A BIG guy chasing a little guy?

Look again. Context is crucial. 

CyberOnefirst stone – daniel gilbert

our reasons and our pains are more palpable, more obvious and real, than are the reasons

and pains of others

this leads to escalation of mutual harm

to the illusion that others are solely responsible for it

to the belief that our actions are justifiable responses to theirs

EMPATHIZE

it means to sense the hurt or the pleasure of another as s/he senses it

and to perceive the causes thereof as s/he perceives them

- carl rogers

but without ever losing the recognition that it is *as if* you were hurt or pleased

empathy

To perceive the internal frame of reference of another with accuracy and with the emotional components and meanings which pertain thereto as if one were the person,

but never losing the "as if"

condition.

empathy in dispute resolution

wooing the undecided

[[homework food for thought: discuss the “as if” condition]]

to court

• chose your client’s best story • start where your client’s story

starts.

empathy in issue identification

• exams• interviewing client

empathy in dispute resolution

wooing the other

to other

• serve chocolates• start with the other’s story• draw the other’s attention in• empathize so that the other

understands that you understand

break

• serve chocolates

form groups