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2. No one ever intends for it to happen . . .AbrahamWhen a persons purpose is clear, he can withstandalmost anything. When it has been eroded bydiscouragement and creeping doubt, he is easily tossed bythe every wind.Workbook Page 1 3. Renewing Your PurposeSome of us . . .. . . walk into this seminar with a clear, strong senseof purpose.. . . have had our purpose clouded inthe past few years.And some of us . . .. . . have never had a clearpurpose in our lives. 4. The Life Cycle of a Dream:Birth, Death, and Rebirth 5. Our Goals for This Seminar To sharpen or renew your sense of vision andpurpose, Gods call in your life, To identify your strengths so you can maximizethem, To identify hurdles so you can avoid or overcomethem, and To chart a clear course for the future. 6. Solomon Had It All . . .In Ecclesiastes, Solomon lists all the things he usedto try to fill up his life: Education Pleasure and amusement Fine foods Achievements and fame Accumulated wealth WomenWorkbook Page 3 7. Solomon Had It All . . .His conclusion? All this is meaningless. Horizontal living results in hopelessness. When our dreams are horizontal instead of vertical,we are at cross purposes with God. 8. Symptoms of Death by Inches We almost always take the safeway and are unwilling to takerisks. We go to work to pay the billsand live for vacations. We think of work when werehome and think of home when were at work. Nothing excites us. Most of life is just going through the motions withno purpose. Our thoughts are consumed with trivial have tos. We avoid decisions. 9. We blame others for ourmisfortunes. We daydream about retirement(even though its many yearsaway). We gripe about the specifics ofour ill health far too much. We live in and through our children, and we haveno life of our own. We cant sleep, or we sleep too much. We eat the same things at the same places with thesame people, and talk about the same things dayafter day, week after week, month after month.Workbook Page 4 10. We are almost always grouchy. We withdraw in discouragementor explode in rage . . . or both. We get involved in really dumbbehavior that hurts us andothers, and we wont or cantchange.We talk a lot about what we used to do. Theres nothing we really enjoy or that brings uspleasure. Promotions, moves, deaths, betrayals, and healthall seem to be out of our control. 11. We Say Things Like: Im never able to do what I want to do. I feel smothered by her. I feel so tied down. I wish I could be free. How did I get so much responsibility and so littlehelp and time? Nothing is ever going to change. My life is out of control, andtheres nothing I can do aboutit. I feel hopeless. I dont evenknow how to take the firststep. 12. Im doing all I know to do, but it isnt enough. Imfalling farther behind every day. I wish I could go back and make differentdecisions. Theres nothing I can do about themnow. I need to find out who I really am. 13. Causes of a Dead-end LifeHere are some of the most commonand the mostdevastatingcauses of death by inches: a strained marriage which consumes our mental andemotional energies career disappointments, a belligerent boss, andunrealistic expectations at work children who are out ofcontrol severe or chronic healthproblems in theimmediate family severe financial problems 14. dealing with a family member who has severeemotional or psychological problems, such asalcoholism the corrosive effects of bitterness unconfessed sin an immoral lifestyle the shame of past, unresolved failures 15. constant opposition unrelieved oppression disappointment with God 16. We Try to Cope. We Try to Hide.As the frustration and disappoint-mentbuild over time, the stresscomes out in any of several ways: a volcano, simmering quietlyuntil pressure builds and itexplodes a zombie, emotionless andapathetic, giving up on love andmeaning a wallflower, afraid of being hurt again, unwilling totake risks a critic, finding fault in anything and everythingWorkbook Page 5 17. a Pollyanna, always pleasant,always shallow a clown, covering the emptinessand pain with a few laughs a fixer, unable to solve his ownproblems, so he focuseson others problems a marionette, dancing any time someone pulls itsstring 18. Looking for a StarRemember these principles: Your greatest disappointments are often Godsgreatest divine appointments. A troubled faith is better than no faith at all. Trouble handled well honors God. What others mean for evil, God means for good. Always focus on what youstill have left instead of whatyouve lost. 19. What may be a shock to you is never a surprise toGod. The deeper the valley you walk though, the higher themountain youll climb. Gods silence doesnt mean hes not there. Wherever God guides,He provides. 20. Captains LogWe cant chart a new course until we know where weare. Change requires objectivity. Embracing realityrequires courage.Workbook Page 6 21. Chart and SextantWorkbook Page 6 22. DiscussionWorkbook Page 9 23. EMBRACE RISKAS A WAY OF LIFETAKE RESPONSIBILITYBE HONEST ABOUTYOUR EMOTIONSNEVER STOP LEARNINGVALUE MEANINGFULRELATIONSHIPSDEVELOPSPIRITUAL STRENGTHSEE LIFE ASAN ADVENTURE 24. IntroductionDavid . . .In the face of incredible obstacles,David used his God-given abilities tofulfill Gods call in his life.He chose David his servantand took him from the sheep pens;from tending the sheep he brought himto be the shepherd of his people Jacob,of Israel His inheritance.And David shepherded them with integrity of heart;with skillful hands he led them.(Psalm 78:70-72) Workbook Page 11 25. Keys of Leadership from the Life ofDavid: Hear a clear call from God. Have a shepherds commitment. Have a heart of integrity. Have skillful hands in leading others. 26. The North Star Principles call us to: An intimate walk with God. A commitment to excellence. Endurance. 27. #1 Embrace Risk as aWay of LifeSome of us . . .. . . refuse to take risks.Some of us . . .. . . take far too much risk.Workbook Page 12 28. Risk-averse people need to: realize that life involves risk.Relationships, ventures,decisions..... if we avoid risk, we avoid thejoys and excitement of life. risk doesnt have to be foolhardy. Dont look at theopposite extreme and think thats what you need tobecome. be wise, but take real steps. 29. Risk-takers need to: think. And pray and talk andlisten and think some more. take controlled risks. communicate well with thosearound him. Bring them up to speed. Take as long asthey need. Patiently answer questions. watch your timing. Dont be impulsive. Watchfor Gods hand at work. learn from your mistakes. 30. #2 Take ResponsibilityA Responsible Person: responds instead of reacts. keeps commitments and is trustworthy. is loyal. knows when to be bold and when to be cautious. accepts praise with humility andcriticism with grace. 31. Some of us are blame sponges.Some of us are blame throwers.People who have been deeply hurt often have a victimmentality. They: demand justice demand compensation. demand guarantees that it wonthappen again. 32. People who take responsibility: can say I was wrong when they make mistakes orwhen they sin.can say Thank you when they are complimented. can live in the present and dream about the futureinstead of being dragged down bythe past. 33. #3 Be Honest About Your EmotionsHow we deal with our emotions says a lot about ourintegrity.David prayed, Surely you desire truth in the innerparts; you teach me wisdom in the inmost place.(Psalm 51:6)Workbook Page 13 34. When we are honest about our emotions: we have a window on what is going on in our lives:our disappointments, our joys, our motivations, we allow God to shine His light on the deepest parts ofour hearts, andwe are authentic people. 35. We often wear masks . . . We wear the mask of a hero, but we are afraid to fail. We wear the mask of a comedian to hide our hurt andto divert attention from harsh realities. We wear the mask of someone completely in control,because we are terrified of being out of control. We wear the mask of a nice,accommodating person,because we want to avoidconflict at all costs. 36. We wear the mask of a person who never fails,because we only feel safe if everything goes perfectly. We wear the mask of a caring person, because we hopethat will win appreciation from those we help. We wear the mask of an incompetent slob, becausenobody expects much from somebody like that. 37. We wear the mask of a rebel, because it makes peopleadmire us from a distance. We wear the mask of rage, because we want people tobe controlled by our anger. We wear the mask of a shy, withdrawn person,because most people wont hurt somebody who is sofragile. 38. Captains Log An intimate walk with God. A commitment to excellence. Endurance.Workbook Page 14 39. Chart and Sextant 40. DiscussionWorkbook Page 17 41. EMBRACE RISKAS A WAY OF LIFETAKE RESPONSIBILITYBE HONEST ABOUTYOUR EMOTIONSNEVER STOP LEARNINGVALUE MEANINGFULRELATIONSHIPSDEVELOPSPIRITUAL STRENGTHSEE LIFE ASAN ADVENTURE 42. #4 Never Stop LearningReal power is in the hands of thelearning, not the learned.Ira BlumenthalThere are two kinds of people:dead and alive.People who are alive: are always growing and learning. are committed to excellence. are interesting. have a sense of purpose.Workbook Page 19 43. People who are alive: have a plan for continuingeducation. schedule an hour or two a week toread a book take a class at a local college learn a language take up a new hobby, ask someone to teach you a new skill become an expert on an interesting topic become a student of the history of your community or region take up a new sport subscribe to a tape club; listen to them and implement theprinciples 44. #5 Value Meaningful RelationshipsDavid and His MenII Samuel 5:1-5Even the most goal-oriented of us need rich, meaningfulrelationships. The apostle Paul . . .. . . was incredibly committed tohis Lord and his cause, yet hed