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Creating Personal Change

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Languageis how you use the words thatyou use, will do or cant do,

words with obstacles or

futuristic words, the passion inyour voice, the tone, the wordsthat express confidence and

ability

Your Triad of State

What is your state?

Your state is controlled by you, not someoneelse

Focusis what you decide to focus on.If you focus on the past thenyou cannot achieve the future.If you focus on not being ableto do something then you will

not do it.

Physiologyis how you hold yourself, your physical being,the expressions on your face, the amount of

energy in your body

Physiology

Language Focus

Your Triadof State

How to change oneself


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What are your beliefs?

What controls your beliefs?

Values

Beliefs

Perceptions

Your Beliefs

Beliefsare what you believe in in

every day life

Valuesare the feelings thatyou value most and

strive to have more of

Perceptionsare how you view, orinterpret, what goes

on around you

AssociationsYour beliefs are supported, or created, by

representations or associations to experiences

in the past, propping up your beliefs as if it is atable. These associations can be either positiveor negative. These

are the foundations to your character


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SadnessRejection

Displaced

Depression

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Negativefeelings Determination

FulfilmentAchievement

Satisfied Happiness

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Positivefeelings

What are your feelings?

What creates an emotion or feeling?

You do not feel an emotion, you do anemotion. An emotion is a result of a motionwith energy.

What is it that stops you getting that youwant fear, stress is fear?

Radicalchange in physiology is fastest wayto change fear


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Values

Beliefs

Perceptions

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Associations in your past that creates your beliefs

Foundation of your Character

YourCharacter

YourPersonality

Yourbeliefs

YourTriad of

State

Associations

SadnessRejection

Displaced

Depression

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Negative feelings

Determination

FulfilmentAchievementSatisfied Happiness

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Positive feelings

Your state

creates yourfeelings

Your beliefscreates your

state

Yourassociationscreates your

beliefs

Your feelings

Physiology

Pain Pleasure

What controls your feelings?

What controls your state?What controls your Beliefs?

It is your state that creates your feelings

All behaviour, your state, is controlled by yourbeliefs, values and perception

Your beliefs are supported by associations toexperiences in the past, propping up your beliefs asif it is a table. These associations can be eitherpositive or negative

Radicalchange in physiology is fastest way tochange fear

How do we create maximum output, performance?

It is your choice what you believe and perceive, andthis determines your behaviour

Your character is the inner core. Your personality(words, actions etc) needs to be aligned to theinner core.


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Values

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YourCharacter

YourPersonality

Yourbeliefs

Your

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Associations

SadnessRejection

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Determination


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Your state



state


beliefs

Your feelings

Physiology

Pain PleasureYour mind controls yourpersonality or your state

Since your mind has beenconditioned by your past, yourmind therefore dictates thefeelings that you have in the

present

Your mind controls your state andhence feelings

Controlledby your

Mind


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Values

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YourCharacter

YourPersonality

Yourbeliefs

Your

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Associations

SadnessRejection

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Your state



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beliefs

Your feelings

Physiology

Pain

Controlledby your

Mind

Any negative beliefs will determine negativemindset which determine negative feelings

If you focus on negativeexperiences or on the past, then

your body language will reflectthis, also your language and tone ofvoice becomes negative.

Your negative state will be causedby a negative perception of your

past, or a particular belief systemand values that are holding youwithin that negative state.

You will then develop negativefeelings.


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Values

Beliefs

Perceptions

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YourCharacter

YourPersonality

Yourbeliefs

Your

Triad ofState

Associations

SadnessRejection

Displaced

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Negativefeelings

Your state



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beliefs

Your feelings

Physiology

Pain

Controlledby your

Mind

Any negative beliefs will determine negativemindset which determine negative feelings

To overcome this negative habityou must divorce your mind fromyour past.

So when you have ve feelings,then dont think or analyse thosefeelings, but acknowledge themand stand back to observe

them. Then see how youbehave/feel. This has to berepeated in order to change ahabit.

Also just by changing yourcurrent state (say by standingstraight if you were slouched)would tend to change your

negative feelings about your self.This change needs to berepeated constantly to changethe negative habit.

Think ofnegative

experiences

Negative bodylanguage

Talk of negativeexperiences


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Values

Beliefs

Perceptions

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YourCharacter

YourPersonality

Yourbeliefs

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Associations

SadnessRejection

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beliefs

Your feelings

Physiology

Pain Pleasure

Surface - Personality

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4 Outer -Support

Inner -Character

Inner - Sub-conscious

Relating these differentmodels


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Values

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YourCharacter

YourPersonality

Yourbeliefs

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Positive feelings

Your state



state


beliefs

Your feelings

Physiology

Pain Pleasure

Your mind controls your state andhence feelings

Controlledby your

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ss To create maximum output you need to condition your state to be peak,

forward looking, output orientated.What prevents us from changing to create this peak state?

Often our belief in ourselves prevent us from changing, often they aredetermined from what has happened in the past, our associations. Do our currentbeliefs serve us now?

Our perception of what is happening around us is interpreted to strengthen our

beliefs whatever you perceive you will receive for yourself. So perception couldbe either negative or positive.

The feelings that we value most willeither move us forward or hold us back.There are feelings that we want to avoid and those that inspire us.

What is the peak state that I desire in the future when managing or involved ina project?

What is the yes feeling that I would most like to experience everyday of myworking life?

Write it down


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Creating peak state

To create maximum output you need to condition your state to be peak, forward looking,

output/outcome orientated.

i) Change is a must not a should should never happens.

ii) I must change it

iii) I can change it this is the internal belief in yourself

Continuously ask What is my outcome? what do I really want in any situation. Must have a compellingvision

Know why you want it, know what your purpose is. Purpose provides drive.

Design your state to suit the outcome that you desire, and take massive action the number one thingthat stops taking action is your belief of fear of failure or rejection.

Right strategy to take action & overcome limiting beliefs, get them aligned to achieve your outcome, egovercoming fear, creating rapport, developing relationships, love

Raise your standards, demand more for yourself than anyone else demands from you

See it as it really is

Need to know what you are getting. Know if it is working.

Change your approach until you achieve your outcome


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ss 3 steps to ensure change occurs

i) Leverage

Person needs to link up that not changing will mean massive immediate unbearable levelsof pain. Fear of change inhibits change as change equals pain therefore do not change.

Need to associate, in your gut not just so you feel it, in mind, that to change now equalsmassive levels of pleasure.

ii) Interrupt the limiting pattern.

Repeatedly interrupt the old pattern, or belief, as it occurs, before creating the newpattern, it is like scratching a record so that the wont play again.

iii) Create an empowering alternative pattern

Create a new pattern or belief, repeat it often, reinforce it, reward it, give pleasureuntil it becomes a habit. Demonstrate the benefits that the new pattern has given.


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Changing your habits

Old habit Newhabit

Interrupt

Aware

Assess

Newapproach

Practice andpersistence

Consistency

Conditioning

Competent

What old habit do you to want to avoid, and what new habit do you want?

What interrupts will you use on yourself, to change from one habit to theother, & frequency of interrupt?


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ss Creating change by asking questions, for example:-

What is great about it? And if there was something what would itbe?

What do you really want?

What output do you want?

What makes you feel really valued?

What do you really get excited about?

Whats really great about your life right now?What could you be happy about?

What do you really want instead of this negative pattern?

What are you truly grateful for?

What will you do to make a significant difference?

What are you capable of now even more so than before?

What is not perfect yet?

What would you do in my position?

What would you like to see?


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ss How can you learn from this problem, never to happen again?

How can you turn this round?How can your job be improved?

How can you use this?

How much happier will you feel if you changed?

How can you be of help?

How can you maintain your focus?

How can you achieve perfection?

How can you become a role model for others?

How can you turn adversity into opportunity with integrity?

Are you really making the most effective use of your time right now?

How is this action serving you and adding more value to your life?

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