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Transcript of Chapter 3: Family Communication, Conflict, and Forgiveness.
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Chapter 3:Family Communication, Conflict, and Forgiveness
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The Communication Process• Transactional Process – one in which we
simultaneously affect and are affected by our intimate relations
• Focus is on the interconnectedness of the relationship
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Family Systems Theory• Views the family as an interconnected
system• Developed by Murray Bowen
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Family Systems Theory• Family System is a dynamic entity that consists
of various individuals and their interconnected, intergenerational patterns of interaction.
• The primary function is to bring the parts together and arrange them into a whole, organized entity.
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Figure 3.1: Virginia Satir’s Concept of the Family as a Mobile
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Key Concepts of Systems Framework
• Interconnecting – family members affect and are affected by each other
• Looking at the whole – individual members’ behavior can only be understood by looking at the whole
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Key Concepts of Systems Framework• Establishing boundaries – every system has
some border between it and its environment– Closed boundaries: no information in or
out– Open boundaries: information is
unobstructed, families lose identity• Maintaining balance – families work to
achieve and maintain homeostasis
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Figure 3.2: Types of Boundaries
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Circumplex Model of Marital and Family Systems
• Addresses family cohesion, adaptability, and communication
• Assesses family’s level of functioning
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Figure 3.3: Olson’s Circumplex Model of Family Functioning
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Creating Rules for Communication
• What we can and cannot talk about• Feelings that are allowed to be shared• Decision making• How we can talk about it• Communication strategy
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Table 3.1: Cultural Competence: Enhancing Cultural Communication Skills
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Table 3.1: Cultural Competence: Enhancing Cultural Communication Skills
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Symbolic Interaction Framework• All human behavior revolves around social
behavior where there is an exchange of messages and symbolic meanings between actors.– Symbols: used to share meanings– Roles: a system of meanings• Role strain – competing demands from
multiple roles• Role conflict – conflicting role pressures
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Types of Communication• Communication: the process of making and sharing
meanings– Transaction: parties act as senders and receivers
of information– Process: dynamic and ever changing– Involves Co-Construction: constructing
definitions– Involves Symbols: used to construct meanings
and definitions
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Verbal Communication Exchanges of thoughts, messages, or information
through the spoken wordFundamental Processes of Verbal Communication:
1.Communication Effectiveness2.Perceptual Accuracy3.Predictive Accuracy4.Interpersonal Cognitive Complexity
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Table 3.2: Verbal Communication Processes
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Nonverbal Communication• Emotional communication gestures and
movements that convey our emotions• Occurs with or without the spoken word
• Includes facial expressions, motions of the body, eye contact, patterns of touch, expressive movements, hand gestures and more
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Relational and Non-relationalMessages• Relational – those having something to do
with the partnership• Non-relational – those dealing with issues or
topics outside of the relationship• Decoding – interpreting the unspoken
exchanges
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Types of Emotional Messages
• Positive Emotional Messages– Love, pleasure, affection
• Negative Emotional Messages–Anger and irritation
• Neutral Emotional Messages–Non-specific, ambiguous, hard to interpret
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Private Couple Meanings
• Special interaction between partners• Predictive in nature• Based on information that only partners
share with one another
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Conflict in Relationships
Areas of conflict:• Money matters• Division of household labor• Sex• Tremendous trifles
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Constructive Conflict
• Constructive Conflict – builds relationships and fosters loyalty, commitment and intimacy
• How couples handle conflict determines marital longevity
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Regulated Couples• Use communication patterns that promote
closeness and intimacy– Validating Couple: empathetic, supportive,
seldom express negative emotions– Volatile Couple: charged with intense
emotion, passion, romance, intense disputes but remain intimately connected
– Conflict-Minimizing Couple: avoid conflict, minimize significance of trouble, conflict kept below the surface
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Non-regulated Couples• Have difficulty resolving conflicts, interactions
far more negative– Criticism: involves attack on the partner– Defensiveness: criticism/defend pattern
becomes a cycle of negativity– Contempt: disrespect, scorn, hatred– Stonewalling: communication between
partners shuts down
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Destructive Conflict• May be overt or covert– Denial: when words and actions do not match– Disqualification: when a person covers-up an
expressed emotion– Displacement: when a person takes out anger
on someone else– Disengaged: no emotional closeness– Pseudo-mutuality: false closeness with
underlying anger and hostility
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Functional and Nurturing Communication
• Functional Communication –Addresses the important functions of daily
life• Nurturing Communication–Conveys intimacy, caring, recognition and
validation of family members
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Cornerstones of Communication• Developing Relational Cultures–Relational culture is a framework of
understandings–Coordinate attitudes, actions and
identities of the couple and family
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Cornerstones of CommunicationConfirming messages and responses• Acknowledgement of the other person• Willingness to be involved in the relationship– Recognition: confirming and acknowledging,
may be verbal or nonverbal– Confirming: simple recognition and
acceptance of one another– Acceptance: every family feels they belong
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Cornerstones of Communication• Self-disclosure – voluntarily sharing personal
information• Self-disclosure – Increases as relational intimacy increases– Increases when there are rewards– Tends to be reciprocal– Increases relational satisfaction
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Cornerstones of Communication• Communicate often– Family communication can be enhanced
or hindered by the time spent in the process of communication– Family meetings provide structure and
organization to the family system
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Cornerstones of Communication• Listen actively –means actually hearing what the other
person is saying– reflective listening means paying attention
to verbal and nonverbal messages
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• Table 3.3: Poor Listening Styles
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Cornerstones of Communication• Use humor– Laughing produces endorphins which relax
and calm us– Laughter and humor provide a way to
relieve stress in certain situations–Humor brings people together and helps
keep things in perspective
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Table 3.4: Rank Ordering of the Forgiveness Process by Study Participants