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DefinitionBody language encompassesThe language of body language


DEFINITIONDEFINITION

Process of communicating what you are feeling or thinking by the way you place and move your body rather than by words

Body language - noun - the conscious and unconscious movements and postures by which attitudes and feelings are communicated.


BODILY SPEAKINGBODILY SPEAKING

Less than 35% of the social meanings is actually transmitted by words.

(verbal channel)

So, at least 65% of it is conveyed through the body.

(non-verbal channel)


Constantly exchanged and interpreted.

Mostly at an unconscious level.

Remember- while you are interpreting (consciously or unconsciously) the body language of other people, so other people are constantly interpreting yours.


Body language encompasses:

How we position our bodies.

Our closeness to and the space between us and other people, and

how this changes.

Our facial expressions.

How our eyes move and focus.

How we touch ourselves and others.

How our bodies connect with other non-bodily things, for instance,

pens, cigarettes, spectacles and clothing.

Our breathing, and other less noticeable physical effects, for

example our heartbeat and perspiration.


Did you notice it ?Did you notice it ?


The six universal facial expressions The six universal facial expressions

- recognized around the world- recognized around the world

Happiness Sadness Fear Disgust Surprise Anger


The Language of Body The Language of Body Language :Language :

Kinesics

Proxemics

Physiognomy


EYESEYESSIGNAL PART OF BODY POSSIBLE

MEANINGS

looking right (generally) eyes creating,fabricating, guessing, lying, storytelling

looking left (generally) eyes recalling,remembering, retrieving 'facts'

looking right and up eyes Visual imagining,fabrication, lying

looking right sideways eyes imagining sounds

looking right and down eyes accessing feelings

looking left and up eyes recalling images,truthfulness


MOUTHMOUTHSIGNAL PART OF BODY POSSIBLE

MEANINGS

tight-lipped smile mouth secrecy or withheld feelings

twisted smile mouth mixed feelings or sarcasm

smile - head tilted, looking up

mouth playfulness, teasing, coy

biting lip mouth tension

tongue poke mouth / tongue disapproval, rejection

nail biting mouth / hands frustration, suppression


HEADHEADSIGNAL PART OF BODY POSSIBLE

MEANINGS

head nodding Head agreement

head held high head superiority, fearlessness, arrogance

head tilted to one side head non-threatening, submissive, thoughtfulness


ARMSARMSSIGNAL PART OF BODY POSSIBLE

MEANINGS

crossed arms (folded arms) arms defensiveness, reluctance

crossed arms with clenched fists

arms hostile defensiveness

one arm across body clasping other arm by side (female)

arms nervousness

holding a drink in front of body with both hands

arms / hands nervousness

adjusting cuff, watchstrap, tie, etc., using an arm across the body

arms nervousness


HANDSHANDSSIGNAL PART OF BODY POSSIBLE

MEANINGS

palm(s) up or open hands submissive, truthful, honesty, appealing

hand(s) on heart (left side of chest)

hands seeking to be believed

finger pointing (at a person)

hands aggression, threat, emphasis

finger tips and thumbs touching each other on opposite hands ('steepling')

hands thoughtfulness, looking for or explaining connections or engagement

touching nose, while speaking

hands / nose lying or exaggeration

picking nose hands / nose day-dreaming, inattentive, socially disconnected, stress


LEGSLEGSSIGNAL PART OF BODY POSSIBLE

MEANINGS

uncrossed legs, sitting - general

legs openness

standing 'at attention' legs / body respectful

legs crossed, standing (scissor stance)

legs insecurity or submission or engagement

ankle lock, sitting legs defensiveness

feet or foot direction or pointing

Feet foot direction indicates direction of interest


PROXEMICSPROXEMICSZONE DISTANCE FOR

1. Close intimate 0-15cm0-6in

lovers, and physical touching relationships

2. Intimate 15-45cm6-18in

physical touching relationships

3. Personal 45-120cm18in-4ft

family and close friends

4. Social- consultative 1.2-3.6m4-12ft

non-touch interaction, social, business

5. Public 3.6m+12ft+

no interaction, ignoring


HANDSHAKESHANDSHAKESSIGNAL PART OF BODY POSSIBLE

MEANINGS

handshake - palm down handshake dominance

handshake - both hands handshake seeking to convey trustworthiness and honesty, seeking to control

pumping handshake handshake enthusiasm

handshake - equal and vertical

handshake non-threatening, relaxed

weak handshake handshake various


HANDSHAKESHANDSHAKES

GOOD HANDSHAKE

Keep the fingers together with the thumb up and open.

Slide your hand into the other person's so that each

person's web of skin between thumb.

Forefingers touches the other's

squeeze firmly.


DOMINANCE

SUBMISSION


EXTEND A HANDEXTEND A HAND

Meeting someone for the first time Meeting someone you haven't seen for a

while Greeting your host(ess) Greeting guests Saying good-bye to people at a gathering

Someone else extends a hand


TYPESTYPESBRUSH OFF:Quick grasp and then a release that feels

like your hand being shoved aside. Means “it’s my turn and my agenda that

matters, yours doesn’t”.

CONTROLLER :Pulled toward the person or strongly

guided in a different direction.They want to dominate any inanimate or

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POLITICIAN:Their other hand may cover yours or be

placed on your forearm or shoulder.Be cautious about relying on this person’s

words for anything

Finger Vice :When someone grabs your fingers and not

your entire hand it is meant to keep you at a distance.

These people are often insecure.


THE DOUBLE HANDSHAKE/THE POLITICIAN’S HANDSHAKE

USUALLY IMPLIES TRUST, HONESTY….IT CAN LEAVE THE RECEIVER SUSPICIOUS!!!


THE FINGER TIP-GRAB

KEEPING DISTANCE….BECAUSE OF NOT BEING MUCH FAMILIAR TO ONE ANOTHER….!!


Bone Crusher : The message of squeezing your hand

until you cringe is clearly designed to intimidate you

Message of intimidation and power behind the grip.

Lobster Claw :The other person’s thumb and fingers

touch the palm of your hand Fears connecting at a deep level and

have challenges building relationships.


THE DEAD FISH HANDSHAKE

THE RECEIVER USUALLY DOESN’T SHOW THE INTEREST…..IT LOOKS LIKE THE RECEIVER IS FORCED INTO THE HANDSHAKE!!


PROPER HANDSHAKEPROPER HANDSHAKE

Is firm but not bone-crushing.Lasts about 3 seconds. May be "pumped" once or twice from the

elbow. Released after the shake, even if the

introduction continues. Includes good eye contact with the other

person.


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MIRRORING - matching body MIRRORING - matching body language signalslanguage signals

When body language and speech

characteristics are mirrored or synchronized between people this tends to assist the process of creating and keeping rapport (a mutual feeling of empathy, understanding, trust).


Seating positioning in relation Seating positioning in relation to others to others

Unnecessary friction is created in work situations due to ignorance about seating positions.

Sitting opposite creates feelings of confrontation.

Do not place chairs so close together that personal space will be invaded. Conversely sitting too far apart will prevent building feelings of trust.


Sitting at a diagonal angle of about 45 degrees to another person is a comfortable and cooperative arrangement.

A confident leader will be happy to avoid taking the “head of the table” position.

Conversely it is perfectly normal for a leader to take the “head of the table” if firmness is required


Awareness of possible cultural body language differences is especially important in today's increasingly mixed societies.


SUMMARYSUMMARY

Finally, we can learn to be more sensitive to our own bodies – to see how they express our feelings and to see ourselves as others see us.

We do not have bodies; we are our bodies.


FEELING LIKE ME ?FEELING LIKE ME ?


THANK YOU THANK YOU

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