Basic Counseling Skills
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Transcript of Basic Counseling Skills
The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn't being said.
Peter Drucker
To help participants understand the concept and importance of counselling
To help participants understand the process of counselling
To impart the skills of counselling To help participants to be more aware of
using counselling techniques appropriately and effectively
Purpose of Presentation
Listening is not passive. It is important to indicate that the person is being heard
Good counselling skills means listening before acting to solve problems
Basics of Counselling
Verbal listening skills Show interest Gather information Encourage speaker to develop ideas Communicate our understanding of ideas Request clarification of understanding Build the therapeutic alliance
Basics of Counselling
Using good verbal listening skills, you increase the chances that: You will understand what the other is saying
and they will understand you You will create a situation where you will be
able to develop a helping relationship
Listening Skills
Ask open and closed questions Use “encouragers” Paraphrase what you have heard Reflect on feeling Summarize
Listening skills
Open questions Generally start with “what”, “how”, “why” or
“could “ Questions serve to:
Gather lots of general information Encourage discussion
Open Questions
Counsellor: “How has the baby been eating?”
Counsellor: “What is the bedtime routine?” Counsellor: “Could you tell me about giving
the baby medicine in the morning?”
Example: Open Questions
Generally start with “is”, “are”, or “do” Serve to:
Gather lots of specific information quickly Tend to close down discussion
Closed Questions
Counsellor: “Are you giving the medicine every day?”
Counsellor: “Is the baby able to tolerate the medicine in the morning?”
Example: Closed Questions
Ex: “Yes, I understand” or repeat a word or two of what was said
Serves to: Encourage further discussion
Encouragers
Patient: “I missed my appointment last week because of transportation problems.”
Counsellor: “Transportation problems…?”
Example: Encouragers
Understanding whether: Is the person is asking for information OR is the person is expressing concern?
Ex: Patient: “My baby vomited the medicine this morning”
Counsellor: “Are you worried the baby is sick?”
Differentiating
Briefly summarize the content of the discussion
Reflective listening Check your understanding Show that you heard what was said
Acknowledge and accept feelings without judging
Paraphrasing
Patient: “I am worried that the medicine is making my baby sick”
Counsellor: “It sounds like you are worried about how the baby is reacting to the medicine.”
Example:Paraphrasing
Focus on feelings (stated and unstated) Serves to:
Communicate understanding of emotions
When combined with a paraphrase, confirms the accuracy of understanding (“Check out” the the other person)
Encourages discussion of feelings
Reflection of Feelings
Patient: I don’t see many changes in the baby since I started the medicine”
Counsellor: It sounds like you are worried that the medicine is not helping the baby get better”
Example: Reflection of Feelings
Succinctly pull together ideas from a an interview
Serves toOrganize the structure of the interview
Check the accuracy of understanding,
Summarizations
Counsellor: “During the time we have had together we have talked about issues with giving the baby medicine, problems with transportation, and your worries about the baby reacting to the medicine and getting better. Is that right?”
Example: Summarizations
Increase awareness of nonverbal communications (yours & theirs)
Notice body language – a person’s stance, posture, physical tension
Acknowledge what you observe – be open and candid
Attend to Nonverbal Communication
Counsellor: “You appear a little uncomfortable. Is there something I can do about that?”
Discussion point: What other examples of non-verbal communication can you identify
Example: Nonverbal Communication
Remember culture and contextMost nonverbal behaviors have multiple meanings
Some nonverbal behaviors have different meanings in different cultures
Non Verbal Communication
Maintains eye contact Makes few distracting movements Leans forward, faces speaker Has an open posture Allows few interruptions Signals interest with encouragers and facial expressions
What are other examples of good listening?
A Good Listener
Makes little eye contact Makes distracting movements Faces away from speaker Has a closed posture (ex.: arms crossed) Interrupts speaker Does too many other things while listening Has a flat affect, speaks in a monotone,
gives few signals of interest What are other examples of a bad listener?
Bad listening
Get into a group of three people One person begins by talking about a
troublesome situation. Be brief but allow your partner opportunities to practice listening skills.
Listening partner: Provide at least three different types of listening responses as your partner talks
Third person is the Observer: Use checklist to identify different listening skills
Switch roles so that each person has a chance to fill each role
Listening Practice Scenarios
Remember the goals of listening skills Help the speaker feel understood Keep the speaker talking
Think carefully about the thoughts and feelings the individual stated or implied
Try to imagine yourself in their place in order to understand their message
Make a brief verbal statement communicating what you heard No questions No opinions
Check to see if you are correct
Listening Practice Scenarios
Directives Reframes and interpretations Advice Feedback Logical consequences
Influencing or Changing Behavior
Tells a person what to do (can be direct or indirect)
Works best if clear and concrete Serves to:
Move a person to take a specific act
Directive
Patient: “I am not sure when to take my medicine”
Counsellor: “You should take your medicine once in the morning and once in the evening”
Example: Directive
Attempts to replace an old, maladaptive response with a newer, more useful (usually positive) one
Serves to Increase insight and understanding Shift emotional or intellectual response
Reframing and Interpretations
Patient: “There is so much going on I don’t think I can take my medicine”
Counsellor: “Sometimes you feel overwhelmed and you are not sure that you can get everything done so you can take your medicine”
Example: Reframing and Interpretations
Provides information to help client make a decision. Can be very directive or less so
Serves to: Share information that would be relevant for a
person’s decisions, actions, or understanding Disadvantages of advice
It’s often disempowering (You can’t solve this on your own)
People may say (but not really mean) that they want advice
Advice
Counsellor: “Try stirring the medicine in milk and then giving it to the baby”
Counsellor: “Let me show you how to swallow the pill”
Counsellor: “Marking a calendar is a good idea for keeping track of giving medicine, and it will help you feel good about giving every dose”
Example: Advice
Gives information about how the person is experienced by others
Serves to: Help client see self more objectively (as others
see him or her) Feedback works best when
It is requested or desired It is concrete It is positive If negative, it addresses something changeable
or controllable
Feedback
Patient: “Last week I gave almost all of the doses of the medicine”
Counsellor: “You have really worked hard to make improvements in giving the medicine. Let’s think about how we can help you so that you can give all of the doses of medicine”
Example: Feedback
Focuses on the logical consequences of a person’s behavior, actions, thoughts, or feelings
Serves to: Increase awareness of consequences
Logical Consequences
Patient: “It is really hard to start the medicine, and the side effects are really hard for the baby”
Counsellor: “If you can make it thorough the first few weeks of taking the medicine than the side effects will get better and the baby will start to improve”
Example: Logical Consequences