A Veteran Family Family - November 2019 to...-Feeling lonesome is normal - let others know-Regularly...
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A Veteran Family
The Challenges of the Student –A Military Family Member
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A Veteran Family
• Mom or Dad (daughter/son)
in uniform
• Both Mom and Dad in uniform
• Mom or Dad is Veteran Widow
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and remain diligent to their role and tasks.
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This cycle applies to both the military member and their family members.
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Pre-deployment/departure
- “Sitting on ready”- Legal actions - Anticipation- Fear/Worry- Uncertainty- Communication- Finances
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Deployment/Redeployment - Adjust to life without the veteran- Set up regular communication plan with veteran
from all family members- Build family/friend support channel- Maintain close relationship with extended family- Develop emergency plan- Assume additional “chores” at home- Talk about veteran routinely and often- Conduct normal celebrations- Build network of support services- Attend military events- Participate in veteran centered activities- Start collection drive for care packages - Others ideas??
“It ‘s like Déjà vu all over again.”
- Yogi Berra - Baseball Hall of Famer
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Sustainment• “Normal” life
• Develop routine
• Murphy’s Law
• Exhaustion/Need a break
• Feeling alone
• Financial issues
• Employment
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The New Normal at Home - Include veteran’s name in conversations/discussions
(not in past tense)- Keep veteran’s photo in clear view- Write and send cards, letters, emails, care packages, etc.- Celebrate holidays and birthdays- Tears are okay- Feeling lonesome is normal - let others know- Regularly send photos to the veteran- Resolve issues on the home-front/choose which to share with the veteran- Talk about football victories, proms, school events, grades – make the veteran
feel included - Share with teachers, counselors, ministers, etc., when desired- Beware of media reports- Use Skype, Facebook, Instagram to stay connected
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Question…
Does today’s communication capability help the family and veteran separation or make the situation more difficult?
Your thoughts?
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It is important for the family and the veteran to :
- Realize changes to come- Assess/discuss needs - Remain positive- Give each other space- Have time together
individually and as a family- Identify and connect to
support resources
Prepare for Homecoming
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Post deployment
- Who is this stranger?- Get reacquainted- Communication- Identifying changes- Developing a future plan- Work together- Take time- Toleration- Support the veteran- Addressing issues
- Psychological- Physical- Emotional
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CONCERNS
• FIT/INTEGRATION
• ALONE TOGETHER
• FINANCIAL SUPPORT
• MEDICAL NEEDS
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1946 20042 movies sixty years apart are shown.
Both present the challenges veterans and families face when reuniting after a period of separation due to military service.
Has anything changed in over sixty years?
Time Can Change Things?
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CHALLENGES
• Emotional Cycle• Physical Adjustments• Changes• Psychological Issues
• PTSD• Secondary PTSD
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Other Unspoken Wounds -Family Members Need to Be Aware
Traumatic Brain Injury
Military Sexual Trauma
Moral Injury
Anxiety/Depression
Up to 1/3 of student veterans may be struggling with “invisible wounds” of war which can impact the ability to concentrate, complete assignments and be successful.
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History of Trauma TermsCivil War Post-war Illness (resulted in institutionalization)
World War l Shell shock
World War II Battle Fatigue
1980’s Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Post 9-11 Secondary PTSD*
* Impacts those exposed to others who have been traumatized themselves to include veteran family members.
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Source: Military Health Organization
PTSD and the Veteran Today
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DISCHARGE AND/OR RETIREMENT“What to Wear?”
• Independence• Choices• Voluntary• Self-directed• Individual• Less regulated• New team• Goal setting
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Leaving the MilitaryWhat now?
• For some, the separation between military and civilian life is vast
• Reintegration is a gradual process and support is available
• Each branch has a transition assistance program
• Pre-separation counseling (stress management, mentor services)
• Financial planning• VA benefits overviews
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SUICIDE PREVENTION
The following feelings and behaviors can all be signs for concern. It is important to encourage professional help if:
· Thinking about hurting or killing him or herself· Talking or writing about death, dying or suicide· Unable to sleep or oversleeping· Withdrawing from friends, family or society· Increasing alcohol or drug use· Engaging in reckless or risky behavior· Experiencing excessive rage, anger or desire for revenge· Having feelings of anxiety, agitation or hopelessness· Reliving past stressful experiences· Experiencing dramatic changes in mood
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Family Members – Children
- Minimal understanding- Lack of processing skills- Limited information- Confusion/Uncertainty- Fear/Doubt/Worry- Lack of sleep/Dreams
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Family Members Teenagers/Young Adults
- Confused- Uncertain- Fear- Worry - Doubt- Concern- Lack of sleep/ Bad dreams- Change of environment- Interference with academics- Lonesome- Greater responsibilities - Relationship with parent- Filling void- Media induced emotions
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Family Members - Spouses
- Fear- Worry - Doubt/Uncertainty- Concern- Lack of sleep - Increased responsibilities- Single parenthood- Aloneness/lonesome- Relationship with spouse - Relationship with children- Filling void- Media induced emotions- Balancing life
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Nationwide Resources
Our Military Kids grants ease the financial strain on parents while giving their children the chance to participate in positive activities that will help them laugh, grow, and feel connected to the community. HEAR THEIR STORIES. https://www.ourmilitarykids.org/
Operation We are Here – To create an awareness of the challenges of the military communityTo offer practical suggestions to churches, communities and individuals on how to support and encourage the military community.
http://www.operationwearehere.com/AboutUs.html#anchor_102
FOCUS – Families Overcoming Under Stress – teaches skills to overcome deployment and reintegration, problem solving, and goal setting. https://focusproject.org/
Blue Star Families - We're committed to strengthening military families by connecting them with their neighbors – individuals and organizations – to create vibrant communities of mutual support. We believe we're all stronger when we take care of one another. https://bluestarfam.org/
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Support ResourceMilitary One Source - your connection to information, answers and support when MilLifehappens. We can help you overcome challenges, reach your goals and thrive.
One Source can help with:Relationship counseling
Non-medical counseling for stress relief Financial counselingDocument translation
Spouse scholarships, education and career benefits
Child care optionsPCS moves
HTTPS://WWW.MILITARYONESOURCE.MIL/ 800‐342‐9647
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Other Resources
The Yellow Ribbon Reintegration Program (YRRP) - the National Guard and Reserve prepare service members and families for deployment, sustain them during deployment, and provide information and support to help with reintegration with families, communities and employers upon their return and release from active duty. https://www.usar.army.mil/ARFP/YellowRibbon/
Installation Family Support Programs - immediate family members of active duty Guard or Reserve members are entitled to use services at military installations. Fleet and Family Support Centers, Marine Corps Community Services, Airman and Family Readiness Centers, and Army Community Service Centers offer a wide range of professional support services as well as information and referral to community resources.
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A Local Resource
Your unit family support staff and volunteer networkGuard and Reserve commands have organized family support systems of staff and volunteers. Family Assistance Coordinators, Family Readiness Assistants, Family Readiness Officers or other designated family support specialists are your links to unit information and support.
Getting to know key staff and volunteers before your service member deploys can make it easier to ask for help later. Call the service member's unit to connect with these resources, and stay in touch during the deployment. If you move or get a new phone number, notify the unit points of contact so you won't miss out on important information and activities.
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https://sesamestreetformilitaryfamilies.org/
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Other Suggestions
Get to know families of veterans serving with spouse or parent- Exchange phone numbers and email addresses- Plan social events, periodic meals- Celebrate anniversaries, birthdays and holidays- Prepare and send care packages throughout deployment period- Use technology to the fullest (email address groups, videos, etc.)- Form support groups to share news- Prepare newsletters and send to veterans- Seek community support- Welcome Home Events- Other ideas??
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Your Role
Awareness
Understanding
Knowledge of resources and referral
Willingness to support and assist
Encouragement
Most importantly: Willingness to Listen
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Dr. Barry MundayCoordinator, Veteran ServicesChattahoochee Technical College400 Nathan Dean BlvdDallas GA 30132770-443-3612
Jim Cunningham Veteran Services CenterChattahoochee Technical College980 South Cobb Drive, Building B, Room 138Marietta GA 30060770-528-3491