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Lesson 2: The Stoplight Feelings, Touch and Secrets
ThisȱlessonȱcomplimentsȱtheȱfollowingȱCatholicȱteachings:ȱx WeȱareȱallȱChildrenȱofȱGod.ȱx AsȱChildrenȱofȱGod,ȱweȱareȱuniqueȱandȱlovedȱbyȱHimȱx JesusȱteachesȱusȱhowȱtoȱloveȱandȱrespectȱGodȱandȱothersȱandȱselfȱx Weȱareȱallȱcalledȱtoȱdoȱgood.ȱ
LessonȱGoalȱChildrenȱwillȱbeȱbetterȱableȱtoȱidentifyȱsafeȱandȱunsafeȱsituations.ȱȱ
LessonȱObjectivesȱChildrenȱwillȱbeȱableȱto:ȱ
1. UnderstandȱthatȱGodȱdoesȱnotȱwantȱorȱcauseȱbadȱthingsȱtoȱhappenȱtoȱthemȱandȱthatȱGodȱisȱwithȱthemȱandȱforȱthemȱevenȱwhenȱtheyȱareȱhurtingȱorȱsad.ȱ
2. LearnȱhowȱtoȱrecognizeȱwhenȱsomeoneȱcomesȱintoȱtheirȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ3. Beȱableȱtoȱrecognizeȱsafeȱandȱunsafeȱsituationsȱinȱaȱperson’sȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ4. Distinguishȱbetweenȱsafeȱandȱunsafeȱsecretsȱinȱaȱperson’sȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ
Vocabularyȱ1. Feelings:ȱSomethingȱIȱsenseȱinsideȱmyselfȱ(e.g.ȱangry,ȱsad,ȱhappy,ȱafraid,ȱ
embarrassed,ȱconfused,ȱexcited,ȱpeaceful,ȱetc.)ȱthatȱgivesȱmeȱinformationȱaboutȱothersȱorȱmyself.ȱ
2. HolyȱSpirit:ȱGodȱpresentȱwithȱandȱwithinȱmeȱinȱaȱspecialȱway.ȱȱTheȱHolyȱSpiritȱhelpsȱmeȱtoȱrememberȱthatȱIȱbelongȱtoȱGod.ȱȱTheȱHolyȱSpiritȱhelpsȱmeȱtoȱexperienceȱandȱliveȱGod’sȱlove.ȱ
3. Safe:ȱIȱamȱsafeȱwhenȱmyȱbodyȱandȱmyȱfeelingsȱareȱrespectedȱbyȱmeȱandȱbyȱothers.ȱ
4. SafeȱTouch:ȱTouchȱthatȱrespectsȱothersȱandȱme.ȱ5. Secret:ȱAȱsecretȱisȱsomethingȱIȱknowȱbutȱdoȱnotȱtell.ȱ
Safeȱsecret:ȱAȱsecretȱisȱsafeȱwhenȱitȱdoesȱnotȱhurtȱothersȱorȱme.ȱ
Sometimesȱchildrenȱrevealȱpersonalȱinformationȱorȱdetailsȱaboutȱincidentsȱthat,ȱinȱorderȱtoȱrespectȱconfidentiality,ȱneedȱtoȱbeȱhandledȱoutsideȱofȱtheȱgroupȱenvironment.ȱȱIfȱthisȱhappens,ȱtellȱtheȱchild,ȱ“Thankȱyouȱforȱsharingȱthat,ȱ________.ȱȱThatȱsoundsȱreallyȱ
important.ȱȱIȱwillȱtalkȱtoȱyouȱaboutȱthatȱlaterȱ(atȱtheȱendȱofȱclass,ȱatȱtheȱbreak,ȱasȱsoonȱasȱhumanlyȱpossible,ȱetc.).”ȱȱWhenȱthisȱhappens,ȱbeȱsureȱyouȱtalkȱtoȱtheȱchildȱatȱyourȱfirstȱ
opportunityȱandȱalertȱtheȱadministration.ȱȱRememberȱthatȱyouȱareȱtheȱresponsibleȱreporterȱinȱcasesȱofȱsuspectedȱabuse.ȱ
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Unsafeȱsecret:ȱAȱsecretȱisȱunsafeȱwhenȱIȱthinkȱthatȱsomeone,ȱincludingȱme,ȱmightȱbeȱhurtȱorȱgetȱinȱtroubleȱifȱIȱdoȱnotȱtell.ȱ
6. Signal:ȱAȱsignȱthatȱtellsȱmeȱsomethingȱmayȱbeȱsafeȱorȱunsafe.ȱȱThisȱmayȱbeȱinternalȱorȱexternal.ȱ
7. Stoplight:ȱAȱtrafficȱlightȱ(red,ȱyellow,ȱgreen)ȱthatȱisȱaȱvisualȱsignalȱforȱkeepingȱvehiclesȱandȱpeopleȱsafe.ȱ
8. Trust:ȱBeingȱableȱtoȱcountȱonȱsomeoneȱtoȱhelpȱmeȱtoȱstayȱsafeȱwithinȱmyȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ
9. TrustedȱAdult:ȱAȱgrownȬupȱwhoȱhelpsȱmeȱtoȱstayȱsafeȱinȱmyȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱandȱtoȱrespectȱothersȱwithinȱtheirȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ
10. Unsafe:ȱAnythingȱthatȱcausesȱharmȱtoȱmyselfȱorȱothers.ȱUnsafeȱtouch:ȱTouchȱthatȱisȱdisrespectfulȱandȱhurts,ȱscares,ȱorȱmakesȱmeȱ
feelȱuncomfortableȱorȱconfused.ȱ
MaterialsȱNeededȱ1. LargeȱpictureȱofȱaȱstoplightȱwithȱallȱthreeȱcolorsȱvisibleȱȬȱred,ȱyellow,ȱandȱgreenȱ
(seeȱtheȱendȱofȱGradeȱ1ȱlessons)ȱ2. Oneȱsetȱofȱred,ȱyellow,ȱandȱgreenȱcircleȱcardsȱperȱchildȱtheȱbacksideȱofȱeachȱ
coloredȱcardȱshouldȱbeȱwhiteȱandȱtheȱfrontȱsideȱred,ȱyellow,ȱorȱgreenȱ3. FeelingȱFacesȱChartȱisȱoptionalȱtoȱassistȱwithȱtheȱstoplightȱactivityȱ(seeȱtheȱendȱofȱ
Gradeȱ1ȱlessons)ȱ4. CompletedȱHappyȱFaceȱandȱSadȱFaceȱchartȱfromȱLessonȱ1ȱ5. HomeȱActivityȱSheetȱforȱParents:ȱTheȱStoplightȱ(seeȱtheȱendȱofȱGradeȱ1ȱlessons)ȱ
OpeningȱPrayerȱLeaderȱcallsȱclassȱtoȱprayerȱbyȱaskingȱchildrenȱtoȱquietȱdownȱandȱjoinȱinȱtheȱSignȱofȱtheȱCross.ȱThenȱsayȱtogether,ȱ
HolyȱSpirit,ȱshowȱusȱtheȱway.ȱBeȱwithȱusȱinȱallȱweȱthink,ȱdo,ȱandȱsay.ȱȱAmen.ȱ
GettingȱStartedȱReviewȱ
1. AskȱchildrenȱtoȱstandȱandȱdemonstrateȱtheirȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱasȱlearnedȱinȱpreviousȱlesson.ȱ2. PointȱtoȱHappyȱFaceȱandȱSadȱFaceȱchartȱfromȱLessonȱ1.ȱȱAskȱchildrenȱtheȱfollowing:ȱ
a. Whatȱdidȱweȱwriteȱonȱthisȱchart?ȱȱ(Answer:ȱwordsȱandȱactionsȱweȱlikeȱandȱdon’tȱlikeȱfromȱothers.)ȱ
b. Whatȱwereȱsomeȱofȱtheȱwordsȱandȱactionsȱyouȱliked?ȱȱWhy?ȱc. Whatȱwereȱsomeȱyouȱdidȱnotȱlike?ȱȱWhy?ȱȱ
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Suggestedȱcomment:ȱTodayȱweȱareȱgoingȱtoȱcontinueȱtalkingȱaboutȱwordsȱandȱactionsȱthatȱweȱlikeȱandȱdon’tȱlikeȱinȱourȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱȱWeȱwillȱuseȱtheȱstoplightȱtoȱidentifyȱwhatȱdoesn’tȱbelongȱinȱourȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱDiscussionȱ
1. Showȱaȱlargeȱpictureȱofȱaȱstoplight.ȱ2. Reviewȱtheȱmeaningȱofȱaȱstoplightȱbyȱasking:ȱ
a. Whyȱdoȱweȱhaveȱstoplights?ȱȱPauseȱforȱanswers.ȱȱTheȱreasonȱweȱhaveȱstoplightsȱisȱtoȱprotectȱpeopleȱandȱkeepȱthemȱsafe.ȱ
b. Whatȱdoesȱeachȱcolorȱofȱtheȱstoplightȱmean?ȱȱ(AddȱSTOP,ȱBEȱCAREFUL,ȱandȱGOȱAHEAD.)ȱ
LessonȱDevelopmentȱȱIntroductionȱȱ
MostȱofȱtheȱtimeȱyouȱknowȱwhatȱisȱsafeȱandȱgoodȱtoȱallowȱinȱyourȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱȱSometimes,ȱthough,ȱyouȱneedȱothersȱwhoȱrespectȱyourȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱtoȱhelpȱyouȱknowȱwhatȱisȱsafeȱandȱwhatȱisȱnot,ȱpeopleȱlikeȱourȱparentsȱorȱteachers.ȱȱGodȱhasȱgivenȱeachȱofȱusȱourȱownȱkindȱofȱsignalȱtoȱkeepȱusȱsafeȱandȱprotected.ȱȱSometimesȱtheseȱsignalsȱareȱcalledȱfeelings.ȱȱOurȱfeelingsȱareȱoneȱofȱtheȱmainȱwaysȱtheȱHolyȱSpiritȱhelpsȱtoȱguideȱus.ȱ
Discussionȱ1. Continueȱbyȱsaying:ȱLet’sȱreviewȱhowȱtheȱthreeȱcolorsȱofȱaȱstoplightȱcanȱremindȱusȱ
ofȱtheȱsignalsȱGodȱgivesȱusȱtoȱhelpȱkeepȱusȱsafeȱandȱprotected.ȱ2. GreenȱsignalȱȬȱMeansȱGOȱAHEAD.ȱȱSomeȱthingsȱareȱdefinitelyȱsafe.ȱȱSomeȱ
examplesȱareȱtellingȱtheȱtruth,ȱbeingȱkindȱandȱrespectful,ȱhelpingȱothers,ȱandȱcaringȱaboutȱothers.ȱȱYouȱareȱalsoȱsafeȱwhenȱothersȱrespectȱyourȱbodyȱandȱfeelings.ȱȱCouldȱyouȱnameȱsomeȱotherȱthingsȱthatȱwouldȱalwaysȱbeȱsafeȱtoȱdoȱorȱletȱsomeoneȱelseȱdoȱwithȱyou?ȱȱ(Leaderȱpointsȱoutȱthatȱeverythingȱwrittenȱonȱtheȱhappyȱfaceȱcolumnȱofȱtheȱposterȱwouldȱbeȱaȱgreenȱsignalȱwordȱorȱaction.)ȱȱ
3. RedȱSignalȱȬȱMeansȱSTOP.ȱȱSomeȱthingsȱareȱunsafeȱandȱalwaysȱmeanȱtrouble.ȱȱSomeȱexamplesȱareȱbeingȱmeanȱorȱbullying,ȱlying,ȱhitting,ȱfighting,ȱetc.ȱȱCanȱyouȱhelpȱmeȱthinkȱofȱotherȱthingsȱthatȱareȱneverȱgoodȱtoȱdoȱorȱletȱsomeoneȱdoȱtoȱyou?ȱȱ(Leaderȱpointsȱoutȱthatȱeverythingȱwrittenȱonȱtheȱsadȱfaceȱcolumnȱofȱtheȱposterȱwouldȱbeȱaȱredȱsignalȱwordȱorȱaction.)ȱȱWhenȱthisȱhappens,ȱtellȱsomeoneȱthatȱyouȱtrust,ȱlikeȱyourȱmom,ȱdad,ȱleader,ȱorȱotherȱtrustedȱadult.ȱ
4. YellowȱSignalȱȬȱMeansȱBEȱCAREFUL.ȱȱSometimesȱyouȱcan’tȱtellȱifȱaȱsituationȱisȱsafeȱorȱunsafe.ȱȱYouȱmightȱfeelȱconfusedȱorȱunsureȱaboutȱit.ȱȱTheseȱareȱlikeȱaȱyellowȱsignal.ȱȱItȱmayȱseemȱlikeȱjustȱaȱfunnyȱfeelingȱinȱyourȱheartȱorȱtummy.ȱȱ
Theȱuseȱofȱtheȱwordȱ“signal”ȱ(insteadȱofȱ“light”)ȱisȱintentionalȱinȱorderȱtoȱpointȱtoȱtheȱfactȱthatȱaȱ“signal”ȱcanȱbeȱbothȱinternalȱandȱexternal.ȱȱAȱ“stoplight”,ȱhowever,ȱisȱonlyȱanȱexternalȱreality.ȱȱȱ
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Whenȱthisȱhappens,ȱtellȱsomeoneȱthatȱyouȱtrust,ȱlikeȱyourȱmom,ȱdad,ȱleader,ȱorȱotherȱtrustedȱadult.ȱ
ActivityȱȬȱRedȱLight,ȱGreenȱLightȱȱ
1. Giveȱeachȱchildȱaȱsetȱofȱred,ȱgreen,ȱandȱyellowȱcards.ȱ
2. Suggestedȱinstructions:ȱx Inȱaȱmoment,ȱI’mȱgoingȱtoȱdescribeȱsomeȱsituations.ȱx Pleaseȱlistenȱveryȱcarefully.ȱx Atȱtheȱendȱofȱeach,ȱI’mȱgoingȱtoȱaskȱyouȱifȱyouȱthinkȱtheȱsituationȱcallsȱforȱaȱredȱ
signal,ȱaȱyellowȱsignal,ȱorȱaȱgreenȱsignal.ȱȱI’llȱthenȱaskȱyouȱeachȱtoȱholdȱupȱtheȱcolorȱcardȱthatȱyouȱthinkȱbestȱfitsȱtheȱsituation.ȱ
x Thenȱwe’llȱtalkȱaboutȱeachȱsituation.ȱ
3. Readȱeachȱsituationȱaloud.ȱȱMakeȱsureȱtoȱvaryȱtheȱorderȱinȱwhichȱtheȱgreen,ȱred,ȱandȱyellowȱsituationsȱareȱread.ȱ
4. Afterȱreadingȱaȱsituation,ȱgiveȱchildrenȱaȱmomentȱtoȱthinkȱandȱthenȱaskȱthemȱtoȱholdȱupȱaȱred,ȱgreen,ȱorȱyellowȱcard.ȱȱSomeȱsituations,ȱthoughȱclearlyȱredȱtoȱadults,ȱmayȱbeȱunclearȱ(yellow)ȱfromȱaȱchild’sȱperspective.ȱȱThisȱactivityȱwillȱhelpȱchildrenȱidentifyȱtheirȱownȱconfusingȱfeelingsȱandȱtoȱunderstandȱthatȱtheyȱshouldȱtalkȱtoȱaȱtrustedȱadult.ȱȱAllowȱtimeȱforȱchildrenȱtoȱdiscussȱtheirȱfeelingsȱconnectedȱwithȱtheseȱsituations.ȱ
a. GREENȱSITUATIONSȱ¾ Yourȱmomȱorȱdadȱgivesȱyouȱaȱhugȱwhenȱyouȱareȱsadȱ(loved,ȱcomforted).ȱ¾ Youȱareȱatȱtheȱdoctorȱandȱyourȱmomȱisȱwithȱyou.ȱȱTheȱdoctorȱchecksȱ
yourȱbodyȱtoȱmakeȱsureȱitȱisȱhealthyȱ(safe,ȱsecure,ȱembarrassed).ȱ¾ Youȱseeȱyourȱfriendȱcryingȱandȱyouȱaskȱifȱyouȱcanȱgiveȱher/himȱaȱhugȱ(sad,ȱcaring).ȱ
Theȱpurposeȱofȱthisȱactivityȱisȱtoȱhelpȱchildrenȱlearnȱhowȱtoȱidentifyȱdangerousȱandȱunsafeȱsituations,ȱfeelings,ȱandȱtouch,ȱbutȱnotȱtoȱscareȱorȱshameȱthem.ȱȱMakeȱsureȱtoȱgiveȱclearȱandȱconciseȱreasonsȱwhyȱaȱsituationȱfallsȱintoȱtheȱgreenȱorȱyellow/redȱsignalȱcategory.ȱȱThisȱisȱbecauseȱforȱchildren,ȱitȱmayȱbeȱsometimesȱhardȱtoȱdistinguishȱbetweenȱredȱandȱyellowȱsituations.ȱȱTheȱchildrenȱneedȱtoȱbeȱawareȱofȱtheirȱinternalȱprocessȱofȱconflictingȱfeelingsȱwhichȱtheyȱmightȱbeȱexperiencing.ȱȱChildrenȱwillȱlearnȱthatȱwhenȱpossibleȱtheyȱshouldȱalwaysȱtalkȱtoȱaȱtrustedȱadultȱbeforeȱactingȱinȱaȱredȱorȱyellowȱsituation.ȱȱRemindȱchildrenȱthatȱthereȱareȱalwaysȱadultsȱavailableȱtoȱlistenȱandȱtalk.ȱȱChildrenȱonlyȱneedȱtoȱaskȱaȱtrustedȱadultȱforȱtheȱtimeȱtoȱtalk.ȱ
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¾ Yourȱgrandmother/grandfatherȱwipesȱyourȱtearsȱwhenȱyouȱfallȱdownȱandȱhurtȱyourselfȱ(loved,ȱcomforted,ȱsafe).ȱ
¾ Youȱtellȱtheȱleaderȱwhenȱyouȱaccidentallyȱbreakȱsomethingȱinȱyourȱclassroomȱ(embarrassed,ȱsorry,ȱguilty,ȱhappyȱthatȱyouȱtold).ȱ
b. YELLOW/REDȱSITUATIONSȱ(Alwaysȱtalkȱtoȱaȱtrustedȱadult.)ȱ¾ Youȱareȱwalkingȱhomeȱfromȱschoolȱandȱsomeoneȱyouȱdon’tȱknowȱwellȱ
offersȱtoȱgiveȱyouȱaȱrideȱhomeȱ(cautious,ȱscared).ȱ¾ Yourȱbigȱbrother’sȱfriendȱwantsȱyouȱtoȱwatchȱaȱmovieȱyourȱmomȱorȱ
dadȱtoldȱyouȱnotȱtoȱwatchȱ(worried,ȱafraidȱofȱgettingȱintoȱtrouble).ȱ¾ Youȱpushȱsomeoneȱoutȱofȱlineȱsoȱyouȱcanȱbeȱfirstȱ(mad,ȱselfish).ȱ¾ Youȱareȱplayingȱatȱtheȱneighborhoodȱpark.ȱȱAȱman/womanȱwhoȱhasȱ
said,ȱ“Hi,”ȱtoȱyouȱaȱfewȱtimesȱcomesȱupȱandȱasksȱifȱyouȱcanȱhelpȱfindȱhisȱlostȱpuppyȱ(sad,ȱanxious).ȱ
¾ Youȱareȱatȱaȱfamilyȱparty.ȱȱSomeoneȱasksȱyouȱtoȱsitȱonȱhis/herȱlap,ȱbutȱyouȱdon’tȱwantȱtoȱ(pressured,ȱmad,ȱunsure).ȱ
¾ Yourȱfriend’sȱbigȱbrother/sisterȱwantsȱyouȱtoȱdoȱsomethingȱyouȱdon’tȱwantȱtoȱdoȱ(pressured,ȱconfused).ȱ
¾ Anȱolderȱrelativeȱwantsȱtoȱkissȱorȱhugȱyou,ȱbutȱyouȱdon’tȱlikeȱitȱbecauseȱheȱorȱsheȱsmellsȱfunnyȱ(confused,ȱimpolite,ȱ“icky”,ȱetc.).ȱ
ȱSometimesȱsecretsȱcanȱevenȱgiveȱusȱaȱfunnyȱfeelingȱinȱourȱheartȱorȱtummy.ȱȱAȱsafeȱsecretȱisȱoneȱthatȱdoesȱnotȱhurtȱothersȱorȱme.ȱȱAȱsecretȱisȱunsafeȱwhenȱIȱthinkȱthatȱsomeone,ȱincludingȱme,ȱmightȱbeȱhurtȱorȱgetȱinȱtroubleȱifȱIȱdoȱnotȱtell.ȱȱAȱgoodȱwayȱtoȱdecideȱifȱaȱsecretȱisȱsafeȱorȱunsafeȱisȱtoȱaskȱourselves,ȱ“Canȱthisȱsecretȱhurtȱmeȱorȱsomeoneȱelse?”ȱ
x Iȱamȱgoingȱtoȱreadȱsomeȱmoreȱsituationsȱthatȱhaveȱaȱsecret.ȱx Pleaseȱlistenȱveryȱcarefully.ȱx Atȱtheȱendȱofȱeach,ȱI’mȱgoingȱtoȱaskȱyouȱifȱyouȱthinkȱtheȱsituationȱcallsȱforȱaȱredȱ
signal,ȱaȱyellowȱsignal,ȱorȱaȱgreenȱsignal.ȱȱI’llȱthenȱaskȱyouȱeachȱtoȱholdȱupȱtheȱcolorȱcardȱthatȱyouȱthinkȱbestȱfitsȱtheȱsituation.ȱ
x Thenȱwe’llȱtalkȱaboutȱeachȱsituation.ȱ
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5. Situations:ȱ(Beȱsureȱtoȱvaryȱtheȱorderȱinȱwhichȱtheȱgreen,ȱred,ȱandȱyellowȱsituationsȱareȱread.)ȱGREENȱ
¾ Yourȱfriendȱtellsȱyou,ȱ“IȱthinkȱJoeyȱisȱcute,”ȱandȱtellsȱyouȱtoȱkeepȱitȱaȱsecretȱ(special,ȱtrusted).ȱ
¾ Yourȱdadȱisȱplanningȱaȱsurpriseȱbirthdayȱpartyȱforȱyourȱmomȱ(happiness,ȱexcitement,ȱanticipation).ȱ
¾ Yourȱparentsȱplanȱtoȱgetȱaȱpuppyȱbutȱdon’tȱtellȱyouȱuntilȱtheyȱbringȱitȱhomeȱ(surprised,ȱloved).ȱ
YELLOW/REDȱ(Alwaysȱtalkȱtoȱaȱtrustedȱadult.)ȱ¾ Yourȱfriendȱthrowsȱaȱballȱandȱitȱaccidentallyȱbreaksȱtheȱneighbor’sȱ
window.ȱȱTheȱfriendȱasksȱyouȱnotȱtoȱtellȱ(guilty,ȱafraidȱofȱpunishment).ȱ¾ Anȱadultȱasksȱyouȱtoȱgoȱwithȱhimȱwithoutȱaskingȱpermissionȱfromȱ
yourȱparents.ȱȱHe/sheȱtellsȱyouȱthatȱyourȱparentsȱwon’tȱcareȱifȱyouȱgoȱwithȱhim/her,ȱbutȱ“Don’tȱtellȱyourȱparentsȱaboutȱourȱvisit.ȱȱTheyȱwon’tȱunderstand,”ȱ(unsure,ȱfunnyȱfeelingȱinȱyourȱtummyȱorȱheart,ȱcurious).ȱ
¾ Someoneȱtouchesȱyouȱinȱaȱwayȱthatȱyouȱdon’tȱthinkȱisȱsafeȱȬȱevenȱifȱtheȱpersonȱsaysȱitȱisȱsafeȱandȱsays,ȱ“Thisȱspecialȱtimeȱisȱbetweenȱyouȱandȱme,”ȱ(funnyȱfeelingȱinȱyourȱtummy,ȱconfused,ȱetc.).ȱ
¾ Yourȱfriendȱtellsȱyou,ȱ“Iȱstoleȱmoneyȱfromȱmom’sȱpurse/dad’sȱwalletȱtoȱgoȱgetȱsomeȱcandyȱforȱus.ȱȱDon’tȱtellȱher/him,”ȱ(confused,ȱworried,ȱmaybeȱexcited).ȱ
¾ Someoneȱactsȱlikeȱyourȱfriendȱbutȱthenȱtriesȱtoȱgetȱyouȱtoȱdoȱsomethingȱyouȱdon’tȱwantȱtoȱdoȱbecauseȱyouȱknowȱitȱisȱwrongȱorȱbecauseȱitȱmakesȱyouȱfeelȱconfusedȱorȱfunny.ȱȱTheyȱsay,ȱ“Ifȱyouȱtell,ȱIȱwillȱtellȱeveryoneȱthatȱthisȱwasȱyourȱidea,”ȱ(confused,ȱfunnyȱfeeling,ȱtrapped).ȱ
¾ Someoneȱtellsȱyouȱthatȱyouȱwillȱgetȱintoȱtroubleȱifȱyouȱtellȱyourȱmomȱand/orȱdadȱ(leader,ȱorȱother)ȱ(afraidȱofȱpunishment).ȱ
6. Afterȱeachȱsituationȱisȱread,ȱaskȱaȱfewȱvolunteersȱtoȱexplainȱwhyȱtheyȱchoseȱtheȱcolorȱcardȱtheyȱdid.ȱȱAlso,ȱallowȱtimeȱforȱchildrenȱtoȱdiscussȱtheirȱfeelingsȱconnectedȱtoȱeachȱsituation.ȱ
7. Ifȱchildrenȱareȱunsure,ȱwrong,ȱorȱyouȱareȱseeingȱmoreȱthanȱoneȱcolorȱcardȱheldȱupȱforȱaȱgivenȱsituation,ȱstopȱandȱaskȱtheȱfollowingȱquestions:ȱ
¾ Whatȱdoȱyouȱthinkȱyourȱmomȱorȱdad,ȱleader,ȱorȱpastorȱwouldȱsayȱaboutȱthisȱsituation?ȱ
¾ Wouldȱtheyȱthinkȱitȱisȱaȱred,ȱgreen,ȱorȱyellowȱsignal?ȱȱWhy?ȱ¾ Howȱdoȱweȱknowȱifȱsomethingȱisȱaȱred,ȱgreen,ȱorȱyellowȱsignalȱ
situation?ȱ
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WrappingȱUpȱ1. Reviewȱtheseȱdefinitionsȱofȱfeelingsȱwithȱtheȱchildren.ȱ
a. Theyȱareȱnotȱrightȱorȱwrong,ȱgoodȱorȱbad.ȱȱb. TheyȱmayȱbeȱGod’sȱsignalsȱaboutȱwhatȱisȱgoingȱonȱinȱourȱlives.ȱ
2. Weȱhaveȱtalkedȱaboutȱtheseȱsituationsȱasȱgreen,ȱred,ȱandȱyellowȱtoȱhelpȱchildrenȱknowȱhowȱtoȱrespondȱandȱhowȱtoȱrecognizeȱtheirȱfeelingsȱasȱaȱwayȱofȱdeeperȱlistening.ȱȱȱ
3. InȱLessonȱ3,ȱtheyȱwillȱlearnȱthatȱsometimesȱtheyȱneedȱtoȱtalkȱtoȱtrustedȱadultsȱtoȱhelpȱthemȱunderstandȱtheȱmeaningȱofȱtheseȱsignals.ȱ
ClosingȱPrayerȱ
Thankȱyou,ȱGod,ȱforȱalwaysȱbeingȱwithȱmeȱinȱmyȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ
ThankȱyouȱforȱtheȱgiftȱofȱtheȱHolyȱSpiritȱwhoȱhelpsȱmeȱknowȱwhatȱisȱgood.ȱ
Thankȱyouȱforȱgivingȱmeȱpeopleȱwhoȱcareȱaboutȱmeȱandȱwantȱmeȱtoȱbeȱsafe.ȱ
Amen.ȱȱ
(Optional)ȱTellȱtheȱchildrenȱyouȱwillȱcloseȱbyȱsingingȱaȱsongȱcalledȱ“ThisȱisȱHolyȱGround”ȱorȱ“PrayerȱforȱPeace”ȱorȱotherȱappropriateȱsong.ȱ
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Lesson 3 Safety Plan
ThisȱlessonȱcomplimentsȱtheȱfollowingȱCatholicȱteachings:ȱx WeȱareȱallȱChildrenȱofȱGod.ȱx AsȱChildrenȱofȱGod,ȱweȱareȱuniqueȱandȱlovedȱbyȱHimȱx JesusȱteachesȱusȱhowȱtoȱloveȱandȱrespectȱGodȱandȱothersȱandȱselfȱx Weȱareȱallȱcalledȱtoȱdoȱgood.ȱ
LessonȱGoalȱChildrenȱwillȱdemonstrateȱhowȱtoȱtakeȱactionȱifȱboundariesȱareȱthreatenedȱorȱviolated.ȱ
LessonȱObjectivesȱChildrenȱwillȱbeȱableȱto:ȱ
1. UnderstandȱthatȱGodȱdoesȱnotȱwantȱorȱcauseȱbadȱthingsȱtoȱhappenȱtoȱthemȱandȱthatȱGodȱisȱwithȱthemȱandȱforȱthemȱevenȱwhenȱtheyȱareȱhurtingȱorȱsad.ȱ
2. UnderstandȱthatȱGodȱwantsȱthemȱtoȱdoȱwhatȱtheyȱcanȱtoȱtakeȱcareȱofȱthemselves.ȱ3. Nameȱthreeȱtrustedȱadultsȱ(inȱadditionȱtoȱtheirȱparents)ȱwhomȱtheyȱcouldȱseekȱ
outȱforȱhelp.ȱ4. LearnȱandȱroleȬplayȱtheȱskillȱofȱ“HowȱtoȱAskȱforȱHelp”.ȱ
Vocabularyȱ1. Trust:ȱBeingȱableȱtoȱcountȱonȱsomeoneȱtoȱhelpȱmeȱstayȱsafeȱwithinȱmyȱCircleȱofȱ
Grace.ȱ2. Trustedȱadult:ȱAȱgrownȬupȱwhoȱhelpsȱmeȱtoȱstayȱsafeȱinȱmyȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱandȱ
toȱrespectȱothersȱwithinȱtheirȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ
Sometimesȱchildrenȱrevealȱpersonalȱinformationȱorȱdetailsȱaboutȱincidentsȱthat,ȱinȱorderȱtoȱrespectȱconfidentiality,ȱneedȱtoȱbeȱhandledȱoutsideȱofȱtheȱgroupȱenvironment.ȱȱIfȱthisȱhappens,ȱtellȱtheȱchild,ȱ“Thankȱyouȱforȱsharingȱthat,ȱ________.ȱȱThatȱsoundsȱreallyȱ
important.ȱȱIȱwillȱtalkȱtoȱyouȱaboutȱthatȱlaterȱ(atȱtheȱendȱofȱclass,ȱatȱtheȱbreak,ȱasȱsoonȱasȱhumanlyȱpossible,ȱetc.).”ȱȱWhenȱthisȱhappens,ȱbeȱsureȱyouȱtalkȱtoȱtheȱchildȱatȱyourȱfirstȱ
opportunityȱandȱalertȱtheȱadministration.ȱȱRememberȱthatȱyouȱareȱtheȱresponsibleȱreporterȱinȱcasesȱofȱsuspectedȱabuse.ȱ
CircleȱofȱGraceȱ–ȱGradeȱ1:ȱLessonȱ3ȱ Pageȱ20
MaterialsȱNeededȱ1. Whiteboardȱorȱchalkboardȱ2. Constructionȱorȱcoloringȱpaperȱforȱeachȱchildȱ3. Markersȱorȱcrayonsȱforȱeachȱchildȱ4. CreateȱoneȱlargeȱSkillȱPosterȱofȱ“HowȱtoȱAskȱforȱHelp”ȱwithȱfollowingȱstepsȱ(seeȱ
theȱendȱofȱGradeȱ1ȱlessons):ȱa. Lookȱatȱtheȱperson.ȱb. Say,ȱ“Iȱneedȱtoȱtellȱyouȱsomethingȱimportant.”ȱc. Clearlyȱdescribeȱtheȱproblem.ȱd. Thankȱtheȱpersonȱforȱhelpingȱyou.ȱ
5. TrustedȱAdultȱParentȱActivityȱSheetȱ(seeȱtheȱendȱofȱGradeȱ1ȱlessons)ȱȱ
OpeningȱPrayerȱLeaderȱcallsȱtheȱgroupȱbyȱaskingȱchildrenȱtoȱquietȱdownȱandȱjoinȱinȱtheȱSignȱofȱtheȱCross.ȱȱThenȱsayȱtogether,ȱ
HolyȱSpirit,ȱshowȱusȱtheȱway.ȱBeȱwithȱusȱinȱallȱweȱthink,ȱdo,ȱandȱsay.ȱȱAmen.ȱ
GettingȱStartedȱReviewȱVocabularyȱ
1. ChildrenȱofȱGod:ȱAllȱpeople.ȱȱWeȱareȱallȱmadeȱbyȱandȱlovedȱbyȱGod.ȱ2. CircleȱofȱGrace:ȱTheȱloveȱandȱgoodnessȱofȱGodȱthatȱalwaysȱsurroundsȱmeȱandȱallȱ
others.ȱ3. Feelings:ȱSomethingȱIȱsenseȱinsideȱmyselfȱ(e.g.ȱangry,ȱsad,ȱhappy,ȱafraid,ȱ
embarrassed,ȱconfused,ȱexcited,ȱpeaceful,ȱetc.)ȱthatȱgivesȱmeȱinformationȱaboutȱothersȱorȱmyself.ȱ
4. Grace:ȱTheȱgiftȱofȱGod’sȱgoodnessȱandȱloveȱtoȱhelpȱmeȱliveȱasȱhisȱchild.ȱ5. Holy:ȱSpecialȱbecauseȱofȱaȱconnectionȱwithȱGod.ȱ6. HolyȱSpirit:ȱGodȱpresentȱwithȱandȱwithinȱmeȱinȱaȱspecialȱway.ȱȱTheȱHolyȱSpiritȱ
helpsȱmeȱtoȱrememberȱthatȱIȱbelongȱtoȱGod.ȱȱTheȱHolyȱSpiritȱhelpsȱmeȱtoȱexperienceȱandȱliveȱGod’sȱlove.ȱ
7. Respect:ȱBeingȱkindȱtoȱothersȱandȱdoingȱwhat’sȱbestȱforȱmyselfȱandȱothersȱbecauseȱIȱhonorȱallȱpeopleȱasȱChildrenȱofȱGod.ȱ
8. Safe:ȱIȱamȱsafeȱwhenȱmyȱbodyȱandȱmyȱfeelingsȱareȱrespectedȱbyȱmeȱandȱothers.ȱ9. SafeȱTouch:ȱTouchȱthatȱrespectsȱmeȱandȱothers.ȱ10. Secret:ȱAȱsecretȱisȱsomethingȱIȱknowȱbutȱdoȱnotȱtell.ȱ
Safeȱsecret:ȱAȱsecretȱisȱsafeȱwhenȱitȱdoesȱnotȱhurtȱothersȱorȱme.ȱ
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Unsafeȱsecret:ȱAȱsecretȱisȱunsafeȱwhenȱIȱthinkȱthatȱsomeone,ȱincludingȱme,ȱmightȱbeȱhurtȱorȱgetȱinȱtroubleȱifȱIȱdoȱnotȱtell.ȱȱ
11. Signal:ȱAȱsignȱthatȱtellsȱmeȱsomethingȱmayȱbeȱsafeȱorȱunsafe.ȱȱThisȱmayȱbeȱinternalȱorȱexternal.ȱ
12. Stoplight:ȱAȱtrafficȱlightȱ(red,ȱyellow,ȱgreen)ȱthatȱisȱaȱvisualȱsignalȱforȱkeepingȱvehiclesȱandȱpeopleȱsafe.ȱ
13. Symbol:ȱAȱpictureȱorȱobjectȱthatȱstandsȱforȱsomethingȱelse.ȱ14. Trust:ȱBeingȱableȱtoȱcountȱonȱsomeoneȱtoȱhelpȱmeȱtoȱstayȱsafeȱwithinȱmyȱCircleȱofȱ
Grace.ȱ15. TrustedȱAdult:ȱAȱgrownȬupȱwhoȱhelpsȱmeȱtoȱstayȱsafeȱinȱmyȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱandȱ
toȱrespectȱothersȱwithinȱtheirȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ16. Unsafe:ȱAnythingȱthatȱcausesȱharmȱtoȱmyselfȱorȱothers.ȱ
Unsafeȱtouch:ȱTouchȱthatȱisȱdisrespectfulȱandȱhurts,ȱscares,ȱorȱmakesȱmeȱfeelȱuncomfortableȱorȱconfused.ȱ
Reviewȱ
1. ShowȱchildrenȱtheȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱSymbol.ȱ2. Tellȱtheȱchildren:ȱThisȱisȱaȱsymbolȱforȱourȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱȱItȱremindsȱusȱthatȱGodȱ
lovesȱusȱandȱHisȱloveȱisȱalwaysȱaroundȱus.ȱȱEveryoneȱhasȱaȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ3. Showȱaȱlargeȱpictureȱofȱaȱstoplight.ȱ4. Reviewȱȱtheȱmeaningȱorȱpurposeȱofȱaȱstoplightȱbyȱasking:ȱ
a.ȱ Whyȱdoȱweȱhaveȱstoplights?ȱȱTheȱreasonȱweȱhaveȱstoplightsȱisȱtoȱprotectȱpeopleȱandȱkeepȱthemȱsafe.ȱȱSometimesȱpeopleȱsayȱorȱdoȱthingsȱthatȱmakeȱusȱfeelȱfunnyȱinȱourȱheartȱorȱtummy.ȱȱThatȱfunnyȱfeelingȱtellsȱusȱthatȱweȱneedȱtoȱgetȱhelpȱfromȱaȱtrustedȱadult.ȱȱTheȱHolyȱSpiritȱisȱguidingȱusȱtoȱhelpȱkeepȱusȱsafe.ȱb.ȱ Whatȱdoesȱeachȱcolorȱofȱtheȱstoplightȱmean?ȱȱ(AddȱSTOP,ȱBEȱCAREFUL,ȱandȱGOȱAHEAD.)ȱ
LessonȱDevelopmentȱIntroductionȱ
1. TodayȱweȱareȱgoingȱtoȱlearnȱwhatȱtoȱdoȱifȱsomeoneȱcomesȱintoȱyourȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱwithoutȱyourȱpermissionȱorȱdoesȱsomethingȱthatȱmakesȱyouȱfeelȱunsafe.ȱ
2. Writeȱ“TrustedȱAdult”ȱonȱtheȱboard.ȱȱ3. Weȱjustȱreviewedȱallȱtheȱnewȱvocabularyȱwordsȱthatȱwe’veȱlearnedȱinȱtheȱpastȱ
fewȱlessons.ȱȱToday,ȱourȱfocusȱisȱonȱaȱtermȱthatȱweȱalreadyȱknowȱȬȱ“TrustedȱAdult”.ȱ
4. Let’sȱreviewȱwhatȱ“TrustedȱAdult”ȱmeans.ȱ5. Allowȱaȱfewȱresponses.ȱȱ6. AȱTrustedȱAdultȱisȱaȱgrownȬupȱwhoȱhelpsȱyouȱtoȱstayȱsafeȱinȱyourȱCircleȱofȱ
GraceȱandȱtoȱrespectȱothersȱwithinȱtheirȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱȱExamplesȱofȱTrustedȱ
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Adults,ȱotherȱthanȱyourȱparents,ȱcouldȱbeȱaȱteacher,ȱaȱneighbor,ȱanȱaunt,ȱorȱuncle,ȱyourȱgrandparent,ȱchurchȱleader,ȱorȱaȱfamilyȱfriend.ȱ
7. Howȱdoȱyouȱknowȱyouȱcanȱtrustȱsomeone?ȱ8. Allowȱaȱfewȱresponses.ȱ9. Youȱknowȱsomeoneȱisȱtrustworthyȱwhenȱtheyȱhelpȱyouȱtoȱbeȱsafe,ȱwhenȱtheyȱtellȱ
theȱtruth,ȱandȱwhenȱtheyȱareȱthereȱforȱyouȱinȱgoodȱtimesȱandȱbad.ȱ
AnȱadaptationȱusingȱaȱhandȱpuppetȱtoȱinteractȱwithȱtheȱleaderȱandȱchildrenȱduringȱtheȱActivity,ȱSkillȱIntroduction,ȱandȱRoleȬPlayȱIntroductionȱisȱprovidedȱatȱtheȱendȱofȱtheȱGradeȱ1ȱlessons.ȱ
ActivityȱȬȱIdentifyingȱMyȱTrustedȱAdultsȱȱ1. Canȱanyoneȱnameȱaȱpersonȱwhoȱlovesȱyouȱandȱhelpsȱyouȱtoȱstayȱsafe?ȱȱEncourageȱtheȱchildrenȱtoȱnameȱadultsȱinȱadditionȱtoȱtheirȱmomȱandȱdad.ȱȱȱ
2. Listȱchildren’sȱresponsesȱonȱtheȱboard.ȱ3. Theseȱareȱpeopleȱwhomȱyouȱcanȱaskȱtoȱhelpȱyouȱifȱyouȱareȱunsafeȱorȱconfused.ȱȱ
WeȱcallȱtheseȱpeopleȱTrustedȱAdults.ȱ4. Giveȱeachȱchildȱaȱpieceȱofȱpaperȱandȱcrayonsȱorȱmarkers.ȱ5. InstructȱtheȱchildrenȱtoȱthinkȱofȱoneȱorȱtwoȱTrustedȱAdultsȱbesidesȱmomȱorȱdadȱwhomȱtheyȱcouldȱaskȱforȱhelp.ȱ
6. TellȱaȱpersonȱnextȱtoȱyouȱtheȱnamesȱofȱtheȱTrustedȱAdultsȱthatȱyouȱpicked.ȱ7. DrawȱaȱpictureȱofȱeachȱofȱyourȱTrustedȱAdults.ȱȱRemindȱchildrenȱthatȱmomȱandȱdadȱmayȱbeȱtrustedȱadultsȱevenȱifȱtheyȱareȱnotȱinȱtheȱpicture.ȱ
8. AttachȱtheȱdrawingȱtoȱtheȱHomeȱActivityȱSheetȱforȱparentsȱforȱlessonȱ4.ȱȱ(SeeȱtheȱendȱofȱGradeȱ1ȱlessons.)ȱ
9. InstructȱtheȱchildrenȱtoȱhaveȱtheirȱparentsȱsignȱtheȱHomeȱActivityȱSheet.ȱ10. Remindȱtheȱchildrenȱtoȱbringȱtheȱhomeȱactivityȱsheetȱbackȱtoȱtheȱclassroomȱnextȱweek.ȱȱ
SkillȱIntroductionȱȱHowȱtoȱAskȱMyȱTrustedȱAdultȱforȱHelpȱȱAskȱtheȱclassȱtoȱbrainstormȱaȱlistȱofȱRedȱSignalȱorȱYellowȱSignalȱtimesȱwhenȱtheyȱmightȱneedȱtoȱtalkȱtoȱorȱaskȱaȱtrustedȱadultȱforȱhelp.ȱȱWriteȱtheirȱsuggestionsȱonȱtheȱboard.ȱ
1. Postȱtheȱadaptedȱskillȱposterȱ“HowȱtoȱAskȱforȱHelp”.ȱȱ(SeeȱtheȱendȱofȱtheȱGradeȱ1ȱlessons.)ȱ
a. Pictureȱanȱeyeȱb. Pictureȱofȱaȱchildȱspeaking/mouthȱc. Pictureȱofȱ“?”ȱd. Theȱwordsȱ“ThankȱYou”ȱ
2. Skillȱstepsȱare:ȱa. Lookȱatȱtheȱperson.ȱȱ(Pictureȱofȱanȱeye)ȱb. Sayȱtoȱtheȱpersonȱ“Iȱneedȱhelp.ȱȱIȱdoȱnotȱfeelȱsafe.”ȱȱ(Pictureȱofȱaȱchildȱ
speaking/mouth)ȱc. Tellȱtheȱpersonȱwhatȱisȱwrong,ȱwhyȱyouȱdon’tȱfeelȱsafe.ȱ(Pictureȱofȱ“?”)ȱ
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d. Tellȱtheȱperson,ȱ“ThankȱYou.”ȱ(Wordsȱ“ThankȱYou”)ȱ3. Thisȱisȱhowȱweȱaskȱforȱhelp.ȱȱYouȱcanȱuseȱtheseȱstepsȱwheneverȱyouȱneedȱtoȱaskȱ
anyoneȱforȱhelp.ȱȱTodayȱweȱareȱgoingȱtoȱpracticeȱhowȱtoȱaskȱforȱhelpȱfromȱyourȱparentsȱorȱaȱTrustedȱAdult.ȱ
RoleȬPlayȱIntroductionȱ
ȱ1. Explain:ȱRoleȬplayȱisȱaȱwayȱtoȱpracticeȱsomethingȱnew.ȱ2. SelectȱoneȱofȱtheȱsituationsȱfromȱSkillȱIntroductionȱthatȱtheȱchildrenȱthinkȱtheyȱmightȱneedȱtoȱtalkȱtoȱorȱaskȱforȱhelpȱforȱaȱtrustedȱadult.ȱȱ
3. Todayȱweȱareȱgoingȱtoȱpracticeȱaskingȱforȱhelpȱwhen…(situation).ȱȱ(Example:ȱTodayȱweȱareȱgoingȱtoȱpracticeȱaskingȱforȱhelpȱwhenȱsomeoneȱwantsȱmeȱtoȱgetȱinȱtheirȱcarȱandȱIȱdon’tȱthinkȱmyȱmomȱandȱdadȱwantȱmeȱto.)ȱ
4. Askȱtheȱchildrenȱtoȱbrainstormȱideasȱofȱhowȱtheyȱwouldȱtellȱaȱtrustedȱadultȱtheyȱfeltȱunsafe.ȱȱEncourageȱtheȱchildrenȱtoȱclearlyȱdescribeȱwhyȱtheyȱfeelȱunsafe.ȱȱExamples:ȱ“Myȱmomȱtoldȱmeȱtoȱwaitȱforȱher.”ȱȱ“Weȱmightȱnotȱgoȱstraightȱtoȱmyȱhouse.”ȱȱ“Iȱdon’tȱknowȱhim.”ȱȱ“Iȱfeelȱanxiousȱaroundȱthem.”ȱ
5. HaveȱtheȱchildrenȱpracticeȱwithȱtheȱleaderȱroleȬplayingȱtheȱtrustedȱadult.ȱȱThisȱroleȬplayȱactivityȱmayȱbeȱdoneȱindividuallyȱorȱasȱaȱlargeȱgroup.ȱ
a. Childrenȱlookȱatȱtheȱleader.ȱb. Childrenȱsayȱaloud:ȱ“Iȱneedȱyourȱhelp.ȱȱIȱdon’tȱfeelȱsafe.”ȱc. Childrenȱsayȱaloud:ȱ“Pleaseȱhelpȱmeȱbecause…”ȱȱ(Example:ȱPleaseȱhelpȱmeȱ
becauseȱIȱdon’tȱthinkȱmyȱmomȱorȱdadȱwantȱmeȱtoȱgoȱwithȱher.ȱȱIȱdon’tȱknowȱher.)ȱ
d. Childrenȱsayȱaloud:ȱ“ThankȱYou.”ȱ
WrappingȱUpȱ1. Directȱchildren’sȱattentionȱbackȱtoȱtheȱ“HowȱtoȱAskȱforȱHelp”ȱSkillȱPoster.ȱ2. Askȱchildrenȱtoȱrepeatȱtheȱstepsȱforȱ“HowȱtoȱAskȱforȱHelp”.ȱ3. Encourageȱchildrenȱtoȱprayȱforȱand/orȱwriteȱaȱnoteȱofȱthanksȱtoȱeachȱofȱtheirȱTrustedȱAdults.ȱ
Remember,ȱaccordingȱtoȱresearchȱweȱrememberȱ5%ȱofȱwhatȱweȱhearȱandȱ90%ȱofȱwhatȱweȱdo.ȱAllowingȱchildrenȱtoȱroleȬplayȱgreatlyȱincreasesȱtheirȱchancesȱofȱ
rememberingȱwhatȱtoȱdoȱwhenȱaȱrealȱproblemȱarises.
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ClosingȱPrayerȱThankȱyou,ȱGod,ȱ
forȱalwaysȱbeingȱwithȱmeȱinȱmyȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱThankȱyouȱforȱtheȱgiftȱofȱtheȱHolyȱSpiritȱwhoȱhelpsȱmeȱknowȱwhatȱisȱgood.ȱ
Thankȱyouȱforȱgivingȱmeȱpeopleȱwhoȱcareȱaboutȱmeȱandȱwantȱmeȱtoȱbeȱsafe.ȱ
Amen.ȱȱ
(Optional)ȱTellȱtheȱchildrenȱyouȱwillȱcloseȱbyȱsingingȱaȱsongȱcalledȱ“ThisȱisȱHolyȱGround”ȱorȱ“PrayerȱforȱPeace”ȱorȱotherȱappropriateȱsong.ȱȱ
HandȱPuppetȱAdaptationȱ1. Useȱaȱhandȱpuppetȱtoȱinteractȱwithȱtheȱleaderȱandȱchildrenȱduringȱtheȱlessonȱactivity,ȱskillȱintroduction,ȱandȱroleȬplayȱintroduction.ȱ
2. ActivityȱAdaptation:ȱTheȱleaderȱasksȱchildrenȱtoȱnameȱaȱpersonȱwhoȱlovesȱthemȱandȱhelpsȱthemȱtoȱstayȱsafe.ȱȱTheȱleaderȱpromptsȱtheȱchildrenȱbyȱhavingȱtheȱhandȱpuppetȱrespondȱappropriately.ȱȱTheȱleaderȱaffirmsȱtheȱhandȱpuppet’sȱresponses.ȱ
3. SkillȱIntroductionȱAdaptation:ȱȱTheȱleaderȱreviewsȱtheȱadaptedȱskillȱposterȱ“HowȱtoȱAskȱforȱHelp”ȱwithȱtheȱhandȱpuppet.ȱȱTheȱhandȱpuppetȱmodelsȱtheȱskillȱstepsȱforȱtheȱchildrenȱandȱasksȱtheȱchildrenȱtoȱpracticeȱtheȱstepsȱwithȱit.ȱ
4. RoleȬPlayȱAdaptation:ȱUsingȱoneȱofȱtheȱsituationsȱprovided,ȱtheȱhandȱpuppetȱroleȬplaysȱtheȱappropriateȱskillsȱtoȱuseȱwhenȱaskingȱforȱhelp.ȱȱChildrenȱmayȱalsoȱgiveȱtheirȱsuggestionsȱtoȱtheȱhandȱpuppetȱasȱtoȱhowȱtheȱhandȱpuppetȱshouldȱaskȱforȱhelp.ȱȱTheȱleaderȱmayȱalsoȱhaveȱtheȱchildrenȱuseȱtheȱhandȱpuppetȱtoȱroleȬplayȱtheȱappropriateȱskills.ȱ
ȱ
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FeelingȱFacesȱChartȱ
Embarrassed Frustrated
Happy Lonely
Loved Mad
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Lessonȱ2ȱTheȱStoplight:ȱHomeȱActivityȱSheetȱforȱParentsȱ
ȱTheȱgoalȱofȱLessonȱ2:ȱTheȱStoplightȱȬȱFeelings,ȱTouch,ȱandȱSecretsȱisȱtoȱhelpȱchildrenȱidentifyȱsafeȱandȱunsafeȱsituations/secrets.ȱȱTheȱchildrenȱareȱnowȱbetterȱableȱtoȱunderstandȱthatȱGodȱdoesȱnotȱwantȱorȱcauseȱbadȱthingsȱtoȱhappenȱtoȱthem,ȱtoȱunderstandȱthatȱGodȱisȱwithȱthemȱandȱforȱthemȱevenȱwhenȱtheyȱareȱhurtingȱorȱsad.ȱȱTheyȱwillȱbeȱableȱtoȱidentifyȱwhenȱsomeoneȱcomesȱintoȱtheirȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱandȱtoȱrecognizeȱsafeȱandȱunsafeȱtouchȱinȱaȱperson’sȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱȱInȱthisȱlesson,ȱweȱuseȱtheȱanalogyȱofȱaȱstoplightȱtoȱconnectȱaȱgreenȱsignalȱwithȱsafeȱsituations,ȱaȱredȱsignalȱwithȱunsafeȱsituations,ȱandȱaȱyellowȱsignalȱwithȱsituationsȱinȱwhichȱaȱchildȱmightȱfeelȱconfusedȱorȱunsure.ȱȱSometimesȱitȱisȱhardȱforȱaȱchildȱtoȱdistinguishȱbetweenȱtheȱyellowȱandȱredȱsituations.ȱWhenȱthatȱhappens,ȱchildrenȱneedȱtoȱtalkȱtoȱsomeoneȱtheyȱtrustȱlikeȱtheirȱparents,ȱleader,ȱorȱotherȱtrustedȱadult.ȱȱLearningȱtoȱbeȱmoreȱawareȱofȱtheseȱsignalsȱhelpsȱchildrenȱrecognizeȱthemȱasȱoneȱofȱtheȱmainȱwaysȱtheȱHolyȱSpiritȱhelpsȱtoȱguideȱus.ȱȱItȱisȱimportantȱforȱyouȱasȱparentsȱandȱguardiansȱtoȱreinforceȱthisȱlessonȱatȱhomeȱwithȱyourȱchild.ȱȱYouȱareȱencouragedȱtoȱtalkȱwithȱyourȱchildȱaboutȱrealȱsituationsȱinȱhisȱorȱherȱeverydayȱlifeȱandȱinviteȱyourȱchildȱtoȱidentifyȱwhetherȱtheȱsituationsȱareȱgreenȱ(GOȱAHEAD,ȱthisȱisȱsafe),ȱredȱ(STOP,ȱthisȱisȱunsafe,ȱalwaysȱtalkȱtoȱaȱtrustedȱadultȱbeforeȱacting),ȱorȱyellowȱ(BEȱCAREFUL,ȱalwaysȱtalkȱtoȱaȱtrustedȱadultȱbeforeȱacting).ȱȱȱȱYourȱsupportȱofȱtheȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱProgramȱisȱessentialȱandȱveryȱmuchȱappreciatedȱasȱweȱstriveȱtoȱprovideȱtheȱsafestȱpossibleȱenvironmentȱforȱourȱchildren.ȱ
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Lessonȱ3ȱTheȱTrustedȱAdult:ȱHomeȱActivityȱSheetȱforȱParentsȱ
ȱTheȱgoalȱofȱLessonȱ3:ȱInȱthisȱlesson,ȱweȱaskȱchildrenȱtoȱnameȱandȱdrawȱaȱpictureȱofȱtrustedȱadultsȱ(inȱadditionȱtoȱtheirȱparents).ȱȱPleaseȱaskȱyourȱchildȱtoȱshowȱyouȱthisȱdrawing.ȱȱIfȱyourȱchildȱnamesȱsomeoneȱyouȱfindȱinappropriate,ȱpleaseȱhelpȱhim/herȱtoȱidentifyȱsomeoneȱelse.ȱȱPleaseȱcontactȱtheseȱindividualsȱtoȱletȱthemȱknowȱyouȱandȱyourȱchildȱhaveȱidentifiedȱthemȱasȱtrustedȱadults.ȱȱThisȱcanȱbeȱdoneȱinȱperson,ȱbyȱphone,ȱorȱaȱletter.ȱȱ(LetterȬwritingȱisȱaȱfunȱactivityȱyouȱcanȱdoȱwithȱyourȱchild.)ȱȱBeingȱidentifiedȱasȱaȱtrustedȱadultȱwillȱmostȱlikelyȱmakeȱthemȱfeelȱhonoredȱasȱwellȱasȱalertȱthemȱtoȱyourȱsafetyȱplanȱforȱyourȱchild.ȱȱPleaseȱhaveȱyourȱchildȱreturnȱtheȱdrawingȱwithȱyourȱsignatureȱasȱaȱconfirmationȱforȱusȱthatȱyouȱreceivedȱthisȱinformationȱandȱdiscussedȱitȱwithȱyourȱchild.ȱȱPleaseȱcallȱtheȱparishȱofficeȱifȱyouȱhaveȱquestions.ȱȱThankȱyouȱforȱyourȱcooperation!