Lesson 2: The Stoplight Feelings, Touch and Secrets
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Circle of Grace – Grade 1: Lesson 2 Page 12 Lesson 2: The Stoplight Feelings, Touch and Secrets This lesson compliments the following Catholic teachings: x We are all Children of God. x As Children of God, we are unique and loved by Him x Jesus teaches us how to love and respect God and others and self x We are all called to do good. Lesson Goal Children will be better able to identify safe and unsafe situations. Lesson Objectives Children will be able to: 1. Understand that God does not want or cause bad things to happen to them and that God is with them and for them even when they are hurting or sad. 2. Learn how to recognize when someone comes into their Circle of Grace. 3. Be able to recognize safe and unsafe situations in a person’s Circle of Grace. 4. Distinguish between safe and unsafe secrets in a person’s Circle of Grace. Vocabulary 1. Feelings : Something I sense inside myself (e.g. angry, sad, happy, afraid, embarrassed, confused, excited, peaceful, etc.) that gives me information about others or myself. 2. Holy Spirit : God present with and within me in a special way. The Holy Spirit helps me to remember that I belong to God. The Holy Spirit helps me to experience and live God’s love. 3. Safe : I am safe when my body and my feelings are respected by me and by others. 4. Safe Touch : Touch that respects others and me. 5. Secret : A secret is something I know but do not tell. Safe secret : A secret is safe when it does not hurt others or me. Sometimes children reveal personal information or details about incidents that, in order to respect confidentiality, need to be handled outside of the group environment. If this happens, tell the child, “Thank you for sharing that, ________. That sounds really important. I will talk to you about that later (at the end of class, at the break, as soon as humanly possible, etc.).” When this happens, be sure you talk to the child at your first opportunity and alert the administration. Remember that you are the responsible reporter in cases of suspected abuse.
Transcript of Lesson 2: The Stoplight Feelings, Touch and Secrets
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Lesson 2: The Stoplight Feelings, Touch and Secrets
ThisȱlessonȱcomplimentsȱtheȱfollowingȱCatholicȱteachings:ȱx WeȱareȱallȱChildrenȱofȱGod.ȱx AsȱChildrenȱofȱGod,ȱweȱareȱuniqueȱandȱlovedȱbyȱHimȱx JesusȱteachesȱusȱhowȱtoȱloveȱandȱrespectȱGodȱandȱothersȱandȱselfȱx Weȱareȱallȱcalledȱtoȱdoȱgood.ȱ
LessonȱGoalȱChildrenȱwillȱbeȱbetterȱableȱtoȱidentifyȱsafeȱandȱunsafeȱsituations.ȱȱ
LessonȱObjectivesȱChildrenȱwillȱbeȱableȱto:ȱ
1. UnderstandȱthatȱGodȱdoesȱnotȱwantȱorȱcauseȱbadȱthingsȱtoȱhappenȱtoȱthemȱandȱthatȱGodȱisȱwithȱthemȱandȱforȱthemȱevenȱwhenȱtheyȱareȱhurtingȱorȱsad.ȱ
2. LearnȱhowȱtoȱrecognizeȱwhenȱsomeoneȱcomesȱintoȱtheirȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ3. Beȱableȱtoȱrecognizeȱsafeȱandȱunsafeȱsituationsȱinȱaȱperson’sȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ4. Distinguishȱbetweenȱsafeȱandȱunsafeȱsecretsȱinȱaȱperson’sȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ
Vocabularyȱ1. Feelings:ȱSomethingȱIȱsenseȱinsideȱmyselfȱ(e.g.ȱangry,ȱsad,ȱhappy,ȱafraid,ȱ
embarrassed,ȱconfused,ȱexcited,ȱpeaceful,ȱetc.)ȱthatȱgivesȱmeȱinformationȱaboutȱothersȱorȱmyself.ȱ
2. HolyȱSpirit:ȱGodȱpresentȱwithȱandȱwithinȱmeȱinȱaȱspecialȱway.ȱȱTheȱHolyȱSpiritȱhelpsȱmeȱtoȱrememberȱthatȱIȱbelongȱtoȱGod.ȱȱTheȱHolyȱSpiritȱhelpsȱmeȱtoȱexperienceȱandȱliveȱGod’sȱlove.ȱ
3. Safe:ȱIȱamȱsafeȱwhenȱmyȱbodyȱandȱmyȱfeelingsȱareȱrespectedȱbyȱmeȱandȱbyȱothers.ȱ
4. SafeȱTouch:ȱTouchȱthatȱrespectsȱothersȱandȱme.ȱ5. Secret:ȱAȱsecretȱisȱsomethingȱIȱknowȱbutȱdoȱnotȱtell.ȱ
Safeȱsecret:ȱAȱsecretȱisȱsafeȱwhenȱitȱdoesȱnotȱhurtȱothersȱorȱme.ȱ
Sometimesȱchildrenȱrevealȱpersonalȱinformationȱorȱdetailsȱaboutȱincidentsȱthat,ȱinȱorderȱtoȱrespectȱconfidentiality,ȱneedȱtoȱbeȱhandledȱoutsideȱofȱtheȱgroupȱenvironment.ȱȱIfȱthisȱhappens,ȱtellȱtheȱchild,ȱ“Thankȱyouȱforȱsharingȱthat,ȱ________.ȱȱThatȱsoundsȱreallyȱ
important.ȱȱIȱwillȱtalkȱtoȱyouȱaboutȱthatȱlaterȱ(atȱtheȱendȱofȱclass,ȱatȱtheȱbreak,ȱasȱsoonȱasȱhumanlyȱpossible,ȱetc.).”ȱȱWhenȱthisȱhappens,ȱbeȱsureȱyouȱtalkȱtoȱtheȱchildȱatȱyourȱfirstȱ
opportunityȱandȱalertȱtheȱadministration.ȱȱRememberȱthatȱyouȱareȱtheȱresponsibleȱreporterȱinȱcasesȱofȱsuspectedȱabuse.ȱ
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Unsafeȱsecret:ȱAȱsecretȱisȱunsafeȱwhenȱIȱthinkȱthatȱsomeone,ȱincludingȱme,ȱmightȱbeȱhurtȱorȱgetȱinȱtroubleȱifȱIȱdoȱnotȱtell.ȱ
6. Signal:ȱAȱsignȱthatȱtellsȱmeȱsomethingȱmayȱbeȱsafeȱorȱunsafe.ȱȱThisȱmayȱbeȱinternalȱorȱexternal.ȱ
7. Stoplight:ȱAȱtrafficȱlightȱ(red,ȱyellow,ȱgreen)ȱthatȱisȱaȱvisualȱsignalȱforȱkeepingȱvehiclesȱandȱpeopleȱsafe.ȱ
8. Trust:ȱBeingȱableȱtoȱcountȱonȱsomeoneȱtoȱhelpȱmeȱtoȱstayȱsafeȱwithinȱmyȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ
9. TrustedȱAdult:ȱAȱgrownȬupȱwhoȱhelpsȱmeȱtoȱstayȱsafeȱinȱmyȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱandȱtoȱrespectȱothersȱwithinȱtheirȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ
10. Unsafe:ȱAnythingȱthatȱcausesȱharmȱtoȱmyselfȱorȱothers.ȱUnsafeȱtouch:ȱTouchȱthatȱisȱdisrespectfulȱandȱhurts,ȱscares,ȱorȱmakesȱmeȱ
feelȱuncomfortableȱorȱconfused.ȱ
MaterialsȱNeededȱ1. LargeȱpictureȱofȱaȱstoplightȱwithȱallȱthreeȱcolorsȱvisibleȱȬȱred,ȱyellow,ȱandȱgreenȱ
(seeȱtheȱendȱofȱGradeȱ1ȱlessons)ȱ2. Oneȱsetȱofȱred,ȱyellow,ȱandȱgreenȱcircleȱcardsȱperȱchildȱtheȱbacksideȱofȱeachȱ
coloredȱcardȱshouldȱbeȱwhiteȱandȱtheȱfrontȱsideȱred,ȱyellow,ȱorȱgreenȱ3. FeelingȱFacesȱChartȱisȱoptionalȱtoȱassistȱwithȱtheȱstoplightȱactivityȱ(seeȱtheȱendȱofȱ
Gradeȱ1ȱlessons)ȱ4. CompletedȱHappyȱFaceȱandȱSadȱFaceȱchartȱfromȱLessonȱ1ȱ5. HomeȱActivityȱSheetȱforȱParents:ȱTheȱStoplightȱ(seeȱtheȱendȱofȱGradeȱ1ȱlessons)ȱ
OpeningȱPrayerȱLeaderȱcallsȱclassȱtoȱprayerȱbyȱaskingȱchildrenȱtoȱquietȱdownȱandȱjoinȱinȱtheȱSignȱofȱtheȱCross.ȱThenȱsayȱtogether,ȱ
HolyȱSpirit,ȱshowȱusȱtheȱway.ȱBeȱwithȱusȱinȱallȱweȱthink,ȱdo,ȱandȱsay.ȱȱAmen.ȱ
GettingȱStartedȱReviewȱ
1. AskȱchildrenȱtoȱstandȱandȱdemonstrateȱtheirȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱasȱlearnedȱinȱpreviousȱlesson.ȱ2. PointȱtoȱHappyȱFaceȱandȱSadȱFaceȱchartȱfromȱLessonȱ1.ȱȱAskȱchildrenȱtheȱfollowing:ȱ
a. Whatȱdidȱweȱwriteȱonȱthisȱchart?ȱȱ(Answer:ȱwordsȱandȱactionsȱweȱlikeȱandȱdon’tȱlikeȱfromȱothers.)ȱ
b. Whatȱwereȱsomeȱofȱtheȱwordsȱandȱactionsȱyouȱliked?ȱȱWhy?ȱc. Whatȱwereȱsomeȱyouȱdidȱnotȱlike?ȱȱWhy?ȱȱ
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Suggestedȱcomment:ȱTodayȱweȱareȱgoingȱtoȱcontinueȱtalkingȱaboutȱwordsȱandȱactionsȱthatȱweȱlikeȱandȱdon’tȱlikeȱinȱourȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱȱWeȱwillȱuseȱtheȱstoplightȱtoȱidentifyȱwhatȱdoesn’tȱbelongȱinȱourȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱDiscussionȱ
1. Showȱaȱlargeȱpictureȱofȱaȱstoplight.ȱ2. Reviewȱtheȱmeaningȱofȱaȱstoplightȱbyȱasking:ȱ
a. Whyȱdoȱweȱhaveȱstoplights?ȱȱPauseȱforȱanswers.ȱȱTheȱreasonȱweȱhaveȱstoplightsȱisȱtoȱprotectȱpeopleȱandȱkeepȱthemȱsafe.ȱ
b. Whatȱdoesȱeachȱcolorȱofȱtheȱstoplightȱmean?ȱȱ(AddȱSTOP,ȱBEȱCAREFUL,ȱandȱGOȱAHEAD.)ȱ
LessonȱDevelopmentȱȱIntroductionȱȱ
MostȱofȱtheȱtimeȱyouȱknowȱwhatȱisȱsafeȱandȱgoodȱtoȱallowȱinȱyourȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱȱSometimes,ȱthough,ȱyouȱneedȱothersȱwhoȱrespectȱyourȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱtoȱhelpȱyouȱknowȱwhatȱisȱsafeȱandȱwhatȱisȱnot,ȱpeopleȱlikeȱourȱparentsȱorȱteachers.ȱȱGodȱhasȱgivenȱeachȱofȱusȱourȱownȱkindȱofȱsignalȱtoȱkeepȱusȱsafeȱandȱprotected.ȱȱSometimesȱtheseȱsignalsȱareȱcalledȱfeelings.ȱȱOurȱfeelingsȱareȱoneȱofȱtheȱmainȱwaysȱtheȱHolyȱSpiritȱhelpsȱtoȱguideȱus.ȱ
Discussionȱ1. Continueȱbyȱsaying:ȱLet’sȱreviewȱhowȱtheȱthreeȱcolorsȱofȱaȱstoplightȱcanȱremindȱusȱ
ofȱtheȱsignalsȱGodȱgivesȱusȱtoȱhelpȱkeepȱusȱsafeȱandȱprotected.ȱ2. GreenȱsignalȱȬȱMeansȱGOȱAHEAD.ȱȱSomeȱthingsȱareȱdefinitelyȱsafe.ȱȱSomeȱ
examplesȱareȱtellingȱtheȱtruth,ȱbeingȱkindȱandȱrespectful,ȱhelpingȱothers,ȱandȱcaringȱaboutȱothers.ȱȱYouȱareȱalsoȱsafeȱwhenȱothersȱrespectȱyourȱbodyȱandȱfeelings.ȱȱCouldȱyouȱnameȱsomeȱotherȱthingsȱthatȱwouldȱalwaysȱbeȱsafeȱtoȱdoȱorȱletȱsomeoneȱelseȱdoȱwithȱyou?ȱȱ(Leaderȱpointsȱoutȱthatȱeverythingȱwrittenȱonȱtheȱhappyȱfaceȱcolumnȱofȱtheȱposterȱwouldȱbeȱaȱgreenȱsignalȱwordȱorȱaction.)ȱȱ
3. RedȱSignalȱȬȱMeansȱSTOP.ȱȱSomeȱthingsȱareȱunsafeȱandȱalwaysȱmeanȱtrouble.ȱȱSomeȱexamplesȱareȱbeingȱmeanȱorȱbullying,ȱlying,ȱhitting,ȱfighting,ȱetc.ȱȱCanȱyouȱhelpȱmeȱthinkȱofȱotherȱthingsȱthatȱareȱneverȱgoodȱtoȱdoȱorȱletȱsomeoneȱdoȱtoȱyou?ȱȱ(Leaderȱpointsȱoutȱthatȱeverythingȱwrittenȱonȱtheȱsadȱfaceȱcolumnȱofȱtheȱposterȱwouldȱbeȱaȱredȱsignalȱwordȱorȱaction.)ȱȱWhenȱthisȱhappens,ȱtellȱsomeoneȱthatȱyouȱtrust,ȱlikeȱyourȱmom,ȱdad,ȱleader,ȱorȱotherȱtrustedȱadult.ȱ
4. YellowȱSignalȱȬȱMeansȱBEȱCAREFUL.ȱȱSometimesȱyouȱcan’tȱtellȱifȱaȱsituationȱisȱsafeȱorȱunsafe.ȱȱYouȱmightȱfeelȱconfusedȱorȱunsureȱaboutȱit.ȱȱTheseȱareȱlikeȱaȱyellowȱsignal.ȱȱItȱmayȱseemȱlikeȱjustȱaȱfunnyȱfeelingȱinȱyourȱheartȱorȱtummy.ȱȱ
Theȱuseȱofȱtheȱwordȱ“signal”ȱ(insteadȱofȱ“light”)ȱisȱintentionalȱinȱorderȱtoȱpointȱtoȱtheȱfactȱthatȱaȱ“signal”ȱcanȱbeȱbothȱinternalȱandȱexternal.ȱȱAȱ“stoplight”,ȱhowever,ȱisȱonlyȱanȱexternalȱreality.ȱȱȱ
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Whenȱthisȱhappens,ȱtellȱsomeoneȱthatȱyouȱtrust,ȱlikeȱyourȱmom,ȱdad,ȱleader,ȱorȱotherȱtrustedȱadult.ȱ
ActivityȱȬȱRedȱLight,ȱGreenȱLightȱȱ
1. Giveȱeachȱchildȱaȱsetȱofȱred,ȱgreen,ȱandȱyellowȱcards.ȱ
2. Suggestedȱinstructions:ȱx Inȱaȱmoment,ȱI’mȱgoingȱtoȱdescribeȱsomeȱsituations.ȱx Pleaseȱlistenȱveryȱcarefully.ȱx Atȱtheȱendȱofȱeach,ȱI’mȱgoingȱtoȱaskȱyouȱifȱyouȱthinkȱtheȱsituationȱcallsȱforȱaȱredȱ
signal,ȱaȱyellowȱsignal,ȱorȱaȱgreenȱsignal.ȱȱI’llȱthenȱaskȱyouȱeachȱtoȱholdȱupȱtheȱcolorȱcardȱthatȱyouȱthinkȱbestȱfitsȱtheȱsituation.ȱ
x Thenȱwe’llȱtalkȱaboutȱeachȱsituation.ȱ
3. Readȱeachȱsituationȱaloud.ȱȱMakeȱsureȱtoȱvaryȱtheȱorderȱinȱwhichȱtheȱgreen,ȱred,ȱandȱyellowȱsituationsȱareȱread.ȱ
4. Afterȱreadingȱaȱsituation,ȱgiveȱchildrenȱaȱmomentȱtoȱthinkȱandȱthenȱaskȱthemȱtoȱholdȱupȱaȱred,ȱgreen,ȱorȱyellowȱcard.ȱȱSomeȱsituations,ȱthoughȱclearlyȱredȱtoȱadults,ȱmayȱbeȱunclearȱ(yellow)ȱfromȱaȱchild’sȱperspective.ȱȱThisȱactivityȱwillȱhelpȱchildrenȱidentifyȱtheirȱownȱconfusingȱfeelingsȱandȱtoȱunderstandȱthatȱtheyȱshouldȱtalkȱtoȱaȱtrustedȱadult.ȱȱAllowȱtimeȱforȱchildrenȱtoȱdiscussȱtheirȱfeelingsȱconnectedȱwithȱtheseȱsituations.ȱ
a. GREENȱSITUATIONSȱ¾ Yourȱmomȱorȱdadȱgivesȱyouȱaȱhugȱwhenȱyouȱareȱsadȱ(loved,ȱcomforted).ȱ¾ Youȱareȱatȱtheȱdoctorȱandȱyourȱmomȱisȱwithȱyou.ȱȱTheȱdoctorȱchecksȱ
yourȱbodyȱtoȱmakeȱsureȱitȱisȱhealthyȱ(safe,ȱsecure,ȱembarrassed).ȱ¾ Youȱseeȱyourȱfriendȱcryingȱandȱyouȱaskȱifȱyouȱcanȱgiveȱher/himȱaȱhugȱ(sad,ȱcaring).ȱ
Theȱpurposeȱofȱthisȱactivityȱisȱtoȱhelpȱchildrenȱlearnȱhowȱtoȱidentifyȱdangerousȱandȱunsafeȱsituations,ȱfeelings,ȱandȱtouch,ȱbutȱnotȱtoȱscareȱorȱshameȱthem.ȱȱMakeȱsureȱtoȱgiveȱclearȱandȱconciseȱreasonsȱwhyȱaȱsituationȱfallsȱintoȱtheȱgreenȱorȱyellow/redȱsignalȱcategory.ȱȱThisȱisȱbecauseȱforȱchildren,ȱitȱmayȱbeȱsometimesȱhardȱtoȱdistinguishȱbetweenȱredȱandȱyellowȱsituations.ȱȱTheȱchildrenȱneedȱtoȱbeȱawareȱofȱtheirȱinternalȱprocessȱofȱconflictingȱfeelingsȱwhichȱtheyȱmightȱbeȱexperiencing.ȱȱChildrenȱwillȱlearnȱthatȱwhenȱpossibleȱtheyȱshouldȱalwaysȱtalkȱtoȱaȱtrustedȱadultȱbeforeȱactingȱinȱaȱredȱorȱyellowȱsituation.ȱȱRemindȱchildrenȱthatȱthereȱareȱalwaysȱadultsȱavailableȱtoȱlistenȱandȱtalk.ȱȱChildrenȱonlyȱneedȱtoȱaskȱaȱtrustedȱadultȱforȱtheȱtimeȱtoȱtalk.ȱ
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¾ Yourȱgrandmother/grandfatherȱwipesȱyourȱtearsȱwhenȱyouȱfallȱdownȱandȱhurtȱyourselfȱ(loved,ȱcomforted,ȱsafe).ȱ
¾ Youȱtellȱtheȱleaderȱwhenȱyouȱaccidentallyȱbreakȱsomethingȱinȱyourȱclassroomȱ(embarrassed,ȱsorry,ȱguilty,ȱhappyȱthatȱyouȱtold).ȱ
b. YELLOW/REDȱSITUATIONSȱ(Alwaysȱtalkȱtoȱaȱtrustedȱadult.)ȱ¾ Youȱareȱwalkingȱhomeȱfromȱschoolȱandȱsomeoneȱyouȱdon’tȱknowȱwellȱ
offersȱtoȱgiveȱyouȱaȱrideȱhomeȱ(cautious,ȱscared).ȱ¾ Yourȱbigȱbrother’sȱfriendȱwantsȱyouȱtoȱwatchȱaȱmovieȱyourȱmomȱorȱ
dadȱtoldȱyouȱnotȱtoȱwatchȱ(worried,ȱafraidȱofȱgettingȱintoȱtrouble).ȱ¾ Youȱpushȱsomeoneȱoutȱofȱlineȱsoȱyouȱcanȱbeȱfirstȱ(mad,ȱselfish).ȱ¾ Youȱareȱplayingȱatȱtheȱneighborhoodȱpark.ȱȱAȱman/womanȱwhoȱhasȱ
said,ȱ“Hi,”ȱtoȱyouȱaȱfewȱtimesȱcomesȱupȱandȱasksȱifȱyouȱcanȱhelpȱfindȱhisȱlostȱpuppyȱ(sad,ȱanxious).ȱ
¾ Youȱareȱatȱaȱfamilyȱparty.ȱȱSomeoneȱasksȱyouȱtoȱsitȱonȱhis/herȱlap,ȱbutȱyouȱdon’tȱwantȱtoȱ(pressured,ȱmad,ȱunsure).ȱ
¾ Yourȱfriend’sȱbigȱbrother/sisterȱwantsȱyouȱtoȱdoȱsomethingȱyouȱdon’tȱwantȱtoȱdoȱ(pressured,ȱconfused).ȱ
¾ Anȱolderȱrelativeȱwantsȱtoȱkissȱorȱhugȱyou,ȱbutȱyouȱdon’tȱlikeȱitȱbecauseȱheȱorȱsheȱsmellsȱfunnyȱ(confused,ȱimpolite,ȱ“icky”,ȱetc.).ȱ
ȱSometimesȱsecretsȱcanȱevenȱgiveȱusȱaȱfunnyȱfeelingȱinȱourȱheartȱorȱtummy.ȱȱAȱsafeȱsecretȱisȱoneȱthatȱdoesȱnotȱhurtȱothersȱorȱme.ȱȱAȱsecretȱisȱunsafeȱwhenȱIȱthinkȱthatȱsomeone,ȱincludingȱme,ȱmightȱbeȱhurtȱorȱgetȱinȱtroubleȱifȱIȱdoȱnotȱtell.ȱȱAȱgoodȱwayȱtoȱdecideȱifȱaȱsecretȱisȱsafeȱorȱunsafeȱisȱtoȱaskȱourselves,ȱ“Canȱthisȱsecretȱhurtȱmeȱorȱsomeoneȱelse?”ȱ
x Iȱamȱgoingȱtoȱreadȱsomeȱmoreȱsituationsȱthatȱhaveȱaȱsecret.ȱx Pleaseȱlistenȱveryȱcarefully.ȱx Atȱtheȱendȱofȱeach,ȱI’mȱgoingȱtoȱaskȱyouȱifȱyouȱthinkȱtheȱsituationȱcallsȱforȱaȱredȱ
signal,ȱaȱyellowȱsignal,ȱorȱaȱgreenȱsignal.ȱȱI’llȱthenȱaskȱyouȱeachȱtoȱholdȱupȱtheȱcolorȱcardȱthatȱyouȱthinkȱbestȱfitsȱtheȱsituation.ȱ
x Thenȱwe’llȱtalkȱaboutȱeachȱsituation.ȱ
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5. Situations:ȱ(Beȱsureȱtoȱvaryȱtheȱorderȱinȱwhichȱtheȱgreen,ȱred,ȱandȱyellowȱsituationsȱareȱread.)ȱGREENȱ
¾ Yourȱfriendȱtellsȱyou,ȱ“IȱthinkȱJoeyȱisȱcute,”ȱandȱtellsȱyouȱtoȱkeepȱitȱaȱsecretȱ(special,ȱtrusted).ȱ
¾ Yourȱdadȱisȱplanningȱaȱsurpriseȱbirthdayȱpartyȱforȱyourȱmomȱ(happiness,ȱexcitement,ȱanticipation).ȱ
¾ Yourȱparentsȱplanȱtoȱgetȱaȱpuppyȱbutȱdon’tȱtellȱyouȱuntilȱtheyȱbringȱitȱhomeȱ(surprised,ȱloved).ȱ
YELLOW/REDȱ(Alwaysȱtalkȱtoȱaȱtrustedȱadult.)ȱ¾ Yourȱfriendȱthrowsȱaȱballȱandȱitȱaccidentallyȱbreaksȱtheȱneighbor’sȱ
window.ȱȱTheȱfriendȱasksȱyouȱnotȱtoȱtellȱ(guilty,ȱafraidȱofȱpunishment).ȱ¾ Anȱadultȱasksȱyouȱtoȱgoȱwithȱhimȱwithoutȱaskingȱpermissionȱfromȱ
yourȱparents.ȱȱHe/sheȱtellsȱyouȱthatȱyourȱparentsȱwon’tȱcareȱifȱyouȱgoȱwithȱhim/her,ȱbutȱ“Don’tȱtellȱyourȱparentsȱaboutȱourȱvisit.ȱȱTheyȱwon’tȱunderstand,”ȱ(unsure,ȱfunnyȱfeelingȱinȱyourȱtummyȱorȱheart,ȱcurious).ȱ
¾ Someoneȱtouchesȱyouȱinȱaȱwayȱthatȱyouȱdon’tȱthinkȱisȱsafeȱȬȱevenȱifȱtheȱpersonȱsaysȱitȱisȱsafeȱandȱsays,ȱ“Thisȱspecialȱtimeȱisȱbetweenȱyouȱandȱme,”ȱ(funnyȱfeelingȱinȱyourȱtummy,ȱconfused,ȱetc.).ȱ
¾ Yourȱfriendȱtellsȱyou,ȱ“Iȱstoleȱmoneyȱfromȱmom’sȱpurse/dad’sȱwalletȱtoȱgoȱgetȱsomeȱcandyȱforȱus.ȱȱDon’tȱtellȱher/him,”ȱ(confused,ȱworried,ȱmaybeȱexcited).ȱ
¾ Someoneȱactsȱlikeȱyourȱfriendȱbutȱthenȱtriesȱtoȱgetȱyouȱtoȱdoȱsomethingȱyouȱdon’tȱwantȱtoȱdoȱbecauseȱyouȱknowȱitȱisȱwrongȱorȱbecauseȱitȱmakesȱyouȱfeelȱconfusedȱorȱfunny.ȱȱTheyȱsay,ȱ“Ifȱyouȱtell,ȱIȱwillȱtellȱeveryoneȱthatȱthisȱwasȱyourȱidea,”ȱ(confused,ȱfunnyȱfeeling,ȱtrapped).ȱ
¾ Someoneȱtellsȱyouȱthatȱyouȱwillȱgetȱintoȱtroubleȱifȱyouȱtellȱyourȱmomȱand/orȱdadȱ(leader,ȱorȱother)ȱ(afraidȱofȱpunishment).ȱ
6. Afterȱeachȱsituationȱisȱread,ȱaskȱaȱfewȱvolunteersȱtoȱexplainȱwhyȱtheyȱchoseȱtheȱcolorȱcardȱtheyȱdid.ȱȱAlso,ȱallowȱtimeȱforȱchildrenȱtoȱdiscussȱtheirȱfeelingsȱconnectedȱtoȱeachȱsituation.ȱ
7. Ifȱchildrenȱareȱunsure,ȱwrong,ȱorȱyouȱareȱseeingȱmoreȱthanȱoneȱcolorȱcardȱheldȱupȱforȱaȱgivenȱsituation,ȱstopȱandȱaskȱtheȱfollowingȱquestions:ȱ
¾ Whatȱdoȱyouȱthinkȱyourȱmomȱorȱdad,ȱleader,ȱorȱpastorȱwouldȱsayȱaboutȱthisȱsituation?ȱ
¾ Wouldȱtheyȱthinkȱitȱisȱaȱred,ȱgreen,ȱorȱyellowȱsignal?ȱȱWhy?ȱ¾ Howȱdoȱweȱknowȱifȱsomethingȱisȱaȱred,ȱgreen,ȱorȱyellowȱsignalȱ
situation?ȱ
CircleȱofȱGraceȱ–ȱGradeȱ1:ȱLessonȱ2ȱ Pageȱ18
WrappingȱUpȱ1. Reviewȱtheseȱdefinitionsȱofȱfeelingsȱwithȱtheȱchildren.ȱ
a. Theyȱareȱnotȱrightȱorȱwrong,ȱgoodȱorȱbad.ȱȱb. TheyȱmayȱbeȱGod’sȱsignalsȱaboutȱwhatȱisȱgoingȱonȱinȱourȱlives.ȱ
2. Weȱhaveȱtalkedȱaboutȱtheseȱsituationsȱasȱgreen,ȱred,ȱandȱyellowȱtoȱhelpȱchildrenȱknowȱhowȱtoȱrespondȱandȱhowȱtoȱrecognizeȱtheirȱfeelingsȱasȱaȱwayȱofȱdeeperȱlistening.ȱȱȱ
3. InȱLessonȱ3,ȱtheyȱwillȱlearnȱthatȱsometimesȱtheyȱneedȱtoȱtalkȱtoȱtrustedȱadultsȱtoȱhelpȱthemȱunderstandȱtheȱmeaningȱofȱtheseȱsignals.ȱ
ClosingȱPrayerȱ
Thankȱyou,ȱGod,ȱforȱalwaysȱbeingȱwithȱmeȱinȱmyȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ
ThankȱyouȱforȱtheȱgiftȱofȱtheȱHolyȱSpiritȱwhoȱhelpsȱmeȱknowȱwhatȱisȱgood.ȱ
Thankȱyouȱforȱgivingȱmeȱpeopleȱwhoȱcareȱaboutȱmeȱandȱwantȱmeȱtoȱbeȱsafe.ȱ
Amen.ȱȱ
(Optional)ȱTellȱtheȱchildrenȱyouȱwillȱcloseȱbyȱsingingȱaȱsongȱcalledȱ“ThisȱisȱHolyȱGround”ȱorȱ“PrayerȱforȱPeace”ȱorȱotherȱappropriateȱsong.ȱ
CircleȱofȱGraceȱ–ȱGradeȱ1:ȱLessonȱ3ȱ Pageȱ19
Lesson 3 Safety Plan
ThisȱlessonȱcomplimentsȱtheȱfollowingȱCatholicȱteachings:ȱx WeȱareȱallȱChildrenȱofȱGod.ȱx AsȱChildrenȱofȱGod,ȱweȱareȱuniqueȱandȱlovedȱbyȱHimȱx JesusȱteachesȱusȱhowȱtoȱloveȱandȱrespectȱGodȱandȱothersȱandȱselfȱx Weȱareȱallȱcalledȱtoȱdoȱgood.ȱ
LessonȱGoalȱChildrenȱwillȱdemonstrateȱhowȱtoȱtakeȱactionȱifȱboundariesȱareȱthreatenedȱorȱviolated.ȱ
LessonȱObjectivesȱChildrenȱwillȱbeȱableȱto:ȱ
1. UnderstandȱthatȱGodȱdoesȱnotȱwantȱorȱcauseȱbadȱthingsȱtoȱhappenȱtoȱthemȱandȱthatȱGodȱisȱwithȱthemȱandȱforȱthemȱevenȱwhenȱtheyȱareȱhurtingȱorȱsad.ȱ
2. UnderstandȱthatȱGodȱwantsȱthemȱtoȱdoȱwhatȱtheyȱcanȱtoȱtakeȱcareȱofȱthemselves.ȱ3. Nameȱthreeȱtrustedȱadultsȱ(inȱadditionȱtoȱtheirȱparents)ȱwhomȱtheyȱcouldȱseekȱ
outȱforȱhelp.ȱ4. LearnȱandȱroleȬplayȱtheȱskillȱofȱ“HowȱtoȱAskȱforȱHelp”.ȱ
Vocabularyȱ1. Trust:ȱBeingȱableȱtoȱcountȱonȱsomeoneȱtoȱhelpȱmeȱstayȱsafeȱwithinȱmyȱCircleȱofȱ
Grace.ȱ2. Trustedȱadult:ȱAȱgrownȬupȱwhoȱhelpsȱmeȱtoȱstayȱsafeȱinȱmyȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱandȱ
toȱrespectȱothersȱwithinȱtheirȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ
Sometimesȱchildrenȱrevealȱpersonalȱinformationȱorȱdetailsȱaboutȱincidentsȱthat,ȱinȱorderȱtoȱrespectȱconfidentiality,ȱneedȱtoȱbeȱhandledȱoutsideȱofȱtheȱgroupȱenvironment.ȱȱIfȱthisȱhappens,ȱtellȱtheȱchild,ȱ“Thankȱyouȱforȱsharingȱthat,ȱ________.ȱȱThatȱsoundsȱreallyȱ
important.ȱȱIȱwillȱtalkȱtoȱyouȱaboutȱthatȱlaterȱ(atȱtheȱendȱofȱclass,ȱatȱtheȱbreak,ȱasȱsoonȱasȱhumanlyȱpossible,ȱetc.).”ȱȱWhenȱthisȱhappens,ȱbeȱsureȱyouȱtalkȱtoȱtheȱchildȱatȱyourȱfirstȱ
opportunityȱandȱalertȱtheȱadministration.ȱȱRememberȱthatȱyouȱareȱtheȱresponsibleȱreporterȱinȱcasesȱofȱsuspectedȱabuse.ȱ
CircleȱofȱGraceȱ–ȱGradeȱ1:ȱLessonȱ3ȱ Pageȱ20
MaterialsȱNeededȱ1. Whiteboardȱorȱchalkboardȱ2. Constructionȱorȱcoloringȱpaperȱforȱeachȱchildȱ3. Markersȱorȱcrayonsȱforȱeachȱchildȱ4. CreateȱoneȱlargeȱSkillȱPosterȱofȱ“HowȱtoȱAskȱforȱHelp”ȱwithȱfollowingȱstepsȱ(seeȱ
theȱendȱofȱGradeȱ1ȱlessons):ȱa. Lookȱatȱtheȱperson.ȱb. Say,ȱ“Iȱneedȱtoȱtellȱyouȱsomethingȱimportant.”ȱc. Clearlyȱdescribeȱtheȱproblem.ȱd. Thankȱtheȱpersonȱforȱhelpingȱyou.ȱ
5. TrustedȱAdultȱParentȱActivityȱSheetȱ(seeȱtheȱendȱofȱGradeȱ1ȱlessons)ȱȱ
OpeningȱPrayerȱLeaderȱcallsȱtheȱgroupȱbyȱaskingȱchildrenȱtoȱquietȱdownȱandȱjoinȱinȱtheȱSignȱofȱtheȱCross.ȱȱThenȱsayȱtogether,ȱ
HolyȱSpirit,ȱshowȱusȱtheȱway.ȱBeȱwithȱusȱinȱallȱweȱthink,ȱdo,ȱandȱsay.ȱȱAmen.ȱ
GettingȱStartedȱReviewȱVocabularyȱ
1. ChildrenȱofȱGod:ȱAllȱpeople.ȱȱWeȱareȱallȱmadeȱbyȱandȱlovedȱbyȱGod.ȱ2. CircleȱofȱGrace:ȱTheȱloveȱandȱgoodnessȱofȱGodȱthatȱalwaysȱsurroundsȱmeȱandȱallȱ
others.ȱ3. Feelings:ȱSomethingȱIȱsenseȱinsideȱmyselfȱ(e.g.ȱangry,ȱsad,ȱhappy,ȱafraid,ȱ
embarrassed,ȱconfused,ȱexcited,ȱpeaceful,ȱetc.)ȱthatȱgivesȱmeȱinformationȱaboutȱothersȱorȱmyself.ȱ
4. Grace:ȱTheȱgiftȱofȱGod’sȱgoodnessȱandȱloveȱtoȱhelpȱmeȱliveȱasȱhisȱchild.ȱ5. Holy:ȱSpecialȱbecauseȱofȱaȱconnectionȱwithȱGod.ȱ6. HolyȱSpirit:ȱGodȱpresentȱwithȱandȱwithinȱmeȱinȱaȱspecialȱway.ȱȱTheȱHolyȱSpiritȱ
helpsȱmeȱtoȱrememberȱthatȱIȱbelongȱtoȱGod.ȱȱTheȱHolyȱSpiritȱhelpsȱmeȱtoȱexperienceȱandȱliveȱGod’sȱlove.ȱ
7. Respect:ȱBeingȱkindȱtoȱothersȱandȱdoingȱwhat’sȱbestȱforȱmyselfȱandȱothersȱbecauseȱIȱhonorȱallȱpeopleȱasȱChildrenȱofȱGod.ȱ
8. Safe:ȱIȱamȱsafeȱwhenȱmyȱbodyȱandȱmyȱfeelingsȱareȱrespectedȱbyȱmeȱandȱothers.ȱ9. SafeȱTouch:ȱTouchȱthatȱrespectsȱmeȱandȱothers.ȱ10. Secret:ȱAȱsecretȱisȱsomethingȱIȱknowȱbutȱdoȱnotȱtell.ȱ
Safeȱsecret:ȱAȱsecretȱisȱsafeȱwhenȱitȱdoesȱnotȱhurtȱothersȱorȱme.ȱ
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Unsafeȱsecret:ȱAȱsecretȱisȱunsafeȱwhenȱIȱthinkȱthatȱsomeone,ȱincludingȱme,ȱmightȱbeȱhurtȱorȱgetȱinȱtroubleȱifȱIȱdoȱnotȱtell.ȱȱ
11. Signal:ȱAȱsignȱthatȱtellsȱmeȱsomethingȱmayȱbeȱsafeȱorȱunsafe.ȱȱThisȱmayȱbeȱinternalȱorȱexternal.ȱ
12. Stoplight:ȱAȱtrafficȱlightȱ(red,ȱyellow,ȱgreen)ȱthatȱisȱaȱvisualȱsignalȱforȱkeepingȱvehiclesȱandȱpeopleȱsafe.ȱ
13. Symbol:ȱAȱpictureȱorȱobjectȱthatȱstandsȱforȱsomethingȱelse.ȱ14. Trust:ȱBeingȱableȱtoȱcountȱonȱsomeoneȱtoȱhelpȱmeȱtoȱstayȱsafeȱwithinȱmyȱCircleȱofȱ
Grace.ȱ15. TrustedȱAdult:ȱAȱgrownȬupȱwhoȱhelpsȱmeȱtoȱstayȱsafeȱinȱmyȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱandȱ
toȱrespectȱothersȱwithinȱtheirȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ16. Unsafe:ȱAnythingȱthatȱcausesȱharmȱtoȱmyselfȱorȱothers.ȱ
Unsafeȱtouch:ȱTouchȱthatȱisȱdisrespectfulȱandȱhurts,ȱscares,ȱorȱmakesȱmeȱfeelȱuncomfortableȱorȱconfused.ȱ
Reviewȱ
1. ShowȱchildrenȱtheȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱSymbol.ȱ2. Tellȱtheȱchildren:ȱThisȱisȱaȱsymbolȱforȱourȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱȱItȱremindsȱusȱthatȱGodȱ
lovesȱusȱandȱHisȱloveȱisȱalwaysȱaroundȱus.ȱȱEveryoneȱhasȱaȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱ3. Showȱaȱlargeȱpictureȱofȱaȱstoplight.ȱ4. Reviewȱȱtheȱmeaningȱorȱpurposeȱofȱaȱstoplightȱbyȱasking:ȱ
a.ȱ Whyȱdoȱweȱhaveȱstoplights?ȱȱTheȱreasonȱweȱhaveȱstoplightsȱisȱtoȱprotectȱpeopleȱandȱkeepȱthemȱsafe.ȱȱSometimesȱpeopleȱsayȱorȱdoȱthingsȱthatȱmakeȱusȱfeelȱfunnyȱinȱourȱheartȱorȱtummy.ȱȱThatȱfunnyȱfeelingȱtellsȱusȱthatȱweȱneedȱtoȱgetȱhelpȱfromȱaȱtrustedȱadult.ȱȱTheȱHolyȱSpiritȱisȱguidingȱusȱtoȱhelpȱkeepȱusȱsafe.ȱb.ȱ Whatȱdoesȱeachȱcolorȱofȱtheȱstoplightȱmean?ȱȱ(AddȱSTOP,ȱBEȱCAREFUL,ȱandȱGOȱAHEAD.)ȱ
LessonȱDevelopmentȱIntroductionȱ
1. TodayȱweȱareȱgoingȱtoȱlearnȱwhatȱtoȱdoȱifȱsomeoneȱcomesȱintoȱyourȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱwithoutȱyourȱpermissionȱorȱdoesȱsomethingȱthatȱmakesȱyouȱfeelȱunsafe.ȱ
2. Writeȱ“TrustedȱAdult”ȱonȱtheȱboard.ȱȱ3. Weȱjustȱreviewedȱallȱtheȱnewȱvocabularyȱwordsȱthatȱwe’veȱlearnedȱinȱtheȱpastȱ
fewȱlessons.ȱȱToday,ȱourȱfocusȱisȱonȱaȱtermȱthatȱweȱalreadyȱknowȱȬȱ“TrustedȱAdult”.ȱ
4. Let’sȱreviewȱwhatȱ“TrustedȱAdult”ȱmeans.ȱ5. Allowȱaȱfewȱresponses.ȱȱ6. AȱTrustedȱAdultȱisȱaȱgrownȬupȱwhoȱhelpsȱyouȱtoȱstayȱsafeȱinȱyourȱCircleȱofȱ
GraceȱandȱtoȱrespectȱothersȱwithinȱtheirȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱȱExamplesȱofȱTrustedȱ
CircleȱofȱGraceȱ–ȱGradeȱ1:ȱLessonȱ3ȱ Pageȱ22
Adults,ȱotherȱthanȱyourȱparents,ȱcouldȱbeȱaȱteacher,ȱaȱneighbor,ȱanȱaunt,ȱorȱuncle,ȱyourȱgrandparent,ȱchurchȱleader,ȱorȱaȱfamilyȱfriend.ȱ
7. Howȱdoȱyouȱknowȱyouȱcanȱtrustȱsomeone?ȱ8. Allowȱaȱfewȱresponses.ȱ9. Youȱknowȱsomeoneȱisȱtrustworthyȱwhenȱtheyȱhelpȱyouȱtoȱbeȱsafe,ȱwhenȱtheyȱtellȱ
theȱtruth,ȱandȱwhenȱtheyȱareȱthereȱforȱyouȱinȱgoodȱtimesȱandȱbad.ȱ
AnȱadaptationȱusingȱaȱhandȱpuppetȱtoȱinteractȱwithȱtheȱleaderȱandȱchildrenȱduringȱtheȱActivity,ȱSkillȱIntroduction,ȱandȱRoleȬPlayȱIntroductionȱisȱprovidedȱatȱtheȱendȱofȱtheȱGradeȱ1ȱlessons.ȱ
ActivityȱȬȱIdentifyingȱMyȱTrustedȱAdultsȱȱ1. Canȱanyoneȱnameȱaȱpersonȱwhoȱlovesȱyouȱandȱhelpsȱyouȱtoȱstayȱsafe?ȱȱEncourageȱtheȱchildrenȱtoȱnameȱadultsȱinȱadditionȱtoȱtheirȱmomȱandȱdad.ȱȱȱ
2. Listȱchildren’sȱresponsesȱonȱtheȱboard.ȱ3. Theseȱareȱpeopleȱwhomȱyouȱcanȱaskȱtoȱhelpȱyouȱifȱyouȱareȱunsafeȱorȱconfused.ȱȱ
WeȱcallȱtheseȱpeopleȱTrustedȱAdults.ȱ4. Giveȱeachȱchildȱaȱpieceȱofȱpaperȱandȱcrayonsȱorȱmarkers.ȱ5. InstructȱtheȱchildrenȱtoȱthinkȱofȱoneȱorȱtwoȱTrustedȱAdultsȱbesidesȱmomȱorȱdadȱwhomȱtheyȱcouldȱaskȱforȱhelp.ȱ
6. TellȱaȱpersonȱnextȱtoȱyouȱtheȱnamesȱofȱtheȱTrustedȱAdultsȱthatȱyouȱpicked.ȱ7. DrawȱaȱpictureȱofȱeachȱofȱyourȱTrustedȱAdults.ȱȱRemindȱchildrenȱthatȱmomȱandȱdadȱmayȱbeȱtrustedȱadultsȱevenȱifȱtheyȱareȱnotȱinȱtheȱpicture.ȱ
8. AttachȱtheȱdrawingȱtoȱtheȱHomeȱActivityȱSheetȱforȱparentsȱforȱlessonȱ4.ȱȱ(SeeȱtheȱendȱofȱGradeȱ1ȱlessons.)ȱ
9. InstructȱtheȱchildrenȱtoȱhaveȱtheirȱparentsȱsignȱtheȱHomeȱActivityȱSheet.ȱ10. Remindȱtheȱchildrenȱtoȱbringȱtheȱhomeȱactivityȱsheetȱbackȱtoȱtheȱclassroomȱnextȱweek.ȱȱ
SkillȱIntroductionȱȱHowȱtoȱAskȱMyȱTrustedȱAdultȱforȱHelpȱȱAskȱtheȱclassȱtoȱbrainstormȱaȱlistȱofȱRedȱSignalȱorȱYellowȱSignalȱtimesȱwhenȱtheyȱmightȱneedȱtoȱtalkȱtoȱorȱaskȱaȱtrustedȱadultȱforȱhelp.ȱȱWriteȱtheirȱsuggestionsȱonȱtheȱboard.ȱ
1. Postȱtheȱadaptedȱskillȱposterȱ“HowȱtoȱAskȱforȱHelp”.ȱȱ(SeeȱtheȱendȱofȱtheȱGradeȱ1ȱlessons.)ȱ
a. Pictureȱanȱeyeȱb. Pictureȱofȱaȱchildȱspeaking/mouthȱc. Pictureȱofȱ“?”ȱd. Theȱwordsȱ“ThankȱYou”ȱ
2. Skillȱstepsȱare:ȱa. Lookȱatȱtheȱperson.ȱȱ(Pictureȱofȱanȱeye)ȱb. Sayȱtoȱtheȱpersonȱ“Iȱneedȱhelp.ȱȱIȱdoȱnotȱfeelȱsafe.”ȱȱ(Pictureȱofȱaȱchildȱ
speaking/mouth)ȱc. Tellȱtheȱpersonȱwhatȱisȱwrong,ȱwhyȱyouȱdon’tȱfeelȱsafe.ȱ(Pictureȱofȱ“?”)ȱ
CircleȱofȱGraceȱ–ȱGradeȱ1:ȱLessonȱ3ȱ Pageȱ23
d. Tellȱtheȱperson,ȱ“ThankȱYou.”ȱ(Wordsȱ“ThankȱYou”)ȱ3. Thisȱisȱhowȱweȱaskȱforȱhelp.ȱȱYouȱcanȱuseȱtheseȱstepsȱwheneverȱyouȱneedȱtoȱaskȱ
anyoneȱforȱhelp.ȱȱTodayȱweȱareȱgoingȱtoȱpracticeȱhowȱtoȱaskȱforȱhelpȱfromȱyourȱparentsȱorȱaȱTrustedȱAdult.ȱ
RoleȬPlayȱIntroductionȱ
ȱ1. Explain:ȱRoleȬplayȱisȱaȱwayȱtoȱpracticeȱsomethingȱnew.ȱ2. SelectȱoneȱofȱtheȱsituationsȱfromȱSkillȱIntroductionȱthatȱtheȱchildrenȱthinkȱtheyȱmightȱneedȱtoȱtalkȱtoȱorȱaskȱforȱhelpȱforȱaȱtrustedȱadult.ȱȱ
3. Todayȱweȱareȱgoingȱtoȱpracticeȱaskingȱforȱhelpȱwhen…(situation).ȱȱ(Example:ȱTodayȱweȱareȱgoingȱtoȱpracticeȱaskingȱforȱhelpȱwhenȱsomeoneȱwantsȱmeȱtoȱgetȱinȱtheirȱcarȱandȱIȱdon’tȱthinkȱmyȱmomȱandȱdadȱwantȱmeȱto.)ȱ
4. Askȱtheȱchildrenȱtoȱbrainstormȱideasȱofȱhowȱtheyȱwouldȱtellȱaȱtrustedȱadultȱtheyȱfeltȱunsafe.ȱȱEncourageȱtheȱchildrenȱtoȱclearlyȱdescribeȱwhyȱtheyȱfeelȱunsafe.ȱȱExamples:ȱ“Myȱmomȱtoldȱmeȱtoȱwaitȱforȱher.”ȱȱ“Weȱmightȱnotȱgoȱstraightȱtoȱmyȱhouse.”ȱȱ“Iȱdon’tȱknowȱhim.”ȱȱ“Iȱfeelȱanxiousȱaroundȱthem.”ȱ
5. HaveȱtheȱchildrenȱpracticeȱwithȱtheȱleaderȱroleȬplayingȱtheȱtrustedȱadult.ȱȱThisȱroleȬplayȱactivityȱmayȱbeȱdoneȱindividuallyȱorȱasȱaȱlargeȱgroup.ȱ
a. Childrenȱlookȱatȱtheȱleader.ȱb. Childrenȱsayȱaloud:ȱ“Iȱneedȱyourȱhelp.ȱȱIȱdon’tȱfeelȱsafe.”ȱc. Childrenȱsayȱaloud:ȱ“Pleaseȱhelpȱmeȱbecause…”ȱȱ(Example:ȱPleaseȱhelpȱmeȱ
becauseȱIȱdon’tȱthinkȱmyȱmomȱorȱdadȱwantȱmeȱtoȱgoȱwithȱher.ȱȱIȱdon’tȱknowȱher.)ȱ
d. Childrenȱsayȱaloud:ȱ“ThankȱYou.”ȱ
WrappingȱUpȱ1. Directȱchildren’sȱattentionȱbackȱtoȱtheȱ“HowȱtoȱAskȱforȱHelp”ȱSkillȱPoster.ȱ2. Askȱchildrenȱtoȱrepeatȱtheȱstepsȱforȱ“HowȱtoȱAskȱforȱHelp”.ȱ3. Encourageȱchildrenȱtoȱprayȱforȱand/orȱwriteȱaȱnoteȱofȱthanksȱtoȱeachȱofȱtheirȱTrustedȱAdults.ȱ
Remember,ȱaccordingȱtoȱresearchȱweȱrememberȱ5%ȱofȱwhatȱweȱhearȱandȱ90%ȱofȱwhatȱweȱdo.ȱAllowingȱchildrenȱtoȱroleȬplayȱgreatlyȱincreasesȱtheirȱchancesȱofȱ
rememberingȱwhatȱtoȱdoȱwhenȱaȱrealȱproblemȱarises.
CircleȱofȱGraceȱ–ȱGradeȱ1:ȱLessonȱ3ȱ Pageȱ24
ClosingȱPrayerȱThankȱyou,ȱGod,ȱ
forȱalwaysȱbeingȱwithȱmeȱinȱmyȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱThankȱyouȱforȱtheȱgiftȱofȱtheȱHolyȱSpiritȱwhoȱhelpsȱmeȱknowȱwhatȱisȱgood.ȱ
Thankȱyouȱforȱgivingȱmeȱpeopleȱwhoȱcareȱaboutȱmeȱandȱwantȱmeȱtoȱbeȱsafe.ȱ
Amen.ȱȱ
(Optional)ȱTellȱtheȱchildrenȱyouȱwillȱcloseȱbyȱsingingȱaȱsongȱcalledȱ“ThisȱisȱHolyȱGround”ȱorȱ“PrayerȱforȱPeace”ȱorȱotherȱappropriateȱsong.ȱȱ
HandȱPuppetȱAdaptationȱ1. Useȱaȱhandȱpuppetȱtoȱinteractȱwithȱtheȱleaderȱandȱchildrenȱduringȱtheȱlessonȱactivity,ȱskillȱintroduction,ȱandȱroleȬplayȱintroduction.ȱ
2. ActivityȱAdaptation:ȱTheȱleaderȱasksȱchildrenȱtoȱnameȱaȱpersonȱwhoȱlovesȱthemȱandȱhelpsȱthemȱtoȱstayȱsafe.ȱȱTheȱleaderȱpromptsȱtheȱchildrenȱbyȱhavingȱtheȱhandȱpuppetȱrespondȱappropriately.ȱȱTheȱleaderȱaffirmsȱtheȱhandȱpuppet’sȱresponses.ȱ
3. SkillȱIntroductionȱAdaptation:ȱȱTheȱleaderȱreviewsȱtheȱadaptedȱskillȱposterȱ“HowȱtoȱAskȱforȱHelp”ȱwithȱtheȱhandȱpuppet.ȱȱTheȱhandȱpuppetȱmodelsȱtheȱskillȱstepsȱforȱtheȱchildrenȱandȱasksȱtheȱchildrenȱtoȱpracticeȱtheȱstepsȱwithȱit.ȱ
4. RoleȬPlayȱAdaptation:ȱUsingȱoneȱofȱtheȱsituationsȱprovided,ȱtheȱhandȱpuppetȱroleȬplaysȱtheȱappropriateȱskillsȱtoȱuseȱwhenȱaskingȱforȱhelp.ȱȱChildrenȱmayȱalsoȱgiveȱtheirȱsuggestionsȱtoȱtheȱhandȱpuppetȱasȱtoȱhowȱtheȱhandȱpuppetȱshouldȱaskȱforȱhelp.ȱȱTheȱleaderȱmayȱalsoȱhaveȱtheȱchildrenȱuseȱtheȱhandȱpuppetȱtoȱroleȬplayȱtheȱappropriateȱskills.ȱ
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CircleȱofȱGraceȱ–ȱGradeȱ1:ȱLessonȱ1ȱ Pageȱ25
CircleȱofȱGraceȱ–ȱGradeȱ1:ȱLessonȱ1ȱ Pageȱ26
CircleȱofȱGraceȱ–ȱGradeȱ1:ȱLessonȱ2ȱ Pageȱ27
CircleȱofȱGraceȱ–ȱGradeȱ1:ȱLessonȱ2ȱ Pageȱ28
FeelingȱFacesȱChartȱ
Embarrassed Frustrated
Happy Lonely
Loved Mad
CircleȱofȱGraceȱ–ȱGradeȱ1:ȱLessonȱ2ȱ Pageȱ29
Sad Nervous
Proud Relaxed
Scared Stressed
CircleȱofȱGraceȱ–ȱGradeȱ1:ȱLessonȱ2ȱ Pageȱ30
FeelingȱFacesȱChart/NoȱLabelsȱ
CircleȱofȱGraceȱ–ȱGradeȱ1:ȱLessonȱ2ȱ Pageȱ31
CircleȱofȱGraceȱ–ȱGradeȱ1:ȱLessonȱ2ȱ Pageȱ32
Lessonȱ2ȱTheȱStoplight:ȱHomeȱActivityȱSheetȱforȱParentsȱ
ȱTheȱgoalȱofȱLessonȱ2:ȱTheȱStoplightȱȬȱFeelings,ȱTouch,ȱandȱSecretsȱisȱtoȱhelpȱchildrenȱidentifyȱsafeȱandȱunsafeȱsituations/secrets.ȱȱTheȱchildrenȱareȱnowȱbetterȱableȱtoȱunderstandȱthatȱGodȱdoesȱnotȱwantȱorȱcauseȱbadȱthingsȱtoȱhappenȱtoȱthem,ȱtoȱunderstandȱthatȱGodȱisȱwithȱthemȱandȱforȱthemȱevenȱwhenȱtheyȱareȱhurtingȱorȱsad.ȱȱTheyȱwillȱbeȱableȱtoȱidentifyȱwhenȱsomeoneȱcomesȱintoȱtheirȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱandȱtoȱrecognizeȱsafeȱandȱunsafeȱtouchȱinȱaȱperson’sȱCircleȱofȱGrace.ȱȱInȱthisȱlesson,ȱweȱuseȱtheȱanalogyȱofȱaȱstoplightȱtoȱconnectȱaȱgreenȱsignalȱwithȱsafeȱsituations,ȱaȱredȱsignalȱwithȱunsafeȱsituations,ȱandȱaȱyellowȱsignalȱwithȱsituationsȱinȱwhichȱaȱchildȱmightȱfeelȱconfusedȱorȱunsure.ȱȱSometimesȱitȱisȱhardȱforȱaȱchildȱtoȱdistinguishȱbetweenȱtheȱyellowȱandȱredȱsituations.ȱWhenȱthatȱhappens,ȱchildrenȱneedȱtoȱtalkȱtoȱsomeoneȱtheyȱtrustȱlikeȱtheirȱparents,ȱleader,ȱorȱotherȱtrustedȱadult.ȱȱLearningȱtoȱbeȱmoreȱawareȱofȱtheseȱsignalsȱhelpsȱchildrenȱrecognizeȱthemȱasȱoneȱofȱtheȱmainȱwaysȱtheȱHolyȱSpiritȱhelpsȱtoȱguideȱus.ȱȱItȱisȱimportantȱforȱyouȱasȱparentsȱandȱguardiansȱtoȱreinforceȱthisȱlessonȱatȱhomeȱwithȱyourȱchild.ȱȱYouȱareȱencouragedȱtoȱtalkȱwithȱyourȱchildȱaboutȱrealȱsituationsȱinȱhisȱorȱherȱeverydayȱlifeȱandȱinviteȱyourȱchildȱtoȱidentifyȱwhetherȱtheȱsituationsȱareȱgreenȱ(GOȱAHEAD,ȱthisȱisȱsafe),ȱredȱ(STOP,ȱthisȱisȱunsafe,ȱalwaysȱtalkȱtoȱaȱtrustedȱadultȱbeforeȱacting),ȱorȱyellowȱ(BEȱCAREFUL,ȱalwaysȱtalkȱtoȱaȱtrustedȱadultȱbeforeȱacting).ȱȱȱȱYourȱsupportȱofȱtheȱCircleȱofȱGraceȱProgramȱisȱessentialȱandȱveryȱmuchȱappreciatedȱasȱweȱstriveȱtoȱprovideȱtheȱsafestȱpossibleȱenvironmentȱforȱourȱchildren.ȱ
CircleȱofȱGraceȱ–ȱGradeȱ1:ȱLessonȱ3ȱ Pageȱ33
CircleȱofȱGraceȱ–ȱGradeȱ1:ȱLessonȱ3ȱ Pageȱ34
Lessonȱ3ȱTheȱTrustedȱAdult:ȱHomeȱActivityȱSheetȱforȱParentsȱ
ȱTheȱgoalȱofȱLessonȱ3:ȱInȱthisȱlesson,ȱweȱaskȱchildrenȱtoȱnameȱandȱdrawȱaȱpictureȱofȱtrustedȱadultsȱ(inȱadditionȱtoȱtheirȱparents).ȱȱPleaseȱaskȱyourȱchildȱtoȱshowȱyouȱthisȱdrawing.ȱȱIfȱyourȱchildȱnamesȱsomeoneȱyouȱfindȱinappropriate,ȱpleaseȱhelpȱhim/herȱtoȱidentifyȱsomeoneȱelse.ȱȱPleaseȱcontactȱtheseȱindividualsȱtoȱletȱthemȱknowȱyouȱandȱyourȱchildȱhaveȱidentifiedȱthemȱasȱtrustedȱadults.ȱȱThisȱcanȱbeȱdoneȱinȱperson,ȱbyȱphone,ȱorȱaȱletter.ȱȱ(LetterȬwritingȱisȱaȱfunȱactivityȱyouȱcanȱdoȱwithȱyourȱchild.)ȱȱBeingȱidentifiedȱasȱaȱtrustedȱadultȱwillȱmostȱlikelyȱmakeȱthemȱfeelȱhonoredȱasȱwellȱasȱalertȱthemȱtoȱyourȱsafetyȱplanȱforȱyourȱchild.ȱȱPleaseȱhaveȱyourȱchildȱreturnȱtheȱdrawingȱwithȱyourȱsignatureȱasȱaȱconfirmationȱforȱusȱthatȱyouȱreceivedȱthisȱinformationȱandȱdiscussedȱitȱwithȱyourȱchild.ȱȱPleaseȱcallȱtheȱparishȱofficeȱifȱyouȱhaveȱquestions.ȱȱThankȱyouȱforȱyourȱcooperation!
