GOING BACK IN ORDER TO

GO FORWARD

Know Yourself That You May Know God Jan 8

Going Back To Go Forward Jan 15

Journey Through The Wall Jan 22

Enlarge Your Soul Through Grief and Loss Feb 5

Rhythm of Sabbath Keeping Feb 12

Grow Into An Emotionally Mature Adult Feb 19

What we gleaned from last week

It is impossible to be spiritually mature while remaining

emotionally immature

What we gleaned from last week

It is impossible to be spiritually mature while remaining

emotionally immature

It is possible to be Emotionally unhealthy while remaining

Spiritually Healthy

What we gleaned from last week

It is impossible to be spiritually mature while remaining

emotionally immature

It is possible to be Emotionally unhealthy while remaining

Spiritually Healthy

It is important to Know Yourself that you may Know God

GOING BACK IN ORDER TO GO FORWARD

Emotions 1

GOING BACK IN ORDER TO GO FORWARD

Emotions

Family of Origin

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Emotions

Family of Origin

Family of God

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Family of Origin 2

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Emotions

Family of Origin

Family of God

Family Cohesion

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Emotions

Family of Origin

Family of God

Family Cohesion

Going Forward

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EMOTIONS

Who are you . . .

1. What makes me Happy?

2. What makes me Angry?

1

HAPPINESS – Inhibits negative feelings and rests the body

FEAR – Blood flows to your larger skeletal muscles causing you to “flee-or-freeze”

ANGER – Blood flows to your hands making it easier to grasp a weapon. A massive energy flow

LOVE – A general state of calm and contentment. Opposite of “fight-or-flight” response

EMOTIONS – Acknowledge & Manage 1

D. Goldman 1995, Emotional Intelligence

EMOTIONS – Acknowledge & Manage 1

DISGUST – facial expression to a bad odor or something offensive

SURPRISE – Exciting but many people dislike

SADNESS – Adjust to significant loss, death or disappointment. Depletes energy

D. Goldman 1995, Emotional Intelligence

EMOTIONS 1

When Emotions are not expressed

Incongruent – Not yourself

EMOTIONS 1

Danger of wearing the lenses of

IGNORANCE

EMOTIONS 1

Masking?

Environmental factors such as authoritarian parents, rejection, and emotional, physical, or sexual abuse cause masking. An individual may not even know he or she is wearing a mask because it is a behavior that can take many forms.

EMOTIONS 1

Thoughts Emotions Behavior

Behavior Reinforce Thoughts

Thoughts

Create Feelings

Feelings Create

Behavior

Thinking comes from your Belief System

Belief system originates from your family of Origin

FAMILY OF ORIGIN 2

Families originate out of love and nurturance

Perfect and Imperfect Families

Belief system and Patterns work as the Internalized Framework in every Individual

FAMILY OF ORIGIN 2

FAMILY OF ORIGIN 2

Patterns and Belief Systems

Abraham

Isaac

Jacob

FAMILY OF ORIGIN 2

Lied about Sarah Favoured Ishmael

Poor Marriage (Hagar)

Many lies in the marriage Favoured Esau

Sour Relationship with Rebecca

Name meant “Deceiver” Favoured Joseph

2 wives and 2 concubines

P. Scazzero, 2006, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be

transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then

you will be able to test and approve what God’s will

is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

(Romans 12:2)

FAMILY OF GOD 3

He predestined us to adoption as sons through

Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the kind

intention of His will.

(Ephesians 1:5)

Adopted into God’s family

FAMILY OF GOD 3

Jesus answered and said to him, “Truly, truly, I

say to you, unless one is born again he cannot

see the kingdom of God.” (John 3:3)

Born Again

FAMILY OF GOD 3

Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new

creature; the old things passed away; behold, new

things have come.

(2 Corinthians 5:17)

New Creation

FAMILY OF GOD 3

Stinnett 1979,1985,2000,2003, Gottman and Levenson 2000,2014

Emotional Bonding

Appreciation for one another - Build each other

Doing things together – Nurturance

Commitment to promote one another’s Happiness and Welfare

FAMILY COHESION 4

Stinnett 1979,1985,2000,2003, Gottman and Levenson 2000,2014

Emotional Bonding

FAMILY COHESION 4

Spiritual Orientation – Hopeful attitude towards life

Deal positively with crisis – Ability to see something good in a bad situation

Positive Communication Patterns

How was your family of origin? . . . Going back

Belief system Emotional connection

Patterns

What do you want to do ? Going Forward . . .

Replicate Replace Remove

EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY SPIRITUALITY 5

What does Emotionally Healthy

Spirituality look like?

EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY SPIRITUALITY 5

GOING FORWARD

1 Know Yourself -Psalms 139:20-24 Be Authentic

Align your thoughts, feelings and behavior

Articulate your emotions

EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY SPIRITUALITY 5

2 Know Others – Luke 23:34

Empathize

Be kind

Release forgiveness

P. Scazzero, 2006, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality

EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY SPIRITUALITY 5

3 Know the Bigness of God – Gen 45:8

“What was intended as evil, God intended it to be good.”

P. Scazzero, 2006, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality

EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY SPIRITUALITY 5

4 Rewrite your Life Script

Rewrite your life script according to scripture, based on promises

P. Scazzero, 2006, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality

EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY SPIRITUALITY 5

5 Partner with God to be a Blessing

Joseph chose to forgive his brothers and accept them. Genesis 45:7

P. Scazzero, 2006, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality

EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY SPIRITUALITY 5

BLESSINGS

We pray for blessings, we pray for peace Comfort for family, protection while we sleep We pray for healing, for prosperity We pray for Your mighty hand to ease our suffering And all the while, You hear each spoken need Yet love us way too much to give us lesser things

Blessings by Laura Story

BLESSINGS

'Cause what if your blessings come through rain drops What if Your healing comes through tears What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise

Blessings by Laura Story

BLESSINGS

We pray for wisdom, Your voice to hear We cry in anger when we cannot feel You near We doubt your goodness, we doubt your love As if every promise from Your word is not enough And all the while, You hear each desperate plea And long that we'd have faith to believe

Blessings by Laura Story

BLESSINGS

'Cause what if your blessings come through rain drops What if Your healing comes through tears What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise

Blessings by Laura Story

BLESSINGS

When friends betray us When darkness seems to win We know that pain reminds this heart That this is not, This is not our home It's not our home

Blessings by Laura Story

BLESSINGS

'Cause what if your blessings come through rain drops What if Your healing comes through tears What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise

Blessings by Laura Story

BLESSINGS

What if my greatest disappointments or the aching of this life

Is the revealing of a greater thirst this world can't satisfy What if trials of this life The rain, the storms, the hardest nights Are your mercies in disguise

Blessings by Laura Story