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Find your Shameless Spark!
Denise R. Jacobs Inspiring Women LIVE! Bristol, UK 24 September 2014
Bust Blocks to Shameless Self-Promotion
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Let me tell you a story
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Of how I went from this…
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To this…
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To this (!)…
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And this…
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And THIS!
http://TheCreativeDose.com/
SQUEEEEEE!!!!!
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February/March
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Upon finishing my first book…
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I had an epiphany
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It’s all about this!
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My book is on web design/development
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Wanted to speak at web design conferences
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Who I was – vs -- Who I wanted to become Photos: Denise Jacobs & http://www.flickr.com/photos/jcornelius/6276948549/
Getting work as a web designer
I practiced Shameful Self-Promotion
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Exactly.
So what changed?
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This.
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“Happiness is not just a mood—it’s a work ethic…..Happiness is actually the precursor to success.” Shawn Achor, The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work
Found the key and opened up
http://www.flickr.com/photos/djwtwo/8323452857/
So, let’s bust through the blocks
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Internalized criticisms + fears
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= The evil voices in your head
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aka The Inner Critic
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The “troll under the bridge”
Mass hypnosis
https://www.flickr.com/photos/yxelle/5806302053
Part of your social eco-system
https://www.flickr.com/photos/24885934@N08/2344163441/
“Obsessing about preventing bad things from happening also prevents good things from happening, or sometimes prevents anything from happening at all.” Scott Berkun, The Year Without Pants
Physical evidence of fear
http://www.flickr.com/photos/grumpyfeline/4626401443/
Internal manisfestations of Fear
http://brenebrown.com/2014/04/08/daring-interview-series-meet-gavin-aung/
“OMG, I’m SO busy!”
“I should have done more by now…”
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“I don’t know enough”
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/6/66/Einstein_1921_by_F_Schmutzer.jpg
“They’ll find out I’m a fraud”
vs. “NAILED IT!”
https://www.flickr.com/photos/paul-drummond/3946893897
Impostor Syndrome Paradox
http://www.flickr.com/photos/x1brett/2279939232/
“It needs to be PERFECT”
http://www.flickr.com/photos/diepuppenstubensammlerin/7648792510/
“I’ll do it tomorrow…”
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“Really, I’ll do it tomorrow.”
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“I will do it tomorrow!”
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Feed each other
Illustration: Denise Jacobs
“I’m afraid to take the plunge”
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“What if I fail?”
http://www.flickr.com/photos/laughingsquid/2717325940/
F.E.A.R. =
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“Fear is not real. It is a product of the thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.” - character of Cypher Raige (played by Will Smith), After Earth
Banish Your Inner Critic!
https://www.flickr.com/photos/31505964@N08/4691019168/
Eliminate Should/Must/Ought/Have to
http://www.flickr.com/photos/mythoto/3822942678/
Realize it doesn’t have to be prefect
https://www.flickr.com/photos/stevendepolo/4498817330/
“She could never go back and make some of the details pretty. All she could do is move forward and make the whole more beautiful.” - Terri St. Cloud
Perfection ≠ Excellence
https://www.flickr.com/photos/kaldoche/4771465356
Remember humble beginnings
Twitter, circa 2006
Reframe #FAIL
http://www.flickr.com/photos/laughingsquid/2717326642/
*WHATEVER*
Question “Them”!
http://www.flickr.com/photos/barretthall/3036598475
Cop a Power Pose
Recognize & support your spark
http://www.flickr.com/photos/aguslepe/5512044294/
From Spark to Flame: How to be on Fire
https://www.flickr.com/photos/themeowverlord/15127287270
“The only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. The only way to do great work is to love what you do.” - Steve Jobs, 2005 Stanford Commencement speech
Focus on being “Self-ful”
http://www.flickr.com/photos/siutou_amy/2306794554/
Self-ful-ness: Caring for your own welfare so that you are able to care for the welfare of others.
The Oxygen Mask Theory
Leads to selflessness
http://www.flickr.com/photos/mazgrp/2050810720/
Share of your gifts
https://www.flickr.com/photos/mcgraths/3277839203
Remember it’s about this, and
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R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Recognize your brilliance
http://www.flickr.com/photos/jonathan_hamner/3386076488/
DO NOT focus on your weaknesses
http://www.flickr.com/photos/jonathan_hamner/3386076488/
You will only improve 10-15 %
(and it will be painful) Tom Rath, Strengths Finder 2.0
Be BOLD
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Propose Yourself
http://www.flickr.com/photos/orinrobertjohn/2506156264/
How I got my book deal (in 2 slides)
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Bam!
Reach out
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Yes!
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Value yourself
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WWWGD?
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Learn from them
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Also
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Because it’s magic
Leads to this
https://www.flickr.com/photos/smakula/2278741812
FOWD site March 26, 2010
FOWD site April 15, 2010
Promote
Listen
http://www.flickr.com/photos/theory/3193684688/
No, really listen
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Pair up
http://www.flickr.com/photos/kara_allyson/5358611092/
Many hands make light work
http://thecreativedose.com/#who-we-are
Play!
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Enjoy + Good at + Feeling Empowered
http://www.flickr.com/photos/h-k-d/3310336516/
= Empowered Play
http://www.flickr.com/photos/anieto2k/8216666102/
Get in the Zone
Start reaching for opportunities
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But even better, you’ll also start to
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People will seek you out
Great advice
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And keep remembering that it’s all about
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You’ll light your shameless spark
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And stop feeling like this
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But instead, enter into a special pact
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Photo by Derek Kearney
This significant shift
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Has created AMAZING things for me
Because I am now joyfully shameless!
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My main regret?
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That I waited so long
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What you want wants YOU
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So that you will
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“Have the courage to follow your heart and intution. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” - Steve Jobs
Truth.
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To find your shameless spark!
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And use it to light up your self-promotion
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And change lives for the better
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Thank You!
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