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Day #2 of 8Different Colors of Love
Day #2 of 8Different Colors of Love
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DAY #2 OF 8 DIFFERENT COLORS OF LOVEThree theoretical approaches
to the study of love: John Lee’s Styles of Love, Robert Sternberg’s Paths of Love, Gary Chapman’s Languages of Love
Research on Relationship Satisfaction for the different Styles of Love (Susan Hendrick & Clyde Hendrick)
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DAY #2 OF 8 DIFFERENT COLORS OF LOVEHoward Gardner’s
Multiple Intelligences
Three theoretical approaches to the study of love: (John Lee’s Styles, Robert Sternberg’s Paths, Gary Chapman’s Languages of Love)
Research on Relationship Satisfaction for the different Styles of Love (Susan Hendrick & Clyde Hendrick)
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Howard Gardner’sMultiple Intelligences1. Verbal/Linguistic Intelligence
2. Logical/Mathematical Intelligence
3. Visual/Spatial Intelligence
4. Bodily/Kinesthetic Intelligence
5. Musical Intelligence
6. Interpersonal Intelligence
7. Intrapersonal Intelligence
8. Naturalist Intelligence
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THE
LOVE ATTITUDE SCALEAn inventory called the
Love Attitude Scale was developed to measure John Lee's styles of loving(Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986).
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JOHN LEE’S
“6 STYLES OF LOVE”1) Eros2)Ludus3)Storge4)Pragma5)Mania6)Agape
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EROS
Eros is the love of beauty.
Erotic lovers delight in the tactile, the sensual, and the immediate. Although beauty may reside only in the eyes of the beholder, they are definitely attracted to beauty. They love the lines of the body, its feel, touch, scent, and shape. Fascinated by every detail of their beloved -- their love burns brightly but may soon flicker.
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LUDUS
Ludus, from the Latin word for play, is playful love.
For ludic lovers, love is a game, something to play at rather than to become deeply involved in. Love is ultimately "ludicrous." Love is for fun! Encounters are casual, carefree, and often careless. "Nothing serious" is the motto of ludic lovers.
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STORGE
Storge (stor-gay), from the Greekfor natural affection, is the love between companions.
Lee calls this, "love without fever or folly, a peaceful and enchanting affection." It usually begins as friendship and then gradually deepens into love. If the love ends, that also occurs gradually, and the people often become friends once again.
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PRAGMA
Pragma,from the Greek for business, is practical love.
Pragmatic lovers are businesslike in their approach - looking for someone who meets their needs. They use logic in their continual search for the best partner.
They seek the background, education, occupation, personality, and other interests compatible with their own.
A person who satisfies their criteria arouses erotic, manic and other feelings.
…until someone ‘better’ comes along.
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MANIA
Maniafrom the Greekfor madness, is obsessive and possessive love.
For manic lovers, nights are marked by sleeplessness and days by pain and anxiety. The slightest sign of affection brings ecstasy for a short while, only to disappear. Satisfactions last for but a moment before they must be renewed. Manic love is a roller-coaster love.
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AGAPE
Agape (AH-ga-pay)is from the Greek forbrotherly love.
It is chaste, patient, undemanding, and altruistic; there is neither jealousy nor expectation of reciprocation. It is the love of saints and martyrs.
Agape is more abstract and ideal than concrete and real. Agape may be extended more easily to all of humankind than to any specific human.
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Research
One study used the Love Attitude Scaleto investigate 4 different stages of life and the relationship between
styles of loving & relationship satisfaction (The Agape style wasn’t included in this study.)
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The study sample included250 adults in 4 groups:
1. College-age single youth, 2. Young childless married adults, 3. Married adults with children living at home, and 4. Married adults whose grown-up children had left home.
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This beauty-loving, sensual style
was positively associated with relationship
satisfactionfor all life stages.
Results for:
ErosEros
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Predictably, this game-playing style was
negatively associated with relationship
satisfactionfor all three groups of
married adults.
Results for:
LudusLudus
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- the love of true friends –was significantly related
to relationship satisfactiononly for the
married coupleswith children at home.
Results for:
StorgeStorge
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These two stylesmad-obsessed & business-
likewere not related to
relationship satisfactionfor any life-stage group
(Montgomery & Sorell, 1997).
Results for:
Mania & Pragma
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During our 15-minute break,please meet one personwho you do not know,
and thenintroduce that person
to someone who you do know.
During our 15-minute break,please meet one personwho you do not know,
and thenintroduce that person
to someone who you do know.
Sternberg’s
Triangle Theoryof
Love
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The 3 Corners of the Triangle
Intimacy Passion Commitment
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STERNBERG’STRIANGLE THEORY OF LOVE
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Five Ways To Say,
“I LOVE YOU.”
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DR. GARY CHAPMAN'S5 LOVE LANGUAGES.
Gifts Quality Time Acts of Service Meaningful Touch Words of
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“Contributions of Neuroscience to Our
Understanding of Cognitive
Development”
A link to this article is available on our
Day #1 page.
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The End.