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Transactional Analysis Models for Understanding,
Predicting and Influencing Behavior.
Laurie Weiss, Ph.D., MCC, and Jonathan Weiss, Ph.D.
Four “Healthy” ModelsFour “Healthy” Models
Needs-Response CycleEgo StatesRelationship ModelCommunication Model
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The Needs-Response CycleThe Needs-Response Cycle
How We All Function — from Birth to Death
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Natural Needor Feeling
Natural BehavioralExpression
Natural Needor Feeling
Natural BehavioralExpression
Need Met
Natural Needor Feeling
Natural BehavioralExpression
Need Met
Natural Needor Feeling
Natural BehavioralExpression
Need Met
Natural Needor Feeling
Natural BehavioralExpression
Need Met
Natural Needor Feeling
Natural BehavioralExpression
Natural Needor Feeling
Need NOT Met
Natural BehavioralExpression
Natural Needor Feeling
Need NOT Met
Natural BehavioralExpression
Natural Needor Feeling
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Natural BehavioralExpression
Natural Needor Feeling
Need NOT Met
Natural BehavioralExpression
Natural Needor Feeling
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Natural Needor Feeling
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Natural BehavioralExpression
Natural BehavioralExpression
Natural Needor Feeling
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Natural BehavioralExpression
Need Met
Natural Needor Feeling
Natural BehavioralExpression
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Substitute Behavior
Need Met
Natural Needor Feeling
Natural BehavioralExpression
Need NOT Met
Substitute Behavior
Substitute Behavior
Reinforcement
Substitute Behavior
ReinforcementConfrontation
Need Met
Natural Needor Feeling
Natural BehavioralExpression
Need NOT Met
Substitute
ReinforcementConfrontation
Need Met
Natural Needor Feeling
Natural BehavioralExpression
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ReinforcementConfrontation
Need Met
Natural Needor Feeling
Natural BehavioralExpression
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ReinforcementConfrontation
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ReinforcementConfrontation
Ego StatesEgo States(Transactional Analysis)(Transactional Analysis)
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Parent
Adult
Child
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A
C
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P
A
C
NurturingGuidingProtective
CriticalJudgmentalScolding
Rational
NaturalSpontaneousImpulsive
CompliantRebellious
What Was Your What Was Your Challenging Question?Challenging Question?
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Working in groups of three, use the Ego State Model to identify five different possible answers to the question.
ContaminationContamination(Unhealthy)(Unhealthy)
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Parent
Adult
Child
ExclusionExclusion(Unhealthy)(Unhealthy)
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Healthy Relationship ModelHealthy Relationship Model
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Basic “Unhealthy” PatternBasic “Unhealthy” Pattern
P
A
C
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Co-DependencyCo-Dependency(Our Definition)(Our Definition)
An agreement between two people that one person’s needs are more important than the other’s.
There may or may not be disagreement about whose needs are more important.
Takes INITIATIVE to take into account:My own needs and feelingsOthers’ needs and feelingsThe reality of the situation
The Healthy The Healthy Communication ModelCommunication Model
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Healthy Relationship ModelHealthy Relationship Model
Signs of TroubleSigns of Trouble— The Games People Play— The Games People Play
Repetitive Pattern Confusion (Switch) Predictable Negative Feelings “I should have known that would happen!”
or“I knew that would happen!”
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WHY?!WHY?!
Failed Attempt to Meet NeedsSubstitute Behavior
IMPORTANT!!IMPORTANT!!
People are always doing the best they can to get what they need, based on the resources available to them at the time.
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Recognizing Invitations Recognizing Invitations to Gamesto Games
DiscountingPassive BehaviorDrama Triangle
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DiscountingDiscounting
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The Problem (Denial)The Significance of the ProblemThe Solvability of the ProblemThe Self
Passive BehaviorPassive Behavior
Doing NothingOveradaptationAgitationIncapacitation or Violence
The Drama TriangleThe Drama Triangle
Persecutor Rescuer
Victim
Think of a time…Think of a time…
You found yourself in the Drama Triangle -- (If you’re not willing to talk about it, make one up!)
What was your hidden agenda?What could you have done instead of
playing?Discuss with your group.
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Never worry about theory as long as the machinery does what it's supposed to do.
Robert Heinlein
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