MOTHERS & DAUGHTERS
IntroductionDear teacher!
MOTHERS & DAUGHTERS is a theatre project in Jordan, which
aim is to articulate the hopes and dreams of women in Jordan.
Through theatre, personal storytelling, music and dance, 12 women
tell their own stories about their marriage, their parents and their
children about their past and their future, and how they would
shape it if it was up to them.
The project and its partnersThe project is a collaboration between Jordanian Womens Union,
KVINFO and C:NTACT. C:NTACT is a Danish social foundation,
who works both nationally and internationally. C:NTACT has made
several theatre projects in Jordan since 2009 with different themes
and aims. Common for all of C:NTACTs projects is that they use
the aesthetics of theatre to give voice to different social groups.
Jordanian Womens Union (JWU) is an organization whose aim is
to unify Jordanian womens effort to protect their rights. JWU has
been the projects local partner in Jordan, and has contributed with
knowledge, production team, crew and participants for the project.
Read more at http://www.jwu.itgo.com/bg.htm
KVINFO is the Danish Centre for Gender, Equality and Ethnicity.
The key role of KVINFO is to initiate research and disseminate
information and findings, and to contribute to the development
of an equal society. Through its work, KVINFO ensures the
documentation and communication of knowledge about gender,
equality and ethnicity both in Denmark and around the world.
KVINFO has worked in the Middle East since 2006, where they
established their Middle East Department. KVINFO has contributed
to MOTHERS & DAUGHTERS with project funding.
Read more at http://www.kvinfo.dk/side/715/
About this materialThe purpose of this educational material is to maintain the themes
of the performance through discussions. The material consists of a
selection of the scenes from the show, and asks the students to relate
the issues to their own lives and their own future. The material also
opens a debate of what theatre and personal storytelling is capable
of. Lastly, it introduces the work of Jordanian Womens Union.
The date for the wedding was decided without
anyone asking my opinion.Enas
Production team:
Jordanian teamSTAGE DIRECTOR
AND DRAMATURGE: Sawsan Nizar Dissi
MUSIC AND SONG COACH: Hifaa Kamal
COREOGRAPHY COACH: Nour Nizar Dissi
PROJECT COORDINATOR: Hana Jabire
PROJECT ASSISTANT: Wadaah Mahadeen
TRANSLATOR: Wajd Al-Shamavleh
Danish teamSTAGE DIRECTOR: Solveig Weinkouff
PROJECT MANAGER: Firas Mahmoud
CastMUNTAHA AMANI ANNA ENAS
ABEER REEM TAQDEER LAYAL
DANA TULIN SAJA
Indexs. 4 Abeer's monologue
s. 6 Layal's monologue
s. 8 Reem's monologue
s. 11 Saja's monologue
s. 13 Scene: The Pink Dream
monologue
s. 15 Jordanian Women's
Union
s. 16 The aims of the JWU
s. 17 Interview with Solveig
Weinkouff
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Jordanian teamSTAGE DIRECTOR
AND DRAMATURGE: Sawsan Nizar Dissi
MUSIC AND SONG COACH: Hifaa Kamal
COREOGRAPHY COACH: Nour Nizar Dissi
PROJECT COORDINATOR: Hana Jabire
PROJECT ASSISTANT: Wadaah Mahadeen
TRANSLATOR: Wajd Al-Shamavleh
Danish teamSTAGE DIRECTOR: Solveig Weinkouff
PROJECT MANAGER: Firas Mahmoud
MUNTAHA AMANI ANNA ENAS
ABEER REEM TAQDEER LAYAL
DANA TULIN SAJA
s. 4 Abeer's monologue
s. 6 Layal's monologue
s. 8 Reem's monologue
s. 11 Saja's monologue
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monologue
s. 15 Jordanian Women's
Union
s. 16 The aims of the JWU
s. 17 Interview with Solveig
Weinkouff
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Your father should approve your marriage, is that OK?
Dana
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Your father should approve your marriage, is that OK?
Dana
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Happiness and joy are feelings I rarely felt
when I was little, as I was living in a closed
environment, burdened by the people
surrounding us. There were many things
I felt like experiencing and doing, but
everything wasnt allowed. I wasnt allowed
to go see my girl friends. They werent
allowed to come see me. From my home
to school and from school to my home.
My mom is afraid of what people might say.
And to this day I cant forget when I was 13
years old, and my mom came to pick me
up from the street as I was playing with our
neighbours kids. She took me inside and gave
me a shower, blow-dried my hair and gave me
ear-rings (and it was the first time I ever wore
ear-rings!). I was very happy, but I didnt know
what was waiting for me after that.
On that occasion, she told me that her
sisters family, whom I dont like, were
coming to visit us. And I was very surprised
when everyone started ululating and
congratulating me. What for? I didnt know.
Only when my mom said: Congratulations,
bride of honour! I was shocked! What
bride? How? Who? With whom?
When I found out that they married me to
my maternal aunts son, who I cant stand, I
wished that I would die right there at that
moment. We were engaged for 4 months,
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and neither he nor I could continue, as the feeling was mutual. We broke up.
Of course, this story affected my mom a great deal. She started to feel
that she had to marry me in any way possible to get rid of peoples talk.
Because I got engaged and broke up, its as if this is a stamp of shame on
me. My mother didnt know that she with her fear of what people might
say and the importance she puts in that, she was killing the childs spirit
inside me.
My engagement in a young age imposed on me a view from society that
I must get married and that Im a mature woman capable of taking care
of a home and responsibility; forgetting that Im a child of 13.
My mom kept at me until she had me engaged one more time when I was
16. This way I was denied my dream in life that I can finish my education
and enter university. During my freshman year, I couldnt study because
my fiance didnt leave me any room. During exams he would stay late
at every night at my place, and I would go to the exams in the morning
without any sleep or having studied. I used to sleep during the exams.
Of course, I failed. And he wouldnt let me re-take the exams. Saying:
Why do you need a degree? A woman has only her home and husband.
This sentence that hurt me all-through our time of marriage. In the end,
when all my chances of retaking the exam disappeared, I realised that he
didnt want me to continue my education so that my level of education
would surpass his. And as a result, I would become better than him,
since he had only gone to school until 9th grade. This taught me that he
is selfish and only loves himself.
Im now 27 years old. I got divorced from my husband after living with
him for 8 years and after all this time, I knew how to live with no fear
from peoples talk. I went back to school after being gone for 9 years,
and this was a very difficult feeling in the beginning. That I had to go
back to reading and writing and staying up late. And taking care of work
and school. But even though theres all this hardship involved, Im so
happy. As much as I work hard, the look of joy and happiness is visible in
my eyes. Because I feel that I exist. That Im capable of doing something
worthwhile for myself. That Im able to reach my dream that Ive wanted
since a long time ago.
My parents were able to change themselves and accept me as I am and
not pressure me with the subject of marriage. This is what happiness is
all about. That a human being lives to realise her dream is much better
than living to realise someone elses dream. As if anyone deserves this?!
I feel like saying it out load to everyone:
Im haaappyyyyy!
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Marriage was something unfamiliar and
non-existent in my life. Especially, since I
was raised in an environment that insisted on
educational excellence and training my skills. My
family was the reason that made me discover my
talent for acting. After that I entered the world
of theatre at the age of five, in addition to my
hobbies, my main focus was on my education.
For that Im grateful for my family.
I remember the first time I was introduced
to the idea of marriage, responsibility and
importance was when I was ten years old.
At that time, amy uncle decided to marry
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my cousin, who was 16. Her marriage was a huge shock to the family
and created a lot of trouble. Especially since my family was all for
women getting an education and jobs. And the bigger shock was that
the reason was based on a material foundation, as she was marrying
a wealthy person. After her marriage, my cousin would tell me about
bodily violence and mental pressure, which she experienced from her
husband and his family. One day, my cousin decided that she had to get
a divorce after she had two children. Her decision wasnt accepted by
her family, nor by society. But nevertheless, my cousin is now a working
woman responsible for raising a complete family on her own.
Whats puzzling me until this day is what moved my aunts husband to
get rid of his daughter in a young age. And the more important question
is, how did the law allow for such a thing, knowing that the law doesnt
allow a women to be married when shes younger than 18?
Following this incident, my mother insisted on putting me in a healthy
social environment to teach me how to deal with others. And as time
passed by and after I became 16, my family started discussing the topics
of love and marriage with me. My parents were aware that each age I went
through had certain demands and needs. So she explained to me that
love and marriage shouldnt be built on materialism, or lineage, or social
status. Not even on amazement or infatuation. My mother used to say:
The saying that they were married and lived the rest of their lives in ease
can only take place in fairy tales. In her opinion, a better saying would be:
They were married and worked harder to make the relationship work.
She was convinced that first comes love then marriage.
As for me, marriage is still a mystery until this day. Although mom told
me of her story and the stories of others so that I can learn from them,
I feel that this matter really needs true love. More importantly: sacrifice.
For me, marriage is not an option at the moment, as Im still finishing
my education at the university to get my masters degree and a job and
realize my dreams. As for love, its a reality Id live to experience at the
right time, in the right place.
Discuss the following questions
Do you think that marriage
and education are
opposites or are both
things possible at the same
time? Why or why not?
Layal wants to finish her
education before getting
married. Why does she
think that is necessary?
Find all the attitudes
towards marriage in
Layals monologue. What
does her mother think
about marriage? Her aunts
husband? The law? Layal
herself?
Layals mother says that
the perfect marriage and
true love only exist in
fairy tales. Do you agree?
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the following questions
Do you think that marriage
and education are
opposites or are both
things possible at the same
time? Why or why not?
Layal wants to finish her
education before getting
married. Why does she
think that is necessary?
Find all the attitudes
towards marriage in
Layals monologue. What
does her mother think
about marriage? Her aunts
husband? The law? Layal
herself?
Layals mother says that
the perfect marriage and
true love only exist in
fairy tales. Do you agree?
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The law doesnt allow a women to be married when shes younger than 18. Layal
The words that keep ringing in my ears:
Girls! You know what my dream is? My
dream is that all my girls and boys become
academics with the best education.
Until this day, theres no other dream for
my father than the we learn and learn and
be of those who are successful.
I got married when I was 18, and marriage
wasnt something that was on my mind.
My fathers words wouldnt leave me. My
husband is an educated man. He supported
the idea of me getting an education. And
because his work demands of him to stay
out for long periods of time, I started
living two lives. The life of the housewife
taking care of all the responsibilities of our
home. And another life of the university
student who wants to learn and research
and think and push forward. I put a lot of
effort to deliver everything needed and
despite all the hardship, I was proud of my
achievement. I could see appreciation and
high regards in the eyes of my parents and
friends, which added to my self-esteem
and my insisting on realizing my fathers
dream, which I adopted so it became my
own ambition.
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REEMs monologue
8
During the third year of university, God gave me my first
child. Three weeks of maternity leave and I returned to
continue my journey with an added third job on my list.
The job of being a mother.
Years passed as quick as lightning, and as a long night for
those whore waiting, I finished my university degree with
all my peers without any delay. I got very high marks in my
right hand, and in my left I carried my son who was one year
and three months. My happiness could fill the entire world
and all the people in it.
Success always pushes us forward as ambitions grow bigger.
My ambition was to work within my specialized field, which
I fell in love with. And another period of pressure began.
My husband refused the idea of work every time with a
new explanation. Either he would tell me to take a little
rest, or he would ask where Amjad would go?? But whod
take care of my things?
I provided all the solutions and facilitation and compromises
to get my husbands accept and I did indeed get it after a
lot of insisting and stipulations. But all this didnt diminish
my high spirit and enthusiasm.
I started my work in just the place I wanted to in the field
of educating handicapped children. So happy with my
job every day I learn something new from it. I worked
there for four years during which God blessed us with my
daughter Ayah. I continued my work and Ayah became
two years old, and as our children grew bigger so did our
ambitions. My ambition was to found a small organisation
that aims at educating and training handicapped children
and defending their rights. Thank God, my organisation is
now a name that is recognised in the field.
The growth of my ambition disturbs my husband and
annoys him. Im giving it all Ive got to keep him satisfied
and to win his support and recognition, paying with my
time, effort, thought, body and mind. But the taste of
success is something else only known by those who try it.
Worth all the work and sacrifice.
After establishing my project (Aman) I started thinking
about continuing my education, and the thing that worried
me the most was how to discuss this with my husband
whos worried about my ambition and asks me: Where
do you want to go? What do you want to reach? Isnt it
enough for you what you already achieved?
My ambition exceeds the limits of the skies.
I will continue my education and organise my time and will
not ask for help from anyone. And indeed I started the
journey towards my masters degree fuelled by my will and
with me is my mothers prayers and fathers dream.
Pressure and responsibility multiplied: a home that needs
cleaning and organising, and a husband that wants all his
rights, and two children in school, and work that needs
management and leadership, and an education that needed
high concentration. Strange feelings hard to describe.
I told myself that its just a phase that will pass needing
more management.
The first year of my masters degree passed,
during which me and my husband decided it
was time to have another child to beautify
our home. And so it was decided. All my
responsibilities continued but this time with a body that
was tired with physical transformations, dizzy spins and
need for sleep. Despite all this, I only slept for two hours
every day to be able to complete all my chores without any
shortcomings and in the best way possible.
I handed in my exam completely after one year and a half
with better grades than most of my peers. Each time my
ambition pushed me more and more.
I got my masters degree to add to my personal and human
achievement. A new achievement and high degree only to
add in another month another beautiful child to my family.
My daughter Randa, whos now 7 years old.
A question keeps turning in my head. Why must a woman
in our society choose only one of her rights? Either she
gets married and become a housewife only, or she gets an
education and a job only.
My ambition grows each day. I will continue my education
even more and develop my work, raise my children the ways
I was raised so they can succeed with their education and
work and create their own future and add value to life.
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