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LivingYourTalent:EliminatingtheRoadblocksthatGetintheWay
ClaimingyourTalentAdvantageandusingittoLiveYourTalentsaremorethantheoreticalconceptsforme.IbelievethatYourTalentAdvantageisnotonlyyourbirthright,buttheroadtoamorefulfillingandmeaningfullife.Wealltraveltheroadoflifefromoneendtotheother,sowhynotchoosetodothingsyouarenaturallygiftedatdoingwhileonthejourneysothatyoucanenjoyfully
exploringthegiftsandtalentsyouwerebornwith?
IpresentthismessageasaconstantthemeinthetalksIgive,theblogsIwrite,andtheservicesIdeliver.Withfewexceptionsthemessageisreceivedpositively.WhenIspeak,Iseesmiles,nodsofagreement,andgetenthusiasticfeedback.Inevitably,aftertheexcitementofthemessagetransformsintotherealityofpeople’slivesIgetthequestion,“Well,Ireallyliketheidea,buthowdoIdoit?”Ihaveoftenponderedwhysomethingthatissoeasytodescribeconceptuallyisapparentlynotsoeasytotransformintoreality.
Roadblock#1:
WhatIhavediscoveredisthattheprocessoflearninghowtouseYourTalentAdvantagetoLiveYourTalentshasseveralhiddenroadblocks.ThefirstisthatevenafterpeoplehavediscoveredtheirTalentAdvantagetheyhaveneverexperiencedwhatitisliketoperformitintherealworld.
WhenIwasingraduateschoolIlearnedaboutnegativetransferenceinwhichaclientprojectsalltheiranger,disappointment,hardfeelings,etc.ontothetherapistratherthanonthepersontowhomtheytrulybelong.IthoughtIunderstoodituntilaclientwentintoarageanddeliveredascathingattackonmytherapeuticskills.IwashurtandoffendeduntilmysupervisorpointedouttomethatIhadjustexperienced“negativetransference.”It’sonethingtoreadaboutit,anotheraltogethertoexperienceit.
Roadblock#2
Thesecondroadblockcomesfromtheprocessofsocialization.Itismyexperience,thatatleastintheU.S.,mostofthefeedbackwegetaboutourselvesisnotaboutwhatwedowellbutaboutourshortcomings.Whetheritisinschoolorintheworkplace,onaprogressreportorperformanceevaluation,mostofwhatwearegivenisadirectoryofthingsthatneedimprovementratherthananinventoryofwhatwehaveexcelledat.Remediationusuallyconsistsofdoingmoreofwhatwedon’tdowellandlessofthetalentsthatcomenaturally.Theoutcomeisthatwe“workhard”toacquireskillsandtalentsthatwearusout,leavelittleornotimeforourinnateskillsandtalents,andspendmuchofourtimewonderingwhyweareexhaustedandunfulfilled.
Roadblock#3:
Thethirdroadblockcomesfromtheintensebutoften,unconsciousfamiliaritywehavewithourskillsandtalents.Thereasoningthatisoftenappliedis,“ifthisissoeasyformetodothenitmustbenothingspecial.Ifitwereitwouldn’tbesoeasy.”Thecrueltyjokeinthischainoflogicisthatourskillsandtalentsareeasytodobecausetheyareourskillsandtalents.Thepunchlineisthatweenduppursuingthingsthatwedon’tdowellnaturallybecauseweattachmorevaluetothingswehavetoworkhardattomaster.
HelpingpeopletodiscovertheirTalentAdvantageisthefirststep,butmostclientswillneedcoachinghelptobreakthroughtheroadblockstofullylivethei
rtalents.
GaryJordan,Ph.D.,hasover27yearsofexperienceinclinicalpsychology,beha
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vioralassessment,individualdevelopment,andcoaching.HeearnedhisdoctorateinClinicalPsychologyfromtheCaliforniaSchoolofProfessionalPsychology–Berkeley.He’stheco-founderofVegaBehavioralConsulting,Ltd.,aconsultingfirmthatspecializesinhelpingpeoplediscovertheirtrueskillsandtalents.www.ACIforCoaches.com.
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