GOING BACK IN ORDER TO
GO FORWARD
Know Yourself That You May Know God Jan 8
Going Back To Go Forward Jan 15
Journey Through The Wall Jan 22
Enlarge Your Soul Through Grief and Loss Feb 5
Rhythm of Sabbath Keeping Feb 12
Grow Into An Emotionally Mature Adult Feb 19
What we gleaned from last week
It is impossible to be spiritually mature while remaining
emotionally immature
What we gleaned from last week
It is impossible to be spiritually mature while remaining
emotionally immature
It is possible to be Emotionally unhealthy while remaining
Spiritually Healthy
What we gleaned from last week
It is impossible to be spiritually mature while remaining
emotionally immature
It is possible to be Emotionally unhealthy while remaining
Spiritually Healthy
It is important to Know Yourself that you may Know God
GOING BACK IN ORDER TO GO FORWARD
Emotions 1
GOING BACK IN ORDER TO GO FORWARD
Emotions
Family of Origin
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Emotions
Family of Origin
Family of God
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Family of Origin 2
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Emotions
Family of Origin
Family of God
Family Cohesion
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Emotions
Family of Origin
Family of God
Family Cohesion
Going Forward
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EMOTIONS
Who are you . . .
1. What makes me Happy?
2. What makes me Angry?
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HAPPINESS – Inhibits negative feelings and rests the body
FEAR – Blood flows to your larger skeletal muscles causing you to “flee-or-freeze”
ANGER – Blood flows to your hands making it easier to grasp a weapon. A massive energy flow
LOVE – A general state of calm and contentment. Opposite of “fight-or-flight” response
EMOTIONS – Acknowledge & Manage 1
D. Goldman 1995, Emotional Intelligence
EMOTIONS – Acknowledge & Manage 1
DISGUST – facial expression to a bad odor or something offensive
SURPRISE – Exciting but many people dislike
SADNESS – Adjust to significant loss, death or disappointment. Depletes energy
D. Goldman 1995, Emotional Intelligence
EMOTIONS 1
When Emotions are not expressed
Incongruent – Not yourself
EMOTIONS 1
Danger of wearing the lenses of
IGNORANCE
EMOTIONS 1
Masking?
Environmental factors such as authoritarian parents, rejection, and emotional, physical, or sexual abuse cause masking. An individual may not even know he or she is wearing a mask because it is a behavior that can take many forms.
EMOTIONS 1
Thoughts Emotions Behavior
Behavior Reinforce Thoughts
Thoughts
Create Feelings
Feelings Create
Behavior
Thinking comes from your Belief System
Belief system originates from your family of Origin
FAMILY OF ORIGIN 2
Families originate out of love and nurturance
Perfect and Imperfect Families
Belief system and Patterns work as the Internalized Framework in every Individual
FAMILY OF ORIGIN 2
Patterns and Belief Systems
Abraham
Isaac
Jacob
FAMILY OF ORIGIN 2
Lied about Sarah Favoured Ishmael
Poor Marriage (Hagar)
Many lies in the marriage Favoured Esau
Sour Relationship with Rebecca
Name meant “Deceiver” Favoured Joseph
2 wives and 2 concubines
P. Scazzero, 2006, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be
transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then
you will be able to test and approve what God’s will
is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
(Romans 12:2)
FAMILY OF GOD 3
He predestined us to adoption as sons through
Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the kind
intention of His will.
(Ephesians 1:5)
Adopted into God’s family
FAMILY OF GOD 3
Jesus answered and said to him, “Truly, truly, I
say to you, unless one is born again he cannot
see the kingdom of God.” (John 3:3)
Born Again
FAMILY OF GOD 3
Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new
creature; the old things passed away; behold, new
things have come.
(2 Corinthians 5:17)
New Creation
FAMILY OF GOD 3
Stinnett 1979,1985,2000,2003, Gottman and Levenson 2000,2014
Emotional Bonding
Appreciation for one another - Build each other
Doing things together – Nurturance
Commitment to promote one another’s Happiness and Welfare
FAMILY COHESION 4
Stinnett 1979,1985,2000,2003, Gottman and Levenson 2000,2014
Emotional Bonding
FAMILY COHESION 4
Spiritual Orientation – Hopeful attitude towards life
Deal positively with crisis – Ability to see something good in a bad situation
Positive Communication Patterns
How was your family of origin? . . . Going back
Belief system Emotional connection
Patterns
What do you want to do ? Going Forward . . .
Replicate Replace Remove
EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY SPIRITUALITY 5
What does Emotionally Healthy
Spirituality look like?
EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY SPIRITUALITY 5
GOING FORWARD
1 Know Yourself -Psalms 139:20-24 Be Authentic
Align your thoughts, feelings and behavior
Articulate your emotions
EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY SPIRITUALITY 5
2 Know Others – Luke 23:34
Empathize
Be kind
Release forgiveness
P. Scazzero, 2006, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality
EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY SPIRITUALITY 5
3 Know the Bigness of God – Gen 45:8
“What was intended as evil, God intended it to be good.”
P. Scazzero, 2006, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality
EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY SPIRITUALITY 5
4 Rewrite your Life Script
Rewrite your life script according to scripture, based on promises
P. Scazzero, 2006, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality
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5 Partner with God to be a Blessing
Joseph chose to forgive his brothers and accept them. Genesis 45:7
P. Scazzero, 2006, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality
EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY SPIRITUALITY 5
BLESSINGS
We pray for blessings, we pray for peace Comfort for family, protection while we sleep We pray for healing, for prosperity We pray for Your mighty hand to ease our suffering And all the while, You hear each spoken need Yet love us way too much to give us lesser things
Blessings by Laura Story
BLESSINGS
'Cause what if your blessings come through rain drops What if Your healing comes through tears What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise
Blessings by Laura Story
BLESSINGS
We pray for wisdom, Your voice to hear We cry in anger when we cannot feel You near We doubt your goodness, we doubt your love As if every promise from Your word is not enough And all the while, You hear each desperate plea And long that we'd have faith to believe
Blessings by Laura Story
BLESSINGS
'Cause what if your blessings come through rain drops What if Your healing comes through tears What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise
Blessings by Laura Story
BLESSINGS
When friends betray us When darkness seems to win We know that pain reminds this heart That this is not, This is not our home It's not our home
Blessings by Laura Story
BLESSINGS
'Cause what if your blessings come through rain drops What if Your healing comes through tears What if a thousand sleepless nights are what it takes to know You're near What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise
Blessings by Laura Story
BLESSINGS
What if my greatest disappointments or the aching of this life
Is the revealing of a greater thirst this world can't satisfy What if trials of this life The rain, the storms, the hardest nights Are your mercies in disguise
Blessings by Laura Story
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